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Q&A: When to tell people I'm pregnant?

I know the standard time to tell people you're pregnant is 12 weeks, but I really just want to let the cat out of the bag! Is it incredibly irresponsible of me to tell just about everyone I encounter as soon as I know?

Re: I know the standard time to tell people you're pregnant is 12 weeks, but I really just want to let the cat out of the bag! Is it incredibly irresponsible of me to tell just about everyone I encounter as soon as I know?

The Bump Expert

Personally, I'm not embarrassed to share anything that happens in my life with anyone, and miscarriage—the threat of which causes many women to wait to spill the beans—is a heck of a lot more common than most of us girls know. Just bring it up with friends and you'll be surprised at how many of them will confide that they've had one, or more.

Do what feels right for you, but if you can stomach it, tell at least one mommy girlfriend you are pregnant so that you can complain, wonder, rant, and marvel to someone who can truly empathize.

Also, think carefully about how and when you want to break the news to your boss and coworkers before you let the status slip at the water cooler.

Erika Lenkert

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I can't keep things to myself. I blurt it out one way or another so I am telling a few people first and then we are really going to let the cat out of the bag. We are telling my in-laws this weekend. Oh goody!

Mandalynn252 |

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The first time that I got pregnant, my husband and I told EVERYONE as soon as we found out even before going to the doctor! Then we found out that our baby did not have a heartbeat and I ended up miscarrying. It was an unbelievably difficult situation especially to have to go back and tell everyone that I had lost the baby. And there's always those people who hadn't heard and ask several weeks or even months later and that just brings all the pain right back. So it is definitely a good idea to wait or maybe just tell one or two close friends or parents.

Just Married |

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my husband and i were going to wait until close to 12 weeks to tell everyone, but then around 9 weeks, i broke down told all my family. My grandfather was especially excited, and called everyone he could think of to tell. He passed away 4 days later, and i will always be so grateful that I was able to share our news with him and give him something to be happy about his last few days with us.

jennterrell |

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My four year old daughter walked in on me while I was taking the test. She ran around telling everyone that mommy peed on a stick and now we are going to have a baby. I was nervous about it at first, but now at close to 12 weeks, it seems really funny to me.

kristajoyce |

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My thoughts are tell who you want....and if something does happen unfortunately the more prayers, thoughts and support you have.

futureterrell |

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I agree with futureterrell. We'd been trying for almost a year and a half, so we couldn't wait to share the news. If anything DOES happen, God forbid, look at all the support we'll have. The way we're looking at it is if I do miscarry, at least we'll know we can get pregnant and will try again.

911Lady |

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I agree with futureterrell, too. This is my second pregnancy- and i'm so worried...my first dr appt is tomorrow. I keep asking myself if i told everyone too soon (did the same with my first). I never put a waiting period on it. The way i see it, if something does unfortunately happen- i'll have the support i'll need to get me through it. That just seems alot better than the alternative of having that pain bottled inside.

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I found out I'm pregnant almost 2 weeks ago. I was so excited I couldn't keep it in! We told our families immediately. I'm 9 weeks now and the earliest appointment I could get is January 6...so I'll be almost 11 weeks! I have faith that everything is going to be fine, but if it's not, at least I will have the support of my family and friends that know.

lovesher |

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I told my parents and sister when I found out and I am glad that I did because I had some early rough spots and got the support from them that nobody could have given me

MissTGH |

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we just had our 1st appointment at almost 7 weeks and so we told only our parents this weekend. i have confided in one GF who is pregnant just so she can give advice and help me with things if I have questions. everyone else will have to wait til after the 1st trimester...it is hard keeping it in sometimes, though!

BrooklynnsMom |

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My family is all super close, so there was no way I couldn't let them know. I waited a few days to tell my Mom, and then we told my side of the family Christmas Eve and his family Christmas Day. They all new we were trying. Same with work. They all new we were "trying" and everyone would ask me on a daily basis, "any news yet?". I am now at 7 wks and a lot of people know, but haven't completely blurted to the world. I had some spotting so I was really scared that now that everyone knew and if I miscarry that I'd have to tell them the bad news. My family has already had a rough year as it is. But, I had an appt and saw the heart beat and go again Monday, so far so good. : ) If something does go wrong though I know I have a lot of people to give me support though.

Jacquie_Palma |

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I personally think that waiting is the best option. I have had two previous miscarriages and the last time the hubby and I got pregnant we were so excited we just couldnt keep it in when i ended up loosing it, It was the worst experience of my life having to explain to everyone and you'd be suprised how many people don't understand miscarriages happen for all sorts of reasons, like my husbands family would constantly ask if i lost it because i wasn't taking care of myself. This time Im already 4 months pregnant and we have told no one other than both our mothers and we will be keeping it that way until 20 weeks when we can say "It's a Girl/Boy"

ParisPreggo |

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Personally, I am all for telling right away . . . except perhaps your boss. For work, I would wait until you have a plan: whether you are going to continue working, and if so how your duties will be covered when you are gone. As for the rest of your family and friends, a baby is a baby from the moment he is formed. Even if you miscarry, that was still your child and you are still a parent. It seems to me that the world should rejoice whenever a child is formed, even if they can't stay with us for very long. At least that child was rejoiced over.

e.sarah.mason |

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Oh, and I also agree with several of the "tell immediately" comments that, if you do miscarry, you have a lot of support.

e.sarah.mason |

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First pregnancy, my husband and I told everyone right away, we were just so excited. We miscarried at 5 weeks and it was one of the hardest things ever. Although we got a lot of support from friends and family, some people ask you really stupid questions or imply that it was your fault. The second time around we waited until 7 weeks and just told our parents. After we got to hear the heartbeat at 10 weeks we told the rest of the fam. Now at 14 weeks everyone knows and I just told my boss.

Emiline |

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this is my first pregnancy, and i can't even imagine how people can keep it to themselves and "just a few people", we're just so excited! we immediately told our parents, and some closest friends... some of our favourite coworkers... random people on the street... shh! we're not religious, but we pray every day that the baby stays to term. :D

burning_television |

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Five people know - my neighbor (who saw all the pg books and guessed), my best friend ( who I can't keep anything from), my sister, and two of our friends who we used to go out with. I am really glad we haven't told the family yet. I am 12wks and we just had an NT scan & blood work. There were some concerns about the scan and we are waiting for the blood work. We are private people and I hate when people pity me, so I would rather not tell people until we know everything is fine.

madlady |

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We found out 4 days ago. Right away I told my mom and he told his mom. I called his sister right away, then each of my sisters.After work I found out he had told all his friends which we had not discussed. We had only discussed family. I was a little upset because I wasn't ready for that, but oh well, he is really excited!I've told 2 of my 120 coworkers and am not sure when I'm telling my boss yet. I am a teacher so I have 150 students who know that I want to have a baby and are asking me daily. I'm not sure when I'm not going to be able to lie anymore.

future mrs. jimenez |

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For our first pregnancy, my husband and I told the world the minute i peed on the stick and found out. Everyone was excited! Everything went well for a long time, but then miscarried at 20 weeks :( It was so hard to tell everyone because it was a 2nd trimester miscarriage. The miscarriage happened bc I have a septum in my uterus. And even yesterday, I bumped into someone I hadn't seen in over a year and they asked how the baby was, and it was a little painful. But now my husband and I are using a GC and she's 9 weeks tomorrow :) We told close friends (those who were involved in the IVF process--car rides, etc) and our parents, but thats about it. We don't want to have to explain another miscarriage. We are deciding to wait until as far as possible in the pregnancy. At least 20 weeks.

Ashley.Davis23@gmail.com |

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I'm scared to start telling people because miscarriages run high in my family. I was about 10 weeks along when I found out so I know that I shouldn't have a problem but I'm still scared that I'll miscarriage and than have to tell all those people that I'm no longer pregnant.....

rebelkick05 |

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Personally as soon as we found out, two days later We told our immediate fam. After week I told my close friends at work, which are 2. Which has been very helpful since they both have been through it recently and give me all the tips and peace of mind they can think of. As of telling my boss and other co-workers I don't know, maybe in May (i'm 12 wks this week, whoo hoo)

smile_47 |

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I just think it's a personal choice. We told everyone the first time, and then miscarried at almost 8 weeks. But we had seen a healthy heartbeat, so who could have known? I only regret telling co-workers, because they weren't really supportive. Honestly I think they were more embarrassed for me than I was, and it was frustrating to feel like a pariah. This time we've told family right away, and close friends as we felt more comfortable and my symptoms have increased.

Mandalyn8 |

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i've lost two, the first one to a premature stillbirth at nearly 6 months, and the second was so early i didn't even know for 24 hours when it happened. this time, i told everyone, and everyone i know is praying for me and this little one.

VivirReirAmar |

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I've heard that once you hear the heartbeat the chances of mc go way down to about 3-5%. I am waiting until I hear the heartbeat then I will feel more comfortable sharing the news.

MrsGarciatobe |

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I definitely think that it is different for each person. When I got pregnant with my daughter, I started telling select people at 6 weeks and it never entered my mind the idea of what would happen if I miscarried. This time around, we waited a few weeks, until I hit 10 weeks before we started telling people. I think that I would have been a wreck if I spilled to everyone, including co-workers/neighbors, etc and then had to tell them that we had miscarried. However I kept thinking about how happy I was and that outweighed everything else.

sweetyface77 |

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I have not been telling anyone but my close family. Well today, one of my friends went to lunch with me and the first thing she asked me was "are you pregnant?" I couldn't lie - so now she knows too..

josephinebaker |

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The first time I was pregnant I told my mom and a few other select people around 10 weeks, then I miscarried at 11 weeks. It was extremely hard but it helped to have my mom's support especially through the D & C process. This time we are telling my mom and my DH's mom mother's day weekend. I will be 6 weeks, if God forbid something bad happens I know I will need the support of my mom and my MIL. I did tell my best friend the day I found out, she has been amazing and has been the level head I need, because I am so so so worried and afraid that something is going to go wrong, when I know in my heart that worrying isn't going to change anything.

Vuja_de |

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we have only told our siblings. i'm at 10w today just had my 1st prenatal appt a couple days ago. we were planning to tell our moms on mothers day however after the appt we decided to wait until the ultrasound in a few weeks. we will be @ 12w then and will break the news to parents, everyone else can find out in June or due time. if something were to happen would rather tell a few folks than many and the folks we have told would be the only ones we would turn to for support.

JassoBaby09 |

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We just found out last week we are 5 weeks PG and we immediately called our families. I am nervous about telling anyone else and my husband doesn't understand why I would want to wait to spill the news. I realize he's so excited and I don't want to take that excitement away from him but at the same time I feel like we are jinxing things by telling more people. I think we will keep it at who knows now and after the first U/S we can tell friends. I'll just let the co-workers think whatever they want (I'm a medical student). Thanks for all the great words of wisdom!

kateandjt |

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I told someone the instant I took the test with my first son who is now three months old. But if I get pregnant this soon again? I'd be afraid to tell people because than everyone would give me the whole (You're to young to have two kids and they're gonna be to close together!) conversation. So if I am I might wait to tell people lol

lilmissladybird |

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We haven't told anyone, yet. This is our first, and I think it's just nice to have a little secret between my husband and I for a litle bit.

sarahebrodie |

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I can totally relate.....I want to tell everyone. I'm 5 weeks and so anxious to share my secret. Right now only my mother and best friend know...oh and of course the daddy. I might wait until maybe 12 week.

Caros Wedding Page |

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My fiance and I are expecting our first! Unexpected surprise, but we are excited now. We told my parents and siblings yesterday 5w5d, We plan on telling his parents and brother today (crazy nervous!). My mother is silly excited and wanted to call all my relatives INSTANTLY! We are asking that they wait until atleast our first u's at 8 weeks, before they tell anyone. We want to wait until the "safe" time but it's so exciting! That and I figure once we hear the heart beat the more prayers the better!!

