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Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

I am almost 5 months pregnant and my husband and I have had sex only one time, since discovering the good news. I don't know if he is turned off, although he says he doesn't want to hurt the baby. I initiate a conversation and he doesn't want to talk about it. I even told him I would do certain things for him, just so we could be intimate and he doesn't want to. Most friends I've talked to said they were still having sex up until a few weeks before the baby arrived. Is there something wrong with my picture?

Re: I am almost 5 months pregnant and my husband and I have had sex only one time, since discovering the good news. I don't know if he is turned off, although he says he doesn't want to hurt the baby. I initiate a conversation and he doesn't want to talk about it. I even told him I would do certain things for him, just so we could be intimate and he doesn't want to. Most friends I've talked to said they were still having sex up until a few weeks before the baby arrived. Is there something wrong with my picture?

The Bump Expert

First of all, forget what "most of your friends say they were doing" during their pregnancies. Every man and woman experiences pregnancy and sex differently. You need to get the bottom of his feelings and attitudes. Tell him you understand his concerns about potentially harming the baby and you'd like him to get reassurance from your healthcare provider. Either bring him along for your next appointment or call them and they can discuss this with him down the phone. Or, buy a pregnancy book that provides information about this. Undoubtedly it will reassure parents that their baby won't be harmed by having sex as long as you're fit and well.

Next explore with him if he has a belief that somehow the mother of his child should not be a sex goddess too. Many men find it hard to combine seeing their wife as a mother and a lover. If he'll open up about such attitudes it'll be easier to get him to see you as a whole woman. Certainly if you're "in the mood" don't talk about baby-stuff with him because that will put him off. Also that way he can practically ignore that you're pregnant while you're trying to get him in the mood for love. Men can get pretty good at that denial thing! Once you've come this far dress attractively, light some candles and put some new mood music on. Hopefully he'll be able to let go and see you as a lover again.

--Dr. Pam Spurr

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Paula Kashtan

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Can you masterbate?

babyhopeful |

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It was not easy at first for my husband and me to figure out the whole sex thing. He was concerned about the "hurting the baby" thing, especially since the first time we had spotting. Once we cleared it with the doc and realized there are a plethora of other things we can do to get it on, he relaxed. We still don't have it all the time (well, as much as I would like) and he still has residual concerns, but I can tell you it has been fun doin' it.

LadyCheena |

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And yes, you can still masturbate.

LadyCheena |

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Is it normal to have to stop in the middle of sex to go potty?

ebb924 |

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I feel like Im on a really bad ride at the amusement park. I enjoy it but at the same time. Im about to throwup at any moment.

Woohoneychild |

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My partner and I have had sex a couple of times since I became pregnant, but I couldn't enjoy it because it hurt me and I had to get him to stop. He's really understanding about it and says we don't have to if I don't want to, but I do, I enjoy sex and I don't want to go throught he next five months without it. Does anyone else have this problem and if so, what can I do about it?

toptotty81 |

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I'm glad to know that I'm not alone dealing with this. My husband had no problem at first having sex when I was pregnant with our daughter. Now all of a sudden, he thinks it may be a boy, he doesn't want to put a dent in the babies head. I'm going CRAZY!!!

ChiPeace |

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Hey toptotty81, I feel the same exact way. I'm just gonna keep trying. What do you think by now?

tinosbaby |

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my husband and I were having the same issue, pain during sex. My midwife suggested that we try using a lot of lube because when you are prego you may become VERY dry which can lead to a sandpaper sort of feeling. We have switched from KY to Astroglide and it seems to be doing the trick. MUCH BETTER! I hope my advice helps :)

ashchavez |

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My DH wants it all the time but he does not seam to understand why I don't. I end up doing it anyways most the time but I don't really enjoy it. It is more of a chore.

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Hey Toptotty talk to your doctor about lidocaine. It's helped me a ton! I'm not pregnant yet but it sure helps. Hope it helps you - or that you're allowed to use it. Good luck!

Cranberri7 |

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It's not him that's scared of the prego sex it's me. Everytime we had sex during my 1st trimester I ended up in the hospital with severe bleeding. I had twins and lost 1 but I was able to keep the other thankfully. And I'm horney as hell but scared to have sex because I don't wanna end up in the hospital again

elmo777e@yahoo.com |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

I had the same prblem with bleeding and my dr suggested just waiting a few weeks then trying again when my cervix was closed properly, we did and everything as been fine with bleeding since then

Hannah_M |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

I'm the one who no longer likes sex. mostly everyone up says he's not the one giving it up. I'm terrified to do it with my man. I have a heart problem, and I'm terrified that it may complicate things....I don't feel sexy, even though he tells me that he loves the baby belly on me, and that I couldn't be more beautiful than I am....

