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Do I need a birth plan? What's the point of having one?

Re: Do I need a birth plan? What's the point of having one?

The Bump Expert

A "birth plan" is just that -- a game-plan for baby's arrival. You can never be totally in charge of your labor and delivery (childbirth is generally a pretty out of control thing), but a birth plan ensures that you and your mate are at least on the same page as your doctors and nurses. The birth plan is a place to make clear your desires about issues like pain meds, people involved, episiotomies and cord cutting.

How it works: document your wishes, talk them over with your doctor, make sure they fit in with hospital policies, and then see to it that you, your doctor, and the hospital each have a copy. If a birth plan is in place, everyone involved in your delivery can be reminded of your wishes if decisions need to be made. That way, you can just focus on the pushin'.

Even though you've got a birth plan, it's important to talk over everything on it with your doc. You both should know exactly what your wishes are. And, there might be some things on the plan that your doctor doesn't quite agree with. You're much better off talking these things out before giving birth than on the actual day. And remember, birth plans are not legal documents -- they're more like basic guidelines. Health and safety of mommy and baby always comes first, and birth plans change accordingly.

Ready to create your birth plan? Start here.

Paula Kashtan

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i think birth plans are kind of poinless. you can go in with an idea of what you would prefer to happen, but chances are something will go the other way. i just know that i prefer not to use an epidural, but if labor is really painfull i will change my mind. i'm just waiting until that day comes to see how i feel then before i decide anything.

sweety1981md |

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I think that is what the article is trying to say. They know that things change, especially with child birth - but it's good that you and the father are on the same page. It's also good that the doctor knows your thoughts on topics. It doesn't mean things can't change just the basic idea to be there.

KristinaKile13 |

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no

abwellen |

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I am 19 weeks pregnant with my fourth baby. Each of my children's births has been completely unique. The ONLY common thread is my desire for an epidural. Our "birth plan" for this baby?? Letters to pass to EVERYONE who enters the room that simply read "Get it out!!!"

KristiB711 |

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I highly recommend a Birth Plan. Many hospitals will assume that your an uneducated women and they will take over and use interventions that are not necessary for every delivery. A birth plan essentually lets them know that your aware of whats going on with your body and you have preferences on how it should be handeled. Let them know you want the lights off, no epidural, ect. What ever you think is important to your peace of mind. They should honor that plan to the fullest. They do of course have their policies but its your labor, your baby.!!! If you can get your OB doctor to review it and sign it, then the nurses see that your doctor is aware of how you want it and is in agreement and they are more likley to follow your instructions. Now on the down side. Labor usually does not go by the book. We have to be wiling to give and take on what happens. You may need that intervention for the well being of your baby. All your telling the hospital is that you have choices and rights. You want to be treated equally, and with respect. Choose your battle's

jeanettedoula |

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this is my 1st baby and i am lost with this birthing plan. i read over the one that is on here, but there is so much stuff on there. is it all needed? or should i focus on main things? would it helpto have one just in caes? does it even matter? help me please!

Brittany Nasn |

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YYYYYYEEEESSSSSS!!!!!! Even if u get to where ur going, or birthing at home, and u change ur mind at the last min u have something to go off of. When ur making the plan ur chosing things that u have educated urself on (hopefuly) and your suport team knows how to prepare themselves for what u want and need during all stages of ur birthing. i know somethings dont go to plans but better to have one for u and baby than to not!

simply_me |

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I think it's a good idea to think about all the possibilities before the day comes, and taking a look at a some kind of birth plan form can bring up issues that would never have occurred to a first time mom. However, my husband is an OB/GYN and he says the doctors' perception is that women who have written birth plans often come in saying no medical intervention and then freak out when the pain builds and end up with more medical intervention than those without a formal plan. Both underplanning and overplanning can lead to feeling like you are spinning out of control when things get messy--which they will. Basically, I think a middle road is best. Plan ahead so you're not totally surprised or unsure of what you and your partner would prefer, but be flexible so that you are at least somewhat emotionally and physically prepared for a not-so-perfect delivery.

joirish |

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Dont' bother, your midwife is right! You can dream all you want about how it will go but you can't control your labour. Discuss with your husband and midwife about what you want (ie: drugs) and that's all you can do. Of course you don't WANT a c-section... you don't have to write that down anywhere but if it has to happen it has to happen. In the end the doctors will do what's best for the baby and that's all you can ask for.... a healthy baby!

sarahneufeld |

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im not sure if i should make one or not im so confused

amykowalewski2225 |

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Do you need to have a written down document outlining what you want. Sure, if it makes you feel better about making your wants known during delivery. If you feel you can articulate yourself during your L&D process you may find that typing out a birth plan is going to be one extra step you can skip. Here is what I have seen in my six years of L&D nursing. Know that a plan must have room for contingencies. If you come in saying you want no interventions, that may happen at first. But if the heart rate is dropping and won't come back up, you will need interventions even if as minor as oxygen and laying you on your side. Internal monitoring and fetal scalp monitoring of the heart beat are usually reserved for major complications. Discuss with your doctor ahead of time to see where they stand on the interventions you don't want. It is better to work out a plan with your MD BEFORE you get to the hospital than to walk in with a birth plan that the doc isn't aware of. Just be flexible. Most nurses are very willing to help the woman who wants a natural labor. If you feel the nurse and yourself have issues regarding your birth plan, ask to speak with the charge nurse or nursing supervisor. This is your day and you want it to go as close to your ideal as possible but a healthy baby is the ultimate goal. Anything that is against hospital policy cannot be adhered to so be sure to check out those policies ahead of time as well. Most hospitals require fetal monitoring for at least part of ever hour and an IV at some point. If your birth plan doesn't agree with those policies, look for a birthing center or other options for your delivery options. By refusing all interventions when things are going down hill, you are setting your self up for a C-Section. I have seen it many times.

A_Mommy_Again_2010 |

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I am pregnant for my first child and I was completely lost when it came to making a birth plan but my husband and I signed up for a 5 week birthing class and they have been discussing many of the pros and cons of things to think about with a birth plan and delivery. It has helped me better understand what I want and what I don't want. For example I know that I am not against pain meds but there are other things I want to try first for pain and leave the meds for last resort. I have also learned about the different position of labor and which ones allow me to deliver easier. Before the class I didn't even know there were positions other than on your back like you see on TV which by the way is the worst possible position because the baby is forced into your spine rather than down through your pelvis. If you aren't sure about a birth plan or what you do or don't want during your delivery take a birth class and then complete your birth plan. If anything it helps you be prepared in your mind so when the time comes and you have to make a decision you already know your options and choices.

