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What are important things to think about when planning a baby shower?

Re: What are important things to think about when planning a baby shower?

The Bump Expert

For you? Relaxing. You're in charge of keeping yourself and baby healthy, and enjoying the shower. Let whoever is planning the shower take care of the worrying.
Now, if you're asking because you are the host, these tips will help you deal with the basics. Don't stress too much, though -- the love, support and company of friends and family is far more important than any gift, theme or hors d’oeuvres

Time it right
Best time for a baby shower? Somewhere in the last trimester. Allow a few weeks' cushion from the due date -- mom's water breaking during cake and coffee might make a great story, but not so much a great party. Having the shower too early, though (within the first half of pregnancy or so) could be -- quite literally -- counting eggs before they're hatched.

Plan ahead
Get the invites out at least six weeks ahead of time. Don't forget to include directions and your phone number or e-mail.

Be creative
Themes are great (think tea party, the nursery's decor, or baby brunch), but if the thought makes you squirm, try simply picking a color or style of food to plan the party around.

Great gifts
This starts with the registry, of course -- the best gift is always one that's wanted. It's also fun to ask each guest to bring a smaller, themed present -- favorite childhood book, homemade frozen dinner, IOU for future babysitting or chore help, etc.

Make it fun
Even if an elaborate themed party seems like too much work (or too corny), it's a good idea to plan some kind of activity. Try setting up a mini-spa with manis, pedis and massages. Or, if you're good with thread and a thimble, send each guest a quilt square along with their invitation, ask them to personalize it and bring to the party, and then sew them all together to make a keepsake quilt for the mom-to-be.



Paula Kashtan

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i'm finding myself eager to have a shower already, but i'm only 21 weeks! all my girlfriends have promised me a fun shower where we live with 6-4 weeks to go and a virtual shower for all my friends who won't be able to attend. the most important thing for you to remember, just be ready to be pampered and the center of attention and have a camera on hand! happy pampering!

aarons-wifey-to-be |

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I am having my baby shower at 27 wekks because I am flying home to see my family in california. Then I am having the next one for family in WA the weekend after. I don't think that is too early.

Sydneys Mommy |

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Well, I will only be 19 weeks and 5 days when I have my first baby shower. That's only because as one of many pregnant military wives on our base, we are trying to cram all the baby showers in this summer before friends move away. My other baby shower will be when I am 29 weeks because I am also going home to CT to have it with my family.

MommyCBP |

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I will be 33 weeks but the date has already been set and the planning is much under way. That will be plenty of time to get things washed, put away, and set up before baby is due.

MrsPCallahan |

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Mine's at 36 weeks, over Thanksgiving weekend, and I have to say I'm nervous about that. Definitely not too early to go into labor, and I'm worried about people not being able to show up. A number of my friends were kept away from my bridal shower by unforeseen circumstances (health problems, deaths, etc.). My mother insists it will be easier for some of our family to attend that weekend because of the holiday, but I don't know. I think it's going to end up being me, mom, my sisters, my pseudo SIL, and a couple of mom's friends from work. Not really the event I was dreaming of.

LoriFalce |

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I will be 33 weeks for my shower but my mom is going completely overboard on the thing. Rented room, catered lunch, flower arangements, elaborate decorations, she even bought expensive paper to print the game answer sheets on. This thing is going to cost over $700 for around 20 people and I am just woried that even that many won't end up showing up. She is driving me crazy and stressing me out.

RedHeadRenee |

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I had my first shower at 23 weeks but that was because I was travelling to a different state where I used to live and my friends there wanted to get together with me. I am not planning on returning again until after the baby is born so it was then or never (or ask them to travel across the country for a later shower where i live). It was nice and was good to be in the "cute" stage of pregnancy. I am having another local shower at week 31. We will probably be all stocked up for baby after that.

orouram |

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I will be 32 weeks for mine. We thought about having it around Thanksgiving weekend but I don't think we would have the attendance we want. We did come up with a good idea though. Have a notebook or scrapbook handy for the baby shower. For anyone who shows up, have them right down their advice or newborn parenting tricks of the trade. It will be a great personal keepsake and reference guide in stressed out times. I hope it comes in handy!

JenDobs1019 |

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I'm having my shower at 24 weeks. I'm going home and my family wanted to throw a shower for me while I'm there. Since I won't be able to travel much more after this and they can't all come cross country for a baby shower.

megachik@msn.com |

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I'm having my shower when I am 29 weeks, which I thought was early, but I work in retail and so does the majority of my friends and of course co-workers, so that is why my friend wanted to have it before the holidays.

SunshineClarity |

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what if you don't really want a shower because you don't want to be around the majority of peple you KNOW the hostess is going to invite, no matter what your wishes are?

cajunangel1985 |

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I just had my shower. I'm at 33 weeks. We had about 50 people, guys and girls. What a great success! I planned everything! It cost close to $2000 for everything, but I don't consider that to be too much. HELPFUL HINT - No wrapping paper on the gifts! It saves time and is good for the environment! Also, if you have a Jack and Jill shower, provide something for the guys to do. I had Poker tables set up

HeatherAA |

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I am having a shower at 30 weeks. I wanted to plan it myself but my mother was offended. I am scared because she has never planned a party in her life. But I figure I will be able to plan lots of parties for my baby after it is born so I have started planning the Christening Party already to keep me busy. :-)

MrsW110406 |

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My first shower will be at 31 weeks. I am flying home to California to have it with friends and family out there then my second one will be at 35 weeks here in Indiana for my friends and husbands family who lives out here. It is cutting it close but I still have exactly a month before my due date.

laughingwild |

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I keep hearing people having 2 showers? Why? A bigger one and a smaller one?

nelliehamton |

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Probably one for each side of the family. For example my family/friends are in NY and his are in TN so it would be hard to have everyone together at one.

immelbatoast |

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I am planning on having mine around 26 or 27 weeks because I wanted it to be before the holidays so that people would be in town. We are planning on having two showers because I have a large family with lots of family friends and lots of friends from high school/college. We are going to have a a family one and then a friend one. My husbands buddies are planning a "Beer and Diaper Shower" for him. It is really a cute idea because all the guys bring is a case of beer and a case of diapers. One of my parents friends did it and they didn't have to buy diapers for the first year. That is really helpfull!

brandibstuck |

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i am having one with work people and then family and friends. I will be 31 and 32 weeks. I feel bad for cajunangel1985 and her post! I hope she ended up having a shower with only the people she wanted there and that care about her!

