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Q&A: Should I find out gender?

I just found out I'm pregnant, and I don't know if I should find out the sex of my baby. Any advice?

Re: I just found out I'm pregnant, and I don't know if I should find out the sex of my baby. Any advice?

The Bump Expert

No one can answer that question but you, so go with your gut! Obviously, the benefit of finding out is that it makes it easier to prep the nursery and purchase layette items. Yes, your family and friends will universally want to know so they can start gifting you with the pinks and blues, but ignore their pleas if you're holding out for the big surprise -- it'll be worth the wait!

If you really, truly need to know and can't wait another nanosecond, there's a new product on the market called Itelligender. It is the only urine-based gender test available that can be performed in the privacy of your own home. In as early as ten weeks of pregnancy, you'll know if you're having a John or a Jane!

Ellie and Melissa

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I don't want to know the gender of mine, but that has more to do with my belief that there are so few surprises in life, and babies are one of them. I also know that an u/s could ruin the surprise for us. ;) Either way, it's all up to you.

DavesPrincess |

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I can't wait to find out the gender, but that's just because I really love shopping for the baby, and I'm not a huge fan of yellow or green.

Goalierd |

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I can say if you find out the gender of your baby you will get a load of pink and blue clothes. That is fine, but you need equipment more. In the end its up you, but I agree with davesprincess, you only get so many surprises in life. So we are going to wait for sure!

jgamroth |

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I think my husband and I are going to find out but not tell anyone else. All the previous grandkids are girls, and in my family, it has been all girls for two generations. Not sure I would want the attention of having a boy! The way I see it, the only time your pregnancy if private is up to the time you tell everyone! This way, by keeping the gender a secret, my husband and I can share something about the pregnancy just between the two of us. =)There are other alternatives to yellow and green! You can always do browns, cream and white. I am personally going to do everything aqua and chocolate brown - very trendy.

dawnzer |

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Iam torn. I want to find out and I dont want to find out. DH wants to wait and I was all for that until people started pressuring me about finding out. I think I truly want to wait. I hope I can wait and be surprised.

MrsGMRMartin |

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I think i definatly want to find out. I am so excited to get the room done & get "nested" in before the baby comes.

melanie-wood |

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I am going to find out with the first and not the second.

Mrs.Nolan |

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i already know what I'm having. at first i wanted to wait and be surprised but that plan failed miserably. I was dying to know at 12 weeks! The nwhen the doc asked if iwanted to know the gender i couldn't say no. Though at this point I'm the only one who knows what I'm having. DH wants to be surprised and it feels kinda cool knowing something about my pregnancy that my family can't go around announcing to the entire world. I really do love my family but they just dont get it sometimes

brittmariexo |

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Brittmariexo: you could the babies gender out at week 12? in 14 weeks... i didn't know I could find out so soon! did you do a sonogram or they found out a different way? I had my first sonogram at 8 weeks... but we couldn't tell then

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Q&A: Should I find out gender?

It is benefitial to find out the sex so you can be more ready.. unless you're okay with picking everything out that's green and yellow. I'm a very organized person and want to find out the sex (I'll find out in 3 days) because then I'm able to get some pink things if it's a girl and more blue things if it's a boy. My husband and I have a nursery set picked out for each gender so I'm real excited for that compared to getting a neutral nursery set, but that's just me! :)

annaeboyer |

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We are definately finding out the sex of the baby. I tend to be a planner and I want everything to be ready when the baby comes and I don't want a neutral theme... butterflies for a girl and sail boats for a boy. I can understand when ppl want a surprise the day the baby is born but having your baby in itself is a wonderful surprise! I think it's refreshing to beable to have the wonderful surprise of finding out half way through the pregnancy and then another surprise when the baby is born of what they look like and sound like and who they are as a person.

kchasse |

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Well, do you want to know or not? We did! I think it's super exciting whether you find out early or not, plus we'll be so emotional during delivery that we thought we'd have this big emotional moment earlier on. Also, I'm a huge planner so it will be nice to be able to buy appropriate items. Good luck!