mlhockey |

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I think that a birth plan is not something that is necessary and that you shouldn't stress out about what your birth plan is going to be. As everyone else said, you can't plan labor down to the last detail - everything will change and you need to be ready to adapt. The think that's nice about talking with your partner, is just having an idea about different options that are available. As someone else stated, if you don't have a plan, the L&D nurse is going to just have you do what she is most comfortable with and that's typically fine. But the more you know about different possitions and relaxation techniques the more comfortable you will feel with speaking up. I wouldn't worry about writing it all down step by step, but the whole day will be a combination of bordom, anticipation and then a whirlwind of activity at the end. So talk to your husband so he can help you think about things you might want to try. Two suggestions I have: (1) stay on your feet and moving as long as you possibly can. It's much more comfortable that staying in bed, the time passes more quickly, and your labor slows down when you get in bed. (2) Try the mirror! I didn't use it with my 1st, but I did with my 2nd and it was so motivating to be able to SEE my baby coming out, plus you can see when your pushes are working if you have an epidural and you can't feel them. It helped cut my pushing time from 2 hours to 45 minutes dispite the fact that baby #2 was two pounds heavier!! Good luck and don't panic - remember, you body was made to do this, and it knows what to do, even if you don't!

smjones16 |

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I'm pregnant with my fourth baby. I have had epidurals with all of them, all of them scored 10 out of 10 when they were born.. They are all exceptionally healthy and well adjusted kids. All three were vaginal deliveries and all three hurt like heck until I got to the point where they would give me medicine. And when I say hurt like heck I really mean so much pain that you are literally unable to move or speak. I think it's important for you first time moms out there to understand that there is a group of women in this world who think you have to suffer through unimaginable pain in order to be a "real women", do not fall for it! Believe me there will be plenty of pain even with the epidural. I have never had a birth plan and I don't intend to have one this time around, they are useless in my opinion. All three deliveries were different, all had different issues, but with all three I went in knowing it was going to be painful, that there was going to be medicine to help, that I was going to live, and that I was going to have a baby when it was all said and done. Go in demanding your dream labor and you are going to be sorely disappointed and more than likely end up with a C-Section because you are so stressed that things are not going along with "your plan." God and your baby will laugh at your plan and do what they want, this is the one situation in life where you really have no control, the best thing you can do is go in with a good attitude, someone to support you and then trust your doctor. They are not going to force pain medicine on you, if you don't want it then just say no. I think it is a huge mistake for first time moms to go in certain that they do not want drugs, you really just can not conceive the level of pain, go in with the intent of natural if you must but don't feel bad if you want the drugs, your not a failure your normal!!

rkrefft |

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I'm currently pregnant with my 3rd child. With both of my previous deliveries my birth plan was simple. I wanted a relaxed atmosphere. No stress allowed. Now I was lucky that both times things went pretty smooth. (The complications started after delivery). But I trust my doctor with my life. That is key. Be under the care of a doctor that you trust and know has your best interest in mind. Then if intervention is needed you know it is really needed and you don't have to look at a piece of paper that says no. I highly recommend a relaxing atmosphere. I had the lights low, calm music playing and a scented plug in. Both times the nurses would come in and take a deep breath. They too were relaxed by entering our room. Hope this helps!

suzie29 |

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I am a labor nurse and I can tell you how we receive birth plans. Yes it is nice to have an idea of what you want just as long as you realize that circumstances change and sometimes you need to alter that plan in order to do what is right for you and your baby. Someone said that "many hospitals will assume you are an uneducated woman and will take over and use interventions that are not necessary for every delivery." In my experience the only time a nurse has declared a woman uneducated is when she truly was. Take classes and do some research, not too much, you don't want to get false information and scare yourself. If this is your first baby you need to realize you have NO idea what to expect, nor are you aware of everything else going on at times. If you run into a doctor who will not listen to you or speak to you as an educated woman then get a new doctor or midwife. Ask questions and discuss all that is happening. This is one of the most natural things in the universe, but like all things in nature things can turn ugly. So Yes, have a birth plan and discuss it with the staff before you go into labor so that you all are on the same page.

carderrn |

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I once posted on the truuconfessions site about how I didn't have a birth plan and was not at all concerned and I got a lot of "me too's". So I think there are a lot of woemn who don't have one. I don't think it is necessary, however if you do have one be flexible, things don't always go according to plan.

RedGal73 |

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If you have strong feelings about anything that happens in your delivery room, from drugs, to laboring positions, to who is in the room when you deliver, right it into a birth plan and kindly share your feelings with your family and the nurses on call. They want to help you have the birth you have envisioned, but can't do that if they don't know what you want.

jjbakerlc07 |

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If your plans are to take a back seat and roll with the punches and take what the doctors throw at you, then a birth plan isn't for you. If you're the type of woman who wants specific people in the delivery room, wants to attempt a natural birth (I am saying attempt b/c most of the time these women are the 1st time to do so), and wants to restrain from certain proceedures, then the birth plan will help. Will you stray from your birth plan? yes. The purpose of a birth plan is so that you look into (and understand) what could happen & what to expect during delivery. For instance, if you want to attempt a natural birth and end up not being able to stand it, what are your options? Is the only option an epidural? No, there are all kinds of options... that still allow you to get up and move around... and allow you to do other pain relieving things (like back rubs) if you are in back labor! At any rate, the birth plan offered on here is pretty extensive, (not knowing terms is ok... look them up - ask your doctor now). Knowing what stuff is and the good and bad of it is what a birth plan is all about... so that when you're in the middle of a contraction and your doctor comes in and says... "hey do we have permission to do this???" you know what the "THIS" is. All in all... a birth plan settles the mind & allows you to have a bit more knowledge going in.

carriecasey |

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Definitely think things through ahead of time and discuss them with your doctor, husband, and anyone else participating (or not participating who might expect to). Tell mom if you want her around for the labor but not the pushing. Tell your husband if you want him to help you say no to pain meds or simply support whatever desire you express in the moment. I wanted everyone with me they would allow so I just found out how many people were allowed in the room and if it was okay to include my three-year-old. If it helps you think to write things out, go ahead, but I think giving everyone a copy is sort of silly because, as many have said, there are so many variables that the process is pretty unpredictable. Besides, my doctor just scooted in and caught the baby on his way to a c-section, so he wouldn't have had time to read it anyway!

titania9 |

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When I had my son, I did not do a "birth plan" because it seemed a little annoying to me. However, in retrospect I can totally see the benefit. As an example- I had torn during delivery so once my son was born they immediately started stitching me up which seemed to take FOREVER (like, 30 minutes or so). They didn't let me hold my son until after they were done. At the time I was so out of it that I didn't speak up. If I would have had a birth plan, I would have been able to say upfront- NO MATTER WHAT I want to hold my son the moment he is born- even if it's only for a few seconds.

detroitblondie |

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One other thing- when I had my son the doctor cut the cord! She didn't even ask my husband if he wanted to- just went ahead and did it herself. Just another reason I should have had a birth plan. I guess my best advice to those out there that are pregnant for the first time is to think about what things really matter to you and get them on paper in a birth plan. Labor and delivery will most likely not go as you think it will so to pick apart every last little detail of it in a birth plan may be a little silly. However, think about what is most important to you and get it on paper for "just in case".

detroitblondie |

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A birth plan insures your desires are met to the best of the doctors,nurses, midwives, doulas abilities..It lets them know what you do and don't want so you don't end up on the operating table when you want a natural birth and it isnt nessecary for a C-section.If you specifically want only two nurses and your support person in the delivery room that is also something to put in a birthplan..But if you would care to do whatever the doctor thinks is best for your body instead of letting your wishes be known than you probably aren't a birthplan kind of Gal..

saphireeyes |

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I was raised by a military dad so I was raised and believe that having a plan is always a good thing. Chances are it won't go the way you planned and it can always be modified but it's not a bad idea to have an idea of what you want and what your options are.

jessgrg |

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I have two boys and didn't do a birthplan for either of them. I read over suggested ones and that was good enough. They're 4 and 3 now and are just fine from not having one.

toujoursred |

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1st watch "the business of being born" which you can watch direct from netflix, then read "born in America" you don't even have to go past the 1st chapter....I think you will then have your answer..

shaeleigh24 |

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I like the idea of structure. The idea of havng a birth plan is a good one to me for many reasons: education, open communication between caregivers, awareness, and less room for my wishes to not be honored. My doctor is very thoughtful and I'm sure there are going to be hiccups but at least I can go in with some expectations and the nurses and delivery can have a heads-up, too!

