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Q&A: Sickened by sex during pregnancy?

My sister told me she was totally turned on when she was pregnant but I’d rather do just about anything than have sex right now. What’s up with that?

Re: My sister told me she was totally turned on when she was pregnant but I’d rather do just about anything than have sex right now. What’s up with that?

The Bump Expert

In a word, hormones. They hit everyone differently, so your lack of desire definitely doesn’t mean you (or your sister) are weird. Plus, you're probably experiencing pregnancy symptoms (vomiting, super-sore boobs, so-tired-you-could-croak) that keep you from feeling frisky. Your sister also might be remembering the horny days of her second trimester, when hormones shift, nausea and fatigue fade, and blood increasingly flows to all the right places. Our advice: Even if you’re not up for sex, try to stay emotionally connected with your husband. Tell him how you’re feeling, be affectionate in other ways...and promise him some hot monkey love as soon as you’re feeling better.

Paula Kashtan

Q&A: Sickened by sex during pregnancy?

I'm at 6 weeks and don't want anything to do with sex. In fact, I don't want the OB examining me, either. It's not hormones or MS, I just don't want anything going up there! Maybe during the second trimester I won'te be so freaked out about miscarriage. I'm supposed to get a pap and culture at my 9 week exam and I'm dreading it! Some people are freaked out about things getting near their eye, well I guess I'm just freaked out about things getting near my hoohoo!!

MFalor |

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I'm about 16 weeks and i still don't want sex. Sometimes here or there i get a feeling to want to turn on my husband or get that special feeling, but most of the time i don't to even roll over because i don't have the energy or the patience ^_^

blackdollhouse66 |

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I remember not wanting it at all my whole pregnancy. This time around I found I was PG a week after my DH left for a 2 month trip for the National Guard so I haven't had to worry about that so far :)

chickbizz |

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I am not interested in sex at all. I do not get those feelings. If I do think about it, I am too tired to even attempt. Right now, at 32 weeks, I take one for the team! LOL

KBmommy |

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I am 17 wks pregnant and I feel really bad for my boyfriend cause I don't ever want to have sex. I just thought I was broken, but I am glad to hear that I am not the only one. :)

Little Miss Liv |

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I am 28 weeks and I have not been interested in sex through the hole pregnancy! My poor husband thinks I'm not attracted to him anymore, the poor guy. But I really don't care about having sex. The only time I ever feel really turned on is when I wake up from one of those very intense sexual dreams Ithat come with pregnancy. But by the time I actually wake up it is way too early in the morning and my husbands still sound asleep and not a happy guy if you wake him up.

molliehansen |

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I am 35 weeks and I can't get enough of sex.. Believe me my pregnancy has not been the easy with morning sickness and the 2 months of bed rest I was put on until just about a week ago.. My sex drive has been crazy ever since i've gotten pregnant. At one point my fiance told me he needed a break. So i guess everyone is different.

catfio313 |

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Im 15 weeks pregnant and the thought of sex, touching or even cuddling makes me want to vomit. Not because I dont love my husband because I do but i guess because my hormones are going crazy right now. I think this also adds to the added bickering we do because he is frustrated and thinks I'm not interested anymore. If anyone has any advise on how to explain this to the man please let me know because at this point he doesn't see how if I am having his baby- I cant atleast cuddle in bed...

amandammaccarelli |

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i am 8wks pregnant and the word sex just freaks me out and it is driving my husband crazy. all i ever here from him is "baby is good for you and the baby" yes, i know this, but EWWWW is all that i can think of.... Will this ever go away bc i want to make him happy, but i'm just not in the mood.... what can i do?

tashaguy |

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Ah! I am having the same problem! My poor husband thinks I'm rejecting him and I never have a good enough argument. I know he says he "understands" but I can tell he's still really hurt when I have to push him away. It's so weird to not want to be affectionate towards my husband :(

Janae2317 |

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18 weeks pregnant and trying to convince myself that I SHOULD have sex with my husband just doesn't happen. It just isn't on my list of things to do but I have AMAZING sex dreams and I'm completely content with having those and not having to get all gross from the real deal. Where is the extra blood flow and increased hormones for sex? Why do I feel terrible saying no to my husband? I know his feelings are hurt, but it has nothing to do with him.

lenaerickson |

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My thoughts exactly. I'm almost 15 weeks and really lacking the increased blood flow and drive they talk about in the 2nd trimester... where is it? I'm definitely not experiencing that yet.

RD1981 |

Q&A: Sickened by sex during pregnancy?

I'm 29 weeks and everytime my husband hints he's really in the mood, I feel like a ten yr old being told to do chores... It's just always so difficult to get comfortable, and then I'm sooo tired afterwards and I'd just rather not go through that. I know there's nothing wrong with it, but sex is the last thing I want. I hate the mood he's in for a few hours after I say no, and it really does make me feel bad, but =/ o well..... at least I know I'm not the only one. That makes me feel better.

stephanif |

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I'm so glad to know that I am not alone with this feeling! My BD is hot for me all the time, but I am just sooo tired. I, ofcourse feel absolutely HORRIBLE that I can't be affectionate with him and spend that "us" time like before.. I guess what is also making it worse is the fact that since I found out I was pregnant and began feeling all of the symptoms my sense of smell is heightened. He SWEARS that he is nto wearing cologne or anything like that but the smell of him makes me nauseaus.. You can imagine the effort I've had to make not to make a face whenever he's close to me.. Never thought pregnancy was gonna be this hard :(

Amandasfirst |

Q&A: Sickened by sex during pregnancy?

I am 23 weeks pregnant and I have no desire to have sex. I really feel bad for my husband. I feel like it has put a strain on our relationship because I just don't want to have it. I feel lke I'm letting him down in some way or another. Not sure what I need to do...I just wish he could understand a little better sometimes.

NewMommy2010 |

Q&A: Sickened by sex during pregnancy?

I am 8 weeks and I have no sex drive at all! Then the other day I wanted to do nothing but have sex

LibraBaby89 |

Q&A: Sickened by sex during pregnancy?

I'm at 20 weeks and definitely frustrating my husband. And I feel awful because I know after baby comes, it's gonna be the same way. During my first pregnancy, I had the typical renewal of desire during my second trimester, but definitely not this time. Every morning I tell myself, ok, tonight just suck it up and go for it, but by the end of the day, I try to beat my husband to bed so I can be asleep before he comes in and starts to beg. Does anyone have any suggestions here?

MommyKCB |

Q&A: Sickened by sex during pregnancy?

I am almost 24 weeks and I don't want to have sex either. I get turned on and everything like I used to now that I am not in the vomitting stages. But it just hurts to bad. Even with a little help I feel like I'm 16 and a virgin all over again. Lol. I'm glad to know my husband isn't the only one not getting any.

lmstamper8 |

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I'm 12 weeks and still having lots of uncomfortable symptoms, nausea, vomiting, and aching back...My husband is understanding and patient when I don't feel it, he isn't pushy which I appreciate. But sometimes, even if I'm tired and sore, I try just to relax and work up some of those feelings that are hiding from a day of stress, sometimes that's all it takes. Most of the time afterward I feel better than I did before sex and my husband really appreciates it. So if you feel like it, even just a little- Go for it, its good for everyone involved! (unless of course the DR Says NO)

sarahbixler |

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Prior to getting pregnant, and then for the first 2-3 months I was not really into sex all that much, but since then I can't get enough! My desire has even surpassed my hubby's, and that is really saying something!!

walkerkeli |

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I get horny at times I cant stand it and then i just feel too exhausted to do anything. I feel bad when we can't anything especially when I want to too. Most of the time my hubby trys to relax me then he makes love to me, getting me off before he gets it :)

gina_the_hippie |

Q&A: Sickened by sex during pregnancy?

Thank you ladies for making me feel somewhat normal. I read that sex drive can go up or down during pregnancy, but seriously, I would rather spend a day with the mother in law than get frisky. Honestly, so my hubby doesn't completely lose it I fake it and do other stuff but as far as sex goes, no way Jose! I feel bad for him, I have explained what is going on, but alas, he doesn't get it. I mean he says he does but I can tell he doesn't. I just hope it comes back.

redbadger1979@yahoo.com |

Q&A: Sickened by sex during pregnancy?

BTW I am 32 weeks 1 day..but it has been this way since probably the middle of my 2nd trimester

redbadger1979@yahoo.com |

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I feel bad for my husband, I have not been in the mood for weeks! I am 17 weeks and it's just not in the cards :(

lisacronin91 |

Q&A: Sickened by sex during pregnancy?

I'm at 15 weeks and I have NO desire at all!!! I'm still having morning sickness and whatnot, plus i work all the time. I always tell myself to just do it anyways but i just get so tired! He thinks it means our relationship is going down the drain, which makes me kind of annoyed. Maybe if he was a little more understanding and sympathetic, I would be able to find the desire somewhere...any advice??

Habibi8ali |

Q&A: Sickened by sex during pregnancy?

I am so happy to hear I'm not alone. I'm just past 33 weeks and I haven't wanted sex the ENTIRE pregnancy. It was about a week after we found out I was pregnant [I was about 4 weeks along when we found out], and right after our honeymoon that I stopped wanting anything to do with sex or sexual things. Even cuddling. I just felt like I was always suffocating and then with the horrible morning sickness I had for 4 months, I never wanted to do ANYTHING. My husband had no problem telling me how much he felt rejected but at the same time said he understood, but I could/can tell it hurt his feelings every time I turned him down. Even when I would give in, I would always get really bad cramps afterward, and then he'd feel bad. But a few days later he'd be back for more lol. It's gotten a little better in the last few weeks, and I try to give him want he wants atleast once a week. :] We're both extremely excited [he's more excited than me probably] for our little girl to arrive next month!

candjbarreto |

Q&A: Sickened by sex during pregnancy?

im 7 weeks and i DO NOT want anything to do with it!!!! i feel sooo bad for my boyfriend!! but all i can think is ewwww, not ew about him, but just eww about sex...the thought discusts me!!! when is this gonna go away???

londieMOMMY |

Q&A: Sickened by sex during pregnancy?

I have the opposite problem. I am 13 weeks and want sex, but my hubby is afraid to "hurt" the baby. He has gone to my dr appointments, and she has explained to him that it is fine, but he is still freaked out about it. Talk about frustrating!