BabyFrancis |

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I agree to tell whenever its comfortable for u. I found out I was preg at 4 weeks. My bf and I told our parents first. So far, we've told a cpl close friends and I HAD to tell my work because I've been so sick I can't work. God forbid I have a miscarriage cuz that would be horrible to deal with let alone have to explain to everyone about but at least ill have a lot of support to get through it

misszombiekitty@gmail.com |

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We found that telling some people but not others was almost a burden to them. We told parents and siblings, then said "you can't tell anyone". We intended to wait till 12 weeks but caved after the 1st ultrasound when we saw the heartbeat at 9weeks.

lvertolli |

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I had planned on waiting but hubs decided to tell everyone at work...so naturally we ad to tell the rents. Then I asked for a prescription for zofran from one of the PAs I work with for the m/s and everyone I work with found out...didn't work the way I planned, but everyone is really excited for hubs and I, so now I'm just embracing it...plus I was able to get an underthetable US at 5 weeks, which made the pregnancy all the more real to me.

schaeffwife |

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I think that depends on the situation. I am 7 weeks, and I have yet to tell our son Justus. Mainly because we had a son, Liam, a year ago who passed away a week after he was born due to complications. I want to make sure everything is ok this time around before bringing it to our 9 year olds attention. But the rest of our family knows (parents and siblings)

april_fraser |

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The first time I got pregnant we told the immediate family (his and mine) immediately after the blood report came positive. Unfortunately I miscarried at 6 weeks. Everyone was so supportive, but this time we have not told anyone except my sister (who is my best friend) and we won't tell anyone until we see a heartbeat - u/s is scheduled for next monday so hopefully then. :-)

Baybelle |

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I, too, was super excited when I found out I was pregnant the first time. I spread the news! It was really hard to have to go back and tell people I had a miscarriage. So this time, I've told close friends and family, and once I get further along, oh the news will be heard! lol

kittyb1975 |

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My husband and I got pregnant right after we got married and were so excited that we told a lot of people. At 5 weeks we miscarried and then tried too soon afterwards and had another miscarriage a couple months later. Now, almost a year later, we waited longer to take the pregnancy test (I didn't find out I was pregnant until I was 6 1/2 weeks) and we definitely let people know. We figured, the more people that know the more people can cover us in prayer and support us. It has helped my husband a lot because a lot of men in our church are encouraging him with their baby/miscarriage stories. God is faithful and we are excited about this blessing He has given us...and He is in control!

vanderloopj |

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I just found out yesterday! The day after I got married. I called my doctor a little while ago and I have my first appointment on July 29th. I want to tell all my friends, but my husband wants to keep it a secret after I told him that miscarriage usually occurs between weeks 6-12. I am so nervous that I might blurt it out and I don't know what to do in order not to tell. One of my friends asks me often, roughly once or twice a month, are you pregnant yet? I don't know if I can keep it a secret. Any advice on how to not lie, but how do I not tell anyone until after my doctor's appointment? I would love anyone's ideas and thoughts on how to keep it a secret

Jena6121984 |

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It is so hard to wait. I want to tell eveyone. There are several of us girls at work TTC and it is what we talk about most of the time. Most people at work know I am trying so eveyone keeps asking if I am preggers. This is my first pregnancy and I am 6 weeks along. I have told more people than I think I should have but the ones I told were people I all know will be very supportive if I do MC. It is definatly hard to lie when someone asks you point blank "are you pregnant". I just keep my fingers crossed eveyday that I will have a healthy pregnancy.

danielleross3@yahoo.com |

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This is our first pregnancy so we are super excited! We told our immediate family at 6 weeks, and I waited to tell my work at 7 weeks (I work a lot of hours so I needed to get those reduced as it was really wearing on me). I completely understand that want to wait 12 weeks though as the thought of a miscarriage is heart wrenching for me. My mother in law is very perturbed with me because I asked her to wait until we were 12 weeks along to tell her whole family. She's not happy...but I just don't want the whole world to know yet, just those closest to me. Hopefully she doesn't continue to be disappointing with my decisions in this pregnancy.

skittler335 |

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My husband and I told our 6 close friends, his family and my siblings right away. I felt that I needed the support and someone to be excited with. Our friends knew we were trying and I didnt feel right "lying" to them. I think that if you are comfortable sharing a misscarriage, you should share the news if you want to. I am not going to tell the world until after the pregnancy seems more tangible. All I have right now is morning sickness and sore boobs! I do agree it is hard to keep it in. I tell a stranger every now and then just to get excited with someone.

hneiman |

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Hi, yes, it's hard not to tell the world. But a friend of mine did tell, and then the unthinkable happened and then the whole world came back with "Are you OK?"so she had to calm people down "I'll be fine".

dutchblonde |

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I know exactly how you feel. I am in my 7th week and want to shout it from the rooftops, but am trying to keep it some-what secretive just in case things do not work out. I don't want to have to relive the sadness each time I have to let someone know that I lost him/her. I have only told my mom and best friend of 5 years who has a 1 yr old daughter, but my boyfriend could not resist telling most of his family immediately. I am going to wait until the 12 wk mark to let others know. Truth is, only you can determine if it's right for you to tell people now, or to wait.

jellybean210 |

Q&A: When to tell people I'm pregnant?

My DH and I each chose one person to tell. We each needed someone less invested than ourselves to bounce ideas and concerns off. However, it's funny how often the topic of us having babies comes up, even though this baby is a surprise and we hadn't planned to start TTC for another year. We have fun at the end of the day comparing awkward moments where we wanted to spill the beans. It's our private joke that is making this fun in a whole new way!

nan320 |

Q&A: When to tell people I'm pregnant?

I think you need to tell people, at least close a close friend, parent, co-worker or at least someone. I'm pregnant for the second time right now and I am only 7 weeks. We've told my parents, in-laws, and siblings so far. My first pregnancy was a miscarriage at week 5. We had only told my mother-in-law since she was so excited and couldn't wait for a grandbaby. Don't get me wrong I have the best in-laws in the world but when I miscarried I didn't know who to call. It happened at work and I drove myself to the hospital after calling the nurse told me over the phone that I was most likely losing the baby. It was the most horrible thing that has ever happened to me. I didn't call my mom because I couldn't bear to tell her that I was pregnant and lost the baby over the phone in the same breath. I really needed her at the time (my husband was at work 2 hours away and couldn't leave). It turns out she and my aunt's were in the same hospital at the time I was and we never saw each over. They were with my grandma who was very sick and passed away a week later. She could have been there if only I had told her sooner. It's good to let someone know that will be able to help you if the worst does happen. Another thing that I did wrong was drive myself to the hospital. Not only was I an emotional wreck, crying so bad I could barely see, but I could have passed out from the loss of blood. I got reamed out for that one by a wonderful co-worker.

farmgirlemily |

Q&A: When to tell people I'm pregnant?

we told our parents the day we got our positive test! We asked them to wait until we hear a heartbeat before they tell anyone else. We each told our best friend, as well. We will be in NY visiting my brother next week, and will likely tell him. I'm just at 5 weeks now, and hope that I can make it to 12 before we tell any of my coworkers (I am a teacher)- I will likely tell my teaching partner if I am not feeling great, so he will know why I am running out of the classroom without notice- but fingers crossed that I don't have to deal with that!

Daisyducc |

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I'm 5 weeks, and my husband and I decided to tell close family and friends (parents, siblings, grandparents, and 2 friends each). It was so wonderful to tell them. We will "go public" at the traditional 12 weeks. Our theory is that if, God forbid, something goes wrong, the people we told are the people whose support we would need, so it made sense to tell them. It was such a joy to share our news!

sbb524 |

Q&A: When to tell people I'm pregnant?

We only found out two days ago and my husband had to leave within the hour for work overseas, so I was gutted having no one to tell and be excited with. However, the next day my mum knew something was up as i was so giddy and excited so she guessed. i then told my dad and hubby and i are planning to tell his mum tomorrow. he has told his best friend, i may tell mine too. not sure yet! i would like to wait until 12 weeks to 'go publlic' but that seems hard! like another poster, i just want to shout it out!

shopgirl1980 |

Q&A: When to tell people I'm pregnant?

i had a pretty hard time holding off, but we waited to tell our parents until after my 9-week appt. i told my boss at 10-weeks. everyone else is going to have to wait until the end of september but we have a family wedding coming up and i want the bride to have her spotlight. i'm hoping it goes over well! then we can all can celebrate this baby together for the holidays!

Lizzama |

Q&A: When to tell people I'm pregnant?

this is our first, and i would like to keep it private just for my husband and i for as long as possible. our families are both very well-intentioned, but have been known to 'take over' or get way too involved in life events like this, and it's a battle to explain every decision we make that's different than what they would do. I just don't want the hassle of that until some of the early decisions are done and we are settled into OUR approach to this pregnancy. how long realistically can we wait before it will be obvious to people around me? I'm at 5 weeks now.

ames26 |

Q&A: When to tell people I'm pregnant?

I think you should tell people whenever you feel it is right for you. With my first pregnancy I told my family and close friends right away and then miscarried at 5 weeks which was devestating, but I had such wonderful support from them that it carried me through. Our second pregnancy I told my parents immediately, but waited until the 1st ultrasound at 9wks and had the encouragement from my OB that mc was un-likely before spilling the beans to others. We now have a beautiful son and I realized that I need my friends and families support no matter what the outcome. I am now at 9 weeks with my third pregnancy and have told my family and friends once again, and now am just praying for the best and the next appt. to hear the heartbeat.

SarahRick0906 |

Q&A: When to tell people I'm pregnant?

Hello everyone! I'm new here and I feel that one should wait until after the first trimester. The excitement will overwhelm you; however, it's best to wait a while. I find out I was pregnant the first time at about 6 or 7 weeks. I told everyone because I was so excited, but had a miscarriage at 9 weeks. Very hard to deal with letting people asking and of course you having to confirm the miscarry. Wait a bit!

TeeLou |

Q&A: When to tell people I'm pregnant?

Just found out this morning! I think I'm about 4 weeks. I'd rather keep it between myself and my husband for at LEAST 12 weeks. This is a special time and we want to enjoy it before the whirlwind really hits, and so it's important to us that we keep it our little secret for a little while :o) I think it's kinda sweet/romantic. This is our first, and we'll never get this moment of "first baby excitement" again.

Molleska |

Q&A: When to tell people I'm pregnant?

My husband and I just found out this past weekend. I am about 5 weeks. We discussed and at first we were going to wait the traditional 12 (About Thanksgiving) weeks to tell everyone. My mom can't keep a secret. Then over a couple of days we have rethought it and we are going to let our parents know at Halloween. We want to enjoy some of the excitement ourselves but we can wait to tell the parents. I am just going to have to make my mom promise not to tell the siblings till we want.

oustephielynn |

Q&A: When to tell people I'm pregnant?

This is my second pregnancy. The first one we only told like 3 people. After all of my tests, NT scan and CVS we found out that there were some serious genetic problems that were not compatible with life. I'm really glad we didn't tell a whole bunch of pple because I would have had to go back and tell them again. Then again I did have this sense of foreboding This time around I plan to wait until all the tests are done, too.

madlady |

Q&A: When to tell people I'm pregnant?

This is our first, I told my sister, he told his twin brother right away, swore them to keep the secret. We just told everyone else last wk at 13 wks. It was so fun just for my husband and I to enjoy this to ourselves for awhile, so glad we waited!

brenorrn |

Q&A: When to tell people I'm pregnant?

my first appt is in two days, i already told our familys and some close coworkers.... i cant wait to tell everyone i just want to shout to the world! i did already tell my manager (who is very supportive) because i needed that morning off!

general lee |

Q&A: When to tell people I'm pregnant?

I'm telling my family right away but not all of my friends. If I were to miscarry, I would want their support. Also, because my family bugs me about "when are you guys going to have babies!?" every single time I see them. If I were to lose a baby, that constant badgering would become really hurtful. I'd want them to be in on it, but we're really close knit.

kemeshiwar |

Q&A: When to tell people I'm pregnant?

Our first pregnancy we told everyone when we found out, which was about 8 weeks. I am pregnant again but have decided to wait until 12 weeks to spill the news. I did tell 2 very close girlfriends. I guess I feel like I could cry with them if something went wrong...but I can't see myself telling everyone else.

LECLAIR81 |

Q&A: When to tell people I'm pregnant?

just found out on Nov 10 took PG test and it is positive. first apt will be next wk. Couldn't wait any longer and told my twin sister and a close co-worker only waiting till X-mas to tell the Family.

Hoping to be a wife |

Q&A: When to tell people I'm pregnant?

I just found out yesterday and since my period was due just about today I think I'm only 4 weeks since I didn't know they start counting from your last period. I had to tell my parents and his and a few close friends because we were so happy . God forbid something happens in the next few weeks, but at least my mom and close family and friends knew so they can be supportive.

mexicolombiana |

Q&A: When to tell people I'm pregnant?

I agree with the comments on telling people when you feel comfortable. There is no right or wrong time to share your happy news with your loved ones. And while its nice everyone likes to share there experiences, I think posting about miscarriage here isn't being very fair to expectant mothers especially first timers. Being pregnant is exciting and special and considering the first trimester is stressful enough without having the burden of thinking about or reading about women's stories of miscarriage, especially when there is a section for Miscarriage and Loss. It would seem to me if women wanted to read about that situation, they would read there. Therefore, I think all comments mentioning so should be posted there. And understand, I dont mean to sound rude or like I dont care, because I am in still in the first trimester and worry about it daily, but when I come here, its to feel better, not worry more than already do. I think it is unfair to post things like this here, because it my opinion it causes more anxiety than necessary.

Always40 |

Q&A: When to tell people I'm pregnant?

We told people around 5 weeks. I don't see how people keep it in for so long!!! This is my first pregnancy though so we don't have any history of miscarriage or anything. If that was the case, we would have waited much longer. I think you should tell when you're ready. Don't feel as though you have to follow a standard "time table." Do what works for you! It worked for us!

mkanderson85 |

Q&A: When to tell people I'm pregnant?

I would tell right away because you never know what could happen. If you do have a miscarriage or something else happens, hey, unfortunally things dont go as we plan in life and just keep trying again.

fernandezg |

Q&A: When to tell people I'm pregnant?

This is our first pregnancy and I'm almost 11 weeks. Found out at 4 weeks, told my best friend at 9 weeks, and no one else yet. Well, almost no one. My DH told his boss yesterday because he needs to leave work early for my appointment next week--he also asked her to be our baby's pediatrician (he's a pediatric resident). We're planning to tell both our parents/siblings on New Year's Day when we all get together for dinner. We've been enjoying having a bit of time to ourselves to get emotionally adjusted to the news, although he's more eager to spill the beans than I am. I'm not expecting anything bad to happen in the next week, but I do know that hearing the h/b again before we say anything will really give me peace of mind.

eliza16t |

Q&A: When to tell people I'm pregnant?

This is one of those things that I think really depends. I don't think that there is a right or wrong answer. We have a 7 year old daughter and have been TTC #2 for 6 years. Because everyone knew we were going through fertility treatments, we told a few people as soon as I found out in June. I ended up going in the hospital with another sickness and eventually miscarried. I am so glad that people knew so they would know how to help me and pray for me. This time we told most people again right after we found out because their support meant so much to us before. Now they are all praying for a healthy baby for us. So, my short answer is...do what feels right:)

KellyK33 |

Q&A: When to tell people I'm pregnant?

We are 9 1/2 weeks this time and are really struggling with the do we or don"t we. When we got pregnant the first time we told everyone then miscarried shortly after our first ultrasound. I understand the "at least we will have lots of support" comments and that is mostly true but until you have to deal with people walking up to you out of the blue asking how the baby is or ask how the pregnancy is going and you have to keep explaining that there is no baby anymore, you start to see the support differently. We are pass where we were the first time and this time has been a lot different in a good way, we have no reason what so ever to think that we won't have this baby but we are still hesitant to shout from a roof top. It is a hard decision to make sometimes.