Ambersmurphy |

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After reading all of the posts there seem to be pros and cons to having a birth plan. The pros are having things covered and letting others know your wishes before a medical procedure (a pretty good habit to get into whether its a L&D you are getting ready for or any other medical procedure) and the cons are feeling like you have diverted from some plan or vision of the way things should go or just wasting time and stress on something that gets tossed out the window in the face of unforeseen circumstances. Either way it doesn't seem to do any great harm to have a plan and it does sound great to let others know the way you feel and make sure you and your support person are on the same page. Overall, it seems that the decision of whether or not to have a birth plan depends heavily on the personality of the mother in question and the support team. If you like to feel in control and research your heart out before any major life event it would follow that you would have a birth plan in place. If you are pretty laid back and enjoy researching but trust your doctor and hospital and have a go-with-the-flow attitude then I see no harm in not formalizing a document if it brings you stress or makes you feel even less prepared for the big task. After reading all of your posts I realize that I need to discuss my wishes with my hubby at the least and wouldn't mind reading up on L&D to see if there are other preferences I want made clear. I, personally, would like to hold my son right after birth and want to feed him as soon as possible...other than that I really have an open mind and want whatever results in a healthy baby and a healthy me!

FirstTimeMommy2010 |

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I asked my doctor about this today and she recommended waiting until after the birthing classes you are going to take because a lot of the questions you may have will be answered at that time. So, if you are freaking out about the sample birth plan here (honestly, I read it and thought I had no clue!) just wait until after the class and see how you feel. She thought the best plan of action was to be educated but open minded, not too rigid in planning.

FirstTimeMommy2010 |

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NO NO NO!! I am a nurse in OB and pregnant with my 4th child. I have hardly ever seen a birth plan go as planned. The baby has his own plans and chances are they are not what you have planned. Making a birth plan is as silly as skipping over the section about c sections just because you "know" that you are going to have a normal delivery.

Indymomof4 |

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I don't think you need one...I didn't have one for my daughter and things went well so I definitely won't have one for this baby...

mkosborn7 |

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Gosh, ya know...women join this site for inspiration, encouragement and friendship. I really find it distasteful and upsetting to see so many of you women discouraging other women in such a rude way. Just because some of you MAY be a nurse, doctor or THINK that you know all of the answers to life's questions DOESN'T make give you the right to give crappy advice. I think that everyone is different, as is each pregnancy. and just because it did/did not work for you, or if you think something is a good/bad idea doesn't mean that it will be the same for another. I feel that if you want to write a birthplan, then you should. If you do not, then don't!! Don't let some grouchy witch bully you!! Lighten up, everyone!!

Sunniesideup1981 |

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I'm pregnant currently with my second child, with my first child only thing I knew was how easy of a time I would have with labor the only thing that went right in my plan was an epidural and his daddy cutting the cord. the only thing that went wrong was getting induced because the doctor was going on vacation the day I was due so he induced me the day before he was actually due. I had him just 2 hours shy of him being at his exact due date. talk about cutting it close. This time around my plan is to have a planned C-section so that I can get my tubes tied. No offense to all you other mothers that have 4,5 or even 6 kids but I feel having two kids is enough for one set of parents to manage.

jstamand48067 |

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I was not sure what to put in a birth plan so I googled birthplans and found www.birthplan.com It was very helpful!

gammaiota1009 |

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I'm a nurse and I've seen numerous deliveries. In my experience, it's good to have an idea of what you may prefer while in labor; however, I've seen a lot of women become so focused on their "perfect delivery experience" if it doesn't happen they become so disappointment that they have a hard time focusing on the fact that they have had a healthy baby. If you want a birth plan...great, just don't get your heart set on your "perfect delivery".

kmacainsh |

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i made up a birth plan only because im on a 50/50 scale of having a c-section. I wanted it clear about who would be in the room if a c-section and who would be if i have a vaginal birth. and ofcourse planned pain medication if i give birth naturally.

taylorsue00 |

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I had a birth plan with my first child and mainly I used it as a forum to express what I would like to happen such as being able to walk/ move through labor, atmosphere in the labor room, and bonding with my baby. For instance, I had requested that he be placed on my abdomen right away and such. However, I was not upset that this did not actually happen, b/c the cord had been wrapped around his neck and he came out purplish-blue and had to be taken to the other side of the room right away so they could make sure he would breathe. No, it didn't happen the way I had said I wanted it, but that's life and I knew to be prepared for that. The only things that upset me (only a little bit) was that everyone left me all at once to follow the baby and my midwife still had me pushing the afterbirth out, and as a result they all got to really look at him before I did, b/c all I saw was a glance as they lifted him away from my body. I thought that was a bit unfair, because I did all the work!!! lol But as far as medical procedures and such, all I requested was to be told when my "last call" for an epidural was, so that I could decide then if I wanted it or not. A birth plan is not an excuse to become a control freak, and as long as you trust your chosen medical personnel, then you should let them do what is medically necessary to have a healthy child and mother be the end result.

Bec28 |

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To each his own. If it makes you feel more prepared to have a birth plan, I say go for it. But don't be surprised when things don't go according to plan. And just because you don't have a birth plan, doesn't mean you are uneducated or don't know your options, as some previous answers suggest. Remember that the hospital staff is there to take care of you and your baby, and they want things to go as smoothly as possible. But, if you have some very specific requests you should make them known to your OBGYN well before arriving at the hospital. And hopefully you picked a doc whose philosophy on childbirth parallels your own, so there shouldn't be any disagreements in the first place. Just remember, you can't control everything. Relax, and good luck.

