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Q&A: Thank-you note timing?

How long can I reasonably wait to send thank-you notes for gifts?

Re: How long can I reasonably wait to send thank-you notes for gifts?

The Bump Expert

You'll probably be very busy (and exhausted) in the weeks before and after baby arrives, and your family and friends are sure to understand. Still, it’s best to send out those thank-you notes asap. Try to send a thank-you for shower presents and other pre-baby gifts before the big day, if possible. (We know it’s tough, but it’ll be easier now than when you’re changing diapers and waking up at all hours.)

For the gifts that you receive after delivery (and the leftovers from beforehand), shoot for getting notes in the mail by the time baby is two months old. And, if you don’t make the deadline, don’t convince yourself that you’ve waited too long. The rule here is the same as with wedding gifts -- it's never too late to show gratitude.

Erin Walters

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I handed my MIL a thank you note three weeks after my first baby shower. Her comment was "I thought these were supposed to be done within two weeks".....She was the only one to make a comment....surprise surprise.

youngmomma |

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LOL youngmomma--a good reason to send thank-you notes in the mail!

miss_mitzi |

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I'm thinking about waiting until after baby is here to send the thank you notes that way I can include a picture!

BarbraGail05 |

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I bought some pretty cards that you place a picture in, so I can take a picture of the baby with certain blankets and gift to send as a thank you card.

moonkiwi4 |

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considering i did not send out thank you notes after the wedding because of a heart condition that hit me like a ton of bricks, i cannot fail at this one. My shower was August 30th, and I will send out the thank you's on the 26th of september. I really hope people are not wondering what the heck i'm waiting for.

tohave2hold |

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I'm huge on thank you's and wouldn't even take gifts out of boxes or gift bags until I had the thank you's done. The only think I have to do is gather a few addresses from people who sent a gift but weren't able to come and mail them all out!! (my shower was 9/26)... :) I feel like if I do them soon after I receive the gifts I can make the card more personal because I remember exactly what they gave. Now that everything is a jumbled mess in the baby's room I have no idea who gave what anymore :P

Kewlchiky |

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I had my shower on a Saturday and sent them all out the Monday after:) I wanted to do it while it was fresh on my mind and I had the time.

SweetMegumi |

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At my baby shower my sister sent around a notebook and envelopes. The notebook was to have everyone write a "special mommy message" for me and then, each guest filled out their own address on the envelopes. This made sending Thank You notes a breeze!

jacque1986 |

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The way I have planned to do it is after the baby is born. On the day of my baby shower, we asked everyone who gave us a present to seat between us and had a picture taken with the gift that they gave us. Once the baby is born we will have the baby wear each fight or be close to the gift take a picture and send it to eachone. I think they will love to see the baby wearing that cute little dress that they have bouhgt for her with so much love. I am not working. therefore, I will find the time. I hope!!!!

finadiaz |

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I waited about a week and a half just so it was soon but not too soon. And I am still slowing sending them out now.

Mommalokita |

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I'm waiting about 1-2 weeks after my shower... I'm having a 4d ultrsound done and what to use them in the thank you notes...

Cinderllabride |

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As long as I send them within 3 weeks I feel pretty good! I am not the best with thank you notes so getting them out at all is pretty good for me! I also send them in batches so that I don't have to sit there and write out 50 at a time!

FirstTimeMommy2010 |

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My Shower was last Sunday and I will have them all in the mail within one week. Partially because I am anal, partially because it is all fresh in my head, and partially because i don't want to have to think about it when the baby comes!

SRiley71132 |

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I sent mine out within 3 weeks of my shower, and had already gotten complaints from Great-grandma-in-law! She even had the nerve to mention it to my DH. Gifts I got in the mail I tried to send thank you's to within a few weeks of getting them. Made it easier not to have to write a bunch all at once!

coledvm |

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I sent my thank you's out the week after my shower just to avoid the extra stress as my due date gets closer. I waited a month and a half to send my thank you's out after my wedding and had to deal with all the comments from family members and didn't feel like going through that again.

tanyaburrows |

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I had 2 baby showers about a month appart and some family insisted on attending both so i've waited until after the 2nd shower to send them all out but i've been writting them since the first one. We had 30 people at both of them!!! I couldn't believe the turn out but we do have very big families. I just completed all of the TY's and am mailing them this week. So it took me 4 weeks to finish them. Better later than never. Baby is due in 30 days from today!

vbraun |

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It took me 1 month to finish up and mail the thank yous (40!) from our first shower, and I haven't even started on the notes for our 2nd shower a week ago... I hope to knock them out this weekend. I hope that people understand that it's a little tougher for me to get things done right now...

