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Q&A: Should I find out gender?

I just found out I'm pregnant, and I don't know if I should find out the sex of my baby. Any advice?

Re: I just found out I'm pregnant, and I don't know if I should find out the sex of my baby. Any advice?

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No one can answer that question but you, so go with your gut! Obviously, the benefit of finding out is that it makes it easier to prep the nursery and purchase layette items. Yes, your family and friends will universally want to know so they can start gifting you with the pinks and blues, but ignore their pleas if you're holding out for the big surprise -- it'll be worth the wait!

If you really, truly need to know and can't wait another nanosecond, there's a new product on the market called Itelligender. It is the only urine-based gender test available that can be performed in the privacy of your own home. In as early as ten weeks of pregnancy, you'll know if you're having a John or a Jane!

Ellie and Melissa | June 01 , 2009 9:52 AM

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I don't want to know the gender of mine, but that has more to do with my belief that there are so few surprises in life, and babies are one of them. I also know that an u/s could ruin the surprise for us. ;) Either way, it's all up to you.

DavesPrincess | April 05 , 2008 9:47 AM

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I can't wait to find out the gender, but that's just because I really love shopping for the baby, and I'm not a huge fan of yellow or green.

Goalierd | April 08 , 2008 11:30 AM

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I can say if you find out the gender of your baby you will get a load of pink and blue clothes. That is fine, but you need equipment more. In the end its up you, but I agree with davesprincess, you only get so many surprises in life. So we are going to wait for sure!

jgamroth | April 08 , 2008 11:37 AM

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I think my husband and I are going to find out but not tell anyone else. All the previous grandkids are girls, and in my family, it has been all girls for two generations. Not sure I would want the attention of having a boy! The way I see it, the only time your pregnancy if private is up to the time you tell everyone! This way, by keeping the gender a secret, my husband and I can share something about the pregnancy just between the two of us. =)There are other alternatives to yellow and green! You can always do browns, cream and white. I am personally going to do everything aqua and chocolate brown - very trendy.

dawnzer | April 16 , 2008 12:37 PM

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Iam torn. I want to find out and I dont want to find out. DH wants to wait and I was all for that until people started pressuring me about finding out. I think I truly want to wait. I hope I can wait and be surprised.

MrsGMRMartin | April 22 , 2008 6:25 PM

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I think i definatly want to find out. I am so excited to get the room done & get "nested" in before the baby comes.

melanie-wood | May 16 , 2008 8:53 AM

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I am going to find out with the first and not the second.

Mrs.Nolan | May 24 , 2008 6:05 PM

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i already know what I'm having. at first i wanted to wait and be surprised but that plan failed miserably. I was dying to know at 12 weeks! The nwhen the doc asked if iwanted to know the gender i couldn't say no. Though at this point I'm the only one who knows what I'm having. DH wants to be surprised and it feels kinda cool knowing something about my pregnancy that my family can't go around announcing to the entire world. I really do love my family but they just dont get it sometimes

brittmariexo | December 23 , 2008 7:33 AM

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Brittmariexo: you could the babies gender out at week 12? in 14 weeks... i didn't know I could find out so soon! did you do a sonogram or they found out a different way? I had my first sonogram at 8 weeks... but we couldn't tell then

| January 11 , 2009 3:35 PM

Q&A: Should I find out gender?

My theory has always been that finding out the gender allows you to bond with your 'baby girl' or 'baby boy' in a whole different way - it gives your baby a bit more of an identity to connect with, but that is of course just my personal thinking. If you want to make finding out special, you can do what my sister did with both of hers and what I intend to do: have the doctor write it on a piece of paper, rather than tell you, when he or she knows the sex; then, put the folded paper in a box, wrap it up, and go out to dinner with your DH. Then open the box over dessert... it sort of makes finding out more of an event, and less anticlimactic!

jill_aitoro7 | July 18 , 2009 6:57 AM

Q&A: Should I find out gender?

