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Q&A: Should we circumcise the baby?

I've heard so many different things about circumcision- should we do it? Will it hurt him?

Re: I've heard so many different things about circumcision- should we do it? Will it hurt him?

The Bump Expert

Sorry, no should or shouldn’t here. The opinions are endless (google circumcision-you’ll see), but according to the American Academy of Pediatrics, it’s your call. Some things to consider:

•Circumcised penises are easier to keep clean.

•A circumcised boy has a 1 in 1,000 chance of getting a UTI. Left uncircumcised, his risk is 1 in 100.

•STDs like syphilis, HPV and HIV are more common in uncircumcised men. But, teach your son about condoms and hygiene, and his risk goes way down (with or without foreskin).

•Penile cancer, though extremely rare, is more common in uncircumcised men.

•Heard the one about circumcision decreasing sexual pleasure? No hard facts supporting it.

•Foreskin can get inflamed or become too tight. But, it also protects the penis from irritation.

•Circumcision is surgery. About 1 in 500 newborns have minor bleeding, pain, irritation or infection.

•Yes, it hurts. If you circumcise, insist on a local anesthetic -- an injection or topical cream -- to keep baby comfy. A pacifier dipped in sugar water will also calm him down.

•Today, about 60% of newborn boys are circumcised. No matter what you decide, baby will be just fine in the locker room.

Paula Kashtan

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Wow, lots of good points. Here's some links that you might also find useful: Here is a video link of a circumcision if it would help: www.circumcisionvancouver.com I have done a lot of research on circumcision and thought this would help; http://www.sciencedaily.com/upi/index.php?feed=Science&article=UPI-1-20070307-12451700-bc-us-circumcise.xml http://www.physorg.com/news86339340.htmlhttp://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=1141513 http://www.consumeraffairs.com/news04/fishman/2006/circumcision.html http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/15593753/http://www.circinfo.com/parents_guide/gfp.htmleven the World health Organization is recommending it now:http://www.who.int/hiv/mediacentre/news68/en/index.htmlhttp://www.who.int/entity/hiv/mediacentre/MCrecommendations_en.pdf Hope it was okay to pass that on to you, Sara

sarr115 |

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While it may be true that 60% of American men are circumcised, most men around the world aren't. I watched a video of a child being circumcised from a medical website, and that did it for me. If I have a son, he will be left intact. I didn't realize that until boys are several years old the foreskin is attached to the glands. This gradually loosens, and no one but the boy himself should pull this back the first time. When they circumcise a baby or young boy, they stick a metal instrument in the foreskin and use it to rip the connecting tissue, then they cut down the length of the foreskin and flay it open. In the video I saw, the baby had screamed so much, by the time they actually cut off the foreskin it was quiet. It is a long, nasty procedure. And sugar water is all many of these babies get. I would not consider it any more than I'd consider having my infant daughter's genitals cut. Urinary tract infections are easily treated, the cancer is extremely rare, and no one should use STDs as an excuse, use protection! No medical community will tell you this should be done for medical reasons, it is just a common cultural feature here.

paulo_n_courtnina |

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"Sorry, no should or shouldn’t here."Looks to me like most of the facts provided here lean toward circumcision.

AmandaHearn |

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We circ'd our son. Twice. He had a medical need. I have posted this before only to have someone tell me that there was no medical need for a child to be circ'd. The skin was growing over the head of my son's penis. It made it next to impossible for him to urinate. This was a problem that had to be solved twice. If our next child has the same medical issues, then yes, we will be circ'ing him as well.

babygirl809 |

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I feel like I am stuck here. Personally I don't believe or care for circumcision. My first sone who is almost 4 was not circumscised (neither was his father) and has no issues. I am now engaged to someone else and we are trying to concieve. He HATES the idea of having his son not be circumscised. I don't feel like this is an issue that I can back down on though.

jpowell3 |

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I am a nurse in a NICU/SCN and have assisted in several circ procedures. I assure you it is fine and your baby will not hold it against you. Yes, some of them cry but the same ones also cry when you change their diaper, so go figure. It is done in a very controlled environment and is extremely quick. Usually a dose of Tylenol is given pre-procedure and a local aesthetic is given along with some sucrose water. In some cases Tylenol may be prescribed after by the doctor every 8 hours x 3 doses. They get over very quickly, I promise. There is no medical indication for it except that it can save your little boy some “potential” prob. in the future and on very rare occasion yes, you can have some more bleeding than normal. I have also worked in an OR where 20 year boys (yes more than one) as well as a 70 year old man have come in to have it done for medical reasons (i.e. restricted foreskin). I am neither for it nor against it and it is a personal decision for everyone to make on their own. As for me, even after seeing, assisting and post care I would still do it. Please know as for the videos that are against circumcisions they are obviously going to show worst case scenario. I promise it is not that big of a deal if you do choose to do it.

rika1976@msn.com |

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doctorsopposingcircumcision.orgmothersagainstcirc.orgjewsagainstcircumcision.orgcatholicsagainstcircumcision.orgarclaw.orgnoharmm.orgstudentsforgenitalintegrity.orgicgi.orgmgmbill.organd a great video in two parts by Dr. Dean Eddellhttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AHVvB1oHAgghttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nAo1PCDtgBY&feature=related

carolinew6462 |

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I am married to a man who is Spanish. My husband nor either one of his brothers are circumcised because I guess it's just something that they don't do. I have a three year old who I made the decision to circumcise. I am due any day with my second son and he will be circumcised as well. To me an uncircumcised penis is not normal.

kml7905 |

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I think everyone has a right to their opinion. I want my LO cercumcised, and some may have different opinions, but no decision on this one is a wrong one.

tohave2hold |

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I'm going to circumcise my son.

supastarrplay |

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I left the decision up to my husband since he is the one with the same equipment. He is circumsised and wants our son to be circumcised as well. It is a personal decision though and I have no issues with people who choose not to.

amandabrideoct2008 |

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Personal choice. Yes it will hurt. My personal choice is not to circumcise my son.

shallenges |

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My two boys are circumcised and my third one (30 weeks pregnant now!) will be circumcised, too. Neither of my sons had any problems or complications from the procedure or with their penises. It took a few minutes to do, they didn't cry, and they healed nicely. My issue was hygiene. It's one thing when you bathe your infant/toddler/preschooler and you KNOW things are clean, but when they get older and start washing themselves, who knows if they pull the tiny bit of remaining foreskin back and wash under it or not. The thought of a penis that's coated with smegma because it wasn't washed properly is pretty disgusting. Sorry if this offends anyone, but I think uncircumcised penises are just plain ugly and unhygenic.

ewells1014 |

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Bump, this is very obviously pro-circumcision. Circumcised penises are not easier to clean than uncircumcised. Additionally you have to clean a wound which the baby urinates on daily. Imagine that. Circumcision does hurt, watch a video. The best prevention for STDs is condoms. Circumcision does decrease sexual pleasure for both the man and the woman, I know. In the 1800s this was done for the purpose of preventing masterbation. The medical industry makes 4 billion dollars a year off circumcisions. The foreskin is a natural and functional part of the penis. I suppose those Dr. getting the 4 billion must know better than GOD or nature?

adyer0507 |

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I will be circumcising my new baby boy.. I use to work in a hospital as a PCA and I thought that uncircumcised penis looked discussing, I didn't want my son's penis to look like that. My husband is circumcised and he said he agreed because he didn't want him to get made fun of if someone saw it later on it life and didn't approve.

tigercub2010 |

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im having a girl, so i dont have to deal with this issue but my husband is from ireland and he is not circumcised, and if we were having a boy, we would not be circumcising him either. for people to say that uncircumcised penises are 'ugly and disgusting' is plain ignorant and rude. i understand if you have it done due to medical issues, but for purely asthetic reasons? i dont think thats right. why would you chose to put your baby through anything that could possibly hurt them :( if your baby was born with small lips, would you give them lip injections cuz you dont like the way thin lips look? really, i dont see whats wrong with uncircumcised penises. granted i had never seen one before my DH so i was a little unsure about what to do with it (hehe) but now i think its way more fun!!! anyway, to each his own, but i will never subject my baby to unnecessary pain.

lynsey851 |

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Sounds like it is the American way! This was not a discussion at all between DH and I. Of course we will do it.

Pasaseattle |

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We are probably not goiing to circumcise our new son. My fiance isn't circumcised so it only makes sense our son look like his daddy. To those people who think uncircumcised penises are "not normal" or "ugly and disgusting" you are nothing but ignorant. Every man is born uncircumcised, how is that not normal????? It's how the body is made!! Cutting off part of your body is what isn't normal, unless it's for some medical reason. If you really research this topic, there is no medical reason to do it. the benefits are so minimal. If you teach your son to be a clean person there should be no problems at all.

danini720 |

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Bump, your response is very biased and uninformed. Uncut penises are *easier* to clean, not harder. You wash it like a finger. No big deal at all; you don't need to retract it or put ointment on it, or clean blood off it. Just wipe and go. UTI's are simple to cure, easy to avoid, and not a good reason to amputate part of a boy's penis. STDs are caused by unsafe sex, not foreskins. In Europe, rates of STDs among circumcised and uncut men are identical - and 90% of men are uncut. STD rates in Europe are similar to US rates. Penile cancer is INCREDIBLY rare. There would be more logic in removing a baby girl's breasts to prevent breast cancer....and nobody would ever consider it. Circumcision *does* decrease sexual pleasure. Check out www.sexasnatureintendedit.com and also research the history of circumcision in the USA - it was implemented to curb masturbation. There's plenty of research to support this. Circumcision is surgery. 100% of babies have some pain, bleeding and irritation. Watch a video, explore what the surgery is. This is not a fingernail trimming; it is similar to removing the hood of a clitoris. Adult circumcision would never be done without massive amounts of anesthetic, both during and after the procedure. Newborns feel pain. Circumcision is a choice - YOUR SON'S. Circumcision can be done when he's an adult, if he chooses. It cannot be un-done. If you're on the fence about this topic, let the decision stay where it should be.... in his hands. After all, it's his body.

erinkate23 |

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Erinkate23: Thank you for your post! I thought Bump's response was very biased and I'm uncomfortable with with people posting that an uncircumcised penis is "not normal" or "discussing" sic- I assume she means disgusting. I don't know if I'm having a boy or girl yet but I'm am against the idea of circumcision. Many people do it automatically here in the US without even thinking about it but if you go almost anywhere else in the world, uncircumcised is the norm. When I brought it up with my husband, he seemed a bit flustered since he never really considered it before, but we are going to do our research and I will let the final decision rest with him. This is what I recommend to others on this site... research the facts and let that guide your decision.

pepperkelly |

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Circumcised penises look unnatural and gross to me. No other country does this much because it is painful and inhumane. (except Jewish) Uncirc is best IMO its how God intended

ozzychikk |

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I'm leaving this decision up to my husband. He's circ. like most Americans (it's true that we're pretty much the only ones that do it) and wants his son to look like him. We're military living in Germany and our son will be born in a German hospital. The Germans don't circ but with the overwhelming amount of Americans here, there are a few Dr's that do it. If it wasn't up to my husband I might consider not circ, at least till I get back to the states because it's uncommon out here, but like I said, I'm leaving it up to my husband and he wants it done.