Andrea2536 |

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We decided not to find out the gender of our baby. For us, it has been fun as well as very beneficial. We enjoy the suspense and the thought that it could go either way...50/50 chance! Also, at my baby shower I have been getting more practical gifts as opposed to all of my friends (who did find out gender) who received tons and tons of gender specific clothes and and accessories. We have a tight budget so it helps out greatly that we are getting the things from our registry that we really need as opposed to things that are relatively just for fun. Hope that helps! :)

cbraden7 |

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I forgot to add that as far as the nursury goes...you can get really creative for gender neutral decorating. I've been looking at blogs like ohdeeoh.com for ideas and I have found that there are plenty of options beyond the green/yellow baby room. And remember you can always add things later to make it more girly or boyish after the baby comes. :)

cbraden7 |

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We found out and it's been amazing how much it has made me bond even more closely with this little boy in my belly. Also - we live across the country from our family, so we flew home and invited the grandparents to join us for the ultrasound to find out. It was a special moment for all of them since they hadn't had the opportunity to share the pregnancy with us up until that point. As far as there being few surprises in life - I still think it's going to be a huge surprise, despite knowing the sex - I can't wait to see if he has hair or not, whose nose and lips and eyes he's going to inherit.

WithoutMelissa |

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I found out with the first one, girl. But on the second baby I am waiting. It is hard too because all my friends and family are disappointed. I even wanted to skip the shower, but every one is like NO!! So It is a compromise, baby shower yes! Gender Surprise!

negra.morada |

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I wanted to know only because I love blues and pinks and so I wanted to be able to decorate and get the cute clothes. Unfortunately for me it didn't seem to matter to people what I was having. Everything I got was yellow and green. I hate yellow and green. That was the whole reason I found out the gender people.

Firestar413 |

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We are not finding out and I think it is making it much more exciting for everyone. I imagine how it will be in the delivery room hearing, "It's a boy (or girl)!" Also I think its important to get the items you register for rather than a lot of blue or pink clothes and blankets that I would inevitably get if I found out the gender. Planning the nursery is a bit harder, but I found some really cute bedding that is neutral. And really, babies don't care what color they have! Another issue is picking out names for boys and girls, but I think that's fun. Good luck deciding!

KristyS17 |

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We chose to find out. This is our first pregnancy and getting to see her on the sonogram and find out that she was a girl made it so real for us. Now we can call her by her name when we talk about her and knowing has made preparing much easier. We have started buying clothes and such because we know what we are having!

smt12280 |

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So my husband and I had decided that even before we got pregnant we did not want to know the gender of our baby. I think that is is so wonderful to go through in anticipation of your due date wondering if baby is a boy or girl. My reasoning is this... 1) There are so few big suprises in life why ruin this on 2) I dont want a ton of gender specific baby stuff since this is our first pregnancy 3) I am giving birth naturally and I will want that one more thing to look forward to while i am pushing through the pain. I say to each their own, but if you do decide not to find out the gender of your baby be prepared for everyone else to drive you bonkers because they want to know!

babyharri2010 |

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I used to always say I wanted to find out. I would say that "it's a surprise whether you find out while pregnant or when the baby is born." But, one of mine good friends is a OBGyn and in casual conversation (before being pregnant) she said there is NOTHING like the experience when the baby is born when parents wait. the look and tone she used when saying that changed my mind! I won't find out!

mn5234 |

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I should add... I'm a super duper planner type. so not finding out is a big deal, but will be worth it.

mn5234 |

Q&A: Should I find out gender?

With our first one, we didn't want to know, but then we lost her 18 weeks into the pregnancy. She was so underdeveloped, we didn't know her sex for 6 weeks. So with this one (at 18 weeks now and just trying to breathe through the worry) we decided to know. Not knowing again just seemed too painful. We are having a healthy, baby.......GIRL!!! It is weird knowing already but as long as my daughter is healthy, it works for me! Good luck deciding - I think our next one will be a surprise!

choirmommy |

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We are having the same problem. I am 6 weeks 2 days with my first and my husband is all for finding out and I am undecided. I did have a friend tell me that she wanted to find out with the first because she had time to shop and buy all kinds of cute clothes (gender specific) But, they didnt find out for any subsequent children because she simply didn't have time to get out and shop with other kids in the house. Her idea makes sense, we are totally in the middle on this one. I have a feeling we will probably find out when the time comes!!

nandrews81@hotmail.com |

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I can't wait to find out what we are having. It is my first and i really want a girl. When can I find out?

