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Q&A: Husband not into sex during pregnancy?

My sex drive is returning… but now my husband doesn’t seem interested! What’s going on?

Re: My sex drive is returning… but now my husband doesn’t seem interested! What’s going on?

The Bump Expert

Remember, this pregnancy is a major event in your husband's life, too. Odds are, his seeming lack of interest has nothing to do with how he feels about you. Fear and anxiety about starting a family and being a father (gulp!) may be causing him to take a step back. And, what with your swinging moods (don’t deny it!) and shifting hormones, he may be nervous about how you'll react (physically and emotionally) to sex.

Another possibility is that he’s tentative towards intercourse due to fear of hurting the baby. If this is the case, remind him that baby won't feel a thing, and if he doesn’t believe you, drag him to your next OB visit and let her do the talking. It also might be be that your husband is uncomfortable having sex “in front” of his child. Sounds crazy, perhaps... But who says this is a rational time?

Whatever the case, open lines of communication are essential. Being honest about your own needs and fears will encourage him to do the same. If the truth is hard to hear -- even the most loving, devoted husbands can find intimacy tough during pregnancy -- remember that this is a strange journey for both of you. Just like you, he's doing his best. And, don't forget about other ways to stay connected. Back massages, foot rubs, holding hands, and kissing and cuddling can be just as romantic as anything else.

Paula Kashtan

Q&A: Husband not into sex during pregnancy?

We have not had intercourse since I found out I was pregnant and just like you I am starting to get my sex drive back a little,but I don't want my hubby to feel uncomfortable with it so I am going to just enjoy the holding hands and foot massages.

wbarnes629 |

Q&A: Husband not into sex during pregnancy?

I am having the same problem. My husband and I have discussed this since it has led me to crying many times. We have had sex a total of 3 times since we found out I was pregnant. I am now 5 months and had to beg those 3 times. His excuses have changed or I guess I should say he just has many. He is stressed about being a dad (though he won't read anything) he is stressed about money, I will say I was laid off during this BUT we are more than fine, his sex drive has just gone down, which is so hard for me to understand because we used to at least 5 times a week and he always just wanted me. Finally he told me the other day he just isn't attracted to me. I have gained 20 lbs so far, my breasts have changed from a 34DD to a 36G BUT I still weigh less now than when he originally met me. I beg for just a kiss these days and he just can't. It is killing me and I feel like our marriage because we haven't even hit our one year anniversary. I don't want to build resentment towards him but it's sooooo hard not to. I don't know what to do and maybe it is just my hormones but it seems to just be getting worse. I am angry these days he doesn't look at me and if he does it is to comment how big the baby is growing. Does anyone have advice on how to cope?

fortworthmom |

Q&A: Husband not into sex during pregnancy?

Hey fortworthmom, I'm sorry to hear that you and hubby are experiencing sexual issues. That is hard to deal with and I'm sure does not do much for your self esteem. Especially at a time when you may be feeling huge and unattractive anyway. I know I don't know you, but I will be praying for you. I would suggest to try to take heart and not let this affect your marriage - as hard as it is try to maintain respect for him. If this is still going on once baby has arrived and your body and mental capacity returns then maybe there is more to it. I would try to be understanding that he is dealing with completely different issues than you are during pregnancy. It's so hard to understand men since they are so different than us......God Bless.

graubabes |

Q&A: Husband not into sex during pregnancy?

I'm in the same situation. I am four months pregnant and I think my husband and I have had sex maybe two time since we found out I was pregnant. And that was when I was first pregnant, it's been over a month since he has been interested. And it is most definitely not out of a lack of trying on my part! I feel so unattractive, he just simply has no interest in intimacy. I know he loves me, but it is really starting to effect my self esteem. I feel like crying many nights when I'm trying to fall asleep knowing he doesn't want to touch me. I don't understand because before I was pregnant we had a healthy sex life. How do you cope? Or get your husband interested?

Jenniferanne9 |

Q&A: Husband not into sex during pregnancy?

Dear forthworthmom, I am so sorry about your situation. as hard as it is...try not to take it to personal. my boyfriend and i have been together 3 plus years, and we have always had a great sex life. but ever since i became preggo, things changed! i am due any day now, and we've prob had sex less than ten times throughout this entire time. ive heard one excuse after another..... !!!!! im stressed out, im too tired, my sex drive isnt there, and let me remind you he is a 23 year old male!!!! too young to be too tired for sex!!! he had caused me many tears over this situation. finally i just gave up. we still cuddle and hold hands. and ive just accepted this for now. it seems a lot of guys go through this, and there could be any of number of reasons why. but dont let it get you down. try to make yourself feel better, get a hair cut, get some new maternity clothes, have a girls night out, dont ever let any man make you feel "unpretty"!! best of luck to you!

jmr1988 |

Q&A: Husband not into sex during pregnancy?

Hi Ladies, I went through this with my first pregnancy. My husband and I had sex maybe 10 times the entire pregnancy. Neither one of us know why he responded that way. We've talked about it since and he's said it was because it freaked him out that my belly was so hard and that he was invading our daughter's "space". Also, I put on about 70lbs with my daughter so I was really big. I had just lost 70lbs and I gained it ALL back. lol. Well after our daughter was born our sex life didn't quite return to normal (we used to do it a minimum of once a day and most days it was twice a day) but it did go up to like 4 times a week. Now here we are pregnant with baby #2 (i'm about 25 weeks) and we have sex more than we did after our daughter. lol. We have it 5 to 10 times a week. I know, crazy. I think the difference is that this time around he knows what's going on. He knows it doesn't hurt the baby. This time I lost the 70lbs i gained with my daughter and I've only gained back about 20lbs. So be hopeful ladies. It will go back to being better. It's hard while you're going through it because you're hormonal but you can't push him to do it. If so, you'll feel like he did it because you made him. So if you want him to want you, then doll yourself up. If he rejects it, be calm but don't take off the outfit. Stay in your sex kitten heels and nurse outfit. He might just want you anyways. :-) Good luck!

femme_rides |

Q&A: Husband not into sex during pregnancy?

When my boyfriend and I found out I was pregnant, he was totally taken aback. Since we had intercourse at least once a day, I was worried when he completely ignored me in bed that night. I was scared that he wouldn't want to engage in sexual intimacy throughout the whole pregancy. However things got back to normal as he realized that me being pregnant did not change the fact that I was still in need of his intimacy and in fact now he is more loving than ever. He makes sure he kisses my belly to acknowledge our baby, and I'm glad he knows it doesn't hurt the baby! I'm so lucky that my boyfriend still finds me vey attractive!

kisumi42 |

Q&A: Husband not into sex during pregnancy?