These are my reasons for NOT finding out... 1. This is one of the few surprises you can have in life where you know you WILL evetually find out. 2. I don't want ALL pink or blue stuff. 3. It was my favorite part of my niece and nephew being born when my BIL came out and told us that is was a boy and it was a girl (not twins, he just got lucky to be able to say both at different time). Ultimately, it's your decision though so go with what feels right for you!

kanne529 | July 18 , 2009 6:12 PM

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***************** Please people. Finding out the gender before baby is born is STILL a surprise! When I went in for my ultrasound with my second, I was ecstatic and thrilled. Oh, and SURPRISED! So if you are going to find out early, don't let anyone make you feel like you are "ruining" the surprise. Because HELLO....you're not!!! *****************

ashsmash1 | July 19 , 2009 12:00 AM

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When i was pregnant with my son i found out what i was having so that i could prepare mentally for a boy or girl and im glad i did because when i had my son i was on the labour ward afterwards and a woman came in with her baby boy,she was convinced it was a girl thro her pregnancy and didnt find out the sex at the scan because she was so convinced she went out and bought pink and red everything including the pram and she ended up with a boy!!!!!!!!!

gia90210 | July 19 , 2009 9:59 AM

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It's a surprise whenever you find out - whether on a sonogram or in the delivery room. I want to find out before delivery so that I can plan accordingly (showers, bedding, etc.). It's your choice. Good luck!

Myke20 | July 19 , 2009 10:48 AM

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I say that is completely up to you. Everyone has their own preference. For instance, I would like to find out so I can plan out the decorations and tell the family & freinds what clothes to get. You can always go gender neutral. My neighbors did that and their nursery turned out beautiful. So it just depends on what you want to do. Some will tell you to do it, some won't. Just go off of what you want. That's the best advice I can give to anyone.

ernocs | July 20 , 2009 1:49 PM

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of course you should find out...how else are you gonna decorate the nursery?!?!

Faancy | July 22 , 2009 5:14 PM

Q&A: Should I find out gender?

Its completely your decision, my husband and I's preference is to know before hand. And either way, you r still getting a suprise, becuase you have no idea what your carrying! LOL If you want to create a little fun with it, find out the sex with your husband and keep it to yourself til the baby is born. Could be really fun! I might even do it.

deeb2001@yahoo.com | July 23 , 2009 12:58 PM

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I'm not finding out. I have one of each and i figure either way i'm going to be surprised so i'd rather be surprised. Anyway i need something to motivate me in the delivery room, with my daughter it was bc she was my first and for my second it was because i was finally having a boy and this time around i feel that me not knowing what it's going to be will help me push harder...

Sakred_1 | July 23 , 2009 2:00 PM

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The choice of course is yours...Personally I will not be finding out the sex, because of what a wonderful surprise it is! And there are definitely more colors that just yellow and green;)

ClarksAngel | July 25 , 2009 3:59 PM

Q&A: Should I find out gender?

i want to find out so bad as i don't know the gender of our baby yet.... but i think having it as a secret to everyone except our immediate family sounds fun too!

nicole31707 | July 25 , 2009 8:25 PM

Q&A: Should I find out gender?

We are not finding out. I older kids, a girl who is 7 and a boy who is 5. They are so excited, but they are really determined for the baby to be their respective sex. I know it might not happen, but I really don't want one of them sulking because they didn't get their desired brother or sister for the last half of my pregnancy. They'll be so excited to actually HAVE their little sibling that they won't care as much then what the baby is. Also, the nursery is being set up in our daughter's room, so even if we have a boy, we'd still want the decor to go with what she has. So, our solution is various shades of cyan, lime green, and purple.

shortyred919 | July 28 , 2009 2:46 PM

Q&A: Should I find out gender?

Personally, I can't wait to find out if we are having a girl or a boy. I guess it depends...we want to know so we can decorate the nursery accordingly, but also because I really like blue or pink, but not so much green or yellow...

mandimcdougall | August 04 , 2009 5:33 PM

Q&A: Should I find out gender?

Either way is fine. We are finding out as soon as we can, but that is us, not you. Make the decision you feel most comfortable with. If you are unsure when the doctor asks, have them put it in a sealed envelope and open if you decide you want to know. My friend ended up opening hers a month before she was due and she was happy she waited as long as she could.

Erin925 | August 06 , 2009 6:33 AM

Q&A: Should I find out gender?

We won't find out. I've known since I was little (before I ever even held hands with a boy) that I didn't want to know what any of my kids will be. I love love love surprises! (Although it's also a financial reason--if I know, I will either buy way too many adorable girl outfits or I won't be able to resist the preppy little boy clothes. They're too cute!) But it's also something special for my husband. He will be the one to announce to anyone waiting in the hospital. That's what my parents did as well. My dad was crying so much after my sister was born that the family thought something had happened to my mom or the baby (our brother died two years earlier just 2 days after my mom gave birth). But he just shook his head no and said they were both fine and his second little girl is beautiful. I just love that!