ChristiMcD |

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This is my first pregnancy, and I just met with the doctors today to sign the hospital paperwork, and go over my "birth plan." To me, it wasn't really important and still isn't number one on my list, but I have found it helpful to talk to my doctor about whether or not I want an epidural, or if we have a boy if we want him to be circumcised. These types of things were not something I was thinking of right now, since I'm only at 10 weeks. However, it is never to early to get an idea of what you would like to do.

lynhawk |

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I just typed up my birth plan. I am having a scheduled C due to prior medical issues, but there are some requests I didn't know was available to me and my husband. I have added things like having my husband wipe down/bathe our son, I asked that any drugs administered are breast feeding friendly, to have skin-to-skin contact, and afterwards that our 5 year old daughter is brought in by a nurse to have bonding time once we are in a private room. Though medically you don't have much control as to what may or may not happen, there are things you can request to make things a bit more intimate and/or more family orientated.

mockpero |

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I am a NICU nurse & prego with my 3rd child. We kind of joke in the NICU that having a birth plan is a bad omen. Please don't take that the wrong way as someone did earlier when an L&D nurse posted they laugh at women with a birth plan (which I'm sure she didn't mean literally!). You should absolutely discuss with your husband and Dr. your wishes about pain meds, environment and wishes for your delivery but if you walk in with a full on plan whether you say it or not, you have an expectation that your delivery will go exactly as that plan says. These little ones in our belly's have a mind of their own and they, along with our bodies, have their own birth plan and whether we like it or not that's who's in control. The most important plan is to have a safe delivery. It makes me sad to see how some of the answers paint the Dr.'s and hospitals in such an awful light like they are just sitting at the hospital waiting to control your experience. I don't know where you are going but my experience working in the NICU has been that L&D Dr.'s & nurses care deeply about their patients the ones inside and outside of the belly and while a great "experience" is hopeful they are most concerned with having a healthy mom and baby, isn't that what you want? To those of you having your baby outside of a hospital I'll keep you in my prayers, a lot of those births will go just fine but in the NICU we see plenty outcomes that would have been much better if their baby would have been born where expert medical attention is just steps away not an ambulance ride away. I look at having a baby in the hospital kind of like a car seat, most days you won't need the protection it provides but the day you do need it it saves lives!!!!! Congrats to all of you, birth plan or none!

Jodelle |

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Have a plan in your head... tell your doctor. But don't freak out if it doesn't go your way. A friend told me (she's a nurse) that when ladies come in with a written birth plan, they put it straight to the c-section pile.

Lorentz |

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I found a birth plan very helpful, as the hospital I go to has an on-call doctor who does the deliveries for a specific week. Chances are, you don't have your doc. With my birth plan, I didn't have to ask them to bring in the mirror so I could watch, etc... they just referred to it throughout my delivery and then checked in with me about my desires. I wouldn't go back in without one.

reinerst |

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Just one more thing to stress over as far as I'm concerned. Not one of my friends had one and a few even skipped the birthing classes all together and they had no problems and have the most gorgeous children. I feel the less stressed you are and the less you try to control things that are out of your control the better it will be. I am so excited to meet the lil baby and that is going to be my main focus.

sastaton |

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After planning on having 6 babies and each having its own birth plan I can tell you this one thing. Not a single one went the way we planned it out. With a couple premature babies and an emergency c-section my births were nothing like I thought. But just remember one thing when you do make it leave a little wiggle room so to speak. Come up with a couple just incase your faced with something you did not expect. Either which way its all worth it in the end when you get to see that little miracle.

sixelephants |

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i didn't have a birth plan when i had my daughter and everything went fine so i really don't plan on doing it for this baby. i do how ever plan on another epidural with this baby because i just do not handle pain well at all, i would rather have happy tears when the baby comes rather than pain tears any day.

snowwhite428 |

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My girlfriend is a NICU Nurse and knows most of the L&D nurses at our hospital. She said when women come into check-in with birth plans, they always joke to book a c-section room b.c. it never goes to plan. You can express your desires to the nurses when you check-in, but you should let your Dr. do his job & not be too picky. Hospital staff are more likely to accomodate you if you are nice and not putting in over the top requests. Women often forget childbirth is about the child - you want the Dr. & his staff to be concentrating on the baby's well-being not your desires to "bond" immediately.

kwolfe1 |

Q&A: Do I need a birth plan?

I had one and my doctor was great. We discussed it and he did everything in his power to follow it.

pastagurl@hotmail.com |

Q&A: Do I need a birth plan?

I made a birthing plan with my daughter...and NOTHING went according to it. Instead of just my fiancee and I, it was the two of us, plus his mother, plus my mother. I didn't plan on having an epidural, but got one last-minute when I was 7cm dilated. I thought I'd want to feel the top of her head as she was coming out...I changed my mind. Also, I wasn't able to hold her right after she was born because she had trouble adjusting to actually breathing. With this one...the plan is pretty much the same...I have my goals, but I'm prepared for last-minute changes. You have to be pretty flexible in the birthing situation, because there are always random variables.

RJKTD4 |

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Butterflies & Hiccups Pregnancy Journal has a great birth plan check list in the book to follow if you choose to do one! www.pregnanygram.com

lauriejwing |

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This is our first, and after reading the (very) lengthy sample birth plan, it seems like most of this stuff you can't possibly plan for. How could I know now how I will feel on the delivery day? I think it's a great thing to use to have a discussion with my husband and my doc, but I couldn't imagine that this would do anything but stress me out if it doesn't go according to plan. Maybe I'll feel differently closer to delivery.

Stapier01 |

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I'm a NICU nurse also and have attended hundreds of deliveries, both vaginal and C-Section. Some of the items on this birth plan seem unnecessary. I've never met a Dr. who used a vacuum or forceps unless it was an absolute medical necessity. Other items seem useful to have, like whether you want to room-in with baby, etc. As long as you're not rigid about your plan (baby is going to decide a lot!), if you feel more comfortable being prepared, then do it. To each her own!

tbrossman24 |

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Make a birth plan- with a doula who will be there for the entire time at the hospital! Birth plans on their own often get overlooked by the medical staff, but a doula will be actively helping you create the atmosphere you want and helping you make educated decisions about the medical interventions offered to you. Despite what some of the posts have said, Doctors and nurses do not always make decisions that are best for your baby. They usually make the decisions that are easiest for them, such as keeping you on your back with monitors, IVs, and drugs. Those things make you a good patient- and also keep money flowing steadily into everyone's pockets. Even more money if you have a C-section as a result of all those interventions! Do some research, and hire a doula. You and your baby sre worth it!

Greenvilledoula |

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YES! It is possible that things may get out of your control (ie: you have to have a c-section when you wanted to go natural) BUT that doesn't mean you should go in with no plan. Let the doctor know what you intend to do! They aren't going to think you are uptight or controlling if you say you don't want certain things. In the end, you will be that much more proud of yourself if you stick to want you wanted. I went into labor saying I did NOT want an epidural, no matter what. I stuck to it and succeeded. My doctor was proud of me and so were my friends and family. If you go in with one plan and find you don't want to stick to it then thats fine too. However you do it, I suggest at least having a plan on what you want and don't want during your delivery. You'll be happy you did :D

calishorty |

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i think having a birth plan is one of the best things you could do to helpprepare the most for bringing your little bundle of joy into the world! it lets everyone who is going to be actively or hands on with labor and/or delievery know exactly what you want to happen and not happen with you and your child. just in case something does go wrong and u are not able to answer any questions the doc, your partner, and any family member should have a copy to know what to do. i personally think the bump has the best birth plan sheet ever. you just fill it out and make copies! i also would like to give my e-mail out because im a first time mommy and im 20 years old and have question about the birth plan, i would love if some of you older mommies would e-mail me and help me answer some question i have. i would really appreciate that! E-Mail:sugars22sweet_08@yahoo.com, when u do email please put in subject box MOMMY 4M THE BUMP, thank sooooo very much!