MommyBremer |

Q&A: When to tell people I'm pregnant?

I made the mistake of telling my mom at 4wks, when I found out. I told her not to tell anyone - that lasted about 3days. So my entire extended family knew before I even saw my doctor. I am not just over 7wks and have been to the doctor, so I feel a little better that everyone knows. Would have liked to have waited until 12wks.

JJPR0816 |

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My best friend in the world has been trying to get pregnant for 2 years and been on fertility drugs and no luck yet. I just found out I'm 7 weeks pregnant and want to tell her but it's so hard knowing all she's been through. Is there a good way to break the news?

janny124 |

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We're telling our parents and a few super close friends at 7 weeks, waiting to tell everyone else at 12 weeks.

megan_wilhelm |

Q&A: When to tell people I'm pregnant?

I'm at 6 weeks. I told 2 really close friends right after I told my husband. We told my parents this past weekend and plan on telling the rest of my family and DH's parent's this coming weekend. It's too hard to keep bottled up inside. And this is the first grandchild for my family, I want them to know about it as soon as possible.

kmuckey |

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I told my mom on the day that I found out. We told my best friend a few days ago and told my siblings, grandparents and godparents last night at my grandfather's b'day party! Nobody else knows yet. I had my first prenatal appointment last week and the plan is to begin telling more people (like our coworkers) after my next appointment (between 10 and 11 weeks). We'll slowly reveal it to more people after that and actually put it out publically (i.e. Facebook) at around 12 or 13 weeks.

mela0521 |

Q&A: When to tell people I'm pregnant?

My husband seems to not worry a bit about sharing with the family. We've already caused suspicion with me not drinking during the holidays. We're almost at 11 weeks, and I am just holding out until week 12. It will be the first grandchild on both sides. We have a unique situation in that if we share our news, we'll ruin someone's birthday (we have birthdays every few days through Valentine's Day). We will share with the parents and my sister first. Then we'll share with the rest of the family. I want to share at work since my coworker just announced this morning that she is pregnant. I'll have a buddy!!!

CrazyToast |

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With our first pregnancy we told everyone right away!!! our second we did the same & we lost the baby @ 8wks It was super hard when people would ask weeks after it had happened. with our third pregnancy we waited til I was 12 wks to say anything outside the family.. but this time I am okay with whatever happens if it's meant to be it will happen for us. Yet, my husband is the one having a hard time not telling anyone.

AL987 |

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I'll be 10 weeks tomorrow. We told our parents and siblings righst away, but wanted to wait to tell friends. At 7 weeks I had a really bad scare, and as I was waiting for the ultrasound, scared out of my mind, I decided that if god forbid something terrible happens, I would wnat the friends we love the most to be there for us. Thankfully when everything was ok, we told our close friends. I'm waiting at least until after 12 weeks to tell my work.

kristilee14 |

Q&A: When to tell people I'm pregnant?

this is my second pregnancy, my last one ended in miscarriage at week 7 and we had told everyone. Having to go back and tell everyone that I had lost the baby was so hard. This time around I am so scared to tell anyone because what if it happens again? I am definitely waiting until 12 weeks.

helgerson25 |

Q&A: When to tell people I'm pregnant?

I'm 5 weeks pregnant and my husband and I have been trying for 1 year. Everyone, and I mean EVERYONE knows we have wanted a baby for so long. In the last year, 22 friends and family members have gotten pregnant or had a baby so it has been very stressful for it to take so long. Now that we are, it is almost impossible to not tell our friends because we are so excited it finally happened! I called my mom immediately after I took the test. After the doctor confirmed, we told my step dad, my dad, step mom and my 4 brothers and 2 sisters. I also told my best friend of 18 years who has 2 children of her own. We just told his parents and his brother and sister in law last Friday. My mom told my grandma, because she has been wanting a grandbaby for so long she needed to share the news with someone. My grandma and mom have been sworn to secrecy not to tell the rest of the family yet. The problem is most of our friends knew the week before I found out that we were hoping we were pregnant. I've already had 3 people text me and ask if I am and I just have completely ignored them. I don't know how much longer I can wait because I don't think I would be a very good liar about this if someone asked me in person. I will be seeing about 20 or so of my friends this weekend for a friend's baby shower and I know they are all going to ask. I don't want to take away from her special day though. I am very scared of miscarrying since it took so long to get pregnant and I have been having low back pain which causes some mild cramping constantly for a week now. It is a little better now, but sitting at work too long makes it worse. The doctor reassures me this is all normal and as long as there is no bleeding or severe cramping/pain, everything is fine, but I'm still nervous. This is a really hard decision... :(

heatherm818 |

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I just couldn't contain myself, I think a lot of it is due to this being my first pregnancy so I told a bunch of people right away even though I am only about 6 weeks along. I did pick certain people to tell first and others later. I didn't want SOME sour pusses ruining my blissful moment.

Spazkat1220 |

Q&A: When to tell people I'm pregnant?

I can so relate to you. This is such an blessing for this to be happining and to keep it a secret. I so wanted to wait to tell anyone unitl at least our first doctors appointment but my husband was on the phone texting and everyone we know to let them know the great news. The only one we have yet to tell is our youngest he is 6 and so wants a sister or brother to play with I know that will be his first question and we will yet to know that answer and then in for any reason something happens he will not understand and wil be confused. We have decided on our 20 week check up when we can see the baby with the ultra sound and find out the sex that is when he will find out. Oh I can not wait!!! :)

ANTSMOMMA |

Q&A: When to tell people I'm pregnant?

The first time I was pregnant was right before Thanksgiving. As soon as we knew we started telling everyone. The first ultra sound was fine and we were so excited. At 11 weeks I had an appt and the dr tried to hear the heart beat and couldn't find one. They did another ultra sound and we had lost the baby. It was the worst experience ever to have to go back and tell everyone what happened. Yes, we had a huge amount of support, but it still sucked! And when someone who hadn't heard the news said something weeks later it hurt so much to tell them and they felt horrible for asking. This time we are keeping it a secret. I've told my best friend, b/c she called within 5 minutes of me taking the pregnancy test when I was freaking out about being pregnant again, and another friend who has had 3 miscarriages and 3 babies, b/c i knew she would understand my freaking out about being pregnant again. We're waiting atleast till 12 weeks if not longer just to make sure everything is okay.

Melps |

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I feel the same way! We just found out on friday a.m. and have pretty much told everyone who is close to us! There is no way we could have kept it in, we are so excited! I am possibly only 3weeks or so and still will never think about the bad just the postitive! We will need the emotional support from everyone around us gosh forbid something should happen! This is the best news of our life and we want everyone to know our joy! I hate superstitions u do what is in your heart and for us we would have flown a flag out of an airplane if we could have...hmmm something to think about:)!

amberbeswick22 |

Q&A: When to tell people I'm pregnant?

I'm only 5 weeks pregnant. This is my first child, and my boyfriend and I couldn't be happier. We told EVERYONE the day we found out. I know it was premature and I didn't think things through. I'm young and still in school and I make peanuts at work, so I really needed support from family, friends and co-workers (plus I had to explain why I was taking it easy). I found out at 3 1/2 weeks (so EARLY!) so I've been on a strict diet, taking vitamins, and doing everything in my power to ensure the healthy arrival of our little one. I've already had a checkup, everything looks good and normal. I'm just praying to hear that little heartbeat in 2 weeks. Now I'm terrified. Especially after reading the comments below. I wish I had kept it a secret until the 2nd trimester. I don't think I could bear it if I miscarried.

wmporras |

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We decided to tell basically the whole family as soon as we found out. I told a handful of close friends and he told pretty much all of his friends :) Im at 11 weeks and plan to be shouting it from the roof tops as soon as I finish week twelve. My mom had nine miscarriages all in her 4th month, I know miscarriages arent herditery, but it will still be in the back of my mind. So I want to be super excited and tell every person I see, but at the same time, what if? Im trying to be positive and keep those thoughts in the back of my mind, but they are still there and I get scared. But as for other people telling, I think it's whenever you feel comfortable. It's a glorious time, why wouldn't you want to at least tell your family and close friends who will support you no matter what? I see no reason not to.

MAMAVIDDYCOLA |

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I am 6w5d and my husband and I have told our families and close friends. At 11w I will have had an ultrasound and full exam. So if all goes well, we will make the news public after that. It's nerve racking because there is always a chance of things going wrong, but I want to share this happy time with people!

bgregori |

Q&A: When to tell people I'm pregnant?

i wanted to wait until i was further along (12 wks or so) but i told a few close ppl (the dad of course, my parents, siblings and best friend). although i made my mom promise not to tell anyone until after 12 weeks, the proud dad, my best friend and 4 yrs old niece have been telling everyone.

DanielleLT |

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I initailly wanted to wait until the 12th week to share with friends. coworkers, and family but I was so darn sick with nausea, vomiting, and fatigue that I felt I had to spill the beans so people would understand why I was acting so unusual. Word spread quickly around week 6. It's now week 9 and I feel awful.

prepcik |

Q&A: When to tell people I'm pregnant?

I am just at seven weeks right now...and absolutely thrilled! However, I think my maternal protective instincts kicked in right away: my husband and I both feel that waiting until 12-13 weeks will be best. When it's time to share the happy news, we will be happy to tell everyone. Until then, I'd like to think of my little "cocoon" as getting this time to develop quietly with just their daddy and mama. My best friend and I made a promise to each other that we would be one another's "secret keeper" if we wanted to share the news with someone, so I plan on telling her later this week :) I may also share with my little sis, who is a nurse. It's an exciting time, nonetheless!

jamiekendall |

Q&A: When to tell people I'm pregnant?

This is definitely a personal choice. I've been pregnant 4 times (prior to this current one) and miscarried all of those between the 6th-8th weeks. In almost all cases we told friends and family and it was so hard to go back and tell them the bad news. People generally don't know what to say...and the platitudes (i.e. "things happen for a reason" , "God doesn't give us anything we can't handle", "you can always try again", etc.) don't really help. It started to feel like the "boy who cried wolf" after awhile. THANKFULLY we are now pregnant for the 5th time (at 9 weeks 5 days...woohoo!) and super sick (unlike almost all of the other pregnancies) so hoping that it's a good sign. But we are keeping our mouths closed until after the 12th week for sure. I realize I am a rare case, but I definitely recommend waiting until end of first trimester. My hubby and I even joked that we would call people up after the birth of this one (God -willing) and say, "Surprise, we had a baby". I wish all of you moms-to-be all the blessings in the world.

Cynara73 |

Q&A: When to tell people I'm pregnant?

I told my mom and mother in law the same time i told my hubby I sent them all the same text.(a picture of the pregnancy test with positive lines) everyone was so excited because we had been trying for so long, no one could keep it in. so everyone we know found out by the end of the week. the only people Ive keep it from are the older ants and my Grandma just because there health is not so good and if something happened to the baby it might not be received well health wise. those people I will tell after my Dr appointment.

ejmillard@aol.com |

Q&A: When to tell people I'm pregnant?

We got pregnant last year and told our parents and my sister right away. I miscarried only days after we found out (5 weeks). I got the news from the doc and was sitting in a meeting at work 10 min. later. It was horrible and we said that the next time we would wait. Well, in retrospect I'm so glad I did tell the immediate family because I have needed their support. It has taken us a year and a half to conceive again and now we're at 7 weeks. We told the immediate family again right away, because I need the support and someone to help calm me when I begin to worry that history will repeat itself. I've had to tell my boss already because I'm a police officer and when you're nauseous, vomiting, and so fatigued you want to fall over there comes a limit to the believable excuses you can make. People will only buy the stomach flu for so long. :) I'm glad I did tell him because he's been super great and told me I can go on light duty any time I want - that I don't need to take my chances in fights with drunks and the like. Hubby has had to tell his boss too because that's the only way to get the family leave for our Dr. appointments. We're waiting to tell everyone else until after we see the doctor at 10 weeks. It's so hard to wait that long to see the doctor and even harder to keep the news under wraps, particularly as other friends are expecting and the conversation turns to that. I have to bite my tongue. I'm in the "tell the key players" camp, but I think it's really a personal decision.

Frenzied |

Q&A: When to tell people I'm pregnant?

We told our immediate families immediately - we're so close there was never a question about that. I decided to tell my very close friends, too, since if anything happened, I know I would have their support. I also chose to tell my supervisee, since I knew he would see me every day, several times a day and start wondering what the heck was up with me:) Everyone has been GREAT. We did tell a few other people we aren't that close to, though, and started to regret that last week when I had to go to the ER and for about four hours we thought I was having a miscarriage. Everything turned out okay, though! My friends and family have been super supportive.

mmendez76 |

Q&A: When to tell people I'm pregnant?

We just found out we're pregnant yesterday, however I go in for another blood test tomorrow just to make sure my levels are ok. I had to tell my best friend and my favorite cousin because she just had twins. I also had to tell my Grams because my Gramps died almost two years ago and when I was saying goodbye to him we talked about my getting pregnant. The hubby of course knows, but he doesn't know that I told any one. I can't wait to tell his family, but I haven't spoken to my parents in a year so this should be interesting. Did any one tell their family in a neat way? we want to do it creatively.

Mia11 |

Q&A: When to tell people I'm pregnant?

My advice is... wait... and I should have known the moment my Dr. said to me wait until you are past 14 weeks. I started telling close friends after 2... I was SO EXCITED its our 1st... I promiced after my first ultrasound I would shop... but I did anyway. I just went today to have my first ultrasound and I am 7 weeks and 3 days but I have no heartbeat. No life movement, No activity... I am devistated... and just like everyone above, you just don't know. Until you go.... so wait until your first ultrasound. I was shocked not to see the flutter of the heartbeat. The baby is growing just fine but there is no sign of further development the tech said I have three options... DNC, Wait, or have an injection and it will enduce the misscarriage. I decided on the DNC. And we will try again in October, but I know better now... just to keep my lip buttoned shut.

