20 months old

Most parents transition toddlers from crib to bed between the ages of one and a half and three years old. Not quite there yet? First, lower the crib mattress as far as it will go and see if that will keep him secured. Ready to take the plunge? Let your tot help you put his big boy bed together -- it'll help him feel more ownership.

your toddler at 20 months
  • Your little rebel may be resisting feeding, changing, getting him in the car seat, washing hands…just about anything.
  • Toddlers this age like to feel like they’re in control, so offer lots of opportunities for him to “help” or make his own choices. Let him feed himself, for example (even if it’s messy), and if he says he’s done after two bites, so be it.
  • Let him think he made his own decision. For example, “Do you want to bring your teddy for the ride, or your truck?” as you climb in the car instead of “Will you get in your car seat please?” or “Get in the car seat now.”


  • toddler know-how at 20 months

    Feel like a short-order cook? It’s okay to let your toddler know that “this is what’s for dinner” and not offer other options. He won’t starve by refusing a meal now and then.



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