Mom2Be2010 |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

My husband and I had sex all the way up to my due date with our pregnancy. It is perfectly normal to be afraid of hurting the baby. As long as the doctor says it's okay and you are both healthy enough, there is nothing wrong with it. The easiest way to help him out, is to take him to your next check up and have the DR explain this to him. On the whole sex thing, I actually found it was me and is me that doesn't like to have sex. No energy. But that all changes once my second trimester begins. . .then it becomes a 6 month long honeymoon :D

MsKay88 |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

maybe you are not having wild sex?? my husband and i just got married and are having sex 18 out of 24 hours each day.

melissa_pregnant |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

My man and I are still having sex, but im only just barely getting started on month 2... But I have a question... are there positions that are safer than others for the baby?

sarahmayjohnson |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

NOTE:(I AM A VERY OPEN PERSON SO PLEASE DON'T BE OFFENDED)Please don't feel left out. I have only had sex twice with my fiance, since we first found out. And I am 7 MONTHS PREGNANT!! 31 WEEKS! I hate it! I feel so fat and ugly and unwanted. But I think its just they are afraid of hurting the lil one. Thats the only understanding that I have. Because believe it or not, I am more beautiful now than ever. We all are more beautiful being pregnant. It does make me mad though we my best friend who is pregnant also, tells me that her and her husband get it on all the time. Just hang in there. There will be better days to come, after the baby arrives. Just find the perfect schedule. Or if it makes you really upset, then try opting to using other methods. Introduced sex toys if need be. (HEY JUST AN IDEA) I have thought about it. And if your husband is still not interested then, you have a toy of your own to please your self. LOL

Mommalokita |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

Dont panic he is just worry about "his" babymen are from mars remember tell him he dont go nowhere around the baby no mans that blessed if you know what i mean and hell straight out tell him "IM HORNY AS HELL" its a pregancy symptoms and good luck!!!

NIKKIRU |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

OMG I'm so glad someone else is going through this too. Before we got pregnant (and we are right around 5 months too) we would have sex 3-4 times a week. Once we found out about the baby the sex started to go. I/we thought it was just stress...another month went by and I started to get worried. I mean what man does not want sex? I did not gain any weight, I look the same, I'm only now starting to show and still have only gained 3lbs. So I was really confussed and with the new hormones I was crying ALOT. The other night I got in the shower to cry (again) and he got in with me. Nothing happened :( We finally talked and for my husband it's that he wants to respect me and the baby. He feels like it would be wrong to have sex while he is in there. I offered "services" too and he said he didn't feel like that was a proper thing for me to be doing now. It's so hard, I know. We talked with the doctor and he said it's very normal for a man to see his woman in a new light and it takes some time to adjust. Also, some men can't get over the fact there is a person in there and it's just too wierd for them. I agree with setting a relaxing mood, don't talk baby talk, and just be intimate. Maybe it will lead to something great. In the mean time, take the time to talk and connect in other ways. Although I'm not being physical with him, I feel SO close to him. We have a lot of just cuddle time when I feel like the three of us are bonding. That can be great too, but I know what you are going through. I'm glad we are not alone. Good luck to you and your new family.

jgilstrap |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

I am 10 weeks. I am the one that is not interested in sex. I am tired after dealing with work all day. But the few times that we have had sex since we found out, it takes him a few minutes because he says that it feels weird. He doesn't want to hurt the baby or me. I told him that he isn't going to hurt the baby. I do have a question if anyone knows the answer. My husband said that he heard that having sex during pregancy is good for the baby and it will help with delivery. Has anyone else heard of this?

1jm_cotton |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

I've heard that sex during pregnancy can be helpful with the delivery too. It is supposed to prevent infection, and towards the end of pregnancy it helps to soften your cervix so the baby's head moves through easier. My husband was nervous at first, but after I assured him that the baby was safe a few times he got over it pretty quickly.

boyscout8 |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

At first my husband was worried about hurting the baby, but I explained to him how far up the baby actually is and not to flatter himself. After a good laugh, we did it constantly for the first 5 months. Now that I'm 7 1/2 months, it's not so much fun for me anymore. We still do it, but not as much, and sometimes we just fool around. He's okay with that too.

strickmama |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

I am six months pregnant ans wishing my husband woudl wantto have sex! For some reason a month has gone by and I have said things like" So, do we not have sex anymore?" All he does is just kinda laugh and does not say much. I already don't feel pretty and thin as I once did with myself. I just wish he would engage in it with me so I don't feel like there is something wrong with me. I have explinaed to him that it is actually healthy for couples to have sex during pregnancy. It keeps them close and helps the woman if she is having any insecurities. Is there anything else I should say to get him to be okay with this? To me I am completley comfortable having sex.