Mrsmoe022477 |

Q&A: Sickened by sex during pregnancy?

ewwwww...throughout my last pregnancy, I was ABSOLUTELY disgusted by sex..to the point that (if I did actually give in for his sake) I literally wanted to vomit the whole time. It actually made me physically sick!!! So when we found out we were pregnant this time, my husband was obviously NOT a happy camper, because he was dreading 8 more months of neglect (I was a little worried myself)...........but great news...I'm the TOTAL OPPOSITE this time!! I crave it now! It's so wierd, because I got pregnant when my son was 5 months old, and now I'm having another boy..so I wonder why it's soo different this time. It's not like my body changed that much in 6 months..and my hormones shouldn't be that different considering I'm having another boy....I guess people are right when they say that "Every pregnancy is different." So is your hubby is threatening no more kids because of the lack of a sex life with the pregnancy, here's a little encouragement for him...Just tell him..."You never know..I may have to have it everyday...twice a day...next time, honey!!" LOL!

monicadover |

Q&A: Sickened by sex during pregnancy?

I'm 36 weeks and the thought of sex now, and throughout my entire pregnancy, just disgusts me. Every single thing about it grosses me out!! It hurts, my DH seems to always stink, just, ew. I try to give in at least once a week for his sake, but I'm miserable the whole time. DH doesn't understand, of course, and it's the constant subject of our arguments!! I can't wait to want it again, just so I can stop hearing about it!!

nerdosaurus |

Q&A: Sickened by sex during pregnancy?

I am only 7 weeks right now and I do want sex but I am just too sick to have it! My husband is so ecxited about having our first baby and he is a guy so he wants it 24/7 so I hope that in my second trimester I will be able to give it to him lol!

scdraco1 |

Q&A: Sickened by sex during pregnancy?

I am 7 1/2 weeks pregnant and I don't want it. We had sex a couple of days ago, but I was doing that mainly for him. It doesn't sicken me, I just don't feel up to it. If I lay down for more than 15 minutes, I'm knocked out. And of course he feels like I'm rejecting him. I keep asking him to read up on pregnant women to get some understanding because he thinks that I'm using the pregnancy to get out of it, it shouldn't be an excuse.

crystalssong02 |

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so glad i am not the only one feeling this way!i am 12weeks and im just constantly worried that even when i do want it im just going to throw up on him!

starrkitten89 |

Q&A: Sickened by sex during pregnancy?

I really have no desire to have sex and I just feel like I should. My husband is in a residency program so he is away right now so that is great for me in that aspect but we just were together for a week and he said he was scared to hurt the baby and it is our first and I find it so cute that he wants to make sure the baby and I are safe. We hug and kiss and spoon the whole time we were together and he said he loved that and just wanted to feel me next to him. he is so sweet and loving.

adinamzamora |

Q&A: Sickened by sex during pregnancy?

i am 12 weeks and have notice a dive in my drive as well. But now that I am feeling better I hope that changes. I am communicating with him about it, but I believe if I show him this information it will help him understand that I still love him and think he is hotter than Hades I am just not in control right now.

leahjanderson |

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29 weeks and i've wanted it all the time the whole time

KrystaandBryan |

Q&A: Sickened by sex during pregnancy?

I am 15 almost 16 weeks and I have no desire to have sex at all! It's not that my drive has gone down, I just am too tired, I want to have sex but it just seems like too much work. The biggest thing is that my hubby and I try not to have "traditional" sex so I won't be on my back. But, in any other position my hips start to hurt so bad we have to stop, so we can't get to enjoy it anymore. We still cuddle and all that good stuff, but it is just not the same. I just feel bad for my hubby because before we got pregnant, we had sex almost everyday, sometimes twice a day. I hope it gets better soon!

kaylac87 |

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I'm 18 weeks and love having sex, my husband is totally happy. Everyone is different it wasn't like that in the 1st trimester.

athomemom |

Q&A: Sickened by sex during pregnancy?

I am 22 weeks prego. and i have only really wanted sex 1 time when i was 9 weeks. After that just the thought of it makes me sick. My BF doesnt understand and i dont know how to explane it to him. I think he got it when right after I became physicaly ill. But I feel soooooo bad because he get turned on at the sight oh my big belly, but for me its not just sex that i dont want to do. its ALL forms of sex. i yell at him to not tuch me. I cant even force myself to fake it be it hurts me so bad.

wiccababy |

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i am 11 weeks and i am so glad i don't have the problem with my husband, i have sex with him every day and sometimes 4 times a day he is lucky and i feel happy and i believe my baby is happy too.l

ehuezorubio |

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Sometimes i dont want 2 b touched r bothered

charmyou2nite |

Q&A: Sickened by sex during pregnancy?

I am 29 weeks and I feel like a beached whale so that definitely does not help me get in the mood. Since my husband read "what to expect" he knows about "discharges" and lactating GREAT! He is willing to have sex but not willing to do ANYTHING to me first. I am not a car that you just put ur key in. Most of the time I am in tons of pain anyway, but it would be nice if he could try revving me up somehow. Then he will come to me and ask for me to help him out....grrrrrreat thanks. But I feel bad. MUH! This is so frustrating. To the women who have sex 4 times a day...HOW?!?! Ugh. Making me look bad :)

Chellyt18 |

Q&A: Sickened by sex during pregnancy?

20 almost 21 weeks into the pregnancy of our 1st :) and I just have no desire for sex... I have taken one for the team to keep my wonderful husband happy but Im so not into it... plus I feel like a 16 yr old virgin afterwards... Hoping that at some point the "want" will come back... Since we work somewhat opposite times it works out to my advantage.. its horrible...

skychick312 |

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I'm 9w4d pregnant and I have no desire whatsoever to have sex. I feel bad for my bf b/c he still does and I feel as though I'm neglecting him by not showing him any affection in this manner as we were very active up until finding out I was pregnant. I think it's in my head or something b/c I was 6weeks pregnant when I found out and up until that day I was very into sex. Is this normal?

cougarbabe042002 |

Q&A: Sickened by sex during pregnancy?

Im 7 weeks preg and have no drive everytime i try to i get sick

amadison87 |

Q&A: Sickened by sex during pregnancy?

My first trimester I wanted to vomit every day and sex was the last thing on my mind. I was disgusted when I just thought about it. Starting at around 14 weeks I want it every day. I have never been like this in my life! I feel like there is something wrong with me. My boyfriend has to turn ME down now. The roles have definately reversed

jloveless |

Q&A: Sickened by sex during pregnancy?

I actually could not get enough when I was pregnant with my son. I thought it was because of the extra testorone in my body. Now with this baby, I could just have a V8.. Maybe Im having a girl. Can anyone else agree with that.

candicewilliams4 |

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At 18 weeks i only get the urge every once in a while, all other times i just do not want anything up there. Good thing my SO is in the army, i havent had to fight him off since february!

rawrandstuffx10 |

Q&A: Sickened by sex during pregnancy?

I am 28weeks pregnant and my husband thinks im not attracted to him anymore and i dont love him and i keep telling him its the baby and all of the hormoned that are making me feel this way. i feel so bad for him

anakee |

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I'm 15 Weeks & I Don't Even Want To Be Touched! Sometimes Not Even Kissed : D My Baby Moves Soooo Much That Having More 'Stuff' In Me Kinda Makes Me Wanna Vomit...When Will It Endddd?

RiceBunny818 |

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I'm soo happy others are also experiencing this. I'm almost 10 weeks and i feel soo bad for my husband i hope my 2nd trimester would be better. errrr

nanwor |

Q&A: Sickened by sex during pregnancy?

I'm at 15 weeks & just started wanting sexy time again. Thank God, because I felt so bad for my DH who is trying so hard to be supportive. All my girlfriends say different things & some are even with in a few weeks of me. I think that I'm just so happy that I don't feel sick constantly that I want to take full advantage of it. I'm happy to feel like a wife again & not just a vessel :)

thekrikorians |

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I'm so uncomfortable all the time that it just doesn't sound inviting at all!! I'm hoping this will change because all he's heard from his friends is how much pregnant women want sex... not this one!!

oopsababy |

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I think that everyone is different. I do remember having more of a sex life with my first child, but with this pregnancy, I am more of the "I don't feel well, so no sex" type. I am past the nausea, but sometimes I am just too tired. I know that we tend to make ourselves feel bad about not having it, but hopefully our men understand. I have tried to stick with at least once a week sex so we can still maintain closeness and no one is upset about not getting any. As the preganncy progresses, you may start to see that you are more interested. That is how I was with my first anyway. I hope it all works out...

becky238 |

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I am 25 weeks and have a really hard time ignoring the baby kicking and getting in the mood. I don't particularly feel like being poked at by two people at once, thank you very much.

smellermets |

Q&A: Sickened by sex during pregnancy?

I am 32 weeks pregnant and I don't want to have anything to do with sex and lately i just give it up so my husband will quit getting mad at me i guess i would rather have sex when i don't want then for him to think about getting it else where i hope my desire comes back

momoludlam10 |

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i'm 21 week and i'm SO glad to hear i'm not the only one who's not been in the mood. i had about a week or so about a month ago but thats really the only time ive felt frisky. i TRY to take one of the team once a week.

mmmonkeym |

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Almost 8 week pregnant with my first and the morning sickness is getting worse. So far during this pregnancy I'm so tired and sick that sex has only made it worse most of the time. How do I tell this to my husband? It's a really big part of the relationship. And lately, IF I orgasm it only makes me sick to my stomach....literally.... whether or not I was queasy to begin with. He keeps talking about how he can't wait till I'm a horny prego woman, but I can't even imagine that right now!...It's driving me crazy that my feelings about sex have changed so much!

JLizW |

Q&A: Sickened by sex during pregnancy?