Mrs. Sawyer |

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Ours has been scheduled for 26 weeks. Like others said, with the holidays and the crazy winter weather we wanted to be safe rather than sorry. Plus, I wouldn't want to interrupt others time with their families during the holidays to come to a shower!

Jessis62781 |

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We're actually having four showers - sounds crazy, but that's the way it's worked out. One hosted by my husband's fire department at 36 weeks (co-ed, always fun), one hosted by a good friend and her husband at 35 weeks (family and local friends, probably 25-30 people, also co-ed), a SMALL one hosted by my college friends/sorority sisters at 25 weeks (before Thanksgiving) and another one hosted by a former client at 35 weeks. My husband and I were both raised within 20 miles of where we live now and I didn't want any one person to be burdened with a large shower, so when people started offering we decided to split it into several small ones.

cronbach |

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Is it considered rude to expect a shower from a certain group of people outside of family? A friend of mine is a pastor's wife, like me, and the church that she was serving threw her one. I'm only at 20 weeks, but I've not heard of anyone planning anything. I know that my Mom and MIL will both throw one, but it'd be nice to have the support from my faith family.

froeschleiniowa |

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why not have a post-delivery "baby show-off" versus "baby shower" for those who don't have a nursery set up or don't know the gender of the baby? then friends and family still come together for food and drinks (and cake : ) )but get to actually see the baby instead of play traditional games? then the new mom& dad don't end up with a bunch of stuff they don't need/want. they can actually get stuff that is essential, not just cutsie. seems more practical to me anyway . . .has anyone ever done this?

ams3377 |

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My mom has already started planning our shower, and I'm only 5 weeks!! We're going to have one with her side of the family AFTER the baby's born, that's usually what that side likes to do so that everyone can see the baby. My grandma is also planning one with my aunts and cousins on my dad's side, and that will be before the baby's here...probably around 25 weeks.

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diapercakes |

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I relocated to Atlanta a year ago and so I will be having two showers one for my friends and family in DC when I am 28 weeks, and one in Atlanta when I am 32 weeks. The one in DC will be a more tradtional shower with some games and baby decorations. My baby shower hostess in Atlanta wants to do a theme party. However most that we have found are really expensive. I would prefer (and I am she does too :-))that she not go bankrupt trying to throw a lavish theme party. Does anyone have any ideas for a fun but totaly not expensive theme party?

biggirl4ever |

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Hi biggirl4ever. I am having my baby shower next week 2/28, I will be 36 weeks. Although I am not totally throwing the shower myself, it did start off that way. I hosted my friends shower last year and it turned out to wonderful. And I did it on a real budget. I went to the 99 cent store and picked up some things here and there, then the arts and craft store, got some glue and created the most cutest keepsakes. each one cost me about $1.25 each. For the winners of the games, I got a little basket and filled it with decorative soaps, candles and goodies, wrapped it in clear plastic and put a big bow on it (about $5.00 each, I made 4).... everyone was going crazy trying to win those baskets. It was so much fun. Just remember, Presentation is everything gurl! I plan on doing the same thing with my shower. Just be creative and original, that beats anything expensive any day!

shatinabrn1 |

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I already have three showers being planned for me and I'm only 11 weeks! One is set in WI where I was born when I'll be about 33 weeks, and the other two will probably be before then where I live in AR. (I know, an 11 hr drive to WI is going to be torture when I'm that close to my due date!!) My aunt is planning the one in WI, and my mom and best friend are planning the two down here.

dizzzy_chik99 |

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froeschleiniowa ... with church showers, if your church has a ladies group/mission thing then I would mention that you'd like to have a shower or party before baby comes, and say how much you depend on and need to learn from your faith family. It's entirely reasonable. I'm not christian, but I do belong to a church through my mother and have attended many similar showers, along with a couple in the monthly meeting in my own faith. The gifts are smaller, but the advice and social time is invaluable.

spiffy |

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Actually, I'm having 3 showers. My MIL and DH's cousins want to give us a surprise one since they live in Baltimore and he has a huge family with alot of people from out of town, my best friend is planning one for us for just our other family members and friends, and then my work shower. I'm not sure when these showers are going to be but I'm sure they'll be before I get too far along since I'm due in September and that's a busy time where I work. I agree, I've been to church showers and they are very initmate and you receive the greatest advice and time to really reflect about everything.

meka06 |

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Is it just me, or did etiquette go out the door? I've never heard of a Mom to be planning their own shower. To me that seems like begging for gifts.

LanorigbRN |

re: LanorigbRN

I agree. Not to mention that I found out recently that it's rude to have baby showers for any babies other than your first.

ladyaylena |

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As for moms planning their own shower, that should never happen. As far as having a shower for babies after the first, my understanding is that it's not out of line if the next baby is a different sex or if it has been several years since your last child.My shower is going to be at week 34.

heather0413 |

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Sometimes, etiquette goes out the window. It's supposedly "not done" to have family throw showers. But most of the friends we socialize with are my DH's friends (and many of them have girlfriends, not wives). Plus, my family all lives back East, and the vast majority of my girlfriends live in other parts of the country. So my DH's family is hosting our two showers -- thank God for them! His aunt is hosting the family shower, and my MIL and SIL are hosting the friends shower (with help from my BF). We're having them around 31 and 33 weeks, respectively.

lorimcox |

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i dont think it's faux pas to throw your own shower, especially if the original giver has flaked out. because of a slight falling out with my aunt, i'm not sure if i'm getting one for her, but luckily i have back up in the way that my future MIL would like to give one, but since i know most of my friends who wish to attend travel mainly by public transport, i dont see the harm in throwing one myself, with the help of my mom. it's not begging for gifts, especially if no one has the time to do it for you...in my opinion at least.

spazz_mama |

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My sister is supposed to be throwing me a shower, but I am getting kinda nervous because all that she has said about it is, "well I guess I'm gonna throw you a shower, huh." She just graduated from college and is preoccupied, with well her own life. She hasn't had to ever throw a party and I am worried that nothing will get done. What should I do?

Jenn-n-Joe010508 |

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My sister is throwing my shower (26w) with the help of some close friends of mine. I am searching for any suggestions on what to give as hostess presents. Any ideas???