Abbypuck |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

I am only 11 weeks pregnant but me and husband are having really great sex. In fact even the night I told him I was pregnant we had amazing sex. He also has went to both my office visits with and on our visit one of the first and last things my doctor said to us was that sex was ok and not to worry about it hurting the baby. I can tell that im not as horny as usual but I used to be the one begging for it all the time. My husband on the other hand surprisingly didnt want sex that much before but now that i am prego he wants it a lot more frequently and its a lot better than before. We are just different and so are men. If he doesnt go to the doc with just make sure to let him there is no harm to the baby.

Dancer86 |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

I'm 18 weeks and my SO can't get enough. I seem to be the one not wanting it anymore!

keelyxrosepetal |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

It's completely not even harmful & in fact healthy for your marriage to still have sex. Bring him to your obgyn visit so the doctor can assure him it's okay.

angela.mehaffie |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

At 1st, I didn't want my hunny to touch me, he would try to get me in the mood and I would just tell him to stop... He was very understanding, but he is a guy so he would try any chance he had. It was so funny, cause I just didn't want to be touched. After a month and going to the Dr. The Dr. made me feel better knowing that nothing will happen to our baby. Now we are having our love back, but let me just add that even though I know that everything is fine. I tend to laugh or stop and tell him to not be so move-mental or loud cause the baby is hearing us! lol

Jo_Emily |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

My husband is very turned on by the fact that I am pregnant, but I am soooooo tired all of the time that I am never really in the mood (we haven't had sex for alomst 2 weeks now, which is pretty much a record for us). I am congested and not interested in giving him BJs nor do I want him to go down on me. I just feel like sleeping ALL THE TIME. Please tell me this lethargy passes.

Marilincredible |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

My husband and I have also only had sex once...but more by my choice than his....or not choice more because I have been quite sick and the last thing I am thinking about is that. I have had a few dreams about it which wakes me up at night. My husband thinks it's very sexy to be carrying his child and tries to initiate but it's hard to do when you are nauseous and dizzy etc. I tell him to hang in there, hopefully it will be over soon.

angelame1979 |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

My Fiancee and I have had a better sex life then ever now that we are expecting, but the fact that he is VERY well endowed worries me. I am only about 7 weeks pregnant but I am already starting to show a little bit and when we have deep penetration I can feel his member if i put my hand on the bottom of my belly. Can this be bad for the baby?

kpbonnes |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

I am just now 5 months along. My husband and I just got married in January and ever since then we not had sex. it didnt really bother me in the beginning because I was so tired all the time but for the past month all I want to do is have sex. he keeps saying he doesnt want to hurt the baby or he is too tired. I have cried myself to sleep every night for the last week. All i can think about his how unattractive i am and how he doesnt love me the same anymore. i have tried to talk to him but i think he just feels like he doesnt want to hurt me by telling me how he really feels. I am having a very hard time with this subject right now.

kemeeker |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

well he is nt going huet the bbe

mko9900 |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

I'd love to recommend "What to Expect when you're Expecting", a wonderful book and very widely used. It's been a great help to my HB and me!!! Especially on this topic. I've been comforted over and over with this book, especially when I don't have the doctor to converse with right away. :)

[MAK] |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

my husband was worried at first too but he soon got over it. i am 28 weeks and we've had sex at least 4 or 5 times a week ever since we found out i was preg. its starting to get hard now though cause my belly kinda gets in the way. and i have to agree "what to expect when you're expecting" is an amazing book and i myself pick it up quite often when i have a question or concern and cannot call my Dr. right away.

lookupasht |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

It is so perfectly safe as long as you don't have other pregnancy complications with your cervix-- make sure w/your doctor. This is my 2nd. My husband and I weren't married until I was 8 months along w/my first and we had been celibate until we were married. That was a great month, just takes some creativity with positions, but definitely there was some hesitation on my husband's part not wanted to hurt the baby. My only issue was that my cervix lies lower during pregnancy, so you have to adjust for that. Just keep open communication- it's nothing against my husband if something isn't comfortable, we just switch it up or make some adjustments. Your SO might be more willing if you are honest with you own desires to have sex and intimacy with him while you are pregnant. Pursue him a little and he might change his tune quickly :)