jujubead2010 |

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The best part about having a birth plan is that your doctor and nurses know that you have been educated on the positives and negatives of each option, and have made your own decision. If you don't have a birth plan, they either try to explain what the procedure is to you or your husband (and you don't want to deal with that while in labor) or they make the decision for you. Having a plan that you can hand to the nurse right away really helps keep you relaxed, which is what you need to be more than anything when you're in labor!

nse712 |

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When I had my first son i didn't have one and things were crazy the nurses kept asking me questions about what I wanted and I didnt have a clue...did i want an epidural, when should i get one did i want to watch the baby being born with a mirror all this stuff i didnt know what i wanted...I ended up having an anxiety attack in the middle of pushing because I was so stressed out, However the second time around I had a birth plan all written out I even went over it with my doctor and left him a copy. I packed a copy in my hospital bag so I would have it with me when the big day came. A week before my due date I had a copy of my plan put in my file at the hospital in the maternity ward. When I went into labor we followed the plan pretty well and since everything was planned out and since I was in charge things went a lot smoother. So basically its up to you for me it works. Keep in mind even though you have a birth plan anything can happen so I would suggest having a back up plan and going to a doctor you can trust will help too. And dont expect everything to go according to plan.

claytonswife2011 |

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I had a birth plan with my second (I'm preg with my 4th now) and I'm glad I did because I didn't know who was going to be delivering my baby and they didn't know me from Adam. I think it helped them realize that I knew what I wanted and was not a complete idiot. I did, however, let the doctor know that these were my wishes, but he's the doctor and ultimately I want my baby to be the main concern. It ended up being a great birth and I felt like I was heard. I didn't with my 3rd because of complications I had to be induced and then emergency c-section. My daughter was basically born dead, (she's fine now) so for this pregnancy, my "birth plan" (and I have been asked already) is to have a healthy, live baby that I can hear cry. The birthing experience is unique for everyone and can be awesome, but ultimately what is important is a healthy baby...and sometimes the focus is taken off of that and put on the mom's experience. If nothing else, I think, for first time moms, it's good to fill out a birth plan so that you are more aware of options out there...but ultimately, it's going to be up to the doctor/midwife.

oliviajpatla |

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It nice to have, but i personally think they are pointless,because my doc didn't honor anything that i had in the birthing plan,and it made me furious. I had in my birthing plan with my 1st child that i wanted to be able to move around and try different position as i'm in labor, and they forced me to lay on my back, which i blame the doc 100% for my emergency c-sect. My son was able to pass through my pelvic bone. Had i been able to move around I could have been able to finagle him so he get in the right position. And also i wanted to breast feed right away and i wasn't allowed to with my 2nd. With my first my husband fought for me and i was able to feed my son.

mommabear05 |

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Definitely! Once things start happening you never know how things are going to move along. If you have what you would like to happen written out and make sure your nurse/midwife/doctor know what your expectations are you can keep your focus on taking care of yourself, your breath and managing your pain. I had a natural birth with my first and hope to have another one this June. I wanted things a certain way and didn't want to have to talk about it while managing my pain. I ws very quiet and in my own world. Everything written out made it easy for everyone involved. Birth plan also helps you to figure out what you want BEFORE you are scared and reacting to your emotions.

cherhop1 |

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Sunniesideup, I couldn't agree with you more. I am pregnant with my 4th child and have managed to give birth to all 3 naturally in a calm, relaxing environment with no intervention and only gas and air for pain relief. It is not delusional to think that such a birth can be achieved and if you are of a positive frame of mind and have a clear vision of how you think your birth should go there is no reason why you will 'have' to give in and scream for an epidural. If you're unprepared and tense and negative about labour your body will respond and tense up making everything seem so much more painful. It really is so important to relax and believe in yourself, and have a safe, happy birthing experience. I got so angry reading the views of all the uptight, bitter women saying 'first time mum's can't conceive how painful it's going to be and will be screaming for drugs', that's their experience, maybe if they relaxed a little they wouldn't have found it such a traumatic experience. I actually enjoyed giving birth to my 3 beautiful children and am looking forward to doing it again in four weeks time, I will have a birth plan and make sure the birth goes the way I want it to, even if my plans change when it comes to the crunch.

Chezlove2002 |

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I felt with my first one it was rather pointless as we had only theory to base our emotions and experiences on until you're in the thick of it. Having ended up with a C section, this time around I do feel a birth plan is rather essential...for example I was pleased with the recovery of having been glued rather than stitched or stapled.  Pregnancy Ticker

wsisaacs |

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I don't know if you would call it a "birth plan". All I wrote down is the desire to have an epidural if I asked for it, to limit it to just my husband and I, then for my doctor to do what was needed to get my kids here safely! This is going to be my 3rd baby, since my first was an emergency c-section and my daughter was one as well, she had an under-developed kidney and we didn't want to stress her out! I have already told my doctor we are expecting another c-section and to do what we have done in the past! Whatever you decide to do is the right thing, this is your pregnancy and you are in control!

cori12180 |

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I can see why they suggest a birth plan. I was looking at the plan they offer on this site, and I have realized, I really have the way I would prefer my delivery to go, for example, I would like to hold my baby as soon as possible after birth, and I do NOT want my baby to be given anything but breast milk. A birth plan helps the hospital see what I want to happen, and how I would prefer this to go, and what would make me the most comfortable. I think having on in the wings is good, but I think a flexible oppinion is good, since safety comes first, and as we all know, the birth will not always go exactly as planned. I vote yes, try for a birth plan.

perfectinmyownway |

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My hubby is a physician and he says that doctors despise birth plans as a whole.I certainly don't see anything wrong with them if you feel the need to have one, though. I just verbalize things that are important to me and haven't had any problems with my L&D's.

JMcKelvey |

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I think so, the fact is ( and we know pregnancy plays tricks on our memory) there can be so much going on in the l and d room. I think it gives the parents to be a sense of control in a very uncontrollable time. here is a link to the birth plan creator, http://tinyurl.com/4sfhxbd have fun!! joyce@mazelabs,com www.mazecordblood,.com

joycek7 |

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While I don't consider myself a control freak, I DO want to be the one making the decisions regarding my babys birth experience. I will ask if I want an epidural and I want to be asked, not told, if other interventions are recommended. This is just a way for me and the staff to be on the same page. Luckily my Dr. is great and totally understands! I highly recommend the documentary "The Business of Being Born" to all expecting moms. Its available instantly on Netflix and is a great eye opener into the hospital birthing experience.

michelle_marie |

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I'm not going to have a birth plan....I just want this experience to be over with....who wants to be in a hospital anyway? Get the baby out and get me home ASAP, I don't care about all the other stuff in between. Most people forget about all the details anyway....all I care about is being safe and healthy and going HOME!

littlesergeant |

Q&A: Do I need a birth plan?

It's a good idea to have things in mind that you like, but as a former L&D nurse, just know that it's NOT going to go exactly as you plan it. the more you plan, the worse it gets..TRUST me. Women who walk in to the unit with 3-4 pages of birth plan automatically get labeled as a c-section by all the nurses on duty, because that's normally what ends up happening. You have to have some trust and understanding if delivering in a hospital and be open-minded to what the professionals have to say :) In my experience, if you work WITH the staff, they will work with you to make your experience what you want.

rlrrox |

Q&A: Do I need a birth plan?

