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If a baby is found to be positive for down syndrome, is termination possible at 19 - 20 wks?

Re: If a baby is found to be positive for down syndrome, is termination possible at 19 - 20 wks?

The Bump Expert

Termination is generally possible at 19-20 weeks, but the later in pregnancy you have the termination, the greater the risks are to you of having a complication from the procedure such as significant bleeding or injury to your intestines or bladder. The gestational age restrictions for termination of pregnancy are legal restrictions and vary state by state.

Dr. Ashley Roman

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This post is very disturbing to me. I would never consider termination even if the baby does have down syndrome. Children with downs are extremely lovable.

lsugirl852 |

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I think this a disturbing post. I could never terminate and hate to think that someone would just because the outome is perfect or how they imagined it would be.

miniddev |

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This question disgusts me.

Kimba1185 |

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I am very bothered by this as well. Having worked with many children and adults with Down Syndrome I do not see this as justification whatsoever for terminating a pregnancy. Yes, raising a child with DS willl take a little more work, but the joy someone will get back from their child will be well worth it. I would never terminate due to DS!

LisnJon |

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I am in the high risk category for having a baby with Down Syndrome and I could never terminate my baby willingly. I had an u/s at 11 weeks and the baby was moving it's hand up and down and near it's face and I just cannot imagine even ASKING that question at 19 weeks!!! Why on earth would someone wait this long to decide that? I won't know for sure unless I have an amnio and it's out of our hands. I love this little baby no matter what is to be!

BebeVee |

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How terrible! It might be a scary situation to face, but to end a life is wrong. My cousin has severe cerberal paulsy and he is the greatest gift from God.

k.grahl@hotmail.com |

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I am having the DS test in a few weeks. I will be around 17 weeks Pregnant. If it comes back Positive I will terminate the pregnancy. I have a friend that has a DS son and it has been a complete nightware for their entire family. It has been worst for the little guy. He is sweet but he can't make friends and he even asked his mom why he can't have friends at school and why kids make fun of him. I wouldn't want to raise a child in this situation. I think it would selfish of me to make a child go through life getting made fun of and looked at everyday.

Oct092004Bride |

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To the pp who would terminate her DS child b/c he or she might be made fun of: Have you asked your friend if she wished she had disposed of her baby?And.....How can you guarantee that your "perfectly healthy" child won't be made fun of for some reason? Maybe your child will be obese or wear glasses or have a learning disability? Kids are cruel, it's a part of life. As good parents you help the child through that.And just because the child clears the test for Downs doesn't mean he/she won't have any other birth defect. How will you justify your "selfish" choice to have the child then? Perhaps you need to justify aborting a child that in your eyes is not perfect? Well good luck with that.What has our society come to where we just randomly decide what is worthy of life and what isn't? And by the way....you could have already had a CVS (still in first trimester)or an amnio to determine if the baby has Downs or Trisomy 18. Why would you wait til 17 weeks when you would have to abort a fetus that is developed to the point it can suck it's thumb?

BebeVee |

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Unfortunatley, I am in the age group for these tests to be administered when I finally get pg. I don't think I would terminate even if the baby had Downs, that would be a decision I could never live with.

Frankie'sGirl05 |

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It's such a personal question and no matter what you choose you will have to live with it. I personally would choose to terminate. I've seen genetic dysfunctions totally rip apart families. It's not fair to bring a child into the world with so many health problems not to mention the socializing problems they have as a result. I couldn't do that knowing that I may die and there would be nobody to take care of my child other than an institution. I do agree that this should have been discovered earlier in the pregnancy and the decision should have already been made.

prettypiphi |

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Thanks goodness we live in a country where we have a choice in the matter! Everyone has a different threshold of what they can emotionally & physically take. Caring for a disabled child is very, very difficult. I give credit to those who realize this is beyond their capacity and terminate. I also give credit to those who give care & love to these babies, children and adults whether it be the parents or when, often as they get bigger, they need to be put in a special home.

goldilocks415 |

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I don't think this question is disgusting at all as there are people out there that will have to make this choice and they should be given all the factual information available to readily come to the conclusion that is most appropriate for the individual mother's and her family's needs. Personally, I would have the greatest difficulty making that choice should I ever be given the news and every bit of information I could muster would put me towards the choice I could personally live with. Questions like these are valid and I personally, would like to see more of them.

PentacleSeven |

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To everyone that said I should have had the test done earlier. I would have loved to but my doctors said that it can't be done until week 16. I would have had it done as soon as I become pregnant. I would hate to terminate a pregnacy. I just feel as if it would be a selfish act if I did so.

Oct092004Bride |

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FYI for all of those considering diagnostic testing....PP said that she couldn't have amnio til 16 weeks which is correct. Where she is incorrect however is saying she couldn't have ANY testing done until then.There is a very common test called CvS (Chorionic Villus Sampling) that is available starting at 11 weeks (when you are still in your first trimester) which also tests for Down Syndrome. SO.....you DON'T have to wait til baby is bigger than a half a pound to abort because of chromosomal abnormalities like Downs.Choice is great and necessary. But let's get our facts straight before playing that card.

BebeVee |

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To BebeVee...Maybe YOU should get your facts straight. CVS has an accuracy rate of 50%. While I wouldn't ever consider terminating a pregnancy because of a 50/50 chance of problems, a more dependable test like amniocentisis might change my mind.Choice IS great and necessary. Another great thing is witholding judgement. I doubt Oct092004Bride relishes the thought of terminating a pregnancy, but not everybody feels equipped to care for a special-needs child. I can't say what I would do in her situation, but I'd like to think I would receive more support than she's getting. I'm glad to know now, before I need it, that this site is not one where I would feel comfortable discussing my problems.Oct092004Bride, my prayers are with you during this difficult time, and I wish you the best of luck no matter what the outcome of your test or what decision you make.

mrsmoulton |

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All I have to say is one really will not know what they will do until they are actually in the situation. And like Goldilocks said, I am glad I live in a country where I have the choice and freedom to choose what is best for me and my family.

whirlygal |

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To anyone experiencing something like this I wish all the best, no matter what decision they make. It is every individual mother or family's choice and it must be an incredibly difficult one to make. It is not for any of us to pass judgement on them. Thet need support and understanding, not knee-jerk religious disgust and scorn.

