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Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

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You’ve had the bag packed for weeks. Relaxing music? Check. Favorite pillow? Check. But have you given any thought to who you’ll bring into the delivery room? It may sound like a pretty simple consideration, but some women find it surprisingly tricky to negotiate -- particularly when family members take the liberty of inviting themselves. Here are a few things to think about and some advice from moms who’ve been there:

Hospital regulations
Many have a two-person rule (mom-to-be plus two); others have no official limits and leave it up to the doctors to decide. But when it comes to dealing with potential crashers, the two-person rule makes a great excuse…regardless of whether your hospital actually has this policy. By placing the blame on hospital regulations, you’ll be able to sidestep any possible hurt feelings.

Head of the bed, foot of the bed, or the waiting room?
Now’s the time to be completely frank about what you’re comfortable with. Maybe the whole family is welcome as long as they stay near the head of the bed, or you’re totally fine with your little brother witnessing “the miracle of life” at close range. Just be sure to establish the ground rules ahead of time and don’t assume your partner (or anyone else) can read your mind.

Timing is everything
Be ultra-specific about when you want to have other people with you. Maybe you’re happy to have a full house during the labor, but when it comes to the actual delivery, everyone but your husband needs to vamoose. Those first moments spent bonding with baby are very special, and many parents don’t want anyone intruding.

Recovery rules
And what about the period after the birth, when families just love to swoop in? If you deliver via C-section, you may not want visitors for a few days or more; if you delivery naturally, you may be up for entertaining by the end of the day. Troubleshoot these situations in advance, and you’ll be able to focus on what really matters…your new baby.

Still not sure what to do? Check out these words of wisdom from moms who’ve been there

98.4% of users want to share this intimate bonding experience with a spouse or partner…
“I was pretty strict about NO guests in the delivery room (besides my partner). I can’t imagine someone not intimately involved in the process of creating the child being in the room during the birth!” …while some worry that hubby could be a little clueless “My husband’s been warned that he's out as soon as he begins comparing me to livestock or anything that happens at our ranch!”

29.5% want the experience and support of parents or in-laws…
“Beforehand, I told my mom that I wanted it to be my husband and me. But when the time came and she left the room, I wanted her back in. She’d been through this before and was so encouraging! My husband ran after her, and she started bawling when he asked her to come back.” …though they’re also known to commit some of the worst sins “I kicked my father out of the delivery room when he asked, ‘So…how exactly do contractions feel?’ while I was right in the middle of one. We laughed afterward, but at that moment, I wanted to kill him!”

9% like the comfort of siblings…
“My sister is my very best friend, and since she already has a child, she was really able to help me through it. I’ll be in the delivery room with her when she has her next one.” …but be careful: some brothers and sisters make themselves too comfortable “My sister not only took a picture of me while I was in labor, she keeps giving me copies of it for my birthday! Gee, just what I wanted.”

4.9% found laid-back, low-maintenance friends the best option
“I’m inviting my best friend because I know she won't expect me to talk to her, but she will be there for me.”

10.2% invited someone else altogether -- the latest trend: doulas and labor coaches
“I had only a doula, who massaged my head and told me exactly what was going on during my c-section. She was a dream. My husband was banned (I didn’t want him to view the birth lest it spoil our sex life). So I took care of myself, and I heartily recommend it to every future mommy.”

Hallie Goodman Hallie Goodman

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I had just DH. My parents live far away, so they couldn't be there-- and though I wished my Mom could be there, when the day actually came I was glad it was just DH and I. I think it brought us even closer together. My in-laws live in town, and I think MIL may have been under the impression that she was welcome in the delivery room (if so, she was mistaken), so when she found out I was in labor (we went to the hospital very early in the morning) she kept asking DH when she should come. So finally he gave her a time--3pm. THEN he told me. I was mad and told him he was going to have to be the one to tell her she was going to have to wait in the waiting room (MIL and I aren't close enough that I would've wanted her in there even just while I was in labor), at which point my wonderful nurse said she'd take care of it, and that no one would be coming in that I didn't want coming in. So if there's any concern, take it up with your nurse. And incase anyone is wondering, I delivered my son at 2:59pm. :-) MIL showed up just before and was told that no one was allowed in at that point (and believe me, she nagged-- my nurse kept getting calls from the desk. But no one let her in!). Finally, after we both got to see the baby DH went out and told them everything was fine (because she was still pestering the nurses). I didn't want anyone coming in until after DH and I had some time to bond with the baby (I wanted to try nursing without the circus coming through), so they were still waiting in the waiting area for about another hour, until they took the baby from me to take him to the nursery. They saw him through the window, and once I was taken to the post partum room they came in and waitd for the baby to come back from the nursery. So if it was up to me we would've told them to wait at home until the baby was born (not that they'd have listened, but maybe next time they will!)

Rika112080 |

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I'm considering not even having my husband there during the delivery - just labor. I don't think I want him to see all that. Is it true that a lot of women poop while pushing out the baby? That's horrible. I don't think I want to become a "cow" in his eyes. He is a wonderful person of course, and would never judge me, but I know how those images can stick with a person.

KatAaaa! |

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I would never want to be alone during delivery. It is going to only be my husband & I for the delivery this time. I could never ask my husband to leave, I do not think he would either though. He is very excited to see the birth. I have heard of women not allowing the husband in & they later on regret it & so does the father. They are missing out on the biggest milestone I think.

EJAYDE5801 |

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My husband almost missed both deliveries. He was hungry and the nurse told him he still had time so go get a bite to eat. Doc. come's in and say's ok were ready...I'm like ummm my husband just left and this baby's NOT coming out without him here. Try holding back pushing just so your husband makes it in time. He made it by the skin of his teeth with our first son because he went to Wendy's...with our second he just went to the hospital cafeteria. Smart on his part.

CVermette |

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My sister had a issue with guests (Her mom was not invited, but mother in law was) luckily the nurse allowed her one more guest. I am not sure if I want people in there till later just because my Husband and I have waited for this moment and I don't want it spoiled! and trust me Ill start kicking people out.

rsf21 |

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I had a problem where my dad invited my step mom without consulting me or my husband first. I felt terrible when I had to break the news to her that I only wanted my husband and my mother in there with me. After she had already told everyone. I felt so bad, but it was my dad's fault. He had no right to assume step parents were more important to a laboring woman than her own mother. Then afterward my dad had the nerve to say "I won't be in there whatever you say. I don't want to see my daughter in all her shining glory." Like he was every going to be invited in the first place. Argh!

xenarena1022 |

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I'm nervous about this! I want my hubby and possibly my mom in there w/ me. But my husband practically wants to sell tickets to the show! I especially do NOT want my MIL in there, she stresses me out too bad

JLS0320 |

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My hubby will be there (we are doing c-section) and his brother (who is a doctor) will be there to talk me through what is going on.

hillausky |

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i went on my hospital tour yesterday and i am soooo excited to b there and to have the baby!! i dont really care who is all at the hospital and what time they come but it all depends how i feel at the time about who is in the room during labor.... but with the delivery it will only be my husband... inless i freakout later and tell MY mom to stay,,,, MIL- no way in hell!!

megsalmela |

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I had my first child via c-section and I really didn't think much of it at the time, probably due to part anesthesia and part end-of-pregnancy dillusion. But I did not know for over a YEAR what my hubby saw when he got up from behind the curtain to go see our son being cleaned and whatnot. Apparently he saw all my insides and the layers of fat and tissue in my skin, which he NEVER told me had seen until one day my ultra nosy friend decided to ask him about it. I was absolutely humiliated that a)he never told me what he had seen and b)when I did learn what he had seen it was in the company of my friend and her husband. I am pregnant now and have another c-section scheduled for April 3rd. I have instructed him this time that he will NOT be getting up from beind that blue tarp until I am sewn back together and all the work is done down below. I can't stand the thought of him seeing it again. And when he actually thought he would have a camera with him this time around - HAHAHAHA YEAH FREAKING RIGHT BUDDY!!! I don't think I would want anyone to watch me give birth, I think even hubby would have to stay at the head of the bed if I was going to deliver naturally. I wouldn't be able to deal with my mom in there with me, and I can't stand my wretched MIL so she wouldn't be welcome either. As far as the pooping during delivery - you can avoid it by doing an enema before you leave for the hospital. Otherwise, my best friend (an L&D nurse) says when it happens, it is wiped up so quickly that usually the mother didn't even realize she did it in the first place.

Danielle Mumolo |

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I am glad to see I am not the only person who has a difficult MIL

Shiggy22 |

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I love my family and husband, but I really want to do it all by myself -- meaning no one but the hospital staff. My husband is a doctor and I just feel like he'd be too professional and not emotional about it because it's his job. What are your thoughts about just being by yourself?

DorisLevine |

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my husband is an EMT and knows how to deliver babies, but although he would be able to handle someone else's delivery "professionally," I think that he will end up being rather emotional about my L&D... especially seeing me in pain and seeing his child for the first time. doris- granted i don't know your husband, but i would think having him there would make it more emotional and personal rather than just having the hospital staff there (those of whom will guaranteed NOT be emotionally involved). even though he may have seen other deliveries, it's not every day that you get to see your own child be born.

gelbesonn |

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I guess I'm weird, but I really don't care at all who comes in to see it. (Though husband swears that he's not going to look at anything other than my face, cause he's afraid of being grossed out.) But, between being a simulated patient for pelvic and breast exams for 8 years, its hard to assume that modesty again.

spiffy |

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I think you should have someone in there with you. I delivered my first just me and the staff and it somehow wasn't as special as it should be. With this one, I have so many friends and family who want to be there, I feel like I should be sending out invites! They all know who ever happens to be there or can make it, I'll take with but I'll have a hard time narrowing it to two if that's the case. And if that is so, they can draw straws amongst themselves.Whatever you decide, I hope you realize how important it will be to your DH too.

dec0215 |

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I could not imagine kicking my husband out of the delivery room! I am not the only parent! We are going to be sharing responsibilities for the rest of our life, might as well do this together. I feel that it is a special time in any persons life and he has just as much of a right to experience this as I do. Also, I think it may be one last thing to show him what you have experienced not only at that moment but the past nine months and it will make him apreciate you more! If anything, let him know you would prefer him to stay by your head but even at that, I doubt he has never seen it before! :)

anbradley |

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I want my hubby in the room, but my good friend is under the impression she should be there too. Unfortunately she brings her husband to everything. I can't imgaine having him there while I'm delivering. He and I are just not that close.

Sheft |

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With my first child, while I was laboring I had my mom, her husband, my little sister, and the father (who is now my husband). However once I actually started things, my mom took it upon herself to kick everyone out including the father. Once I had my son, I didn't even get to hold him. My mom took him and ran out of the room to show him off and take pictures with everyone. Now, with this one she just can't understand why I don't want anyone but my husband in the room with me. I feel so terrible he missed the first one due to my mother that I want this to be just us.

HollyAllison2 |

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At first I thought that I don't want my husband in the room during delivery but now I know I do. I definitely know I do not want anyone else in the room including my mom! It's going to be hard keeping her out because she insisted on staying in the room when her sister-in-law delivered even though she was asking my mom to leave. I think I am going to have to ask the nurses to help us in keeping everyone out. I really don't want anyone but my husband in the room even when I am just in labor. I think it will be easier that way. People tell me when you get the epidural you don't really care who is in there and what they are looking at but I don't know if I believe that. I'll remember it for the rest of my life.

ash138 |

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I guess I never though about NOT having my husband in the room...I just took it for granted everyone wanted the daddy there. To each her own, but I know it'll help me to have a familiar face there, someone to help comfort me. Plus, like many people already said, it's a huge moment...I wouldn't want him to miss the birth of his first child! I'll also have my mom and MIL in the room, but they are to stay at the head of the bed, and keep talking to a minimum. I told them they're to be a "fly on the wall"...and that's it! lol.

mae2oo4 |

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My mil has been bugging me about being there even before we thought of having kids. The only person that will be in the room with me is my husband. It's a very special moment for your family that you can never get back. It's your time to bond with the baby and the two of you should be the first to see your child. And if your il's are anything like mine they will bombard you afterwards no matter what.

Chicky5801 |

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Well, this one is a little challenging for me. I want my Husband and my Mom for sure to be there. I was with my best friend when she delived so she can be there too, but I just have this feeling that she is going to want to check the situation out, which i don't want. Also, my SIL will definately want to be there and i don't know if I can have that many people in there, she'll also be a looker! Then, I feel bad for excluding my MIL but really... how many people can fit at the head of the bed?lol I'm very modest and even though everyone says you won't care once you start pushing, I highly doubt that!

Wake_Life |

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I couldnt imagine NOT having my DH in the delivery room with me. I would like to have my mom in there also but I dont know if she will be able to keep her space right after the baby is born so that my husband and I can bond with the little one. I would also like to have my dad in there but he cant stand to see me in pain so I dont want to get any of the nurses/doctors knocked out! I love my MIL to death but dont really think she should be in there either. I really dont care who is in the room while I am in labor but when it starts to get close to time the room needs to clear out to only my husband and me and possibly my mom!

Sthorpe831 |

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I am going to be a first time mommy and im not sure if the hospital has a limit on how many people i can have in my room but i was considering my hubby-to-be, my mother, and possibly my best friend and thats it. I want my hubby-to-be because i want to experience it with him, and of course my mother as support because she's been through it before, and the best friend for more support.. but i honestly would have to have my mother and my hubby-to-be at least.

