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Q&A: When to tell my boss I'm pregnant?

How and when should I tell my boss that I’m pregnant?

Re: How and when should I tell my boss that I’m pregnant?

The Bump Expert

There's no hard rule, but most women wait until the end of the first trimester (when miscarriage risk goes way down). But, you may want to do it sooner or later depending on your relationship with your boss and when you start to show. Better to break the news yourself than let someone else(or your growing belly!) do it for you. Try to break the news after you’ve completed an assignment -- this sends the message that your condition hasn’t impacted your productivity thus far, and that you have every intention of doing your job (and doing it well) for the remainder of your pregnancy.

Another smart move: Before you talk, put together a plan outlining how your duties will be covered during your leave. Your boss is much more likely to greet the news with enthusiasm if he knows you’ve got the situation covered.

Paula Kashtan | May 01 , 2009 1:40 PM

re: Q: When Should I Tell My Boss?

I work at a library so it's hard doing research there when everyone knows me. It's a smaller library. So I have to be more covert in my research when I go there.

Mandalynn252 | March 09 , 2008 5:56 AM

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I work at a library so it's hard doing research there when everyone knows me. It's a smaller library. So I have to be more covert in my research when I go there. [url=http://lilypie.com][img]http://bd.lilypie.com/85L3m4/.png[/img][/url]

Mandalynn252 | March 09 , 2008 5:58 AM

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I work at a library so it's hard doing research there when everyone knows me. It's a smaller library. So I have to be more covert in my research when I go there. http://bd.lilypie.com/85L3m4.png

Mandalynn252 | March 09 , 2008 5:58 AM

re: Q: When Should I Tell My Boss?

I work at a library so it's hard doing research there when everyone knows me. It's a smaller library. So I have to be more covert in my research when I go there. Lilypie Expecting a baby Ticker

Mandalynn252 | March 09 , 2008 5:58 AM

re: Q: When should I tell my boss?

what if you started a job a month ago?

df78opal | October 04 , 2008 5:29 AM

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I'm having the same problem. I am a contract employee and signed on in October, but I am just not completing my licensing, so my start date is in 2 weeks. I'm newly married just 3 weeks ago and we are shocked to find out we are having a honeymoon baby! I don't know how this will go with the new job... I only get 4 weeks paid vaca a year.

RobynW11108 | November 19 , 2008 9:57 PM

re: Q: When should I tell my boss?

I'm 5 weeks pregnant and I decided to tell my boss sooner rather than later so that my symptoms don't tell her for me. She was totally cool with it and congratulated me. Now I have the ease of mind that she knows and will be understanding if I suddenly come under the weather for some unknown reason.

skruhmin | February 09 , 2009 12:01 PM

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My coworkers are like my family so I told them as soon as I knew!!!

txlight75 | February 11 , 2009 11:23 AM

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I am having my first ultrasound at 8 1/2 weeks (I am 7 now) and then we will tell family and friends. I think I can hold out until week 10 to tell my boss and coworkers, but it will be tough. A little nervous since my pregnancy will really impact a big project timeline, so I want to give plenty of notice to be fair. Can't wait to share the good news, though!

FutureMrs.C | March 05 , 2009 10:05 AM

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i have the same problem as some of the other women here. I've only been at my new job for a month and it's a really small group. I'm really worried that people are just going to start noticing and I would rather tell them first. At the same time though I want them to know that I'm here, and I'm here to work, and really establish myself. I'm working through a temp agency right now and I asked for advice from them and they said to wait, but I forgot a few things the other day and a co-worker said "what are you pregnant or something?" and I'm not sure if I did a very good job at hiding my shock that she guessed it right on. Any advice?

rcollier_17 | March 19 , 2009 9:22 AM

re: Q: When should I tell my boss?

I have a very physical job and in order for me to continue working for the same company during my future pregnancy it seems as though I will need to let my boss know prior to conceiving(so I can be put in a more office like position). Am I over thinking this? Suggestions???

kensnyder | June 11 , 2009 8:58 PM

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I am somewhere between wk 7 and 10 (haven't confirmed with a doctor yet), and told my boss and the crew this past week. Everyone has been really supportive, and that certainly helps (especially when I have to take breaks due to nausea). Still figuring out if I'll be a SAHM, but either way, I know my boss appreciated me telling him sooner rather than later.

MissRachelKate | June 12 , 2009 4:26 PM

Q&A: When to tell my boss I'm pregnant?

I'm planning on telling my boss next week; I'll be 13 weeks. I am starting to show, so I want to tell him before everyone starts to wonder if I'm pregnant. I'm kind of nervous. I was just promoted to manager of my department, we work 60+ hours a week, and I work mostly with men (who never see their kids). I think he's going to feel like I shouldn't have accepted the promotion since I knew I was pregnant and will be taking time off. He would never say anything like that, but I'm afraid that's what he'll be thinking. However, I think it will be a relief to tell finally tell him. Wish me luck!

Jessie_V | July 24 , 2009 10:56 PM

Q&A: When to tell my boss I'm pregnant?