Kaycee2009 |

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My Mother-In-Law is throwing the baby shower on September 12th, And my due date is Sept 29th. I figure since she's throwing it so close to the due date, I can send out thank you's after he's born. Then I can put his mesurments on the thank you's too!

anthonysmommy2010 |

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I think 2 weeks is perfectly acceptable timing. Anymore time than that and I begin to feel a bit insane and stressed, which is the last thing I need right now. ;o)

amysburton |

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I had 2 showers. The first one about 200 people showed up and the second one about 80 showed up. I had a preemie baby and I got my cards out after a year. No one blamed me for this because I was at the hospital every day and night and hubby was there too. Better late than never it right!

boobgenie409 |

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I had 2 showers and my co-workers threw me a diaper shower. I have send out almost 100 thank you notes...after each shower, they were in the mail the next week. I know we are all busy, but someone cared enough about me and my husband to purchase a gift for our little one, the least we could do was send out thank you notes in a timely manner.

jennifersigma3 |

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After our first son was born, I had a box of thank you notes and stamps on the kitchen table at all times, so if something came in the mail, I could write the note right then (or within a few days), and send it right out.

Shelleybeant |

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I wish someone would say something about me not sending thank you notes on time! They get thank you slaps! My shower was about 2 and 1/2 weeks ago and I'm working on my last 2 thank you notes and plan to mail them tomorrow. I have had to gather up the addresses and the list of what everyone got me and such I had a lil book is missing so its all came from my noggin! I cant imagine having had a baby shower with 200 guests you lucky (or unlucky people) I only had about 12 people at mine but it was super sweet.... I couldnt imagine what to do with 200 baby gifts... all that wrapping paper... and having to decide where 200 things went... it seems stressful to me

sky0cries0mary |

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My shower was 2 week ago tomorrow I have all my thank you's done and handed out a few to in-laws already and the rest I am ether mailing out this weekend or handing out. I wanted to get them done soon as possible sense I am due any time now. My MIL made a list of the gifts and from who they were when I was opening them so I could personalize the thank yous with out any worries that and I also have a almost 2 year old so I was only able to work on them during his nap time. I would say most people don't care how long it takes you but they do really appreciate getting at least a little thanks.

Joanna3g |

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The friend who threw me a shower had a guest book for people to sign in that included their addresses! It was so fantastic to only have to look up a few additional addresses for people who sent gifts with others because they couldn't make it to the shower themselves. If I'm throwing a shower for another person, I will be sure to do the same for her!

whitty521 |

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On a Saturday, I had a small shower thrown by those on my side of the family. I only had to write 7 thank you notes, but they were done the next day, and in the mail on Monday. Hubby's side of the family all live out of town. If/when they decide to give the baby a gift, I'll get the TY out within a week as I'm getting closer and closer to my due date.

jenna3016 |

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I had my shower on Saturday and had the thank yous sent out on Monday, the reason I got them out so quick is because I had 45 people at that shower, and I have another shower this Saturday with at least 45 coming to that one, and I didn't want two shower's thank yous piled on top of each other. I also want to send out birth announcements and don't want thank yous and announcements to do when the baby comes in 3 weeks!

ALUNG |

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At the shower we gave out the envelopes and had everyone self address them. At home, as we opened the gifts, we wrote down what each person had given on the back of the card and/or gift. Then, I came up with three generic scripts and wrote them on the cards also noting the gift that particular person brought (you may include a personal note if the gift was really touching or nice) It was a smooth transition, I worked on them throughout the week after the baby shower and sent them all off at the same time at the end of the week. I would suggest waiting no more than 2 weeks. I feel free now that I'm done! I've had two baby showers already and have gotten all my cards out the way! Now one more to go!