Snugit |

Q&A: When to tell people I'm pregnant?

I am 10 weeks and telling people. I need a good excuse for why I can't eat sushi and whine alot. Like you, I'm a talker and like to share with people and get advice. Hope I don't regret it.

Jordanabar |

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I'm at 10w 2d today and my fiancé and I plan to wait as long as possible--at least 12 weeks. Having said that, I had to admit it to a close friend and co-worker at week 9. She had seen the maternity doctor's appointment in my calendar and figured it out for herself! I also ended up telling my dearest friend yesterday. Both are sworn to secrecy. It's nice to be able to share our joy with a couple of trusted friends, but I don't plan to spill the beans to anyone else until the tests come back clear on week 12. Today my co-worker informed our team that she is 9 weeks pregnant. It was really hard not to blurt it out too!

Larousse |

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I'm still trying to soak it all in, so at 17 weeks, I've told very few people. My gal pals know, as well as my parents and coworkers, but I have yet to share the news with the bulk of my family. I agree with madlady and ames26, especially the part about how family can be overbearing. Ifind I am very private and like to keep things "compartmentalized" so to speak so I'm not really feeling all the attention that I will be garnering.

Candilaria |

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in our Zambian culture, they say its not advisable to tell people you are pregnant. we believe people should see it for themselves. however, for this pregnancy am failing to keep quite, have almost told every close friend of mine that I am pregnant, maybe am just too excited!

Chipego |

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My husband and I each told one person who we could trust, and who would support us whether we had a healthy baby or a miscarriage. After that, we waited until the 2nd trimester to tell everyone else--including parents--because we knew we'd get a bunch of questions about our plans and how I was taking care of myself. I am so glad I waited because it was much easier on us for us to do our own research and make decisions between ourselves without having everyone's voices in our heads on what they think we should do (like finding out the sex of the baby). I've now told my boss and I want to send an e-mail out to the rest of my co-workers so there's no awkward "is she pregnant?" stuff going on, but I'm not sure what to write. Any suggestions?

nse712 |

Q&A: When to tell people I'm pregnant?

I am 8 weeks pregnant and I have told several close friends and some family. Haven't told all of my family like aunts, uncles and cousins just yet but I am figuring the time will be right when I think it is. I feel even better telling people now that I finally had an ultrasound and the baby's heartbeat was strong at 162 bpm. I feel that you should do what you are comfortable with.

nicole4311 |

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My husband and I spoke about it and even though I am 5-6 weeks pregnant, I have only told one person. A very dear friend of mine whose brother in law was having the same problem as my husband. I am so excited but miscarriage never came into my head until I saw this post. Now thinking clearer, I will not say anything until 2 weeks when I can hear the heart beat at the first Dr. appointment. Thank you all for the advice xoxo good luck to you and your future babies. :)

mrscheese15 |

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My husband and I told our family and close friends right away that we were pregnant because there was no way we could hold it in! I did wait until after I heard the heartbeat at 10 weeks to let my boss know and tell all of my coworkers. It was very hard keeping it a secret though!

mrschachko |

Q&A: When to tell people I'm pregnant?

i found out on my 26th birthday which was yesterday I couldnt keep it in!! I was too excited i think it made everyones day to hear it too

andreackoval84 |

Q&A: When to tell people I'm pregnant?

We miscarried earlier this summer at 6 weeks. I hadn't told that many people, and the ones who knew were so incredibly supportive. I also blogged about the experience (because I find it very theraputic and I need it to keep me honest with myself) and it amazes me the way strangers can be so kind about things like that. We were incredibly surprised to get pregnant again about 6 weeks later (I didn't actually have a period other than for the miscarriage) and I was TERRIFIED. My ob has been very agressive and we've been blessed to have an ultrasound every week since 5. I'm 9w5d and we feel pretty confident that this pregnancy is going to succeed. My doctor has stopped telling us we're not out of the woods and instead focuses on complications that I'm at high risk for later on. Hubs is itching to make a public announcement (meaning facebook, since it's the easiest way to share with the majority of our friends and family) so we've decided to share the new next weekend when I'm just shy of 11 weeks. We've been watching the heartbeat for weeks now and our little sea monkey is just a miracle! If we do lose another baby, we know that it's God's plan for us and that He will take care of us and provide the support we need. I can't lie about it and I hate the radio silence. Plus I have been sick as a dog so it was totally obvious to all of my coworkers.

confuegosuzy |

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In my family we tell early, I'm currently only 4 weeks along but we're telling our parents this weekend...the more people praying for us and with us for the safety of the baby, the better.

keebee627 |

Q&A: When to tell people I'm pregnant?

We are 9 wks pregnant and have only told my parents, his parents and a couple of close friends. When I found out I wanted to tell everyone because I was so excited. After going to my first dr. appt I realized that we should have waited to tell our families until after all the genetic testing was completed in case something is wrong.

aah76 |

Q&A: When to tell people I'm pregnant?

This is my second time being pregnant ( 11 weeks along). I kind of had to tell everyone because I started showing at 8 weeks. All my family and close friends where asking me if I was pregnant because they knew that my husband and I were trying. If my belly was not showing as much as it is I would have waited to tell until I knew if it was a boy or girl. Also I would have not told so many people we were trying.

drearenzi |

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My husband and I were 12 weeks along today and found out that the fetus hasn't had a heartbeat since two days after our last checkup (at 9 weeks). Though we're devastated (I go in for surgery tomorrow), I wouldn't have missed the excitement that family and friends have shared with us over the last three months for anything! I, too, showed early (and continued to grow even after the baby stopped). Ironically, I'd just received the "Tell Your Friends" update on my checklist two days prior....how hard it would have been to announce I'm pregnant just to turn around and deliver our very sad news.

iyq2bu |

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I'm at 7 weeks along with our first. I was diagnosed with PCOS recently and was so surprised when I came up pregnant. My husband and I told family and close friends straight away, but waited to announce it at work and church until we heard the heartbeat. We are telling people b/c its a testimony to God's power and grace. And we are so blessed and will take all the prayers we can get!!

aw1062 |

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I feel like a split personality - I am an open book with my closest friends, but I also cherish my privacy in some circumstances. I am 9 weeks, and my husband and I have chosen to tell our families this Christmas but not to share the news more widely until after the ultrasound in a few weeks. I very much want to be able to share this most exciting news with those I love the most, but I drastically fear the devastation and heartbreak of having to redo those once-celebratory calls, should something go awry. This is our first pregnancy and would be the first grandchild on both sides, so needless to say, expectations could be considerably high.

VogueMom |

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I will be 13 weeks tomorrow and I just told my coworkers and the rest of the world last week. I told my immediate family members and a few close friends almost immediately. I was hesitant to tell people because of the fear of miscarriage, but my DH explained it like this: if something does bad happen, you might actually want that support system to know about it. Miscarriage is nothing to hide from or be embarassed about. If you told this person or that person and now have to go back and tell them the bad news, rest assured that they will be there for you.... I say, tell when you are ready, and have faith that your friends and family will be with you no matter what.

trc1183 |

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**correction** if something bad DOES happen..... oopsie

trc1183 |

Q&A: When to tell people I'm pregnant?

We just found out this week that we are expecting our second child. When I found out I was pregnant with my daughter within a week everyone knew. This time we have told our parents and some relatives. We have a appointment a few days after I am only 5 weeks and we will be telling everyone then. I agree with a lot of the ladies. A miscarriage isnt something to be ashamed of or hidden from. I also look at it this way. I choose to not live my life in fear. I want to celebrate and be able to talk openly about it with out "slipping". It has never crossed my mind that something bad could happen. I mean I know that it could but I dont think about it. I am a positive person. I try not to think about the negatives in situations. Instead I am planning and living my life that we will be a family of 4 in 9 months!

the4hclub |

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I just took a HPT this morning, and it was positive! I am also late on my period, and im guessing im about 4 weeks. This is my first pregnancy, so im very exited and also nervous. Place if anyone has any advice I would love to hear your words of wisdom! Im also nervous about who to tell right now, as I haven't had my pregnancy confirmed by a doctor yet.

nanomanon |

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i've been wanting to wait to tell, but I've been so sick and nauseated all the time that people just keep guessing at work. Since I work on every floor of the hospital with hundreds of people, they have starting guessing. what do i do when people ask me outright but I don't want to tell yet.???

jennlynnbell |

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We told our parents and siblings the day the test was positive (Christmas day! I was already 9 weeks.) but told them to at least wait until my first OB appointment to make sure things were on track before blabbing. Luckily the appointment was three days later because my in-laws have the biggest mouths in the world! After the appointment we told the rest of the family and a few select friends. Unfortunately there are people out there that aren't well-wishers (although how you can be displeased about an expected birth is beyond me!) and I've lost some friends due to holding the news back, but I don't regret not telling everyone. I do my best to refrain from posting anything related on facebook and I ask that people respect my families privacy by not passing on the news (something that not everyone is good at apparently). I say tell those closest to you that will share your joy and sorrow in every aspect of your life and enjoy this time with them, but don't tell everyone you meet on the street.

hollywoodgutterrose |

Q&A: When to tell people I'm pregnant?

We told both our parents and siblings the day we got our positive blood test back (5 weeks), and his father told the whole world! Now we have friends who are offended that we didn't tell them ourselves... lesson learned about telling FIL anything :-(

chemqueen602 |

Q&A: When to tell people I'm pregnant?

We told our parents on the same day and are just 5 weeks along. It's our first and I couldnt keep it in. I also told some coworkers because I am a server so I am going to need help carrying out trays and things like that. I know it's way early on but god forbid something were to happen than that would be all the more support I would have getting through it. Afterall, that is what family and friends are for!

babystratton |

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We told our parents and siblings at 5 weeks the first time and went to our first doctors appointment at 6 weeks to find out the egg was empty and there was no heartbeat. We are now pregnant again and saw the heart a few days ago, and are now telling the in-laws tonight. Its still scary with the worries of a miscarriage because I didn't get the support from my husbands family last time that I was expecting.

kjunderwood917 |

Q&A: When to tell people I'm pregnant?

I should be 9 weeks according to the "first day of your last MC" method but I had an u/s last week and another yesterday and both times it said my fetus is 6 weeks and 3 days. Baby is not growing and the sac is a little too flexible. Basically, I think I'm going to have a miscarriage and I am devistated. To answer your question, only tell your closest friends and family members. We couldn't help ourselves and told way to many people now every time someone is going to ask me how I'm doing or how I'm feeling I am going to be devestated all over again. congratulations by the way!

MONIQUEBOSIC |

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I didn't know I was pregnant until I was 10 weeks. Since I was already 10 weeks I decide to tell my family and friends that I was pregnant. Next week I will tell everyone else the big news.

csnj04 |

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I found out around 5 weeks and we told my parents and his family. Since then I've only told one friend, but will probably tell a few more as I see them. I don't know how people keep it a secret until 12 weeks, I'm bursting. In part cause I have so many questions for my friends who are pregnant and/or have kids. Crossing fingers that nothing bad happens, cause I know there is still a possibility of a M, but there is a heartbeat so hopefully it won't come back to bite me later.

lana22 |

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I found out I was pregnant and within days a lot of people knew. I then heard no heartbeat on two trans-vaginal ultrasounds. I was told by two doctors that I will probably miscarry and told everyone within a few days again. Now I am questioning if I will miscarry or not, and am wondering when I should open my mouth. I think it has been good to have people to share all of this with, but I wonder if I am putting people through pain when it could have been avoided by just waiting a few weeks.

BGrieger |

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I just found out 2 days ago and so far only my fiance and 4 of my best friends know. My first dr appt is this week, and I am thinking I am only around 4-6 weeks. I am only 24 and had not planned on getting pregnant for another 2-3 years. I was in such shock that I had to tell my 2 best friends. I also have 2 older friends of the family who are in their 50s, and wanted to tell them just so that I could ask for advice. I would really like to tell mine and my fiance's families, but he wants to wait until 12 weeks just in case anything happens. I can see why we would wait that long to tell friends and co-workers, but I would really like to tell our families early, so that way in case something does happen, God forbid, we would have our families support.

limetango |

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We told our family right away and then our close friends too, I'm bad at secrets! We did find out we were expecting twins at a 6 week ultrasound, both had strong heartbeats and seemed to be growing healthy, so of course I had to blurt that out, now at our 9 week check up we found out we lost one. I don't mind that we told people we were pregnant, but I do wish we hadn't let it out that we had twins so early, that is kind of a hard one to deal with for me. I would suggest if you find out you're having twins to maybe wait b/c unfortunately VTS is more common that many people know (or more common than I knew). (and if it was an early u.s. otherwise you are probably fine :)

krssy_7 |

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I'll be 11 weeks this week and still the only people that know are my husband and our doctors. We planned to tell our parents this weekend but now I'm scared it'll jinx us and am considering waiting two more weeks - by then I'll be 13 weeks and should be "safe". But it's so hard having no one to confide in, making dumb excuses to my friends for not drinking, and talking to my parents on the phone twice a week where they ask "What's going on?" and I'm like "Oh, nothing..." Keeping this a secret is so hard and I just want to talk about it with my mom :)

snowgirl0429 |

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With my first pregnancy, my husband and I chose to wait to tell everyone (including our parents) until the end of the first trimester. Unfortunately, that pregnancy was a blighted ovum and ended in miscarriage around 10 weeks. Having to tell my family and friends that I was having a miscarriage without them ever knowing that I was pregnant to begin with was extremely difficult, probably more difficult than the other way around. I wished I would have told more people that I was pregnant before I miscarried because when it happened, I had no immediate support except from my husband. I think it depends on the person, but my advice is to wait a reasonable amount of time and then share your good news because then you have the opportunity to celebrate the pregnancy no matter what happens! I am pregnant again and almost 11 weeks and this time around, we told our parents around 6 weeks. I'm much happier with how we shared the news this time around.