My husband says he sees my body as more 'functional' now, so he isn't really into sex. I'm assuming this will change once the baby comes. I feel fat as a whale anyway, so I'm not super excited about being naked anyway

meg1818 |

Q&A: Husband not into sex during pregnancy?

Wow! Ladies, I can't even tell you how much i can relate to each and every one of you. I am just 20 weeks preggo and my boyfriend of almost two years now wants nothing to do with sex unless i initiate it and still sometimes he just moves away so that i can't. But i have some advice for each of you. Do everything you can to make yourself feel beautiful. It is proven that men are more attracted to a self confident women. If you are making yourself feel unpretyt and unwanted that rubs off on men. So forget him and make yourself feel wonderful, for im sure that your beautiful belly is a blooming sight to see. And don't feel bad about taking care of your newly developed sex drive yourself. I have found that it actually gets him in the mood if he realizes i am doing it without him in the same bed. These are just some of the things that i have done to make this change a little easier on me. I hope it helps.

khirsang |

Q&A: Husband not into sex during pregnancy?

The best advice I can give anyone is to shower with your hubby. This is now the only time we have sex but we get the chance a few times a week at least. This is one of our favourite places to do it anyway and I'm so big and felt so unattractive in the first trimester that we had a talk and decided that I was most comfortable there and he was happy with that decision. Plus it's clean and the standing position doesn't make him worry that it's affecting the baby in any way.

meghan_pettit |

Q&A: Husband not into sex during pregnancy?

I know I may sound crazy but desperate times call for desperate measures. I couldn't get my husband to even acknowledge the idea of sex and that wasn't normal. So I tried something that I heard about that non-pregnant couple do. There are couples that bring porn into the bedroom together to inhance the romance, but I figured if I could most men get turned on by porn by them selves then it has to be inhanced when their spouce are with them. It worked in the aspect that it distracted him from the stress of being a father, finances, and school. Im not 7 months pregnant and will prob need to do it again before I have my baby because I sware it is the only way to get what i need. I am not a big fan of the whole idea but I know what I want and for the time being it is worth it.

DuckyBear |

Q&A: Husband not into sex during pregnancy?

To the Forth worth mom and her hubby not being interested in sex...try taking him to your next OB appt and have your OB talk to him a bit about the issues he is having . I would probably call her first to discuss your issues. Also, print out some articles about pregnancy and sex. You will find tons. Find some that will answer the questions that you know he is having in his head and also some on how sex can be intimate even while pregnant. Find articles that support the prganat woman too so that he can read what you are going through. Some men are just not attracted to "the bump". It's sad, but true. My husbands friend once said he cannot even look at a pregnant woman and that is grosses him out!? He has issues, as your husband clearly does aswell. All you can do is try to help him see the bigger picture and not just think of himself. Good luck.

gabyjovanovic |

Q&A: Husband not into sex during pregnancy?

At first i blamed the lack of sex on my own insecurities...i gained 20lbs from quiting smoking so i really wasnt into having sex....im just about 17 weeks now and im getting more comfortable with my body my husband doesnt want to be bothered with me. I try to suggest things out of the norm but he doesnt bite: when we spoke about what he was feeling he says i dont know....i get where he might be coming from but....its bad enough im an emotional mess already last thing i need is to feel like a beast

squishedgumibear |

Q&A: Husband not into sex during pregnancy?

Me and my husband, we do it almost everyday once or twice a day or more before i got pregnant. When he learned i was pregnant, on the first few weeks, he doesn't seem interested in me. i cried everytime i initiate and he would say no or he would simply say am tired. We didn't do it for a few weeks and it drives me crazy and felt like am so ugly and fat. on our first check up i asked the doctor with him on the room. at first he was embarassed but later on he opened up and said he was just afraid that he might hurt me and the baby. He said the situation was overwhelming for him. From then on, we are more open and i can ask him whatever it is on his mind and i can asked freely. It's nice that we can talk. Like one of the post said, make yourself beautiful. So that is what am doin. Am on my 20th week and and i gained 25 lbs already. after reading the thread i asked my husband if am still attractive in bed even if my tummy is big. He said am still beautiful as the first time he saw me. am lucky to have a husband like him. Myabe some guys are just overwhelmed with the thought of having a baby. a lot of things on their mind which they have a hard time talking about. talking is the best way to know what's going on.

meggymohammed |

Q&A: Husband not into sex during pregnancy?

I am a post-gastric bypass lady. At my heaviest I was in the 300's. I have lost 100 pounds so far, but never got to my goal. I understand the feelings of being big and unattractive. I have a very supporting and loving husband who has been with me the whole way, and now we're 11 weeks pregnant. Luckily I haven't gained any weight yet, but I am not going to freak out if I do because I know it's for the baby. (Lord knows I've already got the stretch marks and saggy skin anyway.) The biggest piece of advice I can give is to talk to your partner. Talk often and be direct. He needs to know how you feel and that you need reassurance. This time in a woman's life is no picnic, and having an unsupportive partner is downright selfish. So, yes ladies- throw it in his face if he's not getting it! Make sure your relationship grows with your bump because once the baby comes, it gets harder. Good luck.

LMScherr |

Q&A: Husband not into sex during pregnancy?

the best advice is talk to him, and ensure him the baby will be fine, i know my dh was a little worried that the baby would be "looking at his member" and so i took him to the doctor with me and asked my doc about sex while pregnant, and he gave us some safeways to have sex, it put his mind at ease, he was a little apprehensive still, but her eventually got over it. now we r on baby # 3 and out sex life is out of this world! we are closer than ever! there was a time when we couldn't because of pregnancy complications, and we still enjoyed the making out and coddling! massages r awesome too! just be careful where u get massaged, the doc can give you ideas where not to massage cause of pre term labor!

yellowskittle |

Q&A: Husband not into sex during pregnancy?

I am 27 weeks and deal with the same thing on a daily basis. It is depressing and regardless of my husband saying all the right things he just doesn't seem to physically want me anymore. I have asked him why and he says his sex drive just isn't the same as it used to be. It's hard to deal with that and I try to explain to him that it's not really the sex I miss as much as the intimacy. I miss feeling close to him. I also know that it will be hard to find time for any of that pretty soon with the baby coming soon. But I have also heard that when a man's partner is pregnant his testoterone levels drop tremendously for many different reaasons. That alone can explain the lack of interest in sex.

paramedicmommy |

Q&A: Husband not into sex during pregnancy?

i recently read that mens hormones change during his wifes pregnancy, testosterone goes down significantly. It is natures way of making him more nuturing for when the baby comes. also, if husbands still wanted sex almost everynight like before we were pregnant we would be complaining about that!! my husband says that he still thinks im beautiful, and he is still loving and affectionate towards me, he just doesnt have the same sex drive since ive been pregnant. It is hard, but Im trying not to let it get me down.

mandy92907 |

Q&A: Husband not into sex during pregnancy?