Cedes F Baby |

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I think the limit at my hospital is actually one, not two. But If I get a second person, it would like my grandmother to be there. I don't really mind my MIL and SIL visiting during labor, but by delivery I want it down to just a few very special people. The person I don't want there is my FIL.. he has a habit of making me upset without meaning to and I'd just rather avoid that. It will be hard to keep him and MIL out though - they are both nurses at the hospital where I'm going to deliver. I also don't want them looking at my chart, but I don't think there is anything can do to stop them.

nicte83 |

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wow..if i tried telling my fiance that he couldn't be in the room for our sons delivery he would laugh at me. this is my first child i'm 19 and also his first he is 25..so he is alomost more excited than me, he has told me since we were together less than a year(it will be 4 years in nov.) that he wanted me to have his children...there is just no way i could imagine the delivery without him.

chrisandbritt24 |

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For me it will definately be my husband, my mom, his mom, and my sister. When my sister had her baby EVERYONE was in the room. It was ridiculous! Even her husband's grandma was in there. I've already made it clear to my husband & my mom who I want in the room and I have made it VERY clear that everyone will be up by my head - especially my husband! Reading all of this has made me realize that I need to tell my husband's mom & my mom that immediately after Maci is born I want them to step back and let it be just us for a few minutes. I know I will need all the support I can get though!

MacisMommy |

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I am a pretty independent person and have kinda made it clear that I do not want any family members in the L&D, I have chossen two people to be in the room with me. During labor I feel that I want my friend who is also goig to be the god mother to be in the room during labor since she is a message therapist she can hopefully massage me a little while I have the pain. This is my first child I'm 20 and the father will be 25. I am not sure how I feel about him being in the room during tha labor since I 100% don't want him to look down there or cut the cord or even see the baby with blood on it. ( he is a clean freak and I really enjoy sex so I would hate for that to be ruined!!) He says he doesn't want to be there at all but I have made it pretty clear to him he doesn't have a choice adn I know he could never leave my side knowing I am in pain. I thought about my mom being in the room with me but she will either be in labor at the same time or still be recovering from labor by the time my due date comes around ( though I feel I will deliver before that date). I think my plan will be the father only for actual deliver adn he is not to avert his eyes from my face or ther will be hell to pay. That way him and I can bond with our baby for a few minutes then when I have gotten "cleaned" up my family can see me in recover. I feel bad but I don't plan to even tell them when I am in Labor until after the baby is born.

baylion |

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luckily my hospital only allows one other person in! i imagine my inlaws would love to be there but absolutely not! even though hes delivered many many babies himself (hes a doc), he wants nothing to do with my delivery and said he'll be at the head of the bed as he doesnt want to watch me poo. thanks honey!

squishles10 |

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I just want my husband and I, while I'm giving birth. All other family member can wait outside, til after the baby is borned.

diandrea |

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It is going to be my husband and my big sister! Her and her husband have been trying to concieve for 6 years and have had no luck, so my husband and I asked them to be the Godparents and I want her to share this moment with me just incase she never gets to go through it herself!

aliciakaye2004 |

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My Husband, my mother and my sister

selinamarie |

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This is my second but my husbands first. With my first I had my mom, dad and sister. I have let my dad off the hook with this one-if he wants-but my mom and sister will definitely be there along with my husband and my 11 year old daughter. She is very mature for her age and has watched birthing videos and is actually excited about it. Then again she also comes from a long line of nurses! I would NEVER have my MIL in the delivery room that is just wrong to me. Mostly because she drives me crazy and my husband too. She never stops talking and with my first I didn't want anyone talking in the room. Plus she's very condescending and patronizing. And I think she'd tell me I'm doing it wrong! Lol I don't care where people stand. My daughter will probably be by my head but may sneak a peak if she feels comfortable with it. I personally would make my husband be there because he just doesn't get it he is already asking if he has to wait the full 6 weeks for intercourse! So I think if he sees it he will back off and let me heal in peace without trying anything until I'm ready physically and psychologically for sex again.

Danielle_81 |

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I AM NERVOUS....I DONT WANT ANY ONE IN THERE EXCEPT FOR THE DOCTORS.... ITS A MATTER OF PRIVACY FOR MY PRIVATE AREAS..

dsf008 |

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why wouldn't you want your husband there? It is the birth of his child too and I think that to take that away from him is probably the most selfish thing that someone can do. If he doesn't want to be there, that's different, but to not even give him the option? That's just wrong. Whoever else is in the room, whatever, but for me, it's my husband and my husband only. I don't even want anybody else knowing that I am in labour, not even my mom. I know my personality and I know that I would feel pressure if I knew the other's knew I was in labour, so therefore it will be me and my husband and the doctor/nurses.

dhviel |

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I think pregnant women should have or not have whomever they want in the room with them...including the father. No one should be made to feel selfish or guilty for their medical choices. The mother is the patient and her comfort during the process is what counts, everyone else involved should be supportive of her decisions. I personally am expecting my first and I am planning to have my hubby in with me, but we are setting ground rules beforehand so that he doesn't do things in the delivery room to upset me........giving birth is enough to handle without worrying about everyone else's needs or feelings. After all my husband hasn't shared the morning sickness, the aching back, the sleeplessness, and other symptoms. He won't share labor pains and breastfeeding either so he will get to play his part as daddy and it will be no less special for us regardless of his role during delivery.

CandaceVG |

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DH will be deployed about a month before I am due. Since he cannot be there, I would like my mom, sister, and maybe my bestfriend in the room during L&D, I don't really care if they see anything either. I think my father would have a hard time not being in there if my bestfriend is in the room, but I just wouldn't feel comfortable with that.

KatelynRae |

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It truly depends on your own personal comfort levels. When I had my daughter I had certain people there because I thought it was polite. I didn't end up having a really enjoyable birth. Since then I have attended births of both friends and family and I find that those women not concerned with social graces, (i.e. don't invite a close family member they feel pressured by, and do invite someone else. Or have more or less people there depending on their own comfort levels and personalities) tend to be the most peaceful and have the most enjoyable births. So there is no concrete formula on 'Who To Invite To Your Birth'. But remember no matter whose feelings you hurt in the moment, or whether or not people look at you funny, your everyone will get over it eventually once they get to meet your little one. And a stress-free birth is an easier and healthier birth for both you and your child, and everyone will understand that,

taraMmomma |

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definitely ONLY my husband and my mom... no mother-in-law, that's for sure...

Karney Norman |

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I really don't want him there during labor, however right after I want him to be there, no point in seeing all the blood and mucus and not so pleasant stuff, the most important part is the baby!

Elly loves Ray |

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my 1st birth was only my husband and I and for my second and final birth I have invited my mom and mother in law.

sparkette100 |

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husband

K&E987 |

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telling people they arent invited is the hardest part. even my co-workers want to come. mother in law, parents, everyone STAY IN THE WAITING ROOM please. I want the bonding to be real special, just the three of us (daddy baby and mama) I want to breastfeed right after so I do not want people to see. just us. then the masses can enter as they please and come get their germs all up on us and bother me and baby and our peace. LOL but for serious. I want a nice birth. Not a peep show LOL

ozzychikk |

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Just mom and the husband! MIL is practically in tears because I told her no! I love her, but Im not comfortable with her being in the delivery room. Im also wanting to breastfeed in the delivery room, so everyone will just have to wait. This is a special time for my little family and I don't want to share those memories with anyone else!

carladh62 |

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I am being induced in one week and have decided to have only my husband and my mom in the delivery room. Depending how I feel throughout my labor I don't think I will mind having a few other family members, including MIL, in the room before delivery. Once the pain gets the best of me though it will be only myself, my hubby and my mother. Everyone else, including MIL, will have to go! I want time to relax and attempt breastfeeding immediately after so anyone who wants to wait can wait but I want this time to be special and as relaxing as possible!

mgainey09 |

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No one but my husband and our doula will be allowed in the labor or delivery room. I feel strongly that it's such an intimate experience and only want to share it the person responsible for helping me make our baby.

plopat |

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I only want my DH in the delivery room, but since he will be deployed for the birth, I'm considering his sister-in-law since I know she'll do what I ask and be supportive. Plus, I definitely don't want to be in there alone!

spunkychica_18@yahoo.com |

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My husband will be the only one in the room with me. I think that this should be a special time shared with only those that were around for the conception. I'm a very private person, so even my mom (who I am very close with) will not be in the room. She knows me well enough to know that it's absolutely not personal, but rather that I want to share it with my husband and only my husband. My nosey, judgemental, wretched MIL had the audacity to tell me that an epidural was barbaric and that she would be happy to come in and coach me through the breathing. No chance.

Manders78 |

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It shouldn't be hard to tell anyone they cannot join you in all your pride and glory! It is not a party, it is the birth of your child, and a very intimate, personal experience that should be shared with only those you really want or need to be there for support. As for me I will have only the baby's father throughout the whole thing. He's excited to be able to be the one to "coach" me through it and I think he'll be wonderful. His mother will be overbearing enough afterwards and his father will only say something that'll upset me, or they'll both sit and eat an entire meal while I can only have ice chips (as I am told they did for their other DIL). This is what we have been waiting nine months for, the moment when we become a family, and the only person I want to share that with is my other half :) I would love to have my mom there during labor but my parents are waiting to drive from CO when they get the news that things are underway.

merbear385 |

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I cannot believe the nerve of some people! I've read all the comments left by other expectant mothers and I cannot believe how presumptuous MIL and other people are! My MIL said right away that she understood and wouldn't be hurt if I didn't want her in the delivery room. On one hand it was nice to not have to bring it up myself (I only want my husband), but on the other hand, WHY WOULD I EVER WANT SOMEONE I DON'T REALLY KNOW THAT WELL TO SEE MY VAGINA!? It was kinda a shock when she brought it up that the idea had even crossed her mind! It's just so weird what some people think is commonplace! My own mother is my best friend and I don't want her in there! This is a special moment between a couple - stand up for your wants and needs, ladies! Your husband/partner IS a part of it, but YOU'RE giving birth - it is LITERALLY all about what makes YOU comfortable! If these other people love you, they will understand when you tell them to BUGGER OFF!

leahcuneo |

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I definitely want my hubby. He has a 13 year old daughter...haven't decided if she can be in there for the labor and then come back after baby is born or just after he's born. Maybe ward her off from wanting to have a baby any time soon? Here's my problem/question for you all: my parents and ILs live 8 hours away. If I don't really want them here to be overbearing, when do we tell them that I'm in labor? This is my first so I'm just assuming it'll take awhile but I'm an only child and afraid my mom will freak out if I don't let her be a part. Any suggestions?

jenthorell |

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I want my husband and my mom with me in the room but my husband thinks since my mom is going to be in there that his mom should be too which I cannot stand her. She is very rude and self centered and I know she will try to get in my business while delievering. I want her to be there right after our son is born but not during its just not going to happen I will make sure the nurses know!

adanbom |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

My husband and my mother

susanita14 |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

I think that this is a total matter of personal preference. My friend has everyone wait in the waiting room. Last time I had a c-section and I had both my husband and my mom. My own opinion is that it may be your body, but the baby is part of BOTH of you. I think telling your husband he can't be there is extremely selfish and is something you would regret later. As for who else to have, it just depends on what you're comfortable with. My Mom was a labor and delivery nurse for 15 years, so having her there was very comforting to me. Plus I think it is special that she has attended the birth of all of her grandchildren. I think you do what makes you comfortable, but remember that the baby isn't just yours...DH had a large part in making him or her and will continue to be a huge part of his/her life.

KellyK33 |

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We have let everyone know there will be no visitors during L & D or Postpartum. We want to bond as soon as the baby is born and I want to breastfeed without everyone there watching. We also set up a visiting time limit and all must call my husband prior to coming to make sure it is a good time. MIL is the problem or we wouldn't have to have all the rules. I'm going to make sure the nurses know our wishes as well. They said they are used to having to keep family out and to just ask.

texasmama10 |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

husband only.

ghettoprincess |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

My husband will be there. I'd love to have my Mom and sister, but I think my MIL would be upset if they were there and she wasn't (and she WON'T be).

missypg |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

Oh my gosh, I do not want a single soul in the room except for my husband and the doctor, during labor OR delivery. Why in the world would I want my MIL/FIL chatting and snapping pictures while I am writhing in contraction pain? No way. It will be just us until the baby is born, and then I want 30 minutes of private time for me, my husband and baby before any waiting room family is admitted.

kleighco |

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ps: to all the women feeling guilty about wanting their mom's, but not MIL's in the room - DO NOT feel bad about that at ALL! Your husband is not the one naked from the waist down exposed to the room and in unbelievable privates-pain, you are. It's only natural that you are more comfortable with your own mom and your MIL should understand or get over it!

kleighco |

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I still have to find out how many people I can have in the delivery room but My husband will be there for sure. He is actually asking about my mother being there because he would like to catch if the Dr will let him, so he wants me mom to be there to calm me. I would rather not but it doesn't matter a whole lot to me. As for the MIL, I get along with her great but I definatly DO NOT want her there for labor or delivery. I don't really want guests when I'm in labor, I think that is rediculous. Why would they want to be there and watch me in pain, do they enjoy it or what? But yeah, My husband will be with me every step of the way, and depending on how things work out my mother may be in the delivery room if my husband is able to catch the baby. btw, My husband is a military emt and has trained in a delivery room and seen it all so he is really hoping he can catch his own child. I'm all about it, I keep warning him what he's going to see though, he just keeps saying he knows. All I can say to that is that he is going to see that EVERY time he goes down there once home and recoverd. hahahaha.

Poisonousrabbit |

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with my first one I had my mom and DH....the second one I just had DH....this one I will only have my mom there is no DH for this one. My sister wants to be in there but she will just piss me off so I don't want her in there and today at my baby shower my grandma said she wanted to be in the room too but i only want my mom. she travels alot and so I don't know if she is goin to be here for the delivery. I really don't want to do this on my own so I am crossing my fingers she is here when my baby comes. my dad said there is no way he will be in there for me but I think if it came down to it he would be there for me. I have always been my daddy's little girls so I think it is all talk right now but if my mom was not here when it happened he would be there to help me through it.

nmauch3 |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

I am having only my husband in the room. My mother drives me CRAZY, and I do not want her in the room during delivery, but I wouldn't mind during labor. I will be sure to tell the nurses that when it comes time to push, only DH is allowed.

mgranadino |

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I am having husband, my Mom and my Aunt who is also my best friend. Once the baby is born my mom and my aunt will see the baby and then take off to the waiting room to let anyone else know and DH and I are going to spend time with the baby by our selves. I want us to have time with the baby to bond and time for me to nurse the baby.