ljleshak |

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I told my parents with in minutes of finding out. I was spending the day with them and knew I could not walk around with news like that and no time to calm myself down without them figuring out. Also my step-mom had alot of difficulties getting and staying pregnant and I knew I would want her support from day one. We told my MIL right after our first appointment at around 6 weeks. We knew we wanted to tell her in person and since she lives and works 45 min out of town and does not come to the city that often we wanted to take our chance while we had it (And it turned out to be a good thing, she wont be back in town until week 12 and it will be for a family wedding, not the time to tell her unless we want EVERYONE in the family to know then!!) I told my aunt right away because she had a baby in December and I was having some cramping and wanted to talk to someone about it , and she already suspected when I wasnt home sick with cramps for over 8 weeks lol We have had a few people guess and DH and I agreed from day one that if anyone comes right out and asks we wont deny it, we are both horrible liars and it just does not feel right to lie about it this. We still arent sure how or when we are telling everyone else. DHs baby brother is going to be 20 on the 9th and we are debating telling him then for several reasons, one of which being MIL is ready to burst and this would give her someone to talk to about it lol and my grandparents wedding anniversary is the 18th, the begining of week 12, so we will probably tell them that is their present lol. I have had some cramping and so we are nervous that we might loose this baby. We have also just in general had more than our fair share of bad times and this just seems to good to be true right now and so we dont want to do anything to jinx it.

mrswadden |

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I have told lots of people at 9 weeks because we have been doing IVF. It worked the second time and we have twins due in Jan. There is not right time but we are over the moon. I feel exactly like other people . If something every happens then we will have a large support around us

christinekohn |

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I would think that you should tell whoever you are comfortable with telling. If you do miscarriage it is much better to have a group of support. If you have to bite your tongue and not tell anyone that you had a miscarriage you will get depressed because you are not talking about it which is a must in that sad situation.

babylove90 |

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i was too excited that i couldn't help but tell my closest friends, but i knew we couldn't tell our families until they were both together. at five weeks we went out to brunch with both parents for father's day (as well as my grandparents, aunts/uncles, etc.). we found the most adorable father's day cards to give to our dads - they were "happy grandfather's day" cards. inside the card we wrote Happy Father's Day grandpap - love your future grandchild -exp. due day feb 2012. both parents started crying the minute they opened the card.

lmh5102 |

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Well my husband went straight to my parents house to tell my Mom, Dad, and Sister at 5 weeks. Told them that we were going to tell his family the next day but wait and tell everyone else at 12 weeks. However, I guess they thought differently because they just started telling people before I even got a chance to tell other family members. My sister had it posted on facebook the very next day. It wouldn't be a big deal but I have all ready gotten comments that I people can't believe that I would even know this early and that I couldn't have been to the doctor yet. So it is kind of sucks because I am almost embarrassed to tell people I'm pregnant and this should be a fun time for me!

kaseyfeick |

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This is by far not my first pregnancy, the rest have resulted in losses and almost nobody new about any of them except the daddy..... I made the decision to tell my mom and fam right away when I was preg w/ twins (8 1/2 weeks when I told them) and then miscarried at 11 1/2 weeks, nobody new what to say so they all just left me alone.... that was way worse than just not having anyone know at all..... Now that my DP and I have achieved our goal sooo much faster than expected I was determined to wait til 12 wks, but that didn't happen, almost everyone knows now (doc's though I was almost 13 wks but really just between 8 & 10) first OFFICIAL ultrasound is Tuesday (July 19th, 2011) and I can't wait to come home with that pic and put it on FB. (Fam already knows so do close friends, this is for the rest of em..... lets hope all goes well this time!)

meque183 |

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I am 6 weeks. We told my parents and my in-laws when we found out last week, and we are waiting to tell everyone else at 12 weeks. Something I didn't anticipate is that my mother feels strongly about waiting the 12 weeks and doesn't think we should have told our parents. She's been making all kinds of comments to that effect which has been disappointing and sad. I fear that if something bad were to happen she'd say"I told you so". For next time, I'll only tell people who I know would be supportive if something bad were to happen.

sarahandtm |

Q&A: When to tell people I'm pregnant?

I told my parents and my stepchildren right away and we told my husband's family soon after. I alerted my boss last week because he put me on a project using potentially hazardous materials, and I wanted to cover my butt if I had to refuse to work with any of them. I told everyone to keep it hush-hush until the end of August when I would be 13 weeks. Boy am I an idiot for thinking they would! My husband is the worst culprit. He tells anyone he sees and listed "?????" as an "expected child" on Facebook, and some of my in-laws have been telling random people. My mom told a few of her friends, which I have no problem with. I have a feeling nobody will be surprised when it comes out in two weeks. I am praying that everything goes smoothly these next few weeks...

BGo |

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We shouted it from the roof top that we were pregnant at 7 weeks. We were so happy to let everyone know. Unfortunately, I had an ectopic pregnancy that eventually led to a miscarriage. We did tell everyone who knew and it was difficult to tell people what had happened, but when I look back I do not regret telling people. I was so happy and I couldn't wait. Co-workers made snide remarks stating "That is why you should wait until you are 12wks to tell anyone." They also made remarks that I had "jinxed" my pregnancy by telling people too soon. They were the most hurtful remarks anyone has ever made to made. They even said it to my face. I am not really anyone to give advice, but my advice is do what you feel. I hope more women are able to support each other in these situations rather than fun of their decisions.

jennifermaw |

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congratulations to those of you who are recently preggo :) I'm only 7 weeks and a few days and we've already told our closest friends and the whole family. I can't believe how cruel some people are about that when something goes wrong (or even if it doesn't). I say don't take it too personally because everyone has their own ideas about EVERYTHING and just feel the need to blab blab blab without any thought or respect for others' feelings. Just look to those who will be supportive and encouraging and I'm so sorry to you jennifermaw for the callousness you've had to endure with your coworkers. They just don't know any better I guess. Don't give up and don't be discouraged! God has an amazing plan for you and He knows the desires of our hearts. Hang in there ;)

chacha7997 |

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We didn't know until I was 11 weeks along with our first and so when I got pregnant again (we found out a year to the day that I was pregnant again) we couldn't keep it in. I let everyone know about a week after I had an ultrasound and heard the heart beat at about 7 weeks. We had just gotten married and are very excited about having two kids 13 months apart.

aehsahs |

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I was at my best friend's house, who I have known for 14 years, when I found out I was pregnant. We told all of his side that weekend and told my parents when we saw them two weeks later. I figure, it is a happy time and it should be celebrated!! There are too many bad things happening to not relish in the good! Granted, my chances for miscarriage just went up, nice little trip to the ER, but now I have a HUGE support system. If something does happen, then they are there and I don't have to explain anything later. So my opinion - tell everyone and celebrate it.

InLove621 |

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I told my parents, sister, and best friend when I was six weeks. Then I told my boss becuase I been needing to take time off due to morning sickness. Considering that someone else in my department had a baby last year, my boss was totally excited about it. At nine weeks, after I have my first pre-natal and could see the heartbeat, I told the rest of my department and other co-workers who are my firiends. I just emailed them a You Tube video of I Love Lucy, when she tells Ricky she is pregnant and I titled the email "I drank the water" I also called my grandma and god-parents. I purposley keep positive people in my life, and negative as far away as possible, so if anything should happen, God wiling everything goes well, I will have an amazing support system. If you want to tell before 12 weeks, do it! Don't let superstition stop you, especially if you have seen/heard a heartbeat.

kellyl831 |

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I don't think that there is a "right" time to tell family. We will be 10 weeks next week (Thanksgiving) and it has already been excrutiating waiting this long. The only reason we have is because our families are farther away and we opted to wait to share the news in person versus over the phone. We will probably wait another two weeks or so (12-13 weeks) to tell everyone else. That way we will have the support of our family at 10 weeks and the support of friends and everyone else at 12-13 weeks. I think I will wait to have the conversation at work with my boss and co-workers as long as possible, but that might be at the 12-13 week mark too as this nausea and tiredness are getting the better of me already!

jndbabylove |

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The second post from the top happened to me too. Exactly actually. When I read it I had to look at the name and date because I wasn't sure if I did right it or not. After what happened to me, I would not tell anyone until you have hit the 12 weeks. It is so common to miscarry. I never thought it would happen to me and the ordeal is just devestating. I had people for months, that hadn't seen me since I told them I was pregnant, walking up to and touching my belly and I had to let them know it ws empty. I am currently 10 weeks pregnant and I am so excited to share my news, but not until the doctor gives me the clear. It isn't worth going through the pain of having to tell everyone again that I had a loss in the case that I do.

WhitneyHartwell |

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We decided to tell our family at 7 weeks. Being that it is my first pregnancy, I feel that no matter what happens we will need their support. However, it's difficult because we have to hope that the people we tell will respect our wishes to keep it quiet until we are ready to let everyone know. Unfortunately, that hasn't happened and many of my parent's friends already know, and I am only 9 weeks now! We are all excited, but perhaps next time (if there is a next time) I would wait a little longer. It is just so exciting and nice to share such great news.

mwasserback2011 |

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As soon as i turned down a beer, everyone knew. It's hard not to let the cat out of the bag, unless you go into hiding for 3 months. I say tell super close people in your life whenever you want, because God forbid something happens, you'll tell them regardless. Just don't make an official announcement til the standard 3 months, and anyone who figures it out...warn them that it is early, and not public knowledge!

flwergrl53 |

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We did it a little bit backwards . . . We told friends, and my mom (everyone who lives in the same town as us), but waited until 10 weeks to tell my DH's family over Thanksgiving. Now I'm gearing up to tell my family over Christmas. I have a judgmental sister and I am very nervous about telling. I told my co-workers, boss and students at the end of my 12th week. It was SO HARD to wait that long! It has been easy to keep if from all my out-of-town family, though.

cfreeman84 |

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Im having a hard time....my husband wants to tell the world and I am too scared. I would love to wait until 12 weeks. Biggest problem is I am a police officer and need to tell work as soon as I get back from vacation. We don't have our first appointment til the 27th but the family is all here for christmas.....what to do. Ugh.

lmetelsky |

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I am 10 weeks and have only told a few friends. I think a good way to look at it is tell only the people you would feel comfortable telling if you have a miscarriage. My husband and I are telling our families this weekend, but asking them to keep it quiet until we're ready to announce it, which, if everything continues to go well, will be in a few weeks!!!

Oceangirl12 |

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I just found out yesterday... I'm only 4 wks 2 days. I'm an open book and everyone knew we were trying so I told everyone right away. I keep wondering if it was the right thing to do but God forbid something does happen, I know everyone will be supportive.

Sada9228 |

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WOW.. I just found out yesterday as well, and I'm 4wks and 2 days as well. I can't keep my mouth closed either. However, I am managing to not share with everyone. Atleast until my first doctors appointment, which is January 9th. We have only agreed to tell our closest married friends. They have a young child, so it's advice from her that I want and need. Everyone is expecting us to tell them right away, so I want to plan out a big surprise.

ericanddeborah |

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I think a couple should just do what feels right for them. with my first baby, I told everyone!!! My second....did the same and lost her. My partner and I are opting to stay shut until after the first trimester. I'm 4 weeks prego and super excited because my hubbs and I have been trying for nearly a year! But we are really keeping this private until 12 weeks because we remember the pain from losing our daughter.

Champagne29nyc |

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we waited to tell my parents at christmas and my dad fell at work and went into a coma on the 20th. He still hasnt woken up and I cant imagine never getting to hear how excited he is because he wants to be a grandpa so bad. So my advice is that the upset of miscarriage or waiting to tell is much worse than never getting to tell. I just hope he wakes up so I can tell him.

MattMaggie |

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personally i wanted to keep it quiet for as long as possible- at 12 weeks we told dh's parents the day after christmas. we also told my brother on christmas, as he was actually the first person to look at me and guess i was pregnant (i told him it was gas lol ) now im 14 weeks and still want to wait another 2 or 3 weeks before i spread the news. we r super-excited and its a planned pregnancy, im just worried about things going wrong.

imtheone91 |

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I am at three weeks and as soon as we had a positive pregnancy test we told only 5 people. I am terrified to tell anyone else. This is our first pregnancy and I have read so many stories of miscarriage that its scaring me out of telling anyone at all. I have my first doctors appointment on Thursday.. and am still debating to tell anyone even after that. Even family!

TheFutureStroup |

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First pregnancy, now 12. I told a friend when I first found out at 5 weeks, but waited another month until Xmas to even tell my husband. We just sat down with the parents this week to tell them and I revealed to my boss today. I'm glad I waited, i didn't want to rush into telling people and it would be horrible to later explain it to everyone if we had a loss. I do feel like people often need to justify a miscarriage with finding something to blame on the mothers part. Which just isn't right.

mbd1816 |

Q&A: When to tell people I'm pregnant?

The first time I was pregnant, I told everyone I knew immediately and put it on facebook. I ended up miscarrying and it was really hard to expalin to people who I didn't really even talk to that often what had happened, sometimes even months afterwards. I had people I barely knew on facebook messaging me about it. That part made a really difficult situation even harder. On the other hand, I was so glad my close friends and family know, because they knew how much I had wanted our baby and everything that I had done to be healthy and precautious. Their support really helped me to make it through. I'm now 9 weeks pregnant, a year and a half later, and I have only told my close friends that I talk to very frequently (like daily or at least weekly) and family. For me, that's what I'm comfortable with given my experience. Everyone else will get to know at 12 weeks! 3 more to go!!