RheannonB |

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Bump, while you say "no should or shouldn't here" your stats (while more balanced than some, thank you) still lean towards pro-circumcision. I live in Western Canada, and the circ rate here is WELL below 60%. In fact, It's approaching 30%. My husband is intact. I was quite happy to concede that if we have a boy, he'll be intact also. Saying that cutting off a body part is easier and more hygenic than leaving it on is a flawed argument - prophalactic appendectomies or tolnislectomies haven't yet caught on, and I think there's a reason for that. I recently took a friend (who is a single mom) to the doctor, for her to have her son circumcised. She was nervous and asked me to go in with her. I thought the procedure was a simple "tug and snip" - I wasn't expecting 15 minutes of peeling, tearing, slicing and crushing. The doctor gave the baby a local anaesthetic so "he wouldn't feel too much pain" (how much is too much when you are 8 days old?). The baby let out a little squeak when the needle went in, then calmed down again. When the instruments came out and the doctor starting ripping the foreskin off the glans (I didn't know they were fused for the first years of life), he started screaming. The procedure took 15 minutes. At the end, the baby's poor penis looked like a bloody stump, and he continued to scream for the better part of an hour.I was traumatised by the experience - I feel like I was complicit in the torture of an infant. Intact penisis are not ugly - they are natural. What is unnatural is subjecting a tiny, helpless person to needless pain and distress for no truly justifyable reason.

nicolesanddimes |

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My Husband and I have seen alot of research and have come the the conclusion that our son will be circumcised. Any one who tells you UTI's are easy to treat did not grow up with three or four a month. If there is anything I can do to keep my son from hopefully ever going though as much pain as I experienced as a child I'll do it. If 15 minutes of pain when he won't remember it might prevent years of pain from infections and possible kidney damage that will be worth it for me. And to be completely honest I don't see anything ignorant about saying that some of us think an uncircumcised looks gross it's just an opinion. Just because it occurs in nature doesn't mean we can't not like the way it looks.It's like telling men they have to like the hair on a woman's legs just because it occurs in nature. In both cases it's based on that we just don't like the way it looks.

clark08 |

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I did not circ my son, and will not circ my new baby if it is a boy. I think that the belief that it is 'healthier' or 'cleaner' has been largely disproven, and that the modern trend is to leave boys intact. In 100 years people will look back on circumcision in such a universal way and think that it was barbaric. I will teach my son hygeine and responsiblity, as I will my daughter.

jja78 |

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I will not be cutting off part of my son's organ. It's barbaric and completely unnecessary. I'm so glad that I know better than to put a newborn through that. Are we going to cut off fingers if there is a .000014 lesser chance of infection? Sew an ear shut to prevent ear infections? No, those are just as equally barbaric as this.

cheerkri |

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An intact penis is ugly? Have you seen penises!? They'er all ugly! We left our sons uncut both to avoid the risks associated with the procedure and to allow them to make a permanent decision about their bodies themselves when they are older. Mothering Magazine has published to excellent articles on circumcision which you can search for on their website. The most recent was the findings of a big study that indicated circumcision does not, in fact, offer any protection against HIV. When our sons noticed their dad looked different, we just explained the difference. It wasn't any big trauma.

titania9 |

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i am due in march with my Son. his father is not circumcised and we have discussed it and have not settled 100% on a final choice. i figure because his dad isnt, that he shouldnt be either. just sot here wont be questions late one about why they dont look the same?? also the cost was also an issue. $300 is alot of money for something thats not going to effect him either way. no had his dad been circumcised, noah would probably be as well. personally i think its totally up to the parents

BabyNoahsMommy |

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i feel boys were made that way naturally so why change it...i am about to have my second son and I will not get him circum either.

maryfay314 |

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It is completely up to you. Yes it will hurt. I am having my first son in March and we are going to have him circumcised.

blkbarbie |

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I will defiantly getting my son circumcised, there is no question on this subject.

barb1099 |

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There are ABSOLUTELY questions on this subject, and I frankly find the above "article" to be thoroughly misleading! Please review this article before making a decision on GirlieGirlArmy. http://girliegirlarmy.com/blog/20091020/to-circumcise-or-not-to-circumcise-that-is-the-question/. Circumcision is NOT medically proven to fight any diseases or infections! This is false information. Just read the piece above before making any decisions!

GirlieGirlArmy |

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I don't think there is a right or wrong answer to this. I think is really is a matter of what your personal feeling and beliefs are. If you don't want your child circumcised than that's fine, and if you do, that's also fine. I have never seen an uncircumcised penis myself, so I can't judge on appearance, but I don't think that I would find one "disgusting" and think its very insulting for people to state that on here. I plan to have my son circumcised when he's born, mostly because his father, uncles and grandfather all are. If my husband was uncircumcised, I'd probably leave my son uncircumcised. For me, it is more a decision of my little boy not feeling "different" when he's old enough to notice. I don't think we should be judging each other one way or the other. This is becoming one of those battles like bottle vs. breast and working moms vs SAHM. What works for one person and is the right choice for one person is not the right choice for all. People need to educate themselves and make an informed decision that they are comfortable with and not judge people who decide the opposite...

kmswan427 |

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There is absolutely no medical benefit to circumcising your son. 80% of the men in the entire WORLD are NOT circumcised, and they make out just fine. Circumcision is a painful, totally unnecessary surgery. Your son will be born perfect just the way he is. You should have him stay that way, =)

grayeho |

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My grandfather had to be circumsised for medical reasons as a grown man... My son is circumsised and no lasting harm came of it I'drather when he is to young to remember then when he is grown.

Cinderllabride |

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If you do your research you will find that there are numerous studies that prove circumcision will decrease the risk of STDs and numerous studies that prove that they don't. This is a very hot topic right now. I think you just have to make your decision based on what you have read and your living experience. I however have problems with people saying that uncircumsised or circumsices penises are gross. This is a very personal decision and I don't think we should be talking that way about parts of other posters little ones.

Lanie2883 |

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We had my two sons circumsized and the one on the way is also circumsized. With my first I did lots of research and finally decided that my husband should make the descision. The research seemed split pro and con for circumcision. If my husband were not circumsized I would have been fine leaving my son's as is but my husband was concerned that he wouldn't know how to teach them to properly clean without going through some painful learning lessons. Yes, they cried and I am sure it hurt but it was very brief and the recovery time was less than it took for their umbilical cord to fall off. I have since met several school age boys who have had to have it done for medical reasons and it was more painful for them requiring them to miss school during the recovery time and the embarrassment as school age kids aren't always kind. Mom - talk with your husband and go with your gut. There isn't a wrong descision. You aren't being cruel either way but it is a descision of a lifetime.

jsrjmartin@aol.com |

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Oops - typo...son on the way will be circumsized:)

jsrjmartin@aol.com |

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We don't know whether or not we're having a boy or a girl but we have discussed the issue of circumcision together. My husband is circumsized and he is completely okay with the baby not being if it is a boy. I've been in relationships with both types of men and honestly if the very first person you've dated wasn't that is what looks normal to you. I never even know what an uncircumzised penis looked like until my husband. The whole purpose behind circumcision was started for religious purposes. Almost all issues with uncircumsized penises have been disproved by now and honestly the number of girls who are having boys whom I've talked to are choosing not to. I think we'll find that soon enough the norm for our children will be not to circumsize.

cassy11488 |

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I agree that this article is biased. I personally am leaving the decision up to my husband. He is circumsiced, so I'm guessing he will choose that for his baby as well. Although I have never seen an adult un-circ penis, I have worked in a daycare for 5+ years and have taken care of babies with circ and uncirc. From that experience I would say that circ penis were easier to care for and a couple of the babies that were uncirc developed infections. I'm not sure if this was bc the parents were just not caring for the baby properally or if it was due to the uncirc penis. I think it is a decision parents have to make and no decision is "wrong". My husband says he is happy with the decision his parents made for him.

kaylajanae22 |

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There seems to be a correlation between people who feel one way about circumcision and spelling errors. For us, it's an aesthetic issue. We don't support elective plastic surgery so it makes sense that we wouldn't support circumcision. My husband is however but that was not a factor in our decision.

teamsweet |

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I'm not and I didn't die from being left intact. I'll let my son(s) make that decision for themselves when they're old enough. They have to live with it, not me. It's always easier to take off than it is to put back on.

RunawayToyota |

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We have decided to circumcise, the reason to prevent further problems in the future. Family members who were anti-circumcision for their 2 year old boy have now had to circumcise due to infection recently. The circumcision was not done correctly so they will be having to do it a second time now! My family and my husband are circumcised also which was a factor in the decision. There are many unpleasant experiences that take place for a newborn in a hospital, I'd rather get them all over with on day one than have to revisit these decisions and perhaps cause a traumatizing situation later in life.

emeraldtea |

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I was already planning to circumcise and this that I just read makes me feel even better doing it.

shellanewalters@aol.com |

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People have infections for other reasons not just because they aren't circumsized. One reason being they aren't cleaning properly. I would hope any mother and father would educate themselves before they make this decision. Every information I have found has not been good enough to convince me to have my son circumcized. My own doctor stated that it's purely a cosmetic surgery. But, I suppose if parents care enough about looks and don't want their son to have an "ugly" penis..then they will have their son circumcized. Honestly, ask your doctor the justifications for circumcision. I was given a handout that gave me all sorts of information about circumcision. I would hope that all parents would make an educated decision before making a decision that is irreversible. And finally, I went into this pregnancy automatically believing circumcision was necessary for hygiene. Well, if you can teach your child to properly clean himself, you shouldn't have to worry. As for those little ones that have medical reasons that justify a circumcision---of course. However, don't assume that a boy will have hygiene or medical problems if he is not circumcised. Just be smart about it.

amt627 |

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We are not circumcising our son. The way we see it, as far as cleanliness goes, it's going to need washed anyway-circumcised or not. And it's not OUR body to be cutting up. He will be born that way, and we will leave him that way. If he decides to do have it done as an adult, then that is HIS decision. It's not for us to decide. And if he has it done later in life, at least they'll give him decent anesthetics for it. Poor babies.....

Sunniesideup1981 |

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We will NOT be circumcising our son. I think it is a disgusting mutilation. "It's normal." No, it's not normal. We are the only country in the world where this is done routinely. "It's cleaner, less UTI's". So, if you have a baby girl, are you going to cut up her vagina so she doesn't get UTI's???? Give me a break people. Do the research. Circumcision started because it decreases sexual sensitivity- so little boys won't masturbate.

earleynic |

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circumcision IS SURGERY given to a person without concent or choice in the matter. It looks like this is EXTREMELY pro circumcision here, look up intactamerica.org for more information about NOT cutting your infant.