KimberlyAS |

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I am having 3 baby showers. One at work, one in Central Florida where my husband's family lives and one in South Florida with my friends and family. It's bad enough the one in South Florida will have close 40 people. I really hate being the center of attention.

jaz465 |

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Im having 2 showers, im due in Mid October, but I asked my Mom, who's hosting 1 and my bff who's hosting the 2nd, to do them in August when im between 27-31 weeks. My pregnancy is high risk and I have a slight chance that i can go in labor by September. I want to be ready!, Hope for the Best! prepare for the worst. Now I cut them a month of planning, they are both perfectionist and love detail! and "shower, shower, shower" is all I hear around here!

lizarragaalex |

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my first shower is going to be at 27 weeks... we are having 3 since my aunts insisted on having a shower, we have tons of friends and family that is why we are having so many.. also we are trying to avoid the holidays since people are so busy during that time!

laurengraceholland |

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My mother and MIL are throwing my baby shower, but I'm pretty sure that it is a surprise, because my MIL is always taking my hubby aside and telling him things that he will not tell me!!! I know that she has already got stuff that is on my registry, so I'm sure that's what they are sneaking around for. I'm 24 weeks and 3 days right now, and I have no clue when my shower will be. Hopefully sooner rather than later (;

sugareexx |

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I live in Vegas, but my side of the family all live way east, so I know we're going to have a shower there, and since I'm due in January I was thinking like Thanksgiving if my Doc gives the okay to fly then. But my MIL doesn't really plan parties. If DH's grandparents are in town, they'll plan dinner or something, but half the family doesn't get invited, and it isn't really a "party". My stylist and ex-coworker said something about throwing me a baby shower, but we aren't really close anymore. I worked with her for a while, but we never saw each other outside of work, and I haven't worked in months. Idk! I mean, I can't tell DH's side of the family to throw us a party if they don't want to, but his mom seemed really upset that she couldn't go to our engagement party my mom hosted for us in PA, but felt no desire to have one for us here.

TCTF |

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I'm having mine around 28 weeks just because I wanted to make sure it was outside before it got too cold so we can utilize our pavilion at our house. Also with Labor Day Weekend and everybody's children going back to school and activities they are involved with I thought this worked out great for me.

sapphire7787 |

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My family, husband and I are planning our shower for week 31 which will be in October. We are making it a Halloween themed party (costumes optional - lol). Halloween is our favorite Halloween so we could not think of a better theme for us.

kittie157 |

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one of my friends plans on having a baby shower for me after we find out the sex of the baby. I already have a daughter and had a shower for her, and i also heard your not supposed to have more than one shower. My friend, however said she is throwing me one regardless of what the sex is or what i say.

infantgirlmama |

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Did anyone else not want a shower? I have some "family issues" and a high-stress job, and think it would be easier just not to have one. Plus, I was never really too into them anyhow. We're planning on registering for gifts prior to Christmas (thus, making it easier for people who're always asking what we want for Christmas) and hoping family members who typically buy us presents will use that list instead. I told my mother about the plan and she seemed shocked that she couldn't throw me a shower. My MIL has a simiilar view.

sarah_ann401 |

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I'm due the last week in January so when my MIL asked when I wanted a shower I decided on November. Obviously with the holidays coming I would have preffered early November but because I live in MA and my family is in NY, surprisingly a few of my family members suggested having it the weekend after Thanksgiving because they figured most people would have a long weekend off from work. I thought maybe have it the weekend before but was told thats when most people will be getting ready for Thanksgiving so that would be even less convenient! So I just don't know, I'm so torn about the whole thing and putting people out and I think my in-laws are probably not as keen on the idea but they don't want to say so... I need some input please!!

cathiris |

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Baby showers should be fun & guests should interact with game playing. It should not be typical but unexpected moments. I actually planned my own shower, its this weekend, I'm 31 wks but will most likely deliver in the next 2-4 wks so I had to do it myself. You must have a theme & favors to match the theme b/c it will make th event memorable to guests. I chose to use the same theme as my baby's nursery. It's all about colors, gemetric patterns, ABC's & #'s & the shower decor reflects this. We are playing scrabble & having raffles with #'s. The favors are measuring spoons (# theme) & its a gift they will always have & hopefully use, not a throwaway or edible. The gifts from the games are what women want such as beauty products & scented candles. I purchased Peek-a-boo ABC blocks to put around the tables which reflects the theme & my baby can have these as a toy later. I really hope my guests have fun.

Soniagirl |

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I'm planning my shower at 35 weeks. My family is not too helpful but its not their baby. I like Soniagirl's idea about the ABC blocks. I think i'm going to use that on the the tables. I have no idea on where to being, any ideas? I already picked the date but now comes the real planning. I'm open to any ideas!! Help!!

CyndiM |

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I have more of a question - my bridesmaids are planning my shower in another city from where I live which is great because then my family and friends that I grew up with will be able to attend. On the flip side, a lot of my friends in the city I live in now probably won't attend since they'd have to travel for it. Would it be rude of me to ask if they wouldn't mind splitting the babyshower duties and having the out of town bridesmaids (2 gals) plan the one in my hometown and the local bridesmaids (there's only 1 though) plan a local one? Thanks in advance for your input!

jenchen21 |

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I'm having a hard time registering for baby gifts... I know it's helpful (my mom is for sure going to throw a shower and my friends probably will too) but I just got married so JUST registered for wedding gifts! We got pregnant right after our honeymoon and I feel really weird setting up another registry... But people are already asking us where we're registered! It just all seems so greedy guts. I wish people would do what I did for one of my friends last year - she refused to register so I just asked her what she already had, made her promise not to buy anything, and set up a pseudo-registry for her of the necessities. Super easy and she didn't feel greedy. Sigh. Well, I have a bit longer to figure it all out. I'm not due till the end of March 2010.

leahcuneo |

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I noticed that there were several comments about proper etiquette and not planning your own baby shower because it comes across as though you're begging for gifts. My question is this : My Aunt (she is also my Godmother) is throwing my baby shower at her house. Is it wrong for me to do all the invitations and RSVP's? I was going to put my phone number down for the RSVP, this way I can keep track of who I've heard from and who I haven't. Then, I could just give my Aunt a final number of guests who will attend. Is this considered rude and begging for gifts? I mean, I'm not throwing the shower, just trying to help with the planning.