RainieC |

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I just found out via a two different home tests that I am 5 weeks. I immediately told my fiancee and we will begin to tell family after we see the Dr. This weekend to confirm. I have told one friend so far and will be telling another one later today. We will be telling people a little early because we were supposed to be getting married Oct 12/2012 and not baby is due around Oct 4th, 2012. I also have to let me work know at my earliest convenience because they need to hire someone to train so that they can take over and that take months

10thkingdom |

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I just found out this morning. My husband and best friends know. My Dr. is not until 2/27, but I want to tell my mother before then. Her birthday is 2/9 so I am going to get her "How to be the Perfect Grandma" as a gift.

chrissyski76 |

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My husband and I just found out Sunday (via home pg test) and monday with a blood test that we are expecting...we are 5 weeks. this is our first pregnancy and I'm whicked nervous to tell people. But alot of these comments say you'll have that support system which makes sense. See we are having a big st patties day shindig with my parents and alot of close friends and my hubby is afraid that people we keep hounding about why I'm not drinking and he is afraid that it will take away from a surprise and excitment if we try hard to convince people I'm not pregnant. So he wats to at least tell our parents this weekend. I dont have my first appointment until next week and its only the medical history and lab work "OB Registration Class". WHAT TO DO WHAT TO DO?!

lmossali |

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We just told everyone after our fiirst trimester screening at 12 weeks. Very glad we waited. Baby is healthy! With us, we just bought a house last week and have been in temporary housing. we didin't want others to panic and pressure us to decide on a home. Plus, My grandpa has a hard time learning new things, and we have young neices. So once this baby is news, it's perminent information. It was hard at first but a nice little secret for my husband and I. He is so happy the baby is well, he tells everyone now instantly. Much more fun now than having the hesitations that we did at 6 weeks.

anniecw1 |

Q&A: When to tell people I'm pregnant?

Don't tell your parents till 12 weeks unless you want everyone to know. Most parents have no filter and tell everybody.

hiudan |

Q&A: When to tell people I'm pregnant?

When I first found out I was pregnant in November, I told everyone I ran into! My husband and I had been trying for almost a year, so I couldn't wait to share our news! Well, I had a miscarriage, and it was horrible having to go back and tell everyone. In January, I found out I was pregnant again! My husband and I were so excited, but we kept our mouths shut this time. When we did finally tell people, their reactions were more subdued, and I think its because they didn't want to act too excited in case I had a miscarriage again.

diane31883 |

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I agree with anniecw1, Hiudan and Diane. We have told a few friends and my SIL is the only family who knows right now. I'm almost 10 weeks and would like to tell everyone at 12 weeks, but we will wait for the genetic testing results and will announce at 20 weeks.

thediva2 |

Q&A: When to tell people I'm pregnant?

I had a miscarriage at 5 weeks in December, so I was kind of glad I hadn't told anyone then. Although it did make it seem like I was anti-social when we had people over at our house the day after it happened, and I kept disappearing to cry in my room, and couldn't explain. Now I'm at six weeks, and not sure if I'll be able to last the whole 12 weeks. We might tell family sooner than that. I just feel like I want to share it with people to make it feel real. And even though I'm afraid of miscarrying again, I don't feel like I would want to go through it all by myself again... Another purely vain reason is that I want people to know before we go to a friends wedding so everyone will know why I'm looking fat... ;)

five1eleven |

Q&A: When to tell people I'm pregnant?

I tried to keep it a secret, but I really want to share my first baby news with everyone! I told relatives and close friends, but I have yet to post a facebook status. Instead the first day of each week I post a picture of fruit to show the baby's size until I officially post my big news! I will most likely wait until the 12th week to tell everybody, and when I start to show it will be less shocking, lol!

sinister1_666 |

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My fiance and I have been debating this matter for the past few weeks. He is dying to tell people the news but I am reluctant because we suffered a lose about 1 yr & 1/2 ago. I'm 9 weeks now and the only person we've told is my mother in law (who is also itching to tell everyone she will be a grandma again). We haven't even told our 5 yr old yet because she can't keep secrets. I guess if anything did happen (GOD FORBID) at least I would have full support from family and friends.

aanaya13 |

Q&A: When to tell people I'm pregnant?

While I don't think there's anything shameful about going through a miscarriage, I think it's important to ask yourself who you'd feel comfortable knowing about if you do go through one. Then, only tell the people you feel like would be a good support system should the worst happen. Those are probably the people you're really dying to tell anyway. Then hold off on making those huge public announcements (like to Facebook) until you're out of that danger zone. I'm 12 weeks pregnant now and only my immediate family and closest friends know about the baby. I got the thrill of telling them and we'll probably wait a couple more weeks to make it REALLY official to the entire world.

EverydayTrish |

Q&A: When to tell people I'm pregnant?

Well we just lost our 3 month old son about a month ago and I just found out i am pregnant again i told my husband tuesday and he just started crying because we wasn't ready and we don't know how to feel but it will grow on us due time i am going to tell everyone when i find out what i am having.

Telivia09 |

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I think this is a very hard topic. I've had two miscarriages. The first time our entire family new and some close friends. It was very emotional at 8 wks when we were told at our first ultrasound the baby hasn't ok. The second miscarriage happened at 5.5 weeks. Only my Mom knew. Both times we ended up sharing with family. I am now 11 weeks pregnant and close family and a few friends know. Bottome Line: If you have a miscarriage you will end up telling the people close to you because you will need the support. So it's those people I told we were pregnant. I will wait until between 12 and 14 weeks to tell everyone else.

chapetx |

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I am almost 4 weeks pregnant and (aside from my husband who was thrilled!) I told my best friend who is pregnant with twins, she's my rock so I felt comfortable with that. I also told one of my brothers because I promised him I would tell him right away a long time ago. I think it all depends on the situation! If you had complications before, are high risk or just very private don't tell people until you are in the second trimester. I thought I would go this route no matter what but I've been dreaming of having a second child for YEARS and I'm sure I won't last much longer!! ;-) BUT here's the tricky part!! Facebook. I would NOT recommend saying anything until at least your second trimester! I've seen a few early announcements followed by a miscarriage and it was very sad and almost embarrassing. I felt very bad for the mother, so many people that she hardly speaks to having to know her pain. Not good!!

Starviper |

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I found out on Monday that I am 4 weeks pregnant. This is my first pregnancy and it is taking every ounce of me not to tell people. I have my first appt. early next week 5/8 because I broke out in shingles prior to finding out I was pregnant. I was on a few medications. I am pretty nervous that things are not going to go well so I don't want to tell anyone. My husband wants to tell our moms on mothers day and I am freaking out.

krismartin84 |

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I told everyone right away besides our extended family, we are waiting for our first doctors appointment to tell them. The only wrong thing I did was I told my boss before I told some of my work friends and they took it personally. I never actually thought that anyone would be upset about it, but they were. So just watch who you tell first!

awicks |

Q&A: When to tell people I'm pregnant?

It's hard to please everyone... I know... After a miscarriage on my first pregnancy, I needed help to cope. Friends from church were our BEST support group (family? well... just kind of simply ignored it/said ''ow you just make another one''). So the friends were the first ones to know about our current pregnancy. And they are SO wonderful about it, it has made us more confident. They are thrilled for us!

Haddidje |

Q&A: When to tell people I'm pregnant?

The first time I got pregnant, in December, we decided to tell people that we were close to and wouldn't mind talking with if I did miscarry. Also, it seemed silly to keep a secret when I was feeling so pukey and tired...then I could be honest about how I was feeling. When I did have a miscarriage at 8 weeks, I had the support of my sisters and parents and grandparents. After that, I didn't mind telling my friends that I suffered a miscarriage. Almost every single woman I told,shared their own miscarriage story. It was very comforting to not be alone in that way. I just found out I'm pregnant again yesterday. I think we'll wait until I see the doctor at 8 weeks before we spill the beans this time...except I'm planning to tell my best mommy friend. I need at least one friend to talk to about how I'm feeling!

jleroux30 |

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I'm four weeks in - just got two positive results two days in a row - and I'm not telling anyone (well, except the husband, obviously) until 12 weeks. It's hard to keep a secret, but I want to be reasonably sure everything is solid and that I am comfortable and not in denial anymore. We weren't planning on getting pregnant until the fall, so this is sort of a surprise (as in "Surprise! You should have checked the calendar before not using a condom!") and I think people will freak out a little bit because we haven't been talking about it at all. I'd rather suffer through the wait and actually have things to tell people once we know what's going on and what our plans are rather than telling my mother now and having her tell everyone she knows before I've even heard its heart beating.

Carolyn Michael |

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No, it's your choice who you tell and when. But the first 12 weeks are the most high risk for loss. I am 9 weeks, and haven't told any one except my husband, mom, and doctor. But I have different reasons.

Crusenberry69 |

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The day I found out I was pregnant at 4weeks I told my mama which got to the whole family lol. Was that a bad thing. Should I have waited?

annahf |

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Just told my parents and my fiance told his mother, who then called everyone she knows and told them the news. I am 11 weeks will be 12 weeks in 4 days. I feel that I made a mistake and should have kept to myself a little longer.

alarae15 |

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I think it just depends on the individual. I had a miscarriage in Feb at 8 weeks and I didn't tell many people, and like some others have said, to explain to people that not only I was pregnant but lost it, my family, friends and co-workers wished that they would have known to help me through the hard time instead of keeping it inside. I got a lot of "why didn't you tell me!" Now I am 8 weeks with twins, and I have already told my boss and my team because I think it's important for them to know what I am going through right now and that I need to reduce my stress at this time, which they've been extremely supportive. I told my Mom the day we found out and we'll be telling our siblings over dinner in a couple weeks, because we'd rather tell them in person than over the phone. If we could have gotten together sooner, we would have told them sooner! Because of twins, I think I am showing earlier, so I'm not going to be able to hide it much longer! We have many people praying for us as they've know the long journey we've been through, it helps not to be alone in this journey.

CheriePie28 |

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I'm very early in my pregnancy, at nearly 5 weeks. I've already shared the good news with my mom and 2 very close friends. We plan to tell the rest of the family after my first OB appt, and then our friends as we approach 12 weeks. We'll see how that goes :)

NicandJohn |

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my husband and i found out 3 days ago that I am 5 weeks along and we just got married a month ago. according to the conception calculator and due date calculators, we definitely conceived on our honeymoon. I am so nervous that people will have comments about it being so soon after the wedding. on a side note - i am a bridesmaid in 2 weddings in the next year. how can I keep it quiet for another 6 1/2 weeks??

cbb722 |

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I am going on 15 weeks and I find it very difficult to disclose it, I miscarried last year so this left a very bitter sweet time in my life, having to explain the why's and how's.. Now that I am expecting again I feel a bit paranoid and there's no convincing me it's ok to tell my close friends and family. I just want to make sure everything is gonna be ok and let all my emotions out..

cruzbaby |

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I'm almost six weeks weeks and we have only told our parents and my younger sister. I want to tell everyone but am waiting until we hear the heartbeat to tell my brother only because my neice would have a hard time understanding if something happened. Then at 12 weeks the rest of the family will find out. I think it is good to tell someone other than your partner when it happens so you have support but wait until the heartbeat to shout it to the world

kksmitha21 |

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For everyone it is different.My first pregnancy my husband was so excited he called my mother in law the day we found out,while i was at work.Then I wanted to tell my family.my brother and his wife had also just found out they were pregnant so it was a very exciting time for my parents.I miscarried a week later and was so heartbroken I had to tell my mom and have her tell the family.even a year later and 11 weeks pregnant i am still scared to death and my heart is still mending from the baby i lost.but we got to see our baby at 9wk5d and it was normal and healthy so I have been confident enough to share with family and close friends.not quit at the 12 wk mark where i had thought i was going to wait to share the news,but the ultrasound gave me the hope and excitement i needed to not be so scared.

MelanieJW7 |

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I'm not sure what I am going to do. I'm only 4 weeks today, but I've been getting positive HPTs for 6 days already.... my first appointment is two weeks from tomorrow and I don't know when they'll schedule me for an U/S... we both told our parents with my first pregnancy at 5 weeks and then waited until bloodwork came back to tell the rest of the family at 6 weeks because we were SO excited and I started miscarrying the very next morning.... I don't think i can wait until 12 weeks, but I think I really want to see/hear heartbeat first.... only my MIL and one coworker have a bad habit of asking me point blank if i'm "pregnant again yet?" and I can't lie!

BMuz13 |

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i am 9 weeks now. we told our immediate families just because we thought we would never be able to hide it while we were away on mini vacations. we are slowly starting to tell our friends and extended family as we see them in person. our biggest thing was that I got pregnant on our honeymoon. so we started telling people by saying "we have this great picture to show you from the wedding" and then we pull out the ultrasound :) everyone has been in complete shock but so excited so far. every family is different. just tell people when you feel most comfortable :) best of luck mommies!!!

cbb722 |

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My fiance and I found out we're 4 1/2 weeks pregnant. We're a mix of emotions. My parents live out of state and we're seeing them for Labor Day weekend. I'll be 6 wks. First doctor apt is the day after we get back. Idk if I should tell them or not, because the next time I'd see them in person would be at our wedding in October...

djdanib24 |

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The first time I got pregnant we didn't tell anyone. I miscarried that LO at 7 weeks 4 days. This time, as soon as we suspected - the little at home test was positive - we told our families. Just in case something does go wrong - GOD FORBID!!! - we have their love and support. So far, I am at 9 weeks 5 days and so far everyting is fine.

jyoung630 |

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I am 8 weeks today. My first ultrasound is scheduled for September 11th. I can hardly wait. I just wanna know that my baby has a heartbeat and that everything is fine. I told my parents, my in-laws and my sisters right away, and couple of friends at 6 weeks. I think it's a personal decision. I know that first 12 weeks are very critical, but really you never know. You might tell people at 12 weeks and God Forbid you might have a miscarriage after 12 weeks. It can happen at any time. SCARY!

almedinaa |

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I would recommend waiting until maybe week 8 or 9. I miscarried at about 7 weeks and had only told - aside from my mom & mother-in-law, one mommyfriend (that I work with) so she helped me out during, and w/the symptoms of miscarriage. It's super exciting, I know, but before you blurt it out on facebook or at a party, enjoy your little secret and wait until it may be safe. I'm anxious as you-know-what to confirm my pregnancy! Hope this helps - and congrats!

lhejtmanek |

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I am 11w3d. I had my first doctors appointment August 14th a day before I was 9wks. I saw the baby and heard the wonderful heartbeat. I didn't find out until I was about 6wks along. My next appointment is Sept. 6th. I'll be 12w1d. So far my husband and I have told my parents and siblings. His parents and brother. Our grandmothers and my best friend & her fiance. I am hoping for a healthy pregnancy. I am very paranoid about almost everything so I think I will be holding off on telling the rest of the world until I feel comfortable about it. Good luck to all the other pregnant ladies. I pray for a healthy, happy pregnancy for each of you!