JenGon33 |

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I let my husband decide and he decided to get it done for our son as he did not get it done and wishes that he was. He actually looked into it as an adult and talks about it a lot still.

Natasha27ely |

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I wasn't going to get it done until my FIL told me that several men he knows had to have it done later in life because of Diabetes...apparently there can be complications from that...He said he was told it was AWFUL...so I think we might as a baby so he won't need it late in life...Ugh that video broke my heart though so no who knows

aecrowley22 |

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I married a hispanic and he is the first man ive been with that has not been circumcised. There are many downfalls of uncircumsized men. Yes they do contract utis, stds and especially yeast infections alot more than the circumsized. I had a yeast infection the first time we had done the dirty dirty and he is still having problems with getting them. His doctor told us that if he were circumsized he wouldn't be having this problem in getting rid and keeping yeast infections away. he now has to take pills in order to not get one.its a pain in the butt. its alot harder to clean as well and they have to be cleaned alot more frequently. he wishes that he had his choice in being circumsized. i want the best life for my son and he will definently be getting circumsized because i don't want him going through what his father has been. and whats a little pain to get it done especially since the child is young enough they wont remember?

christinasturdevantnegrete |

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I am pregnant with my first baby boy due in August. My husband is not circumcised, and together we have agreed to circumcise our son. He personally dislikes the fact that he grew up "different" in the locker room. He even had boys write "turtle neck" and "ant eater" on his locker in high school. We have looked into adult circumcision but it is very expensive...much more than an infant circ and the surgery is much more major at that point when a male is sexually active. I think my MIL will flip, but it is a decision we made together.

bngmoody |

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To the people saying that an uncircumcised penis is ugly, i'd like to say: I think my husband's uncircumcised penis is quite attractive. If we have a son, we plan to keep his genitals intact.

Gerard_and_Siobhan |

Q&A: Should we circumcise the baby?

I think everyone needs to calm down here. This is obviously a personal choice, and people are going to either do it or not do it for various personal reasons. It does not matter if you think someone's reason is "stupid" or "ignorant." It is their child, not yours. And, people are allowed to have preferences. Some people truly are grossed out by an uncircumcised penis. Others love it. It's just a personal preference. I am going to circumcise my son, because it is something that everyone in my family has done. Also, it's what my husband wants to do. End of story, ignorant or not. Yes, this question was answered in a biased way, but this is not the only place in the world you can look this up. If you are really grappling with the choice, I hope you would do more research than just one website. Either way, it is a choice you make for your child, and you shouldn't have to be worried about being called names because of it.

mgulli85 |

Q&A: Should we circumcise the baby?

My husband and i decided to circumcise our son, and if we wouldnt have we would never have found out that our son had a longated urethra that was hidden to the untrained eye, he also had a penis that was curved upwards... which both could have lead to painful ejaculation in the future and/or him not being able to have his own children. I we would have waited till he was older to let him make his own decision it would have been to late and unable to fix. This problem our son had is a 1 in 10,000 chance. But we are now 30 weeks pregnate with another boy, and he will also be cirrcumcised because both his father and his older brother are. But i too believe it is a personal choice, and to cirrcumcise is my personal choice.

gradysmommi |

Q&A: Should we circumcise the baby?

http://alternativehousewife.com/circumcision/ <- That post has my personal thoughts on it, along with lots of references. This post is totally biased and I can tell you firsthand that it has an impact on sexual pleasure - for men an women; The foreskin serves as protection for the penis and acts as a lubricant for the vagina. It's natural. Also, the foreskin is mainly self-cleaning and your child is much more likely to get an infection after having SURGERY and then wearing a diaper over that area (What do you think is going to happen when pee and poo meet an open surgical wound?) than you would from not cleaning yourself properly. (And seriously, shouldn't we be teaching our sons to clean themselves.) More info on Circumcision

hollowstar |

Q&A: Should we circumcise the baby?

I babysit a bunch of boys, and one of them is uncircumcised. He constantly holds and tugs on his "little business." I don't know if he has an internal inflammation (nothing visible to the naked eye--no pun intended) but I'm constantly asking him if he has to go to the bathroom, or if he hurts there. We're having a boy, and we're going to circumcise.

Rach21 |

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I am getting my son circumcised because it is cleaner and healthier for them. My doctor told me that most of the babies she circumcises sleep right through it because they use a general anesthetic, which is a requirement in Minnesota hospitals as far as I know. I also wanted to comment on something that people keep writing...that God supossedly intended men to be uncircumcised. I am a Christian not Jewish, but it is in the Old Testament that men are to be circumcised, which is why it is a Jewish tradition, and why many Christians choose it for their sons as well. Maybe we should be a little bit more informed before we make claims regarding religion...

Shleedom |

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Yes, it will hurt. I didn't have a preference for or against it until I watched a video. We don't even treat animals that way. There is no adecuate pain relief to make it not hurt. Even the injection of anesthesia (penile block) does not penetrate as deep as they cut. Sugar water... seriously! when did that ever calm pain for you? It is now known that there is NO HEALTH BENEFIT from circumcision (benefits DO NOT outweight the risks) Male intact penis cleaning is still easier than vagina cleaning and we are talking about the same secretion created, smegma. So if you can keep your vagina clean and free of infection what makes you think that a male couldn't? It is there for a purpose. And for the people that think that babies still through it, read some of these links where it explains that some of them go into shock from the pain (not peaceful sleep) SHOCK! is that really how you want to welcome your baby into the world? http://www.circumcision.org/response.htm http://www.thepetitionsite.com/takeaction/119/095/364 http://www.cirp.org/library/pain/ and please WATCH A VIDEO.. REALLY IT IS MUTILATION TO DO IT AS A ROUTINE and at birth with no adecuate anesthesia...

mariandgreg |

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To the person that wrote this: "I also wanted to comment on something that people keep writing...that God supossedly intended men to be uncircumcised. I am a Christian not Jewish, but it is in the Old Testament that men are to be circumcised, which is why it is a Jewish tradition, and why many Christians choose it for their sons as well. Maybe we should be a little bit more informed before we make claims regarding religion" You are right we should get informed before talking about it. Circumcision in the bilble is NOT what it is today. Today is a procedure of aesthetics... In the Old Testament is was a small cut... " The circumcision that Abraham and his descendants practiced was something entirely different from modern circumcision. It merely involved cutting the tip of the foreskin, not removing it! This is both a historical and an archaeological fact that can be found in any reference book of ancient culture. The ancient peoples, whether Jew or Gentile, wouldn't have dreamed of doing away with such a useful and pleasure-enhancing part of the body. Nor would God want such a thing! The tip of the foreskin was more than sufficient for fulfilling the bottom line purpose, which was to shed a few drops of blood as a "sign" to all. " see more infor here: http://www.udonet.com/circumcision/christian.html

mariandgreg |

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So to all the ladies who insist that uncircumcised penises are more pleasurable- have you been with any men who are? I have been with both, and they are the same to me. A little extra skin does nothing to stimulate a woman's pleasure. And yes, sorry to say, I much prefer a cut penis, as a woman. True, this an aesthetic matter, not a medical one, but I don't see anything wrong with that. Catholics often circumcise their sons just like their Jewish ancestors did, so it's also a matter of tradition. If I were to have a son, it was decided as a no-brainer between my husband and me- we will circumcise. Yes it hurts for 15 minutes, but some of you act like it's pure torture. The torture comes from not doing it and allowing your 20 year old son to have to do it later in life because "it's his decision", when it is much more prone to pain and infection. Please don;t make the mothers who choose to circumcise out to be monsters- I suppose you all don't plan on vaccinating your children because that's painful as well? Stop being so dramatic!

amg316 |

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I'm having a boy too and we have a friend who's a urologist and asked his opinion on the matter. His answer was simple. "Like father like son." His point is, most folks will give/do to their kids the same things that they were given out of familiarity. Secondly, the father and the son's penis' will look the same. So as the boy grows up, he won't be wondering why he appears different from dad. It really comes down to personal choice though. After considering what my friend said, we decided to get our boy circumcised. Like father, like son.

jenidaisey |

Q&A: Should we circumcise the baby?

We are currently expecting our first boy next month and have decided to circumcise him. I asked my daughter's urologist about it and he said there is no medical need to do it, just personal preference. We decided to simply because my husband is and didn't want our son looking "different" than daddy.

BlondeMama |

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We did not circumcise either of our boys, nor will this one due in Nov. be mutilated. My husband WAS circumcised, and originally I left the desicion up to him. He choose not too because he thought it was cruel, served no pourpose, and felt it should be the child's right to choose when old enough. I am so thankful now, and my son's (now 10 and 8) have thanked us for making this decision for them. They feel sorry for my husband at not having any say over the mutilation of his bady as a newborn. Just today I saw this article, and I really think it says it all. http://mothering.com/all-things-mothering/health/to-not-circumcise-or-to-not-circumcise-there-is-no-question

enchantedmama |

Q&A: Should we circumcise the baby?

yes

sherwinrhea |

Q&A: Should we circumcise the baby?

Who is this "EXPERT" who should not be claiming to be?

frenchboxwood |

Q&A: Should we circumcise the baby?

Please leave the decision to your son. He deserves the right to genital integrity.

ccherr050 |

Q&A: Should we circumcise the baby?

I didn't have my oldest circumcised because the nurses and doctors seemed to discourage it. Unfortunately by the time he was 6 we ended up having to get it done anyway which was much more expensive and traumatic. I'm having another boy and plan to get it done!

kmeeker |

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Regardless of what you want or not, in some cases an older boy can very easily develop a infection to the point where it will be nessicary to circumcise later on in life. This will be more painful / embarassing than a enfant surgery. Which both are, surgeries. There is nothing wrong with circumcisions nor is it barbaric. If you watched a video online that has disturbed you in some way im sure there is a million others you can watch on different subjects that are equally as disturbing. Do you're son a favor for his later years!

beeezgirl |

Q&A: Should we circumcise the baby?

We will NOT circ our son who is due in November. My husband is German and uncircumsized, and feels strongly against doing it. I don't find his penis any less attractive than the circumsized ones I've seen, nor is it less hygenic. To circ an infant based on a "potential" problem later in life sounds ridiculous...like cutting off your breast just in case you might get an infection. Besides, it is HIS body and a very personal area - it should be his decision to make.

awilsonpa |

Q&A: Should we circumcise the baby?