bekah22587@hotmail.com |

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Does the home test to find out the gender work? and how soon can you do it?

jesmit10 |

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no one can really answer that question except for u. but there are good sides to both options. if u decide to find out the gender u can pick out a baby name before birth, u know what colors to get, it helps the bonding process alot, u can decorate ur nursery with a theme for either a boy or girl, and if the babys a boy it avoids the problem of having to decide to have ur baby circumcised before u leave the hospital or not. i decided to find out the sex of my baby and we know its goin to be a boy!!! weve picked a baby name, weve gotten baby clothes that are blue and all that (its very hard to find neutral colors these days), weve picked a theme for the baby shower and for our nursery. its a nuetral theme (winnie the pooh) but it helped our decision alot. but theres also a good side to not knowing. my best friend is pregnant too and were due the same day actually. but she couldnt find out the sex of her baby. the health department where she gets her ultrasounds done only allow two ultrasounds. shes already hadboth. andthe baby wouldnt show if its a boy or if its a girl. so she wont find out til birth what the sex of the baby is. but she doesnt have anyone telling her the name u picked out is stupid. she doesnt have anyone jealous over the name they picked, as me and my fiance do. she decided to do ducks as a theme because its neutral. the baby shower theme is question marks. lol. and she still finds neutral colors for clothes it just takes more time. and she says that her and her baby have bonded even though she doesnt know the sex. she says it makes it more exciting. so whatever u decide to do its up to u. but that kinda shows both sides of it. good luck choosing!!!

chunkymonkey7808 |

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if u decide u dont want to know the gender, make sure u tell the ultrasound tech BEFORE they even begin! alot of them dont ask first and blurt outthe gender which could ruin ur surprise.

chunkymonkey7808 |

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I think it's super exciting to not know, and find out in the delivery room. Its fun to have all the speculation as to which it will be. Also, another benefit is that if you tell people, you will get tons of pink or blue. Then if the second baby is the opposite gender, you'll have to buy lots more clothes. If you don't find out, you'll get gender neutral colors you could use with subsequent kiddos. Of course, this is only true for the smalles sizes. We got tons of pink stuff after baby arrived. As far as planning, first time moms always think they have planned for everything. Believe me, you can never REALLY plan for parenthood. But do what is right for you.

lisa512 |

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With my Son I tried that intelligender and it was correct at 12 weeks. And we tried it again this time and it said we were having a girl so I am excited for our next u/s to see what (s)he is for sure!

DaniLorello |

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We decided to wait on knowing the gender because it meant that shower guests would be more likely to buy necessity items for us rather than getting us a bundle of pink or blue clothes. You can always come by clothes and cute things for the baby to wear, but all the other necessity items on the registry were more important to us. I found that currantbaby.com had a great selection of neutral colored apparel and baby gears that worked perfectly for us!

peggyweber05 |

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My husband and I found out the sex of the baby and decided to just tell everyone. I have no idea why people feel the need to keep it a secret. It's not as big a deal for them as it is for you.

lottiea |

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I'm 19 weeks and we get to find out today! I'm so excited! I figure we get the surprise either way, we are just getting it earlier than birth. This way we can decide on a name and plan the nursery. Not to mention, so many of the necessity items come in gender colors if you want them, we just decied we would like to know ahead of time.. But it's a personal choice and totally up to you.. Good luck to all of you! = )

JulietBair |

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My Husband and I are trying to have a baby right now and we have both decided that when God gives us a baby we are going to find out what we are having and keep it to our selfs so that we have a part of the pregnancy that only He and I know and we will decorate the baby's room and keep it locked so when family members do come over they wont try and go behind our backs to see. We are also keeping it a secret b/c my MIL is the kind of person that will try and name our child and throw a fit if we dont do what she wants... trust me she threw tons of fits when we got married b/c we didn't do what she wanted or how she wanted things done when He and I were paying for everything our self...uh sorry for the little rant just a little stressed that she might try and find out when we want to keep it a secret... Also since she works at a main hospital where we live and is pretty high up is there anyway that she would be able to ask my OBGYN what we are having and him tell her with out our permission. I feel so bad asking this but I feel like I can't trust her anymore after some of the stunts she has pulled recently is this bad?