zimmermommy |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

they say that us pregnant women release something from our bodies that turn men on even more... they find themselves really turned on all the time, and cant really explain it!! Therefore, all you ladies that have men that just arent into it these days.. dont worry hes clearly just afraid of hurting baby!! My Fiance and i have been having sex since we found out, we found out when i was 5 weeks along... i am now 29 weeks along and we still have lots of sex!! However, i find myself not into it as much as i was during my second trimester.. this third trimester seems as though im very tired and drained of energy!! During my first trimester there was a time we had sex and something in my cervix felt like it popped... it was a very uncomfortable feeling and i thought for sure something was wrong, when i asked my midwife about this, she said not to worry... as long as your not having out of the world crazy sex your good to go! She said what i felt was just his penis slipping against my cervix......all of us are so different with our pregnancies, we cant compare ourselves to each other... just more so or less share our stories and we made it through :) xo <3

misspbbunny17 |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

no there is nothing worng with the picture some men fill that they are going to hurt the baby couse brain damge to it or something stuiped like that they fill that they dont want to jab something or couse u to have the baby early take him with u to the docs when u go and have your doc talk to him about it but men just fill the way they do

jturck1782 |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

my boyfreind did the same thing do what i did and take him to the doc with you and have them tell them its okay it may give them the motivation to do it

jdtmamma |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

There is nothing wrong with you. A lot of guys are just scared of having sex because they think they are going to hurt the baby. my husband did the same thing when i was pregnant. i was upset thinking i wasn't attractive any more i even thought he was cheating. it would help if on your next visit to the Dr you take him with you and talk to the Dr about it. trust me it helps a lot. having sex during pregnancy is better for you and the baby.

noemievalencia4 |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

I understand about being driven crazy by lack of sex. My husband tells me all the time that I'm gorgeous or beautiful or whatever but then he never seems to want to have sex. I try & put the moves on him, kiss him seductively, touch him in alll the right spots & what he usually does is just move his head & lay down to go to bed. It makes me feel like hes just telling me I'm beautiful so I wont feel bad about myself but yet the rejection of sex makes it hurt worse. I understand sex isnt everything & theres so much more to a relationship but the rejection hurts so much on top of me already feeling gross & unattractive. I'm 31 weeks & have been showing by like my 4th month. I feel huge. Any idea how to tell him how I feel without making him feel bad?

Fallenangel87 |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

Just be honest with your husband with how you feel. If nothing else he will know where you are coming from and you will better understand him as well. I only have a little less that 2 weeks to go, and we do talk about it. Not saying we are getting anywhere with having sex, but we at least talk about it and we know how we both feel any why. Plus at this point, I am so uncomfortable, have had an MRI, amnio, etc so sex is the last thing I want. I am more interested in having his arms around me and feel comforted knowing that we will be going through the c-sect as a team and that he will keep me calm.

mockpero |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

Okay Im Seven Months and i only had sex three times and its not him its me because i dont feel as comfortable like how i felt before but Its So Hard for Him to Know that i really cant do much while im like this and im happy he is a good man because some people think sex is everything and it isnt.

MyFirstBoy |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

When I saw this topic I HAD TO RESPOND!! This has been a really big issue with my husband and i. We had no problem "making" the baby...and even "celebrating" when we found out...but now it's not happening. I blame myself for the most part. Although his interest in sex went down after the first few months. Once I hit about 5 months sex got really uncomfortable...but I still wanted it.. :( My mind said 'LET'S GO!!" BUT my body said HELL NO!! When he did give in...I would end up in so much pain midway through that I would start crying/sobbing right in the middle of it...He of course felt like crap and would try to comfort me..this happened quiet a few times before he just completely stopped trying. I feel so huge & unattractive and miss our intimate moments. I just want him to want me...Even though he constantly tells me how beautiful I am etc...He is very affectionate too. Maybe I have issues...But I still want sex especially with my raging hormones...I have 5 weeks till I am induced.

Chrisett2010 |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

I have always had a very active sex drive, and now, 13 weeks into my pregnancy, it is no different. However, I do find that after a climax, I have to make him stop because it does hurt quite a bit if we keep going. He has been amazing and it has actually led us to indulge in a lot more foreplay and oral sex and other fun stuff. I have found that if we keep penetration for the very end, and to a minimum, we both wind up VERY satisfied, and a lot less frustrated. I hope this helps and that I did not overshare!

mail4amanda@hotmail.com |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

I'm 14 weeks pregnant and have NO sex drive. Which I feel bad about because when we do have sex it's really great. But I have a lot of abdominal pressure and discomfort and just don't feel sexy (not that I don't feel pretty, but I don't feel like getting in the mood) It's comforting to know he finds me so attractive still (not that I'm that big yet) but I have to constantly tell him no.