Jenni | August 06 , 2009 8:38 PM

Q&A: Should I find out gender?

I had a baby in August 2008 and my husband and I decided not to find out. We had a lot of ultrasounds because the baby had a fetal gall stone, but never saw the gender. It was wonderful to wait until she came out to find out she was a girl! I plan to do the same for the next one. Oh, and the nursery was yellow, so we figured it could work for boy or girl. For the next one, the planned room is blue, but the baby hardly spends any time in that room in the first few weeks, so a quick paint change shouldn't be too bad! I recommend, don't do it! It makes the pregnancy a lot of fun!

lizwhite1023 | August 11 , 2009 4:31 PM

Q&A: Should I find out gender?

I think we'll find out what we're having, but save the names for a surprise. I know it may result in people getting me a lot of one color of stuff but I'm hoping I can pass around through my mom/MIL that I want a mix of stuff to allow for variety.

Lizzama | August 12 , 2009 10:13 PM

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Oh my gosh wait!! This is my first baby, and my hubby and I both agree, the surprise will be much worth it!! Plus, my sister just had a baby boy, she got so much clothes that she has given her (neautral) niece/nephw over three bags of UNOPENED outfits. the other thing, so got so much clothes, she didn't get alot of the essentials she really needed. I am going to have a small shower with close family before the baby is born, and then a big one after the baby arrives... that way we get the best of both worlds :)

Akakori2 | August 17 , 2009 2:46 PM

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For our first we didn't find out even though it was so hard. It was the best surprise ever and it was special sharing the moment with my husband and announcing to everyone in the waiting room. I also agree with everyone else with the gifts. We got most of the things we really needed before my daughter arrived and then we had another shower after she was born where she got all the pretty pink outfits. We just found out we're pregnant for the second time and I think we'll keep it surprise again.

punkin.pie | August 17 , 2009 3:34 PM

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I'm confused too! My husband and I cannot decide if we want to find out or not. His mom totally wants us too and my mom totally doesn't. I just want it to be OUR decicion either way. I'm so torn! We have 6 weeks until the big ultrasound. Wish me luck! :) Hope you figure out what's right for you!

losmitty | August 25 , 2009 12:33 PM

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We can't wait to find out! It would be agony waiting until delivery! I'm only 6 weeks and my husband can't wait until "bubs first picture". He's getting so excited as it goes on. So definitely we're finding out when we can!

sabriena | August 28 , 2009 11:24 PM

Q&A: Should I find out gender?

I'm not sure if I want to know or not.... Has anyone tried one of those home gender tests? I'm curious how accurate they are.

JASwan425 | September 02 , 2009 8:06 AM

Q&A: Should I find out gender?

I think its good to know the babies gender so you can buy things according to the sex and people who buy things will get the right color :P. But if your not wanting to then just go with Yellows and light greens its cute for either sex. Its exciting for me to know and I cant not know so lol.

SarahWilson09 | September 02 , 2009 8:10 PM

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If you have your heart set on a certain sex, i would find out early. Me and mine have very female concentrated families, so I REALLY have my heart set on a boy. That and the "curse" my mother always put on us when we were growing up: "If you have a girl someday, i hope she is just like you!" I know me... i don't think i want to deal with little me (girls are evil! at least i was/am). Anyway, i think if i waited and it came out a girl i would be afraid of how i would handle it. If i find that info out early i at least have the time to get used to and accept the thought of having a girl.

Amy042010 | September 08 , 2009 4:32 PM

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With my first we found out and told people that we were having a boy but did not give the name until after he was born. With this one I definitely want to find out if we can. It is just as much of a surprise at 20 weeks (or so) as it is at 40, plus it gives you time to plan for clothes, nursery, etc. If we are having another boy we are all set for clothes, and if we are having a girl I want to know because we can shop for girl clothes and it helps with the registry as well. Plus I think it would be fun to have my son come to the ultrasound and find out with us. : )

MamaBear527 | September 13 , 2009 3:51 PM

Q&A: Should I find out gender?

With my daughter 9 years ago we did not want to know. My husband had a great time going in and announcing it was a girl. But with this pregnancy we are going to find out. We just don't need that last minute surprise this time since we have already done it once. Of course it is totally a decision between you and your hubby.