jenifersizer |

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I'm only six weeks along but my hubby and I decided not to find out the sex as we both feel there are so few surprises in life. I also want to be careful not to assign an identity to the baby before he/she gets here...so we're trying to be "gender neutral." Not knowing the sex also hopefully keeps family members from imposing their ideas as well. I'm not a big fan of the whole pink vs. blue thing and I'm looking forward to creative ways to decorate the nursery. (And little rock n' roll baby outfiits!) There are lots of options besides green and yellow. My hubby and I are big into music so we are planning to use some of our framed LP's and concert posters in the baby's room. Part of me really DOES want to know (I'm an event planner so it's in my nature to be uber-organized and detail oriented) but I also can't keep a secret to save my life! So part of not knowing the sex is letting go of always having to have a plan...

SongBirdNYC |

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I just don't want to know until the baby is born. We already picked out a set of names we liked one for a boy and one for a girl. Ever since I was little, I've always wanted to wait to find out the gender. Another thing is that I have a super irregular peroid and I was told many times I probably wouldn't be able to get pregnant, so if this is our one and only I def. want to keep it a suprise. My boyfriend, mom, sister and most of my other family all want to know. They keep pressuring me about it, which is super annoying, but I am 26 weeks, so they don't have to wait that much longer =)

Antsy33 |

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We didn't find out with our first because we wanted it to be a surprise, it was really exciting to hear the doctor announce that is was a boy after our son was finally born. It's a great motivator when you just don't feel like pushing anymore, you just think 'oh just a few more pushes and then I get to see'. That and even if I found out I'd be doing everything in green no matter what so it doesn't effect what I buy or how the nursery looks. Also I don't want to know just because everyone is pressuring me into finding out. It's mean but I'm having fun spiting my mother in law, she wants everything done her way and by not finding out I'm going against that. Another reason we have for not finding out is that what they tell you at the sonogram can be wrong. Fiancess's cousin was told she was having a girl so they had everything ready for a girl with all the pink and such, but then the baby ended up being a boy.

banditangel |

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I kept the sex a secret with my first child and am planning on finding out for my second. The amazing moment that I expected at the birth wasn't all it was cracked up to be. At the moment of birth it is way more exciting just knowing that you have a new, health, happy baby in your life, than knowing if its a boy or girl. I am thankful we kept it a secret because as everyone knows it is one of the only 'real' surprises you get in life. But for the second, I want to experience it the other way around, and pick names and decorate knowing what to expect.

duckbert |

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Knowing the sex only helps with early shopping. So if you like a lot of yellow and green there's really no reason to find out.

ejglady |

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I just found out I'm having a little girl! I already have a crazy little boy so I'm so excited about the girl! yayyy I can't wait to start shopping, but it's going to be slightly difficult because we have a two bedroom apartment and have made one of the rooms into a nursery for our son, so i'm not so sure what we're gonna do about the little girl. We're stuck in th two-bedroom for probably at least another year and a half after the baby's born. Any ideas about how to make it cute and still work? We already have a very boyish nursery with blue bedding and stuff...what can we do?

radwae |

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I know that it is going to be really hard to wait till the baby is born, but I wanna be surprised!!! I just found out that I am pregnant so I have a ways to go. But my fiance is really anxious to find out!! He wants to find out as soon as it is possible!! I've told him that I don't wanna find out so hopefully we will both be surprised the day our baby arrives!!!!

AEHayward |

Q&A: Should I find out gender?

Some people are telling me that you can find out the sex of your baby at your 12 week US...does anyone know if this is true or do we have to wait for our 20 week US? I am dying to know what we are having!!!!

mlmccullough77 |

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If I could do it over, I would not have found out. Pretty much everyone got us girl clothes and pink blankets. We had to get all the practical stuff ourselves. My due date is now in 2 weeks, and I have a co-worker who keeps insisting (based on how I look apparently) that I'm carrying a boy. :( It's making me nervous because I keep hearing about people finding out the gender and it turns out they were wrong. I've only had 1 ultrasound (at 20 weeks) that said it was a girl. So anyway, if the ultrasound is wrong we will have an excessive amount of unusable pink clothes (and very few receipts).

camikyle |

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I want the surprise. I like the idea of picking out two names, and prepping a nursery the way I want. Simple and modern... and most definitely, not pastel by any means (pink or blue doesn't matter so much to us)...