I have been stressing about this as well. I'm 22 weeks pregnant and I've noticed that now its me asking for sex and not him. It's weird to say but he was the one all over me all the time and now its like he is apart from me. I was reading the answers and its good to know that their hormones change when the female is pregnant cause in reality it feels like if they just don't want us anymore. I do feel that he loves me. He does the massages,back rubs and foot massages its just the sex of coarse that I miss.

luvjai |

Q&A: Husband not into sex during pregnancy?

Reading this makes me feel a little better as I'm going thru the same situation. I'm 27 weeks pregnant and our sex life was completely fine, we were having sex on a regular basis just how we used to before we found out I was pregnant. However, about a month and a half ago my husband just started ignoring me. I've tried talking to him about it and have asked him if he's still attracted to me and if everything is fine. He said everything was fine and said that he loved me more than anything but then continued to ignore me so I talked to him about it and he told me that I was stressing him out with my pregnancy hormones. This really hurt my feelings and so I just stopped bringing it up. I've also completely given up on sex and instead of worrying about it anymore I've tried to keep my mind occupied on other things that have to do with me and the baby. I know it probably isn't healthy to just ignore the situation but I'm not sure what else I should do since I have never been in this situation. =/

Maithai |

Q&A: Husband not into sex during pregnancy?

Wow. I am going through this exact thing right now! I'm 32 weeks pregnant and things have changed in the last three weeks. Our sex life has always been great and my husband is so loving so I was cut off guard when he just seemed to not be interested in me anymore. We usually have sex 5 times a week and all of a sudden nothing. I have asked him several times to talk about what he is feeling and he says everything is fine, He loves me and to relax. He seems to be uncomfortable that I bring it up and then he usual says something sweet to end the conversation. I have gained about 26 lbs and I feel huge and unattractive. He likes to cuddle at night and tells me how much he loves me all the time, but he doesn't want to touch me in a sexual way. This really hurts my feeling and I have been in bed crying each night because I feel so gross, which I usually try to hard because he says that I am acting silly. I also have been trying to focus on myself and the baby to occupy my mind. I have decided not to approach this subject with him and just accept that we will not have sex until after the baby is born. It still feels really crappy. Having a baby is hard work and I wish he could be in my shoes for one day.

mommyagain |

Q&A: Husband not into sex during pregnancy?

I'm in the same boat. I'm 18 weeks pregnant, and my husband just isn't physically turned on by the whole pregnancy. Before I started showing, our sex life was fine, but now the only thing that seems to get him off is porn (he'll look at it when I'm not there or after I fall asleep),. When I wanted to take a shower with him today his words were, "Not to hurt your feelings, but the whole pregnant thing just doesn't do it for me." It doesn't seem fair because HE helped make my body this way. I know I don't look the same, but it's very frustrating....especially with all of the hormones and negative self-image issues that come with pregnancy anyway. To have the person who is supposed to be attracted to you just reject you really hurts. I thought about going on a housework strike until I get some...haha. I'm sure that wouldn't work, but it's tempting sometimes... I don't really know what to do.

missylissy28 |

Q&A: Husband not into sex during pregnancy?

I read this article back at 10 weeks pregnant, because things were starting to go downhill and I didn't want it to get worse. I tried all of the dolling up, the initiating, the communication, everything. The rejection after all of the effort made it worse. I am now 20 weeks and needless to say, he hardly ever wants sex. He just kept saying he "wasn't interested"...which is true because he's not looking at porn or doing anything on the side, but I still feel very unattractive. Finally, over the weekend I broke down (again) telling him if he kept denying me sex, eventually I wasn't going to want it with him ever. Because I get hurt every time he denies me, it puts sex with him in a poor light. He told me that I put too much pressure on sex. We had our first yelling fight in awhile, to the point of me saying I didn't want to bear any more of his children. Yes I know, this was bad. But we settled it for the evening, and had a nice day with his parents the following day. Afterwards I told him that I could let go of sex, because I don't want to lose him just because he's struggling right now. He clarified that there wouldn't be a time limit on how long he is allowed to work on it before I lose interest in him permanently. I don't think I ever could lose interest permanently because I want to feel desired and attractive and I love him very much, but right now I do not want sex from someone who doesn't desire me. This should be fine, since he is so uninterested. I am sure I will want him again when he wants me. So unfortunately, I don't have any more advice but to say that you may just have to let go because it's not in your power to control, and doing all of the things to try to make it better can end up making it worse.

JCTycoon |

Q&A: Husband not into sex during pregnancy?

I understand completely how this works. I am pregnant with our 4th baby. My husband had no problems with sex drive the first 3 times but I swear he acts like I have cooties. It is like pulling teeth to get him to hug me or show any affection at all. This is our first boy and he swears that something is "different" and he just cant touch me. I have stopped trying to understand and try not to have hurt feelings over it. Somedays are more emotionally difficult due to my own drive and hormones but I am 32 weeks now so there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Good luck to any of you going through this, I know it sucks.

lawgic10 |

Q&A: Husband not into sex during pregnancy?

when i was pregnant with our first born my husband was not attracted to me once i started to show when we did have sex he said it felt weird because my belly was hard to the touch not and i quote 'soft like having sex with a fat chick' this time around he has been far more ready and willing ... i guess he has gotten used to my pregnant body but we still find sex to be uncomfortable and all our favorite positions have been ether due to balance or the belly getting in the way i cant wait for the 6 months of spooning to end i would like to have sex like a normal person again

rhythmicgoldfish |

Q&A: Husband not into sex during pregnancy?

I am 27 & my husband is 30. I am 20 weeks pregnant & like alot of you, have had sex a handful of times since I got pregnant. Ive asked him a few times about why he is reacting like this but he just says he is tired. He has been working really hard the last few months as it is his busiest season of work in his field. When I get into bed at night he is either reading or turned with his back toward me & I have to say it tugs on my heartstrings every time. I put on nice "night wear" & its like he doesnt notice/perhaps chooses not to notice. He has always liked when I wear something pretty to bed but it seems to have changed since I got pregnant. Ive always had a higher sex drive than him anyways but it just seems to be worse than ever now. Perhaps once a month... Im shocked at those of you who were having sex once/twice a day before you got pregnant! We havent been like that since we first met! (5 years ago). He does tell me Im beautiful as he knows Im upset by how my body is changing but I cant help but think he is just saying it sometimes. I guess thats my issue more than his though really. Sometimes when he says it I really feel like he means it and I just feel like a million dollars! It is true though about dolling yourself up. I feel personally better when I dress up and make an effort. Putting my face on/wearing a nice outfit. Even if he still doesnt react I do feel more confident so this has been my saving grace as such. Even when not pregnant I think couples go through these patterns sometimes so Im hoping it will pass. And until it does Im going to try to just be happy in myself and think about my beautiful twin girls who will be born in the next few months to a loving family. I know he'll be a great dad & Im confident I'll be a good mum so hey!..... theres always a bright side! Good luck to all of you & may your pregnancies & deliveries be safe & wonderful! :)

schmack82 |

Q&A: Husband not into sex during pregnancy?

