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Q&A: Other kids during delivery?

What should I do with my other child(ren) when I go into labor?

Re: What should I do with my other child(ren) when I go into labor?

The Bump Expert

It's definitely best to have a plan in place for who'll be looking after your kids when you head in to deliver. Try to make arrangements for a grandparent or trusted friend to be on call for your impending labor. If you don't have family nearby or friends that are available, consider looking into a sitter with a flexible schedule. (It's a good idea to have the sitter come in a few weeks before delivery to meet the kids -- everyone needs time to get used to each other.)

When the contractions start coming, plan to give your designated caregiver a ring. They can take over until your back in action. Don't forget to check your hospital's policy to see whether young siblings are allowed to visit after the birth. It's also smart to have a backup plan for who (family member? Neighbor? Sitter?) will be in charge of caring for your older kids in case you end up staying in the hospital longer than expected.

If you must bring the kids along, some hospitals do allow siblings in the delivery room. However, you'll still need to have a caregiver present who is solely responsible for tending to your older children. You also should do some serious prep to ensure your little one is ready to see Mommy in such pain (sorry).

Paula Kashtan

re: Q: Other kids during delivery?

I found out that my older child can be in the delivery room, but he won't be able to spend the night, so we had to make plans for the night or two I need to stay in the hospital, even if he plans to be there for our new birth.

hckopp |

Q&A: Other kids during delivery?

We are planning on having my 11 year old daughter in the L&D room with us but my father will be in the waiting room in case she decides she has had enough or just wants out for a bit. But she will be staying with my parents while I'm in the hospital which means taking her out of school but it's only a couple days at the most so not a huge deal and her school is being very understanding about it.

Danielle_81 |

Q&A: Other kids during delivery?

Two of my friends nearly gave birth in the car after waiting for the designated family member to arrive at their homes to watch older children. I would recommend taking the kids with you and having the babysitter meet you at the hospital or dropping the kids off where they need to be so you are in control of the timing. On a side note, I had my three year old son present at the birth of his brother. It was an easy delivery by normal standards, but he ended up being a little freaked out by my vocalizations during the pushing. For our third boy coming in April, I'm not going to include the older kids.

titania9 |

Q&A: Other kids during delivery?

My son is 4, so I'm hoping that my brother-in-law support system pans out. Luckily the hospital does let him stay the night though. I want him there those first nights for a few reasons. 1.) I don't want him surprised by all the crying when we get home and 2.) Hopefully he'll be kept awake to and be just as exhausted as I am when we head home!  Pregnancy Ticker |