I took the time to create a birth plan and honestly even when I gave it to the nurses and doctors they looked at me funny and nothing happen the way it was planned. I guess its just a way to make you feel like you have control but in all honesty you DONT! LOL

ateasha |

Q&A: Do I need a birth plan?

I was a little confused because this is my first pregnancy but this website actually has it's own little birth plan sheet: http://pregnant.thebump.com/pregnancy/third-trimester/articles/tool-birth-plan.aspx obviously you don't "need" one but i do think it's a good idea. you can't plan everything but you can get on the same page with your doctor and your spouse. it helps to be clear on who you want in the room with you, if you want your hubby to cut the cord, if you want the birth to be filmed, etc

RachyD |

Q&A: Do I need a birth plan?

Being a labor and delivery nurse as well as pregnant, i say no to a birth plan. Each pregnancy/birth is it's own and unique. It"s good to have an idea of what you would like and I feel each procedure should be explained in detail to the patient and let them have the ultimate decision, unless it is becoming a dangerous situation. I've seen lots of birth plans and most of the patients end up with a c-section(i see it as a jinx-lol). Being well educated and discussing with your doctor your wishes should be good enough to get your ideas and concerns across. Remember that when it comes to your newborn many hospitals have their own policies and procedures that must be followed that some mothers may not be a fan of, so do your research about those procedures as well!

lexy1332 |

Q&A: Do I need a birth plan?

I found with my first daughter that simply going through the steps of making a birth plan helped me to understand what I was really expecting out of the experience. It also helped my health care providers know clearly what I wanted at a time where logic and clear communication were not really my priority. That being said don't get hung up on the idea that what you want is what you will get. Not one thing in my birth plan happened the way I wanted it to. Now that I am having my second child, I am still creating a birth plan even though I am having an automatic c-section due to the complications of my first delivery. Like I said before just going through the process is helping me to realize the things I want to be different this time. It all maybe for nothing in the end, but what can it hurt.

ShelTheGreat |

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Make the birth plan!!! I was a little obsessed with my birth plan. Researching every step, talking to my doctors, discussing with my husband and mother (who were in the delivery room with me) and making sure everyone was on the same page. Nothing went the way I had planned! I was going au-natural, until the contractions were 30 seconds apart and I was only 3 cm dialated--hello epidural and IV and urinary catheter and pitocin bring the contractions on strong when I was finally dialated. That was the first of my long list of things that did not go as planned. And I ended up having a short and nearly painless delivery and very quick recovery. I would suggest that you make the birth plan. I knew what to expect at each stage of labor and delivery. I knew what the doctors and nurses were going to say and do to me. I knew the consequenses of each decision I was making so that when I needed to change my birth plan, I was not in a panic. I now see that the point is to have the knowledge so you are prepared for what is coming and so that you can be calm when things don't go as planned.

littlefares |

Q&A: Do I need a birth plan?

I see a lot of medical professionals discouraging birth plans. I am a nurse and think it's a great idea! As long as you know that many factors can effect your childbirth experience and your birth plan might not go as you want it then thats alright! It's just a way to writ down your feelings on things like epidural or not, or water birth or not. It lets you bond with your significant other and spend time thinking about baby! It can also help Mom mentally prepare herself for the birthing process and also be able to wrap her head around the fact that every birth is unique and different! If you're a busy busy Mom to be and cant get to it, then it might not be for you, but if you and your significant other have some time to think about it and write some guidelines down that you LIKE to follow, then why not! I will definately be making one =)

jtownley21 |

Q&A: Do I need a birth plan?

Honestly, if you trust your doctor I think a birth plan should be as simple as telling your doctor, "Look, I really don't want intervention unless absolutely necessary." "I would prefer to do this as naturally as possible." "I want to use a birth stool for the delivery." The nurses should be willing to help you while in labor as far as keeping anyone out of the room (ours actually used the words "bouncer"), and your significant other coach should be privy to the rest. Why add paperwork to everyone's day?

Danielle Steen |

Q&A: Do I need a birth plan?

I see a lot of the comments from L&D nurses, OBs and physicians saying that when a women comes in with a birth plan they automatically assume that she will end up with a c-section. Why would this be? It almost sounds like the nurses tend to be annoyed by birth plans and there is some malevolent spite going on. This is extremely concerning to me.

Angel3065 |

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I think once you are in labor everything changes your ideas especially. My birth didnt go as I wanted to but since i didnt actually have a plan i wasnt disappointed when it didnt go just how i wanted. I'm convienced no labor and delivery will go just as you planned.

hroberts09 |

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With DS (now 2), I had a 3 pg plan. My dr took it & filed it away in my chart but honestly, it was pointless. Nothing went the way I wanted (not even DH announcing the gender). What mattered was I was healthy & baby was delivered safely & healthy. If there's something you want done, make sure your partner/coach knows & will advocate for you - in case you're screaming/writhing in pain or become unresponsive. Talk about worst case scenario so you have all your bases covered but go in with an open mind, putting your trust & faith with your doctor & the hospital staff.

TwoBits2012 |

Q&A: Do I need a birth plan?

With my first pregnacy i never had a birth plan... But thats prob. why everything was yelling and crap... Imma try to have one this pregnacy

tinkmybell14 |

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I am a mother of 3 with the 4th on the way. I never had a birth plan in writing when I went in with ANY of mine. My first child I was 18.. Natural Delivery. It was painful. but obviously not that bad because a year later I had my second child Natural and 2 years after that my 3rd one was natural. Lord willing now 3 years later, this baby will be natural. However I know due to come of my complications with this pregnancy there is a chance it wont be, but if I am told I can delivery vaginal, we're going natural. I know I can say NO to the epidural and such because I've done it before and I can keep myself calm and breath through it, but if something happens and a C-Section is necessary to save my baby, I am not going to argue. Again I wont have a birth plan in writing, but I will make my wishes known to my family and my Dr. and my nurses.

stepinger2011 |

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I had vaginal (natural) no drugs births three times. I had a birthing plan with each one. Let me tell you what I loved about them. I listed music, who cuts the chord, who could visit durring labor, and post delivery (there are some family members who should not be present during labor. (I wanted to have good deliveries and not be scared, or worry about anything other than having the baby. The plan allowed my Nurse(s) and hubby to make decisions without pestering me. Also on my plan... Dim the lighting, i even told nurse in the plan that if he/she had to deliver what my wishes were as discussed with Dr... On my 3rd delivery this was helpful... The nurse ended up catching the baby because the dr. was no where to be found... I wasn't worried about the DR. (a little annoyed) but the plan was in place and i could PANT, PANT and Listen to music as the nurse delivered my baby. I am now 41 and having my 4th baby. I am having a PLAN. Making my music CD. Making my guest lists, and even listing my wishes if for some reason, i am unable to be asked... I like a plan. Plans can be tossed out! But its great to have a little reassurance.

owens1494 |

Q&A: Do I need a birth plan?

My birth plan: Give me all the drugs. There, that's one more thing checked off my to-do list.

snowgirl0429 |

Q&A: Do I need a birth plan?