Oh my goodness!!! I'm SO, SO, SO shocked that so many of you are going through this too!!! I don't know why I'm so surprised but I am! I have been struggling so much and so sad, crying and angry because my fiance refuses to have sex with me too. He's rarely affectionate and has been acting so weird. When I confront him about it he says he just isn't in the mood to have sex- that he is stressed but my mind jumps to the worst conclusions. I'm just RELIEVED to see that I'm not alone. Maybe this isn't SO ABNORMAL afterall!!! Reading my bible and daily devotional scriptures/writings has been helping tremendously! Best of luck everybody and thanks for your open-honest postings! This is so helpful!!! =) Xoxoxoxoxo

florencecherry |

Q&A: Husband not into sex during pregnancy?

Hey all, its nice to know that this seems to be a "normal thing" with husbands, I get so frustrated with him. we are both very young im 24 he is 26 this is our first child I am 22 weeks pregnant and all we really do anymore is cuddle or hold hands....my hormones will be raging and Ill try to start things ya know... and I hear "im too tired" sure he works all the time, sure we are staying with relatives until we get on our feet, but it seems there is some distance between us. maybe its just my hormones talking...its just hard. we have been together married 2.5 years then divorced and got back together. not legally married again yet, and we have gone through a miscarriage before, which somewhat lead to the divorce in the first place, we talked that all out but im wondering if maybe he is scared as much as i about possible troubles even this far in the game. and just like earlier today he needed to "go out, have time to himself" he says...but OUR time is so few and far between i dont mean to seem selfish but there doesnt seem to be enough our time. do you think that maybe after we get our own place and we have this kid that maybe things will slowly pop back to normal? that maybe im just being "hormonal" cause i know he i excited to be a father, he kisses the belly and me, so maybe.....maybe i am over thinking... again.. let me know your thoughts please :)

wildespirit86 |

Q&A: Husband not into sex during pregnancy?

After a talk with my husband about this same thing I discusse here, it does seem like I was looking too far into it he answered alot of these questions just last night :)

wildespirit86 |

Q&A: Husband not into sex during pregnancy?

khirsang, I totally agree with you. It's important to take care of ourselves during this time. I'm 20 wks and starting to feel a bit fat. I am doing things to boost my self-esteem when I am feeling down about how much my body has changed from a slim me to someone with cellulite in places I didn't have before. When your partner isn't initiating sex or isn't interested in it, for whatever reason, try to do things that will make you happy, such as either a distraction or sexual self-initiation. A positive attitude is hard to maintain sometimes, especially when we are dependent on our spouse to make us feel better. I've had moments in my marriage of 8 years where my husband didn't want to do things with me, so I started doing things by myself (joined a book club, various Meetup groups, etc), and interestingly my husbabnd wanted to start doing those activities too. I know that the topic here is sex and husbands not being interested in fooling around, but hey, don't let your husband stop you from enjoying yourself, be it self sex or other things that will make you feel better about yourself. We're pregant and beautiful, and our little ones inside us think we're great!

Tamralp |

Q&A: Husband not into sex during pregnancy?

Hello am 20 weeks and this is my husband first child i think with the sex part we have no problem as yet we have sex at least 6 times a week my problem with him is that i think he forget sometimes that i have a little human in me and he is rough with it i have to remind him over and over again to point it sometime scares me to think he might cause me to go into early labor so when i see he wants it i try to say am sick or in pain or something am glad to know that he still finds me as a turn on ,because he is a fellow that don't think big woman are sexey but yet everyday he wants my belly to hurry up and get bigger.

splexyrose |

Q&A: Husband not into sex during pregnancy?

im 32 weeks pregnant and my husband and i may have had sex 4 times since i was a month pregnant....it was always excuses as well, saying he was tired or just didnt feel like it...well this was just so unlike my husband i started thinking he was cheating on me, or that he was less attracted to me.... He finally spoke up and said, its only because im pregnant, and he understands it wont hurt baby, but he is also scared to hurt me...because the last couple times i complained my stomach had been crampy after...wow, for a bit there it seemed as though he cared...lol but he still didnt understand me needs and wants....

bullen03 |

Q&A: Husband not into sex during pregnancy?

WOW ladies we all have something in common our men but ive come to realize that men have there ways of reacting to certain things and so being pregnant is one of the times that they act different ask me how i no i have a 4 year old and now and am almost 7 months the best thing for us to do is try and find time for ourselves when they dont want to if this is first baby if u can still move about then go places relax as much as u can or read or start working on your soon to be baby essentials trust me it takes your mind off things and relieves your stress but if your a person like me shopping is my remedy its not a good one but it still helps but just be tough about the situation until baby is born bcuz daddy will be there to make sure u do lil to nothing to help out in whatever he can things will get better maybe not right away for some but soon enough for all take care everyone!!

princessempress |

Q&A: Husband not into sex during pregnancy?

Look, I hate to break it to you, but men are more primitive and visual when it comes to sexual relations. This has nothing to do with how your husband feels about you but he may just not see you as an object of sexual desire at this point. I know that this may hurt your feelings, leave you sexually frustrated, and even feeling a bit rejected. But the bottom line is that he just views you differently in this state, maybe even more beautiful and amazing, but just not someone to do "dirty" things with. However, your husband is NEVER going to tell you this! My husband actually overcompensated and lavished me with affection and took care of my every need (except the one I really wanted!) but it was his way of showing me how much he loved me. The good news, after the baby came we had a better sex life, better communication, and total abandonement of inhibitions. Good luck.

macpac01ok |

Q&A: Husband not into sex during pregnancy?

I didn't know si many people was having this same issue, I'm going on 8months and me and my hubby to be haven't had sex since I found out I was pregnant. I I really don't know what to say or do to get him in the mood, I'm to the point now where I just don't let it get me down.....

bmixon21 |

Q&A: Husband not into sex during pregnancy?