At first I thought I didn't want to have sex because of the morning sickness, bloating, overall crappy feeling, etc... but I am feeling better and I still don't have any interest in sex. Hormones, hormones, hormones... For my husbands sake, I hope things turn around. Lol.

saraloulah |

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I'm about 7 weeks right how, I actually lost all interest in sex before my first positive test. I don't want sex, I don't want to touch him sexually, and I certainly don't want him touching me. I love my husband, there are still days I look at him and go "wow, he's looks amazing", but the thought of being touched like that right now is downright repulsive. I can handle hugging, and we cuddle while we watch movies, but I throw his arm off of me in the bed. I tried to explain the hormone thing, I don't think he really understands. I think the best solution I can come up with to help him is to let him read this page, so he realizes it's not just me, him, or us. This many responses has to prove to him that this is normal.

silvermoon2386 |

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thats so crazy cuz i just told my sis how i was so not feeling the sex thing......being that i loved having sex so much

jasbaby |

Q&A: Sickened by sex during pregnancy?

I am 18 weeks pregnant and my joints and muscles just ache! I haven't thrown up much since the 12th week but I am completely disinterested in sex and I don't really even like to be touched. I feel sorry for the daddy because I am sure he feels neglected or unattractive, but I just find actual sex uncomfortable and the thought of sex completely unappealing. I don't think he grasps why... just sees me as being hormonal.

wildangelrsv |

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im 11 wks pregnant and just like with my other two pregnancies, i want nothing to do with sex at all. i cant even stand my dh, i feel sorry for him but he understands. i get over it oonce the baby is here, but for now he just kinda stays away lol

mdelatorre24 |

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Honestly i cant get enough sex. my fiance and i both have a very high sex drive and both of ours have only gotten higher... for me it's all about thinking about it in the right light. He is the one who is going through my obnoxious moodswings so im supprised that he wants it at all but he does so ill take as much as i can get! :)

CMBall |

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I'm 18w4d pregnant and I feel like such a bad girlfriend : ( My poor boyfriend wants to have sex all the time and I just don't want any parts. Everyone says you have to please your man during this time you can't just cut him off but seriously...anything sexual makes me want to vomit : ( He asks me for sexual favors since I'm not in the mood and I feel like I just want to cry so I don't do that either. It's been 6 weeks since the last time we tried and when we did...I felt nothing! We had amazing sex before...what's happening to me?!?!?!

cougarbabe042002 |

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I'm 17 weeks and my desire levels have been all over the place. My main complaint is that I have been having some awesome dreams/fantasies that are totally new since being pregnant and I can't actually have sex with my DH. I have been plagued with bacteria and yeast infections for the past month now and it's getting sooo old. I sure hope I can get these under control before I lose my desire and get too uncomfortable to want it again! I try to "help" him most days, so that it isn't totally gone for him, but it's not the same.

NicBirdie13 |

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I am 27 weeks and all i want is sex. Even in the first month i couldn't stay off my husband and still can't. My sex drive is so crazy to the point were i sometimes have to tell myself to give it a break. And i know that my husband doesn't mind at all he LOVES it of course. I guess there's really no difference in our sex life its has been this way with my sex drive even before we got pregnant. But now that I am pregnant sex is 20 times better for me i don't have a difficult time getting lubricated. That use to be some what of an issue before i got pregnant.

mmejia432 |

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MMEJIA432- I am soooo the same, Except my hubby has been gone since i found out i was expecting. I AM JUST DYING!!!! Good thing he gets home on Saturday! :)

EmilyHone |

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I am almost 16 weeks and I feel like I would rather go to the dentist then have sex! Haha.. I am just never in the mood anymore. We have onlt had sex two times since we found out we are expecting. I know it gets to him but I can't help it. Sleep is so much better! =)

Lcgurl23 |

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its not that i do not want to have sex, but ive found it difficult to FEEL sexy. ive been rather petite my whole life (bout 110lbs) and now im almost 160 and just cant quite look at MYSELF the same. my husband tries to tell me how beautiful i am and that im still sexy in his eyes, but my problem seems to be me. it also doesnt help that the last time i went to initiate things he giggled because i was sitting on him and baby kicked pretty hard (also makes it hard for me to be in the mood was baby is kicking alot, just an odd feeling to be erotic with baby being so active). giggling does NOT help me with my self image and feeling sexy... he might think about that next time we try, which could be a while... the giggling made me quite upset!

becki18 |

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Wow! I am amazed at how many woman don't want to have sex when they're preg! It's a relief to me because I seriously want nothing to do with it. DH realized too late that we have opposite sex drives (his is extremely high and apparently mine is very low). The frequency and desire for sex was already a struggle. I thought that it would get better when I became pregnant--after all those hormones seem to make us unpredictable! But...no such luck. It sucks. I really did want to be on the same page as hubby...but I'm just not. I think it makes it worse with my emotions and when he doesn't understand. Not very supportive of me not wanting sex--still thinks I should regardless :(

landa46 |

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No such thing for me as being horny...it seems to be the exception rather than the norm. My heart goes out to women whose hubbies/boyfriends are not understanding. It may be hard for the guys not to take it personally, but for our sake, they have to just suck it up at times. They have it a lot easier than we do! I am lucky that my hubby is very understanding, although of course he still wants it. A quickie 1-2 times per week is about all I can muster, but the thought of sex is not really at all enticing to me. We have a 2 year old already, and I am 16 weeks pregnant, so my energy level is pretty much nonexistent. I remember having sex a little more often when I was pregnant with my daughter, but that was probably because we didn't already have a child to tire us out.

Wife4ayear |

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I'm 13 weeks and still not interested in making love with my husband, in any way. Penetrative sex or other sex is the furthest thing from my mind. I didn't have severe morning sickness, just nausea in first trimester but all the physical and emotional adjustments have made sex something alien to me. After feeling somewhat guilty about this, I did have sex with hubby but that only reinforced how completely unsexy I'm feeling. We've since talked about it but I'm not sure if that has helped him to really appreciate what it's like. I'll be talking with him again and hopefully that will take pressure off both of us...

steuka |

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I am 11 weeks pregnant and feel the same way. Sex is just the last thing that I want. My husband has been great about it though. He knows that I am just flat out exhausted right now and he's been doing a lot around the house for me. When it comes to getting me in the mood he'll give me a massage or just start kissing my neck. He's been really sensitive to my needs and doesn't just try to get down to business. For me its a turn on that he cares so much!!!

mynewstart17 |

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I thought it was just me. I'm 14 weeks pregnant and the mood is so hard to come by. I may have a burst of energy, but if my honey does not take advantage of the moment...too bad. I feel bad because he tried, but all I feel like doing is attempting to find a comfortable position in bed and counting sheep. I have heard things get better the further along I get, but I don't know. I could be a nun right now...if it were not for baby.

bsmith4225 |

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Oh it feels so good to hear other women saying this... I have had such a non-existent libido since i started having symptoms my first trimester. Occasionally i get SORT of in the mood, but more often than not, it's 'taking one for the team.' I think the crappiest part about the whole thing is that when we DO have sex, it's AMAZING, but to get to that point takes so much effort that really, I'd rather cuddle next to him while he plays video games and i read a good book. I'd advise trying to get yourself in the mood if you can stand it, just so you can have sex with your poor mate once in a while...if it hurts or is really uncomfortable then it's probably a discussion with the OB/GYN and your partner, and he/she should definitely be understanding. Non-pregnant partners have NO idea what it feels like to have all these insane hormones ripping through your body all day... but if we can stand it, it's nice to oblige once in a while :)

cDelConte |

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I'm 18 weeks pregnant and up until I got pregnant I had a crazy sex drive. Now there's nothing I dread more. My husband doesn't know what to think and his anger about it causes most of our fights. I usually give in after awhile and just pray for it to be over fast. It hurts! I seriously feel pain in my cervix and like he's rubbing me raw (but I'm very wet...) I don't know if it's my imagination or what.

MamaM88 |

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I'm 37 weeks now and my sex drive went from just fine to unfamiliar starting in the 5th month. My poor husband started a new job then and was stressed. The bad thing was, I didn't want him touching me anymore about that time. He thought it was him! It's just so uncomfortable and I don't feel sexy wallowing around with a huge bulging belly. Can't bend like I used to either! He just doesn't understand because he thinks if he tells me he's attracted, I will feel wanted. Not the issue!

cjderiese |

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when i was pregnant we just couldn't get enough of each other. i had a pretty easy pregnancy so maybe that has something to do with it. but i can honestly say we didnt got without sex for more than a day or 2 at a time. & i dont think i would've wanted it any other way.

baeluevano |

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I felt so happy when i started reading everyone's comments. I'm 17 wks prego and sex is the LAST thing on my mind. Whenever my boyfriend and I try to have sex it hurts sooo bad that all I can think is I hope its over soon. I feel so horrible for thinking that and even worse cause my bf tries to be so understanding but I know it hurts him that i never want to be close anymore. I used to always want sex and after hearing that my sex drive should be high right now and its not its good to know I'm not the only one.

Jennarose517 |

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I am SO glad to see I'm not alone on this one! I'm at 25 weeks, and I haven't wanted sex in oh, about 25 weeks. At first it was pretty easy to just "take one for the team" and do it anyway. But for the last 8 to 10 weeks, it's been so much worse. It's so hard to get comfortable! And it hurts. I don't remember sex hurting this bad the first time I did it. And if we manage to get past that, I get distracted by the baby moving. I know he doesn't have any idea what's going on, but it's still really awkward for me. My fiance keeps asking if he even turns me on anymore. I can't seem to get him to understand that it's not him at all. I love him SO much. And he still does turn me on. But I don't think anyone could actually turn me on enough to make me want to have sex right now...

ladydisdain886 |

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Yup, 6 weeks and that's the last thing on my mind. My husband is getting grouchy, which makes me grouchy, so neither of us are very happy right now. I have tried to get in the right mind set but it just doesn't work. I don't want him touching me. I feel horrible for it too! Not to mention I feel like I have been punched in the boobs they hurt so bad. I barely have enough energy to make it through the day, so when we get to bed or get home from work, i dont even want to think about it...

Cheryl25DO |

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Reading these has made me grateful for my husband! I am 30 weeks, and have not wanted sex at all, since the beginning. He doesn't bug me about it at all. Weeks will go by, then he can't take it anymore so I take one for the team. I keep finding funny things in our computer history, and there was the one time I needed something out of the bathroom and walked in on him taking care of business, but I'm so grateful he does that and leaves me alone! I just hope my drive comes back after baby!

amandachalynn@yahoo.com |

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My husband is interested every morning...when I am queasy and his breath is like a landfill covered in rotting dead carcasses. UGH. Sorry honey, gotta go vomit.