LupMar92 |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

No i feel there is nothing wrong my boyfriend soon to be fiance dones't want to have sex with me, we had wen i first turned 6 months now he is not into it because he is scared his going to hurt our daughter to think it is common

KristineSmith96 |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

I am 6 and a half mos along and during my 1st trimester i didnt want sex because i was so tired but he wanted it all the time soi gave in. but now the tables have turned and i want it all the time and he never seems to. but what drives me crazy is that he makes comments and touches me gets me all ready to go and then says nite baby! and i'm left turned on and extremely mad! i have tried to talk to him about it and told him i dont feel like hes attracted to me and he said thats not it, i even asked him if there was someone else, but again he said no he claims that hes just TIRED. its very frustrating!!! but reassuring that i'm not the only one going through this.

shygirl528 |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

Theres is nothing wrong with having sex during pregnancy. I found if your hubby really takes his time as well as you can be fun for both without getting scared. I didnt want to do it for a while after I had spotting, but that was because we were trying to run a marathon not going to happen, but u cant deny that feeling to me its like I want it more.

rdw4life |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

hi my name is brittney i dont have sex with my husbend and neither should you because its u safe for the baby so put your feet in my shoes and dont have sex

laninabonita08 |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

My Husband and i have had sex almost ever day since i found out i was expeting.

lalakilla48 |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

Wow, i seem to having a reverse problem. My fiance wants it constantly and i don't. I have no energy at the moment and he doesn't seem to understand that.

Viciousbaby |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

I'm about 7 weeks along now. My husband and I have not had sex since we found out about we were pregnant. At first, I was OK with giving it time, making sure I didn't spot or have an early miscarriage. Our first prenatal visit is later this week, and I am hoping that the doctor will give my husband and I some comforting words and ease the concerns about having sex. I'm worried because my husband is worried. I feel like it's made things hard for me, I feel unattractive and not desireable.. and I'm not even showing yet! Wish us luck at our appointment... hopefully we'll come home and celebrate with some much-overdue love making!

sashorey |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

I am having the same problem. Me and my partner have only had sex a couple of times since we found out I was pregnant I am 33 weeks now. We had a very active sex life before always 2-3 times a day and to go from that to nothing is daunting to me. I wonder if he finds me unattractive which he says he doesn't it's just he doesn't want to knowing his baby is inside me and he scared he might hurt it as I think all men do. He has reasured me that thing's will go back to normal once the baby is born. I sure hope so as I miss sex alot. All men are different and with this being his first child he finds it off putting having sex while I am carrying his child. He also sais that he no longer has a sex drive now that I am pregnant. It hurts me but I just have to try and understand were he is coming from. I know it is not unheard of (men going of sex while their partner is expecting) and I will just have to hope that thing's will go back to normal.

81shelbay |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

I'm at 36 weeks now and DH and I are still having sex. It's getting more difficult for me since it seems like more and more positions are painful every week. We took a break for a little while because one night a few weeks ago I started bleeding really bad and had to go to the hospital... thankfully the doctor said everything was fine, but I have never been so scared and it put us both off sex for a while, but not tooooo long =P i feel so uncomfortable with my body right now that I need to know he still thinks i'm beautiful, and sex helps that for me...

xche |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

I understand how a man could think like that, but it a daddy thing to protect you and the baby. you shouldnt take it as if he is not turned on by you because a pregnant woman is the sexyest thing to a married man. try to get him to do it with you on your side and him behind you that way it will not hurt you and he cant see your belly and get disstacted.

mareedawn11 |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

I am barely 5 weeks pregnant and still very much wanting and having sex with my hubby, but I find that sometimes I feel a lot of pain, almost like menstrual cramps, especially when on top. I have a huge fear of miscarrying, I think because this is my first pregnancy. Is the pain normal at this stage? Or should I be consulting a physician?

kyleeolah27 |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

it all depands on your man, mine is still very sexually attracted to me and thank god doesn't loose his *********. plus im still frisky like i was before getting pregant so the heat is on, and it doesnt get boring in the sack. pation is a must keeps them interested in you, you cannot say im horny lets just do it, and go to sleep, as a women you must still remain flirty and spontaneous and sexually passionate, it helps trust me. plus you cannot make them experience your symptom like " im pregnant and a feel huge and i hate it" swallow it , don't let your new body discurrage you b/c guess what if thats how you feel and they sense it, imagine how it turns them off. always remain confident. its a big plus.

sukthiz1 |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

I am 17 weeks pregnant and I feel like my hormones are through the roof. I think that I want sex more now than I did before. There are certain ways that hurt. Like I can't get on top much anymore and him being on top either. You really just have to find what is comfortable for you and go with that. Foreplay can definatly liven things up and keep that spark. Just remind yourself that you are sexy no matter how big your belly may get and your hubby loves you just the same.

carrie1985 |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

don't let it bother you, the first time around my husband was terrified of the entire process. your body and pscyhe are going through massive changes, this is a bit much for some to take in, he could simply be overwhelmed by it all. the second time around my husband is much more relaxed and loves the way my body looks. the tables have turned and this time is i am the one who's not into it! if you're comfortable with it, give masterbation a try...you know your body better than anyone-look to him for other things-like hugs, snuggling, back rubs and foot massages. don't let sex be the only way for you two to be intimate.