littleluckyseven |

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littleluckyseven: my mother and I are actually planning my shower together. She will technically be the "hostess", but she wanted me to be involved so we could have fun planning together, and she would not have to worry as much about if I like certain things or who to invite. I think it's perfectly appropriate to help plan your own shower.

noutzimou |

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I think my BFF and sister are co-hosting for me around 2 months before due date. I disagree with the idea of a baby show-off if possible b/c babies immune systems arent built up for a while and everyone will want to fuss over the baby and hold them (who can blame them) but this also can exposed baby to germs. And I'd feel weird telling everyone to Purell before they touch baby!

vanessaazimi |

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The people that say hosting your own shower or a family member hosting a shower is rude should understand that some people have no other options or prefer to do it themselves. I think it is more of a burden to ask friends to take on the burden and expense of hosting a shower when it is more fun and less expensive for them to show up with their gift and enjoy. Many of my friends are dealing with financial difficulties right now so I would never expect them to offer. I am 20 weeks at the moment. Since I have no offers I will start planning my own shower. If someone does offer then I can hand over what I've done so far. I love party planning so I really don't mind and I don't feel bad at all hosting it myself.

mrsgrenat |

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What does the guest of honor picture in her mind as her perfect baby shower...whatever it is, do it!

christascott06 |

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I am having at least 2 baby showers. Why? Because the people who are closest to me...family and long time friends, live in one city and don't want to commute. And, the new friends andfamily I have...well, they really have no filter, and aren't necessarily the people I want around my aunties and mother...makes sense. Plus, the fathers sister wanted to plan a shower, and so did my sisters...so I figured I would make them ALL happy. In addition to all that...a baby shower in excess of 70 people is just ridiculous...especially if you don't have the space.

shaniganoogan |

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im having 3 baby showers within the next month...we moved to TN so ill be going back home to IL for the showers. im planning on getting the hostesses a gift as a thank you, but im not sure what to get them yet...any ideas? also, i dont know if the girls are planning on giving out favors...would it be too much to do favors myself? i just want to thank everyone for coming :)

hillarious28 |

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I am due in June and we are having the baby shower the first weekend of May. I will be 32 weeks at that time and it will be a family shower with all our family, friends and relatives invited with their families. It will be around 45 people. Me and my husband tried for a long time for this baby and we suffered a early loss along the way and there are so many people who want to celebrate this new healthy little girl we have growing that we thought one big family shower would be perfect! It will be a fun jungle/safari theme since that will be her nursery theme as well. My Mom and Dad are hosting the shower (this is their first grandchild and they are so excited!) but I am helping with the planning and in charge of the invitations.

jrosehistory |

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We are having a co-ed shower of about 70 people. I will be about 32 weeks when we have it. I am really looking forward to having everyone thats important to me there (family, friends and co-workers). We dont really have a shower theme however, the babies room is an ocean/sea life theme.

jnb348 |

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My mother and sister are planning on giving me a baby shower at 26 weeks. I would prefer to have it later, but I live 9 hours away and wouldn't want to make the trip too much futher in the pregnacy. My husband's friends are also giving him a diaper shower, which I think is a great idea to make him feel as special about becoming a first time parent as I do. My question is: Does anyone think 26 weeks is too early for a baby shower? Should we try to push it back a few more weeks?

shannon181 |

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I did not have a shower with my first two children, we pretty much kept running to the store for whatever we forgot. But this time I'm having it at 29 weeks. I'm a lil concerned maybe it's gonna be too late as I am pregnant with twins, and you never know when it's time. All in all, think no stress and try to have fun...

Holly1944 |

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Everyones situation is a little different. My family is all out of state and my parents are up in years w/health not being the greatest. So I have no problem throwing my own shower and having a close friend help out. Thank God my for our community of faith for sharing in our joy. I'm having it at a restaurant and so I'll only have to show up, so simple.

Lauraely1 |

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i have a question. i have 5 kids already but nobody has ever given me a shower. my family really dont care about me and i only have 2 girlfriends. they said they would invite some of thier friends that i have met on ocassion so that i would have some people to celebrate my new baby with and have them bring thier kids to play with my kids but im not sure if its right to have people that i barely know buy stuff for my baby. what does everybody think???

consuelo6 |

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I'm having my baby shower in June I'm due June 21 I keep asking my mom about my shower she Say's don't worry about it I'm taking care of it I hate the unknowing

thekayk |

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My mom doesn't think its her place to throw a shower for me and my only sister is barely out of high school. should i throw my own shower. i have a lot of friends, but none close enough to offer to throw me a shower. and since most of them are around 20 yrs old i don't think they know what a baby shower consists of... any advice??

candygirl1177 |

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My best friend & sister are planning my shower. My husband and I have decided to find out what we are having and tell my best friend (not my sister because she tends to be a blabber mouth) and theme the shower around what the baby is. So then on the day of the shower whoever comes will find out what we are having. I am not due until September 1st but we already set a tentative date so she can reserve the room at her complex (I said I would not want it to be at my place) and plan ahead as it will fall in the middle of the summer.

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beccaboob |

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My husband, daughter and I just recently moved to NC, where we have no family and no friends. We're originally from IL, so we are taveling home at 26 weeks for our shower. I'm a high risk pregnancy and didn't want to travel any later in the pregnancy than that.

jagonzalez |

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I'm having twin girls and they suggest having the shower earlier than if you were pregnant with one baby. So, I'll be 28 weeks at my shower the weekend before Memorial Day and my work shower will be a couple of weeks later. I also wanted to have everything for the babies done before the last 6 weeks of prenancy which is end of June(nursery, all baby needs purchased, and all clothes washed and organized). I'm guessing that I'll be very uncomfortable by that point and won't have th energy to be doing too much baby prep.

heather2323 |

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I've been informed that I'm having at least 3 showers but mainly this is due to my spread out family, wide group of friends, and crazy schedules. I'm hoping the parties are more intimate than blow outs like one of my friends is trying to plan.

MCVixen |

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I'm having my baby shower at 27 weeks because it was the only time a lot of family could all get together and it allows me to be able to put items away and still have time to get the items that weren't purchased. Several moms that I have talked to said that anywhere from 25-30 weeks is the best because then your not stressing or having that much pain.

