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Q&A: Unsure of parent potential?

Right now I'm stay-at-home and 12 weeks pregnant. I can't seem to get the motivation together to keep everything neat and organized in the house like I did before. Because of this I feel like I'm going to be an inadequate mom. I mean, if I can't even keep my house clean while being pregnant, how am I going to be able to take good care of the baby?

Re: Right now I'm stay-at-home and 12 weeks pregnant. I can't seem to get the motivation together to keep everything neat and organized in the house like I did before. Because of this I feel like I'm going to be an inadequate mom. I mean, if I can't even keep my house clean while being pregnant, how am I going to be able to take good care of the baby?

The Bump Expert

It is very important to remember you are still in your first trimester of pregnancy, where fatigue is still one of the most common symptoms. During this time you should give in to the fatigue and rest, instead of trying to fight it. You cannot judge yourself or compare yourself during this time because there is a great deal going on (both physically and emotionally) that is causing you to become so tired.

Being tired during pregnancy (something common in almost all pregnant moms) has nothing at all to do with how you will be as a mother. Being a good mother comes from loving and caring for your child to the best of your ability, and it has no basis on how well you clean your home. I think you are being very hard on yourself and instead of focusing on the negatives, try focusing on the positives of being tired. If you are concerned about being tired after the baby, think of ways to incorporate help into your home. Sometimes beautiful moments happen when both Mommy and baby are resting together and creating a wonderful bond. Take this alone time during pregnancy to work on fostering a new attitude and implementing a back-up plan of support during pregnancy and birth. Most of all, be good to yourself by resting, taking care of yourself, and believing in your capacity to mother.

Tammy Gold

re: Q: Unsure of parent potential?

Dont worry - I was a neat freak and only 7 weeks into being pregnant, I am sometimes to tired to lift my arms... :) - enjoy and relax, it will be okay. My friend has a sign on her fridge: Excuse the mess, I was playing with my kids!

eisenberg0814 |

re: Q: Unsure of parent potential?

IMO, it is usually the people who question whether or not they'll be good parents, that end up being the best moms and dads. :) Wishing you a happy and healthy 9 months!

Mrs.R2D2 |

re: Q: Unsure of parent potential?

I grew up in a home that was "lived in". My mom remembers going to the park to play and having to return to push in a chair she left out from the table. I remember running after the ice cream truck while my mom chased after with money. : )

TaraMleczynski |

Q&A: Unsure of parent potential?

This made me feel so much better! Not only am I almost 9 weeks pregnant but i also have a broken ankle that I'm learning to walk on! I'm so exhausted all the time i can barely do laundry and I was starting to feel like I was going to be a terrible mom if I can't keep up with anything already! Thanks so much!

**Katy |

Q&A: Unsure of parent potential?

I'm sort of the opposite. I've been cleaning more now (I'm 5 weeks) to try to make myself feel better about what is to come. I guess I'm trying to prove to myself that even through all the fatigue, I can still clean up the house.

brokensmyl |

Q&A: Unsure of parent potential?

UGHH I FEEL U!!! me n my husband just moved 10 hours away from my family n friends so thank goodness his cuz n her hubby moved with us because i would go in to these crying spells about being useless. they all laughed n told me it was normal to be tired plus im having complications with a cyst that is the most pain ive ever been n kicks my butt even more! i helped the best i could but weve been here a week n with my hubby workn 40 hrs a week our room looks like crap n he understands that im tired so reading its normal n knowing im not alone is so helpful!

kelseypolk |

Q&A: Unsure of parent potential?

I'm so frustrated with the whole situation. I'm exhausted ALL THE TIME! When I'm not sleeping or laying down, I feel nauseated, dizzy, aloof, or lightheaded. My husband is super busy at his job in the Air Force, is working on his masters degree, and playing in a softball league. Our house looks like a pig stye and I don't know how to make him understand how I am feeling. He is a well educated man and reads about all of the benefits of exercising during pregnancy. His mom was a professional athlete and had tons of energy during all of her pregnancies. He just doesn't get how I feel. How do I make him understand?

AroseF114 |

Q&A: Unsure of parent potential?

It seems to be totally natural to feel unsure if you can really cut it as a parent. Look at it this way: your body was able to not only conceive, but protect and nourish another living being! That is pretty amazing if you ask me. Personally, I just found out that I am pregnant! (Best Valentine's Day ever!) My GYN estimates based on LMP and beta hCG that I am between 6-8 weeks. So even though I am throwing up every 2 seconds (or so it feels) and I can barely keep my head off my desk at work, I feel like Superwoman! Just knowing that my body can create life is so exhilerating and exciting! So whenever you are doubting yourself, like I have done a million times, just remember how amazing you are and know that you can do it!

laurenmdrn16 |

Q&A: Unsure of parent potential?

Even though I am a school nurse and have spent my life taking care of others, I got so nervous when we found out I am pregnant. It is natural to feel intimidated by the thought of being completely and utterly responsible for a little life. Every day I question if I will be a good mom. Recently it has been tough since "all day" sickness laid me up for almost a week...I started to almost resent my baby. I know it sounds awful, but when you are glued to a toilet and unable to keep anything down, it is hard to think warm and fuzzy thoughts. However, I literally just had a moment that showed my maternal instincts have already started: I was sitting at my desk, doing data input, when I heard a noise that sounded exactly like a child tumbling down the stairs. Without thinking, I ran as fast as I could and surveyed the stairwell. Our receptionist was giggling and asked what was wrong. I was like "There's a child in trouble!" in my best superhero impression. She full on laughed and said "That is the sound the door always makes. The kids just left for recess..." I sheepishly retreated to my office as the receptionist said "Well, it must be those maternal instincts working in overdrive". When she said that, I immediately brightened and was filled with confidence. If I can hear a door opening on the other side of the school from my office and I immediately spring to action, my body and senses are already up to the daunting task of keeping my baby safe. Just remember, you have what it takes...and there will be little moments that prove it to you. Look for and celebrate those moments. Good luck to all my fellow mamas! :-)

laurenmdrn16 |