DRuzz |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

For those of you who think you'll have a hard time keeping unwanted guests out of the room - perhaps you should consider not calling them until much later in your labor (they'll get there too late for the big show), if not waiting until after the baby is born. Who needs the added stress of too many people trying to barge their way in? And who needs their hoo-ha on display for that many people? Yikes. Also, for those who don't want their partner in the room because they're afraid to let him see blood, poop, tears (as in a tear in your skin, not tears from your eyes), etc - hopefully you and he are both mature enough to get past it. Those things are the truth when it comes to giving birth, so why hide from it? Clearly he will understand that the things you do while birthing another human being are not the same things you do while having sex! He knows that you pee and poop daily like everyone else, right? Even hot, sexy women have to visit the bathroom and produce some foul smelling stuff! I'm definitely not a squeamish person, so this doesn't bother me in the least, but hopefully others can gain a new perspective. He is your #1 person - how could you do it without him!?!?!

jamiesimone |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

my husband will be with me for the whole thing. I can't imagine doing it without him. We've developed a deeper bond since becoming pregnant. I can't get enough of him and kind of need him around to feel calm and complete. Don't think I could do it without him there. He's nervous about getting squeamish, but wouldn't have it any other way. I don't mind the rest of our family waiting, but I really think I want some alone time just the three of us before one of our parents takes my baby away. I definitely see that happening immediately. Not sure how to address that yet (we are 30 weeks now so we have time).

kmz0312 |

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I'm just about to go into labor in the next; and to be perfectly honest, I don't want my step mom or my dad in there. I only want my ex, Josh to be there. He's not the dad, but he is my best friend. It is more likely i'm going to be embarressed but I am just happy to have him there. The problem is my parents are forcing themselves in whether I want them there or not.

stephblackburn |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

I had my DH, my sister and my mom. Our other children were with my sisters husband in and out of the room while in labor after I had my epidural. My sister was wonderful at making me laugh and taking the pictures. My DH is not a fan of hospitals and gets overly nervous. It was a wonderful experience. This time its going to be my DH and my sister. I'm sure our other children will be at the hospital in and out of the waiting area again. The kids each get their own cameras and they love that they can take their own picture memories.

4Campers |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

We are having our 2nd child and my husband was there for our firstborn. Our parents live very far away and we were being surprised about the sex of our baby, so it made sense that he be there. Surprisingly, he was a tremendous comfort and help. The doctor took my right leg and my husband took the left leg as I pushed. He coached and cheered and comforted and rubbed me. Most importantly he moved the mirror so I didn't have to see everything! Yes, I pooped and he saw it - he could have cared less because he was too excited to see the head crown and to hold our son. He got to cut the umbilical cord, help clean him up, and hand him to me. He said that he gained enormous respect for me (and for women generally) after witnessing the miracle of birth. And it had no negative effect on our sex life. He doesn't understand men who lose interest after their wife gets pregnant and/or they witness the birth of their children. In the end it brought us closer. So, he'll be right back in the delivery room again for the birth of our daughter in May.

MochaMamax2 |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

I am planning on having my hubby in with me. He and the doctor/nurses and other me medical staff are the only once that i feel should be in the room. It is a special moment for us and i really want to spend that time together with out anyone else. I was thinking about the "digusting" things that might happen during the birth but i guess if he can put up with all that he is meant to be a father :-)

acbalan |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

my DH & maybe sister?? not sure yet

FROGGSS |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

Husband only... maybe a doula, but we haven't really thought about that yet.

johnnyoffice |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

We have a three person limit at my hospital...and my three people will ALL be male. Unconventional, yes, but my Mom and MIL would rather stay in the waiting room. It was disappointing at the time, but DH's closest friends [and very dear friends of mine] began trying to outdo one another for an invitation. One would bring over parenting magazines to go over with me. Another would hear about that and find live birth videos so we could prepare. The first would rub my shoulders and get on to me about getting anything for myself. The second would take me out to lunch for my most-craved meal. It was just so funny to see the both of them trying to out-mother the other that we let it go on for a bit before we told them they were both invited. [And DH was so sad when he had to manage the responsibilities of the 3 AM "I NEED A HOTDOG RIGHT NOW" Walmart adventures alone again.] I'm entirely comfortable with the idea of them being present from start to finish [plus they all promised to stay at the head of the bed- which started a new argument about who would hold my hand at what time and who would hold the baby after me and DH!]. They've been so wonderful for the last 6 months that I don't think I'd actually want it any other way.

hlstoddart |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

My husband Melvin and my mom Johnette

lbrim |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

Im going to have my Husband and Sister in the room with me. I was there for both of her girls birth and she is going to be such a big help when the time comes.

Sarahwonders |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

I usually take my mom and my husband in with me but now I think I messed up because a friend asked me to go in with me, and now I don't want her to because she is irritating the hell out of me! what should I do?

MIMI5157 |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

I dont even want my MIL in the same town as me when Im labouring or giving birth. She annoys me to no end. Its a hard thing to broach with my husband, but I dont want my mother there either, so that might make it easier to swing. Going to leave it til Im really big an emotional to pull the, its me whose going to be in all that pain, string. I just feel that if people are sitting down in the waiting room, there will be this pressure to let them in and I know that I will want to kill my MIL if she comes in within hours of the birth (either side). I actually have nightmares about her being there, regularly. Im hoping we can agree (husband and I) to call them an hour or two after the baby is born, then it will take them an hour or two to get down here, and we will have spent some time together as a family before the meddling MIL gets there. ugh. Its just a time when I dont think Im going to want drama, and drama follows my MIL like a foul smell.

LEKTRex |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

So how do I break it to my mom that I would like for it to be my husband and my sister in the delivery room with me?? I know my mom has a tendency to speak her opinion very freely, and I would rather keep a calm enviroment. I don't need her making the medical staff angry just because I'm in pain and she thinks it is their faults. I am scared she will be crushed if I tell her though.

paramedicmommy |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

I already know I want my fiance with me during the labor and delivery. I invited my mom, she and I are very close plus I'm younger so I still feel like I need her support. My fiance, however, wants it to just be him and I for the delivery, I understand where he's coming from but I'm not sure what to do. Any advice?

AnnaMariaB |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

Oh man, for my first born it was a real circus!! I had my boyfriend, my mom, both my sisters, and a class of med students!! This time around it's just gonna be DH and MIL. My mom passed away 3 years ago, otherwise she'd be there instead of MIL. Thankfully I'm very close to my MIL, but it's gonna be tough not having mom there.

KarenS77 |

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I'm havin' my hubby, my mom and my BF there with me for the labor part. Im not sure if my BF'll stay for delivery. DH wanted it to be just me and him also, but I knew I'd need my mom who had 2 of her 3 naturally and I'm plannin' on goin the same route. So we talked about it and I told him that, though I understand his wants he needed to understand mine... and when that didn't work, I told him i was gonna be the one havin' the baby, not him, and he needed to support whatever it was that i needed even if he thought it was slightly to full blown ridiculous (like he thinks about me havin a natural birth). lol

Hippiechild |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

my mom, cousin, and aunt.

leahmothersill6 |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

I don't really want my fiancé in the room with me: it's not about being grossed out or privacy, he's just a very panicky person. Compound this with the fact that he's not great at "Filtering" his thoughts. I'm planning to have a natural birth, and I can totally picture him running around in the L&D room saying, "WOW, babe, that looks like it must really hurt! Doesn't that hurt?!" I don't want him stressing me out while I'm trying to focus.

soanxious728 |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

What is a DH or DL or DD?

Always40 |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

I'm very comfortable having whoever in the room. The father will be there, and my mother, and my MIL and I think even a few of my fiance's friends are going to try and make it, I'm not shy. I will also have my old manager in there for the purpose of pictures through the labor and birth. My son's birth is something I want to share with everyone.

ashleigh1003 |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

When i had my first there were 4 people in the room during the delivery. i really didnt care at the moment the epidural had me spaced out & i was sleeping when they come in and told me it was time to push! This time i really just want to have my husband there, and since my sis missed the first one (b/c she was young and my grandmother wouldn't take her, shes old enough now she can bring herself) she wants to be there too. Plus considering how my husband reacted last time he wont be able to take pics, so that will be left to her. i really don't want to hurt anyone's feelings but i just don't want all the chaos like the last time, we couldn't really enjoy it because everybody else was talking and wanting to be all up in your face and the babies face!

collins2009 |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

Just my husband

rsleatherman |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

my mom and hubby only. my mom told my family that i didnt want anyone else in there. my grandma was a little hurt but it is a very private time. my hubby is telling his fam. i dont want it to be a circus in there while im going through L&D.

Sweeti7307 |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

It will be just DH and I for the delivery. My family is more than welcome in the waiting room and can come see the baby after he's born and me and DH have had our time alone with him.

bekah22587@hotmail.com |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

I am having a c-section and Iw ant my husband and my mom with me. This is our second child so with our first it was just my husband and myself. I was adopted so my mom has never been able to experience a birth before. She was so excited t hear that my husband and I talked and would like her with us!

linsw00 |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

There's really no right or wrong answer. It's such a personal choice. I am inviting everyone to the hospital for this one. After my epidural I'll let everyone in to visit. However at delivery it'll just be husby and me.

onlyyou06 |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

I am having hubby, and 2 good friends (one who is like a mother) & another who is a good friend & has helped me a lot with a bunch of questions during the pregnancy (plus she has given birth 5 times with no pain meds which I want to do so she can help me with that). I am refusing my mother to come in due to several reason. Main reason is she is a nurse & I don't want her trying to act like a nurse (like she did when my sister was in labor at the hospital she worked at just a few weeks ago).

jacquelinholder |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

My husband and I are very self sufficient young professionals expecting our first child. We decided that labor & delivery was sacred, special, and not a spectator sport. Of all the times in our entire lives - we wanted to claim this time, as well as a few hours after for ourselves. BUT!! While his family was 110% supportive of receiving a call to say "hey we had baby, time to come to hospital!" - mine was not! My Father & Sister felt this was inconsiderate,rude,narcistic & how dare my husband and I behave that way, keeping that time for ourselves.Wow.We were shocked. But we're staying strong & believe that this time is for the couple. Whatever makes for easier labor, delivery & less stress...whatever helps you bond with your husband and new baby - that is what's best. Everyone else needs to respect that and go suck an egg!!

talktoheidi |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

I'm not sure what I'm going to do here.. my SO is going to be there for sure (and staying at the HEAD of the bed, NO peeking!) but I think I may have invited 2 other people and I think my hospital has a max of 2, so now I don't know who to kick out! Either my best friend since high school or my SIL that we live with (also a best friend). I kind of feel like it should be my high school friend because my SIL will get to see so much of the baby and my bff won't. Plus my bff is moving to the other side of the country right after I have my baby. We're very close and its going to be really hard having her gone and I really want to share this special time with her. But I don't want to deal with the wrath of my SIL, especially living in the same house.. Help!

xxkalesxx |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

consider this are you comfortable with others viewing your private areas? Are they going to pass out and make you stressed out while trying to have the baby? My first child i allowed who ever wanted to be in the room to be there. BIG mistake! My mother and aunt decided to be at my side along with my husband. My husband and my aunt did great! For a matter of fact i plan on having my aunt help me out this time around. But as far as my mother goes..... The doctor had even asked me to please not allow my mother in the room during delivery. She was screaming so loud that the dr didnt know who was giving birth! She then proceded to vomit all over the place and almost pass out right there! This time around NO MOMMA!! Be sure that the persons in with you are going to be calm and not make any distractions from you or the baby, those moments can be both wonderfull and scary for a mother and newborn. You do not need the nursing staff tending to a freaked out person incase anything goes wrong.

vaniea |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

I really only want my husband to be with me.. maybe my mom and sister during labor but as soon as it gets close I want it to be a special thing that only DH and I get to experience together... I haven't really had anyone say anything about it yet but HECK NO would I even think about letting my In-laws in the room at all, ever... not even for a minute... (cringing just thinking about that)

MrsMJM |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

My mom is the one that stresses me out the most. I'll be having a csetion and will have my hubby there with me and my best friend. That way both moms are not invited so they cant fight over it. I need all the calmness that I can during the surgery.

jbosworth |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

I will have my husband and my mom (depending on my frame of mind at the time). Right now I'm planning on just my husband during delivery. The labor is where it gets tricky. I don't want to be rude but I really don't see this as a photo oppurtunity and I don't want to make polite converstaion with my in-laws. My parents both work in the medical field and of course I'm much more comfortable with them. I wouldn't mind having them in the room on and off not only for support but for an explaination if I need it. However, I feel that if I invite one pair then I've got to let them all in.....

jayawk1024 |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

My wife and I are having our first child in about a month or so (well, she's 36 weeks next week, so any day now, I guess). We were just talking yesterday about who we wanted in the delivery room. I would like for it to just be us, especially since it's our first child. She reports, however, that her mother has been making insinuations about being in the delivery room. Is it wrong of me to think that her mother should at least ask what our wishes are?! As for my wife, she hasn't said either way. She probably wants her mother there though, but only because she feels that it would hurt her mother's feelings not to be there. Any thoughts? And, as for the responses about it being none of the husband's business, I don't think that that attitude is correct. I understand that it is the wife's body, and that it is a traumatic and beautiful experience, but it is also one born out of an intimate moment between a married couple (well, not necessarily, but you know what I mean). Therefore, shouldn't it be a decision, based on input from those 2 parties, without feeling guilty for leaving parents or whomever else out?

CGSJohnson |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

No one should be insinuating anything about who should/should not be in the delivery room. This is a decision between you and your partner. All friends and family members should ask what your wishes are and not demand anything about such a special day for the proud parents. They need to understand that feelings are going to get hurt and that you don't mean to hurt anyone but this is a decision between you and your partner. I'm only 25 weeks but I want my husband and my best friend in the delivery room with me. Though I'm not sure if my hunny will be able to handle being with me for our first child. Pretty sure my friend will be able to handle it though. Knowing my mom she'll want to be there. I don't care who's there for the labor but the delivery is a very private matter in my opinion. But I think if my hunny can't do the delivery with me then it'll be my friend and younger brother, since he's training to become a CNA (Certified Nurses Assistant) and he may be doing this in the future. They also know how to make sure peoples wishes are known and will refuse to let anything happen unless it's a last resort thing.