RinnyAnne |

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im 8 months preg. and the whole pregnancy i havent been interested in sex what so ever! i can say bout the only time i am is when i do have those VERY SENTUAL HOT sex dreams. when i do wake up its gone in like five mins. so i also thought i was broke or something but i see its very common! thank you for that.lol, but my boyfriend i feel so bad for him bc we do have sex but im not into it at all, and he can always tell, its so arkward....

jujubead2010 |

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I'm 23wks preganant, and still not wanting to be touched at all, my doctor said its just the hormones, but of course everything still feels different, I've even gotten to the point that I cant have my honey touch me. Just remeber to talk to your sig. other about it all, nine time out of ten my honey is my biggest supprter

lovinmommy2011 |

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ewwww sex...VOMIT.

ndjen1 |

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during my first pregnancy, from the second trimester i was wanting a lot of sexy time! however this pregnancy isnt looking like husband will be getting any until way after baby arrives, poor thing. hes quite good at not pushing the issue but hes getting grouchy from the lack of it im sure! im about 13 weeks so there may still be a change....

amylouiseforrister |

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My poor husband! We were just finishing when a terrible bout of nausea hit me...we both thought I was going to throw up all over him. Need less to so I don't think that he is going to be in the mood for awhile either

DonnieS |

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OMG...I am 7 weeks and 4 days pregnant and am totally the same way! The thought of it literally makes me want to vomit. I have never been that way pre-pregnancy. I talk with friends who have bene pregnant and they say that just wait til the second and third trimester you can't get enough of it. I hope so!!!

momma2blindsay |

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I am 8wks now but haven't experienced this yet. But when I was pregnant with my 1st daughter 6yrs ago, I was the same way. The thought of sex literally made me vomit. It happened throughout the whole pregnancy, not just the 1st trimester. I worked in a retail store at the time, and it was so bad that literally just walking by the movie section and seeing a provocative or sexy cover on the case would make me have to run to the restroom to vomit. None of my friends or family experienced this, so I'm glad to see others have gone through something at least similar.

irollynn |

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I AM 6 WEEKS PREGNANT AND I FELL THE SAME WAY AS MANY WOMEN I SEE THAT I AM NOT ALONE, I DONT EVEN WANT TO BE TOUCHED BY MY FIANCE AND I FEEL SO BAD, BUT ONCE I TAKE ONE FOR THE TEAM LOL ITS VERY UNCOMFORTABLE DOWN THERE I DONT KNOW WHY I HAVE A DR. APPT TOMORROW THAT IS A ? IM SURE GOING TO ASK. NICE TO KNOW THAT IM NOT ALONE

nini1313 |

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I am currently 8 weeks into my first pregnancy, I have very little sex drive to begin with and even less with my exhaustion and my body aching. Any ideas on how to keep the fire burning, i love my husband and i want him to be happy as well.

dmalteri |

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I'm so glad I'm not the only one who feels this way. I use to enjoy sex. But I'm so freaking tired to do it. I feel so bad for my husband. Sometimes I'll just go ahead and do it because I love him and I wanna make him happy. And for the record my husband is a loving and understanding man. And he is not pushy about the subject.

Newhotmama |

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I wanted it all the time the first 8 weeks, then the morning sickness kicked in until month 5, now at 28 weeks Im not grossed out by it but just dont have much desire. It might come and go.

kcgreen329 |

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I'm glad to see that I'm not the only one with these feelings. I am 9wks pregnant, and I do not have any desire to have sex. My husband is always trying to be intimate and I always find a way to get out it because I'm just not interested. Sometimes, I will take one for the team, but I think it's more of a kick for my husband than it is for me seeing that when we are intimate I just lay there like a dead body. I hope my sex drive returns back to normal, otherwise my husband is going to be an unhappy camper.

khismommyWed229293 |

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I cant say how glad I am to know Im not the only 1 not wanting it. I would rather hang out wit my grama then hav sex, its the last thing on my mind. Im 1 day away from 19 weeks. Everytime he trys 2 get me into it I jus cant seem to want it, I get excited and love the feeling of him touching me n all that but I jus dont get any satisfaction from intercourse! He askd me 2 giv him oral and that doesnt work out either, any advice? Im goinn 2 ask my doctor if there is any herbal supplements i can take 2 help my sex drive since iv completely lost it. I feel so bad 4 my fiance =[

ash22293 |

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I am 39 weeks and it's not that I don't want to have sex with my husband it's just that it takes way too much effort and energy. It's hard to find a postition that is comfortable for the both of us. My doctor suggested that we have sex at least a few times a day to get the labor going but I really don't see that happening. I think I should just stick to the walking. :(

boo03jes |

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I had no sex drive at all until just recently and I'm 36 weeks. I finally really want to have sex now that I look like a beached whale :/ My poor husband can't win lol.

edenewellis |

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I feel ya sister! After reading all the responses I feel a lot more normal but I do feel bad for my guy cause he is frustrated with the sudden change. Hopefully I can get him to read some of these responses and then he will get a better understanding of what is goin on with me. Besides, I dont want to move or think or be touched any more than i absolutely have too. I feel like i could just roll over and die at any minute. =/ Nausea, stomach pains, headaches, lethargy, its gonna wear me down real quick like. Needless to say, I am ready for this to be over with. And I have no idea what people are talking about when they say stuff about the "pregnancy glow" cause thats that last thing i'm feeling like right now. More like a burnt out light bulb.

oopsababy10 |

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This is really reassuring. I'm only about 8 weeks in with our first and I have not wanted to have sex with my husband since I found out 3 weeks ago I couldn't figure out why (knowing the jig is up and can't get more pregnant). Glad I'm not alone. I just feel bad for hubby who wants it and I can't get it up-lack of a better way to put it. Hope it all shapes up soon.

bauerkj |

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One word : exhausted. UGH

nsknight2005 |

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My t pregnancy ( Only 16 months ago) I was always wanting sex almost NEEDING it! This one (I am 31 weeks along) my husband has to beg, I do not look forward to it all! Maybe hormones change with the sex of the baby (my last one was a boy, this a girl) Im not sure why exactly, but I know he cant wait until it is over!!!!

Scarletgreg |

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I am about 10 weeks along. with my first pregnancy i was married for a couple of years and i wanted it all the time with that one...since then ive been divorced now have a boyfriend and am prego with my 2nd and can not stand the thought of anyone touching me or cuddling or any of that...kissing even makes me want to vomit. I dont know if its the stress of hey I went through this before and then look what happened he threw me and his child out for a you know what or if it is just the pregnancy or the combination of both. Sad thing is I do not care if his feelings r hurt. I was on birth control and using condoms and I still wound up pregnant. Maybe it is just my hormones causing all this but I do think I need a little bit of help being sympathetic to him.

DevonsMommy0519 |

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I'm glad to hear that so many women feel like I do. At first I was worried that it could cause a miscarriage and I thought that was the only reason why I just wasn't interested...but now I'm not worried anymore but still am just not feeling it. I get an occasional urge but honestly I really would prefer to just roll over and hug my body pillow and go to sleep. That body pillow is getting more affection than my poor fiance. He understands the less he mentions sex the more likely I am to give hime some....talking about it soooooooo turns me off.

tianabuffington |

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I am 14 weeks PG and I have no desire for sex except when I have the strange sex dreams that I have. That is the only time I want my husband to touch me. I try and explain to him that my lack of desire has nothing to do with him and I love him very much. I thought I was suppose to be the emotional one but he is starting to take this personal.

scbbell |

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It varies... there are days I am all over him and days i'm like ugh, you have to got to be kidding me! But I love the way how having sex makes me feel great and wanted. Unfortunatley, having grrrreat sex and over exherting myself, I tend to get sick. :(

wnj0128 |

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I thought I was the only one who felt like this. I am always sick, tired, and I have sore boobs and it does make me not want ot have sex. The thought of sex maxes me upset.

momaboveall |

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im 12 weeks and honestly i cant get enough of my man...alot of ppl told me that ill be sick with the thought but with my hormones going so crazy lately sometimes all i can think about is when im gonna get some more of him...since im so sensitive down there its feels a million times better...hes always been amazing but the added sensitivity and raging hormones makes it so much better...dont be scared of sex during pregnancy, both are a part of life of we should always enjoy em :D

adow91109 |

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Im 32 weeks along and I've gained 40 lbs so far on my 5'3 frame (and only 120 lbs to begin with).......not only do I feel huge and extremely uncomfortable all the time but the baby is constantly moving and if anything can kill the mood that definitely will. I'm lucky that my pregnancy is taking place over hunting season because it gives my husband something to focus his attention on other then the lack of sex he is getting so he is being unusually easy going about the whole thing LOL I feel bad and we talk about it but we haven't gotten farther then that in recent weeks.....I know I'll have to take one for the team soon though:)

HLANGELICO |

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i am 25 weeks and pregnant with my third. with my second one i wanted sex all the time and my husband at the time loved it. well now with this one i have no desire to be touched cuddled or anything by my fiancee i just hate the feeling and the though of it all is gross. Sex is the furthest thing from my mind plus i am high risk so i am not allowed to have sex but my husband to be feels like i dont want to be with him and that i find him un attractive when i really dont just dont want to be touched. its all part of neing pregnant

prettyprincess3 |

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I'm 26 weeks and I can't get enough sex! My husband says it's bad when I want more than he even does and that he's getting old and can't keep up :-) It has to do with hormones because I have never been turned on as much as I have been since being pregnant.

RBJennBrooks |

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I am 22 wks and I would love to have sex! But when we do I am so sensitive down there that it is completely overstimulating and is just uncomfortable. Thank goodness my hubby understands. He doesn't give any kind of indication that he is upset with me or anything. Obviously he would like to have sex more but he is great about dealing with this issue.Can't wait until I'm able to have normal feeling sex though!

whobits |

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I'm 22 weeks and when they said my libido woud go up it did then i disapeared like it never existed in the first place. Once i hit 22 weeks it went up but honestly it feels more painful than pleasure... except the end of it lol TMI but still i'm alot more uninterested in sex.

angeleyesz |

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My first pregnancy I wanted nothing to do with sex.When I had my son,I tore from my number one almost all the way to my number two.I asked my OB if it could have been because I was not sexually active,and she said that it was one factor of me not using my Kegel muscles.This time,I am miss ride em!!!