Jmorehouse2 |

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Everyone keeps asking me if I'm going to have a shower as if I was the one planning it, rather than offering to throw me one. I told them I didn't really want one just because I don't think people really like going to them and I live in a small apt so I don't want a ton of stuff I don't need. My mom said if I don't want one then she would just give me the money she would have spent on the shower. I think that sounds better to me than spending money on a shower. It would be kind of nice to have everyone celebrating with me but it seems like more of a burden than fun.

lovelynyc |

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My shower is actually next weekend, and I'll be 24 weeks. We have no choice but to do it early because my husband is in the military and returning from deployment, so I'll be traveling to be with him.

phillish |

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My son was expected to be due the first week of September. So we decided to throw the baby shower on the 22nd of August. I guess my son wanted to be part of his own party because he was born on the 20th. We went through with the shower but some games were hard to play:-P All in all it turned out great:)

thisdollistaken |

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I'm having mine when I'm about 37 weeks. Had to do it then so I could have my close friends there. Mine is going to be quite big with both sides of family and frinds and co workers. I figured prob about 50 people. I would rather just do one shower instead of sevral. I'm looking forward to it though. Oh and were doing this game where everyone has to bring you a thing of diapers or formula and then they get a raffel ticket and then the winner gets a nice prize!

MommyNay |

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The "ideal" time seems to be pretty flexible! I know I would love a shower somewhere between 30 and 32 weeks, but I feel a little powerless as to the when! I'm certain my friends will plan one, but my group of girls has been known to sort of wait till the last minute, and since no one has mentioned it yet (I'm 24 weeks) I'm afraid to bring it up! I'm terrified of communicating that I think they'll flake out on me! So, here's hoping that someone asks me my preferences on the when, but maybe I'll be prepared to be flexible just in case. :)

LizzieAnnCSU |

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well it depends cause i wanna kinda plan my baby shower but i know my mother in law wants to do it too. so i dont really know what the case is...

d0ra1520 |

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Right now I'm 26 weeks and have 2 showers planned and a 3rd up in the air. One is with my family the other is with my hubbys family. The 3rd is going to be with our friends. Friends that are arguing about throwing it, when hubby and I would much rather throw it our selves. I'm kinda nervous about all 3 showers. The one with my family my aunt is planning it. She is all worried about who to invite, meaning she is inviting "her" friends and not just my family. Wierd! Its 4 weeks away and I asked her when she planned on sending out invites.... she responded with in 2 weeks! I kinda freaked out, I'm a planner and love to know what is going on next month on my calendar, 2 weeks is not enough time if we want anyone to attend. Grr.... I guess I should just be happy so many people support and love me enough to gather for such an event.

devitd1 |

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I am actually having mine post baby. I thought this was more common, but it doesn't look like it based on these posts. My sister in law is expecting also and will be due 4 weeks prior to me. She has 2 kids already and is not having a shower, but wanted to throw me one for my first. We are having it 4 weeks post baby so everyone can see and hold him, and then if I need anything after I get him home, I'll know what to still ask for. We have most of our big stuff already for the nursery and will be more then fine for 4 weeks until the shower.

Rachelvanmid |

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For those that say it is rude for a family member to throw a shower, I think that is an odd opinion. My mother, MIL and SIL are throwing a large shower for me as it will be my first and I can't imagine asking a friend to foot the bill for a shower and commit all that time in planning as well.

Harvestmoonbeams |

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our moms are planning ours at the same hall we got married at, very special! i've never been a fan of showers but we couldn't get out of this one. i'm trying to think of something unique instead of the usual boring games & themes.

Bellaitaliana3 |

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Im 21 weeks now, and just moved back to the stated from Japan (military). Because we are in a new place, and not really near family or any friends I can't help but think that there is NO way I will have a baby shower! I feel guilty for feeling so bummed out about it, but it just seems so sad to me since it is our first... we have NOTHING, and you're supposed to have a baby shower! I think I should probably just stop thinking about it, and just enjoy all the other good things w the baby coming.

HKJacobsen@comcast.net |

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my baby shower will be held in November, making me 32-35 weeks. That is the most conveinient month to have it though, being as how Im due in early January, with Halloween in October, Christmas in December and Newyears in January. I dont want people to feel pressured into bung a gift when they will inevitably be buying gifts, or decorations for some other occasion. So November for me! My mom and I are throwing it, but I think the most important thing to think about it, that you dont need to try to impress anyone. They dont need a 4 course meal and sliver plated trinkets to take home. You and your baby are #1 at your baby shower so just sit back, eat, relax and look at all the cute stuff your baby will be adorned with once he is born! Happy Hosting Everyone and Congratulations on your pregnancy!

mrskelliejohnson |

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Well, my parents begged and pleaded with me to help take care of my first son due to the fact that I was still in high school. And when that was spread out, my entire family threw me stepmom and son and shower instead of me and my son. Which I tried to not care about, but when he was born and I had to go to college, my parents kept all the stuff. Now i am in college and have become pregnant by my fiancee. My son hasn't moved back in with us yet so right now we have nothing but a pack and play bassinet my soon to be mother in law gave us. I know in certain cases having a second shower is silly but we have nothing right now plus this one is a girl. I am thinking about having a shower in my 35 week or so, right now i am at 22 weeks.

coltsmom10 |

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I'm having mine at 32 weeks. We're planning it on my birthday weekend--the week before Thanksgiving. It seemed like the best day/weekend to do it. We couldn't in October, seeing as Im getting married in 2 weeks (October 9th) and I found it poor form to have a bridal registry and a baby registry sent out in the same month. November is chock full of birthdays in my family so we found the one weekend where nothing is really going on. I didn't mind doing it my birthday weekend anyways lol My DH-to-be tried to go all gung-ho and plan everything....literally everything from the wedding to the baby shower. My sister got involved and told him to sit back and STFU, that she's handling the baby shower. I love my sister. :D hahaha He still is trying to plan parts of it, but that won't last long...... men.....

krazyshay1987 |

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Not having one, as I think they are a little weird? What about all the risks still left in the pregnancy, things may not go right, and then you are left looking at a pile of reminders of what may not be? Also, bit of a gift-grab, no? It just seems to be assuming too much. Gifts are more appropriate after the birth in my head. When everyone is safe and healthy and we can all celebrate.

jbresnan |

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You should really rethink not having one at all. My friends and family are having mine about 5 weeks after our baby is born because I did not want to find out if I am having a boy or a girl. This way I don't end up with all gender neutral items. I think that baby showers are more of a way for friends and family to celebrate with you.

annie112506 |

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I've recently moved to an area where I have NO friends or family. Are there any alternative ideas for having a long distance baby shower? Or is this a totally futile effort?

kacburke |

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Our daughter and son-in-law have moved and now live a distance from most family & friends. How do we plan a long-distance, possibly gift card only, baby shower?