TatuMommi | September 16 , 2009 11:03 AM

Q&A: Should I find out gender?

Congratulations on just finding out. What an exciting time. I have always felt (personally) that it's a surprise either way, but I like being prepared for the baby - pink room for a girl, trains for a boy, whatever - so I prefer to be surprised by an ultrasound. On the flip side of that, I have several friends who think I should wait to find out for this baby (I'm about 8 weeks now). The suggestion has come about that during the US in which they can determine sex, we ask the US tech to turn the screen away from us, then write down the sex on a piece of paper and place that inside of an envelope and seal it. The envelope is given to the person who is preparing your baby shower so that they can tell everyone but you and your significant other. This way you can be prepared for baby, but be surprised just a week or two before your due date. I agree that it is a very personal decision, if you want to know or not. Think it through, and remember, sometimes even ultrasounds are wrong about the sex! You never REALLY know until you have the baby anyway! Best of luck!

philsrosebud | September 24 , 2009 1:44 PM

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I love the surprise!! I have 2 kids and we didn't know the first time, but did the 2nd time. It was so much more fun with the first. And there will be plenty of time to buy "pink" and "blue" after the baby is born. Don't worry. With this one, I want to wait, but my kids (now 5 and 7) will be way too anxious to wait that long! LOL

tel4him | September 25 , 2009 5:46 AM

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Personally, I think leaving it as a surprise is something really exciting to look forward to during the labor experience. Also, whenever guests at baby showers know the gender, they buy everything either pink or blue and many of my friends have complained about that and wished that they either didnt find out or at least didnt tell people before the shower. I wont be finding out, but of course, if you want to know there is nothing wrong with that too! Pregnancy Ticker

Sweettos | September 25 , 2009 2:49 PM

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My "practical" answer is wait. The surprise is great either way, but if you DON'T know, you don't spend 20-some weeks buying every adorable girl thing or boy thing that you see. You'll save a lot of money. Your friends/fam will buy you plenty of the clothes you need when baby comes!

smjones16 | September 25 , 2009 10:34 PM

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My husband wants to fine out. He feels that no matter when you find out at 20 weeks or when the baby is born, its still a surprise!

kshields104 | September 28 , 2009 8:18 AM

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My first and second children were a suprise, the third we found out. I will say that it was so much more fun to be suprised!!! It makes those last weeks of pregnancy and the delivery so exciting. Our babies slept in a white bassinette for the first month anyway, so I picked out bedding, etc and had it ordered as soon as I got home from the hospital. No big deal, most of the other things are gender neutral anyway. And we got so many baby outfits as gifts after the birth I had no problem with clothes.

Amypremier | September 28 , 2009 11:44 AM

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i definitely don't want to find out, but my husband does! i am going to try to talk him out of it. i hvae 6 neice and nephews and the first was a surprise. i remember the waiting room was full of family and friends dying to know the sex of the baby. i want to have that surprise for mine too!

alliemich34 | September 29 , 2009 11:11 AM

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Everyone should do what is best for them, of course. We're going to wait to find out the sex until the birth, if only so we can get gender-neutral clothing and toys that we can use for the second baby! But I don't understand the people who say they want to know the sex so they know what colors they should choose for clothing or the nursery! As if a baby girl couldn't wear sky blue! Can't we wait just a few months more before forcing gender stereotypes upon an infant?

annabananna1 | September 29 , 2009 3:56 PM

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It will be a surprise anytime you find out - whether its now or at birth, so I don't buy into the surprise thing. It's easier to shop when you know the gender, and easier to decorate, and easier for people buying gifts for you.

queentbone | October 03 , 2009 9:07 AM

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I always said I would wait to find out but now that I'm actually pregnant, I can't wait to find out just because I want to set up the room and prepare for the baby with certain colors... I am so torn right now! My boyfriend and I want to wait, but EVERYONE else wants us to find out!!

epowell8 | October 10 , 2009 10:52 PM

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I found out the gender with all of my kids and I will with this one too. It made it so much easier, not only for me and my husband but, for my friends that planned the showers. I also liked having a couple names picked out so as soon as I saw my baby I new what to expect.