jfk321 |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

Just had this issue with my hubby last night...we did have sex but I noted how it was only the second time since the bfp - two weeks ago - and I worry that the pattern will continue. I've tried to assuage his fears about hurting the baby and I guess he's having that 'sex goddess/mother' conflict himself...but the sex was great and I don't want it to stop just because there's a baby on board!

theresat858 |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

My husband wouldn't leave me alone when I first found out I was pregnant. Now he doesn't want to have sex... at first I was soooooo tired. Now I'm rearing to go and he is just too scared.

jstinson8 |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

that blows, i feel really lucky... im 32 weeks and will still get it in at least 3-4 times a week, our libidos being high and evenly matched... good luck!

katlovesninja |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

If you believe that your husband is turned off then you need to address it to him. It is very natural for a man to be uncomfortable with having sex while you are pregnant especially because they do not realize that you won't break if you have sex. Pregnancy is an emotional thing right now for you and sex is healthy during pregnancy just avoid being on your back. Intimacy is hard to accomplish after birth because of the swelling of the uterus and the needs of the baby and your constant need of sleep.

xxmommywannabexx |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

i was told by my Grandmother that it is important to have sex when pregnant because the muscles that are responsible for an orgasm, are those same muslce that help us during the delievery process but my husband is still scared even with that assurance.

terriannemc |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

OMG now I feel much better, I'm not alone with this sex situation during pregnancy. I suffer with IBS, which was more painful in my first 2-and 4 months so, that was a reason I wasn't in the mood of having sex. My partner was very compressive and never stopped spoiling me. But now that the IBS symptoms are getting mild I will like to have sex and he is so scare of hurting the baby, we already asked our midwife and she said there was no risk of hurting the baby. Sometimes I get sensitive and.. When I'm about to tell him how I feel he finds the way to make me feel beautiful. I guess that's my advice to those woman not having sex during pregnancy, The importance is not just sex Itself, share quality time, flirt and touch each other. We know some men are hard headed =) but it is only because they love us!

ximenaOV |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

when me and my baby father had sex for the first four months i threw up everytime after... what did that mean???

boosiesmom |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

sex is the reason you got pregnant.. for most cases anyway . so enjoy it!!! living without it for 9 months ..mi and my husband would go crazy !!! There is plenty of protection inside you to not hurt the baby.

chelsiepace |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

I find that I constantly think about it, and it's all I want to do. I'm 5 1/2 mo. and I find myself having a hard time not wanting it. My husband doesn't seem so much into it. I feel crazy for having the strong urges like I do and hope he comes around!

Unjustluv |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

At first my hormons were crazy , now my husband feels like having sex but not me,alot of times. it feels the farther i get the more i just wanna sleep. my husband told me he understands but i don't think he does. my advice to you is if your having issues with having sex try a new position that's safe and satifies both of you, and if you have to go in the middle of sex try and pee before having sex . if hes sacred having sex just let him know the baby is fully protected and it doesn't hurt the baby, if that don't the doctor will tell him .

robsgurlforever |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

He should not be scared, the most safe position for sex during pregnancy for the baby is doggy style. if he is on top, then its not that ok for the baby. So i would ask him if he wants to try doggy and see if he would try. sometimes men get turned off from having sex with their woman because of them being pregnant. except with me its the other way around...

megmeg9810 |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

LOL your bf/husband shouldnt worry about denting the babies head or hurting the baby lol no man on earth is that ummmm equipped to reach where the baby is hahahahaha...

Jessilynnbaby |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

well i am 27 weeks pregnate and i was just reading some of the comments thoose who are having pain maybe try a lube or maybe be ontop i read in one of my pregnancy books i got from the libary you can be very sensitive and you being on top means you being in control of the depth and speed so you can do whats comfortable for you and for thoose whos husband or anyone whos scared to hurt the baby find the measurments of how high the baby is and i bet you will feel much better. also if he is scared of squishing your belly try spooning or again you on top.. or doggy

babehl0v3 |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

my husband freaked out when he figured out that my sex drive went way high!!! he won't do anything but basic missionary postition...he is terrified of causing me pain or hurting the baby...but we are working on it.

eyestothehills@yahoo.com |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

Yes something is wrong, but the question is...why is he more afraid than you? You have to consider your sex life before the pregnany and compare the two. If he was sexual before, he will be during. Especially if you guys have kids already. SOmetime it's guilt and he is not trying to hurt you!