happysparkle |

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Oh MRS.MOULTON....Where do you come up with your numbers? Get YOUR facts straight. CVS has an accuracy rate of 98-99%! You think a doctor would take placenta samplings with a 50/50 accuracy rate...C'mon! This is from the American Pregnancy Association...What do chorionic villus sampling (CVS) results mean?CVS is a diagnostic test that detects chromosome abnormalities and genetic disorders with high levels of accuracy (98-99%). Although the probabilities of identification are high, this test does not measure the severity of these disorders. This test does not help identify neural tube defects.And no one is judging or spouting knee jerk religious scorn. I am pro choice and believe a woman had the right to do what she feels is right for her. Where we are parting ways here is a timing issue. If someone thinks they cannot handle having a special needs child then how about asking some simple questions of their doctor and having the first test available. This isn't rocket science or secretly guarded facts from the medical profession. (Although it seems there are some people who make stuff up like previous posters).Having a "medical" abortion in the first trimester is radically different than a "surgical" abortion that may need to be done in the second trimester. And there can be complications to the mother as well including infertility.My whole point of this is ask questions of your physician and find out your options early on so you can be informed and enjoy your pregnancy or make that tough decision.Good luck to all the moms out there and a happy healthy 9 months to you all.

BebeVee |

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this question is very disturbing...my mother gave birth to twin girls who BOTH had downs.... They are now 16 and have lived the best life I could ever imagine...not only are they loving they can be very smart too if you try ... My mom is as active in the downs syndrome community as possible...enrolling the girls in camp and schools and going to a mutual church with other children with disabilites have made them a ton of friends...they might not be perfect but in their eyes everyone is perfect and I couldnt see anyone living without those children.... no one makes fun of them...they are and always have been extremely popular in school...and I am talking normal public school...nowadays kids have learned diversity and this isnt out of the norm for them!

JenRose05 |

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I grew up with a mentally handicapped sister who is moderate-severly disabled. Life with her was never any picnic and our family made a lot of sacrifices along the way. Her behavior was difficult to live with and she was and still is a burden to the family and society. I love her very much and am very protective of her, but she will never hold an actual job or live independently. She stays all day in a sheltered workshop with ignorant ill-experienced staff. I couldn't bring myself to have a child with a major disability like that because I've seen first hand the past 30 years what it has done to our family and the worry and guilt we live with every day for her. She is in a group home now with very little, if any, community involvement. When you can no longer care for your adult son/daughter many of them end up in state schools or facilities that are quite often filled with abuse, over crowding and neglect. With DS, there are many different levels of the handicap, but they have a lifetime of health problems and usually don't live as long as normal people.

ylimebride |

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Wow...this is a very touchy subject. Myself personally I wouldn't terminate a baby with DS because of a lot of reasons. First off I think it's wrong and there's no other way to say it. I think it is good to find out early on that way you can somewhat prepare yourself for raising the baby. Second I had a lot of health problems when I was born...not DS but a lot and sure it would have been easy for my parents to terminate me had they known about all these problems or even give me up but they didn't because they wanted me. I think it's harsh to call a baby with DS a burden because if you think about it at some point everyone's a burden to someone whether they are a special needs child or an extremely difficult rebellious teenager or a grown parent who can no longer take care of themselves and for whatever reason can't be in a home and has to live with their grown kids and their family. It's a lump of life and I think people should try to work through it.

LadyNieto |

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Plain and simple - i will love my child no matter what. God gave me this precious gift and I could never do anything to harm it in any way. This question discusts me.

lvisser |

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I am sorry to see that most of the comments in response to your question are negative and judgmental -- some women would never chose to terminate a baby with Down syndrome, and that is their prerogative, just as it is yours to terminate at whatever point in your pregnancy you choose within the legal limit. Don't feel like you are alone, either. According to this NY Times article (with a link to pubMed), over NINETY PERCENT of women with a prenatal diagnosis of Down syndrome terminate. Also, there are message boards on babycenter that focus on women considering termination; you might want to go there to get support. Good luck with your decision!http://www.nytimes.com/2007/05/09/us/09down.html?ex=1187928000&en=463181cbb99713c6&ei=5070

mishy611 |

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THIS IS SICK!!! It is a blessing to have children. When I found out I was pegnant, I jumped for joy knowing that I have the ability to even become pregnant. The question is selfish... the child didnt ask to be brought here, and because of YOUR genetic make-up, you want to kill him/her. WOW... it is amazing how truly ignorant the world (and the people in it) can be.

Tinnelle |

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What disgusts me about this post are all of the narrow minded jerks that are posting replies. I am sure that anyone who makes the choice to terminate a pregnancy due to birth defects has made an extremely difficult and emotionaly straining decision but the decision that is right for her and her family. She doesn't need the added strain of strangers bashing her for her personal decision. The women posting the question wanted to get a medical answer, not flamed by ignorant people who have too much time on their hands. If life is so important to you then go out and get one of your own and leave this poor woman alone.

RedHeadRenee |

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I totally agree with the pp. Who are any of you to judge someone that is faced with that decision? Everyone is entitled to their opinion but must you be so rude about it? I can't believe the amount of posts that said they were disgusted by the question. What age are we living in? Did anyone out there even begin to think that not all of us are so well off that others might not be able to financially care for a child with special needs? Since most of you got up on your soap boxes maybe you would all be willing to part with the cash for it. I think you should be happy to live some where you have a choice. Get over yourselves!

Mikeysgirl923 |

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No one knows how or what they would do until they are in this situation!!!!! Do not judge! I am 29 years old and my unborn daughter has Ds. I am 24 weeks along, and the range of emotions is heart wrenching. There would be no reason for someone who is not at risk to have a CVS. It is not anything I would have ever thought of. A CVS would not be warranted at all. Nothing would be wrong with my baby! My quad screen came back abnormal at 17 weeks and was confirmed by amnio at 18 weeks. So that is why someone would wait so long. It was unknown until 18 weeks. I would never have thought of having an abortion prior to this situation, but until you are told that your daughter will be retarded you do not know!!! I would have said before that I will take whatever God gives me. Well that is easy to say until it happens to you. I can't beleive the amount of woman who are judging about this when they have no idea. This is the worst thing my husband and I have ever gone through. The feelings of not wanting a planned baby or wishing to miscarriage are so terrible. We were faced with terminating and almost did twice. I am so angered by these posts. They are out of plain ignorance and lack of education on the matter. Why would it matter if you terminated in your first or second tri-mester?? You are still killing your baby and it is the same process. Most woman do not find out till after their quad tests come back abnormal. I will choose to have a CVS next time but only because I am at risk now. Please do not speak if you have not walked in someones shoes. Unless someone has given you this diagnosis you have no idea. I would never wish this upon anyone!!!!