I am having a boy and he WILL NOT be circumcised. My husband is circumcised and so are all the other males in our families (as far as I know), but I refuse to believe that God would make our perfect son and then expect us to cut off part of his body. We discussed this with our pediatrician who stated that there is no medical reason to circumcise at birth and if there are complications (such as the foreskin becoming restricted) they should be dealt with when the problem occurs. He informed us he has not performed one in 10 years. He did say if we wanted it done, he would set up a Dr. to do the procedure. I have read that in some countries it is common practice to perform "female genital mutilation" on girls. I would never in a million years consider this practice, which is a removal of the female clitoris to make sex uncomfortable for the girl and to discourage cheating once married. I am not sure why we are still encouraging a similar practice in the US just because we don't think about it more carefully, or because people want their sons to "look like their dad" or "not get teased in the locker room". How often do these parents expect their child to see their father's penis or to have it looked at by other boys? Even though my husband and son will be different, when it's time to potty train we will explain that God made our son the way he is and some boys, including daddy, are different, but either way is ok. If he is teased, I think the issue lies with the bully. I would not encourage a child to change themselves to avoid teasing, and I certainly would not support them having a surgery to avoid it.

kmommy78 |

Q&A: Should we circumcise the baby?

We are. My grandfather had to be circumcised in his 50's and a friend was when he was 18. They had A LOT of pain and healing - and will remember it. My son won't remember it anymore then he'll remember being born. I'd rather save him the pain and complications of later surgery. And people keep saying "well God made him this way". I clearly remember God demanding circumcision in the Bible. As a scientist it also annoys me to hear "nature intended," nature is not a person, nature cannot intend. Nature also intended small pox, plague, cancer, getting eaten by lions, and much more.

ashrv |

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As a woman with an uncircumcised husband, I have left this decision up to him for our son due in November. Hubby had no uncomfortable locker room moments, UTI problems, or anything else, and told me he likes that it is more sensitive.

christinarealtor |

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Of course it will hurt him. Please visit this site http://www.drmomma.org/2010/01/are-you-fully-informed.html to learn all about circumcision and intact penises. It is totally unnecessary. Your baby is born perfect. We have 3 intact sons. I would never consider having a part of their perfectly healthy body amputated. There is nothing to clean. NEVER retract an intact penis. It is fused to the shaft and will retract on its own over time, often not until after puberty. Only the outside is cleaned, and a fully retractable male takes only a few seconds to wash. My husband initially wanted our eldest circed, but now wishes he was still intact. The foreskin is similar to the female clitoris, and has the richest source of sexually sensitive nerves in the penis. You wouldn't want your clitoris amputated, would you? The same arguments for male circ here are used to support female circ elsewhere, such as "it's cleaner" and "it looks better." Please fully research this very important issue, that will forever alter your son.

Christy7777 |

Q&A: Should we circumcise the baby?

It absolutely does hurt. People think babies always cry, so it's normal. But there is a major difference between a babies normal cries and the cries of a baby having part of his penis cut off. They are screams of sheer terror and agony. The person that said the videos are worst case scenarios, is a liar. Those "worst case scenarios" were someone's child. And the doctors act as if it's absolutely normal. If it was word than normal then why is no attempt made to help the child? You have to remember than until recently, no doctor had concern for a child's pain, even vicious things like open heart surgery were carried out without anesthesia. Until 1987 that was just how it was, infants can't feel anything so why should anyone care? We know better now. Infants can feel more than we do as adults. It's been proven. And apart from pain, it's a sexual part of their body and it's being rubbed until it's erect, and then sliced away at. That's sexual mutilation in my book. Why would you cut off part of a perfect baby? As far as sugar water, it causes a paralytic effect on the face making the baby unable to make that look of sheer terror. That's been proven too, it offers no pain releif whatsoever. And here in Nevada, where the circumcision rate is only 12% a nurse who said something so stupid would be suspended. No parent "wants" to circumcise. We are just taught that we have to, and we don't!!!! Nobody else does it. We are that crazy country that everyone points at and says we are disgusting. When I explained to a Spanish friend what it was she nearly fainted, and then she was outraged, and then in tears. Go with your motherly instinct the one that says I don't want to hurt my baby. Also, has anyone else noticed that every time someone says they plan on doing it they leave a happy face? As if they get some kind of pleasure out of thinking about it? That is beyond disgusting to me!

sunshyne103 |

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ashrv - that's not very scientific of you. Most of what you describe - smallpox and lions for instance - are pathogens or other external threats. Smallpox evolved to be good at decimating the human species. Lions evolved to be good at eating us, once again, for their own survival. The foreskin is not a birth defect or an external threat. It is a part of millions of years of human evolution. Undesirable traits are not selected for. It is there because it is beneficial - or at least, not harmful. Otherwise, boys born without foreskins would be the norm, rather than the exception. It is arrogant to assume that we can better millions of years of evolution with a few hundred years of (risky, harmful) surgery. Statistics have borne that argument out. If you lived in a country that did not routinely circumcise and see the foreskin as a birth defect, you wouldn't know ANY men circumcised in adulthood or with penile problems. I live in such a country, and I know no such men. Most penile problems are caused by parental or physician ignorance. The foreskins of young boys should NOT be forcibly retracted and cleaned. This has been known to medical professionals in the rest of the world for at least the last 40 years or so.

AcheloisNZ |

Q&A: Should we circumcise the baby?

My hubby is not circumcised. We are due to have our first son this Christmas and he is very adamant that our LO will be circumcised. Apparently growing up he had a lot of infections and doesn't want his son to endure the same.

Chocbabe |

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I think it is a personal decision for each family to make. In our family, the final decision after doing the research, came from my husband. He is opting to have our son circumsized. I support his decision as I figure he would know better than I do about what a man and his "manhood" go through throughout different stages of life. On a side note, i think it is hilarous that there are so many out there so quick to call this procedure inhumane or unnatural yet those are some of the same people who choose to pump their children up with chemicals, viruses, pesticides, hormones, etc when they inject their kids with vaccines or let their children eat processed crap the fda passes off as food. I personally think that is inhumane, but to each their own right?!?!?. Just saying!

Mikejustine |

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My first son was circumcised and yes he cried for a little while but I feel it is for the best. While you take care of them when they are little, they have to take of them selves when they get older and no matter what you teach your son boys will be boys. My son is now 13 and has had no problems. I am currently 30weeks pregnant with my second son and he too will be circumcised. It has nothing to do with what an uncircumcised penis looks like it has everything to do with hygiene and health and we are not always in the bathroom with our boys when they get older to make sure they are cleaning themselves properly.

shuntel000 |

Q&A: Should we circumcise the baby?

I won't be circumcising mine because I don't see the need for it.

KrisJam23 |

Q&A: Should we circumcise the baby?

Most statistics on circumcision and STDs are based on boys who are uneducated on hygiene and practicing unsafe sex. Circumcised or not, males who practice unsafe sex increase their risk of disease, UTI, other infections and STD. Cleaning is easier but we don't cut off our lips to make flossing easier. Like the lips on our mouth, the foreskin protects more delicate skin. People could live without lips but the gums and penis were not designed to lubricate themselves. Although 60% of US boys are circumcised, the opposite is true in other developed countries and there is no statistical evidence of increased cancer injury or complications in Western Europe where uncut is the norm.

pattyvega |

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Keep this in perspective, I am an adult male. I am circumcised and extremely uncomfortable with the fact that such a thing has been done to me without my permission. If I would have had the choice I would have chosen not to have it done. 1.Being born with the foreskin automatically makes it natural and normal. 2.Because you are the parent does NOT give you the right to make certain decisions about your child. Some things are NOT up for debate. 3.Just because a FEW adults have the surgery done does not translate into justifying having all baby boys cut. A fraction of a percent of uncircumcised adults having problems does not translate into all adults having problems. It's like cutting off newly formed breasts of a girl to prevent cancer that not off them are going to get, or like having everyone stop driving vehicles even though we know people will die from accidents. -really people come on and use your brains on this....please. this kind of debate is a ridiculous one. There is no justification for mutilating babies. (especially because you think it looks good to do it. That kind of thinking if applied anywhere else in life would have you thrown in a mental hospital. hmm... I think I will see If I can get my foot amputated it might look good.

friendlyz |

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Honestly, this is an issue that I feel so strongly about, and I cannot believe that the medical information continues to be so skewed toward circumcision in the US. Gosh, why not just have female circumcision while we're at it as well. Most men around the world are not circumcised, and yet we do not hear reports about outrageous numbers of men with STI's, UTI's or penile cancer. The claims that circumcised men have less pleasure is wrong; there is more skin in the area, and it is more sensitive than is a circumcised male's (not to mention that there is more skin for a woman's pleasure as well). Yes, uncircumcised men have to clean slightly differently, but it is not a major deal. My husband is not circumcised, and he cannot believe that people would purposely carry on this antiquated tradition if not for religious reasons. To circumcise a baby for aesthetic reasons is wrong. And further, your baby's body is not yours. Why not let him decide whether he wishes to be circumcised when he is old enough to decide?

jessieabby |

Q&A: Should we circumcise the baby?

I come from a family where the men are circumcised but my husband is not - after discussing with my husband - we have decided not to do it - I would be happy for my son to be circumcised as I know so many guys who have had issues later in life, but we decided it is best that the boys "match". It is a decision that is personal to everyone and no one should be judged either way - each choice has pros and cons - my friend had her son circumcised and he had no issues afterwards.

Vixster78 |

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Nope we aren't doing this to our son who is due in February. My husband is circumcised and he wants our son to remain intact. Just because it's been done by everyone else doesn't mean it's right.

OneBigFamilyMI |

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i'm am gonna get my son circumcised, my husband is so he doesn't see anything wrong with it.

snowwhite428 |

Q&A: Should we circumcise the baby?

I was always unsure of what I would decide if I had a boy until I became pregnant and found out it is a little boy. As soon as I knew I would be having a boy I knew I could not subject this innocent baby to a purely cosmetic surgery. After doing research I found that is really all circumcision is. The cons of leaving a boy intact are incredibly minor and do not outweigh the intense pain inflicted with such a surgery in the first days of his life. Has anyone considered what kind of imprint does that kind of pain leave on the unconscious developing brain? It is more convenient to hide behind the arguments of hygiene, conflicting findings on std's, and extremely rare penile cancer in order to support one's need for their child to look right or fit in.

bluejeanjessi |

Q&A: Should we circumcise the baby?

I am a son who was circumcised at birth. I resent that part of my body was cut off without my permission. I would have preferred to keep my whole sex organ. My body, my choice. Not my parents' choice.