Burnham10 |

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I started to tell people as soon as I found out with my last pregnancy. We miscarried and the worst part was telling people. This time around I am waiting until the 12 week mark. I think it is ok to let a couple people really close to you in on it. But I wouldn't go posting it on Facebook or anything

MrsLaurenFrost |

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I have had a total of 4 pregnancies. The first one, I miscarried. I was 6 weeks along and I had told my parents, and my siblings. It was very akward to tell them all I had lost the baby. I had found out at 4 weeks (as soon as possible). Then I had my son Joshua, the second time (3 years now). With him, I told my parents at 5 weeks, and my siblings again. At 8 weeks, I told everyone else (facebook LOL). Then with my third pregnancy, I had Hayden my 2nd son (1 year). I told my parents and siblings at 7 weeks. Then again with the whole world at 8 weeks (facebook). This past June, I got pregnant unexpectantly (for the first time), and my husband and i were happy anyway. But I miscarried.litterally 1 day after I went to the doctor and had a blood test done to find out that i was pregnant. The worst part is that i had told my parents again, and my 2 sisters, already! So again, I had to tell them, it wasn't happening. Now, October, my husband and I planned it, and we believe I'm pregnant! (I've had a very easy time getting pregnant each time) So it's safe to assume I am! LOL We are hoping too. :) All in all, I would say, God will choose the time you are suppose to have a baby so telling everyone or just your parents, doesn't sabbatage or jinx, you to have a miscarrage. Tell them if you feel like! :) It's an exciting time.

Jessicakphillips |

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This is my first pregnancy so my husband and I were so excited we couldn't wait until 12 weeks to tell our families. We spilled the beans at 8 weeks to our parents and siblings but decided to wait a while to announce it on the internet. Most people didn't know we were expecting until we posted our 20 weeks ultrasound picture on facebook and announced the gender. I'm very happy with the way we shared the news, everything worked out perfect. My due date is tomorrow and I can't wait to meet our little girl soon!

adamstentzel |

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I actually found out I was pregnant last week. I am currently 5 weeks and freaking out! The fella and I have decided to wait until Christmas to share the news with friends and family, you know, as a gift. I'm eager and cannot wait to share the exciting news. This will be our first child and we couldn't be happier.

lucialma |

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I found out I was pregnant last Saturday morning (now 5 weeks - horray!) and tried not to tell my closest friends but...we were due to go out for dinner that night and they caught on right away when I didn't order a glass of red wine (my usual) and they knew we had been trying for Baby #2. OOPS! Hubby and I are going to TRY and wait to tell the family closer to Christmas but I can't see that happening :)

SmithDaniels |

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After reading all these comments I feel little scary. I am 9weeks pregnant, I told about my pregnancy almost all of my friend and relatives. I work as a Nurse and my work load is heavy and stressful , I thought it would be better to tell my coworker so I can get help. My Dr. appointment is on Dec14th. I am hoping for good. Personally, It would be better to keep secrest.

BishnuD78 |

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we are 9 weeks a long, and my thought is that even if something goes awry and we do end up losing our pregnancy (God forbid) I'd rather have my friends and family there to support us through that than to just hurt alone.

eriannie24 |

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My first pregnancy, (5 years ago) I couldn't wait to tell everyone ASAP. I ended up having a Missed Miscarriage at 16wks. I was devastated. Now, I'm almost 12 weeks and I'm still afraid to tell anyone. Our parents know and my grandma knows but that's about it.

bkran30 |

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We told family only on Christmas. We specifically told them not to mention it on Facebook or to anyone else because we didn't want to make a public announcement until my first prenatal and confirm a heartbeat. (Still waiting on that one.) But the family was really happy that they all got such a cool Christmas present!

faerieprincess87 |

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With my first pregnancy we told everyone after my confirmation appointment. But after losing that baby with my second pregnancy we only told close family and friend and waited to tell everyone else until around 20 weeks.

allybaby85 |

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To each his own on this one... I am 11 weeks today, and so far we have only told our parents and our siblings. I have my first official visit with my OB tomorrow, and if the heartbeat looks good we will start leaking our news. Probably won't go "facebook official" until at least 12 weeks. I do agree with previous posters who have said that it can be good to start celebrating the joy of a new life, even if it ends too soon. I will want these happy memories of sharing the news, even if we lose the baby. I work in OB, so I know how fragile life is, and how things can go wrong at any stage of the pregnancy. I keep my faith in God, and will keep praying for this little one!

Bliss312 |

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I'm 11 weeks today and I have only told my younger sister (who has a 2 year old daughter and had the same symptoms). I needed someone to talk to about it. My husband and I promised to tell our family and friends after my doctor appt tomorrow. I bought my niece a embroidered t-shirt that says 'Big Cousin'. We are all going to my parents and sending her in the room to surprise them. It's been hard having to fake drink in public with friends and family. I would've loved to tell sooner.

Dspisak |

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We told my parents and sisters a couple of days after the doctor confirmed the pregnancy (I was at 6 weeks). Since I have a great and supportive family (including a sister with two kids and one who is also currently pregnant), I wanted them to know so that they could give me/us advice, suggestions, prayers, or general support and love. In the terrible event that something happened to the baby, I would want them to know so that they could help us through it. We've seen the heartbeat now, and the baby looks good and healthy, and I'm dying to start telling close friends and other family, but there's no harm in being cautious. I think we'll tell the in-laws pretty soon, and once I've gone for my next follow up, when I'm at about 11 weeks, then I think I'll be ready to start telling others. It really is whatever works best for you, but just make sure you think it through and think ahead!

hunli |

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Found out 3 days ago. I told my best friend straight away and obviously my husband knows! I am bursting to tell the world but we've agreed we'll wait for our first appointment to check that everything is fine, and to hear the heartbeat and then we'll tell close family. I'll try keep it from other people until 12 weeks but i know that will be very hard! This is my first pregnany and so grateful everyhting has happended so easily so far!

AmyRowlings |

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Thank you Always. I feel the EXACT same way!

candulce |

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Hubby and I told my immediate family the day we found out and had to wait awhile to to his immediate family due too MIL having the flu (We want to do it in person). Then we decided to wait till 8 weeks to tell our close friends and 12 weeks for everyone else! We figured even if we miscarried we would have support. After going through IVF we rather enjoy this time with family for our first baby!

Kikixoxo001 |

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Hello, so new this blog thing :). I just found out I'm preggers. This will be my 2nd, and I have a 4 yr old. I'm only 4 weeks and my appt isn't till the 25th - ishhhh ... I def want to tell everyone after the dr appt once I know everything looks good, but of course I did tell some of my close friends since they knew I've been trying for about 5 months now. Very hard to keep a secret this big. i can't wait to blur it out = ) .. but I think everyone should do whats best for them, and what they feel comfortable doing. Can't wait to tell my 4 yr old .. she has been asking to be a big sister a lot the past few months = )

semra138 |

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I found out right away that i was pregnant. This is my second preg. the first one i had a miscarriage right around 4 weeks. Unfortunately, i told my parents and my boss. I was too excited. Then one day after i had a miscarriage. i was so sad. i didn't get any support from anyone. everyone was just freaking out! This time around i told my parents again at 4 weeks. i told my boss at 6 weeks bc i couldn't control my excitement. Now i am 12 weeks and 3 days. Few close co-workers know about this. I had my NT scan yesterday and the doc said everything is fine. All tests came out fine. i have an appt with my gyno on 2/25. So, i am hoping all will be well then. I am planning to wait till 15 weeks to all my co-workers and the remanding family members.

madhavi424 |

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I just found out on Saturday that Im expecting my 3rd child. Im 7 weeks & I told my mom and my dad & my closest GF. The following night I couldnt help but tell my 11 yr old son. The next day I told my Sister. I am a little nervous because my 1st doctors appointment isnt until March 13th & I'll be 9 wks but I feel as though if anything was to happen, I will have them for support :)

jrosado983 |

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This is our first pregnancy and I wanted to wait 12 weeks before we tell anybody. But my hubby convinced me to tell our parents. So we did. But then he was so excited he blurted it out to his sisters, his bestfriend and his co-workers. I found out because his sister texted me her congratulations lol. So I told my brothers and my bestfriend and probably my coworkers when I get back to work. All the Facebook friends will have to wait after 12 weeks or at least after I see the OB tomorrow ;-)

merliza |

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Really wanting to tell the families at 7 weeks over Easter... Hmm decisions decisions!

eliseccu |

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I just re-read the "expert" answer...and it is basically saying that every woman has a miscarriage!!!!! Seriously?! Well, now I feel better (sarcasm dripping from the keyboard)

laurenmdrn16 |

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I wanted to keep it a secret but since I work in various labs I HAD to tell my coworkers as soon as I knew so everyone was on the same page about keeping harmful chemicals away from the pregnant lab tech. Since I had to inform all my co-workers we felt that it was wrong not to tell at least my close family.

alishamarti |

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The first time we were pregnant we told our immediate family right away, even before the first OB visit. Everything turned out ok and we now how a healthy and happy 3 year old. The second time - we did the same but lost the baby at 8 wks. This third time I waited until the 8 wks ob visit and told my sister and my husband told his sister. We waited until 10 wks to tell my parents and next week will tell his parents. I had to tell my boss right away due to my work requirements, which was good since she has had MC and healthy pregnancy right after. We are trying to wait after 12 wks to tell everyone else - but I am usually very fit and already showing a little bump and coworkers and friends look at my suspiciously. We haven;t told our 3 year old, but is hard to explain why mommy is sick all the time. I understand the reservation to wait until the risk is low , specially after an MC, it is hard not to feel the disappointment of people who love you, but at least telling one person that is close to you or has gone through it, always help - regardless of the outcome!

igg13 |

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Wow! I really like reading all these. I just LITERALLY just took a test and it's positive, my husband isn't even home yet! I already called my mom because I couldn't hold it in. I"m "4 weeks" by random internet calculations. I want to do neat announcements but my husband told nearly everyone when we decided to try! haha. It's a happy occasion and we are excited.

patsyonofre |

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I always told myself that I would wait till at least 12 weeks to start telling people. I knew that we would tell our parents and I would tell my oldest sister early on ........but I have failed miserably at that. We just found out and even though I am already having a few minor issues, I have told all our closest friends and family. I am pretty sure how I will handle things if something does go wrong, but I have been honest with everyone we have told and it just means more support for me one way or the other.

Tigress42284 |

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My boss and I are very close, so she was actually the first person to find out. I'm glad I told her because I have some tough days at work and its good to have someone who knows what I'm going through and can be sympathetic. We told my parents a few days later at 5 weeks (wanted to do it in person) and will be telling my in law family tonight also in person ( at 7 weeks, they live in another state). Other than that when we feel the need to burst out the exciting news we tell strangers - the lady at the coffee shop, nail salon, my husband tells random people he interacts with on a day to day basis. That will help us hold out until at least my first dr visit at 9 weeks or until the big week 12.

TheFutureSchoenfelds |

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I told my mom and mother in law at 6 weeks. This is because I tell my mom and his mom everything and I know I may need support if I get sick etc ( and I cant keep secrets about myself) I told my girls (only 3 ) as soon as I missed my period because those are my besties. I am currently in my 8th week and I have not told anyone but more and more people are asking because I stopped drinking alcohol. (And that would have not been the case pre pregnancy) My family would say hey do you want a wine cooler, or a drink and I would say no... and they would make little noises like hmm ... or ok(in a high pitched voice. I wont be able to keep the secret for much longer!

LovieLamb25 |

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My husband and I told everyone as soon as we found out during our first pregnancy. At our first ultrasound we found out that the baby stopped growing at 7 weeks and did not have a heartbeat. It was so emotionally and psychologically painful. It only made it worse that we had to go through telling everyone we had already told. On the bright side, there were an amazing amount of people who had gone through having a miscarriage themself and it was a great support system, although I would have preferred not have to tell anyone. This time, since I'm only 4 weeks along, we've only told our parents and siblings and are waiting until 12 weeks to tell everyone else incase it happens again.