kjc78 |

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I think that anyone who is faced with this decision is not taking it lightly. I think Ds is a scary thought to face and unless you yourself have faced the situation you are REALLY REALLY wrong to judge. I myself have 2 siblings with severe learning disablities and life with them was and is hard. I was teased myself for having siblings with problems I had to be their and my own defender all thoughout school and still people recoil away when meeting my siblings. Now that I am married and DH and I are planning on TTC I had to face telling my parents that when they are gone I will not be my siblings care givers because I will have my own family to care for and I do not want my unborn children faced with maybe needing to be the care givers for their Aunt and Uncle. i have seen the struggle for my family first hand, i have seen the torment my sister faces every day. She is VERY unhappy and has never found a neiche to fit into no matter how hard my parents tried. She is miserable and unhappy and I feel badly for her. My DH and I are undergoing genetic counseling because while these problems are not considered to be genetic I would not want to go through this heartbreak with a child of my own. Good luck to you and know the decision you make are the best for you your family and your children!

pixiedustie |

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As a woman struggling with inferility, I wish this woman would have this baby and give it to me. I have worked with so many children and adults with down syndrome and they are beautiful and so special. Anybody read the book "Memory Keeper's Daughter?"

foxybride |

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I think it's absolutely disgusting to even consider termination because your child won't be just perfect!! Children with Downs Syndrome have been known to be the most loving, happy children. To think that you have the privilege of conceiving a child, then would throw it away because it's not normal. I knew a family who adopted a child with Downs Syndrome and they loved their daughter dearly. To think that they CHOSE her while others would terminate. Give your imperfect child up for adoption and let someone less selfish raise your child.

anniemacgregor |

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Just because the decision is not for you don't judge others for the decisions that they feel is right for themselves. Keep your thoughts to yourself, this is a legit medical question that I'm sure the author thought that it was possible she was going to get this kind of response. Not only that, other women are probably wondering the same exact thing. A woman needs to look at all her options. I don't believe that termination is a possible choice for myself but it is for others. Don't pass judgement on others. This is only between the mother, father and God. God should be the only judge. Watch Cider House Rules and see what happens when termination is NOT an option for a mother. There are always two sides.

Mrs. Eckhart |

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I agree that everyone is entitled to his or her own decision. However, for those of you that are appalled by people that say they would terminate pregnancy due to DS think about further down the line. What happens to your child when you are no longer there to take care of them? Were do they go. I do not have any siblings and if both my husband and I die, what happens to my child whose life depends on me?

Katielv143 |

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Hmmm....I probably cant tell you for sure what I'd do unless I was currently in the situation.....but I would entertain the idea of terminating. The world is cruel enough without having a disability like DS. I dont know that I could provide the level of emotional protection to my child to keep them from being hurt by the idiots that are out there who would judge them for having DS or any other disability for that matter.....And, as I see someone else mentioned on here...I can't be here to help them forever....someday when I'm gone, who can I depend on to care for my child who will need care for the rest of his/her life? I would definetly consider terminating, and I feel bad for the girl who originally posted this question because of the rude responses. I hope everything worked out for the best for you.

ponygurl81 |

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I can't believe the people who are saying the idea is disgusting. I guarantee none of those people have children with DS. The choice is completely personal (and it is a choice, by the way) and you have no idea how hard it is until you are in that situation. A very close personal friend of mine has a son with down syndrome and I've volunteered with her and her family at our local Down syndrome association. However, her life is anywhere from easy. She and her husband are constantly struggling financially. They both have masters degrees, great jobs, and work full time. And they worry about their daughter who does not have downs, and how she'll be responsible for caring for their son when they're no longer around.Depending on the severity of the down syndrome your child has and how much time you have to personally work with them you may not be able to handle it. The people I know who have children with downs have to spend a lot of money on tutors and special classes. Their son can't go to a normal school and with both parents working full time jobs they can't teach him themselves. Having a child with down syndrome is a constant struggle financially and emotionally. I would understand why a woman would consider termination. And I think its unfair of people who have never been in this situation to get all self-rightous and call someone digusting when they're just brave enough to admit they can't handle the challenge of raising a special needs child.

mrsfasola |

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wow. i mean, i understand having a child with a disability is hard. i have a brother with autism and it was never easy. but now, as an adult, and even when i was young, i could not imagine my life without him around. the fact is, we are all created with strengths and weaknesses and that is what makes the world a wonderful and beautiful place. you cannot simply terminate a life because it isn't what you expect. no child will ever be exactly what you expect. ever.

PMJacobsen |

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Wow. I don't know if I'm more troubled by the sheer volume of negative responses to this question or the fact that all of the women who wrote them are either trying to conceive, pregnant, or already parents. Just what the world needs: more ignorant, intolerant, judgmental, and self-righteous people running around. Here's a novel idea, ladies: instead of hopping up on your soap boxes to loudly proclaim your moral righteousness, why not consider an actual answer to the question? Then, when you realize that-- whoops!-- you don't actually have anything relevant, let alone remotely helpful to say, you can save your breath and spare us all your hurtful, unwarranted comments and find something productive to do with your time and effort. And as for the woman who originally posted this question, as I've never had the misfortune of being in your incredibly difficult situation, the only thing I can say is that I sincerely hope that the road to your final decision isn't as fraught with intolerance as this ridiculous message board. Good luck to you.

alexgolightly |

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I agree with the pp. I am not in this situation, so who am I to say it is disgusting appalling, or whatever. People are so quick to judge and say what they wouldn't do. For the women who are faced with this difficult decision, just know what ever decision you make is what is best for you. Don't let ANYONE make you feel guilty about your choice.

missmea |

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I am an educator and I love all of my students. I could not imagine walking on campus and not seeing the many special needs students I work with. My personal thought is that life is not perfect, and we should not pretend that having a perfect baby will make our lives "perfect." I can only say what I would not do...however, I will not sit in judgement of anyone else who chooses to make the choice. Either way, they must live with their choice, and it is a difficult choice to make!!!! Take care.

hihobb |

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As a health professional who deals with new prenatal dx of DS, we are taught not to say things like oh kids with down syndrome are always happy, etc. Some people in the DS community take offense to generalizations like that. FYI

GoBadgers |

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My sister who waited 35 years for a baby had to terminate, it was not a developmental disorder but a physical that would have given the child two years of agony before a very painful death. She is the first person who would love her child regardless of who and what they are, but she is also a realist who understood what that life would be like.You can never know what you will do in a situation like this untill you are in it. What if you have other chldren? This seanrio can often bankrupt a family, is it right for your other kids to never have a college fund, free time, or a carefree youth, because they must care for a disabled sibling? Often this is the case for the rest of their lives. They most likely will not begrudge their sibling because they love them, but they also never have the opportunity to know any other type of reality.Lets just hope for healthy children, and DEMAND funding for programs that will help families who are already in these situations.