elise603 |

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My Husband knows what we are having and I do not. I am going to find out at my baby shower. My cousin and mom know as well because they are planning the shower. I will find out when I cut into my cake. it will be dyed either blue or pink. I will be 35 weeks at my shower so I figure that is close enough. My husband already has an older son so he wanted to know in advance this time :)

sopranogirl89 |

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I know I'm one of the few left out there but I couldn't agree more than with DavesPrincess below. Babies are one of lifes truly great surprises and hey your going to get what you are going to get anyway and you can't change it so I LOVE the thought of keeping it a surprise. You will probably take some slack like I have but I don't mind:)

purplerain77 |

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I found out the sex of my baby about two weeks ago, I did want to be surprise but I couldn't just go around for months calling my son a it. I also wanted o give him a name and get use to calling him his name. It's easier with shopping and baby shower presents too.But if you truely want to be suprised then dont ask. The choice s yours alone :)

Netty91 |

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I also feel like with so few surprises in life keeping the gender of the baby a surprise is so much fun! I did however let my husband find out. As much as I didn't want to know, he wanted to know. What's nice about that is I can take him to stores and say "if its a boy buy this, if its a girl buy this. I'll meet you outside" LOL! It really has made him feel special that nobody in the world besides him knows if we have a Little Parker or Claire Bear <3

hdp12 |

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i found out both of my pregnancies and glad i did.

jack321 |

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yes

cl28 |

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Before I was pregnant I never wanted to know the gender. However, upon looking for baby blankets, clothes, etc. all the gender neutral items were less than thrilling. I always wanted a surprise, but I have become a planner and wanted to know how to prepare the nursery, and family for the new addition.

foxpaz2009 |

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i'm 18 weeks i found out what it was and its a girlss for some odd reason down in my gut i knew she was a girl. so my adive to you guys is go with your gut feeling and you will alreadynknow what the sex of your baby is!!!!!!!!

cl28 |

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My husband and I decided to find out. This way, before the baby gets here, everything can already be painted and we can let people know what color things to buy.

MelinaIrby |

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My opinion on it is this. Regardless of your babies sex- they require the same things. Food, clean diaper, and place to sleep. This is definitely a generational thing where women and men believe that they simply cannot prepare properly without knowing the sex of the baby...and that simply isn't true. A baby is a baby.

MustanGTbaby13 |

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I am having twins so I def. want to know the gender, which I will find out in two weeks

JamilaTSimmons |

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It just really depends on your beliefs and personality. You will know in your heart if you really want to know, or if you can wait to keep it all a surprise.. I hate surprises and always love to have things planned sooo I wanna find out the gender.. we find out in less than two weeks! :D yay!!

amuraok |

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TINYMIRACLESIMAGING |

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what I did with my first baby is I took a envolope to the appt of my ultrasound and I told the nurse not to tell me just put the answer on the enveloped and closed it, when it was going to be my baby shower I took my enveloped to the bakery and told them to make the filling on the color oof my baby's gender, when I cut the cake on the baby shower i Found out it was blue a baby boy I was really happy and my husband too, he is now with the same way to doit now with the second baby will see what happen ( i KNOW IS A BOY and I'm only 6 week pregnant) good luck to all of you......

sahiraangel08 |

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for me, finding out the gender will help make pregnancy more real. Knowing WHO is in there could prepare you even more. Some people like surprises. But i like knowing.

ksstach |

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Itll be a surprise when you find out from the sono. I want to be able to buy things girl or boy oriented.

BoricuaHunnie |

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I am not finding out the gender of my first child at least. I already know i want more than one child in my future (granted this is my first and i may change my mind after the birth, not fond of pain). Everything i am registering for is equipment and it is neutral, so if i later have another child of a different gender i dont have to buy a bunch of new (and expensive) equipment. I figure this can be the one real suprise. My mom even said that one of her friends daughters waited to find out and during her baby shower she got alot of necessities (equipment and diapers and the like) and then after the baby was born her friends and family all got her additional gifts that were for the baby since they knew gender. It was like she had two baby showers. I think guessing and then finding out at the end is a really cool suprise, and one of the few left in life. If you find out then you already know and you have a name, so by the time it gets here its not really a suprise, just what it looks like (and most of them look the same or similar for at least the first few weeks from what i can tell).

