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Q&A: How husband can help during pregnancy?

My husband is trying so hard -- he keeps asking what he can do to make things easier for me. What should I tell him?

Re: My husband is trying so hard -- he keeps asking what he can do to make things easier for me. What should I tell him?

The Bump Expert

Sounds like you've got a keeper! We're sure you can think of one or two or a hundred ways he can help you out, but if you're having trouble getting started, print out these tips -- sure to help most any relationship -- and pass them along.

[  ] Don't take your wife's mood swings personally -- it's not you, it's the hormones. (Sound like a feeble excuse? Forget the hormone thing, then. Just consider how you'd feel with a small person growing in your belly. Okay.)

[  ] Pick up some books on pregnancy. Your wife's body is doing some wacky things -- she'll feel much less alone if you've got some idea of what's going on. Plus, you'll score major points every time she sees you with your nose in a book about babies.

[  ] Have as much fun (as a couple, of course) as you can right now -- your social life will never be the same. (No, we didn't say worse. Just...different.)

Paula Kashtan

Q&A: How husband can help during pregnancy?

My husband decided (on his own!) to start rubbing lotion all over me each night to help with all of the skin stretching. It has become a wonderfully relaxing night time ritual we share, and it always makes me happy that he loves me enough to want to do something so selfless for me.

terri.m.reid@gmail.com |

Q&A: How husband can help during pregnancy?

For the first 3 months I was so sick I was throwing up 20 times a day and if he was home he would always be in the bathroom with me rubbing my back. Then once he saw how sore my back started to get from tensing up so much he started rubbing it at night while we watched TV!

**Katy |

Q&A: How husband can help during pregnancy?

I told my husband we were pregnant on the 16th of November. So, the next day he came home with roses and a baby balloon. On December 16th he came home with a "what to expect" book and every month on the 16th he was going to get me a "thank you for carrying our baby" present. I thought it was adorable!!

honey9 |

Q&A: How husband can help during pregnancy?

My husband is so sweet- he pulls my hair out of the way and rubs my back when I puke, but the best thing is when he does the dishes, laundry, and cooks dinner when I'm too sick to do it :)

kokomokola |

Q&A: How husband can help during pregnancy?

My husband has been taking me on dates again during my pregnancy. Places we have never been or liked but have not been in a long time. Yesterday we went to a little known beach and he found me a whole silver dollar. He said we'd be tied down after our daughter is born so we should do these things now. I love it!

Breerene |

Q&A: How husband can help during pregnancy?

I'm not married or dating my baby's father. We were engaged, but after 5 days he didn't think it was the right time though we broke up a week later. He didn't know I was pregnant till last Saturday. He has barely helped so far because we live kind of far from each other, but the only way he helps out is by calling or texting me and I only see him once a week sometimes. He wants to help, but don't know how with living kind of far away.

NewBabyGlidewell |

Q&A: How husband can help during pregnancy?

My DH tries so hard to understand my mood swings, and to not get frustrated. At night he rubs in my tummy butter (which I love, its relaxing and helps me feel like he's really involved) and, while it may be a TMI, I've found it harder to shave with my tummy, and he's offered to help me out, lol.

christinemurray91 |

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My DH has never been into things like bringing flowers or going on expensive dates. He has always looked for the little things to do to show that he cares. Lately he has been doing all the grocery shopping and has been scouring the store for new things for me to try to eat (I'm still throwing up at 15.5 weeks). Or he'll answer all the phone calls so I can rest. Or he'll skip a game he wanted to see to spend time with me. He is never going to pick up a pregnancy book, that is not his personality, but he has attended every prenatal visit and always brings a list of questions. I think most guys care about helping us out, just direct him to how you need the help the most. He probably has no idea whether you need him to take out the trash or give you a hug more. Just tell him what you need the most, and then accept that he has needs too and he can't do everything.

JaneDoe968 |