liamwilliams |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

To toptotty81 and other mothers in the same situation i have been reading what to expect when your expecting and it offers some really good advice on this topic you may want to experiment with different lubricants and positions i find if i am on my knees it is slightly more enjoyable at the moment good luck

rseam1 |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

I'm in my third trimester and my husband and I have had sex maybe 3 or 4 times. He also says he doesn't want to hurt the baby. Our doctor assured him that baby will be fine. We still don't have sex,I'm starting to feel unattractive,my husband use to express how he loved my body and now nothing.

divamom37 |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

I am 26 weeks, and I have never been MORE horny. I have sex with my husband about 4 x's a week and getting myself off at least twice a day. Even touching my nipples gets me off. I actually wish I could calm my hormones DOWN a little. Any suggestions?

pambrinkworth |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

I'M 37 WEEKS PREGNANT AND ME AND MY FIANCÉ ARE HAVING SEX ALMOST EVERY DAY AFTER FINDING OUT THE GOOD NEWS... HE IS ALWAYS GENTLE AND ALWAYS MAKE SURE THAT I'M COMFORTABLE AND OK!!! THE SEX IS AWESOME :)

freakcammy |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

I'm 33 weeks and it seems like the further along I get, the less he wants it. I was away through the first half of my pregnancy, so now I want to be intimate more than ever, but he just isn't interested. My belly gets in the way of most positions and he says he finds it really weird with the baby. I guess the more he can see and feel the baby move, the more he gets turned off. We used to have sex multiple times a day almost every day, now we do good to have sex once a week -- and that's after I've pushed the subject for awhile and he gives in. Pregnancy hasn't dampened my sex drive, and for awhile, it was even heightened, but he's just not interested. I also find it strange that my sex drive hasn't subsided, because since I've been pregnant, it has become extremely difficult for me to orgasm. I can hardly ever come during sex, but I still want it.

JessStriegel |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

As soon as we found out we were expecting, he went to the computer and googlesearched a lot of things... the second or third thing was "is sex safe during pregnancy". After he was reassured, we have no problems at all. (except when i'm exhausted and want to sleep right after dinner)

Calypso91 |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

My hubby is the same way it think its only been 2 times and we already have one child. I Just make Jokes like well I cant get pregnant so no birth controll!! lol and I refuss to give him oril if i dont have sex soon he should be haveing all the fun!

AmbaRivera |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

My DH is the same way about sex during pregnancy. I can't get enough and his sex drive goes down. However, we do talk about it and we also have found other ways of being intimate. Even if we just take a shower together and cuddle afterward, I just enjoy the closeness of it.

Aflac |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

My baby's father says that he doesn't want to be intimate because he's afraid he'll hurt the baby.. he says "no" to every thing ask. The last time we had sex was 2 days before I found out I was pregnant. I tried to tell him it wouldn't be too different but he just says "no". We aren't married or dating but we do both have deep affection and care for one another and I'm sure if I didn't get pregnant that we'd be together by now.. so going to someone else is unthinkable to me. I tried self-pleasuring but even before the baby, I've never really enjoyed it so I really don't now. I've done everything i can think of from articles, the book I got, and my doctor to try to get him to believe that we won't hurt the baby... any other suggestions???

mommyvickitha89 |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

I completely know the feeling. Im !% weeks pregnant and i am under strict belief that my Fiancee and I havent had sex since the time of conception. I try to get him to talk about it and He changes the subject. He tells me im beautiful all the time but wont touch me. Im glad i wasnt the only one in this situation but I wish it were different. My doctor said i may loose the urge for sex, but only the opposite happened. I want it more. I hate it but i had to buy a toy just for the pregnancy because i dont want to push the issue with him. I dont know what to do with the information he gives me (which is slim to none). I just dont want to spend the next 6-7 months sexless, i like my sex. :' ^ (

EllieL84 |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

Okay unless your dr. told has told you not to do so because a cerclage or incopotent cervix your fine. If you think your going to stab the baby in the head you need an anatomoy lesson. The cervix is closed and plugged. There maybe blood do to increased blood volume and the cervix is a little bit more easier to bruise. As long as it not more than a teaspoon and bright red your fine.

beautyfromthenile |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

I'm so glad I read this. I'm having the same problem. I am 19 weeks pregnant and only have had sex with my hubby a handfull of times. I'm used to being intimate with him a few times a week. I have no problem talking about this with him and being very blunt. I flat out asked him "why r u not interested in having sex with me"? The only thing he would say is I'm not thinking about sex right now. What the heck does that mean? What 33 year old man isnt interested in sex. Its obvious that its because of the pregnancy. I get really upset about it sometimes and just think to myself that he's turned off by me but I really think some men (not all men) see us pregnant women in a different way now, as mothers to their children and not sexual objects anymore. It really takes a toll on your self confidence during a time that you may not feel the sexiest. I basically told him that I am not going to ask for sex anymore, If you want to have sex I do too so just initiate. I cant keep asking for sex and being turned down. Otherwise Im trying to look nice everyday, I got a nice haircut and Im trying to wear makeup and cute maternity clothes to make myself feel pretty.