agentbristow44 |

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I am defiantly finding out the gender this time! lol. Turns out I don't like being asked "is it a boy or a girl?" 100x'a a day. lol. You could tell everyone to stick with tans whites yellows and greens. If it's a girl buy a few tutu's and bows and tada! lol

sueforizzle |

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I am a huge planner and I'm not patient at all! lol. Its our second baby, most of the big items from our first are neutral, so either way we are good on those, but we will definitely find out. I couldn't possibly have a little girl and only have yellow and green onsies for her when we got home! Also, I know some people get tired of the pink and blue, but I loved dressing my DS in blue. It really made his eyes stand out. I honestly don't know how anyone can stand to wait that long to know, but I admire them for their patience.

mommy510 |

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I'm finding out today! So excited!

kathrynj917 |

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yes

Budrfli26 |

Q&A: Should I find out gender?

It's not "gender" it's "sex." Should I find out the SEX of the baby? Gender is a conscious choice while sex is biology. Any other Sociology degrees out there having a hard time with this??

hurricane17 |

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agree! women's studies degree here. thanks hurricane17!

andreaks2 |

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Actually according to the American Heritage Medical Dictionary "sex" and "gender" can also be used interchangeably to mean the condition of being male or female. Number three of their definition, "a. The condition of being female or male; sex.". "Gender" can also be used to describe ones' sexual identity. But I don't believe that it's incorrect necessarily to use the term "gender" when identifying the sex of your baby either.

Aislinn26 |

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i found out when i was 8 weeks and could not and can not wait to find out....

fidelia90 |

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i just found out the gender n yea baby its a girl...i needed to find out some ppl was like wait till birth but after having 4 boys who the heck does"nt want to know before the birth i can"t wait to meet her so excited

killasong4 |

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yes know

paredesmichelle |

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Finding out the gender is really up to the individual. I am pregnant with my third child and due to the age differences between my children I really wanted to know. We made it fun. When we went for the ultrasound we told the tech we wanted to know the sex of the baby but not to tell us. He put the answer in a sealed envelope and it took everything I had to not peak. We dropped the envelope off to a local cake maker and had him bake a cake and informed him that the filler inside the cake would either be blue or pink depending on what was in the envelope. A few days later we hosted a party for family and friends and we revealed the sex of our baby by cutting into the cake the baker had made for us. It was still a surprise for us and we got to share it with our friends and family.

niccid01 |

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I found out last week I'm having a GIRL

jazz5pack |

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I found out I was having a boy, and it was the happiest moment for me (so far). I would, It is the most anticipated, then you can plan for the room and clothes!

ryleemcconnell16 |

Q&A: Should I find out gender?

I am more than excited to find out the sex of the baby in a week. But I will advise on one thing.... DONT GO OVERBOARD WITH A GENDER SPECIFIC THEME. Try and be as neutral as possible. I have had too many friends find out that the baby is one thing and will have another on the day of birth. With parenthood, you have to expect the unexpected.... so start that practice before the baby is actually here to join the party :)

leannmp |

Q&A: Should I find out gender?

I think it is fair to say as a couple we are undecided, but I am definitely leaning toward knowing. My nursery theme isn't going to change either way, and I don't want people to over gender specify since that's all they will know about my baby, but I would like to know because I feel like I will be able to bond better knowing more about who they are. I mean I love my baby either way already! But, we're really struggling with the name thing and think if we could focus on one set of names instead of two, it would help. I like the idea of just me and my husband knowing and would love to reveal at my shower or when the baby is born, but I don't know if I can trust myself to not give it away on the registry.

pithymeg |

Q&A: Should I find out gender?

I'm finding out tomorrow, and I'm super excited and nervous! I'm hoping its a boy! We'll see!

RavenlovesZeek |

Q&A: Should I find out gender?

The first post is right. Nobody can answer that but you. I personally found out for my son abd im glad. When we talked about him he had a name we didnt refer to him as it. Not to mention that i could get gender specific with any questions i had and get a more direct answer. So this time around we are def going to find out again.

DalianaM08 |

Q&A: Should I find out gender?