I have been a L&D nurse for 6 years and I am quite offended at the members who portray the nurses & docs as doing what is "easiest for them to keep the money flowing". This is ridiculous. I read my patients birth plans and discuss it with them in the room. We try not to divert from the plan but if the baby is in danger, that takes precedence over your plan. I think it is great to discuss with your doctor what your plans are and take some birthing classes. However I feel like you dont need a written plan. When you arrive just explain to the nurse what you want. Most of the admission questions we ask cover a lot of the stuff on the birth plan. Just keep an open mind, because lots of women get so caught up in sticking to "the plan" that they lose sight of what's important, a safe delivery of a healthy baby. Good Luck!

portugirl83 |

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No, my OB said don't bother, women have been giving birth for thousands of years without a birth plan.

rachelwsu93 |

Q&A: Do I need a birth plan?

There's no point in scheduling a birth plan. Neither you nor your doctor/midwife can predict what will happen on the big day and what will need to be done to make the delivery safest for you and baby. There's nothing wrong with talking with your provider about what you'd like, but at the end of the day they are going to do what is best for you and your little one. I planned out both births in my head and with my Dr. and neither one turned out a bit like I thought it would.

whitneyanne85 |

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I never had one with my first child. Never heard of it untill being preggo with this one. Of course whatever feels right to you is just that. But my experience went good-i do consider myself lucky-My DR didnt really ask alot of questions and plans, the nurse came in asked if i want an epidural i said no, she checked back and when it was last call she let me know. Anything else was just routine like IV with Antibiotics and all. Usually the OB staff is really good and will communicate. So No you dont need/have to have one. If you want one then Of Course! But if you dont you wont be left out or anything.

mfelix13 |

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My birth plan is not just for the delivery, I know not to set high expectations and I just listed what I prefer to happen. If something changes I am ok with that. I mostly want a birth plan for after the baby comes such as (unless medically nec.) I do not want the cord clamped right after birth I would like for it to stop pulsing first and I want skin to skin contact and to breast feed asap. Its good to have somethings written down just so everyone is on the same page.

AB25840 |

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Didn't have a birth plan for my one year old except knowing I was totally open to medication. But, it's up to you. I'm a planner and knowing that this was the only thing I had no control over, I let him decide. It was the best plan I had. :)

Bemyselfandi |

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I didn't have a birth plan for my first child and wish I had at least looked one over just to see what to expect. After tearing, hemmorhaging, and going into shock, they let me breastfeed my daughter, then took her out of the room for the night. My milk never came in and at the time I didn't know that would be a problem. In hindsight, having a birth plan might have let the nursing staff know that I wanted to breastfeed and they should have at least offered to bring her in. They never asked me if I wanted her to have formula, which I didn't. They just gave her formula. I'm using a birth plan this time around, knowing full well that nothing goes as planned, but at least the staff will know my wishes and can modify if needed.

KatyMorris |

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I am 30 weeks and i was wondering if it was too early to bring up the birth plan to my doctor?

NancylovesGomer09 |

Q&A: Do I need a birth plan?

you really don't need one .. my ob was relieved when i told her that my birth plan was 1) go to hospital and 2) have baby. face it, birth isn't something that you can micromanage and get the exact outcome you want. birth is mother nature's way of saying, 'see .. i know you want to do X but i'll throw Y & Z into the mix and see how you cope'. i've seen more women who had birth plans be disapointed w/ the births of thier kids than those who winged it.

pink.dutch.tulips |

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a birth plan is always good to have so the doctor knows what things you want while you are in the hospital for the birth and afterwards. i have a birth plan in place so that they know that i dont want any meds except a local to lessen the pain a little because i would rather be alert for our son's birth. yes labor is intense but the pain is so worth it to me. but the birth plan is totally your perogative and you should be able to decide what you do and dont want to have go on while you are in labor and after the birth of your child.

danivaughan0812 |

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my sister is a nurse and HATES when women come in with birth plans . she had this on women who had put her life and her babys life in danger because she did want to stray from here stupid birth plan . you can not expect your labour to go how you planed it , if it does good for you .

hopefully2012 |

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I'm currently 20 weeks with baby #4. Honestly, I see no sense in a birth plan. My births were actually already planned (I've been induced with pitocin every time and will be with this one too due to blood pressure issues). So my "plan" is get that epidural as quickly as possible and then breeze through delivery pain free! It's worked all three times before. :) Makes a happy momma!

Ladyrawdah |

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If you want the epidural then tell them but birth plans are kind of pointless unless you are planning on having baby with a doula or from home. The doctors know what they are doing. I would focus more on getting ready to take baby home than thinking about the labor and having anxiety about having lil one especially if this is your first one. Also, if you dont want an episiotomy, this is a good time to tell your doctor because some are faster to do those than others, and there are different oils they can use to help stretch the womb for childbirth.

AlisonHRankin |

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I did one just so they have a basic idea of what im thinking. Im 35 weeks and have already talked to my doc about a birth plan. She reccomends one and says that there are some doctors who dont care if you have one or not. My biggest point was that I wanted my daughter in the room with us at all times. I get freaked out thinking of her in the nursery. Just a thing that my husband and I feel strong about. Some hospitals will have a birth plan on their website you can print off, I dont think those are as intimidating as the ones on here and other sites.

kmiller1008 |

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I think a birth plan is just setting your self up for failure. Nothing ever goes as planned so why set your self up to feel bad when the plan changes, when in reality you just had a baby and hopefully a healthy one! and thats the ultimate plan

Lauren1642 |

Q&A: Do I need a birth plan?

My only real plan for this delivery is to get the baby out safely. I think that is about as much as I am going to demand from my Dr.'s. I will discuss what I would like to happen, but I am also a realist and know that not everything that I want is going to be feasible. I'm just excited to meet my daughter.

LisiRichard |

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It's good to have an idea of what you want to happen in the delivery room. As long as you understand that it may not goes as planned when you get in there, it's a good idea to have one.

gilizzle |

Q&A: Do I need a birth plan?

I dont really believe plan kind of word, natural happiness, sudden surprises are my friends.

ferozkhan |

Q&A: Do I need a birth plan?

I'd say know what you'd like, but be ready to do the opposite! Giving birth is always an adventure!! If you are not willing to be flexible in a birth plan be prepared to be dissapointed! Good luck!

Natalie Heer |

Q&A: Do I need a birth plan?

I'm surprised at the number of women here who are scoffing at the concept of a birth plan. I don't think that most women with a birth plan believe that if they write out their wishes everything will go exactly that way. It's simply a way for them to make their wishes known, which I think is important for anyone who's giving birth to a baby. It seems much more foolish to me to not have any plan in place. It's incredible what you learn when you start to build out a birth plan for yourself. I found myself writing things down into my plan I never thought I would. And now when the big day comes I'll have a much better understanding of what I want. I know I can't prepare for everything, and many things aren't going to go the way I'd envisioned them, but at least I'll have given myself to the resources needed to make informed decisions in the moment. So I say write out your birth plan so you can be educated about what you want, hope for the best, and prepare for the eventuality of things not going the way you want.