I'm on my third pregnancy and my husband doesn't want to have sex hardly ever. He knows by now what's going on, but still doesn't seem attracted to me. He is full of excuses too. It wasn't perfect before I got pregnant, but now it's worse. I'm 20 weeks and we have had sex maybe once a week, if that, since we found out. I feel fat and unattractive and this makes it worse for me. I have a really good sex drive now, but he has none it seems like. He is 4 years older than me and I am just hoping that it won't keep going at this rate after the baby is born.

nikih1982 |

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Just a sidebar, as for bringing porn into the bedroom, which I am normally okay with by the way, nothing made me feel more unattractive than being as big as a house watching some tight bodied uber flexable porn star go to town!!! Nothing is more deflating at 8 months pregnant than watching a ton of moves you can't do and he wants to do. If you do insist on this, bring in the kleenex, cause you're probably going to cry.

futuremrsstarner |

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Wow! I'm so surprised so many other woman are in the same boat. I'm 20 weeks and have had sex maybe about 10 times since we found out?.. I've heard all the excuses as well.. And when we do have sex the whole 2 minute deal is not flying with me! One time I was on top and he said to me "how about we just hold each other". I looked at him and instintally stated crying. I got up and ran to the bathroom crying like a baby. No matter what i do i feel fat and ugly. Kind of beastly even. 20 more weeks to go.. then another 5-6 til I hit the gym! (which he never EVER wanted me to go to the gym because i Might find a hotter man there and all of a sudden its YEAH! THATS A GREAT IDEA! GO TO THE GYM!) Lets just stick with it ladies.. after we get our bodies back we can just yawn and say... sorry honey... im just tooo tired. :)

cudddles08 |

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This is extremely comforting to know that I was not freaking out and thinking it was just me!

crazymegs |

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Around 5 months my husband was almost impossible to get in the bedroom, and this is number 3 for him! Don't worry he will recover. By month 6 he gave in.

littlefoot90 |

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I never lost my sex drive. My SO told me he was afraid of hurting the baby ( he has a 15 yo already) and I tried to assure him it was ok. We pretty much had a spat about it because I was counting the days since we were intimate last and he got upset

missdd138 |

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Luckily for me my sex drive hasn't disappeared. However there has been some lack in my husband being intimate sexually with me. I am used to 3 times a week, and now it's down to one. It's not like he doesn't make me feel attracted or wanted, because he does. He holds me and kisses me all the time. He just doesn't initiate sex as often. I have asked and he says he doesn't really have a reason. There have been times he has said that he gets scared to hurt the baby or "shake" me too hard lol. But to the rest of you ladies, just keep your heads up and try to be honest with your mates without freaking out on them and crying about it. Let them know sex is one of the ways that he makes you feel like a beautiful woman who is wanted and needed. Say it right, and he's bound to at least understand! :D

rachelgiuntoli |

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khirsang | great advise... I have been beating myself up about the weight gain... time to feel good about the belly and baby and if I'm confident, maybe he'll start to change! THANK YOU!

crazybeautiful79 |

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Find solace in knowing that you are not the only one dealing with this issue, it is frustrating and puts a damper on the marriage. I can feel fortworthmoms' aggravation, and I am dealing with the same issue, even a simple gesture of affection would suffice.

bsibley278 |

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My sex drive has actually increased since becomimg pregnant; however, my fiance's has decreased over the course of my pregnancy. When we first found out I was pregnant, we were still at it like we were before becoming pregnant. But, in the past few months, we have not had sex. Actually, this morning was the first time DF initiated sex in months. I'm about 7 months pregnant now. Although I've brought the matter up to DF several times, I don't feel upset about it because he's constantly shown me affection throughout this time. He still touches me, he cooks more for me (made me a great breakfast this morning), although he has a part-time in the evening after his full-time, he's been picking me up from work most days so I won't have to take public transportation (people are so inconsiderate of pregnant/disabled people), he checks on my physical and mental well being constantly, he's been to every single appointment with a smile on his face (we just had to go through a 3-hour glucose test because my sugar levels were elevated from my 1-hour test and he didn't complain not once about sitting in the doctor's office for 3 hours of waiting to have my blood tested every hour - we actually had a ball laughing and acting silly those 3 hours in the waiting room), he makes sure that I'm not overdoing anything and that I get proper rest and will put his foot down if he feels I'm not taking care of myself like I should, he constantly talks about his baby boy and rubs my belly while talking to him. So, after all that, I realized that I have a man in my life who still loves me just as mush as he did from the beginning. So I miss the sex? Most definintely! But, I have no reason to believe that he's no longer attracted to me. Afterall, he still loves to show me off to his friends and family, big belly and all. :)

MrsShort |

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I ma having alot of the same issues as you fortworthmom my husband and I have only been married for about 8 months and we found out I was pregnant shortly after we were married and I am 29 weeks along. Since I found out I was pregnant we've had sex a total of 4 times. He doesn't act attracted to me at ALL and I find myself very emotionla about the whole situation. We used to have sex all the time and now he barely touches me. He wont even give me a massage. I find myself becoming jealous everytime we leave the house and scared that I am going to lose him because his work forces him to travle and be gone for long periods of time. I don't know what to do.

jtah1 |

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I am just glad to know that I am not alone! Thank you for all the posts. It does make me feel better to know that I am not alone. I wonder if any ones husband likes them pregnant and is interested in them sexually. I agree with CUDDLES....once we get our bodies back we can tell them that we are too tired! know men are different and more visual, but I have higher expectations for a mature intelligent man, who is married and having a baby, to have a deeper love beyond the superficial physical attraction that would lead to intimacy. I am married and really have a lost a lot of respect for my husband and men in general now realizing how superficial they are ( although there are plenty others who seem attracted to me even though I am pregnant) which frustrates me even more because then I think, well he wants me, why doesn't my husband. I think men are pigs. That is just my opinion.

jewel5472 |

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I am 26 weeks and my sex life is almost nonexistent. My husband and I have morning from the side sex once a week (if that). He doesn't do anything to my body anymore. This is such a far cry from how things were. The hard part is hearing other man say they are jealous of him because 'pregnant' sex is the best....I have yet to experience this. I take matters into my own hands everyday, even after our routine sex.

Eleasah |

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I feel for everyone who is going through this, but I must express that it is nice to know that I'm not alone. It has been so depressing for me to have my husband not be attracted to me. I am 22 weeks now with our first child. My husband has never had a super high sex drive, but now it's completely gone since I got pregnant. I am very tiny, weighing in at 98lbs before I got pregnant. Now I'm 114lbs, but still super little. A lot of people can't even tell that I'm pregnant, but my husband is completely uninterested. If he sees my stomach, he makes a face like he is grossed out. I just hate it. During the first trimester, I did all kinds of things to make myself beautiful & playful in the hopes to attract him. Nothing worked and it was so hard to be rejected constantly. In the past 5 months, we've had sex 3 times and it was like he was doing me a favor. Recently, I'm just tired of trying to win his affection and have given up. I don't try at all anymore. It's just too hard to put myself out there, to be rejected again. I'm focusing my energies into our little one on the way, our home, my career, and friendships. It still is hard to be without affection, but better than being turned down.

empressella |

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Glad to know I'm not the only one. I talked to my DH about it too. He said he wants it to mean something when we do have sex. We've had sex at most, 3 times and I'm 22 weeks. Before I was pregnant it was at least once a week. Now, it's not even once a month. I try to initiate it and he usually just pushes me off or pulls away, gives me a quick peck on the lips and rolls over. I can understand if he wants it to mean something but it's almost like when we do have sex, he just wants it over with. It's confusing because he tells me he thinks my belly is sexy but it feels like he doesn't even want to get near me sometimes.