I work at a hisgh school and thankfully the teacher that iI work for is one of my best friends. She was excited because she too is trying to concieve. I also told the othe staff but I haven't told the big wigs yet like the principal and office staff. The good thing is I have until september to prepare myself. the only thing is that I'm going to show up close to 6 months pregnant!!

mommy2Bagain | August 06 , 2009 9:53 PM

Q&A: When to tell my boss I'm pregnant?

What if you just got hired for a new job and now just find you are pregnant?

nicberg555 | August 14 , 2009 3:22 PM

Q&A: When to tell my boss I'm pregnant?

I was just hired for a new job, and had to tell my boss because I had to have an unexpected Doc appt that interfered with my work schedule. She took the news well, congratulated me, and then blurted it to the entire company. At first I was upset she did that, until she explained her reasoning : should I ever NEED "special" treatment, everyone will know why. It turns out I received WAY more support than I originally thought I would. And all the other women who have had kids are constantly making sure I'm feeling good (not in a smothering way), and then men never let me carry anything! I hope you all have as supportive a work environment as I do, and I encourage everyone to tell their bosses before their bodies do for them - it won't help if it looks like you are keeping secrets!

Erin0922 | August 17 , 2009 5:19 PM

Q&A: When to tell my boss I'm pregnant?

we're ttc right now, but i'm wondering when to let everyone i work with know. i'm a nurse on a busy med-surg floor and i do a lot of lifting and heavy labor at times. i don't want to take the risk of m/c by lifting, but i can't just stop without a valid reason. any suggestions?

karissa2009 | October 19 , 2009 10:59 PM

Q&A: When to tell my boss I'm pregnant?

I told my manager this week (a few days before hitting 11 weeks). I had an u/s at 8 weeks and I felt comfortable telling him this week because we had seen the babies heartbeat. I was starting to show earlier this time (this is #2 for me) and people were wondering. So, there is no hard rule of thumb about when to tell -- although some people say tell at 12 weeks or more...

Shauna07 | October 25 , 2009 10:21 AM

Q&A: When to tell my boss I'm pregnant?

I'm 13 weeks along and started my new job right before I found out I was pregnant. I will tell my boss after Thanksgiving since my 90 day probation will be up. I'm not showing yet and didn't have horrible nausea so I've been able to hide it.

mertense | November 15 , 2009 11:19 AM

Q&A: When to tell my boss I'm pregnant?

My DH and I just had two tests return positive results over the weekend and are going to the ObGyn this week to confirm. If I'm doing the math right, I think we're about 8 wks along. We are both excited and ready. However, my SIL just informed me last Monday that she had a miscarriage and my direct supervisor at work has fertility issues and has been trying to conceive for over a year and is now on fertility drugs. We weren't actively trying or not trying to conceive, so I feel a tinge of guilt because it seems we are and these two other women are not. To top it off, I own my own business and plan to leave my current job before the baby is due, so maternity leave won't even be an issue. Of course I don't want them to know that! I want to tell both sets of parents that we are expecting, however, on the heels of my SIL m/c and my boss, whom isn't the warmest person anyway, what should I do?

Snarkle | November 16 , 2009 1:02 PM

Q&A: When to tell my boss I'm pregnant?

Q&A: When to tell my boss I'm pregnant? I decided to wait and keep it a secret from everybody except for two dear friends (and of course my honey) until I was 16 weeks along. We were waiting for the right time, and months before had just purchased a new home. I have a pretty good relationship with my boss, and I decided to announce the pregnancy at our housewarming party (with my boss being invited, of course). I felt that my boss's knowledge of my pregnancy shouldn't take precedence over anyone else's. We did indeed announce it at the party; it was a joyous occasion, and a great surprise for all. But unfortunately my boss, at the last minute, could not make it. So I had to tell her the next business day. When I saw her, I expressed to her that we missed her at the party and it was the event of the year, mainly because of the "good news". Then I told her, and she almost guessed it at the same time. She congratulated me and is excited about our first child, as we are almost two years newly married. I want to say that there is no "perfect" or "right" time to let your employer know. Just know that this is a time not to worry, not to stress, but to be extremely grateful for the gift that is inside you.

kpharris | January 24 , 2010 9:16 PM

Q&A: When to tell my boss I'm pregnant?

I am almost 8 weeks now, and I work with almost ALL men. I mean like ALL men, so I am really nervous about when and how to break the news to them. I have been in my position for nearly a year now, so I feel pretty secure, but its the potential awkwardness that is really making me nervous!!!

JmeDsign | January 27 , 2010 8:31 PM

Q&A: When to tell my boss I'm pregnant?

My company has downsized a few times within the last 2 years due to the economy. In that time they have let 2 women who are pregnant go in their layoffs. Since we never know when layoffs are coming and I doubt the company wants to pay my maternity leave if they didnt want to pay anyone elses I am keeping my mouth shut until I am really showing or legally have to tell them (which varies from state to state)

cherieblonde | January 29 , 2010 11:05 AM

Q&A: When to tell my boss I'm pregnant?

I told my supervisor around 8 weeks because I have a physically strenuous job (personal trainer). I can now legitimately avoid some potential hazards (like industrial strength cleaning chemicals and super heavy lifting) without people thinking I am just slacking. It totally depends on your job requirements and personal situation.

travs.ten | February 06 , 2010 7:59 AM