RestoringTally |

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When I was pregnant with my first son, this was a big decision for me. I read both sides and really found more in favor of leaving him intact. I thought about what that would mean for him in the future, in different situations he might encounter. It was when I thought of him as an elderly man that I made my final decision. I thought about an old man in a nursing home with bladder control issues and having to rely on someone else to make sure he was cleaned properly. I know this is a scenario that may not even happen but it's a possibility. We decided to circumcise, although, I don't think my husband ever considered not doing it. He felt like it was better for baby boy and daddy to "match," as he put it.

annateel |

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I think I just see it as kind of a dated thing. At the heart of it babies for thousands for years were not circumcised because of health/ cleanliness reason, they were circumcised as part of a Jewish tradition ( see brisking) It was only in the last few decades that the medical community started making circumcision a regular practice. Personally I believe it is a way to make money,unless of course you are Jewish. Because neither my husband and I are Jewish, I think I will try to convince my husband to let the kid hang on to foreskin for as long as possible. Two side notes... I dated a man for five years who was uncircumcised and he, nor I, ever had an issue. If infection/ cleanliness/ other medical reasons are the concern why don't we remove things like appendixes, gull bladders, tonsils, moles and skin tags at birth too? They are more at risk of becoming infected, are pretty much useless and pancreatic cancer is really common... so we should remove that too!

johanna821 |

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How in the world is it EASIER to care for an open wound than an intact penis? And if we are going to compare UTI rates? The study being used as the 1 in 100 source was flawed. The parents of intact sons were instructed to forcibly retract their son's foreskins and wipe the glans, which not only causes trauma to the foreskin and glans, but also forces bacteria into the urethra. Futhermore, girls get UTIs at a rate of approximately 5 times that of boys. Which parts of a girls genitals shall we chop off to prevent that?

littleplum |

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We are definitely NOT circumsizing our baby boy. It amazes me how much harm we as a society do to infants simply because "they won't remember it". Being born into this world has got to be a traumatic experience for a baby after being nice and warm and safe inside the womb for 9 months, and then they have to look forward to getting their most sensitive area of the body chopped off, how nice! What a warm welcome to our world! And I don't understand this whole "wanting to look like your father/everyone else" idea....do men go around comparing penises or something? This is all just a reflection of the repressed sexuality in our society. We feel like we must mutilate something that carries a lot of pleasure because we're taught to be uncomfortable with it. My husband was not circumsized and I honestly had no idea until he told me, it looks awesome to me! I want to teach my boy that he was born perfect and he didn't need to be mutilated in order to be considered "normal". Hopefully by the time he has children this unnecessary practice will have stopped.

dre2483 |

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My husband is uncut since he is from Europe and the foreskin helps keep the head protected and not rub against his clothes, therefore he has all the sensation for sex. Imagine if your clitoris were to rub against your clothes everyday, I don't think it would be as sensitive. Plus, why would the greater being above create an imperfect baby that requires surgery right after it is born??? Stupid western society.

twink5m |

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Circumcision is a personal choice; there is no right or wrong answer. It should be noted that the risks to an uncircumcised boy the expert mentioned are EXTREMELY rare, as are the risks following the procedure. I am 29 weeks and my husband and I have both decided not to circumcise our son (my husband is himself). We decided not to because my husband has had MRSA, and though the infection has cleared up we don't want to put our newborn son at risk. We'll be more than willing to get the procedure somewhere down the line if our son wants it.

desibee610 |

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I think it's pretty rare now to not use any sort of pain reliever when doing the procedure. It seems to be pretty low risk in most cases as well. That being said, my husband and I talked about it together and with our midwife during my first pregnancy. We have no religious reason to do so, and we didn't find any really strong medical reasons to do so. Like many decisions as a parent, we just have to do our own research and decide what is best for our family. :-)

TeishKnits |

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I am 30 weeks pregnant and I am having a boy and I am very much having my boy circumcised. His father is circumcised and both of his grandfathers are circumcised. I will tell you to people posting saying this decreases sexual pleasure, they are wrong. Again, my boyfriend (baby's father) is circumcised and he has NEVER had a problem with getting sexual pleasure from it and I am sure (never been told thought -- hahaha) that his father doesn't have a problem either. As for my father... I honestly don't want to know :) I have only been with one man that was not circumcised and several who have been and those men who were, didn't have issues with sexual pleasure either.

our1stbaby2011 |

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I hate that people compare getting your appendix removed early before there is a problem to getting a circumsision. Getting your appendix removed is a majoy surgery, its way different IMO. We will be getting our son circ'd hubby is done and will not budge on the subject, I could go either way but I told him since he is the man of the house and has a penis it was his choice.

3rdTry |

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My husband and I have had this discussion, and both agree there is no medical or cosmetic need for it. We will (if it's a boy!) teach him hygiene just like any other care of his body. I understand the previous motivations for it, but when it comes down to it, we just don't see a reason to, and are aware of the religious tradition where it stemmed from. My husband is not, and says he prefers that, in lieu of the sexual department, which I've also heard supported by other men who are not. In the end, I'd rather not unnecessarily put my son through pain, though I understand it is a choice you make for your child. I just don't support it, unless there was a true need for it.

ajengelhard |

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I am opposed to female circumcision so I can not think that male circumcision is okay. Everyone I know is circumcised and they are fine and yet the history of the prominence of circumcision in the west comes out of a fad that came from Queen Victoria and the religious community and their wish to stymie male arousal and sexual pleasure under the guise of cleanliness. My husband and I are not going to circumcise our son and we will teach him good hygiene instead.

tuesdaynext |

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I think the pros outweigh the cons so we will circumcise our son. My husband is also circumcised and it's a good idea for him to look like his daddy. I understand that for health reasons it could go either way but the pain is truly minimal if anesthesia is used. Babies will be in far more pain with colic and teething and such. Also, i find the comment about the baby being able to choose circumcision as an adult quite absurd. What is a simple and relatively painless procedure as a baby becomes extremely painful surgery with recovery period as an adult. Why make your child go through THAT?

jimenavalos |

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LMFAO at the woman who says an uncircumcised penis is not normal. i think just the opposite. anyone ever stop to consider that maybe, just possibly, nature knows best? soooo many nerve endings are in the foreskin. i dont want to deprive my son of that any more than i would shave off a little girls clitoris or labia. what madness. wether or not baby remembers, or its 'done real quick and not a big deal' people make me sad with how they have lost touch with the reality that science doesn't always trump nature-not even most of the time.

mrandmrsbrtva |

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This article completely and very obviously leans towards circumcision = ( IT IS COSMETIC! That is all I have to say

tobemomof3 |

Q&A: Should we circumcise the baby?

I have a hard time making a decision. On the one hand, I am opposed, however, my DH doesn't think there should even be a debate on the topic, "All men here in the US are circumcised." Which I know isn't true. I have a 3yo daughter, and I have never pierced her ears because I believe it's not my body, therefor not my decision to make. I understand that I have a small window of opportunity to circumcise my son without it being a major surgery, but I still don't think it's my decision to make. It's not my body...

ariasmommy01 |

Q&A: Should we circumcise the baby?

Just like someone earlier, I myself am a NICU nurse, and have assisted in several of these procedures. The total time to do it is about 5 minutes, and despite what some parents may think, sucrose water does help quite a bit. I have found that the babies I have assisted on are not even so much crying over the procedure, as they are in the prep. They have to be kept from moving, and this irritates them more than anything. Once we start, and the "snip" is made, they have stopped crying. If not, soon as you pick them up from the table and hold them, all is right with the world again. Many parents, I think, worry more over the pain associated with it. I can honestly say, I have seen babies more upset over an immunization, than a circ. It is a parental decision, but don't base it on guilt of hurting your child. They won't remember it now, but they will in the future should you choose to wait.

emsspeedracer |

Q&A: Should we circumcise the baby?

Most of the things that I have to say have already been stated, so I'll avoid reiterating; however, a recent study was conducted that proved that being circumcised does NOT prevent/reduce the risk of HIV. I'm having my baby naturally (read: unmedicated and vaginally), so it seems like a matter of common sense to leave my child as he is when he is born--natural and uncut.

hodonne3 |

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circumcision started many many many years ago to prevent men from masturbating.. we see how well that worked right? there is no medical need for circumcision.. and wanting the boy to look like the father is like letting his mother decide what you do for your son. you dont let her decide when you cut his hair.. so why let her decide whether you cut his penis. its his, let him make the decision.

tracycerra |

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I am having the same decision to make. I am currently 30 weeks pregnant with my third son and my first two are circumcised. The problem is that it is a very expensive procedure that insurance does not cover. I would like to get him circumcised but just cannot afford that kind of money for something that is not medically necessary. My husband is circ but my brother inlaws are not...so i dont see a problem with not doing it b.c. they are both fine. Just make the decision you feel best in you heart!!!

portiz85 |

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I am 30 weeks along..we don't know if we are having a boy or girl yet. The AAP does not feel it is medically necessary...and if you actually read the statistical data, the facts are not necessarily transferable. For example- the HIV/AIDS argument....based off of data from men in Africa. With health care that is provided in the US and Canada...and the sex education we receive, I can't help but see the flaws in the arguments for proponets of circumcision. Additionally, since our child will be born in Ontario- this is not a procedure that OHIP covers- because it isn't deemed to be medically necessary. As such, from the research I have done directly from the medical sources themselves (not just a handy little bump post) if we have a son we will not be circumsizing.

MustanGTbaby13 |

Q&A: Should we circumcise the baby?

I def. think this is personal. We don't know what we are having yet (want it to be a surprise) but if it is a boy, my husband and I have chosen not to circumcise him. All the males in our families are circumcised but after a lot of research on the subject, we want it to keep it as god intended. I agree that the article here was totally biased. I think parents need to base their decision on research for both sides (strongly recommended) and personal preference... THAT would make a smart choice.

sochi77 |

Q&A: Should we circumcise the baby?

I didn't want my son cir'd, but my husband was aggressive about getting it done (I think mostly just because he is). The doctor ended up botching my sons penis, and the circumision looks nothing like other boys his age. With his it looks like the doctor just cut the very tip off...so not too pleased about that since I didnt even want it done in the first place! I don't think parents should get to choose whether their son be cir'd or not, its the sons body and that foreskin is a legit part of him. The foreskin also does have nerves and it would removing is almost the same as removing a girls clitoris. My dad decided to get cir'd when he was 30 years old, and regrets doing so, as (according to my mom) he did notice a decrease in sexual pleasure. Saying that a penis is ugly without a circumision is a horrible thing to say. I'd like to know how many women out there who say such a thing have perfect bodies and vaginas.

Karabootie |

Q&A: Should we circumcise the baby?

For all of the people who claim as their reason "everyone" in the US does it, and an uncircumcised male will be treated differently in the locker room....in the New England county I live in, not a single doctor will even perform it. You have to go elsewhere. And I work with teenaged boys in this county - several of whom, upon finding I'm pregnant, have volunteered that most of the guys they know in high school are not circumcised. While I don't necessarily think it's as barbaric as the "opposing team" is making it out to be, and this is, indeed, turning into one of those lousy ego-driven battles between mothers who really should be applauding one another's EFFORTS and INTENTIONS, I also have researched extensively, and my husband and I have opted not to do it. But see, here's the kicker, that I wish some other posters would consider: we're not going to criticize anyone else for their decision on the subject. The drama queens on either side really need to be reigned in.

jfalconer |

Q&A: Should we circumcise the baby?