Amy&Anthony |

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This post disturbs me as well. I LOVE my sister with Down Syndrome and wouldn't consider it a burden on our lives at all! She always has the best attitude and loves everyone she meets. I'm jealous of her outlook on life. She just wants to have a good time and love everyone. To the people who said it would be selfish to raise a child with Down Syndrome: I think you are selfish!!!

Alligator |

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Before my mom knew she was pregnant with me she went to get her tubes tied. They didn't do any test to see if she was pregnant or anything. They drugged her up and cut her open and the doctor found me inside. Then her father died (stress is hard on a pregnancy) then she got severe food poisoning at a restaurant. All of this when she was pregnant with me. The doctor "advised" her to get an abortion because I would either be mentally challanged or die soon after birth because of his screw up with the operation and the other things. Obviously my mom didn't get an abortion, and I'm thankful for that.So needless to say, I am against abortion in any case of being mentally challenged. The doctor was wrong, because I turned out fine. Who's to say anyother doctor is wrong and you are terminating a pregnancy of a perfectly fine baby? So yes, you can say that was a long time ago (I am 21 years old) and medical technology is way better now. Well I have a cousin who had a baby 3 years ago and while she was pregnant they said her baby would have down syndrome, and she turned out fine too.

MJ Lundrigan |

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The only thing I find disgusting aboutthis thread are the judgements people are making about someoen asking a question that woudl be hard for anyoe She didn't ask if you thought it was right ad she certainly doens't need your scorn or disdain fifshe is facing this difficult and very personal decsion which I am sure will affect her for the rest of her life no matter what she decides. I fid your answers more repulsive than anythign she could decide- I ask who in the world ar eyou to stand in judgement of her or what she might decide to do in her family planning. You guys (the judgemtnal posters) are gross to me. Personally I don't knwo that I could terminate-- but I surely don't stand in judgment of those who do and if I were in her situation who knows, though I would liek to have though I could talk to someone hear without being judged-- clearly not.

changingnames |

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ok, my best friend has a baby w.DS and there are people who are confusing DS w/more major mental retardation and I can tell you they are not the same. There are colleges for children with DS. I am not judging people who have to make such a didfficult choince, nor do I think anyone else should either, but PLEASE do not try and get facts from random strangers on a web sight. Speak to DR's and actually you would be much more informed by parents of those w/DS children. Although I appreciate much of the concern most women give on this sight, I also find it to be the MOST JUDGEMENTAL, place you will ever go. People on this sight are just that people and infortunately people can be very judgemental, so please whenever considering making such life changing choices do NOT get you info from chat rooms. As you can see it varies greatly

thelonelywife |

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I don't know how anyone would want to willingly terminate their pregnancy. I had a miscarriage in November 2006 that was and still is very hard for me. I would have taken that baby no matter what!

Kmills2bein05 |

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I think there are some judgemental people out there as demonstrated by these posts. Ironically, it's for the same reason one may consider to terminate. I thought this was a support, not an ambush.

SmittenGirl |

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I don't like to judge without knowing the circumstances. However, my little sister has Down Syndrome and life without her wouldn't be the same. She is my little angel and I love her so much. I can't even imagine terminating a pregnancy because the child may have Down Syndrome. And the severities are different. My little sis has a pretty severe case of Downs but I know several other people with DS and they have a mild case. They are fully functioning citizens of our society. I recommend at least giving up the baby for adoption. Not abortion. Some people love DS kids and will adopt them.

FemmeRides |

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I skipped to the end after about 10 posts, so forgive me if I am repeating. Like many, I agree that women have the right to make their own decisions, however I encourage all women to make informed pregnancy choices. Do your homework and carefully consider the short- and long-term consequences of your choices. Furthermore, on a personal level, it saddens me to read that many of you would terminate a child with DS because "it wouldn't be fair to them...it would be selfish to keep them." It seems to me that it is selfish to discard them for lack of motivation to bear the burden of parenting a (possibly) more difficult child. Additionally, with all the heartbroken ladies on here who are TTC without success, I bet their hearts long for the babies that you are giving up. Remember that a viable option is adoption, and it is often the most loving choice you can make. It you do not think that you can be the parent this child needs, please consider giving the gift of life to this baby and to a family out there who is longing for a little one of their own.

junebridelt |

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I agree with the PP; this is a medical question, not one to be answered or judged by those of us on the message board. And while it is long past, I'm sure it will come up again. The OP did not ask for anyone's opinions, thoughts or emotional stories. More or less, this question warrants a simple yes/no response by a medical professional.It's a shame that people are so quick to judge and make negative comments. Sharing your opinion or lending advice is one thing, being insensitive and rude is quite another. TheNest is a great board and parents can find great information, but the catty comments are never helpful.

Erin0422 |

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Terminating a pregnancy for whatever reason is a personal choice, and a very difficult one at that. Instead of looking down on eachother and professing how "superior" our own moral standards would be in this situation, we should be supporting eachother through whatever happens.

birdzofzodiac |

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I understand that this question is disturbing. Most of us dont agree with it. BUT it is on here for a reason. Some people cant handle the facts. This is a real question posed in peoples minds. They have the right to know, even if we dont agree with it.

LadyKittyDecay |

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While a friend was pregnant, she found out that her baby had a rare bone disorder which would cause bones to break easily and often. It would be an incredibly painful and difficult life, for both parents and child. She was told by doctors to abort, but because we know God created life, and we trust in his plan, we prayed and prayed, put our trust in him and she decided to keep the baby. And the baby was born free of any issues. It is a miracle story, because she didn't remove God from the equation.

nicoleafurrow |

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This is absolutely horrifying! I can't believe you would even want children. There are many diseases and things your child can have. Kids are cruel and do make fun of other kids no matter who they are. I am a teacher and see it everyday. I have a sister who can't have children and she would be happy to have any child. God has a plan for all of us!

tenny06 |

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I think it is a very touchy subject, but it all comes down to the matter of personal choice. I at first said I wouldn't want my child to have to go through it, but after reading what everyone else has said, it gives me a different outlook so to speak.

tohave2hold |

re: Q: Down syndrome termination?