StaceyL7 | October 19 , 2009 6:34 AM

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It's up to you. I didn't find out with my first and it was exciting not knowing. The one true suprise in life. My mom was a little ticked off because she wanted to buy gender specific items. She got over it.

jd10rn | October 19 , 2009 2:18 PM

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My hubby and I decided right from the get go that we would find out the sex. Neither of us like green or yellow and I know we couldn't hold out that long. Plus, the family would be after us day after day (especially his Mom!) to tell her so she can start buying items! Of course everyone knows I love purple so it would be more purple then pink for a girl and for a boy I think blue is great, or even chocolate. I so can't wait to find out!!

snickybugg | October 20 , 2009 7:24 PM

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I have a boy and a girl and I found out th fore sex with both of them, but now that I have all the "stuff" for both I'm going to try to wait for this one. My only issue is the name. I hate calling the baby "it". I'm only5 weeks so we'll see, My tune could totally change by 20 weeks. I have no patience.

tracey@PulseStudios.com | October 24 , 2009 10:11 AM

Q&A: Should I find out gender?

As someone else said, for folks who aren't fans of yellow and green, there are browns, creams, and white.... and, because I work in a gift shop, I can tell you there are also some grays and other lovely neutrals like mauve or pale taupe or sage green (as opposed to pastels) that are popular in baby gifts and decor. I was also wondering how accurate the gender tests are.

gwennykate | October 28 , 2009 10:38 PM

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With DD we found out, b/c we wanted to be able to plan a bit better and we were so excited we couldn't wait. We ended up buying stuff (as far as big ticket items go) that was fairly neutral anyway b/c we knew we wanted more than one, and wanted to make them reusable. That being said, w/ #2 we are not going to find out- We want a surprise this time, and we know the only things we might need to buy are clothes and things b/c the crib, stroller, bouncer etc, aren't too gender specific.

elk571 | November 05 , 2009 2:12 PM

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My husband and I plan to find out our baby's gender! We also plan to keep it a secret from everyone else. Its still a surprise no matter when you find out the gender. This way, we can plan the nursery without getting all gender specific items at the baby shower.

rachel32682 | November 09 , 2009 7:24 AM

Q&A: Should I find out gender?

We didn't want to find out the sex, but now that we're pregnant and shopping for baby, most things are so gender specific. We may end up finding out to make it easier. But we still aren't sure either way now.

DanceDeva4 | November 09 , 2009 11:26 AM

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My husbands aunt told me something someone told her and it really made me think differently. I always wanted to know, but now I dont. She said that aside from having so little true surprises in life, you are the only one that truely gets to feel everything going on. Your husband/boyfriend etc. doesn't really get to feel like he is a part of it and there's not much for him to "do" (aside from all the dirty work) it's the least i can do to give him that surprise

AngelinaToad | November 09 , 2009 5:16 PM

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It's up to each individual if they want to find out. I found out with our first one, after consulting with my husband of course and we'll find out the sex of this baby as well. Husband sold ALL our baby stuff this past summer so we'll have a lot of replacing to do.

RNCCRN9706 | November 12 , 2009 11:43 PM

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We didn't find out with our daughter and we aren't going to find out this time either. It keeps things exciting not knowing, and it felt great for my husband to tell me what the baby was when it was born. That was his moment during the delivery and it was special. I vote wait until delivery to find out!

jansmith | November 15 , 2009 1:18 PM

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Our parents didn't have the luxury of finding out our genders, and our generations turned out pretty well for the most part. Agreed? We have become a generation of planners. It is wonderful. However, other than planning color schemes, wouldn't one be planning for safety standards on gear/ vehicles, education, residential location, etc? Regardless of the gender of the baby, are we not still planning for their future? It is a known fact that in a year's time babies quickly grow out of clothes; even clothing never taken out of packages or tags still attached. By the time the baby is a year, rest assured that the colors of your choosing will match that of your LO. Here's another random thought... Regarding the Chinese Gender predictor, realizing that most state that they have some percent of accuracy, and that the chart is for "entertainment" purposes. If the Chinese culture has had the opportunity to select the gender of their child, then why would they choose to conceive a girl if they are simply going to give it up for adoption? There are so many Chinese girls up for adoption. So, if the final outcome of your child's gender differs from that of the U/S or a gender predictor, will you love your child any less? Most likely not.

Kismet02 | November 18 , 2009 8:12 PM

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Has anyone used the itelligender? Was it accurate for you?

landa427 | November 19 , 2009 6:33 PM

Q&A: Should I find out gender?