MandaE85 |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

Wow, I feel like such a hippie compared to many of the answers I've been reading... I couldn't imagine NOT wanting my husband in the room with me. He is not only the father of the baby, and has been a huge part of taking care of us through the pregnancy, but he and I are unimaginably close. I wouldn't want him to miss this very special moment. As to being "grossed out" or "not in the mood for sex" after seeing my vagina all stretched out... well we're just not that concerned. He is not easily grossed out or disturbed, and he is so awed by the wonderful magic of creating life that he knows this is only a small part of that chain. I want my best friend there, and yes, she can be at the end of the bed, with my doula/midwife, holding a compress to my perineum. Yes, she's that close a friend. Look, I held her naked in the shower while she puked her guts out in college. We're close like that. I think it's so important to be surrounded by the love of close friends and family throughout that I'm not wiling to set any hard and fast rules about who can be there and who can't - but everyone better know on the day of that I make the rules! Pregnant lady makes the rules, pregant lady gets to set the invite list and deny self-inviters.

mzclaire |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

I'm only 28 weeks and I'm still deciding who I want in the room....I definitely want my husband there and my mother.....the only problem is, if my mother goes, my husband wants his mother.....I REALLY dont want his mother there, it's not that I don't like her....I just wouldnt feel comfortable with her there. So unfortunately, because his mom is SUPER emotional, she would feel offended if she wasnt there but my mother was. So I have to compromise and not have my mother there either. It sucks, because I really want that emotional support from my mother, but I won't be able to have it (I would just really like my husband to think about how he would feel if his jewels were available for my mother to see!!!!! I bet he wouldn't like that....but he doesn't see it that way)

livingj156 |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

My husband will be in there with me, and possibly my mom, depending on how I feel that day. When I said I might want my mom in there with us, my husband felt that his mom should be there too, but I reminded him that I'm the one giving birth and it's my body that is on display...so I get to choose who participates. I am the one who will need the emotional support and I am not close to my mother in law, so it would be like having an aquaintance in the room. I do like her very much, but I cannot imagine having anyone in the room with me who I didn't feel a close bond to. Sorry, but on delivery day it's all about my level of comfort and getting the baby out safely!

Kaycee2009 |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

Only my husband will be in the room.... my MIL asked how many people are allowed and I told her only my husband would be there. She told me she thought that was strange since my SIL will be delivering at the same hospital a few months later and she is allowed three.... apparently she did not understand my gentle hint. My mom who is also local wants a phone call when we go to the hospital and a phone call once the baby is born to know when they should come to the hospital

btgriffis |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

This is one of the few negatives about having a child - worrying about other people's feeleings. I do not like that we have to be concerned about hurting people's feelings by not wanting them in the room while we are going through horrible pain and discomfort, much less all of the possibly disgusting side effects of labor and birth. Do they really not get that some of us just don't want the whole world viewing our privates in all of their unpleasant Glory? IPersonally, I would like my other half in the room with me the whole time and the only other person I want in there is my Aunt (for Delivery at least, I'm not sure that I'll mind during labor) I know that wanting my Aunt may seem odd, but my reason for wanting her with me are valid. She was the Head Pediatric nurse at her hospital for most of her career and therefore has been involved with many labors, seen the best and the worst. I figure no one better to help mediate and keep me updated while the Dr's and Nurses try to do their jobs! Plus, she's had 5 children of her own, so she Really knows what's going on. However, I'm worried about insulting my mother and my sister by not allowing them in, but as much as I love them, I'm a very private person and I would really prefer they not be in there to see all of my bits and pieces. In the end, I think everyone should do what they want, it's one of the biggest days of your life and you should be as comfortable and worry free as possible. Everyone else can get over themselves and realize that this is ONE day that their wants/needs should come last on the list and there should be no hard feeings against the new mommy-to-be. Do what makes you comfortable! Good Luck Ladies!! :)

Kafries |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

I have actually been researching this topic because my husband and I are planning our second child. With our first, our daughter, my labor and delivery medical wise was smooth sailing. However, my MIL would constantly call my husband (boyfriend at the time) and ask if she could come in. I was not at all comfortable with this, this woman wasnt there for me while I was pregnant...AT ALL. I've never even had the thought cross my mind that my husband couldnt be in the room, thats his child too and he has every right. While I was pushing, my MIL walked in... my nurse took care of it. I was so livid, she ruined such a special moment! Soon, she called her ENTIRE family and I had to fight to hold my own daugther... breastfeeding... forget that. People were in my room ALL the time, I could not even master breastfeeding while I had the help. To those of you women who dont care who is there and who is in the room, really evaluate the situation and choose the two people who make your stress level shrink. You will have enough going on with out having to worry about the millions of ppl in the waiting room waiting for baby to arrive. With my second child, since my mom lives 3,000 miles away, and I'm not close to my stepmom or mother in law, my husband will be in the room as well as my best friend. Everyone else can stay home until 24 hrs after the baby is born!!

katieshell |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

My husband will be there for sure and my sister will be there but she is very understanding and if I ask her to leave I know she will and there won't be any harsh feelings about it... I've thought about others but with the hospital staff in there as well I want to feel like I have some privacy.

larson123 |

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I am having my husband and my mom. My mom is more a backup for my husband who fainted when I got my wisdom teeth out, so we aren't sure how long he'll make it.

Gracelet1 |

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I want my husband and mom for sure and if my sisters and my mother in law want to and are able to that is fine with me. I think it won't take away from that special bonding moment

ljtibbets |

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My husband for sure will be with me. My mother wants to be there and I'd love to have her there, she gave birth to me and nursed me when i was sick and raised me to be the person I am today. However, my MIL wants to be there and though I love her to death, I know how she is and I really don't want to spend my labor hearing about the 56 hours she was in labor with my husband and the 2 black eyes he had when he came out. Plus I have a rule that you have to stay up by my head and let the doctor & nurses do their thing down below. I know my MIL will try to sneak peeks and I'm not comfortable with that. Still trying to firgure out a way to keep her out. 2 weeks left to figure it out!

cbhus5104 |

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For my first I just had my mom and husband. My MIL tried to stay in the room, but I had told hubby beforehand I only wanted the two of them in. He made her leave and she was really upset. She kept trying to stay, whispering she won't even notice (about me). He got really mad and she left, but sulked for a while. I think with this one I'm just going to have my hubby there... but I might ask for my mom at some point because she was a midwife and I know she'll make sure things stick to my birthplan. My SIl had no prob with everyone and everyone there...but I don't think I could handle it.

kerrystar |

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For my first delivery, I was a single mom and had my mother, sister and a best friend with me. It was great having different people I was really comfortable around, no matter what our relationship. Now, 5 years later, I have many more people to think of! My husband will be there for sure, although i hope he doesn't pass out or find it's a mental image that will be a total turn-off later. I'd like my mom with me again. There's just something about having your own mother with you. My sister will probably insist, which is okay. I know it's cause she loves me. :) The horribly funny thing is my in-laws will be on a trip the week before our due date. I'm hoping they'll be away when the baby is born. :/ I do love them, but i have a feeling i'd rip into my MIL if she said anything remotely annoying or questioned the way anything was being done. She loves sharing her opinion.whether or not they're there, she will NOT be in the room, labor or delivery. Along this line, does anyone feel a birthplan is super necessary? I didn't have one the first time, so i'm not sure which way to go.

skaggersgirl |

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Michael of course and Michael's mom and my aunt.

mommyreina |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

well, of course my husband will be with me. my mom wants to be there, but i know she will stress me and my hubby out way too much. she can be really overbearing, and she would end up pushing my hubby out of the way, which i have a big problem with. i'd honestly rather have my mil than my mom, haha. i'll probably just leave it at me and hubby, and see if i can persuade the nurses to run interference for us. :)

erikatastic |

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My husband and I are expecting our first September 9th. I am having my husband in the room with me. I wish my mom could be with me but she lives too far away and won't be here in time. My oldest sister was going to be with me too, but she passed away in March this year. I think it should just be family in the delivery room, especially for something as special as delivering a baby. My husband knows that we are NOT having one of our 'friends' in the delivery room because she basically invited herself and said that if my husband starts to 'freak out,' she will make him leave the room. Not going to happen!

mjkaw08 |

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I only feel comfortable with my husband and my mother seeing me during delivery. And as for everyone else, I wish they would even wait until I come home with the baby. I don't like being around a lot of people at one time, and I am going to have trouble agreeing with my baby being held by everyone that walks through the door right after she is born.

pErKiNsLOVE1705 |

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I really do NOT want a huge crowd staring at my crotch! I want my partner in there of course, and I am really close w/ my sister, so I would also like her to be there. But my dilemma is I'm sure my mother expects to be there the WHOLE time. My problem w/ her is she had 3 children, naturally, so she thinks she is an expert! Well, I am a L&D nurse, and I don't think I need her expertise at this point. And we just aren't that close where I'm comfortable being that exposed in the presence of my mother. I'm really close w/ my sis, AND she doesn't do annyoing things, like pet my head!! I want her there to see it for herself, and to sort of be an outsider that can take pictures of the 3 of us while we bond when the baby comes out. I know she won't be overbearing and smothering my baby while I'm trying to bond w/ her, like most grandparents would be. But I KNOW my mother will be devastated, and I'm still trying to find a way to break it to her, that I don't even want anyone else at the hospital until I am comfortably rested in our post-partum room. And being a nurse in that dept..... yes..... all those pestering family memebers in the waiting room are annoying, and they distract us from our job. If you can't be in the room, just stay at home until you are called....the baby isn't going anywhere! They will still be just as precious a few hours after they are born!

rachgar |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

The plan for now is to have my husband and my mother in the room if I can go vaginal but if it's a C-section then only my husband (which I'm sure only allows for 1 person anyway). If I can deliver vaginal I'd like my mother there because she's very supportive (will say "you can do it" and such) and only had a C-Section so it would be nice to give her that gift. We will tell our in laws, siblings and my step father when we're delivering but they need to stay in the waiting room until I'm (yes, me)ready to have people in the room with us after the baby comes.

dxdschiz |

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My Husband and I sat down and decided together - this is our baby, so he is obviously there, and the rest we'll play by ear... we'll see how I'm feeling, if everything is going well, and so on. I can see having my mom in the delivery too, but only because she's really supportive and totally understands everything we've decided. She will stand aside and let us bond, and even run anyone else out, and we don't need to worry about her blabbing anything to anyone, as my husband is really excited about being the one to make the announcement. She will be there for support, and otherwose it's all up to Hubby and me. That being said, fending of the MIL is going to be interesting. we don't know yet if the hospital has a personal support limit, but we're going to tell everyone that only 2 ppl are allowed in the delivery, so as to avoid hurting other's feelings. Honestly, I couldn't care less about the hurting others feelings... my MIL is super opinionated and loud, and annoying, and I have no problem telling her to Bugger Off, but by tellign the world that we're only allowed 2 ppl, and thats Hubby and my Mom, it'll hopefully help us avoid crap later on. Labour, we'll see... thats the play it by ear part... if we're up for it, maybe a few visitors at a time, but when it's time to push, it's time for all to clear out except Hubby and maybe Mom. Try not to feel bad about your decision... and if it's to hard to tell them before, just try to avoid tellign them until after anyway - things were so busy and exciting and you didn't want the Daddy to leave your side, so he couldn't call until after Baby has made it's grand arrival... lol... they can understand and respect your wishes, or get out :)

Jaye_Fraser |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

I want only my husband in the delivery room with me. I'm not close to my MIL, though she's a really nice person. For various reasons, she gets on my nerves, and having her in the labor and delivery room with me just wigs me out (part of my feelings stem from her need to live vicariously through her son rather than living her Own life, and odd things she's said over the years about how she wants to be close to us because she wants us to take care of her - she's only 64 years old!!!). Anyway, I've not decided how I feel abou her being in the waiting room while I'm in labor, or if DH should just call her when we leave for the hospital, and then again after the baby is born, so that she can come down and see her grandson. The problem is that only the 3 of us (me, DH and MIL) live in this town and in this state. My DH is a wuss when it comes to his mother, so I'm probably going to look like the bad person. I just don't want to be shamed or guilted into having MIL around me when I'm going through the whole L & D process, just because She wants to be there. It is definitely going to be interesting.

Tamralp |

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I can't imagine NOT having my fiance in the room with me during it all! we"ve actually talked to our midwife about him "catching" the baby. he says he's seen it all before in health class, but its different when its your own. this is my second and I insisted on the mirror the first time. yeah, its not completely pretty, but its BIRTH. and especially if you can't have your husband in the room when you're giving birth, how the HELL did you make the baby without wanting him to look at you?! the truth is that you loose most of your...I guess you could say self-respect. when you have to pee, you have to pee. its not about being shy or worring who used the toilet before you. same with pooping on the table, YEAH, it'll probably happen, but its not about how you look at that moment, its about making enough room for the baby to fit out! (and if he can't handle it, he's not much of a man). my mother was with me the first time, but probably won't be this time. i moved farther away (45 minutes) and we don't know if she would even be able to make it on time, and sh's completely happy with just visiting in postpartum. my fiance's mother on the other-hand is not invited for the birth...we don't get along too well, and she likes to throw in her two sense when its not needed OR wanted. some of my close friends want to be there, my answer is, if you want to get up at 3am just to watch me push this baby out, then go right ahead! :)

saraf1621 |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

My husband and kids might be in the room while I'm in labor, but when it comes time to push, they'll be going out to find some snacks and maybe pick out a buddy for their baby brother. I know my kids will be happiest and most relaxed with their daddy, so by being there for them, he'll be there for me, too. That'll help me to relax and focus on delivering the newest member of the family. So, it'll just be me and the doctor and nurses, and I don't know how soon I'll want anyone even visiting that day--after the baby's born. When my husband and kids come back to the room to meet the baby, they and our new baby will be my favorite company. I wouldn't mind my mom and dad and brothers and sister visiting that day, but they're over 1800 miles away. My MIL and FIL might visit that evening or the next day, but if they waited until after I was out of the hospital, that'd be okay, too.

mamabear37 |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

My Husband is the only person allowed in the delivery room with me. Now regulating vistors once the baby is born and we are in Mother and Baby Unit...that is the tricky part.