I will not be circumcising my son. My husband is not, and his penis is neither ugly, nor disgusting, nor unnatural or not normal. He was born that way, how is that not normal? It is also clean and hygienic, I've been with circumcised men who had disgusting nasty smelling penises, so circumcision has nothing to do with that. Most the medical "benefits" are simply touted by a profession that makes millions annually off of the circumcision procedure. You want to do it, fine by me, but don't imply that I'm a bad mother or my son will be unnatural and disgusting because I'm not going to do it. Bottom line, I left my two daughter's genitals intact and will be extending the same courtesy to my son. If they want to change them later in life, I'll support their decision, but I won't make it for them.

LatchKeyPrincess |

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My boyfriend is not circ and if we have a boy he will not be either. I think his penis looks just fine! It got the job done obviously! I can tell you my boyfriend is much cleaner than my ex who was circ! It think it goes from person to person weather you will problems with uti's etc. My BF is very clean and he will be the one teaching my child (if it is a boy) how to clean his private parts. My family is upset about our decision and we do not even know the sex of the baby yet. I respect my BF and I know if we have a boy he will teach him to be just as clean as his daddy is!

phelpsam |

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The Bump seems to lean strongly towards mainstream methods of pregnancy, birth, and everything to do with raising children. I first got on this website when I was 9wks to track how my baby is growing (we're 30wks now and doing great!) but every time I had a question, whether it was about how to find a midwife, what to eat, or whether to circumcise, the writers seem to only give the facts and info that would feed the medical community and health care's pockets. And that checklist full of tests that aren't necessary for the majority of women? Healthy women don't need to be put through half of these tests, they put unnecessary stress on the mother and the baby. I'm often fearful for mothers that come here for information and only get one side of the story on what their options are. Please, educate yourself and look for opinions from a variety of sources when it comes to how you take care of yourself and your baby. And remember, this is only a website that gathers information, they are not professionals... neither am I but I am a woman who knows how to make educated decisions and not let one person tell me what I should do with my body. Good luck in your pregnancies and take care.

pikosparents |

Q&A: Should we circumcise the baby?

in many of the countries around the world.. men are not circumcised. if it were medically necesary, dont you think everyone would have this procedure done .. in america it is like a boob job.. everyone else is doing it.. why not you too .. its safe since everyone does it right? .. wrong. a friend of mine had her twin boys circumcised .. and one had to go back under to get recirc'd because they messed up. so not only did this poor infant have to go through it once.. but twice. you wouldnt want your daughter circ'd (which they can do) why do it to your son. if you teach him to clean his area the way it should be then it is perfectly fine. it isnt your decision, for it isnt your penis. if later in life he is that embarrassed about it, let him get it done on his own.. but its not yourdecision. leave him intact.

tracycerra |

Q&A: Should we circumcise the baby?

This should be a question between your husband/partner, you and your doctor. I highly recommend that you DON'T go online and google the question. The internet is so full of crap. At the end of the day, whatever decision you decide to make, it will be the right one. Bottom line- We all care about our babies and they will be precious and perfect no matter what!! Goodluck!

LilyLomeli |

Q&A: Should we circumcise the baby?

Yes i think yall should because me and my husband is doing for our second son

happypregs84 |

Q&A: Should we circumcise the baby?

I am disappointed in the BUMP answer on this topic. It seems you all are PRO circumcision. Circumcision removes about 60,000 nerve endings!

StrikeGirl |

Q&A: Should we circumcise the baby?

What's the difference between circumcision and female genital mutilation? In the U.S., we hate female genital mutilation, yet we cut off part of a boy's skin for arbitrary reasons? Doesn't that sound like hypocrisy?

hstark |

Q&A: Should we circumcise the baby?

I'm on the fence about this, but my husband is pretty pro-circ. However, he said he would never pierce his daughter's ears until she was old enough to decide on her how (I might have some ammunition for not doing it, if I decide I'm really against it). On the other hand, I dated someone who was born in Russia and wasn't circumcised until his family moved to the US at age 8, he always said he'd have rather had it happen when he was a baby and wouldn't remember.

dreanick |

Q&A: Should we circumcise the baby?

As usual on The Bump, this article is biased toward one side. It is usually the mainstream side. Read the article on cloth diapers vs disposables if you don't believe me!

starskristen79 |

Q&A: Should we circumcise the baby?

I am sorry, but the Bump Expert is horribly biased toward circumcision, no matter what their opening line states. I would like to know just where they got their facts, as there is absolutely no medical proof stating an increase in UTIs, penile cancer, or STDs in non-circumcised males. Let's not forget that the foreskin does serve a physiological purpose for the penis and is not just a useless hunk of skin to be removed. I urge all mothers to do their own research on the subject before making any decisions. Please do not take the Bump Expert's word as solid fact!

mattdini |

Q&A: Should we circumcise the baby?

My baby's father is not circumcised and has had no medical issures, including a UTI or any skin breakdown, in all of his 40 years. I think teaching your son good hygeine is the key if you decide not to do it. I just don't see a need for it in our situation, so we are choosing not to.

kir1972 |

Q&A: Should we circumcise the baby?

It doesnt matter whether you do or dont want circumcision for your baby, its your own opinion and some people on here who are calling people "ignorant" or saying uncircumcised penis' are ugly need to think twice becuase believe it or not people do have feelings. The bump is simply stating exactly what it says in the American Academy of Pediatrics and most Americans are in fact circumcised.

SarahD20 |

Q&A: Should we circumcise the baby?

And I did in fact speak to the pediatrcian about this and these are all facts. Even though my pediatrician told my husband and I that we need to think about it because he is not for circumcision but respects us for whatever we choose. Thats what all of you need to do.

SarahD20 |

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i am neither for nor against having a child circumcised which is why i left it up to my husband on what we should do in about 13 weeks when our first son is born. but after reading some of the comments here i have a few things i would like to say. 1st bump your response is biased 2nd for those who think its un-natural to keep the foreskin i just have to ask whats natural if boys are born with it? 3rd to the ones who think the people who think it is ugly is ignorant why cant they have their own opinions? personally i think penises are ugly and vaginas too for that matter but we are born with them so who cares? 4th i can imagine that it would hurt to be circumcised most surgeries are 5th the whole cleaning situation seriously? cut: means you have to clean a healing wound uncut means you have to wash differently and pay more attention to how clean it is either way you are not getting out of any work. 6th STDs are you kidding me? foreskin doesnt prevent ore cause you to catch one it happens from unprotected sex and being passed down from parent to child and blood on blood open wound contact period! and finally its a parents choice in what ever they decide to do im sure is the best for their child

Zahnory |

Q&A: Should we circumcise the baby?

and to the person who says circumcision and female genital mutilation are the same thing you are quite wrong if you did your research on the topic you would find that female genital mutilation could and in most cases does cause a woman to be sterile which is why they started doing it in the first place. have you ever heard of a circumcision causing a male to be sterile?

Zahnory |

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Hi Momma, That is a great question. If you are like me I first laughed when I thought, "why would anyone leave their son uncircumcised?" Then I was shocked to find out that their are benefits to foreskin!!!!!! No medical organization in the world recommends infant circumcision and most urge against. There really are no medical benefits, intact wee-wees are easier to clean than baby girls genitals. You wipe what you see; never retract, ouch and can cause major complications. Oh, back to the benefits or say differences; "The foreskin is a movable, double-layered sleeve. During intercourse, it glides up and down the penile shaft, reducing friction and retaining vaginal secretions. Without the foreskin, the skin on the penile shaft rubs against the vaginal wall, resulting in friction and increasing the need for artificial lubrication. The circumcised man has less sensitivity and requires deeper and harder thrusting to try to compensate, further increasing the friction." http://www.circumcision.org/harmswomen.htm. I learned to trust nature, our son's will know that they are the lucky boys, who have the gift of the foreskin. It seems a bit different at first, but all change does. It is really a great gift to bring your whole son home. Here is another reference about how circ. actually increases risk of std and hiv transmission, http://www.foreskin.org/immuno.htm.

NatualMomma |

Q&A: Should we circumcise the baby?

2 boys, both intact. I urge you to watch a circumcision before making your final decision, you can google the topic and find multiple videos. But be prepared they are graphic.

hillbaby3 |

Q&A: Should we circumcise the baby?

My husband is not circumcised but wishes that he were. He has contemplated having the procedure done on himself for many years but chickens out due to the pain and thought of not having sex while it is healing. TMI I know, however, I am leaving the decision up to my husband on if we will circumcise our son. As of now, my husband really really really wants to have the procedure done on our son when he is born and states that if our son has his done he will get his done so his son wont ask questions when he gets older. Sounds like a complicated decision to face.

tab129 |

Q&A: Should we circumcise the baby?

I've been thinking about circumcision, as well, ever since we found out we're going to have a boy...another one of those "what am I going to do with a boy?" moments. :-). After reading the expert answer below, talking about it with my husband and male friends, and reading additional comments below, I think more than likely we will go ahead and have him circumcised.

rwong53 |

Q&A: Should we circumcise the baby?

My son will be circumcised, though it was mostly my husband's decision. He is circumcised, and I think it makes sense from his perspective. I'm still not sure how I feel about it, but from what I have seen/heard, it's a personal decision, and rarely an issue either way. However, my husband will be the one in the room when it happens.

innerpeaces |

Q&A: Should we circumcise the baby?

I actually have a question. My husband is uncircumcised, however I feel for medical reasons I might want our son circumcised. I feel alittle embarresed bringing up this topic. How should I go about it without seeming baised or insulting to him. Honestly I think I will ultimatley allow him to make the final choice in this matter. What should I do?

TessaLynne |

Q&A: Should we circumcise the baby?

We will have our son circumcised. For all the safety reasons, all the aesthetic reasons, and also religious reasons. I could not think of a reason why we shouldn't do this and I have only heard that it hurts more if you (or they) do it later in their lives. I agree, they will not hold it against you.

criscup |

Q&A: Should we circumcise the baby?

I don't understand how if its a boy there is all of this controversy.. when we really should be worried about all of the women who are being circumcised.

CandieBears |

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I wouldn't have a little girl and start cutting off her parts so why would I do that to my son? As for the "will it hurt?" part of this question... I think that's pretty obvious. Boys should have the same rights as girls as far as keeping every part they are born with. If they want to be circumcised when they are older then that would be their prerogative.

babieashley32 |

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What I find to be interesting is that so many people rely on a video shown on a site designed specifically to advance a purpose ... of course it hurts, lots of things hurt. You can also find videos of babies screaming over various other things. I'm not saying pro or con just amazed at how people can say get all the facts when the truth is they believe the "facts" that they've read and not other "facts." There are always contradicting studies.

melonhead |

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Insurance companies in the US no longer cover circumcision because it's considered a cosmetic procedure. If any of the studies listed in the article held water, insurance companies would be all about paying for circumcision because it's cheaper than cancer. We're having a son and he's not going to be circumcised. I wouldn't cut off his ears so he doesn't get them sunburned either. If I had a girl, I wouldn't circumcise her either. I don't see why the foreskin gets such a bad rap. It's a body part, and it's not even on my body. Leave it be to do its thing. If he wants to be circumcised later, he can go get it done himself. What I don't understand is parents who agonize over whether to spank their kids, yet they jump on the bandwagon to mutilate their sons as soon as they're born.