GrammieLisa |

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grammielisa, i think your daughter would love anything you do for her regardless of distance if she has a registry you could plan a baby shower with the family and friends and record it like a video postcard or maybe have a set date for the shower so everyone can send gifts off her registry around the same time so you could send the video postcard first so if she was feeling a lil homesick that would help then the gifts would start coming and thats a blessing in itself even if she doesnt have a registry they could mail the gifts around the same time or if you guys have webcams u could invite the people over and she could open all the gifts as yall watched her facial expression on webcam hope that helps out

goodlovelivelife |

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rossana2000@hotmail.com |

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My aunt is throwing me a shower at 32 weeks. I am really excited about it. She throws great parties, and it is going to be a "couples" shower/co-ed. All of our friends from college are being invited, as well as my family, and there will be yummy food, cocktails (virgin for me!), and some funny games. I'm only 21 weeks now, and I can't wait!

StephBraden2 |

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No idea if anyone is planning one yet for me (only 21 weeks in). Every one I've been to (and the one I'm going to later this month) has been planned by relatives (of the mother, of the father, or both jointly). I think that's pretty much the norm.

Mellingtonboots |

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The important things in a baby shower are family, joy, fun, and peace....yes peace. I am pregnant with my third and have a 10yr old (Boy) and a 5yr old (boy), but my first shower was so stressed it lasted maybe an hour and I ended up crying and not enjoying. Thank goodness my family (the ones who cared) re-did it and I was at peace and happy. Now with this one (a girl) I am 28weeks and plan to make a peaceful happening with the people I love and love me. Keep it simple... duckies or trains, whatever. Laugh, have fun and apreciate the people around you...the baby will be greatful for it and so will the hormones.

Ldysmile002 |

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I'm planning on having my baby shower after the baby is born. My mother is Polish and they are a little bit superstitious about receiving gifts before the baby is here, and I thought it would be a nice way to have every up and meeting the baby together. And since I'm not finding out the sex before the birth, it'll make gift giving easier on everyone.

vermontlv |

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I've seen a lot of posts regarding baby #2 and so on and that they've been told not to have showers after your first...The whole point of the shower is to celebrate each new baby's arrival not dwell on gifts. Its about memories not how much each guest will bring. This is my 3rd and I cant wait to share with everyone the new addtion to our family regardless if the people invited were able to bring anything or not. Happy happy joy joy for another girl!!

shrtnswt0406 |

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What if I don't have anyone to throw me a shower? My husband and I don't have a lot of close friends and the only family here are my parents. We both have friends from work and church but no BFF or anything to make plans... everyone at church and work is asking about it and I don't know what to say - I am 28 weeks now and would really like to have a shower... :(

CarlyPug |

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Our theme for the nursery is turtles, so I figured a beachy shower would be fun, with those yummy chocolate turtle candies. Fun!!

sugarkitten1420 |

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My shower was last week and I received a gift that actually my husband went bananas over. It was not my registery, so i was very surprised when I opened it. Its a specially stitched baseball (pink or blue) that when the baby is born the nurse puts the footprints on it. It comes with a case and a couponcode for a free name plaque. I like this bc we can display it in our family room or in my babys room. This will now be my go-to gift for friends who enjoy baseball. The price seems very reasonable and the owner acutally responed himself with my questions etc. Check it out at www.ball-one.com

Mommy165 |

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Mommy165 that is so awesome! such an awesome gift! I don't know if I am having a baby shower or not, I have not been told by family, and my friends don't live close enough. Would be nice to have a shower

kcazteacher |

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When i was pregnant with my first, I threw my own shower. It was actually quite nice and stress free, since you know you invited the ppl that you want to be there. This time (#3) we are having two showers: one before the baby with close friends and fam and then one after he is born for family/friends from out of town/state to come meet the little booger. My bff is throwing the first one and my mom is in charge of the second. And this is also a good way to split things up if you have relatives or friends who don't get along.

iheartsims |

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This is my first and I like the idea of planning it myself. Its not that I on't have friends... its just the friends I have do not get along with eachother. Although they have to just get along for one day... MY DAY and then carry on. See I'm the last one out of my friends. Most of my friends kids are in college already. (they had em at 19) I'm 39 and with my first. I do think after reading everyones input - to do it your self. I will know what I am having May 19th... so getting excited. If its a boy the room will be frogs/turtles (pond) and a girl flowers and butterflies. I am a disney nut so I do have many items of Stitch and he has been associated with both frogs and butterflies so it will work out whatever I have. I'm thinking week 25-30 is good to have one. Everyone have a easy safe pregnancy! And get all the rest you can!

Snugit |

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My shower will be at 36 weeks and we are planning a "Jack and Jill" style shower. I think my husband is most excited. I'm very excited to have the time to celebrate our little one with all of our friends and family rather than just a handful of women.

angelofjersey |

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candygirl1177 | in response to your sisters being to young to know how to throw a shower, you should look up a lot of the things you like and send them links. My sisters are throwing mine, but I'm the first girl in my family to have a baby, so they've never thrown one and haven't been to many. So I found games and invitation themes I liked and sent them links via e-mail to give them an idea of what I like. They are doing it for you, so it's not rude to let them know what you like. I'm sure they'd appreciate some guidance it if they really feel like they have no idea what they are doing. Don't worry about contributing. All these comments about ettiquette and what not. I say, if the person that receives the invite feels it's uncalled for for the mother or family members to host the party, or to have a shower after the 1st, than they don't have to attend. But really I don't think any of your true friends are going to judge you so harshly. And if they really are more concerned with ettiquette than supporting your new baby, maybe you don't want them at your shower. I agree that it's a time of celebration and making memories, though gifts are great and the hands of many make light work, that's not what the shower's all about.

beirdneauk |

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TINYMIRACLESIMAGING |

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Add a little something special to your Baby Shower.... Tiny Miracles Imaging, located in South Jersey ,now provides 3D/4D keepsake ultrasounds at Baby Showers. Imagine the surprise on your guests faces when they see your child at the baby shower. for more info www.tinymiralecsimaging.com

TINYMIRACLESIMAGING |

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I did a baby shower post baby with both of my kids. My mom threw me one for my son and my two best friends for my daughter. My friend just had her 3rd chilld and since most of the time you have a shower for your first son and your first daughter she had a diaper shower so that her friends and family could still celebrate with her but instead of cloths, toys or other things you just bring diapers.

courtneymbrockberg |

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We plan on having our baby shower at 28 or 29 weeks. That will give us time to get last minute items together and everything set up for the baby. Less worrying for me about weather or not I will have everything in time. I don't know what the article was talking about 'counting eggs before they're hatched'.