I want but then i don't want to. I had a very stressful pregnancy 7 years ago with my daughter. This time i am at good place and have had a healthy pregnancy at 18 weeks. I don't want to because I am not stressed and just taking it easy, but then i want to because husband wants to know. I think we are going to find find out then have a gender reveal party for family.

amyandjosh5 |

Q&A: Should I find out gender?

My husband really wants it to be a surprise and I really want to know, so we are going to compromise -- we'll find out the gender but not tell anyone. It's going to be really difficult to do that but it's cool to have a secret just between the two of us. I really want to know who's in there, boy or girl, so I can start to envision who this little person is. But I want him to have the Proud Papa moment of announcing the baby's sex, name, etc when the baby's born. :)

AnnieS04 |

Q&A: Should I find out gender?

well its all up to you and what you want to know. As for me, as soon as i found out it was one of the first things that poped in my mind!

lashanna92 |

Q&A: Should I find out gender?

DO IT! my husband and I desperately want to know and after 2 ultrasounds, the baby wont cooperate so we still don't know! If you aren't "meant" to know, baby wont cooperate... so go for it!

preggohoar |

Q&A: Should I find out gender?

If you want to be surprised, you could always try what one of my friends tried. She brought her mom with her and they didn't tell her, but they did tell her mom.

NyxsDarkDaughter |

Q&A: Should I find out gender?

I will be finding out on the 7th of next month, apart of me doesn't and apart of me does...If it wasn't for my fiance really wanting to know I would probably not find out the gender. There are ups to it....like prepping for the nursery and buying the clothing....however there is the downfall of the baby coming out the oppisate gender (so you bought all that stuff for the baby in the wrong color) the surprise of find out is kind of taken....but it's really up to you.

HowlChild |

Q&A: Should I find out gender?

I find out march 8th. I know people say there are only few surprises in life, but you'll be just as surprised when you find out while he/she is still inside you. Plus I can't stand yellow and green neutral clothing. Congrats and good luck :)

Shawna77robison |

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BOY

jenlyn8199 |

Q&A: Should I find out gender?

I desperately wanted to know the gender of the baby. I had overwhelming intuition that I was having a boy and it was a big deal since I have 5 sisters and they all only have girls, so 7 granddaughters for my parents! Mine is going to be our family's first boy since my dad was born!! It was so great to share, especially since they were all convinced that it was another girl. My dad actually teared up hearing he would finally have a grandson. Needless to say, the fam has gone nuts with "boy" gifts. Now that I know it's a boy, I wouldn't have wanted to wait until the birth to find out...it's too much fun now!

etcanfield |

Q&A: Should I find out gender?

its a girl

suzidiaz |

Q&A: Should I find out gender?

SURPRISE! We want a surprise. I think maybe when we have another baby we might find out the gender, because then we won't have the luxury of both parents working and earning money and we'll need to know if we can reuse our gear or if we need new stuff. But for the first time around, we are enjoying the wonder and mystery of it all! Plus, I like green and yellow much better than pink or blue, so it suits me fine to buy and receive gender-neutral gear. I'm having so much fun finding nature-inspired nursery items too!

erin2011 |

Q&A: Should I find out gender?

i dont want to know but my husband do

jenise718 |

Q&A: Should I find out gender?

Boy

KlyAoNeill |

Q&A: Should I find out gender?

I'm kind of stuck in the middle with this one. In two days I am having my 20 week ultrasound, and as much as I'm excited to find out the baby's gender, I'm also a bit nervous at the same time (maybe because I'm really excited...not in a bad way of course). This is really up to you whether you would like to find out now or when the baby is born.

MusiqueEstVie |

Q&A: Should I find out gender?

My sister has 3 kids now (My newest niece, Esmeralda, was born 2 months ago). For the first baby, she didn't find out the sex until the day she delivered! It was a girl! After that though, she decided not to hold off! lol she found out the sex for my nephew and niece as soon as she could! She said it was exciting to find out in the delivery room, but hard because there's less green and yellow out there than pink and blue ... plus she's not a fan of yellow and green! I'm pregnant with my first! I COULDN'T WAIT! to find out the sex of the baby! I'm 18 weeks and just had my ultrasound 3 days ago! I'm having a girl!!

mrswetter |

Q&A: Should I find out gender?