Absolutely terrible! I am sick to my stomach to think that someone would want to take their childs life just because they have a disability. I am 19 weeks pregnant and my baby has symptoms of DS. Although i am sad that he/she may have a harder life, this means that i have to give this baby more love and i am fine with that, i know i have a lot of love to give.

csund |

re: Q: Down syndrome termination?

How about people with a more advance degree of DS (sorry don't know the exact term).. What if you child had no way to communicate with the exterior word other than vomit when in an unpleasant situation.. Its a hard decision to make.. Im not one for religion but more for science or "normal progression of nature".. What happens if an animal comes to life with a "disability"? If the mother does not terminate its life, it is going to die. Because in nature, the mom won't care for its baby all of its life.. Not saying this should be the way for humans but it makes you think.. Also if society thought terminating was not the right thing to do for some people, we would not have access to screening tests. Because honestly, why would you test if you never thought about termination if the child was not healthy..

caromartin |

Q&A: Late pregnancy termination?

I hope constantly that I would never be put in this woman's shoes. Would I terminate? I don't know. Honestly if I didn't have to worry about my religious family finding out, I probably would. I've seen families ripped apart by disabilities and while many disabled people I know were happy children, many are now depressed adults. I have a high school friend who is mentally disabled and was happy as a child/teen. Now she spends her days sitting at her parents farm on the side of the road watching cars go by and says she wishes she had the guts to step in front of one of them.

applegirl84 |

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I think it would be an extremely difficult thing to do. Even though I'm not at risk, I still insisted on the CVS test, and it came back negative (or would it be positive? I'm not sure how it reads it, but Baby doesn't have DS) so I'm not too worried that he will, but even if he did, I couldn't imagine aborting my little baby. I love to sit in the tub and just rub my belly knowing that my son is moving around in there. To me, it wouldn't make a difference if he had DS or not, but since I didn't grow up with anyone with mental and/or physical disabilities, I can't really say that it wouldn't be extremely hard. I know the risks, isn't that what everyone takes when they decide to start a family? The only reason I had for wanting the CVS test was just to know. To know whether or not we need to prepare more than what we already are. To know whether or not we would need to move into a bigger place (I feel that children with disablilties need room to grow and expand themselves at their own pace, and should never be too confined). But I already know that my son will never be "normal"! I'm not normal, I'm me. I'm different from every single person on this earth. No one is like me, how would my son be? I can't to hold him, no matter what he's like!

TCTF |

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I'm having the test done next week and I completely understand where the question is coming from. Not to say I would automatically terminate my pregnancy because of ds but that is a lot to take into consideration. A child is going to change your life no matter what conditions it may or may not have. So think about what will be best for that child before making any decisions. If you know you will not be able to give a child with specials needs the things they need then a termination might be best for you. As for everyone who is "absolutely disgusted" by the question...don't pass judgement because it's not your place to do so and I doubt seriously if any of you have always made the best decisions or ones that you don't regret. If she decided to have a disabled child and finds herself in the position where she is not able to provide for their specific needs people will say she's a bad parent but none of those people will be willing to lend a helping hand because of there own problems. It's easy to talk or give comments but until you are faced with the problem you really cant say anything....MAKE THE CHOICE THAT'S BEST FOR YOU DONT WORRY ABOUT WHAT OTHERS SAY OR THINK BECAUSE THEY ARE NOT THE ONES THAT HAVE TO LIVE WITH YOUR DECISION.

babygirlcc |

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Jeez this is an upsetting post to read. I always thought that I would never consider terminating for a result like DS but before I always had a stable job and enough money and my family had a super bright future ahead of us. Our lives have had major changes and while things could be worse I don't see how we would have the resources to be so casual with our decision at this point. Every situation is different and sometimes your personal choices would change depending on what resources you have available. I would never judge someone negatively for having to face making such a terribly tough decision. I know I hope I never face it.

nanafur |

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Why is the idea of putting the baby up for adoption hardly mentioned? There are plenty of parents in this world not only looking for a baby to complete their family, but who would also love a special needs child more than anything in the world. As a person who was adopted as a child, I am thankful every day that my birth parents made the choice to bring me into this world and allow me the chance to have a life, one that she was not able to give me.

Yankri |

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before you think about abortion,please know that hundreds of familys will adopt and LOVE any child-even ones with special needs! please consider sterilizing your self if you plan to terminate every baby that might be made fun of or have a genetic deformity,you might as well-all children will face a hardship of one type or another.it builds character.

tina lynne |

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I know you were asking a simple question about whether termination was possible but as you can see, a lot of emotion is caused by the thought of ending a baby's life. What I want you to seriously consider is that even if you personally cannot handle the thought of raising a baby with a serious birth defect, the baby you are carrying could be an answer to someone else's prayer. As others have pointed out adoption is an option. I have a brother with DS and his existence is a great blessing to our family. Yes, he has also burdened us at times but so does any child bring burden to their family. Should I or any other mother to be kill a child simply because the burden they will represent is clearly marked at the outset in their genes? Heaven forbid, all children bring burdens with them and all must bear burdens of their own as well. Just because they appear genetically without flaw says nothing of what problems, and blessings they will bring to your life or bear during their own. Abortion is the killing of a child. Killing is murder except when done in self-defense.

Cuffs41 |

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I know that this is a very sensitive topic, I would hate to be put in a situation where I would have to terminate, but I support mother's decisions either way, people need to understand that there is a burden regardless of the choice. I think people that say "the question disgusts me" and attack the person for asking need to relax, and be more supportive! people that live with DS struggle as much as the family does, if she chooses to terminate that is her choice! good luck either way!