MISSlala27 |

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Im 23 weeks pregned with twins and i have no interest in having sex the thought does not even cross my mind i know its not fair for my hubby but i feel so big and unattractive and my boobs are so sore my body aches so much and i really dont complain but who wants to have sex when i can be sleeping or resting plus im soo big i can hardly move without running out of breath im always exhausted the thought of it aggravates me ir=ts like is that all u can think of sex?? when all i can think of is when am i gon be able to squeeze in my next nap and am i gon be able to get up without aches when i wake up

jboricua |

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The second trimester homone shift didn't happen with me, the thought of having sex doesn't cross my mind until my husband tries to "get some". He used to get all butt hurt when i turned him down but i explained that it hurts now because of all the blood flow and swelling (he can't even handle the word Period without freaking out so guess how he handled this). It took about 2 weeks for him to forget what i said before he started trying again....I just take one for the team every now and then.

hlokity |

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I'm 30 weeks and I haven't had sex since I was about 12weeks...maybe even before then. It's caused a lot of problems between my boyfriend and I. We fight A LOT now. I cannot stand to even think about sex. Nothing turns me on at all and I feel so disgusted just thinking about it. He doesn't believe me because he always heard that pregnant women are super horny. Apparently that is not the case. Its Valentines Day and we are definitely not going to have sex tonight.

katelauderdale06 |

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I havent been interested in sex since a week BEFORE the positive pregnancy test. I'm at 15 weeks now and I very very rarely get in the mood. I give in to my husband at ;east 2x/week because I feel so so so bad for him -- we've only been married 6 months now, got pregnant after 3, and didnt have sex until we were married. About 2 weeks ago, he came home with a vibrator he puts on himself and even if I'm not in the mood, this manages to get me in the mood very quickly, which helps him out drastically.

Mish2g |

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With my first I was in the mood everday of the entire pregnancy, now with #2 my hubby is feeling neglected because I have no desire to even think about sex...ugh.

frady02 |

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I'm at 7 weeks and I'm constantly horny. I want sex every night, even if I don't feel very good. I had a high sex drive before I got pregnant. Maybe it's just how you were before you get pregnant?

JessicaTheLoved |

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I am at 28 weeks and this whole time my boyfriend has been begging me and I am just too tired or too lazy to because I don't find my belly attractive when I look down at it...I haven't had the feeling of wanting sex my whole pregnancy.

areinert1521 |

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Everyone really is different. I have NO SEX DRIVE at all. All I want to do is sleep! I just feel like I'm drained of energy so sex seems like a chore right now.I make sure to tell him he's sexy and we still make sure to cuddle and be close if we don't have sex. I think intimacy more than sex is important. I'm 12 weeks and my husband has been sooo supportive. He just initiates now and luckily likes doing most of "the work". But if it wasn't for him it would be non-existent.

tmjamey1 |

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I'm 12 weeks and I didn't feel like having sex at all. Usually I'm pretty stable emotionally, but lately I've been weepy at the drop of a hat. Last night we had sex and it felt like my emotions were put back where they needed to be. I didn't really feel like it at first, but I'm so glad I put that aside and let my husband make me feel sexy and like a woman again!

ndegerness |

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I went from being turned on all the time to not wanting to hear the WORD sex. I''m only about 10 weeks, and we have had sex twice. It is very important to continue to have sex while you're pregnant, for your sake and his. <-- I was given this advice last night by a good friend of mine. Hopefully this helps. (:

dnewton92 |

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I am the same way. Don't even want to be touched

2011BumbBaby |

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My fiance is throwing a fit more or less. Currently getting the silent treatment because I'm not feeling frisky. Before we found out I was pregnant we had sex almost everyday and now it's maybe once a week. I just don't feel good or am exhausted, but he just keeps bickering, which doesn't make it any better ofcourse. Ugh. =/

klcxsharp |

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I am just under eight weeks with our first pregnancy and I have had a very low libido since the beginning of my pregnancy. This is a huge change from before and it has been really difficult. I've found that talking with my husband about how I'm feeling has really helped him and then when I'm feeling better I at least try to get in the mood, even if it doesn't work out. He doesn't seem to feel neglected and he's been super supportive.

tiffanytherese |

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I am so glad to read these posts. I am 7 weeks and have no desire to have sex or even be touched. I feel so achy all the time and the last thing I want is to have sex. I am glad to know that I am not alone.

rhic2 |

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I have nothing but a little sex crazed beast since early in my pregnancy... even with all the horrible ALL DAY sickness and the vomiting and bed rest, all I want to do is jump on my hubby. He has had to push me off cause he says he doesnt want to hurt the baby. I had to take him to the doctor with me to prove that sex wont do the baby any harm. :)

atanori512 |

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Cuddos to the girls that put that feeling aside and just give your hubby a little love! He'll be much more ready to support you when his needs are met too! ;) My first pregnancy I was a complete 'horn-dog' during the second and third trimesters...he got to where he was rejecting me and boy that stings..to be on the other side of the rejection! Trust me girls..if this is your first..it WILL NOT get better after you have the baby...then you have a little one that is consuming your attention and you are going to want a satisfied pappa to help out without being all dopey. Besides you'll have a good 6-8 wks that the doc will say NO sex and it won't be your fault! :) :) ;) This second pregnancy I could go the whole time without it as far as I'm concerned, but I try to recall that hurt feeling I had when he turned me down...so now I tell him, look we are going for quickies, but I'm not doing a whole lot. Grab a bottle of lotion or oil and tell that man to give you a good massage, then work slowly into having sex, letting him pleasure you first! I'm much more upfront and that way we both get something..me=massage and him= simple sex...then i turn over and go to sleep while he takes care of little man, b/c he's so happy after! Win - win..good luck and hope it gets better girls!!!

jessbrewer08 |

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I am 35 weeks pregnant and i really haven't wanted to have sex the whole time, so far. I feel really bad for my husband because we use to have sex all the time and before i found out we were expecting i just didn't want too anymore. everyone told be it would get better in the second tri but it didn't and not that im in my third tri i still don't want to....I just don't know what to do, and for everything my husband deals with i feel so bad for him yet he doesn't complain or argue. I know it won't harm the baby i just don't want to for some reason

kbennett07 |

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I'm 12 weeks pregnant and my husband wants sex all the time and pretty much forces himself on me and idk what to do bc I feel awful most of the time and when I feel good I just want to go do things outside of the house like shop for the baby and go out to eat. I feel really bad about it but it's like he doesn't understand what I'm going through at all.

AliciaW06 |

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Whenever we're having sex, my stomach feels terrible, like I'm going to throw up. It sucks and he doesn't understand why we only have sex once a week. I kind of feel bad, but I always get over it. We used to have sex 3 or 4 times a week when we were trying, but as soon as I found out I was pregnant, that was all over.

AnnieJanel |

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Sex was great in the 2nd trimester, I felt good wasnt sick anymore and had some of my old energy back. Now that I am in the 3rd trimester the thought of sex makes me want to puke. When ever I try its like I can feel all of my organs shift up and it is VERY uncomfortable. We still do other stuff because I get that he has needs and I dont want to ignore him, plus it feels good to be close to my husband.

cherokeemomma87 |

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i'm 25 weeks, and my poor husband is feeling the neglect too. He doesn't push too hard or anything, but he still wants it... and i have no desire at all. It hurts, i'm so tired i can hardly move most days... i haven't even gotten wonderful sex dreams that could amp me up... poor guy!

amjimpa |

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I am right at 8 wks and I do not want sex.......i feel bad for my husband cause he tries to "attack" me but I just dont want it. When I do its like a second later I feel like I'm going to get sick....how bad would that be to get sick on my husband during it. I'm hoping this passes soon cause i dont know how much the poor guy can take lol

hjbeckwith |

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I am 8 weeks, my husbands in the air force so he's always tired, so makes it easier when i have no sex drive, but my sex drive come and goes, im usually to tired though.

H21eather |

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I feel lucky to have a very understanding husband, because I am almost 16 weeks and have only had sex with him a couple of times since I've been pregnant! I had really hoped the end of the first trimester would mean I would get in the mood, but that has not been the case. This is my second pregnancy and the first was pretty much the same. I'll share what actually works for us though... I usually go to bed before he does so when he comes to bed, he may rub on me a little and sometimes it does the trick. If he wakes me up in the middle of the night, I'm not already thinking about how tired I am or how I need to get some sleep. Keep in mind that he faces many nights of rejection for the few nights that it works! But when it does work it's great sex.

MAJC4321 |

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And by the way - I have offered 'pity sex' and he says that's not what he wants. I wish that more guys out there were like him and didn't have tantrums when they aren't getting any. I think my man respects the fact that the woman does all the hard work when it comes to baby making and he wants me to be happy.

MAJC4321 |

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OMG!!! I am soo happy to hear im nto the only one who feels like sex is just like ugh!! i am 15 weeks and just the thought of it just makes me think gross because of the way i feel not because of him. My boyfriend really hates that im never in the mood and he thinks im rejecting him and i dont love him. Just im soo tired and just feel like its to much work plus it hurts when we do. He says he understands but I know it hurts his feelings and I feel so bad. I just hope this feeling goes away so he can stop feeling neglected.

tryshstar |

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I know my husband is thanking God for me after reading this! I can't get enough sex during this pregnancy (I'm 19 weeks) & during my first. During the first pregnancy, he was VERY reluctant bevause he ws scared that he would hurt the baby. This time around, we're on the same page, but my 2 yr old is ALWAYS in the way, lol! I guess it depends on the person, as well as the factt that every pregnancy is different. I LOVE being pregnant! Not only do I just feel good just in general, I have never felt sexier than when I was pregnant, even through the morning sickness, weight gain (although mine is always minimal), & aches and pains, lol

DeeDaa313 |

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P.S. I would be lying if i said that iI ALWAYS wanted sex, because sometimes I am too tired, or nauseous, etc. But overall, i want it more than I don't. I don't know about anyone else, but sex while pregnant is the BEST sex ever! I never have orgasms that intense when I'm not pregnant! My husband knows this, & makes the effort to deliver 9 out of 10 times. Would that possibly help some women be more interested in having sex, knowing that you could have a mind blowing, tension releasing orgasm every time?