Mahoganysmom |

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I had my first shower Jan 30 and sent out the thank you cards within 3 weeks, it was later than I had wanted but with traveling that was how it worked out. No one commented on them coming in late, but people did let me know they had received them. My second shower is March 12, I plan to send out those Thank you cards within a week since I will not be traveling. Some of the family members that attended my first shower are also coming to my shower here so they will more than likely get 2 Thank You cards since they already received the ones from the previous shower.

asu10 |

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XP lol my family is so lax about traditions i cant even remember when i sent out the cards for my wedding, but i did find that writing down what everyone got on their cards helped me remember when i got around to it

akiria |

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The traditional etiquette as it was presented to me and as I've seen it used- you have 1 year from the day you receive a shower/bridal/baby gift to sent out a thank you note. People invited to showers and events have 1 year to send a gift from the date of the event. I was lucky and my Mom had the brilliant idea of doing a raffle at my baby shower with the thank you note envelopes (signed and addressed by the guests) as the raffle cards. One of my friends wrote down every gift and the name of the gift giver as I opened them at the shower, it really helped me to write out thank you notes. Both of these tactics made sending my thank yous out so much easier. Every day for a week I sat down and wrote out 10 thank you cards. It felt so good to put the last one in the mail!

JST5033 |

Q&A: Thank-you note timing?

JST5033: Traditional etiquette states that thank you notes be sent as soon as gifts are received. While I tend to be more relaxed with the exact timing of sending thank you notes (I'm not going to stress about 1 week or 4 weeks), waiting 1 year from the time you received the gift is unacceptable and certainly not traditional etiquette.

ThomasandAlison |

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I've been such a slacker with my thank yous. it's been a month and a half since my shower and i still haven't done them. by the time i get home, i'm so tired i can't think to do them! BUT! I am planning on doing them tonight. I have no other plans so I have NO excuse not to. Right? Right.

bari516 |

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It took me about 6 weeks to get mine out...But then again, I had 150 people at my baby shower so it took my quite a while to write them all!

sarayousefian |

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I started mine the day after each shower and had them all in the mail by the week after each shower; however I am not working right now and had the time to do that. I think as long as you get them out within a month of your shower you are fine and I think that after baby comes try and do them as you get presents and have your husband help. I think after baby probably they should all be mailed no later than 3 months.

katewaite11 |

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This is the last thing you want on your plate...just get it done! While you are "nesting" and unpacking/organizing gifts that come in, just write the thank you with each gift you unpack (or make a consolidated list). Don't let them build up. Even though I work, I found this very simple...and I've almost written 50 thank you cards already! As long as you do the prep work, have stamps, a huge pack of thank you cards, and a list ready, it really isn't that hard and such a huge relief as you check off the names and drop a bunch in the mail!

LaraMichaelW |

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I brought the envelopes for my Thank You Cards to my showers, had each guest write their address on the front, so that all I had to do was stick on a stamp, my return address label and fill out the cards! I had my first two showers on Saturday's and filled out the cards Sunday and Monday night and mailed them all Tuesday morning. Felt so relieved to get them done that quickly! Highschool Graduation, our wedding and other events that we needed to send thank you's out for weighed over me like a ton of bricks. I didn't want that pressure while carrying my first baby. Another friend of mine had a basket of rolled thank you notes tied with pretty ribbon that each guest grabbed on the way out the door. I don't know if I'll be as successful for AFTER BABY thank you's, but I'm doing good with pre-baby shower thank you's! :)

AutumnPaige22 |

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watson012 |

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Had my baby shower on 2/19 from work, slowly getting thank you's done, but hey're not all done yet, as my co-workers keep bringing in more gifts each week! Trying to pass them all out at one time. Hope to do so by the end of this week... less than a month, not too bad (I hope).

makadela |

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At my baby shower I had all of my guests fill out an envelope with their address on it so it was a lot easier for me to get out thank you notes, I didn't have to worry about looking up everyone's address again. Everyone thought it was a great idea and no one seemed offended that they had to fill out their own envelop. I was able to get all of the thank you cards out within a week. I highly suggest this method, especially if you are like me and are terrible about sending thank you cards.

raeannfhv |

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I sent thank you's to the host and any family members who attended or sent a gift within 2 days. Family members are the ones looking for the notes. For my girl friends, I'm giving myself two weeks (2/3 done 1 week in). I had 30 people, so it's a lot to accomplish, but i'm doing 5 a night to make it bearable (plus my carpal tunnel is preventing any more than that).

jennyflynn |

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I can tell you. Guests will mostly appreciate if you could send thank you notes in a week. I sent out the day after my baby shower so all guests received within a week and they were so impressed. Therefore the sooner the better.

sunnyatisu |