HAmis5480 |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

16 years ago for my first child was just me and my mom. great she was great now i am do for the second child in January, 2011. due to some complication i do ot know yet if i will have a vaginal birth again or have to go through a c-section. if is vaginal i want my mom again and this time my hunsbad but if is c-section only my hunsband will be there. first person i want in the room after delivery s my son and want him to feel that is still a very important part of my life and even though we are having one more child that he always bee #1.

sandraisabel |

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My MIL invited herself to watch the birth of our son (who is due in 2 weeks).. I blew it off at first but as we got closer to full term, Hubby and I had to come to an agreement. I didn't want anyone at the hospital other than my support persons (Hubby, my best friend who is my daughter's support person...) -- and I didn't want anyone in the waiting rooms. Problem with having people in the waiting room is that you'll feel obligated to let them come back or they will bug the support person you need the most (ie: MIL bugging Husband!) for updates or for just conversation or whatever. I didn't want that this time, so Hubby and I sent out a mass email to all of our families weeks ago and basically said... We don't want visitors while we're in labor and would like for family to wait for several hours after the baby is born so that we may have time to bond, nap, shower, eat, etc. before we have visitors. I think Hubby has received some issues from his side of the family, but we've stood our ground on this.

snorth86 |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

With our first child (almost 3 years ago) I had my husband, Mother, and Grandparents and any other vistor in the room while in labor, but while in delivery I just had my husband, Mother, and Grandmother. I found them all very comforting.

HeatherBurch9269 |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

So glad alot of you get to have your husbands i really wish mine could be there but he is in Afghan and wont meet his son till he is almost 3 months old....so i guess its just gonna be my mother in there

rhicks09 |

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I'm debating on who I want to be in the room with me. Initially I though my hubby, mom, dad (i'm a daddys girl), and mother in law. Now my grandma wants to crash but I don't know if I can deal with her while in labor. I do not want to hurt her feelings but she can be a little too talkative like asking questions while I am in pain. Not only that she is very dramatic. I think reading this has helped me make up my mind. I may just have my hubby and mom in there.

sweetheart2011 |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

I asked my DH and closest sister to be in the delivery room with me because my mom is great but I know how I get when I am under stress and pain and her wacky joking personality wouldn't be the best for me in this particular situation. When I mentioned this to my MIL who I am very close to, she got all upset and said that she should be in there because its her first grandchild. I explained that my mom would be devastated if I picked my MIL over her and to be honest I am just not completely comfortable with my MIL being there really. She started to argue saying that this is her first granchild and that my mom has 15. What she is not realizing is that it could be my mom's 30th granchild but it doesnt matter because that is a mother/daughter thing if anything and I am the one going through this and she just needs to respect my wishes and that's that. My MIL has 3 kids and her only daughter is handicapped so unfortunately she will never get that chance to share that mother/daughter delivery moment and I feel for her but its not my fault and I have to do what makes me comfortable at the end of the day. My DH spoke with her after and told me that she understands where I am coming from now but I thought that her even asking was pretty rude. That is an honor and a priveledge to be invited to L&D not a requirment bc it's your first grandchild. Some people just dont think of the feelings of others sometimes!

Shainamama |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

I guess it all depends on your comfort level. I am in no way overly modest, so the idea of people seeing me give birth doesn't phase me. It so completely outside of the daily norm. As of this moment, I plan on having my boyfriend, his mother, and my cousin in the room during delivery. His mom has far and away been the most excited and supportive about this baby, though she never assumed she'd be invited. She broke down in tears and was so happy when I did ask her. My mom would be there, but she lives out of state and decided it would be best to come after the baby does. My cousin is my coach. The great thing is that, if at any moment I want any of them out, the nurses will do the job and I can blame it on labor pains later. :-D

mycenia |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

I only want my DH in the room with me, but my mom is insisting that she be in there too. I've told her no, but she won't listen. Not really sure what to do in my case. :-/

brokensmyl |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

When I gave birth to my children I had my husband with me, I chose not to have my mother because during the first birth someone had said push and she pushed my knee into my stomach. I don't want anyone in the room with me who will be nervous or may panic. Now I am pregnant with my fourth baby and I want to have my oldest child in the room but am not sure if that will bother the hospital staff. My daughter is very excited for the new baby and wants to go with me.

vdominique22 |

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Definitely the baby's father/ your partner and possibly your own mother.

carebearsunshine87 |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

I had just my husband in the delivery room for my first and plan the same for this one. While every relationship is different, I wouldn't worry so much about protecting your partner from seeing you give birth, or the things that go with it. It was the most incredible bonding experience for us. It didn't change his view of me other than having more respect for me and the strength that comes to women through going through labor.

cellovega |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

Husband

keshkesh |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

I really can't believe that there are women that do not what their husband or baby's father in the room with them. It's childbirth. It's obvious going to be messy but after 9 long months finally getting to hold and see your baby would definitely out weigh the messiness. And as an army wife whose husband will be in Afghanistan during my delivery, I envy all of you that actually get to have their spouse/partner with them.

robo804@yahoo.com |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

As a labor and delivery nurse...I would definatly recommend having the father of the baby/your husband/partner in the room with you (as long as he is useful to you and comforting). At this point in your relationship the two of you should be close enough to go threw this together and when he watches you (directly or indirectly)deliver his child by whatever means he will hold an all new respect for you. He should be part of it. If he is not available then get your mom or best friend to sub in. If you really want someone there other than the babys dad, it should be someone who is going to be there to cater to you like a doula, massage therapist friend/relative....etc. To have a ton of people in the room makes it really chaotic and takes away from the intimacy of the experience. You should think about what you want, there are no second chances or do overs.

nursechrissy0711 |

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Unfortunately, the father-to-be is not in the picture, as much as I would love to share this experience with a partner (first baby and all). So, I have asked my sister-in-law to be my birthing partner, and I have told my mom that she can be in the room - but my S-i-L has been given a list of rules for my mother to follow! :p

DillyJ |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

We are going to have it just be my DH and I. My DH actually gets to help deliever the baby which we are both very excited about. Our mid wife will deliever her head and one shoulder, then my husband gets to pull the rest of her body out. I think it will be an amazing experience for both of us and a moment we will never forget. He also gets to give her her first bath.

aksnowball |

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This is mine and my husbands 1st, my doctor is inducing me on December 29th 2010, it will only be me and my husband in the delivery room as we are very private people plus my mom took it upon herself to be in the delivery room because she gave birth to me after all.. she was upset when i told her it would just be me and hubby but after i explained why she felt better about it, my mom has been to every doc app except 2 and my husband hasnt becasue we cannot afford for him to miss work so he has never heard her heartbeat or seen her on the monitor and he couldnt even be there when we found out it was a girl but my mom was there also my mom is not a very calming influence on either of us, as i said we are very private people and i just know my mom will want to be checking out the um downstairs and explaing whats going on and i cant really handle that!!! so i am very glad it will just be me and my husband, he is very excited and cant wait for our little girl to get here!!

FisherMolly13 |

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I made plans after my MIL and SIL decided they wanted to be in there while I was in labor. I haven't told them that I want to be there with my DH and Mommy only, just because I feel more comfortable and not observed. I'll just blame it on hospital policy.

jojosnchz |

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I really want it to only be my husband and myself, possibly a doula if we decide to hire one, especially since this is our first baby. But my mother is insisting on being in there with me, threatening tears and temper tantrums every time I try to tell her *gently* that I don't want anyone else in the labor/delivery room. She actually laughed at me for putting things in my hospital bag to keep my mind occupied during labor, saying "That's what people are for!". My husband's family has already said they'd hold down the fort and keep people out of the room, but is there a delicate yet firm way to make sure that my mother and sister, who refuse to take no for an answer, get the point without having to create a scene in the waiting room?

musicalangel1985 |

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This is our first. As long as I have natural birth My husband, my mother and my sister will be in there with me. I would never have my MIL, she stresses me out enough. If for some reason we have to have a c-section I will only have my husband in the room. I have set rules and my mother and sister already agreed to abide by them if necessary. : )

classicalcreationsbylc |

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mom and raul

aponce48 |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

When it comes down to it, I was so wanting it to be done I didn't care who was there. With my first I had my husband, mom, MIL and best friend. With my second I had my husband and mom, but the nurse sent my mom home cuz she said it would be a while and she ended up missing the birth! The nurse felt sooo bad! I Think my mom will be sticking around for this next one! I think I'll be going with my hubby and mom again for this 3rd one. It also depends on the time of day too cuz someone has to watch our kids. :oP

islandmom81 |

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i'm probably just gonna have my bf in the room at the head of the bed cuz having a babys grossy looking and i dont want anyone to see things i wouldn't be comfortable seeing (even on myself)

fashi0nablynumb |

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We've got a whole group of people that will be in the room!! Me, obviously, my DH, my mom, my MIL, and my grandmother! :) I really don't mind. I mean, if they think they have the guts to sit through it all, why not let em!! I'm not shy! lol. As long as my husband and I are the first to hold her! that's what really matters. If i have to get attitude with one of our moms for swoopin in and taking the baby first, I will.

brittlowe41911 |

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When I had my first daughter I was 17 and single, so I had my mom with me the whole time. She was one of the few people in my life at the time who supported the fact that I didn't have an abortion or give my baby up for adoption. That was three and a half years ago and I am now living with and pregnant by my boyfriend. He will be with me in the delivery room. I live in Ohio and my mom lives in Iowa, so the plan is for her to be there also, unless baby is born earlier than my due date of May 19. If she can't make it I know my boyfriend will be able to handle being with me. He has two kids from his ex-wife so pregnancy and delivery are nothing new to him.

PaigeC89 |

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My husband and I decided to do Hypnobirthing for delivery of our first child. Because of the need for quiet and relaxation, I DO NOT want my mother in law there with us. I actually only want my mother (who is an OB nurse), my husband and my midwife. Plus I want to breastfeed immediately so I dont want many people in there. How do I inform my mother in law to just stay at home until we call her to come up without offending her?

FireDolphin421 |

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i'm glad i figured this out so early... it's just gonna be me, the daddy, and my granny(cause she has the camera :) ) i don't think i could handle anymore than them

us2011 |

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with my daughter I had her dad and my sister in there. My sis was a great help becuase the father was a complete idiot and made things worse. This time around I want it just to be me and my fiance. He is a great guy and very supportive. we lost 3 babies (1 was this ones twin) and since we worked so hard to get here I want it to be a personal experience not a circus side show. His mom and both of his sisters want to be in there. I keep telling them no and they say they will be there no matter what I say. I talked to my fiance about it and we will just let the hospital staff keep people out. During labor as long as I'm feelin ok I dont care who there but when it comes to pushing its just us and I want to breast feed right away so I dont want a bunch of people in there until I am in my own room and feeling better.

christina_shepard |

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For me personally I want my hubby to be in there with me to the end, my mother pretty much has invited herself but I am planning on making it clear she is to leave when I start pushing. I invited my best friend whom I watched her birth her baby when I found out I was, and she understands if I say leave then to leave. I just hope things go smoothly with my mother we aren't super close and she always makes me feel pressured and that she thinks she knows it all and all women are the same she never had that kind of moment when she birthed me and my siblings. But overall I plan on doing this the way I want to not how everyone else expects me to, I will have the special bonding moment with just the two loves of my life even if I have to have her escorted out. "This is my moment, this is my mirical" Nine Months the movie

apelt001 |

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Just the hubby with me the whole time. That's all.

eefiekeen |

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I only want my hubby with me! I love my mom, but I don't want to miss out on the incredible bonding that comes when its just you, hubby, and then baby. I will invite my mom as a back-up only incase the army calls my hubby up last minute. But if she can't be there, and he gets called up, then it will be just me and the doctors. I'm an independant and very private person and I could NOT imagine my dad being there- even if I am a daddy's girl. And there is NO WAY any inlaw would make it in the room- not even during labor. Nothing against them, but they will never be allowed to watch me give birth! GROSS! I'm debating on not even inviting anyone to see us in the hospital which is an hour away from us- we all live in the same town so its not like they wont be able to visit once we get home. I've just heard some horror stories about the baby not being able to breast feed because it kept getting interrupted by guest- which only hubby will be in the room when I do that too! My hubby says its whatever I want, but I think he's secretly hoping I will be cool with everyone visiting us in recovery. I guess we will see.

jlocke11 |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

I was shocked when i saw how many women were not allowing their husbands to be a part of delivery! I agree that to kick him out is highly selfish (even if you are the one going through the pain!). I can't imagine my hubby not being there and I don't care where he stands as long as he is there with me! Of course my mother will be there for extra support...I mean the woman did give birth to me naturally...she does have some experience! As for the MIL she is a midwife but fortunately she has not asked and will most likely not come to visit until after the baby is born since they live 4 hours away. Honestly, I think anyone who is in the room is probably going to forget all about what they "saw" once that little bundle emerges!

hawleyh24 |

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grandmothers

shonapty |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

My husband, my doula, and possibly my mother. I may kick my mother out at some point, though. My MIL would love to be in there, but I refuse to let that happen. She is way too overbearing. My husband WILL NOT leave under any circumstance!! If I have to go through all of it, he has to at least be there to witness my sacrifice!

hollysw11 |

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My midwife, doula and husband are the only ones allowed in the house during labor and delivery. (Well, my sister has dropped off pizza during labor, but she doesn't want to witness the birth either!) Some people love having lots of friends and family for support. I'm just more comfortable without a bunch of people around.