DeeDaa313 |

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I definitely blame the hormones. I probably lost all sex drive around 10 weeks... I'm 28 weeks now and still have no sex drive whatsoever. I was never a super horny person to begin with but at least I would have some sort of temptation lol... Sometimes though I just "give in" to make my bf happy because poor guy only gets it like once a month haha... sadly though I don't enjoy it at all and can't wait til the day when I will again. Is there anything you can take thats safe for the baby to increase your libido? If so, let me know! And now that I'm getting farther along in my pregnancy and my belly is starting to get larger, he's losing interest as well because I'm getting "big" (as in my belly gets in the way, not that I'm fat lol) and our little boy is in there :)

HawksFan12 |

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I'm 35 weeks and haven't had sex in 2months, my wonderful husband is patient, but I feel bad that he isn't getting satisfied in this dept. When my friend was prego all she could talk about what how much sex she wanted the last 3months of her pregnancy, I'm so glad that I've read this blog to find out I'm not alone. Thank goodness.

jolene1420 |

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now at 32 weeks i have had a great pregnancy and my lack of sex isnt due to lack of drive, i want to but its too painfull and too swollen. lube helps but my usual spot is not there anymore plus the cramping that comes along after. i hope after delivery everything goes back to normal. until then all i can do is the alternatives for my hubby's sake. he has been understanding thus far n takes wut he an get.

SJMMassa |

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Im 32 weeks, and at this point, its just really uncomfortable to have sex. I feel bad that I keep turning down my fiance, but hes really understanding about it. I still feel bad about it though :/ It just sucks to think how long its going to be before I can enjoy sex again!

brittbefuddled |

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I am 16 weeks on saturday and I have always been the one to jump in th bed with my husband!! when i was pregnant with our first son i was on bed rest from 15 weeks on due to bleeding and it sucked... this one i have no signs of problems so sex is great!!!

lillbitmore2love |

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Yup, I am there too. 29 weeks pregnant w/ #2 and this one has been completely different! With #1 I wanted sex, constantly...infact thats what broke my water and put me into labor!! This time around...I am so far from interested!! We had a miscarriage inbetween pregnancy #1 and this one and I think maybe Im a little nervous to do anything to affect this one? I am an OB nurse so I know that sex is perfectly safe but ugh...I just dont want too! I do wake up occassionally from one of those crazy prego dreams and want nothing more than to flip him over...but then I realize its 2 am and he's prob not interested...told him about it and he says JUST WAKE ME UP! LOL...poor guy, he's desperate. I am hoping those crazy sex drive hormones kick in before I have this lil one...Lord knows life gets too busy afterward!!!

Strowmatt |

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I am 8 weeks pregnant and any time my husband touches me or just wants to kiss me goodnight I just want to Vomit. Even his breath I cant stand and I usually love the smell of his breath. When we try to have sex, any little thing will turn me off.

dartnell |

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I'm glad to read I'm not the only one feeling this way.I feel horrible for my husband.Whenever he comes near me just to give me a kiss or rub my back I get super annoyed and tell him to leave me alone.At first me not wanting anything to do with sex was because I have 2 miscarriages before and feared sex would cause me to have another one but now I just don't want it at all and I'm just about 15 weeks pregnant.Everyone told me my feelings would change in the second trimester and my feelings towards not wanting it just got worse.I'm just glad my husband is very understanding but I still feel horrible.

livbeme |

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wow! So glad to know I'm not alone in this. I don't want to be touched, kissed or bothered. I've tried to do what I feel I should but it is impossible. I'm currently in my 14th week.

livinglife052011 |

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Im 8 weeks and everyday is different for sex. The majority of the time im just not feeling it AT ALL. My husband seems to be turned on even more by the fact im pregnant but i just feel sick and tired all the time that im sorry if im not into it. Its basically the last thing on my mind and sometimes its hard for him to understand that

OurJellybean |

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I'm 19 weeks with my second one & always want sex...but at the very beginning didn't want it at all I would just give in to avoid a fight. Now I can't get enough but orgasms make me sick to my stomach :-( so I'm at a loss & he still wins

SBrum87 |

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at first i wanted it all the time! but now im 25 weeks along and since the baby is moving and rolling around in me all the time i really dont feel like it. i dont want anything to do with anything getting near my belly or "you know where". plus i cramp up really bad and feel like a virgin when my husband and i have sex. its painful and it sucks because im normally the one who wants it all the time.

kelseybw |

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IM 38 WEEKS PREGNANT AND HAVE NOT HAD THE URGE TO HAVE SEX WITH MY HUSBAND AND I ALSO CRAMP UP AND FEEL LIKE A VIRGIN WHEN I HAVE SEX, THE TIGHTNESS PLEASES HIM BUT ITS HELL FOR ME AND IM HOPING THAT WILL HURRY UP AND ...YA KNOW BEFORE I DIE !! IM NOT SURE WHAT IT IS BUT IT SEEMS TO BE NORMAL .

quashyquashy |

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SO SO SO GLAD I read this!!! Im only 6 weeks and prepregnancy I was ALWAYS in the mood, it seems like at 5 weeks a switch was flipped and even when my fiance tries to cuddle I get annoyed :( poor guy, I feel so bad but I have no desire for any type of touching....hope it passes or I may be a single mama lmao jk but he's def not happy about this.

maeia82 |

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I'm 7 weeks and I have NO DESIRE AT ALL for sex! We tried the other night but had to stop because I started cramping and (not to his knowledge) sick. I feel so bad for my husband because we used to get busy all the time. It's causing problems because he thinks I don't want him no more and I'm always worried he may try and get it from somewhere else.

ambuxbaum |

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Im 30 weeks pregnant and dont want sex at all, its a big turn off. Iv been very depressed also so nothing turns me on.. I dont feel bad about it but I just try to show my husband some type of love.

Phatmom |

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It's a good thing I came across this message board. I am the same!!! I'm 11 weeks pregnant and I don't want sex! I'm too scared to do it plus I don't have the energy or the drive to do it. I feel bad for my husband but what can I do?! Wheew, thank god i'm not alone in this!

Aubs81 |

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I'm at 4.5 weeks (just found out). The last orgasm I had gave me sharp pains that were disconcerting - I didn't know I was pregnant at that point. Here now, days later, with no incentive to end orgasms with mysterious pain, I'm having general mild cramping and a wish that he could find something more interesting than me for the next week.

Budder21 |

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Oh my goodness. I'm glad to know others are like myself. I'm 9 weeks along and don't want sex or to be touched by anyone. I feel as though sometimes i'm suffocating when i give in to my DH. I Tried to explain it, and i think he understands. He is just frustrated all the time. thank you everyone for letting me know i'm normal

dinosaurpiratepenguin |

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i'm almost 13 weeks pregnant and after reading all of these stories, i feel sooo much better. i do not want my husband touching me. i feel soo bad because he thinks i'm a "dud" now, but i just have absolutely no sex drive, and i've also been having pain during sex. i'll take one for the team just to make him happy, but i'm really hoping this doesn't last much longer.

danienkev |

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I am almost 8 weeks, and I knew from the get-go that my sex drive would probably be erratic, but I didn't know I wouldn't even want to cuddle! So glad to hear I'm not the only one in terms of that. My husband is a major cuddle-bug, which I've always LOVED, but now if he hugs me, I just feel suffocated! I am on my knees and praying that my sex drive comes back in the 2nd trimester, cuz right now it's maybe 1-2 times per week (MAYBE) because I always feel extremely bloated and nauseated afterwards. *sigh*

nove1198 |

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I think it's normal depending on the person. I personally would love to feel comfortable having sex with my husband right now because I love having that time with him but it's just physically uncomfortable for me to even think about it. I feel so bad for my husband!!

C.Lopez |

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It was three months before I wanted to be touched at all let alone have sex... I ended up feeling very guilty about it, but you shouldn't do anything that you aren't comfortable with. Don't worry because after that there is a complete 180! Tell your partner to just hold on until then.

mckinncm191 |

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We're on our 2nd and with our 1st I didn't want anything to do with with my poor husband. This time around he doesnt even really try, which i'm grateful for because the last thing I want is to be naked right now. Normally I want him more than he wants me so it's a stark contrast to my normal behavior, but I assume it's the hormones, but mostly it's cause most of the day I spend over a toilet or willing my food to stay down.

Charli84 |

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We are having our 1st and I'm 10weeks along. The thought of sex makes me feel sick! I feel absolutely dreadful all the time and with our current circumstances I'm stressed trying to figure out how we can even afford this baby. I truly feel guilty because my husband looks like he is slowly loosing it but I hear it gets better in the next trimester. And hopefully we have a better financial plan by then!

SupremeSoul |

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I am just about 16 weeks pregnant, and I just dont know.... One day im just too tired or too sick... while the next day I just cant get enough. Starting last week, however, I havent stopped trying to get enough that my fiancee told me he needed a break. lol

sasme36 |

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I am 6 weeks and I am always just way too tired to have sex right now. I'm thinking of seducing my husband sometime in the afternoon, because lets face it, if we wait until it is time to go to bed, it is just not going to happen! I go to bed with good intentions and then WHAM! I am knocked out from exhaustion. I even tried taking a shower before bed to wake me up and all that happened was I went to sleep with my hair wet and woke up with it looking like God knows what! I think the trick is to not get discouraged and have a good sense of humor about it with your husband. I keep telling mine that one of these days hormones are going to kick in and he will be the exhausted one! :) Good Luck ladies!

Izzboof |

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i am 16 weeks pregnant and i want nothing to do with sex at all once in awhile and he gets so mad about it and it gets me even more mad he feels like i dont give him any attention or affection

kaitlynb612 |

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I am 11 wks, sick as a dog, and also can not stand the thought of sex. Even when I explain in full to my husband what the pregnancy hormones are doing to me to make me sick and turned off, he still doesn't get it. It actually turned him more to hear how swollen and enlarged my breasts are. I try to accommodate him but even his smell (which I used to love) is too strong for my senses and makes me want to vomit. Is there a pill we gals can take to make this better? Help!

timanda103 |

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timanda103 lol i felt the exact same way at the beginning of my pregnancy! my bf asking me for sex made me want to smack him and puke in my mouth. suddenly the smell of him was every where on the couch on the pillows on the sheets, it made me sooo sick! but i used to love his smell! and the thought of him close to me was a nightmare wow at one point i even thought of breaking up with him. he was so miserable poor thing. now at 18 weeks almost 19 i feel the love has come back, we do it everyday!