I have 3 kids and am on the 4th. I had to know with the other 3 but I am thinking that I dont want to know. For once I want to be surprised about what we had. we have 2 boys and girl so I just figured why find out when at this point we dont care what gender and really are comfortable with putting a girl in boys clothes for a while. sound bad I know but you do what you feel you want to do. find out if that is your desire or keep it a surprise if that is what you wish. It is your choice and yours alone(well with DH too)

karenCB | November 21 , 2009 6:33 AM

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I think waiting to be surprised definitely hypes you up a little more with anticipation, but for practicality it's much better to find out. one of my friends had a baby shower not knowing what she was going to have, and literally EVERYTHING was for a boy, and she had a girl instead.

kg_08 | November 29 , 2009 10:01 PM

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I couldn't wait. To me it is a surprise either way if you find out at 20 weeks or you find out in the delivery room. I was tired of calling my baby "it" and wanted to decorate the nursery. Plus, it really is hard to tell a newborn's sex and I didn't want my baby in green and yellow with everyone asking me "Is it a boy or a girl?"

8.1.09 | November 30 , 2009 3:12 PM

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I'm 10 weeks so far, and this is also my first child! We are not finding out the sex of our child. We decided that it would add the excitment of our birth experiance, and allow us to have fun picking out 2 names!!! It's also fun for having our family and friends try to guess what we'll have! I know it sometimes may feel like it would be hard to "prepare" for the child if you didn't know, but there are so many things out there for a nursery, clothes, toys that aren't gender specific. It will also be fun to pick out and get all the gender items after the baby is born! In the end the decision is going to be up to you and what you think is going to work the best for you life and situations!! Good luck and many blessings!!!

smileygurl | December 18 , 2009 10:57 AM

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Most people today find out the gender of their baby.. We did not. It was fun and exciting for everyone.. it also helps to lessen the anxiety of going through Labor.. We probably will not find out the gender of our next baby either.. plus then everything people get you for your baby shower can be used for your next baby... boy Or girl!

Jmw315 | December 20 , 2009 9:09 PM

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Hey, I didnt want to find out the sex of my baby as well, but my husband does. In my view, once one knows, it ruins it all, because she/he will buy everything according to the color and so it kinda gives it a hint for the other one. I dont want to know, I hope the baby turns, so it could be a surprise just like I've always wanted it. Surprises are fun and yet you can still buy the things needed, just remember to use yellow, green, white, beige.. It's still cute.

fernandezg | December 21 , 2009 11:19 AM

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Im the type who loves to plan and organize EVERYTHING !! So I will be finding out the sex. With my first one, I found it so much easier to prepare. I think you will have the same excitement the day the baby is born whether you know the sex or not. If you're unsure whether or not you want to find out the sex, then ask the sono tech to write down the sex on a piece of paper and place it in a sealed envelope and then you have the choice to find out whenever you want.

Kdevoe916 | December 28 , 2009 3:12 PM

Q&A: Should I find out gender?

We are now pregnant with our third child. My husband wanted to find out with both children. I won the battle with our son, and we didn't find out. It was really special, and my husband was the one to announce the sex in the delivery room. With our daughter, we found out. As my husband argued that we did it my way, and he just wanted to try his way. It certainly was still special, but both of us felt that there was just something better about the not knowing. Now that we are on #3 (and the last baby) neither one of us want to find out the sex. As for my family, they were actually disappointed that we found out with our daughter, and are looking forward to the new adventure! Whatever you decide, it will still be special.

Mass_wife_and_mom | January 03 , 2010 2:39 PM

Q&A: Should I find out gender?

I am dying to find out the gender of my baby, and I'm only 5 weeks at the moment...I know, extremely early. My husband wants it to be a surprise.....but for me, whether you wait for the baby to be born or if you find out in the womb, it's a surprise either way. I also just like being prepared. I am so excited.

livingj156 | January 05 , 2010 8:56 AM

Q&A: Should I find out gender?

I've always thought I would want to know, but I know a girl who had three "girl" ultrasounds... then they did a last minute one to check on something and surprise! it was a boy! I'm worried that even if you "know" you never really know!

kacy.elyzabeth | January 08 , 2010 10:54 AM

Q&A: Should I find out gender?

No, there are so few fun suprises in life! All that really matter is that your baby is born healthy.

Majesstical29 | January 08 , 2010 12:56 PM

Q&A: Should I find out gender?