TeishKnits |

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I only wanted immediate family to visit my room after delivery, I figured friends and extended family could visit once we got home. HOWEVER, once DH sent out the text letting frinds and family know that DD was born and giving her stats... everyone thought that meant that they should come on down to visit and there were SO many people there, one of which who hadn't even received the text but had heard from someone else. Needless to say, I was very upset! This time around, we will only send out the "Baby has arrived" text after we get home!!! Why don't people call and ask permission to visit???

Shopaholic78 |

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I agree tha it is selfish not to give the cchoice father a choice of being there I couldn't imagine this experience without my husband. If the sight of your child barring vag ruins sexfor him he has ISSUES! This is what we were made for. As for me my hubby, mom and mil for labor. Once its time to push just me and hubby. I ONLY want to share that moment with him.

dextersmommi |

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I am a first time mom due in July and I have decided that my mom, Mother in law and ofcourse my husband will be in the delivery room the mothers will be at my head and my husband wants to seee our little girl come out, thats alright with me. But even the thought of my mom or mil seeing me like that just makes me a little uncomfortable. And my bag is packed and the nurery is almost done!!!!

Bride918 |

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We will follow my family's tradition of female relatives being in the room for support along with my husband. So my mother, grandmother, three cousins and husband will be there. To many it may seem weird, but I don't think I could do it without them there.

ErinSchmitz |

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I can only have 2 people, so I want my husband and my mother. If, for some reason, my mother can't be there in time, I want one of my sisters. But my husband is insisting that no one else should be allowed but him. He is ok with my mom, but he says that if anyone else gets to come in, it should be his mom. That would make me really uncomfortable. When I try to explain to him that I may want my sister to be there if my mom can't be there, he gets very angry and starts screaming at me that I am making him feel inadequate. I can't seem to make him understand the way I feel about it and all he can seem to focus on is how he feels about it.

karmann72 |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

I'm a very private person and will only have my DH with me during L&D. My DH is squimish so if he has to leave, I will do it on my own. I love my mom but she is a know it all and will drive me crazy. Ever since she got her RCW, she thinks she's an MD...ugg I also want the bonding time between baby, DH and myself so will request a minimum of 30 mins before visitors (unless I'm BF, in which case after I'm done) As for what the hospital allows, I haven't had my prenatal or tour yet (will start them in a couple weeks) so I'm not sure what the regualations are. I do know that the hospital only allows immediate family during the day. Friends and extended family are limited to 6-8pm. That should cut down on visitors.

honeylizb |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

i am having my husband there for sure and my mother to provide extra support since she know what labor feels like. MIL would love to be in there too but sorry i just don't feel comfortable giving birth with her in there.

yuliana23 |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

I want my my mom, my sister, my dad and my mother in law in there up to the point of delivery, then I want them all out but my hubby of course. The one person I do not want in there at all is my mean like Regina George sister in law. If she comes in there, I'll kill her.

sarahguasp |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

I had just my husband. My MIL wanted to be there but I said NO! I did warn my husband that he better not make any stupid comments though. Afterwards he told me that he has never been more proud of me and in awe of what I can do.

daddysgirl2022@yahoo.com |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

My husband is not only going to be my coach through labor, but he's also going to deliver our baby boy and cut the cord! (I seriously recommend Birth Without Violence to all moms to be and there hubby's. It really helped mine get over the fear of a baby being born.) I'm also going to have my mom, his mom, and my oldest brother in there for support and probably entertainment. They are under the rule of no looking below the waist, though!

distymawn |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

i will have my hubby, mom, and MIL in for delivery, no other family even called till after Jr. is here. Dont want to feel obligated to let ppl in while in labor so no one in waiting room. as far as standing at the head or in the corner, im not really too worried about, my husband will be pushin Doc outta the way to get a good look im sure, and mom as well as MIL have been thru it b4 they kno wut it looks like.

JrsMommy11 |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

I'm planning on having my husband with me, he is my rock and helps me to be strong when I want to be a wimp. And of course my mom. She's very honest and realistic and I know she'll tell it like it is when I want to know what's going on. My in laws are coming into town when baby is due..but I'm hoping I'll go into labor early so they won't be there haha they're nice, but i don't want all the extra eyes and hands. I'm already very protective of my baby and can't imagine sharing her in those FIRST hours!

gwenathan |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

Absolutely will have my hubby and Mum. If I can have more...my Dad will have the option if he wants to be in there or not and maybe my MIL and SIL. Just no father in law...that would be a bit awkward. But my hubby and parents get to hold baby first!

klt0909 |

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My 1st cousin is the closest thing to a sister I have ever had. That being said, however, she is loud, dramatic and self-consumed and she literally invited herself to the delivery of my baby. When I told her that it was just going to be me and my husband she turned right back around and told me no that she would be in there! Due to this incidence as well as other family members, my husband and I have decided to not call ANYONE when we go to the hospital, all the family will be called after the baby has been born and I have recovered enough for guests. I don't want a waiting room full of people rushing my child to breast feed so they can get in there and pass it around.

AlbyBeth |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

My husband & mom for the birth. After she's here my mom will step out for a little while so we can bond. Then my son (who's 9) will come so he can bond. After couple hours of just our family together then we'll have visitors. It's been told to everyone from the beginning that way nobody expected anything else.

hkc711 |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

Invite whoever you are comfortable inviting. I WANT my husband in the room with me. I also plan on inviting my MIL. My own mother won't be able to travel out to see us until a few weeks after the birth and I want somebody with me who has gone through it before. My MIL will have to be it and since she truly is like a 2nd mom to me, I am okay with it.

brendak611 |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

I'm having a c-section, so it will just be me and my DH. This is our first child together and my DH's first all together. We are so excited. After the birth is complete and I am in recovery they can pass the little squirt around as much as they would like. When I come out of recovery though I want every one but my DH and 7 year old son to leave for a bit. I want our little family to bond.

KandiKB |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

Invite people you trust to not cause you added stress and that will help you out if needed. I had my mom, sister, husband, grandma, and a couple other friends with me the first time. I was very happy to have all of them there. With my second I had my MIL, cousin, mom, sister, husband, a good friend of ours. I really wish I didn't have my MIL and cousin there. They really upset me and my MIL was very inconsiderate of everybody including her son. She was like a walking ball of drama and stress. With my 3rd (Due in 4 weeks) I will have my mom, sister, good friend, (now a doula), grandma, husband and his step mom and step sister, and maybe my 6yr old daughter (if she wants). My MIL is banned from the room and everybody knows this except her. Still trying to figure out how to tell her.

Greatdialup |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

Husband, My Mother and My Mother in Law

danivnyy1 |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

My mother in law is going to be coaching me through it, along with my mother, and my husband will be there too. We're going to be in a Catholic hospital so I don't think they'll give me an issue. no men except the doctor (if the one there that day is a male because I have 2 of each in my practice there) and my husband. (I love my father in law to death but it's going to be awkward enough for my husband and mommies to see me like that! lol)

kwares218 |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

This is our first child, and I haven't figured out yet who I want with me. Obviously my husband (but since he is deployed and we arent sure if he will be here...) I need to figure this out. Im not sure I want MY mother in there with me, but I am comfortable enough with my MIL to be in there, is that bad? I have been reading about a Doula? I am now considering one of those because I dont want to be totally alone, and really cant invite my MIL in there without MY mother going spastic and starting crap.

Rstar120109 |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

with my first child I had my mom, dad DH and sister in law, now that Im having my second child DH wont be able to be there because he is so far away so this time it will only be my mother and I, Im secretly loving it becaus it will be a great way for us to bond=]

johannagnzlz84 |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

My husband might not be here for the arrival of our munchkin so I am thinking if he can't be here then Im not sure who I want to be there. I know for sure though that I prob wont want my MIL to be there because, as sweet as she is, I think she would drive me crazy. I still have a while but I think she already assumes that she will be allowed to come in since I have been staying with her for a little while now due to housing issues. I am kinda appalled though that the women on here who don't want their husbands with them in the room. They created the child and will have to raise them (hopefully) for the rest of their lives. I would put them being able to remember that over my own self -comfort.

kettbride |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

you should invite your support system. Family and friends!

christianat |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

I've already decided that I just want my husband to be with me through the entire process. When it came to my first born I had all of my close friends and my mommy there which was awesome, I had my husband and my mother in law with my second which was great and I just want to try something new once more. I just want to be completely focused on birthing our son with absolutely no distractions.

C.Lopez |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

I had decided that I did not want my DH in there when I was actually having the baby, that might sound mean but really... I don't want him to see some things! Everyone thinks I'm crazy. So far DH is ok with not being there for THAT part but then when he realized he wouldn't be able to cut the cord he kinda second guessed it. I wont FORCE DH out of there if it means THAT much to him, but so far he hasn't insisted. My plan has been to have my mom and MIL with me, my mom more because she'd die if I kicked her out... she's not the most calming or supportive person but I think it would kill her if I asked my MIL and not her.

Jessiessie3 |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

my husband is a big tough bear of a man, but when it comes to hospitals and anything medical he is a big baby I'm counting on him passing out he almost does when I get blood drawn. Luckily for me our hospital doesn't have a limit on guests and I have an amazing mother and I love my MIL too so I'm having all three in there with the exception that NO ONE be allowed past my shoulders lol, I love them all, but I don't love them enough to expose them to "THAT" lol

katieapple0825 |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

It will only be my husband and I in the labor and delivery room. In fact we are not telling a soul we went into labor and are at the hospital. We will let immediate family know after the baby arrives (not in rush to tell people... want to be able to enjoy my baby) and let everybody else know once we get home. We are making a list of people who are allowed into the room and that is with limitations. If I am breastfeeding or medical staff comes in we have requested that staff politely ask my family to leave. I would like to keep somethings private. I just wished family and friends would understand that this is not the time for them to be pushy and try to get their way when we are home or at the hospital, because in the end we are going to do what is best for this baby and us.

MLDgraphics |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

I am only having my DH and my mom in the room with me. This is my first and don't want everyone up there. We have a rule set that no one can come up to see us until a few hours afer i deliver. I want to be able to bond with my son and just recover from labor. I think that might hurt my in-laws feelings but this is about me and how comfortable i feel. They all ran up to the hospital the minute my nephew was born and my SIL didn't even have time to breathe. That isn't what i want

colleen7282 |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

My mom and my husband

Pamjimwedding |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

My husband and I both agree on this one, just him and I will be there.

nolanclan |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

I am so excited for this time to come. I already know i want my Fiancee and my Mom there. They are so important to me and have been the two supporting people through out my pregnancy. So far my mom hasnt been overwhelming but i am affraid she will try to be once we are in the delivery room not sure if anyone has any advice on what boundaries i could tell her nicely. :)

bethlynnella2010 |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

With my DD it was my mom and my husband in the room with me. This time I am not sure because it is such a special time for our family I kind of want me DD with me too. However she is only 2 and I'm not sure how well that will work out.. Any ideas?

lilmizzgrumpy |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

Not sure who I want in there besides my husband. I'm thinkinking I might want my mom in there, but I'm not sure. She's been through this kind of thing and is a great support. I lucked out with my MIL. She lives in another state and didn't make flight arraingments until 10 days after my due date. Hopefully, my little monster shows up on time, if not a little early would be nice too!

JennFitz84 |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

I say that having your husband in the room is one of the best things you can do. My husband was with me the whole time through labor and delivery. He wasn't grossed out or anything like that and only compared me to a cow when I started lactating. It's been an ongoing joke for years between me and my mom. She likes to call us real dairy cows or even Jersey cows. As for other people, only have those you think you'll be comfortable with at the moment. For my first child I had a bunch of people in the room from my own siblings to my in laws. For my second baby I only want two people in the room excluding doctors and nurses of course. My husband can stay with me and the second person can switch out with someone else after awhile.

wulfeyes05 |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

My issue is that my mom and my partner don't get along... and he has said that if she is going to be there for L&D, then he won't be there. I don't want him to miss the birth of his child but I want my mom there if possible (she may not be able to make it because she lives 3 hrs away) because she is supportive and my mom even if she is critical and harsh at times. I'm concerned that the whole situation is going to end up being super stressful and ridiculous and I am going to have the worst birth ever because they just can't get along. His mother doesn't want to be there for the delivery but she said she would be there to support me during labor which is good because I pretty much like her tho she has her moments too. The only other person i contemplated inviting was a friend of mine who has had 4 kids and I feel like she would be a good buffer for everyone in the room and be able to focus on me even when other people are fighting.... but who knows?! The whole situation is stressful no matter what happens cuz i can't please everyone so I will just have to focus on myself and the baby and ignore everyone else i guess. We shall see how it all turns out in the end.

MommaFelix626 |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

My MIL has made comments about being in the delievery room and that she's seen all of her daughters give birth (ok, I'm her daugher in law, not her daughter). My mom has already said that she doesn't want to be in the room (my mom and I are close but not THAT close - and she likes to give me and my hubby space)... my MIL I fear, will be an issue. My hubby has a huge family so I'm picturing them all rushing to the hospital (with their kids in tow) when they hear I am in labor... that gives me the chills. I told hubs that he'll need to kick them out because I'll be tired, cranky, and not in the mood for them. I agree with you ladies that it's a bonding time for you and your husband during delivery and then afterwards with your baby. The family can wait their turn. :)

tanad85 |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

My Husband and My Mother!

TainoTime |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

Well..definitely not my mom because she would make me crazy! My husband actually works out of town....so if I go into labor while he is gone two of my best friends (one a mom and one a doc) are going to accompany me until he gets there. After he does arrive...just me and him. I also want to nurse and have bonding time afterwards, so we are giving very specific directions to our families and may not let them know until after she is born.

laurendiane104 |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

I'm quite nervous about my MIL expecting to be involved in Labor and Delivery. My Mother is the sweetest Mom in the world so I know she will respect my wishes one way of the other. I do think that if it is an "issue" for people who want to be there when I don't want them to be I will simply say, "if you weren't in the room for the conception of this child, you will not be there for his birth."