Nephews |

Q&A: Should we circumcise the baby?

I am a Geriatric nurse and i work mostly with elderly men. Alot of my patients are not circumcised and get a lot of UTI's. Also these gentlemen cannot clean themselves well and there is always alot of debris and "gunk" under the foreskin. I am having a boy and he will be circumcised due to the fact that as men get older to the point where they cannot provide proper personal hygine, the foreskin creates more medical problems that could have been avoided with a simple procedure.

nora8548 |

Q&A: Should we circumcise the baby?

My husband and I have discussed this at length. My husband is circumcised. If we have a boy, we are planning to circ him as well. I have done a lot of research into the process, healing, and cleaning after circ, I have watched videos and seen photos of both infant and grown man circs. (Grown-up circs look SO much more painful.) We are not taking this lightly, but are doing our own research and making the decision together. A friend of mine chose to not circ her son, and he has had issues with it already (He is 16mo). There was a point where they almost had to have him circ'd because the foreskin was restricting his ability to urinate. I know not all un-circ'd men have medical issues. And not all circ'd men escape medical issues. Yes, it is cosmetic, but it is also a personal decision. There is the point that the boy should be able to choose for himself when he is older. I don't disagree, but I would rather keep my child from remembering the procedure than having to deal with the pain and healing when he's older. I also agree with "Like father, like son." Especially when children get to school age, kids can be mean. I would rather have my son match his father than feel completely alone and weird. My advice is this: Don't take any advice! Everyone here has their own opinions, some are very strong. Do your own research, discuss with your husband at length and make sure you both agree. Look into how it's done (There are several methods). Talk to your doctor and your pediatrician. Talk to a urologist. Get the most information you can from professional sources. THEN make your decision. And once you do, stick to it. Congratulations on your baby! Whatever you decide, I know it will be out of love for your child. Taking the time to make an educated decision shows how much you love your baby, you are not making the decision in haste.

babyvogner |

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I am expecting a boy and am also on the fence about circumcision. I am also a nurse and have had to help hold an elderly man with Alzheimer's down so his infected uncircumcised penis could be cleaned. I have also witnessed a circumcision while I was in nursing school and it was the only time in school that I almost fainted. I'm still researching but a previous poster had mentioned yeast infections with uncirc'ed men. Now that I think about it, my first husband was uncirc'ed and I was constantly getting yeast infections. His penis was occasionally red and the foreskin was tight even though he was a clean person. Now with my current circumcised husband, I haven't had a year infection yet in 6 years. I bet it was my ex giving me yeast infections! This may sway my decision. BTW, my first husband was "my first" so I didn't know any different. My current circ'ed husband is on the fence also.

Lizzysm |

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And I also want to say, in reference to the website sexasnatureintendedit.com, sex with my uncirc'ed husband actually caused chafing as it took him so long to orgasm. This has not been a problem with current circ'ed hubby. This seems to be different than popular opinion. Sorry, but just wanted to get a few more experiences and ideas out there.

Lizzysm |

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I agree this is 100percent a personal decision. But I find it ridiculous that women are commenting that an uncircumcised penis is "ugly and unnatural". That is offensive and shallow. are you also of the type that find a nursing mother also disgusting? these are our bodies! I probably will be having my baby circumcised, but NOT because of how it LOOKS! What a horrible reason to a decision on!

Buster2012 |

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I don't understand why this practice is so common and accepted when to me it is blatant genital mutilation. The Bump would not be hosting a forum on whether or not parents should remove their daughter's clitoris or shave away part of the labia. To think for a second that circumcision is any different is disgusting and shameful. If, at some point in the future a medical need arrises then that is a completely different matter - as is removing the appendix, tonsils or having a limb amputated.

chelsey579 |

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Um where did the bump get their statistics at? Maybe it's 60% in the U.S. but worldwide circumcision is NOT common. It's only done in other countries for religious reasons and even that % is low! Thebump.com needs to get their facts and number right because they are definitely wrong right now.

Gismo123 |

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I find it interesting that people are saying that circumcision is so terrible, and one even said it was against God....ever read a Bible? In Genesis he commanded it, as a sign of his connection to his people. In Galations, he no longer requires it, but he says specifically that "neither circumcision nor uncircumcision has any value." (Gal 5:6). So I'd say at this point that if faith has nothing to do with your decision to circumcise, it's entirely the parents' choice. Those saying "it's his body, his choice" will either find themselves with a spoiled brat child, or taking back that creed when it doesn't suit them anymore.

acrane0307 |

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When my circ'ed husband looked at me, before we knew the sex of our LO, and asked if I would have the hood removed from our daughter's clitoris, i realized that circumcision really is tantamount to genital mutilation. No circumcision here.

jmeadlin |

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My husband is actually American and uncircumcised. And not only was he embarrassed by it in the locker room, but it is more difficult for him to keep clean and is harder for him to not make a mess while going to the bathroom. Because of this, he wants our baby boy circumcised.

manderly45 |

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I think that it is up to the parents. Some women find that the foreskin is "gross" or whatever, others actually like it. It will not determine whether or not the child has a great sex life or a poor one. Don't judge people who get it done or don't, because everyone has their own opinion. I do know of one 40 year old guy, that a friend of mine knew, who had to get circumcised due to an infection caused by his foreskin. It wasn't that he was "unclean", it was an infection he had no way of avoiding. This does not mean though that every uncircumcised penis will become infected. Anyways I hate when people argue over it, its almost as bad when people go on about breastfeeding and not breastfeeding. It is a personal choice and nothing more, but to state my personal opinion, if i have a boy, I will be getting the circumcision done. My boyfriend does not have it done but I have always just liked the idea of not having to pull back foreskin to clean poop put or anything. My boyfriend although does not think it has to be done. I'm the boss though ;) Well I hope everyone can stop arguing over the topic and if you don't like what the bump is saying....hmm maybe just don't go on the site because you obviously aren't happy and its a little dumb to keep looking at something you don't like.

Graicelynn |

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whoever submitted the video link Thanks! If really helping in easing my mind about the procedure.

Shamiekakirksey |

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I'm reading all of these and taking them into consideration... but I have to say that 'because we want baby and Daddy to match' is the most unfounded logic I've ever read. I wouldn't cut off a slice of my daughter's ear to make it 'match' mine - obviously - so that kind of thinking is insane.

dayray42 |

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My husband is circumcised so we have made the decision to do the same for our son. I am a third grade teacher and had a student that had to be circumcised this past school year. He was in pain for months while his mother decided on whether or not to go through with it. The skin was closing over the top and causing infections constantly. In the end he finally got it done and definitely will remember the procedure and the pain he went through for the two weeks of recovery after the fact.

gishstix |

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Unless medically necessary, little boys penises should be left alone. It is a normal part of his body and only he should make the decision. I view it almost as cruel as female circumcision (I know, theirs is worse because they lose their clitoris and foreskin w/o pain killers, OUCH!). The foreskin of the male keeps his glands moist, just like the foreskin of the female keeps her clitoris moist. If you're afraid of not caring for it correctly, talk to a pediatrician (just make sure they don't lift the foreskin off the glands, it IS still attached!). Many people don't like uncut males in this country simply because it is not the norm and we are raised to see a cut penis as normal rather than the other way around (seriously, how many sex ed classes show a correct, uncut penis?!).

glopsey |

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I'm sorry but I do not think that you are any sort of expert on the subject of circumcision when you are obviously biased and are trying to convince women to have their children circumcised. If you all want to know the other view on circumcision in order to make an educated decision I suggest you check out this site as well. http://www.thewholenetwork.org/ You should not base a decision for your child based on one persons biased opinion. And my husband is circumcised and we will not be doing this unnecessary and risky procedure on our son. Not every grown man is happy with the decision that their parents made on their behalf and most of what the original poster stated is outdated information.

felynzyne |

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We had our son circumcised and the way the doctor did it was not painful and didn't require any surgery. He just placed a plastic ring around the foreskin. The skin fell off on its own in about a week.

autumn283428@yahoo.com |

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The "facts" in the initial response from the bump are not correct and are outdated. They need to be updated and I would suggest doing plenty of research on the topic prior to making your own personal decision. Make the decision for what you feel is best for your son, not what you think is best for you or to "look like daddy." Our decision is to not go through with this procedure. My husband feels it is mutilation. Most insurance companies won't cover the procedure anymore as it is considered cosmetic.

Risher24 |

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It is God's law that all male children should be circumcised.

hcmv11 |

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No. no. no. first off as strongly as a feel about this issue: the only time i get angry at people over this is when someone says "wel..its the parents decision/right to decide" ect.. no its not a parents choice. its a human rights issue, if females are protected from having the hoods of their clitoris removed, boys should be protected from having their foreskin cut off. period. regardless of any health benefit (the cons outweigh the pros), it's a boys decision to make for his own penis when he is able to. foreskin has many purposes (immunological, protection, sexual) and is there for a reason. end of story. it'll be banned everywhere one day..just like FGM was eventually banned. and religious freedom ends where another persons body begins, especially a minor. do the research for yourselves! : one of many good sites: http://www.thewholenetwork.org/

Questionablexfun |

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It is a subject that brings me to tears... I can't stand the fact that my little boy will be in pain but I am having him cut... It is such a difficult decision that I have prayed about many times and I know that when it comes time to do so I will cry probably harder than he will but it is something i have elected to have done. No right or wrong here...

katieleekelley |

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I did a research paper on circumcision, both male and female, in college. With what I've learned, we will *not* be circ'ing our child.

dreamfinity |

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Most seem uneducated on here. "it looks gross"! "I don't like the look of it"! "it looks UN-natural"! What is wrong with you? Except to change their diaper why are you looking at their private parts! Unless there is a medical problem there is no reason to put babies through surgery, its pure selfishness on the uneducated parent. My son is not circumcised, its cleaned naturally when he urinates, he pulled his own skin back and if a parent doesn't know how to say make sure you get it clean to avoid infection, then they are not being good parents. "looks" that is no reason to do such a thing. You would never consider it for your daughter and there is way more risk of infection, uti, stds etc etc with girls then boys! Get over your self, get educated and stop changing something from what is natural to what "you think looks right" If they want it done they can do it when they are older. Men have a right to choose for themselves. My husband is circumcised and it looks like they butchered him. No way will any of my babies ever endure this ridiculous, UN-necessary surgery that is imposed by someones opinion who is not even going to be looking at their penis when they are older! I think people are perverted to even think about what their babies penis looks like and consider changing it for their own comfort.

pearlsnow |

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Here's a link to the American Assoc of Pediatrics recent statement on circumcision as of August 2012. This is a very heated topic, it's important to have all the facts! I purposefully don't participate in the "mommy wars" and fully respect everyone's right to make this choice. My husband works in surgery and has performed countless circumcisions on grown men due to complications including cancer and constriction (usually in the elderly). We will be having our son circumcised due to the medical benefits and decreased risk in cancer for women (please read the articles below) along with the medical benefits to our son. It has nothing to do with "looking like his dad" or being made fun of in the locker room. And please, do not compare this to female circ. Female circ is not condoned or supported by any medical establishment, is performed in a brutal environment and is not even in the same spectrum! http://www.aap.org/en-us/about-the-aap/aap-press-room/pages/Newborn-Male-Circumcision.aspx?nfstatus=401&nftoken=00000000-0000-0000-0000-000000000000&nfstatusdescription=ERROR%3a+No+local+token

JMPrice |

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I am TTC, if we ever have a boy, he is getting circumcised hands down. It isn't even a conversation to be had between my husband and I. I personally think an uncircumcised penis is nasty looking and just thinking of all the bacteria that could be hiding in the foreskin if not kept clean. Let's face it, young boys will have their phase where they don't like baths and I refuse to give my 6 year old a bath because he can't or won't clean himself properly down there. My husband is circumcised and so will our son if we ever have one.