NewBabyBoy11 |

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Wow, I am in tears because all of the books I read talk about this great sex life that is suppose to exist and in reality it seems as though for many of us, this is not the case. I am 28 weeks pregnant and haven't had sex with my husband in probably 8-10 weeks. I don't even count any more. I too am building resentment because I continue to work hard on my body and have many men tell me I look so beautiful. My husband verbally tells me how beautiful he thinks I look but physically...nada. I don't even let him see me naked and many times I find my self crying in private. This makes me so angry that I have been made to feel like this and my first reaction is to gear up for my baby-free body that I will make hotter than ever before and when he wants sex, deny him. BUT, that isn't going to make anyone happy. And that saying "no one can make YOU feel a certain way" keeps popping in to my head. We are beautiful right now and extremely sexy...hello? can you say bountiful breasts and bums! and quite honestly, we shouldn't be surprised that our male partners can't appreciate it. As I am sure many of us have had to do in the past, and will continue to do in the future, we must take men for what they are. They are different creatures and for many of them this pregnancy is just too much. It is just more reason that we should see the value and beauty of being a woman. We have the power. We have the power to take care of our own needs in the meantime, focus on the health of both ourselves and baby and when the time comes, make them beg for it.

ingstadgirl |

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I to am going thru this no sex in over 7 months. I tell you I think sometimes I will go out of my mind. I have discussed this with my husband & told him my issues & he listens but thats it. Nothing. As if my concerns or needs are not important enough to him that I am just hormonal & will get over this. It has really made my dislike him very much! I find myself crying & can't be happy & feel ashamed for wanting this attention. I really am depressed at this point & don't know what else to say or do. No I am not sexy right now Hello! But at least I would like not to be treated like I have a contagious disease. It's really beginning to wear on my marriage. I am soo unhappy right now! I can't even hold back the tears right now as I type this. No one knows about this. I don't feel compelled to tell anyone. Shew I feel so alone. I really wish I could see the best or the light at the end of the tunnel.

Octbrsccrpio |

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I totally felt like all of you girls and it was really getting to me. we used to have sex all the time, usually once or twice a day. and it finally got to the point of only having it when he felt like it and i really wouldnt have any say in it, if i was lucky. it was almost to the point of once a week if i begged. guys just do not have any idea how much it hurts our self esteem. we are women; we are beautiful and sexy and when they dont see that it just kills us. im twenty weeks pregnant and i am so happy because things have finally kicked up a gear. some of these postings make me mad because it seems like your men are very caught up in just the physical attraction and when you change it makes you different and less desirable. the thing that worked for me finally was just accepting that i am beautiful and pregnant at the same time lol. before i was like, oh man i am getting so big... none of my pants fit... is that a pimple...blah blah blah. and that was what was turning him off. now i just feel more confident. walking with my head up and trying again lol. it may sound really hard, but dont try to impress him. get dressed up and have fun and at the end of the day it is totally his loss.

kelseybw |

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Because your husband think that he will hurt you and the baby. And also that he may lost all intersted in the intercourse. Don't feel bad there are women out there who have intercourse with there husband. So try to make the mood more intemate with your partner or husband. I'm sure that it will make you and yours be more intemate. Or make him be intemate with you.

TylerWilliams318 |

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Well, I'm in the same boat. I think we've had sex maybe 2-3 times in my whole pregnancy (and it was early on in my pregnancy that we did) and once I started showing-sex went out the window. He's not afraid that he'll hurt the baby. He still thinks I'm pretty. He just says "it''s different' , it's "weird". I of course feel like it's because I am fat and unattractive. I mean with the big belly, my enlarging ass, stretchmarks in more than one place- not exactly romantic. So ya know what I did? I accept that we will have a sexless marriage until I am back to being skinny. I'm going to invest in a really good vibrator. AND I went to Sephora today and bought Dior mascara, this top rated bronzer by Guerlain, and some hot lip gloss by Yves. I'm gonna take myself to a matinee today so see that new movies bridesmaids. And for lunch, yea i'm not eating vegetables because he thinks I'm fat, I'm eating what I crave Chicken nuggets and toppin it off with a frozen strawberry lemonade. To hell with him.

Pregnbtche |

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We had a normal sex life until I was about 24 weeks, and then its been dwindling less and less since. I'm now 29 weeks. We haven't had sex in about three weeks. My husband is very adoring to me and the baby and tells me how great I look, etc. but he never wants to have sex. He always says he just doesn't feel like it or he's tired. I have asked him if its because he thinks he'll hurt the baby or because I'm bigger, but he said that's not it. He said he was prepared for what the pregnancy would do to me physically, but not the moodiness and change in my behavior that (basically) aren't turn-ons. I'd love to be little miss rosy sunshine all the time, but when I feel huge its hard to be the same perky, happy person I am when I don't have a giant bump on me. I'm not sure what I can do at this point. Very frustrated and a bit rejected. I think I will try what a few other girls have said and just try to feel as confident as I can about myself and my body and hope that it's noticed.

preggarstasha |

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This is our fifth pregnancy in four years, it will be our third living child due in November. Our sex life petered out with the first live baby's pregnancy (second pregnancy) and has never really returned with any sort of force. I mean, three babies, we can't be doi g that bad?! But when I see girls comment that they have sex 3-4 times a week I am JEALOUS!!! We are lucky if we do it once a month, and then it's mostly because I am relentless and pester him until he finally gives in. Here's the thing: my sweet husband gained 40 lbs with me the first baby, then another 10 with the second. We both gained ten lbs with the baby we lost most recently at 17 weeks, and now, he's 60 lbs heavier than before we started this whole "family" project. I started this pregnancy 15 lbsheavier than my other two, but if I could ever have a year where my body is my own I know I could easily drop the weight. He does not work as hard as I do, and his energy levels are naturally lower than mine. You add to that the decreased testosterone and sleepless nights, it doesn't surprise me that he NEVER wants to throw down. It's got nothing to do w me, and everything to do with how he feels about what has happened to him! On multiple levels. Poor sweet thing. Hope this helps any of you other ladies with husbands that are sympathy eaters! : )