Elly loves Ray |

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I have 10 children and am now caring 12&13. I had a son pass after just one breath. with all that said , I WILL NEVER terminate for any reason. Befor you terminate a child (fetus) is you will first talk to the women that have and all the heartake they deal with as a result of this abortion. If you know you are high risk for these problens at what number will you choose it's time to stop trying. Will it be the 3 or 4 baby? why do you just adopt? I hope you that you will take into concideration that this child did not choose to be created with or without this disability. You choose to conceive this child willing and knowing that this was a greater possability than just by chance. I hope that befor you terminate a life that you consider how it will feel it your mother would or terminated you. How your life, family and community would be without you aspecialy if you have other children. They will know that mommy has a baby but then you have to decide to tell them that you felt so strongly that their brother or sister didn't meet your prefect image so you terminated them. If this is your first then as or vast technology changes and they improve the medical feild that all these test are wrong at a percentage what if your baby is that percentage that turns out to be wrong. Just like birthcontrol it only has a 2% defect but we love the children that come from an unexspected or pland baby. All of my brother in laws children but one was not plan one was with invetro. I will be praying for you and your situation. I'm not judging you just want you to look at all the facts including your emotional state after the procedure is done. P.S did you not get made fun of at one time in your life for something. that is part of growing up we all go through that.

devoremom |

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Wow this post really bothers me. I have brother that is Downs. I have also worked in this field taking care of children and adults with Downs and it has been the one of the most rewarding things I have done in my life. I would never even think of given up a baby if it had Downs. They are little angels and the most lovable people on this planet.

csdrusko |

Q&A: Late pregnancy termination?

the original poster simply asked if its possible. I dont know if she clarified the reason for her question in later posts, but why ASSIGN MOTIVE when the only thing we know is that she wants to know more. She may simply want the information for her own edification, or to debate both sides of the topic with family and friends. I ask about many things I dont plan on doing just to have the facts. If we stop pretending we can read minds, we'd save precious time that could be spent elsewhere, as well as contribute clarification rather than confusion to our conversations.

doodlejenj |

Q&A: Late pregnancy termination?

I pray that none of you judgemental people have to face this choice. It's not an easy one and until it's in front of you, you can in no way say how you would feel and what you would do. For myself I would most likely choose not to terminate the pregnancy, children with DS are some of the most wonderful, happy and fulfilling children to raise, but that's just my opinion. We are very lucky to live in a country where we actually have the freedom to choose.

aMom4U2remember |

Q&A: Late pregnancy termination?

This is a very touchy subject for everyone, I think facing the situation be it Ds or some thing worse, and making an informed decision based on who you and your partner are is courageous. I would rather see people make the choice that is right for them, than choose to keep or terminate for simplicities sake. Owning up to what you can handle is the best thing. Would i personally on account of DS, no. But that doesnt mean that i wouldnt for another reason. We have medical technology for a reason, if it you dont use the resources we have, then why bother going through all the prenatal care in the first place.

Angelrelic |

Q&A: Late pregnancy termination?

I would not chose to terminate the pregnancy especially that far in you have formed a bond with the baby, I wouldnt judge anybody who does make that decision to terminate because it is every woman's right, but would you be able to live with the fact that the doctor was wrong and in the end you find out the baby was healthy?

staycat20 |

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What a bunch of jerks on here. Who cares what *you* would do? It's legal and there for a reason, not everyone is a judgmental pro-life fanatic.

Longhornchick |

Q&A: Late pregnancy termination?

I feel that it is up to you on what you want to do with your life, and what is best for you and your family. Raising a "normal child" can be difficult enough, but having to raise a child with a disability can be very stressful and heart-renching. DO NOT let people make you feel guilty about your decision, because you know what is best for you and your family. People need to leave religion out of personal decisions, such as termination. Women have a choice, and they know what is best for their bodies.

preggo42210 |

Q&A: Late pregnancy termination?

Just remember that there are people out there who are willing to adopt Down's syndrome children.

kokomokola |

Q&A: Late pregnancy termination?

we made the decision to not even test for it. we feel this baby will be loved and cared for no matter what the outcome is. we just hope and pray for happy and healthy. if DS is an outcome, that's what God has willed and planned. I'm not one to tell HIM what HIS plan is.

hmkoller |

Q&A: Late pregnancy termination?

I am a carrier for a very very rare genetic disorder, NORRIED DISEASE and am going for CVS testing in my 11th week, I didnt think I had it bc I had a helthy boy 11 years agho and since this disease only affects boy's with BLINDNESS DEAFNESS AND MENTAL RETARDATION I figuired I had best it.. well my son was a blessing I had the gene but somehow he was spared.. I am pregnant with my 2nd now... I cried for DAYS when I found out I am a carrier.. EVERY boy born in my family to a carrier woman in Blind, Deaf and has severe mental problems, seeing what my aunts have gone through and the quality of life for their boys I really dont think I could do that o a child.. THANK GOD I LIVE IN AMERICA, all you sad jugdemental women have probably never seen what a child deteriorating before your eyes does to a family, so stop with your sad comments walk around in someone elses skin before you say shit about what you would do

Gina424 |

Q&A: Late pregnancy termination?

The most important thing to remember is that this test isn't %100 accurate- so you could terminate a perfectly healthy baby. If you look into it, I think a positive test only means like a 70% chance of having a downs baby.

ThefutureMrs.Crooks |

Q&A: Late pregnancy termination?

Wow, I can't believe some of the stuff I have read! This should be a place for support, not to be judged! I'm 26 with a son who is 5 with very sever Cerebral Pasly, I was given the chance in my 6th month to terminate my pregnancy, and I didnt feel like I could. I think you have to be way stronger to terminate a pregnancy than you do to raise a disabled child. I am pregnant again, and Im scared as hell to find out if my unborn child has a disability, I dont want to have to make that choice again, but if I have to decide, I still wont terminate, Im not strong enough. If you are considering termination please at least seek a counselor, maybe you can find a family wanting to adopt your baby.I wish you the best!

cowpoohy |

Q&A: Late pregnancy termination?

I don't think I would be able to terminate my pregnancy due to down syndrome. However, I can understand where she is coming from. I know that raising children with down syndrome can be quite challenging. I would recommend looking into adoption before terminating it. But that's just me. This country is based on free will (within legal limits) and it's up to her in the end.

sdsloan0719 |

Q&A: Late pregnancy termination?

Weither or not you agree with it, this entire topic was starting to help educate all of us on what our options are. I don't think ANYONE can really say what they would choose to do until they are really faced with the positive results, and we all have different experiences with friends or family with disabilities that will effect our own decision. No matter what we believe, carrying a baby for 9 months and raising children is hard and we should be able to turn to this site for information, advice and support from fellow visitors to pregnancy land. I wish you all the best! To quote someone else that I believe said it best: "Thanks goodness we live in a country where we have a choice in the matter! Everyone has a different threshold of what they can emotionally & physically take. Caring for a disabled child is very, very difficult. I give credit to those who realize this is beyond their capacity and terminate. I also give credit to those who give care & love to these babies, children and adults whether it be the parents or when, often as they get bigger, they need to be put in a special home."