AKBeach |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

My husband will be helping deliver the baby, and cutting the cord. It will be nice to have my mom at my head. She's very comforting, knowledgeable and will most likely leave afterwards to allow my husband and I to bond with baby. I have a great relationship with her. I could not imaging going through labour or birth without my husband there, though. He is my husband, not a sperm donor. Yes, he will see a lot of gross things, too bad for him! He will also see a lot of gross things in the baby's diaper. And, he will also witness the greatest event in our lives.

reason00 |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

With my first, I thought I only wanted my husband and I during delivery. But during labor, I had the amazing support of my best friend, my MIL, and my sister in law. When it came time for delivery, my best friend was behind me in the bed, being SO incouraging, mom and sister at each knee, and hubby at the foot of the bed. Our midwife let him deliver our son, which was so special, and we will always remember how special that way. Looking back, I could not have done it without all the extra support, and I am planning on doing it the exact same way this time around.

kaybohling |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

My first delivary, the father was there the entire time, he was a paramedic and took very good care of me, I barely saw a nurse cause they all knew him and trusted him. My best friend was there for the first day and a half of labor and It was so comforting to wake up to see her sleep at the foot of my bed, drooling on the hospital blanket, LOL That was the best support I could have gotten:) This time my sister and another bestfriend (male) will be in the room with me. My sister is the most supportive person I know and my BFF is such a goofball that I think he'll keep my mind off the stress and discomfort.He's the best:)

ivyyevel |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

Hubby only in the delivery room and no photographs (that will be published beyond just hubby and me, at least) until I say so. I have told my family that, if they show up at the hospital to camp, I will have a task list for them (planning off-site tasks like getting hubby dinner, making sure the dog gets fed and out the potty, etc.). I hate inconveniencing people, so if I know people are sitting around waiting (even though it is their choice), I will feel bad and get tense over it. The same things goes for visitors after delivery. If you come to my house, you better be prepared to cook, clean, shovel snow, or whatever; this is not a hotel. And if I hear one person say my house is not clean or any other critique of my home or parenting, I will tell them to take a hike (in a lovely Wisconsin blizzard, perhaps).

mkpjump |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

My husband, our doula, and possibly at some point during labor my mom and/or my sister. But I think for the final pushing, I want it to just be my husband and doula.

flipflops01 |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

I believe the hospital I am birthing at allows 3 people. So I will have my husband, my mom, and my sister. I hope I won't have a problem with any one feeling left out.

TheHappyCouple2010 |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

Last time, my husband didn't want to be in there with me. He said he didn't like to see me in pain. But the day of the birth, he was in there anyway (crying, granted, but in there). My mom was there too, and she was wonderful. Even when I growled at her. This time, I know both will be there. Nobody else has asked to be in the room and nobody will be invited. I don't even care when they find out that the baby is coming or has come (they will find out eventually... grapevine, you know). And yes, you do poo during delivery, but honestly you won't know or care at the time.

PharoahQueen |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

I'm having my husband and my mother there, and no one else. My MIL freaks out about every little thing and always has to put in her two cents, regardless of whether she knows whats going on. My mom is an L&D nurse and lactation consultant and she'll be acting as my doula since she can give me the tough love I will need in the delivery room, while my hubby will hold my hand and provide emotional and breathing support (but won't stand anywhere south of my belly button, LOL...)

ellciebee |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

My hubby and my best friend will be there. Mostly bc I want someone to yell at other than hubby during bad cOntractions. We're not even telling anyone else we're hoing to the hospital until she's born.

ArielleRuti |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

I'm not due until Jan, but I already have several people trying to invite themselves into the delivery room. It's tough when you were there for their delivery, but you don't want them their for yours. I just want it to be me and my hubby, my hubby is much more affectionate when it's just us vs. when everyone else is around. Plus I think he's the only one that won't get on my nerves. I already constantly have people telling me that when they were prego it was this way or that way or something must be wrong because things are different for me, drives me nuts. I'm allowing immediate family to be in the hospital during and I will let them in when I'm ready, but some of my friends want to be there too and I don't know how many people I'm really going to want to see after giving birth

gsxrchica |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

steven

vidarobertson07@aol.com |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

My husband would divorce me if I tried to keep him out of the room! So I will definitely need my mom there as well to manage him. Good luck to everyone!

amandajane13 |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

Only my husband!

Stephchern |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

For my first I was lucky enough to go into labor while my mom and best friend were visiting from out of state. I was able to have both of them as well as my husband with me which was a huge comfort since I had a 24 hour labor before a C-section. It worked out well because DH doesn't do surgical stuff well so my mother happily came into surgery with me while he and by BF went to the waiting room with everyone else that showed up.

angelic_kaos |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

During labor my husband, grandparents, & my best friend. But for the actual delivery...lol...just my husband.

prplecindy |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

I only want my Husband and my mother! I am so close to my mom and I couldnt not imagine going through this with out her! But there will definately be NO Mil! Even when I am just in labor, I don't anyone in the room who isnt suppose to be in there, or isnt my husband or mom!!! I will make it very clear, and I will tell the nurses to not let people in!!

samiree08 |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

husband and my mom

EmCacel |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

During labor, with an OUNCE of luck, just my husband and my doula. During the birth they can both stick around. Initial postpartum, just me and my husband. Then I have a VERY specific order I want people coming in at because of how hurt MY feelings were when I was a child and found out everyone on the planet got to meet my baby brother before me. So, for that, my son gets to come in first along with my mother who will be watching him. Then once they have had at LEAST 30 minutes alone with us other family will be invited. I want family ONLY for the first 2 hours of visitation time. After that the rest of the world may come in. Our doula has graciously offered to stand by and direct traffic until that time. She's a doll!

prplhrtwife |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

With my first I had my grandmother, mother, sister, father, and husband during labor. It was a great family catch up time and kept my mind from worrying too much about what was coming. Everyone except my husband left during checks & only my husband stayed during delivery. I had a nurse on one side telling me what to do and my husband on the other side being supportive. I needed him to be there to support me. I left it totally up to him on what he decided to view or not view. Since he's prior military and worked as an EMT I figured he could decide what he could handle - I did make him promise not to tell me about it, especially the pooping part. 6 1/2 years later - he's kept that promise and we're planning to handle the 2nd one next month just the same way. I couldn't imagine anyone else actually being in there during that or him not.

kwoodfin27 |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

I'm having a lot of trouble with this decision. Of course I want my boyfriend by my side the whole time. His mom already invited herself in, but she tends to be a drama queen/worry wart so I'm afraid she will stress me out so I don't want her in there. I want my mom in the room with me because I know she will be a good support system and confort me. I mentioned this to my boyfriend and his mom. His mom put it in his head that if my mom gets to be in there then so should she. I'm afraid to hurt their feelings so I just said that I just wanted it to be my boyfriend and I, but now I'm worried about not having my mom with me.

darcih22 |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

husband

christinalynne001 |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

With DD #1 (who is now 7) I had both my parents in the room with me. I was a single parent, and felt I needed all the support I could get. Now I'm due in less than 2 months and tbh, I can't imagine having both parents, AND DH plus all the nurses/doctor in the room. It almost seems overwhelming. This has been a rough pregnancy and my hubby has seen me at some of the worst times I could imagine. He's been a rock through all of this and I feel he definitely deserves to be a part of this emotional experience. It can be overwhelming sometimes, and I really feel if you have the most support you can get emotionally... it makes it go that much smoother! As another note... we've already pulled the 2 person card (that doesn't really exist) to minimize the hassle. While I love my dad, he can be a bit inappropriate sometimes. I appreciated his support then... but I feel DH and mom should be there, and that having Dad out in the waiting room with my daughter would probably be best :) Ultimately, it's up to you.... you take what you want out of every experience, and there is nothing that says you have to do what you did last time or what everyone else expects.

audfrogg |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

I'm very set on it just being my hubby and I. No one else. My MIL is super offended and wants to be there through labor and delivery. So my hubby and MIL settled on her being able to stand outside the door. When my SIL had her son, she and her hubby had settled on the same thing with my MIL and she ended up coming in anyways and telling everyone what to do and when she could push or not. I don't want to tell my husband that she can't come to the hospital, but I do NOT want her barging in there because she feels like it. Maybe I can pay off my FIL and SIL to keep her out....

mrsbailey1210 |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

I will have my husband and my mom. My MIL actually called my husband and layed this guilt on him about how its not fair that my mom get to be there and she doesn't. I'm not close to my MIL and the idea of her being there during this time makes me very tense. She says all the time now that when I had my babies they did this and that, I keep saying well that was 35+ years ago and things have changed alot. I dont want to hurt my husband but I just cant deal with her and everything else that I will be going through that day.

amarier0911 |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

Well, I'm planning on having my mother and my husband in the room with me- up by the head of the bed.. I'm not too comfortable with the whole "look at me!!" crotch shot.. I'll have someone to look at on each side for support. :)

loveydove91 |

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When I deliver i'm not sure who all i want in the room with me yet? the one thing i do know is my MIL will NOT be in the room at all. I understand that she may be a RN but she is so overbearing. Is it just me or does everyone have this problem?

MamaGilbert |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

I really want my mom and my husband in the room with me, but he says that is weird and gets mad and wants to be the only one in there. They get along okay so I don't know why he is doing this, but she supports me in my decisions for natural (unless I en up having to get a c-section). He has been through one birth with his ex wife before me but thinks he knows all and actually makes fun of me for not wanting an epidural. My mom had all four of her daughters the old fashioned way and I trust her to let him be daddy when baby comes but I want her in there for me. My husband and I already have an up-and-down relationship that has been strained at times, and should he flake out my mom will be there to support me. But he tells me he won't be there if I invite my mom and says it is wired. What are your thoughts on this everyone?

cypherm77 |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

I've read a bunch of these answers, and it really boggles my mind NOT to want/let the father of your child there. Yes, you're carrying the baby, YES, its your body, but that little extra body in there is half his. That is just going too far with it being "your body" i just don't get it. Anyway, to answer the original question - I keep going back and forth, defintely my husband. I (unlike most of the other people commenting) am probably more comfortable with my MIL than my mother, then i've been in the delivery room with all of my sisters children. I'm contemplating, hubby, MIL, sister, SIL and hubbys cousin's wife. I'm keeping it under wraps, but I think SIL and hubby's wife may decline anyway, but we are all pretty close. I don't care who is in there during labor, i've been in the room with so many people during their labors, that i guess i feel like some people in there could distract me from the pain. As you can guess, this is my first, so what do i really know, right?

tracyfromnh |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

my hubby and mom no one else. I had a friend of a friend who invited her ADult brother 30 years old in the delivery room with her and her hubby. This was very odd and weird too me such a very intimate moment c- sectionor not I would not want my Adult brother in the deliveryroom does anyone else find this strange?

MizSandy777 |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

I had the whole world in my room during the labor (2 close friends, bro-in-law and his wife, my sister, my mom, my MIL and FIL, my cousin who is like a sis to me and of course my hubby). When I went into labor I had kicked everyone out but my Mom, sis, cousin and hubby. I am having another child next month and am trying to decide what to do this time around. I loved having all the support last time but maybe I will change it up this time around? I'm actually thinking of leaving it up to my husband as I didn't give him much of a say last time.

Kirby-Phan |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

Being far away from all my family and only having my partner and few friends with me. I'm hoping to have my partner with me, he will be staying at the head of the bed holding my hand. But he is struggling to get time off work around the time of the birth so I might be forced to give birth alone, in a foreign place with no family or friends. I can honestly say the thought terrifies me. :/

TessaheartLuke |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

Ive told my husband his family and mine can come and visit me during labor as long as I am up for it. Then when it comes time for delivery everyone needs to leave minus my husband. This is our time when we become a family and we want it to be just us. We will have time to bond with the baby and have a family time before we let the others in to meet the baby. I could never imagine not keeping my husband in the room, no one wants their husband to have his face in your business while the baby is coming out BUT you're married and you're having a baby he won't be thinking your an animal or it's gross!

gishstix |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

To make things less stressful for myself I think that I will just have my husbad and my mother in the delivery room with me. Everyone else will have to wait until after the delivery and the hour of skin to skin and bonding time with mommy and daddy. I just hope that everyone else will understand and not get their feelings hurt.

mleerey |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

My husband and I decided that since this is our first this is something that we could like to enjoy just the two of us. Family and friends are more than welcome to visit while I am in labor and after delivery. But when the time comes we would like to welcome our son into this world with just the two of us.

njohnson1stbaby |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

My husband and I decided a long time ago that my sister was the only other person besides him that was to be in the room. Since she isn't going to be living on the same continent while our son will be born I have let my mom be in the room, while telling her at the same time that if she can't handle watching me in pain that she has the option to leave and get my MIL (we are very close). No one is allowed below my belly! This is the first grandchild on both sides and we have very excited parents. I know the waiting room will be full with a laptop running with my sister on Skype where ever she may be at the time!

lzmac11 |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

Well we have discussed it and have decided that we might let my mom be in the delivery room to hold my other hand. Neither he nor my mom will be below my waist!!!

coko98 |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

My husband, my mom, twin sister and my sil are invited. That seems like a lot, but I've always wanted my husband and mom there for support and of course my twin sister. And since we are going with a midwife and my sil wants to eventually be one, we invited her so she could have that expirence. I have so many other sisters and another sil, so I hope no one is offended for not being invited in the room. I love my MIL, but I just don't want anymore people in the room.

selaineblue |

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I will definitely have DH and my mom in there, but I'm torn because my step dad wants to be in there too since he's never had any children of his own. Initially I thought it would be okay but the birthing rooms at my hospital are kinda small and we aren't any too skinny of people. And to throw a whole other wrench into it, I don't really even want my father and step mom at the hospital at all. I guess I'll hafta figure it out someway or the other!

hodgilina |

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i only want my hubby in the room with me when i deliver. labor, i don't much care, but no one but my husband is seeing me in all my gross glory. i know my husband is incredibly squeemish and may end up leaving at some point, and i'm ok with that. but i still have no intention on letting him "tag" anyone in for him. his sister keeps insisting that she should be there....nope!

charlierouse2 |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

My husband

mholmestadsk8 |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

Right now I want my husband only in the room seeing that this is our first child. We have tried so very hard to consider who else we would want in the room, and right now we have it down to just him. I know he loves his mom and I love my MIL also (we have a great relationship) but if I invite her I would need to make sure my own mother was in there was well. We have till October to figure this all out. Hopefully I can make this decision soon and just move on to something else.

brandie0819 |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

the father of the baby and maybe your mother, depending on how close you are to her and how calm she can stay.

amandalee150 |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

my mom dad and husband during labor, my mom and hubby during delivery my immediate family and in laws after

ashleymariesheafletchall |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

My husband will for sure be in the room with me, this is our first child, and will be the first grandchlid of both our families. I really want my mom in the room for support, she is my best friend, but i know my mil and she will want to be in there too. I feel bad trying to justify not letting her in, but i think more than two people will be more overwhelming then giving birth in itself.