3ArmyWife1 |

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Yes it will hurt him. With any kind of surgery, their will be pain.

Christmascookies |

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I am shocked by individuals that say that an uncircumcised penis is "ugly", and as such should be surgically "treated". Well ladies, make sure you also give them nose jobs if they have big/crooked noses and lipo if overweight, etc. Mutilation of genitals is just that, mutilation. Whether it be female or male. It's cultural. That's all it is. So if you want to subject your baby to unnecessary surgery, then do so, but understand that it is cultural. The few cases where an adult male has had to undergo circumcision for medical reasons should not to be used as a rationale for a baby who has had no issues. It's like when tonsils were routinely taken out. We know better now.

cinf35 |

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This article is very pro-circumcision. That's fine, just don't pretend to be unbiased when you're not. That's just obnoxious. Circumcision is unnecessary trauma for a newborn, and I want no part of it.

Runaway22 |

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personally my babys father isnt circumcised, so I feel my baby shouldnt be. But I'm a bit biased, as I was raped and treated like garbage by men who were circumcised, and couldnt get pregnant with one who was circumcised, then all of a sudden I get with one who isnt, and viola, a baby is made! so....yeah....thats my standpoint. I beleive the choice is up to the child.

emilyturner1234 |

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I think the parents saying that an uncircumcised penis looks gross or that its dirty are extremely ignorant and shallow (don't agree, look up the definition of ignorant and also shallow). My BF is not circumcised and I didn't even notice right away since when we first dated I never saw his penis soft. Also, my BF is VERY clean and has never had an issue being teased (so sad that you even bring this up..it will probably be your kids doing the teasing) and has never had a problem with women not liking it. I saw the video on circumcision and read the medical articles and I'm not having my son cut. If God didn't want the skin there he wouldn't have put it on every man!

Mzstar85 |

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Circumcision is not medically necessary. No medical or health organization in the world recommends routine infant circumcision. It is NOT easier to keep a circumcised penis clean. A newborn's circumcised penis has an open wound and sits in a diaper that fills with urine and feces. There is literally NO extra care or cleaning to an infant's intact penis. You never pull back or manipulate the foreskin in any way. When the foreskin naturally retracts (at an average age of 10), all the boy needs to do is pull back the skin and give it a quick rinse in the shower. That is not difficult at all. It's more difficult to clean behind your ears, but you don't go around amputating ears. 85% of men in the world are intact and are doing just fine. The foreskin (prepuce organ) is there for a reason. It serves many immunological and sexual functions. Cutting it off is not going to protect your sons from STDs/HIV. Condoms and monogamy will. Over 100 baby boys die in America every year from circumcision complications. It only takes 2.3 oz of blood loss for a newborn to die. Nobody has ever died from keeping all of their body parts. You can learn a lot about the benefits of keeping boys intact at SavingSons.org.

BarefootRI |

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Thebump is obviously pro-circumcision. Ugh. If it is not medically necessary in your circumstances, why would you do it? Because people are shallow and ignorant and believe that their child will get teased (WTF?? Every guy that I've talked to that is not cut has insisted they have NEVER been teased. This includes my brother, boyfriend, and several friends when I asked their opinions on the matter.) The foreskin you are cutting off of your sons dick has more nerve endings in it than your clitoris. The clitoris contains around 8k while the foreskin contains anywhere from 20k-70k. Do research. If you still think it's necessary use your maternal instincts and not you or your husbands pride, and if you still wish to do it, it's your kid, don't let any PERSON change your mind either direction, look up information for yourself, for and against it. Look up the chances of complications for cut or intact, look up stories of men wanting to get "restored" and then look up stories of men wanting to get cut. To me, it should be his decision. I'd rather him be upset at me for NOT doing it when he can always get it done later, than him be upset that he lost something he can never get back under my watch.

CakeSavoy |

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We are circumscizing our son. I have always preferred circumscized partners. In my experience I've found there are fewer complications and more enjoyment in various activities with a circumscized man. It's obviously a long way off, but I want my son to have a good sex life one day. That's not to say he wouldn't if we decided not to circumscize, but that was the biggest factor in how we made our decision. Plus, one of our male family members was circumscized at age 30 and damn near insisted we get it done after our son is first born.

PhDBug30 |

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I *love* the "What's a little pain when they won't remember it?" theory. That's ridiculous. You're right, we should inflict any kind of pain we want on our infants because they won't remember it. Not remembering is not equal to something being okay to do. I did not circumcise my son. I will not for any future boys that I have. I think this article is very out of date and biased. Do some real research. Look at intactamerica.org. That site has tons of great info on circumcision. I will be teaching my son the correct way to clean himself. My husband is circumcised, and he was entirely on board with not doing it to our son. Also for the not looking the same argument, no two penises look identical! No two vaginas do. No breasts. How hard is it to tell your child that when they ask? Please look at actual research when making this decision. For me, it's my son's penis. I will not cut it for personal reasons. His body, his choice.

Musicmama135 |

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Like many other posters, I am a nurse who has worked with newborns and the elderly, so I have seen both sides. I have assisted on my fair share of infant circs and have seen elderly men who suffered horrible consequences of not being circ'd. Even though I am a medical professional and MH is not, I put this decision squarely in his hands. It is not about aesthetics to me or having baby "match" daddy; I just honestly believe that this is a decision only a man can make. There are so many decisions that I have spearheaded (like BFing, natural childbirth, attempting different birthing positions and utilizing a birthing stool etc) that this is one area that I relinquish control and will allow MH to decide. I usually agree with the "his body, his choice" argument, but in this case, waiting until the child is old enough to understand and decide could pose more medical risks since circumcision in older children and adults is a much more involved procedure than in infants. Again, like PPs, I have a friend who had to be circ'd at age 23 and he is very much pro infant circumcision. I also know of an infant who developed a painful infection after a circumcision. There are pros and cons to every decision we make as expectant and new moms. And just because one facet of the argument has more weight than another to you doesn't make your decision wrong. If it is important for the penis to look a certain way to you, fine. If it is important for the infant to not feel pain to you, that's fine too. Just make sure you are educating yourself so you can make the right decision for your family and not just going along with what works for someone else. The right decision for my family will be whatever MH decides.

laurenmdrn16 |

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I agree it is a personal choice and unless there is a medical reason to do so I will not make that choice for my son. He can make it when he is an adult.

Twyjayne |

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If our society allowed little girls to be modified at birth, I'm sure that a lot of vaginas would look "prettier", and there would be numerous medical claims that it was more sanitary, and men would probably even start to prefer a modified vagina over a natural one.

griggsal |

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The whole argument that boys should look like their daddies is absurd! How often is your son going to be looking at your husband's penis?! And if it is often enough to cause turmoil in your family, because the two penises look different, then you probably have deeper/bigger issues going on in your household! My husband is circumcised, but my son will absolutely not be! My son's penis does not need to look like my husbands, nor does my daughter's vagina need to look like mine. Little girls are more prone to infections than boys, but I'm not going to alter her biology, because I'm too lazy to learn how to teach her to clean or properly care of herself. Read about the history of circumcision. It gained popularity in the U.S. in the 19th century not for medical or religious reasons. It gained popularity because it was believed that circumcision reduced/ prevented masturbation. Less than 10% of males worldwide are circumcised. Your son will feel pain. Doctors can only numb the outside portion of a little boys penis, not the inside sensitive portion. There is no way for doctors to completely numb the penis or make the procedure painless. Why would anyone subject their newborn to an extremely painful unnecessary procedure based upon biased gypsy medical research?!

griggsal |

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This is disgusting and so misleading. Update your facts! There is absolutely nothing okay with genital mutilation whether it is male or female.

kdjudd |

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Wow! I'm amazed by how critical and negative we're all being toward one another! From breastfeeding to immunizing to circumsizing, I think that as mothers we're getting much too judgmental about the actions of other mothers. Something that works for one family may not work for another, and that's okay! Let's all just support and love on one another, because in the end, we all love our children and want to do what's best for them.

SueAnn54321 |

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My doctor said it is purely cosmetic and social. No reason to worry too much about infection and disease in our country. Penile cancer rates are small to begin with. It is how we are made and the idea of cutting away the skin when we were not born that way seems invasive to me. I would rather teach my son about good hygiene then have the surgery for fear of the possibility of disease or of him "getting teased in the locker room"... Most people I know in my area decided not to do it. He won't be the only one.

SBZapp |

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"Welcome to the world!! Here, let's just cut on your penis..."

clemsonbluebelle |

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Circumcision by definition is mutilation. Why would you want to mutilate your child? Very few adults, male or female, ever want or need to have part of their genitals cut off. Intact genitals are a human right. Protect your children from adults with sharp knives. If you wouldn't circumcise your daughter, then don't circumcise your son. I am a circumcised father of an intact son. His Body. His Rights. I endured traumatic corrective surgery at age 5 for meatal stenosis and other complications due to forced removal of my protective foreskin. I wish my body were left alone as nature intended.

cbaxmas |

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I left the choice up to my husband. Since he is circumcised he wants our son to be circumcised as well. I'm fine with that.

princesskmc |

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My son is almost 3 and wasn't circumcised. I don't regret my decision at all. He's a healthy boy, has never had any problems with the function or health of his naturally given penis. He's perfect. I SEE A LOT OF POSTS SAYING THAT IT'S A PERSONAL DECISION which sounds like a load a crap since it's not your body. Your son can choose what to do with his sensitive genitalia when he is old enough to make that decision and doing it because of cosmetic reasons just shows how barbaric and idiotic we as human are. I feel sad for any little boy who is forced into a procedure directly after birth to get his genitals mutilated.

zollner09 |

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Babies are not able to give consent for circumcision, so I think boys should be left intact until they are old enough to make a decision to be circumcised.

aliciapdallas |