NickaDee07 |

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Everyone is starting to ask when the shower is and where we're registered but no one wants to actually throw the shower. I'm 27 weeks now and on bed rest in the hospital. Not sure if I should throw my own or just leave it be. A post baby shower might be a good idea too considering my situation.

archistue |

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I'd feel weird throwing my own baby shower but i'm lucky enough to have a sister, mother and mother in law who are doing it for me. I know a lot of people aren't as fortunate and want to celebrate their baby as well and shouldn't be left out. I think a nice idea would be to throw a "meet the baby" type party after to celebrate. In some cultures thats all they do regardless because showers are considered a jinx.

HeatherBHG |

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I will not be planning my own shower. My co-worker is planning my work shower at 26 weeks. My at home shower will be planned by my cousin, inlaw and best friend at 29 weeks. I am pretty sure they all no what to do to make my first ever baby shower a success.

trp0531 |

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Well I will be 31 weeks whens its time for my babyshower and im so excited. My mother is suppose to be throwing me this shower but im doing all the planning and even sme of the expenses. Sometimes this whole shower idea stresses me out because its so expensive but I know it will be worth everything once the day gets here. sometimes im concerned if people will actually show up but I just hope and pray for the best. I just know one of the best moments are when my boyfriend and I can open up all the gifts we received. Then I can start shopping on my own for thing I didnt get.

Mommy2be112811 |

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Baby shower are an occasion to present your newly born to your friends and family but it's not something your child will remember. You have to keep in mind that, although it's a party, you don't want to stress your baby, so no use of fireworks, tun confetti or loud music.

ArchieOtto |

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well, im currently 24 weeks, and im planning a friends shower.... but its a work one.. i just did it because she has a lot of guys friends and no one had volunteer to do it... is going to be on wednesday (it was going to be friday but we had it off cause of labor day)...also is going to be on lunch in the office so is a quick and enjoyable time with the guys and girls... and at work so they dont bring beer cause she likes to drink and i think everybody should be drinking when she cant.... dont have that much plan just like a simple lunch and some games i think it can be fun

tzolman22 |

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My husband and I are having a co.ed baby shower. Im stressing out because my husband has a huge family..so our guest list is 120 people!! Our wedding was 400. This is ridiculous!!

YazRub |

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I had my first shower when I was 26 weeks because that's when I'd be home with my parents and church, then I had my second shower at 30 weeks with my friends from school. I'll be having my third, and final, shower at 34 weeks with family. I worried that my first shower had been planned too soon, but it didn't really seem like a big deal. It worked out really well, having one a month. I'll probably get some more stuff at Christmas, but that will still give me a month before my due date.

mamabyrd12 |

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im 20 weeks and noone has offered to plan a baby shower for me how do i go about planing my own?

lbaby0007 |

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My family & friends are hosting a co-ed baby shower when I'm 29 weeks. My husband's work schedule gets crazy after that, so we wanted to have it early. We are traveling to see family out of state for the holidays and I've heard they are hosting a small "surprise" shower. I'll be 22 weeks along then!

conberry |

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My family lives in California and my husbands family in Massachusetts, we live in Florida. I'm trying to figure out how to go about an online shower and such. Its kind of a bummer since its our first child and no one is around. Any suggestions to have a shower out of state from everyone? Plus what is the best registry because everyone is out of state and I don't want people to pay for so much shipping. :(

feistyirishquinn |

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All our family is in New York and we live in California. So it's hard trying to plan a shower when no one is around. I was thinking of just throwing a shower/party myself with men and women with some friends here in CA. I know if I don't do something I'll either regret it, or I'll just sit at home and mope about how I'm not having one. The rest of the family and friends back east I'm sending them pregnancy announcement cards along with my registry info. By the way, I'm 21 weeks today, and I agree that if you can the shower should be in the last trimester.

michellem775@hotmail.com |

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I am getting married Aug 25. We've had an exciting surprise and are expecting our first child July 1. We live 11 1/2 hours away from family and friends. We are trying to figure out baby showers and bridal showers and not sure how to go about it. Do we have the baby shower first, then the bridal shower? Is March to early to have the baby shower?

Maure013 |

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I've been really hurt recently by friends and family with regard to baby things, and I'm at the point where I don't want to see, touch or hold any babies until I can see, touch and hold my own. Is it fair for me to expect friends with babies not to bring their babies to my shower? What would be a tactful way to ask them not to bring their children along to the party?

soon2BaRudy |

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I am having a work shower at 24 weeks and a family shower at 26 weeks, earlier than normal only because I am delivering at 36 weeks.

vworsham |

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My work is hosting a small baby shower for me at 30 weeks but the only person from my family that is invited is my mom. I don't have any real friends outside of work, just a large family but they have not mentioned anything about throwing me a shower. When I saw them over the holidays they told me to let them know when my shower is.... My husband keeps saying that we may have to host the shower ourselves if we want one. I told him that's not how it works... at least I don't think so. Isn't that a bit strange to throw your own shower or is it just me??? I told him that maybe he should mention to his younger girl cousins that I am just having a small one at work and that may spark them to throw a family one for me but we really don't know what to do. I also said maybe he could ask them to throw one for me but he doesn't feel comfortable with that. Any thoughts/ suggestions/ comments?

kmakepeace1 |

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My sister is throwing my shower I'm going to be 22weeks when it happens She's pregnant too due March 8th and has 2 other kids and her husband is off at training for his job and I didn't want her to be t oo stressed out with a newborn and 2 other kids so we are doing it early, at a friends resturant to cut down on the stress and clean up really low key but still lots' of fun.

mariahkehoe |

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I think it's important to think about who you want at the shower. Too many people focus on the "girls only" aspect. I opted for an everyone shower. The shower is a celebration of the baby and I didn't see the point in excluding anyone from it. I also wanted something that was different than I had seen or done before. I didn't want the same old games and boringness. I found games I hadn't heard of and it's going to be as fun as I can possibly make it. Timing is of course important as well :).