VanNoordtbaby |

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RitaNW |

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My boyfriend and I just found out a couple weeks ago that we were expecting. I read up on all sorts of sites to figure out how far along I could possibly be and we thought it would be somewhere between 6 and 8 weeks. Of course, I told my parents, my brothers, and my boyfriend has told his mom and his sister, plus more than handful of our close friends know already. Went to the doctor yesterday and apparently I'm just 6 weeks along, but yet so many people know already. I'm not the type of person to keep exciting news to myself, so we've decided that we will make it public after the rest of the family members that we want to know about it first, know about it. Don't freak yourself out by reading too much into miscarriage. It's known that it's more likely to occur in the first trimester, but it's way more common than you'd think. It's obviously just not a subject that's probably publicized. I say tell who you want to tell. I've been doing the same, but with certain people, I tell them that I am trusting that it's confidential as I don't want certain other people who they are friends with to know. It's exciting news and you should be the one to share it. :)

corijolynn |

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We told our mothers, my brother, and best friends right after we found out. I am really close with my mom and brother so keeping it from them would have been impossible. It is nice to have people to share the craziness of the 1st trimester. We will tell the rest of our families the 13th week. For a number of reasons. I'm not the one that wanted to hold everyones baby or always dreamed of being a mother. While I'm excited, I need time to let this soak in for me before I get the "OMG You!" I need to process that first. With these hormones I get that response I will either let people have it or cry. LOL! Week 8 my hormornes are still all over the place. But I don't think there is a right or wrong way to do. You gotta do whats best for your situation.

Burgess129 |

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The first time we found out I was about 6 weeks and were so excited we told our families and they were so excited that they let it slip to extended family members. My grandfather was visiting and we ended up telling him before he went back home and the smile on that mans face was pure joy! We also told our close friends and my husband ended up telling a few coworkers at his company picnic when I wasn't around. Two weeks later at the first appointment we saw the heartbeat but the dr said that it was measuring at 6 weeks and was a little concerned. They sent me for bloodwork every other day for about a week and at first my levels were not going up as much as they would have liked but they were going up. They then sent me for an ultrasound and found out that we lost the baby. We were both heartbroken and having to tell everyone was one of the hardest moments of our lives. While I regretted telling people, I was so thankful for my mom and mil being there for me after the d&c and the support we received from family and friends. But we also found out one of our friends also had gone through the same thing so that extra support was helpful. Given what we went through with the m/c, even with all the support we had, we decided that the next time we are going to wait until 12 weeks before we tell anyone. But who knows, that might change...

brena328 |

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My husband and I have been trying for several years, and we finally got pregnant in may of this year, I went wild and told everyone I could find because I was so excited, I wanted to scream it from the roof tops. I ended up losing my baby, and It was so devastating to me. I had told so many people that whenever I would run into someone they would ask me how the baby was doing, and I would have to tell them that I had lost the baby. It killed me every time, but then again it also made me realize how many people cared about my husband and I. My doctor gave me a 3 month waiting period until I could start trying again, and when that flood gate opened, we were on it. Im now pregnant and I am going to be very careful about who I tell in the weeks leading to 12 weeks, because I don't want to have to go through the heart ache that I did in the first pregnancy.

ASHandANDY2025 |

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We are pregnant with our first and just told our parents, siblings and grandparents after our 9 week appointment where we got a sonogram picture and heard the heartbeat. They were so overjoyed! We are so excited and I want to tell everyone, but we want to be sensitive to our my situation (I am a teacher, due date is a month before school gets out) so I want to tell my boss first personally and have ideas ready to share with her about who can take my place and finish the year with my students. I think that if I have some suggestions and plans it will be appreciated and make it smoother. We are telling other relatives/cousins/closest friends after 11 weeks, then my boss and right after she knows and has a heads up, we will start telling people as we see them. I don't want to make a huge deal on facebook like all my friends do... since there are so many friends I'd rather tell in person or call than have them find out through an impersonal status update. Praying our baby is safe and healthy!

jaime363 |

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Yes

cajuntjv |

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I guess I would ask opinions from you as a collective group: My spouse is now 9 weeks pregnant, a classic butch lesbian, and she has told her co-workers and boss. I have been very quiet but I told my Mom, and messaged my sister and brothers. My spouse is very unsure as to when/if she should tell her aging mother, who is a curmudgeon, very angry, super critical, and full of vinegar. If her mother finds out through the grapevine, it would be worse, we are cross-country, but we expect an earful when we do spill the beans. We are 3 weeks from the end of our first trimester, what do you think she should do?

ArrianaBE |

Q&A: When to tell people I'm pregnant?

Today I am 7 weeks with our first baby. I have known since I was 4 weeks pregnant, and it seems like every week I tell a couple of people. It's not really planned, but with being so excited, sick, and not able to drink, it's kind of hard for me to keep it secret without people suspecting something. The day that we found out, I told my sister and best friend. At 5 weeks when the doctor confirmed, I told my boss and another close friend. At 6 weeks, after we heard the heartbeat, I told my coworkers because I've been pretty sick at work and can't lift anything heavier than 25lbs. Yesterday, I told 2 more close friends. Now that all of my best friends and coworkers know, I don't plan to tell anyone else until we tell our parents. We are telling my parents when we go visit them for Thanksgiving (I'll be 9 weeks), because we want to tell them in person and we are telling my husband's parents when we visit them for Christmas (I'll be 13 weeks). I know that my girlfriends are praying for me as I have prayed for them during their pregnancies and I'm not very worried. I hope that all goes well and I can't wait until we tell our families!

tijwannawilliams |

Q&A: When to tell people I'm pregnant?

We told his immediate family, mine and I told a few girlfriends. Other than that we are waiting. I am only 5 weeks along.

katyyoder |

Q&A: When to tell people I'm pregnant?

I'm 5 weeks.. My mom found out right away because I was with her when I took the test due to problems in my relationship. I've also had to tell my boss because I'm having complications with the pregnancy preventing me from working. I don't see the point in waiting. It's a horrible thought, but just because you make it past 20 weeks, doesn't mean you still can't miscarry, and just because you make it to labour, doesn't mean you're baby won't be a still-birth, or die to other diseases. We're waiting until x-mas day to tell hubby's parents and soon to be great-grandparents, then after Christmas to tell the rest of our friends and extended family. Life is so unexpected, that in my opinion, it would be a horrible thing for a family member/friend to pass suddenly without them knowing some beautiful is on its way.

MrsGillen29 |

Q&A: When to tell people I'm pregnant?

This is my second pregnancy, I have a 3 yr old son. When I found out a couple weeks ago I told my mom, sister, the lady that watches my son (we're also good friends), my cousin, and two of my really close friends. I agree that you should tell people b/c since we have told people, they have been praying with us and for us for a healthy child. I can only pray that GOD will watch over me and this baby and we have a successful birth. Telling people will not determine what happens, if anything it shows you how many people are really on your side and who are there to truly support you.

Braden82 |

Q&A: When to tell people I'm pregnant?

when i had my daughter almost 7 years ago we told everyone then i had 2 miscarriages and now im pregnant again 25 weeks and just found out 2 weeks ago.....i took 3 tests because i didn't believe it I'm still very nervous at every little thing because of my 2 miscarriages I'm scared to tell anyone even though i'm already 25 weeks

jay3907 |

Q&A: When to tell people I'm pregnant?

It is up to you. Looking at my family history and my own health, I told family and close friends right away. My friend is waiting based on the same reasons. I know that I will want my friends and family support if "knock on wood" anything does happen

emilyghr |

Q&A: When to tell people I'm pregnant?

I'm at 6 weeks and my husband and I told our immediate families right away. We had a wedding we attended this weekend, and told a few close friends, only so they wouldn't be nosy and ask why I wasn't drinking. We will wait to announce publicly till after the first trimester, since this is our first pregnancy.

Tara828 |

Q&A: When to tell people I'm pregnant?

With all of my pregnancies I waited. My first I told everyone around 20 weeks, I ended up miscarrying 3 times after my daughter was born so I kept them all to myself. When I got pregnant with my son I told everyone around 20 weeks given my history. Now I'm about 5 weeks pregnant and my husband and I are so excited but we're trying to keep hush as much as possible. It's really hard though. But 2 more weeks and we're going to spill the beans.

RobinsonMoody |

Q&A: When to tell people I'm pregnant?

We just found out a few days ago I'm pregnant with #2 and I'm dying to tell someone. I am 6 weeks now and wanted to wait until my first OB appt at least, but they can't get me in until I'm 10 weeks! I know that most of my family would be supportive if something were to happen to the baby, but there are just a couple of people who worry me which is the only reason I really want to try to keep it to myself a little longer. My dad has no filter and would want to bring it up all the time(and tell everyone else he knows about it) and feel the need to offer some sort of awful advice every time I saw him. Then my mother-in-law, who is very sweet and would mean well, would be the one texting and calling everyday asking how I'm doing and also giving crazy advice. We will see how long we can hold off on sharing the good news!

adamstentzel |

Q&A: When to tell people I'm pregnant?

I told people right away with my first and miscarried at 5 weeks. I still told everyone when I got pregnant with DD and DS both because I wanted support if something happened and I was still excited. I'm also an eternal optimist so I figured the chances were that everything would be fine . I am about 6 weeks with my third and my co-workers are like family practically. We're like a fraternity (just co-ed) so we know a lot of each other's business. I just told my boss today and he got really excited (he's a father of 3 and also always tells me how awesome my kids are) and said "AWESOME!" high fived me and that was it! I can't keep my mouth shut about good things when it's my own business. I think it depends on your relationship with your boss & colleagues.

alohabrooke78 |

Q&A: When to tell people I'm pregnant?

I found out I was pregnant in September and decided only to tell my mom, sister, MIL, and a few close friends. Basically, the people I would go to if something happened. It was so hard to keep it a secret, but I am glad I did. I ended up having a miscarriage. The people that I told were the people I needed to get me through it. This time, I will probably tell the same people, knowing again I would turn to them if something happened again. It is all total preference.

KLKilgore |

Q&A: When to tell people I'm pregnant?

First pregnancy we told everyone at 11 weeks everything looked fine and almost hit the three month mark. No lie the next appointment at 13 weeks we found out our baby had a fatal diagnosis and had 1% chance to live and only minutes at that. We had to tell everyone what was going on which was another pain in itself. I ended up carrying full term so people would have found out anyway but I'm pregnant now (17 weeks) and only our families know. Even though everything has checked out we are both terrified to tell anyone. It seems like no time period is safe.

abird154 |

Q&A: When to tell people I'm pregnant?

I'm 9 weeks pregnant and I REALLY want to tell everyone now but I've been able to hold off for one reason. I'm an artist and I want to paint a family portrait for each side of the family. The plan is to make it really cute - like a family of bears. :-) In the portrait, I'll be sure to add a baby in my husbands arms so the viewer may not notice the baby at first so it should be a fun surprise. Anyway, they'll take me a few more weeks to finish. But I also agree with futureterrell. Totally your call on when to tell folks!

xtine_xtine |

Q&A: When to tell people I'm pregnant?

We are waiting. I am about 10 - 11 weeks. My husband is dying to tell his family especially now that his cousin came out yesterday and announced that she is 6 weeks pregnant. I have told a handful of people - close family and friends, a girl that just had a baby, another girl in my office who is also pregnant, but am waiting for the rest.

Babysimba13 |

Q&A: When to tell people I'm pregnant?

Hello ladies, we have been trying for about 7 years and finally out IVF cycle worked, but we shared the news early because people already knew that we were going through the process, so people were waiting. I felt good about sharing it and scared but I feel that the support I would need GOD forbid something happen would be there.

2Ferbz |

Q&A: When to tell people I'm pregnant?

I would tell my closest friends and family. Even if God forbid I ever did miscarry, I would tell them that too anyway.

Lissa2n4 |

Q&A: When to tell people I'm pregnant?

We are six weeks into our first pregnancy and havent told anyone. We are waiting until our first doctors appointment to tell our families and then planning to wait the 12 weeks to tell friends. I figure that way if something does happen and we miscarry, I will still have the choice to tell a select few people rather than let news travel.

lmcneill929 |

Q&A: When to tell people I'm pregnant?

My hubby and I are fairly private people, but when I got pregnant earlier this year we were so excited and thrilled that we told my immediate family and his mom and siblings...we told his mom not to tell anyone else until we're ready to spread the news ourselves but at a dinner at a distant relatives home (people I've never met before until that evening) she decided to announce it for us and it upset me. We ended up miscarrying that weekend and it was very difficult. I had a lot of support from my family but it was so very awkward. We got pregnant two months later and kept it to ourselves, elated for a second chance, but sadly we miscarried again at 6 weeks. So we're expecting again, our midwife keeping a close watch and some supplemental help, so we're hopeful. I told my mom because I am a little afraid, but it's just my husband and her that know until we reach our 12-13 week mark. Sometimes it's hard to make the decision, but just trust your gut. The support was very helpful, all the women in my family, strong and wise women, shared their miscarriages with me and all these women went on to have 2-5 children! I would just recommend that you keep it within your immediate close family and friends, the support was very helpful. :) Congrats on your baby!

jnettegarcia |

Q&A: When to tell people I'm pregnant?

I'm only 5 weeks and have told a few close friends and family members, i am really excited and want to tell my partners family too, (I'm close friends with his sister) He's against telling them yet so we'll wait until the ultrasound for them though. :)

Pix3lle |

Q&A: When to tell people I'm pregnant?

The first time I got a positive result from a pregnancy test, we told our parents and our besties. Unfortunately, I started bleeding a week later and we found out that the positive result was from left over hormones from a miscarriage I didn't even know I'd had the month before because it had occurred right when I was expecting my period. (I have a longer, less regular cycle 32-36 day, so it hadn't even occurred to me to take a pregnancy test yet that month.) We were heart broken and then to make matters worse, we had to call, text, or in some way alert all 10 people we'd told that I wasn't pregnant. I felt like such an idiot! This time around (we got a positive test a week ago), I told my husband, my BFF and my mom. No one else! I only told those three because they'll be the ones picking up the pieces if it doesn't work out this time around. I know it's hard. I'm dying to tell friends! But, until the doctor confirms at my eight week appointment and I've cleared the first trimester, our lips are sealed.

mrssylvester |

Q&A: When to tell people I'm pregnant?

I told everyone I was having twins at 8 weeks when we found out. I miscarried at almost 12 weeks. I didn't regret telling because everyone would of known something was wrong cause I had to t make off work for a D and C and I was a mess. I think less people asked what was wrong because they already knew.

Ashike |