ReineP |

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Its painful to me since I'm 34 weeks after I'm very sore and the doctor said I'm swell down there because of blood flow so we are avoiding sex till the baby here .

ALB4EVER05 |

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I feel bad for my boyfriend because I don't want to, but he completely does not understand where I'm coming from. All of his buddies said that their girls were all over them, but I simply don't want to. He thinks I should anyway, which makes me not want to even more. It's a no win situation for both of us.

LilyMo02092012 |

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I was feeling very frisky around 6 weeks (even though I was exhausted and queazy all the time). Now I am 10 weeks 4 days and I just don't have a sex drive at all! I am not freaked out by sex during pregnancy it just feels like more work then it is worth....besides I hate the smell of my husband's after shave now!

pattyl2582 |

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I have the same problem! My fiance is going nuts, being very affectionate. Sometimes he tries everything he can think of, back rubs, seduction scenes, and all - only for me to actually get nauseous when he tries. I'm personally making jokes about the baby being possessive (it's a boy), but when I actually get ill attempting sex it just gets hard. :(

Walnuto |

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I wanted sex all the time during the first couple of months and now I want nothing to do with it! Its too much work to find a position that physically works and I'm just too tired. My poor boyfriend has only gotten it once in the past 5 weeks....I feel terrible and want to just force myself to do it....but I just can't seem to! Now we are emotionally disconnected and I'm starting to want it again but I'm so disgusted with my body and his attitude that emotionally I don't want it!

nhermie |

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I am only 6 weeks along and heard some of the first words about my non-friskiness. His exact works were "I give you my seed, and then you cast me aside." hahaha Although he was laughing, I know I havn't been all into it. I guess many of you ladies are feeling the same, so now I dont feel so bad...hehe Morning sickness is just hitting me now throughout the day, so trying hard to get that under control with a routine that works.

slednecksonya |

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i am 16 weeks pregnant and have NO desire for sex!! Even the thought of kissing my BF makes me feel uneasy. We were not dating for very long when we found out we were preggers so he thinks its bc i dont care for him anymore. Anyone else get pregnant early on in their relationship?

rachelahillhouse |

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My sex drive came and went with my son. Sometimes I was just...um...horny as heck. Most of the time I just had no interest or else sex would stimulate my nausea. I probably should have been more honest with my husband but usually I would just stay quiet and deal with it.

Cheriemimi |

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I've always had a nice sex drive. With my daughter, it sky rocketed. A few weeks ago, the thought of even having my hand held by my partner is irritating. Don't touch me! A kiss?! Really?! Why?! Then...I peed on a stick. Oh, that's why. My poor partner is bearing the brunt of my hormone driven anti-romance. Hopefully it comes back in the next trimester. In the meantime, just give me a nice book to read and go play Battlefield 3, honey.

FyreFlyeRush |

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This is so nice to hear.. I am 12 weeks pregnant and i have been nothing but sick with morning sickness and other illnesses.. I have NO DESIRE for sex in any way shape or form, I get nauseated just thinking about it.. I can barely be in a vehicle driving and i get sick.. but its nice to know im not the only one out there.. was starting to think i better suck it up!!

seidellj |

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I'm currently 37 weeks and I havent been interested in sex in several months.I dont know if it has to do with the fact that I've had 2 miscarriages and I'm scared of doing something to hurt my baby or what the problem is.When I am some what in the mood,I'm so tired that I just wanna roll over and go to sleep.

mommydavis23 |

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When I was pregnant with my first son there was no way in heck my husband was touching me but now with our second baby and I'm 13 weeks for some reason my sex drive is great which is crazy...no only if I could get my husband on board

Sosam009 |

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i was explaining the low drive and how the thought sometimes make me sick to my husband and he couldn't quite comprehend or fathom it. Seems so extreme to him.

shellyram |

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I am 6 weeks pregnant and I still get turned on and want sex, but after we get goin I start to feel sick to my stomach from the movement and have to stop....it's very frustrating

KTJes |

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I'm sixteen weeks and still experiencing morning sickness, backaches and sore breasts. A couple of days ago I was turned on by my husband's suggesting and agreed to make love but just before I reached orgasm I had to stop and be sick.

elainamadisonp |

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i've had severe hyperemesis (zofran 3x a day, iv hydration, nauseous most of the day) plus the sore breasts and backaches. plus i have major depressive disorder and tried to go w/out meds - well, at 17 weeks i'm back on meds, didn't want to do it but i had no choice, maj dep disorder is nothing to mess with. i hate it b/c i imagined pregnancy to be this beautiful experience, not so much. the last thing i want is sex. i do "take one for the team" every now and then, sometimes i vomit because of the movement, it's just awful, lol. i also miss the closeness with my husband. it relieves me to see that i'm not crazy. id always heard about the increased sex drive during pregnancy, i'm the opposite. thanks for sharing girls!!!

meaghan1975 |

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I'm so glad I'm not the only one who gets physically ill from sex. I'm slightly backwards: my first trimester I couldn't get enough. Now in my second, I pray that he falls asleep without touching me. Some nights he's ok with no for an answer, others he's pushy. Some nights I'm ok with sex, but for the most part I either just want him to finish so I can go to sleep or I am physically ill from participating. One night I literally almost threw up on him to the point that I had to swallow twice and RUN to the bathroom. Not to wish bad things, but I'm so glad someone else is ill, too. I thought I was losing it.

TxMommy87 |

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I was like that in the first 2 months that id rather do anything else than sex but now im all over the idea. I too thoguht there was something wrong with me.. I think its more or less just a phase.

neepsi16 |

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I'm 10 weeks pregnant and am having a hard time getting aroused. My mind thinks about sex but my body just isn't interested. I make sure my husband knows and understands what is happening. I don't want him thinking it is something with him. We have been doing a lot of cudding and I have been trying to be extra attentive to his meals so that he can see I am still trying. I hope my sex drive picks up soon.

kellyl831 |

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I'm 19 weks and have no desire at all, but I know that my husband still ahs needs and desires. I do still get aroused, but the intense blood flow makes me hurt really bad after sex so i don't look forward to it. So in a compromise, we only have sex 2 to 3 times a week. This way he is satisfied and I don't have to be in pain. It seems to be working as he doesn't get as grumpy anymore as he used to and I don't feel bad or feel like I'm completely neglecting is needs.

Edavis1117 |

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I'm 20 weeks and don't think about having sex with my partner at all. I don't want him to touch me, breath on me, or come near me. I just feel like I'm pushing away from him. But now I do masturbate and I feel better doing that on my own time than lay down and have sex with him. I think it's normal. lol

dani336 |

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I'm 14 weeks, and i was totally freaked out by sex till about a week ago, i felt so bad for my fiance, i didn't want him thouching me at all. Now he laughs about it, and talks to my belly tellin our baby thank you (creepier). I guess i was right on time, but this different for everyone so no one should freak out about the lack of, or intensity of our sex drive.

Missjones13 |

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phew. this is a relief to read. i feel horrible for my BF because he's so affectionate and loving of my growing belly, but the last thing I want is sex. AND...the last two times we've done it, it's been a bloody mess (I'm assuming this is the due to the increased bloodflow down there). I've been told to take one for the team once in awhile, by my mom of all people, but I can't summon the motivation for it.

bbudwick |

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I am 23 weeks right now... not really interested in sex right now. Mostly because I am getting larger and the positions that have worked in the past are uncomfortable. Everything hurts. I hope this turns around soon.

dianesing |

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I am 18 weeks now, I want nothing to do with sex. I told my husband he will get it once a month, twice if he is lucky. Haha! I just don't feel sexy, and I am nervous about anything going up there. My doctor told me sex is totally fine and maybe relieve and discomfort I do feel down there, but I really cannot bring myself to do it. Sometimes, I do feel frisky, but I just end up cuddling with my husband. I told him that as soon as the baby is born and all is okay to have sex, I will blow his mind. I think we are both counting down!

kelliannep89 |

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Im 23 weeks and have had very little interest for most of those. how ever what started out as lack of interest has now becomemore extreem but not limited to sex. my hormones are on over drive icant even hardly stand the touch of my clothes at times let alone cuddles, etc. from my 2yr old or my boyfriend :( i'm also sensitive to sound i just find my self very overwhelmed by all my sences... Touch, sight, sound, and smell.

oliviazmail@aol.com |

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Im 7 weeks and as soon as my husband gets up, he knows Im ready for him. I've been really in the mood for it and my god does it feel amazing! The sex is better for me now than ever before, everything is so sensitive its awesome.

toriloveWed100228 |

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I'm 33 weeks pregnant and I have not gotten the urge to sleep with my husband once. I only do it because I feel bad for him and don't want him to be or feel left out. We used to have a great sex life and now it just grosses me out. It doesn't help that it feels like our baby Is trying to get as far from the action as possible when we do make love. He is content, but I just end up sore and occasionally nauseous. Besides the total lack of hormones and energy, I am so self conscious it's unreal. My stretch marks are all over my legs and butt (his favorite areas), my boobs are ridiculously saggy, and the discharge that comes with pregnancy is so embarrassing.

bethybabycakes |

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I'm 25 weeks pregnant, from week 6 to about week 13 I had morning, afternoon, and evening sickness, everything I smelt that was even the slightest bit gross, sent me straight to the nearest bathroom. But when I did feel ok, sex wasn't so bad, but at about 22 weeks when my belly made its appearance, I have absolutely NO interest in sex what's so ever, It makes me sick, I love my finance but I'm just not in the mood at all.

kylienicole90 |

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When i first found out i was pregnant i was way too worried that i would miscarry so i didnt want sex what so ever. And now that i am 18 wks i feel fat and un sexy and uncomfortable. I HATE sex right now!!! I am hoping that either it will pass or i will become better at "just taking one for the team"

Jnelson08 |

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Hoping that at some point the "want" will come back... Since we work somewhat opposite times it works out to my advantage.. its horrible...

nabhajazz |

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I am going on 33 weeks and I feel like sex is a chore. I am in so much pain all the time and afterwards it's worse. My pelvis hurts and my back hurts...It is so exhausting just thinking about it. My husband knows it's difficult for me and he knows that it's coming to a point very soon that I won't be able to physically do it anymore.

butterlfy2007 |

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honestly all i can thin k about is sex and rough sex, unfortunately my man is no where near me because he works far from here, but everytime we do have sex all i wanna do is jus thrw up, i feel kinda alone cuz i havent seen anyone posting anything similar as yet!!

charminbabe |

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I'm 10 weeks along and have been pretty sick. I just let my husband know when I'm feeling good. Some days all I want is him but others just him touching me sends me to the bathroom. I guess that's normal but I like the fact that we communicate. It's made the days when I'm too sick to do anything easier on our marriage.