EverydayTrish |

Q&A: Do I need a birth plan?

As an L&D RN, my advice is NO WAY! Whenever a person comes in with a "birth plan" it almost always ensures that the complete opposite will happen. We call it the birth plan curse. Most people are then upset or feel like a failure because their delivery didn't go the way the birth plan described. Educate yourself, talk open with your doctor and nurses about your wishes, but keep an open mind because every delivery is different and what appear good on paper may not be the best thing in your situation.

chrysti10 |

Q&A: Do I need a birth plan?

Yep, BPs seem pretty pointless. I think it's better to be educated about the entire birth process, know your options, and understand what is likely to happen in each case (for example, what does a c-section involve, what is an epidural, what other drugs are used, etc.) Be informed, but don't be looking to control things. It usually doesn't work that way!

sadsadie |

Q&A: Do I need a birth plan?

not necessary... but it does help. my birth plan consists of two things the first is need lots of ice, and the other is to have a nurse hold me still when they put the needle in my back for the epidural

sephrina |

Q&A: Do I need a birth plan?

I think whether you "need" a birth plan or not depends on what kind of person you are. Some people want to control the birth - as much as you really can - and others, like me, are happy to just go with the flow. My doctor and I have talked about the birth process, and my only request is to make sure baby is healthy! I think it's important to know and understand what could happen and be prepared for anything, but basically baby is calling the shots here, not you. If you don't stress when your plan goes awry then it's fine to have one but I think too many people get upset over the little things. When an OB friend of mine was in school she had a woman who didn't want students in the room - why would you go to a teaching hospital then? My friend ended up being the one holding her organs out of the way during the emergency c-section, and the woman was still upset about it.

oneyedsally |

Q&A: Do I need a birth plan?

Is a birth plan absolutely necessary? Probably not. You can walk into a hospital and expect them to guide you through the process, and they will. But the question is, is that'st he kind of birth you want? Even if you walk into the hospital and everything goes wrong the beginning, if you've taken the time to write out a birth plan you will be so much more prepared to deal with those things that go wrong. When I wrote mine I learned so much about the birthing process and was able to decide what I want for myself, and was also able to have alternatives in mind if things didn't go according to plan. So THAT is the point of a birth plan. To prepare yourself for the event of having your baby and making sure you understand what's happening and what your options are.

EverydayTrish |

Q&A: Do I need a birth plan?

I plan on making one, while I prepared for changes to be made, I still want to have my preferences in writing. I would really like a natural birth and to avoid any interventions, also things like making sure MIL isn't in the room and that if possible I want to bond with LO right away.... I just don't see how it could hurt to jot those things down. If they change they change but if everything goes as planned (how awesome would that be) I will have the l&d I wanted.

grace1404 |

Q&A: Do I need a birth plan?

no, nothing goes as planned. My plan was to labor at home as long as possible and I did that! But unfortunately I got to the hospital to late for pain management and ending up doing a natural birth. That was not part of the plan. Oh well there coming out regardless!!

stephwWed10862 |

Q&A: Do I need a birth plan?

I'm sure having an idea of the way you wish everything to go would be nice

LaurenandMike13 |

Q&A: Do I need a birth plan?

After discussing the birth process with my doctor and touring the OB, I decided not to write a birth plan. They already do all the things that I wanted like skin to skin contact, keeping the baby in the room and providing breastfeeding support. The only "plan" I have for birth is to see how it goes and have my husband cut the cord. If I need an epidural or want a birthing ball, then I'll ask for it!

JMPrice |

Q&A: Do I need a birth plan?

As a L/D nurse, my birth plan had a less than 6 pints to it. It was simple and sweet. A birth plan should be like a resume, under a page and hits the important parts. We always laughed ath the 2-4 page birth plans. It was almost a promise that they would end up in the OR. Think what is really important to you and hope for the best. You can not have a rigid plan in the L/D room. Remember, it is a birthing plan, not a birthing contract.

savannah_girl |

Q&A: Do I need a birth plan?

Definitely a good idea. I wasn't as educated going in with my first child as I should have been. I pretty much said ok every time the doctor suggested something because I didn't know my other options. Looking back, I realize I really didn't need to be induced with pitocin like my doctor said (I was only 1 hour past the time from when my water broke to when they started pitocin). They could have at least given me the chance to go into labor on my own. I'm 21 weeks pregnant with my second now and plan on having a birth plan. I realize that anything can change, but I want to make sure the hospital staff know that I want the least intervention possible, and as was said in a previous post, many hospitals intervene to get you out of L&D quicker whether it truly is safest for the baby and mom.

vkbowers |

Q&A: Do I need a birth plan?

My OB is strongly opposed to them and encouraged me not to write one. She said that she has countless patients that get so upset if they have to deviate from it even the slightest bit, even if it's for the health or their babies.

amy715 |

Q&A: Do I need a birth plan?

My birth plan is to expect the unexpected and to go with the flow. I would like to try vaginal birth but since my DH was almost 10lbs I am ok with a C section. Also I have nothing against pain medicine, just don't want it unless it is nessacery..also I want to make sure I don't have an episiotomy if we deliver vaginal UNLESS IT IS NEEDED..Just want to have my little one safely for us both and that would be my birth plan!

LaurenandMike13 |

Q&A: Do I need a birth plan?

I was only 19 when I had my first baby and it was the worst experience in the world. Being so young, I didn't realize that I had the choice to be in charge of what was going on in the delivery room; I basically did whatever the nurses told me and on top of that there were five of us in labor so there was hardly any one-on- one bedside advice. I had an IV, a catheter, an internal monitor and was stuck in bed with fleurescent lights for almost 24 hours. Five years later in 2011, I had my second baby and made alot more choices of my own. I know it may sound petty but, I made choices such as walking around during labor, using a yoga ball and dimming the lights. It made the experience less stressful and much more comfortable. I am not pregnant with my third child and will have a birth plan that I expect to follow as much as possible.

RosyRed87 |

Q&A: Do I need a birth plan?

My birth plan is this. What hospital, what to bring and someone to count how many swear words I can push out before I start crying. Basicly there is no point in a meticulous plan with everything set up because as soon as it happens your prospective changes

samikay33 |

Q&A: Do I need a birth plan?

yes

AshleyMo02 |

Q&A: Do I need a birth plan?

My dr said not if I plan on using pain meds and a dr..anything outside of those lines then yes.

LaurenandMike13 |

Q&A: Do I need a birth plan?

Here's an awesome link to a much simpler Birth Plan that has a blank unfilled out birth plan and also one with an example. You fill it out so everything is completely up to you. The nurses and doctors are also more likely to go over something that is simple and two pages rather than a 6-8 page short story. http://makeoverwithaspen.blogspot.com/2013/04/birth-plan-to-have-or-not-to-have.html Also on this blog is awesome weekly pictures of her baby bump!

BrysonAndAspen |

Q&A: Do I need a birth plan?

My birh plan is to give birth. I have a midwife whom I trust, my hubby and I are on the same page, and I trust the hospital staff. I have enough to think and worry about just preparing for life with a baby and coping with pregnancy! What I don't have is a crystal ball to predict what will happen in delivery! To each her own here, of course!

erin2011 |