Cwleduc |

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I am 5 months and found out after a month and a half and my husband and I haven't had sex since we found out. I have spoken to him about it on 3 different occasions and he admits it is uncomfortble for him to think of having sex when I am carying our child, even though I and the doctor told him the baby won't every know and it won't hurt him either. I am fortunate that my husband takes time out everyday to still hug and kiss me an compliment me, so I am trying to stayed focus on this. But, I am still determined to try a different approach. I am going to leave a note on the bathroom mirror before I leave work that states the date and time of when we can have a make-out session (noting...no sex allowd). My hope is that a good make out session will ultimately lead to sex, but if not, I think the former will still help to boost my self-esteem. Wish me luck!

vwatson00 |

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I have the complete opposite problem... But i cant find the right answer on here for it. My sexdrive is perfectly fine, but my partners has skyrocketed... To be honestly he now has the sexdrive of a 16 year old boy... Is that normal? Also, He is turned on by the strangest things now with all the different pregnancy changes going on in my body... I guess I shouldn't be complaining that he's enjoying it and not completely repulsed, its just different.

LindseyMcKenzie |

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glad to know i'm not the only one dealing with this...but it really doesn't make it feel better.

timluvr1984 |

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My husband always told me he didn't find pregnant women attractive but I never took him seriously. I am 21 weeks pregnant. We had sex the night before I found out, at 5 weeks and that was the last time. It's like the moment he found out his sex drive turned off. He expects that as soon as the baby is born we'll go back to normal but it's difficult to imagine that it'll be like nothing happened. He comes w/ me to all the appointment, knows it's perfectly safe and still refuses. He is thankfully very caring of me and we do kiss and snuggle and all that good stuff but sex even once or twice in these long nine months would be nice.

psych1124 |

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I am so glad I stumbled across this post. I've cried myself to sleep many nights over this same subject. I finally broke down in front of my BF last week and asked if WTH was going on ... was it because he was afraid of hurting the baby? was it because he saw me as a maternal figure now and not a sexual one? etc etc etc - I asked all the questions. I am 20 weeks and haven't gained any weight yet - but the subtle changes are showing - breasts larger, belly round. He said it wasn't any of those things - just that he felt like he was under a lot of stress right now. When I explained that I was as well (being unemployed and pregnant) and that him ignoring me intimately was just adding to all that - it changed everything. Not that our sex life is back to pre-pregnancy (daily if not more than) - but now at least 3-4 times a week. And thank goodness for that as my sex drive is in OVERDRIVE right now!!!

scrapper9494 |

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Dear fortworthmom, i totally understand what u r going thru!! It is exactly, word for word the same situation i am in! Im trying to accept it, and praying to God that our marriage wont get an any harm from it! Im praying for you 2!

Mireille Lipscombe |

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This is my 2nd baby and my husband is pretty uninterested in sex this time. The first time around we were almost 8 years younger, so I'm sure that helped, but the belly didn't seem to bother him that much. This time he was fine until he could feel the baby kick. He says it freaks him out. I guess the first one didn't kick as much or as obviously. It hurts because I still need to feel beautiful and wanted and satisfied. But when I make him, I feel like it is just out of obligation. I know it is not me that's the problem but it still hurts.

cincin97 |

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I am in my 35th week we have 2 older children as well. In my previous pregs my husband could barely keep his hands off me, but my sex drive was low for some reason but we did "it" when ever I could muster up the energy. Last Nov after trying for some a couple months we found out we were preg. Yay! In early Dec we lost the baby. It was a very difficult time time. I didnt want to be touched let alone in that way. In Feb when we finally did, a few weeks later we found out we were preg again!!!!! Since becoming pregnant after the sickness went away my sex drive is through the roof and his has shut down, but I kind of understand why. We have done it 2 times since I have been preg and each time something happens, the 1st time I got a yeast infection for some reason and then the next I had bleeding which scared us both. Now with me being so far along he is afraid of throwing me into labor cause we have already been twice for early labor. I know the reasoning but it still makes me feel like its me, like I am hideous and very unattractive. We only have a few more weeks! My advice is just hang in there and try to be understanding even though it is hard.

jbpk2010 |

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My husband and I had a great sex life before we got pregnant. Since then, though, I think we may have had sex 5 times and i am due in 2 weeks. I practically beg for it because my sex drive never dwindled one bit, it actually got a lot stronger. I get really upset with him sometimes when he just ignores my advances. I haven't gained that much weight, but It still hurts my self confidence since he barely touches me anymore. I have tried talking to him, but he just gives me vague answers. I really hope he becomes more interested in me after the baby comes, because this is really putting a strain on our marriage.

dmorris01 |

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Very relieving to hear that I am not the only one going through this. I am 20 weeks and we have not had sex since finding out we were pregnant. Although I don't feel sexy right now...I still want that connection with him and he has no interest whatsoever. It does make me emotional. I just hope we reconnect after the baby is born.

clavoie78 |

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So with my first we were ALWAYS having sex but this time not as much. We can't now because I've been on bed rest and I'm 26 wks. But I have also caught him watching porn which that is not the type of marriage we have. Broke my heart. That was before I got put on bedrest now I'm afraid it will happen again and the pregnancy nightmares aren't helping.....I'm confused.

marinecorpswife0803 |

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My opinion is that there are a lot of singles in Washington DC who would love to have your life. A family life is not something easy, but it is very beautiful and it mainly depends on both of you to make the best out of it. Good luck!!

JohnnyBB |

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Maybe you should try watching live sex cams with your husband.I know that you may think about the worst it can happen but you need to talk to him and start having sex again because believe it or not sex is a very important ingredient which makes a relationship to work.

Markuan1 |

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I'm currently 33 weeks pregnant. My SO and I have only had sex 4 times during the pregnancy and I heard all of the excuses. We had a very healthy sex life before, at least once a day before we found out I was pregnant. It hurt me to no end that he wouldn't touch me the way I would, when asking him about it he would make an excuse and would always end up getting mad and calling me a sex addict and when I would point out that many of my friends had sex while pregnant he would say they were really weird for doing so. I had caught him pleasing himself when he was in the bathroom "getting a shower" one day and at first I was like oh well he's watching porn....but my SO hates porn because it's too fake. My paranoia got the best of me and I snooped, and behold I found that he had been putting ads on craigslist and dating sites about being a pro photographer wanting to do a lingerie shoot for his personal collection and was having women from around the city that we live send him some naughty pictures, I never saw where they actually met up for this photoshoot....I'm devastated to say the least. My situation is a different one so I'm not saying your other half is doing things like mine...but there is a possibility. I say if you have a gut feeling that it's more then him just being turned off by the pregnancy, then it's probably true.