christineT79 |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

Well I am 14 weeks as of yesterday... for the first 12 weeks I have been too sick to even consider. And on the few "good days" as soon as we tried the motion set my tummy into motion, and not in a good way. It was miserable. However my husband hasnt tried to initiate sex anymore which makes me feel ugly and totally not sexy. I want to try making myself look extra nice with makeup and dressing cutely however I am a manager at a gym and when I get home Im so exhausted all I want to do is sleep until he gets home so I can stay up with him for at least 4 hours before Im ready for bed.... I feel like some energy may be coming back now but I still feel like I am going to have to have the talk with him about not feeling beautiful or sexy if he doesnt make the effort to at least try to start things up.. If I have to say no Im sick or no Im too exhausted thats ok I just wanna know Im still sexy to him!!!!

Cantw82bamom |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

I am only 5 weeks pregnant , and my husband scared to have sex with me ,, so i need to know which time is perfect to have sex with him :))

Basma123 |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

Probably, but than again probably not

JRiggins24 |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

It's the opposite for us. My husband is all about it, but for the past few months I've been completely turned off. So much so that when we've tried, I've had panic attacks. Have you asked your doctor? I'm sure your doc has heard stories like this a thousand times and probably has a ton of insight.

lovindavidj |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

It is only your doctor who could help you out. Your doctor knows your condition, so he would be able to advise you whether you two should indulge in sex during this phase or not. Couples sometimes try out different things to pep up their sex lives such as opting for free live sex webcams.

Satyabrata |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

If your physical condition permits it and if your doctor says it is okay to do it then there should be no problem. But still if your husband feels jittery then do not opt for it. There are many adult websites available you could check these out.

aman2u |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

You have to be more patient with your husband. You need to know what is making him feel so apprehensive. If he really is worried about baby's safety, then respect that and do not push him for this. Later when your baby is born you two could get cozy again. Then you can use Intensity Now Adult Toy to spice up your sex life.

imwilliam |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

There's nothing wrong with this picture, most fathers to be just really don't want to because they are afraid of hurting the baby. I am due in another month and a half. My husband says no sex for two reasons. My belly is so huge he feels distant from me, plus the fact that he doesn't want to hurt the baby.

mandy1227 |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

I'm 35 weeks and I can count on one hand how many times my husband and I have been together. NOT VERY MANY. I don't feel loved, wanted, attractive because of it. I'm just biting my tongue. If it doesn't change after I have the baby then something is definitley wrong!

Glimmer01 |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

No it is not, your husband probably wants you and the baby to be safe. I am pretty sure he will surprise you after the baby is born. Just know that your husband loves you know matter what.

LilliC4 |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

While my wife was pregnant, before sex we always watched live videos. that way we were in better mood and always had great time.

deanjohnson |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

No there is nothing wrong with you not wanting to have sex. I understand where you're coming from my boyfriend of two years broke up with me yesterday when I told him I did not want to have sex with him until my body healed and after my six weeks was over and he got mad but I didn't care because men have to realize it's hard giving birth and our body goes threw changes and they don't care but be strong and it will get better for you trust me.

courtg14 |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

I also heard about many men which are scared of sex during pregnancy. I heard that they better choose the premium services of some adult websites.

deanjohnson |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

yes it will hurt the baby it will cause you to bleed and maybe in risk of losing your baby

surenos13 |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

I'm in the same boat with some of you. I"m currently 17 weeks and getting sex outta my husband is impossible. He knows he can't harm the baby so that's not the issue. I've tried the sexy lingerie, it doesn't do a thing. It feels like ever since my belly has gotten big, he no longer has an attraction to me. Any advice ladies?

db_salas |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

to al whos husbands act like they dont want to have sex wait till hes just waking up and give him head or when your watching a movie rub his leg and work your way up seduce him. for the women who say they hurt try another position maybe doggy style it worked for my firs pregnanccey i had spotting when i was on top so we switched. to the women who feel like they dont want sex it does pass by itself sometimes but if you dont want to wait then its pampeer day take a warm bath or shower do your nails or go to a salon have your hair done get a new outfit and strut that beautiful body my husband told me that a pregnant women is the most beautiful thing in the world. so seduce him dress up try different positions

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Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

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Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

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gantengsekali |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

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gantengsekali |

Q&A: Husband scared of sex during pregnancy?

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gantengsekali |