JulietBair |

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Thank you Dr. Ashley for stating the FACTS and answering the QUESTION! I think the most distrubing parts of this post are the insensitive, close-minded comments and OPINIONS! The most important FACT to remember is YOU have the right to make the best choice for you and your family and what works for everyone else may not work for you! Life is what you make it!

nmorris82 |

Q&A: Late pregnancy termination?

I understnad the fear and worry, but if you keep the baby you will be so happy when you look into your baby eyes one day. You will know you made the right decision. Unfortunately, it stopped being about you when you got pregnant. It's now about the little one and down syndrom is fairly minor compared to all of the other possible problems. No one is guaranteed a healthy baby. Good luck, and my heart goes out to you.

buttercup1110 |

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I ABSOLUTELY agree with nmorris82 and julietbair!! The question wasn't asked as to what any of us would do if it was us. You all know that everyone is entitled to their own decision based on how they feel and how they feel alone, yes? I am also extremely disturbed by the closed-mindedness of these posts. And, with all due respect buttercup1110, who are you to tell someone what they will or will not feel when they look into their baby's eyes?

tambien14@hotmail.com |

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Yes, we all have choices- and yes, it's a personal matter. But, honestly it is the most disgusting and vile thing a mother could do to her child.

Mikababy |

Q&A: Late pregnancy termination?

this question is horrible.

billobaby |

Q&A: Late pregnancy termination?

Wow...i can't believe all this negative response. I find it hard to believe that the original person asking this question was debating abortion on the basis that their baby wouldn't be "perfect"! Having a child with special needs is a huge burden.....financially, emotionally, even physically. It is absolutely the responsible and moral thing to decide not to put that kind of birden on your family. As for the ppl who recommend that she carry the baby to term and hope for adoption, that is irresponsible. There are WAY too many children currently in the system with no disabilities who were not able to find homes. Yeah, that sounds like a good idea....lets put another one in there. Tough decision.....but she has a choice. You certainly don't have to like it.

xtrememusclvr |

Q&A: Late pregnancy termination?

If you decide that you can't handle a child with down syndrome please, please, PLEASE don't terminate the pregnancy. There are many people out there who CAN'T have children and I'm sure would love to adopt such a special child. I know it runs in my family. I'm 24 weeks along and I refuse to have the amnio because it wouldn't matter to me. My great uncle had down syndrome and at the time it was something horrible. His doctor said he wouldn't live past 6 weeks old and he lived to be over 60 years old. While he never went to school (because they didn't have classes for special needs children then) he was very smart in his own way!

preciouscraftz |

Q&A: Late pregnancy termination?

murderer!

mommyloveslilyandraylen |

Q&A: Late pregnancy termination?

Half of these people answering this question (including whoever asked this ignorant question) ARE IDIOTS. Do you people realize that abortion is MURDER? Is termination 5 months before delivery murder? What about 5 weeks before? What about 5 days..?? What about 5 MINUTES before delivery? Shoot..why don't they let you terminate the baby 5 minutes AFTER delivery? huh??? What don't they just extend the termination laws to 18 years after delivery???? We'd sure have some good kids then. Any time you want them to clean their rooms...threaten abortion and you'll get em to do it. I mean come on this is ridiculous. Abortion is murder regardless of when you do it. This is a living being. God says "Before you were formed in the woumb, I knew you." The who "getting made fun of thing if the baby has a defect like down syndrome is a crappy excuse for getting one. There is no excuse for abortion. NONE. I don't think kids should be put in public schools anyway...and if parents taught their kids like they should they wouldn't have to worry about their child getting made fun of. People who think abortion is okay make me completely SICK.

laurenlovesrobert |

Q&A: Late pregnancy termination?

I chose to have the nuchal translucency and blood screening at 12 weeks, the results of which I had back in a few days. My risk of trisomy 18 or 21 was extremely low (1/4000 and 1/2000 respectively) so I opted for an amnio at 16 weeks rather than a cvs, which could have been done up to 13 weeks. It is frustrating to have to wait so long for amnio and cvs results, though, especially with the decision to continue the pregnancy riding on it. Like others said, we do have choices in this country. Please do what is right for you and your family as you are the ones affected by whatever the outcome may be.

PaulineQ |

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Lauren I could not agree more I commend you for being so bold when we are living in a society that is so desensitized to abortion.

armybride6510 |

Q&A: Late pregnancy termination?

There are other options out there if you cannot afford or give as much attention as needed to a special needs child. I have had two relatives, both in their 30s, terminate their pregnancy late because they found out the children would have DS. They both had previous kids and are now having a difficult time dealing with the guilt associated with an abortion. It's been over two years since the last one and they are both still in group therapy trying to cope with it. My suggestion to anyone in this position would be to have the child and then decide what to do with it. IMO, special needs children are very sweet and they grow according to how you treat them. If you treat them with love and see past their appearance, they will be ok. Please don't terminate the pregnancy, and if you are going to do it, then also consider living with such a decision. Like I said, the two people I know who did it, regret it terribly even though they have other kids.

mishu917 |

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I can't get over the number of replies that have expressed their own personal opinion on the matter. It seems that the folks who are "discusted" by this thread are in disagreement with "pro-choice" in general. Everyone is entitled to their opinion as well as the opportunity to express "free-speech", but when those posts are hurtful or harmful, what are we really doing? Expressing our views on a subject matter that has been solved in the courts, but has strong opposition from the religious and moral community? Disagreement which leads to open dialog and exchange should be welcomed and encouraged, we should support each other when seeking factual information to make informed decisions, especially when those decisions may be in opposition to our own beliefs.

laura_and_josef |

Q&A: Late pregnancy termination?

my husband works with adults with disabilities, and has said that he wouldn't want to raise a child with downs syndrome. while i would find it to be a terrible decision, it is still ours to make. we did our screening tests yesterday, and will find out at 14 weeks. i don't think anyone should be thrown under the bus for talking about tough choices out loud.

linneaforever |

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re: Isugirl852, if it's so disturbing to you then don't read it. Since when is someone not allowed to inquire about a subject? The matter in question was if termination was possible- she didn't ask whether or not Children with downs syndrom are lovable.

gr8supriz |

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a little heartless dont you think? you dont terminate because of other genetic mess ups.. why because of down syndrome .. sure its scary.. but as long as you be patient and love the child unconditionally.. he or she will love you unconditionally.. as for what other people think its not their decision.. and yes either way it is your desision.. but this is just wrong.. this is a question i believe shouldnt even be asked.

tracycerra |

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this thread is obnoxious. doctors have been wrong when diagnosing this and babies are born perfectly fine who were "suppose" to have DS.... this is reason enough not to terminate.... its such a gamble.

hannakaysalas |

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I would never abort if my child had any abnormalities....with my daughter the doctor said tests came back saying she had sickle cell,they wanted me to abort at 20 weeks.I chose not to,took us three years to concieve her.She was born and she simply was a carrier.So doctors are not always 100% all the time.