Melissa1516 |

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Melissa 1516 I am so sorry to hear of your problems! I am 37 weeks preg. My husband and I have had sex maybe a total of 6 times during this pregnancy. This is my 4 baby and he has always had some trouble before but never like this. He has always been very attentiv but now he will bearly kiss me goodbye in the mornings. I envy those who still have some kind of touching from their SO. I cant even get mine to hold my hand. There have been several nights and days that tears come. I also feel like there could be more to the story then hes just tired or feels wierd about it. He tells me he'll do better but then that very night I was turned down 4 times before I gave up in a pool of tears.I feel he is at least pleasuring himself when he is in the shower. I only hope its not more. I will be praying that your situation gets better.

Shellib01 |

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I am not so happy to know so many women are having the very same issue as I. This is my husband and I third and this time around the thrill is gone. I have yelled cried and disappointly asked for sex from my own husband. His excuse is that he is tired I'm 4 months pregnant and I am in strong NEED! We have had sex 3 times this month lasting all together 10mins I feel so low but at the same time just think I should go and buy me a play man for this term b/c I am already at the end of my rope.

Quita84 |

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I am 21 weeks and I feel like me and my husband are roommates. It's so frustrating. Before I got pregnant I couldn't even be partially naked in his presence without him trying to be with me. Now I can be completely naked lying next to him and NOTHING!!!! I can get him to have sex with me if I really work for it... but that was never the case before. I am at the point where I want to have sex, but I don't want to have sex with someone that doesn't want to have sex with me. That sounds terrible… but true. It’s like I don’t have enough issues with being pregnant… now I have to fight myself from becoming insecure. I’ve tried bringing it up casually, but he acted like he didn’t hear me. I think I am at a breaking point… no communication, no sex, no real intimacy at all. He knows how hard it is for me to be putting on so much weight, why is it so hard for him to just throw me a bone!!?

jrpsychmajor |

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Why you dont try to watch some live sex online?

nikelecy |

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Since entering my 2nd trimester, my sex drive has gone done drastically! I'm not exactly sure if this is normal, but my husband has made several comments about me"neglecting his needs!" Is this normal?

monie1980 |

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I was in your situation first time when I was pregnant. My husband didn't want to have sex and I didn't know why. He explained that he is very concerned about the baby and he didn't want to hurt him. He asked me to let him " free from this duty". And I believed him! Maybe your husband feels the same.

lionking44 |

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Im 33 yo, 20 weeks pregnant and I can't keep my husband off of me. I actually have had a pretty healthy libido from the moment I found out. Even more now then before i was pregnant. But its the orgasms that kind of freak me out they are very strong and my belly contracts like crazy, I afraid i'm going to cause myself to go into labor

jonesn01 |

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My opinion is that you should try some live video. I always did that with my wife while she was pregnant and we always had a good time.

deanjohnson |

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My wife is having same problem with me. we have been married for 10 months now and she is 33 weeks pregnant. she is now twice her size but i still find her attractive. I find it difficult to have sex with her because am scared of hurting the baby and i don't find the sex position we do it now comfortable. Before she got pregnant i lay on top but now i have to do it from the side which gives me a cramp on my leg.

lanihun |

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For those who are not into sex during pregnancy, I would recommend some perfectly categorized websites to have some fun. I already tried a few and they are great.

deanjohnson |

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I have a question I guess.. Since becoming pregnant my fiancé has not been really interested in sex with me.. I have gained a lot of weight and I often feel like he is looking at my tummy in disgust I don't feel attractive at all and I find him checking out other women even though he says he doesn't. I try to dress nice and look pretty but I'm now in my last few weeks and my emotional stress has just been killing me, i dont fit in any of my clothes and am getting very uncomfortable. I tried talking to him about it but he doesn't seem to get it or maybe he doesn't care. I was once a woman he lusted for and now he doesn't want to touch me. I realize in these last few weeks we can't have sex but I expected him to try or to at least not totally blow me off. I feel like I'm throwing myself at him just to try and get a kiss or any little bit of attention and I'm being met with nothing. He says he loves me and there is no one else... Yesterday we had an amazing day and I thought we would have a good evening just spending time the two of us instead he wanted to go play video games and I thought it would be nice to let him go play but after about 10 min I needed to ask him a question and I found him watching x rated things on the x box instead of games! I think this is my last straw I had a vision that when you decided to have a child with someone and create a family it was because you really loved that person.... I don't know if it is just my hormones or if this is okay behavior? We have only just stopped having sex because I felt like I was letting him down if I didn't keep up with it but all he checks out is skinny non stretch marked girls and I can't compete with that.... What do I do ladies? Has this happened to anyone else?

Tippers2 |

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I just texted mine and laid it on the line. I told him that I do not understand why he sleeps on the couch, why he won't touch me, etc. I also told him I realize it is not his intention to make me feel ugly but our relationship is reminding me of my parents (split up). Hopefully this hits home. Ugh. Seriously. Pouting? I didn't get this way by myself.

UhOhHereWeGo |

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It's a little comforting that so many people are having the same issues. I am 9 weeks. We have had sex twice since we found out. Once was the day we found out. The other time was becaus ei sat down and talked to him about it... He essentially grinned and bared it... It made me want to cry more. Yesterday he got mad at me and was yelling at me about how I was "fat" and "sloppy", how I don't take care of myself, and how he would find someone else. He apologized after, but the damage has already been done. I actually lost 3 pounds between week 7 and week 9 but I am more and more bloated and my clothes are tighter.

LittleBabyTabb |

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My hubby and I haven't been in sex mood in about 2 weeks! Long time for us, but we are so nervous. We lost our first at 10 weeks last year and I think we are both scared to have sex this time around. The first time we both were like rabbits and now were a little more cautious. I have been coming around, but he doesn't seem to be it alomost feels like he has lost interest since I am looking fatter in the belly.

Apelila3 |

Q&A: Husband not into sex during pregnancy?

I read somewhere that men's testosterone naturally drops when his mate is pregnant, so that he does not pester her for sex and allow him to think of other things and her to nest...

HiraHarmat2810 |

Q&A: Husband not into sex during pregnancy?

I just laughed and asked my husband this question. He said it's because of football season. I should be used to this by now lol

jenadrag1 |

Q&A: Husband not into sex during pregnancy?

I am going through the same thing. He says my body isnt for him anymore, its functional for the baby. He is very affectionate and loving but I just feel very unattractive at the moment. I feel a bit unwanted in a sexual way, more like a vessel to carry a baby, and Im ready to have me back now! Hoping it comes back after baby

han153 |

Q&A: Husband not into sex during pregnancy?

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gantengsekali |

Q&A: Husband not into sex during pregnancy?

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gantengsekali |