BH21811 |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

I am all about simplicity and intimancy so it will just be me and hubs plus our midwife during pushing and delivery. I will allow visitation by family members during labor, but I am nervous about this because my hubs is one of 7 and has a HUGE family. I am planning natural and do not want my little neices and nephews around if I have a contraction! Some of his sisters are already asking to hold my other leg haha! ummm no! I love them and they are very conditioned in childbirth/being a mom (most of his sister have 3-5 kids) but I definitely just want the two of us in there! I know my mother and she will want to be as close by as possible.. but I definitely don't want to have to tend to everyone and worry about who is seeing me in so much pain. Less is better!

lilmissdoe |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

Child birth is an amazing experience. My aunt let me be in with he when she had her son 5 years ago. That was my first experience and it was truley amazing! I missed the delivery of my first neice 2 weeks after that by 2 minutes! I was able to see my second neice be born as well 5 months ago. I am due oct 25th and our little girl is a big thing to a lot of people. We tried 2 years for her and were told we wouldnt have children.....and to be exact i found out i was pregnant the day my second neice was born! :) my husbands parents do not have any grandchildren so "shes" a big deal its there first. my sister is 12 and wanted to be in the room for my neice but my sil wouldnt let her so i promised her she could be in there with me. I think it is an important thing. Maybe this will keep her from wanting to get pregnant younger....As for my MIL goes, she doesnt have a daughter so she would never get the chance to experience it plus i am a lot closer to her than my mom. although my mom will be in the room as well. actually there probably will be a lot of people there ........we are excited. :)

kruthaup11 |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

husband only

Kristi Lea |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

my husband helped make this baby, he has been very supportive throughout the entire pregnancy, so he will be the only one allowed in the delivery room. I also only want my doctor and nurse in there..no students, interns etc. they can go watch someone else

cigurl |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

I am going to have 3 people in the delivery room with me... my husband, my MIL (who is a nurse at the hospital I'll be delivering at) and my little sister (it will be her first nephew). I am ALL about voicing my opinions so I don't think I have to worry about people "inviting" themselves in. I also have said I want at LEAST 1.5/2 hours of just "us" time... I am going to try and breastfeed and don't need people interrupting our bonding.

dans1girl |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

I will have my husband, only when it comes time for baby. I think it is a very speical moment to expericence together considered that this is our first child. I have already told my mom (which I am very close to) & half of my family that they can visit during labor but when it comes to a point you have to go. I don't want to have to worry about entertaining people espcially when your in pain and miserable and I def. don't want to take it out on anyone except my husband (he will forgive me later haha) Anyways, I think it is awesome for those that invite their mother or mother-in-laws to expericence the delivery but its not for me. Good luck to everyone!

bcollins123 |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

I only plan on having my hubby in there with me. Everyone can wait until we are thru with delivery, settled in our room, and after we have had some private time to ourselves first before having the "entourage" of fmaily members coming in.

jnett76 |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

This is something my husband and I have discussed at length due to this being my second child but our first. My mom was in the room when my daughter was born in 2008, but we have decided that this time around we are going to be telling both our moms that they are not welcome in the room until after delivery and some special time with the baby; however we are having my closest girl friend in the room with us. This is where our fear comes in of telling our moms they are not welcome, but when it comes down to it they will stress me out and my husband and best friend will help keep me focused and sane through the process.

nkasearle |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

I will have my doula, husband and mother. The hospital only allows 3 people in the room. So excited to have them all there. I feel bad my dad is going to be in the waiting room.

livilusu |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

My husband will be leaving in 3 days for the army and I am due in two weeks, because I can't have him in there to share the special moment with, I don't think I want anyone in there except the doctors and nurses. I just feel so terrible about not asking my mother, sister, aunt, mil, etc.. I hope they'll understand. I just know I'll be way to stressed out as it is without my husband there, that there presence will make it worse.

lydialeandra |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

My husband and I have already made our family and friends aware that he will be the ONLY one in with me. We actually are not even going to call friends or family until after our son has arrived. I plan to send out and email 4-6 weeks ahead of time to give them the hospital info and then tell them our wishes. Also I am a very private person, so at this point, I will also let them know that I will probably ask for privacy during breastfeeding. My mom and sister who I am very close with are not happy that they can't even be in the waiting room and I am sure that if I would let them know that we are on our way to the hospital they will show up. My husband and I would just like some time just the 3 of us for a little bit so we can get comfortable and so I can be taught how to feed in private. If I do end up needing a c-section, we plan to let the family know what's going on. It may or may not work out this way, but for now, that's our plan.

golomboc |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

Chris, Mom. Dad, Cindy, Tara, Morgan, Sandy

Airielle |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

Definitely my husband, I couldn't imagine doing this without him. As for everyone else, it's more about my stress level than privacy. I do want my mom to be there, but in stressful situations we often end up arguing. I might have my sister instead, but she lives out of state and if I'm past my due date she'll be back at home. Definitely NOT my MIL, omg I couldn't imagine having my in-laws there. After a long lunch I'm itching to get away from her. She is so unbelievably loud, it always sounds like she's yelling. Every word that comes out of her mouth to me is advice (that I did not ask for nor do I want), I can just imagine her telling the doctor she's doing something wrong. I understand she's very excited about her first grandchild, but she won't be allowed in until after the birth/bonding. I really hope my husband supports me on this, usually we're on the same page but sometimes he feels the obligation. Not this time.

oneyedsally |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

I am doing homebirth so I have a lot of liberty for who is there. Basically my whole family will be there (my mom, 2 sisters and aunt) as well as the father and my best friend, and of course my 2 midwives. I know I am happy to have them all there during labor, but I think I will just have to wait and see if I want anyone to go away during actual delivery. The father is definitely being there for the whole thing and almost definitely my mom, but not so sure about everyone else yet.

Cimmerine |

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I am so nervous about this situation! I think I'm more worried about who's gonna be in the room than I am about the delivery itself! I am no longer with my son's father and he has not been involved in the slightest during my pregnancy but his mother has been very kind and she has hinted that she would like to be at the hospital during L&D. I'm mostly concerned that she will bring her son to the hospital with her and I would really rather not have him anywhere near me when I am in labor! I really don't think that the best time for us to see each other f-2-f for the 1st time in 7 months is in a high stress situation like that. Plus I have a group of female friends that have asked to be there during the labor part (NOT the delivery) just to support me and in all reality I feel much more comfortable with them being there than my son's father! I am torn between my own personal feelings toward my ex and the knowledge that a father should have the right to watch his first child come into the world.... what do u think?

KamsMom0213 |

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I have 2 step daughters, one wants to be in the room one doesn't. I want the time after my boy comes out to belong to my husband and I. How do I go about this situation?

clarege |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

I plan on having my DH and my mom there when I deliver. My mom was so amazing last year at our wedding, doing all the set up and cooking that she missed our actual wedding, so it's important for her and I that she not miss this. I am also a first time mom and my mom and I are very close. I think stress wise I will do better with her calming influence then without.

mrsthorsenxoxo |

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I have a SERIOUS deliema. I want my husband and my mother in the room. My husband wants to be the only one in the room. They butt heads, and they both fight over me ALL THE TIME! My mom is one of my best friends and really want her to be in there ( EVEN THOUGH SHE CAN BE SOMEWHAT AGGREVATING AT TIMES). WHAT DO I DO? My husband is pissed and my mom would have a meltdown sad depression over this. SERIOUSLY, WHAT DO I DO??? Either way, someone is getting hurt?!?!

subrinadriggers |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

I've been debating, on my husband, sister and Mom being in the room with me during labor, then only the hubby for the actual delivery. But sometimes my mom stresses me out, so I think when the time comes it will just depend on what I feel at that moment. But no way is my MIL going to be in the room during contractions or birth!

danielle7985 |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

with my last pregnancy it was my husband and my mother..my husband tried to hold my hand..but i wanted him to get the whole experience so he watched our child be born..he smiled the entire time..and was smiling happily when it was time to cut the umbilical cord..this time around i think i will have my hubby and mother in law..

klhill03 |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

I gave birth when I was seventeen years old. Throughout my whole pregnancy I knew I wanted my boyfriend with me through all of labor and the birth (unless he got squeemish). I wanted him and my mom in the room with me during labor, but my dad and my boyfriend's parents ended up hanging in the room too. (Until I kicked the dads out because they pissed me of during a contraction). When the doctors came in to tell me it was time, the moms got up to leave, but I made my mom stay. My boyfriend stayed up by me and sat behind me (he wasn't ready to witness the birth - which I didn't want him to anyways) and my mom stayed at my waste so she could hold my hand and still see me and the baby.I was very happy with the arrangment. (:

threehills |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

Your Mom or your sister who has experienced child birth... They know the pain of what your going through... and of course the hubby for the support.. He deserves to be their.. cheap wow gold

jen2945 |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

.... and after that, the family, your close friends to bring support.. :) cheap wow gold

jen2945 |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

Just my sister. No DH, as he's decided to become an ex.

CathyDances |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

This is our first baby. My DH will be there for sure for the whole thing because he has this ability to relax me like no one else. I really want my mom there as well because she has worked many years as a part of the hospital where I'll be delivering, so I know she can be a medical spokesperson for me, as well as a great physical and spiritual comforter. My issue is that I heard through my SIL that my MIL wants to be in the room with me (though she says she'd never ask...bless her for that). I love her so dearly! She's very sweet and we get along very well, but I don't want it to get crowded with bodies and opinions in there. I fear that having two experienced mommas in the room will invite a little more discussion over decisions than there needs to be. I really just want it to go like this: Doctor poses a choice, DH (and I, if I'm "with it" enough) consult mom's medical advice/explanation if needed, DH makes the final call. I really don't want to throw any more opinions into it. I ESPECIALLY don't want any arguing or dreaded drama to rise up. If that were to happen I would dismiss everyone but husband in an instant. Our idea to involve my MIL was to have her be there in charge of documenting the event to put into a photobook. She's really a good photographer, and what a sweet keepsake that would be in the end! I just have to decide if she'll feel honored enough by this position, or if she'll "see through it" as a way to pacify her... I really do love her and care about her heart. I don't want to hurt her feelings but I DON'T want drama.

sohappytogether07 |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

My fiance is definitely going to be there and I told my mom if she wanted to be, I'd love to have her in there. My soon-to-be MIL isn't going to be able to make it in time for the birth, but I'd invite her to be in the room if she was.

emarie803 |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

My husband will definitely but be there. If the hospital allows 3, my in-laws will most likely be there too.

Gooberholic |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

With my first child, it was just my hubby and I, which I was really happy with. We had discussed ahead of time that I could play the 'Mom card' if I decided while I was in labor that I wanted my Mom in there with us, she could come in. This time we had planned on the same thing, just me and hubby. However, 3 weeks before my due date, my mom was diagnosed with colon cancer that has spread to her liver. We plan on having quite a few children(maybe 5?) so I had figured she would get her chance someday. But now I realize that we need to just live for today, because the ones we love might not be here tomorrow. So I asked her to be in with us, and she got teary eyed when I asked her. Hopefully she will be feeling okay, since she will be starting chemo the same week as my due date. So, if there is someone you are thinking about having in with you, just do it! You never know what can happen in the future....

reneejs |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

I am on child #3. My first husband was in the OR with me for my first 2. Mom was in L&D with us both until I went to the OR. With this one, I have yet to deliver and I am trying to go naturally. My youngest child has done a lot to try to bond with the baby throughout the pregnancy, so I am allowing him into the room only while I am in labor, as well as my step-daughter (Hopefully, the experience will be a "birth control" method for quite some time), my sister, and of course my husband and mother. Once I am ready to deliver, the only people who will be in the room are my husband and my mom. As far as unwanted visitors inviting themselves, it seems that my ex-husbands new wife really wants to be present. That's just creepy to me... She keeps trying to do things to invite herself to be at the hospital during delivery. She has mentioned anything from driving me there herself to picking my kids up from school and bringing them to be there. I don't feel there is any reason for her to be there, so I will be informing my nurse that only immediate family is permitted.

JENALBER78 |

Q&A: Who should I invite to be in the delivery room with me?

I am a VERY PRIVATE person. My in-laws do not understand this. Sister in law has zero modesty and had husband present for each birth. I am horrified at the idea of my husband watching my vagina explode and a giant baby pop out. By the time the baby is entering the world, the vagina doesn't look like it's normal self anymore. I don't want my hubby seeing that. You can't "un-see" some things. And it's not worth taking the risk of damaging our sex life afterward to make his family happy. They fee he will be deprived of the "experience". But he is supportive of my choice and agrees it could damage our sex life. I am not the typical American as it seems to be very "anti-American" to not want hubby there. Everyone who is in the "let him see" camp seems to want to shame the mother to be into having him "experience" the birth. I say when it's your lady-parts its your call! When you have a person exploding out of you, you have every right to have your husband watch. I wouldn't dream of shaming or trying to make a woman feel guilty for wanting her hubby to see that. I just wish my in-laws would respect my decision and allow me the same freedom to opt against "watch it" birth.

MommyKate424 |