HealthyMom |

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I'm disturbed by all the judgment! Unless you're in that position you should keep your ignorance to yourself. To those who have decided to terminate...I'm sorry you were put in that situation to have to make that decision and I apologize for all the hurtful, disgusting comments from obvious close minded selfish people who were never put in the position of doubt or thinking about all aspects of this type of situation. This is the only site I've read such hurtful comments on...try what to expect site as well the message boards are very open to doubt and expressing one's feeling without making someone feel horrible about themselves. Thank you for having courage to speak what others think but are afraid to speak and good luck with whatever choice YOU decide.

mrand812 |

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Whether your child has downe's or not that is not a reason to just terminate the pregnancy. Yes i understand that some people feel differently because of religious views or their own selfish reasons. I feel that EVERY child deserves a chance. If anything just give your baby up for adoption because it truly is murder now. The baby has developed finger nails and toe nails. Theres just so much to be thank ful for especially since couples want to have children and spend their life savings to have a child to love and cant. :(

lilangel19 |

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I am currently 15 weeks and 5 days. Two weeks ago I recieved my 1st trimester screening that came back with an increased risk for my age, I am 30. I am currently awaiting an appointment on the August 16th at which time depending on the results I will have an amnio done. I am scared, anxious and have trouble sleeping and doing much of anything with the thoughts of what the outcome of these tests may be and the decisions that follow. To those of you who didn't do testing, or would not terminate a pregnancy good for you for being able to take on whatever comes your way. I can only hope that if any of you who are so ready to spill cruel and hurtful words to those who are vunerable and unsure, that if you are even in a time of crisis or in need of support that you are met with kinder words than this poor girl and myself have seen written on this "mommy" site. Shame on you who lean on God's will when writing about your "disgust", God above all else is forgiving and does not judge others. Who are any of us to pass judgement on either side. There is not one answer that is right for every couple out there. I feel hurt and bothered by the cuel words spoken here, and hope that I never encounter such hate and heartlessness in my own life.

mlsmom |

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This is disgusting. There sure is judgement passed on those that kill. Maybe the people that are ok with this question should ask themselves if there's anything wrong with someone killing them simply because they're obnoxious and already acting as awful parents.

AshleyKoe |

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Oh Ashley aren't you a nasty little person. And how judgemental are you raising your children to be, you loving parent. And again thank GOD people like you don't make the laws that make choices possible.

mlsmom |

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Aborting a baby in the womb is not an easy fix. I would highly encourage any mother considering abortion to look at the cause of the stress making her want to abort. Aborting a baby does not solve an abusive relationship, bring in more money, guarrantee a "perfect" child with the next pregnancy, guarrantee there will be a next pregnancy, etc. Every child wants to live, just like everyone of us on this post want to live. If you are afraid and need help with pregnancy, pregnancy resource centers can provide counseling and free help for everything regarding pregnancy - even if you have nowhere to live. Just remember, abortion doesn't solve problems, it just creates new problems. Increased risk of pre-menopause breast cancer, emergency hysterectomy, death from infection, pre-term delivery for future babies, depression, thoughts of suicide... etc. silentnomoreawareness.org is a great site everyone should see before choosing abortion - these are real testimonies from women who have experienced abortion or many abortions for themselves. Best regards.

bcensley |

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I find this question to be extremely repugnant. The very idea of aborting simply because your child has Downs is disgusting. Yes, raising these children can be more trying but the amount that they enrich your life just by being their self is more than worth it.

aaatoaad |

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Hi there. I in no way agree with abortion, however, legally, in America you do have that choice. I did want to mention to you that my aunt was pregnant with my cousin Spencer. She was told at 19 or 20 weeks that he was positive for Down syndrome. The doctors told her 100 % sure he ws down syndrome. Although this was heartbreaking and financially would have been a struggle she in know way because of her own beliefs could kill her baby. So she went full term and when he was born much to everyones shock he did not have one thing wrong with him he was perfectly healthy and did NOT have DS. I understand this is a very hard decision to make and it will not be easy. Im just suggesting to consider all sorts of outcomes before coming to a decision. Also, another option is researching adoption agencies who specialize in adopting out babies with special needs. There are people in the world who dedicate their lives to helping special needs children whos parents had decided they could not handle it. So please consider all options and I hope this uestion was unnecessary for you and your baby is found to be healthy. I also hope this did not come off as judgemental.

Cantw82bamom |

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To think, this person is contemplating killing thier baby two weeks after mine died at two months in his sleep. I can no longer have children. You break my heart...

Mrsdaisy1 |

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Y would u murder a precious little baby just cuz of down syndrome!? If u aren't human enough 2 love ur own child just cuz it has somethin as common as down syndrome at least give it up 4 adoption!

mrs28 |

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Seriously, you women need to stop bringing religion into your answers. What if this person is a different religion from you, or not religious at all? What if she bring this child into the world and mistreats it because she was FORCED by anti-termination pressures to have a child she didn't want? What if they can't afford the time and treatment a special needs child requires? There are sooo many more questions to consider other than "god says it's wrong...because it's in the bible". I think that this woman needs to find out physical facts about her baby, decide with her family, doctor, and partner ONLY, find out physical/mental side effects it will cause her, and not have everyone telling her no, when YES is an option, too. First time mother-to-be 14w0d.

ArizonaJessika |

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Wow, I can't believe how judgmental people are about this. Its no one's business what a person chooses to do with their pregnancy. She is asking a legitimate question and doesn't deserve to be vilified for it.

ardiehollifield |

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All this judging is awful, especially b/c every single person is different, and is a culmination of her life experiences, her cultural background, her support system; each person is on his or her own journey, doing the best s/he can knowing all that she does at each point in time. Perhaps terminating a pregnancy is not something you think you'd ever do, but I am sure there are other parts of your life, other ideas or actions you would not want other people judging, or saying is wrong. Even Jesus said, He who casts the first stone...

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