This is a very personal choice between you and the baby's father...however, we just found out we are having a boy, and I feel closer to my munchkin already. Plus, my mom took me shopping for material so she could make a hand-made crib set for our little man, and I loved being able to get boy-related material.

Jelly221 |

Q&A: Should I find out gender?

i agree only you can answer that one but truthfully if this is your first child i would say definitely do it. I'm pregnant with my second child but my first i left a surprise and love every minute of it. My husband and I waited until he was born to find out and it made that moment that much more special. The look on my husbands face when he saw a boy was absolutely priceless. Plus, it's special bonding for you when you discover what he/she is. My ultimately the decision is yours and if you do decide to keep it a surprise do not let anyone else find out while you are "left in the dark"; the surprise always gets ruined. GOOD LUCK && congratulations!!

MrsNeutze |

Q&A: Should I find out gender?

I think it's great to find out the gender. It gives you time to prepare the baby room and have fun doing it. PLus it make the Baby Registry process a lot easier for people at the baby shower without having to buy all gender neutral things. Unless you have tons of money to splurge once the baby is born on Gender Specific things, i'd find out beforehand. We find out monday!

KimstaC |

Q&A: Should I find out gender?

We are finding out the sex of the baby just so everything is not neutral colors. With finding that out though we are not telling the name of the baby. That will be reveled on D-day!!

bjchsc5711 |

Q&A: Should I find out gender?

We will find out because we have 2 extra bedrooms, one is my pink floral antique room and one is my husbands "man cave" so depending on whether its a boy or girl will make the decision of which room the baby will get. We won't have to repaint anything and we can basically keep the same theme in either room. I do think it would be so cool to wait and find out though and I agree that there is so much you can do with gender neutral now. That will probably happen with the next one!

cmorrison88 |

Q&A: Should I find out gender?

We will be having our u/s on the 22nd and at that appointment we will be able to know the sex of the baby. I really DON'T want to know becuase like many, I think there are very few suprises in life and really want to know what our baby's sex is at delivery and for it to be a suprise. My DH on the other hand absolutely NEEDS to know the sex ahead of time and says that he can NOT wait until delivery. He needs time to prepare! HAHA but either way...our baby looks healthy and has 10 fingers, 10 toes, 2 legs and 2 arms and thats all the matters so if on the 22nd we decide to find out that'll be okay with me. I do know one thing....I don't want to find out in the u/s room. I want the u/s tech to write it down and then my DH and I will find out together. :)

CindyJill27 |

Q&A: Should I find out gender?

do it!!

kavita9aug |

Q&A: Should I find out gender?

I need help... I really want to find out and my husband really does not. How can we find a mutual agreement?

SalaV |

Q&A: Should I find out gender?

I'm 18 weeks pregnant and I can't wait to find out the gender! I'm going to be a very young mom and this is going to be my first child, so maybe that's why I really want to know? My parents wanted me to be a surprise, and the upside of that was I was raised with very unisex toys and grew up liking boys and girls toys. The downside is looking back at my baby pictures I look very much like a cute little boy. I hope that when I find out and I have my baby, that I don't hold the "gender stereotypes" to my child!

katiefritzler |

Q&A: Should I find out gender?

It's up to you and your significant other. We found out for our first son and found out last week that we are having another boy! I wanted to find out from day 1 and am so happy we did for both pregnancies.

udenbyjj |

Q&A: Should I find out gender?

As time goes on you'll be able to figure that one out! I personally want to find out because I want to register for some gender specific items however, my sister in law just gave birth and her and my brother didn't want to find out. They swore the baby was gonna be a boy and were surprised when she delivered a girl. Lots of luck!

JamieBereza |

Q&A: Should I find out gender?

This is really one of those things that only you can decide as it's completely up to personal preference. Not knowing the baby's sex means that you will either have to buy/register for all gender neutral items, or wait until you have the baby to start picking out those cute dresses etc lol. Personally I found it much easier to know the sex, and found out for both of my pregnancies. This makes it so much easier to pick out nursery themes and clothing. Many people and family/friends will want to start getting all that blue or pink, not that there is anything wrong with green or yellow etc, with the all the changes babies already bring, i think finding out the sex allows you to be completely prepared before the arrival of your baby, chances are you aren't going to want to have to shop for things after you just gave birth.

jenelle620 |