ToreuhVuewae |

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kmakepeace1, I am in the same boat. My office is throwing me a small shower but no on outside of work has offered to do one. My mom doesn't want to mess with it. I've had friends and family members say to let them know when the shower is but no offers to get involved in planning. It doesn't seem right to throw my own shower, I would feel pretty pathetic. So i've just been buying things myself, my husband says I'm wasting money cuz we'll get everything we need at the shower, but no one's planning us one! He doesn't get that. We can't expect to get everything we need from my small office shower.

cbeardWed147423 |

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I just read a old post on here, someone saying that their Mom was driving them crazy. I would like to say "be thankful that you are blessed to still have your Mother with you". My wonderful Mother passed away in 1998 of breast cancer, she was 53 years old. How I wish she could be here to see her sweet grandchildren! I miss her very much!

FaferLWafer |

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I am 21 weeks and having my first baby shower hosted by my MIL at 28 weeks, then at my second shower with all my friends and family I'll be 32 weeks. I already booked my shower locations and have a theme...so excited!

tdonald11 |

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the invitations must get out soon, where people have time to make any assessment also relaxing with pedicure or sauna, giving heads up weather its a surprise boy or girl, also in the gift list is pampers racking up as much as possible

yolanda torres |

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Wow!! I have no idea of any plans for a shower for me. I know my Mom seems to think it s unnecessary and I know from my bridal shower that nobody is really throwing themselves in front of the shower train for me. I did have one close friend of my Mom's offer to throw me a bridal shower last spring, but because nobody else stepped up my MOH invited everyone to that one making it way too big for her home and scared the host into cancelling the shower, so we moved it to a last minute expensive venue in different town (my home town making it even farther for inlaws family to travel). Then it ended up that only a quarter of the guests showed up which we kinda figured but couldn't guarantee mostly because of health issues or too far to travel ... so after that I'm not sure how keen I am on havinga shower LOL Is anyone else in a simlar boat? Reading all this makes me feel really pathetic, especially since I'm generally the one that tries to make things happen, get togethers and am generally the doer in the family. And although some of you are comfortable with throwing your own shower, its definately taboo to do that where I'm from.

Maggsygerl |

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We are having two showers. I will be 26 weeks for the first, and 30 weeks for the 2nd shower. I am having them early due to back problems and not knowing how i will handle the extra weight so i dont want to be too big.

spizzykitty425 |

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Moms would prefer you spend the bulk of the money on things for their nursery or baby so make decor useable in the nursery and keep food low key. Some of the showers these days are completely out of control and are becoming primarily status symbol parties. C'mon ladies...don't ask your friends to throw you a shower and then demand every detail to be perfect.

lindsayres |

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I have helped plan a few showers, and really enjoy it. I look for a theme/colors and compare prices to the many local party stores. I have a friend who is an aspiring baker, and 2 others that are pastry chefs..so I have several people I can ask last minute for a cake or cupcakes if needed (low cost too). The last shower I helped with, the lead hostess had people choose a letter and decorate a scrapbook page. When completed, the mother to be had a scrapbook with every letter of the alphabet and could enter a baby picture if she wanted. We also did the messages inside the bay diapers (wrote jokes and quotes). I started planning my own shower (theme, colors, games), and am excited to help with it! I told my 2 hostess' about my ideas and supplies that I already have, so it is less for them to buy. I usually try to get things on sale, or better yet..clearance!! I have items in storage for parties, and actually get to use some for my own shower!! We will be doing the shower at about 30 weeks.

cigurl |

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I have been trying to get out of having any baby showers. We already have all the big items and I hate being the center of attention. Unfortunately one of my friends took that personally and is throwing one anyway. My husband's stepmom also took it personally and won't drive two hours to where we live for the one that is already planned. Her solution was to plan another one where she lives and tell me after invites were out. My husband's grandma also wanted to throw one, but thankfully it looks like we have talked her into co-hosting the one step-mil is throwing. Ugh. I really don't even want one shower.

JaneDoe968 |

Q&A: Planning a baby shower?

My mom wants to throw my baby shower and have my mil co-host it. Well every time I bring it up, I am told not to worry about it. My baby shower will not be until January when I am 29-33 weeks. I am 19 weeks now and I have been trying to tell my mom that I want the shower to go along with the nursery theme which is animals. Basically jungle/safari animals, but I don't believe she is listening to me. Oh well. Here's to hoping everything works out by then.

Burnham10 |

Q&A: Planning a baby shower?

Probably somewhere around 30 weeks

moneymandy |

Q&A: Planning a baby shower?

I understand the multi party ideas I live 3 hours from my family so Ill have a fam shower, then a work shower and then a baby show off for my husbands family who dont get the shower ideas for its not in thier culture. but my issue is a badly want a jack and jill party with fam for my male cousins are all so excited and I want them there. however my mom is all for the traditional party and gets upset anytime I try to say my two cents. I feel ungratful but really want all of my family to share in the shower. how do I slove this issue??

eno129 |

Q&A: Planning a baby shower?

I am having my baby shower at 19 weeks. My husband just got a new job and we are moving 12 hrs away in less than a month. We get to have it on the 14th when everyone is flying into town for Christmas. I don't care how far along I am as long as I know that my family will all be there. Plus we already know that it's a boy cause the doc says he's an "exhibitionist" and she's seen his jewels twice now :-)

Ready2BMrs.K |

Q&A: Planning a baby shower?

The most important thing for me was to entertain both parents and the children. I hired the Bounce Wow NY company to take care of the balloons and I also hired a clown. As for the parents, there were a lot of kinky jokes and innocent games.

LindsaySkye |

Q&A: Planning a baby shower?

Who is responsible for hosting a baby shower..

DannyGirl74 |