BrycesGirl |

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I am so glad to read these post and see that I am not the only one. with my 5 year old it was so much diffrent but this time around i dont want him to touch me,look at me anything, I was starting to get a little nervous!

ellasmommy001 |

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im 25 weeks prego and sex is the last thing on my mind. not only am i dead tired from junior inside me but i have my toddler daughter all day who is going through her tantrum stage. intercourse and anything going up in there is painful for me and i tell hubby that but i feel terrible because hubby is frustrated and feels neglected. sometimes i just suck it up and do my best but at my next doctor appointment im going to ask them to tell us why it hurts and how to fix it.

AkiraWindflyer |

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Sex made me scheeve during my first pregnancy and I thought this one would be different but I would rather do anything other than have sex, cuddle, kiss or anything remotely related to sex. My husband says he understands but then won't quit trying to grope my breasts... I feel guilty for the way I feel but can't seem to help it.

katytiger1999 |

Q&A: Sickened by sex during pregnancy?

I am 19 weeks pregnant and just like most of u mommies to be SEX IS THE LAST THING ON MY MIND!!! My fiance can't understand this because we had sex EVERY single day from the day we met until I was about 12 wks. Then my sex drive went south quickly and I cant stand the thought of him touching me, a peck kiss, holding hands nothing affectionate at all. I hope this 2nd trimester/20 wk hormone shift kicks in ASAP i'm sure he's tired of pleasing himself :-(

moejigga |

Q&A: Sickened by sex during pregnancy?

I'm so glad that I'm not alone! I thought pregnancy would boost my sexual drive, but it's done the total opposite! I'm already in my 2nd trimester and Sex is the last thing on my mind! Does anyone have a cure for this because I feel soo bad for my husband, he is so frustrated with me!

OptimisticAlicia |

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I feel so bad because I use to wonder why the guy seems to cheat during pregnancy, I don't want to think like that but the men do!

OptimisticAlicia |

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I also feel bad for my husband, we had a rocky sex life after I returned from Iraq the first time and where I developed cervical displaysia. It was getting better for about a year until we got pregnant. Now I am about 7 weeks and I am so tired and just don't feel sexy at all. It's only been 2 weeks since we had sex but I feel really guilty. I tried to explain it to him and assure him that it will get better in a few more weeks. Poor guy.

PastryMom53 |

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Maybe you are not in the mood for sex.I mean my wife and I used to watch live sex cams and everything was great.I can't imagine why sex makes you sick because sex is one of those things which is supposed to make you feel better.

Markuan1 |

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why do you torture us like this!!! we already know we will have less sex once the baby comes!! I am so annoyed with you all!!!

jrtaylor625 |

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I explained it to my husband like this: You know when you over eat, like really over eat? And your stomach hurts and you feel gross? And sex is the last thing that you want and is even unappealing? That's how I feel ALL THE TIME. Really full and queasy. And when he asked if I need to be "into it" to participate, I reminded him that when he's not "up for it", I don't have that choice, and we can count these pregnancy months toward his past and future declines. Because ladies, as your man gets older, there will be times when he isn't up for it when you are.

jsoubel |

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I am 17 weeks now and my fiance and me love to have sex. Don't get sick thinking about it he's extra hot and its not hard to love it :)

tricey162 |

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I feel soooo relieved hearing everything. I have waves of intense yearning for sex with my husband, but with digestional issues, hormones, nesting in full gear, and a pinched nerve, I find that I feel anxious about sex now, at 19 weeks. It used to just happen, now I feel like it takes me forever to clear my mind, my body says YES YES YES, while my mind CANNOT SHUT OFF, any suggestions? Hubby is great, we do cuddle and do other affectionate things, just the sex thing and my busy mind are not working together the last week and a half (which is a long time for us to not have sex).

morrill14 |

Q&A: Sickened by sex during pregnancy?

It is sad that I dont have a that drive to want to right now but I feel for my man cause i know he does and I dont. Then i start feeling embarassed and feeling sorry for myself because of my body hormones :(.... I want to so bad but my mind also runs like a thousand miles an hour on so much. He is understanding about it all but I at least try to help him some how in that section. Is it suppose to hurt during sex? Cause the reason why I cant is due to the pains that I get, it really hurts bad. I just know im not alone. :(

ashcoronado21 |

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I guess what is also making it worse is the fact that since I found out I was pregnant and began feeling all of the symptoms my sense of smell is heightened. He SWEARS that he is nto wearing cologne or anything like that but the smell of him makes me nauseaus.. You can imagine the effort I've had to make not to make a face whenever he's close to me. payday loans online

Richkpysandwich |

Q&A: Sickened by sex during pregnancy?

I have had very little interest in sex my entire pregnancy. I would LOVE to be one of those women who has the hormone surge and wants to get it on all the time. I think my husband's feelings are hurt that I don't seem interested. Sex seems to be the way men experience intimacy and he feels alienated. Even though I know he feels this way, the thought of it disturbs me. Part of it is my body...I'm 36 weeks pregnant and just feel like a big ball of fat. I haven't been able to work out for most of my pregnancy and it definitely affects the way I feel about myself.

skylartryp |

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Omg.. I have never been so relieved in my entire life.. I am about 2 months pregnant and my sex drive is like wayyyyyy below zero.. my boyfriend gives me enough affection to last me a lifetime, but even the thought of a kiss from him nauseates me.. I hate that he litterally makes me sick.. I just want all this to be over.. he always wants to be around me, but I can't stand his scent.. everything about him disgusts me.. eww

beebee10 |

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If you don't feel like having sex, you could try watching wow porn with your husband. Maybe that could stimulate you more and get you in the right mood. Hope you don't mind my advice. Good luck!!

ZumbaMadness |

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Or you could try watch another real couple having live sex so you can get some ideas.

nikelecy |

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As I read on a dating cougars site, just because sex is safe during pregnancy doesn't mean you'll necessarily want to have it! Many expectant mothers find that their desire for sex fluctuates during certain stages in the pregnancy. Also, many women find that sex becomes uncomfortable as their bodies get larger.

katerninaaslaw |

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I'm 26 weeks and right before we found up all the way up to now I have not wanted sec either. My husband is such a sweetheart and truly does understand. I try to make him feel needed in every other way that I can besides physically. I found out I also have a very low lying placenta so for about 1 1/2 months we swore off sex completely. I do on random and seldom occasions get in the mood and actually feel physically up to it, but I still have the fear of my placenta bursting or bleeding so it is hard. I miss my physical relationship with my husband :(

kdrennen |

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If you're sickened by sex during pregnancy, then you should try to watch some adult videos before. Me and my wife did so while she was pregnant and it helped a lot.

deanjohnson |

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When you are pregnant, sex is not the same anymore as it was before and this is when the relationship gets cold. I heard that many couples even make a signed agreement before wedding.

deanjohnson |

Q&A: Sickened by sex during pregnancy?

Since I was about 6 weeks Ive been completely turned off by sex, I feel bad for my husband because in the last 30 weeks I may have gave in like twice. He thinks I dont love him anymore, and its because he gained weight since I got prego (gotta love late night fast food cravings)... Im still totally in love with him, he means the world to me but no matter what I say to him I cant get him to beleive me. Im even grossed out by the idea of him just doing stuff for me, he does offer, it makes him think even more that its him. He thinks Im going to leave him for someone hotter, or skinnier. How can I go about getting him to stop being so worried? I want to spend my life with him and our little family and I just want him to understand its me not him!

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Q&A: Sickened by sex during pregnancy?

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matrex722 |

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Im so glad that I found this. This is my fourth pregnancy 24wks and I've never felt like this...no sex. My poor boyfriend is takeing it (i think) and always wants to say "i understand". We have had fights over this. I've tried to watch thoese movies with him. But I feel like I have to fake it just for him. Even when we do have sex I don't even cum :( which makes me not want to do it for another 2-3 weeks. I'm glad that I'm not the only one who is going thru this. Thanks ladies and congrats on all of our lil ones who are a truely a blessing and messing up our grooves....lol

ShayB4 |

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I'm glad i found this too. I am a little over 6 weeks and my husband doesn't even want to sleep in the same bed with me anymore because he says all i do is push him away. I have no urge for sex and i can tell it really bothers him. Sometimes this early in pregnancy you can spot after having sex which is another reason the thought of sex just turns you off.

countrygirl15327 |

Q&A: Sickened by sex during pregnancy?

I am 34 wks and don't want anything to do with sex... Earlier in my pregnancy the mood would just hit me but not now... My husband tries so hard to get me to every day... when i do i am extremely sore and tired and it just ain't worth it... Even if i just let him get his I still hurt for two or three days... I feel awful because i know he has needs but i just can't fulfill them right now...

kjhuskey |

Q&A: Sickened by sex during pregnancy?

I am almost 36 weeks pregnant and every time my boyfriend touches me I feel intense sparks of desire, but he's usually not interested...

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gantengsekali |

Q&A: Sickened by sex during pregnancy?

I am at 33 weeks now and also have no sex drive. I have read many comments on here but I feel alone with the reason why I don't want to have sex. I have ADHD and my thoughts always focus of how weird it is to me that there is another living being in the in the same room and right between my husband and I!! I know the baby has NO CLUE what is going but I can't stop thinking about the fact that my baby is right there too and constantly focus on that which is a total turn off. I don't even like to be touched because I keep thinking my baby can hear me and then its a turn off too. I just can't clear these thoughts and wish I could do something soon since there won't be much time when the baby comes!

mmebus00 |