I myself just can't go months without knowing what I am having. It's a surprise for the most part when you find out that you are pregnant, and it's a surprise most of the time the day the baby finally does arrive. I'm all about pre-decorating and shopping so i like to know what I am shopping for. I cannot stand tons of greens and yellow.

AshesBabies2 | January 10 , 2010 6:05 PM

Q&A: Should I find out gender?

We will be finding out, but every mom should do what is write for her. I can see the draw of having that exciting " it's a ___" moment at time of delivery. FYI you don't have to have a gender neutral nursery if you don't find out the gender while pregnant. I have a friend who picked out boy and girl bedding fabric. They had the ultrasound tech mail the gender to the seamstress and had finished product sent to a friends house. You could do something like this with store bought bedding to. Of course in that scenario you would have to let a friend or family member (good at keeping a secret) into the know before you.

CarrieBeth80 | January 11 , 2010 11:13 AM

Q&A: Should I find out gender?

thats on you my personal opinion i have a gut feeling that im gonna have a boy and i could very well be wrong but im gonna find out because ill need to know what to get for my birthdayparty slash babyshower

homegurl_fo_life_26101 | January 12 , 2010 10:50 AM

Q&A: Should I find out gender?

I had a baby last July, my husband and I old schooled it and did not find out the gender. EVERYONE thought we were crazy, but it was the one last thing in life that could truly remain a mystery. On our daughters birth day, it was a shock and blessing. It is really a personal choice, but I know for us it was fun and unique compared to everyone else. Not only were people excited to hear the baby had arrived, but we got to tell them the sex finally.

Patriot09 | January 17 , 2010 8:14 AM

Q&A: Should I find out gender?

I don't want to know because I hate baby pink and baby blue, which is what everybody buys (no matter what you register for) for either a boy or girl. Not knowing will force people to choose other colors. Plus, it's a fun surprise!

lrhampton | January 19 , 2010 11:43 AM

Q&A: Should I find out gender?

It's way more fun shopping for baby if you know what it is. But, at the same time, there's a lot of excitement in finding out when you meet your child. I already have 1 of each, so I'm going to try to hold out til the end for #3.

meeshybee | January 21 , 2010 10:14 PM

Q&A: Should I find out gender?

Before I met my DH I wanted a surprise and not find out the gender. Now that I am preggers I can not wait to find out the gender. It makes shopping and planning ALOT easier.

TracyCherry24 | January 22 , 2010 8:32 PM

Q&A: Should I find out gender?

I think it is up to the individual person, but I am def. not finding out the sex. I know it will be hard, especially when I see all this pink and blue stuff! It does make it easier to buy things. However, I have talked to several people about this and they say the surprise is sooo much better than the convenience. One woman I talked to wasn't going to find out, and they ended up giving in and did. She still wishes to this day she would have never found out and experienced the surprise factor! :-) Gonna try my hardest to not find out!!!

Ardmhs83 | January 23 , 2010 11:18 AM

Q&A: Should I find out gender?

This is my first child and my husband's third. He really wants a boy (other two are girls), but it kind of makes it all new and exciting for him not knowing and of course all of this is new and exciting to me so we (well mostly I) chose not to find out the sex of our baby, and since I intend to have one more later gender neutral things will serve us better for longer.

sugarbean98 | January 26 , 2010 4:45 PM

Q&A: Should I find out gender?

totally up to you and the father of your baby. i know that we are finding out in March and we're so excited to find out the gender and then start planning accordingly! :)

Nordstrom21 | January 27 , 2010 11:38 AM

Q&A: Should I find out gender?

We will be finding out the gender, too. We are SUCH planners! I have had friends told "for sure" or "we think" it's a boy or girl. If it doesn't seem clear, we'll plan for a neutral room. Don't forget that babies don't have to have pastel everything. Think REAL green, not pistachio green, or a real purple instead of lavender...just some ideas.

CrazyToast | January 27 , 2010 3:52 PM

Q&A: Should I find out gender?

I found out I'm expecting a girl and it was so much fun going shopping and knowing what to plan for. There is no right or wrong answer to your question. Deep down do what you want to do. I'm the kind of person who likes to plan for everything. For example, I told my husband I wanted my baby due in June so we tried for a baby in September and it happened! This is going to be my 1st baby and I'd rather be able to have a closet full of pink stuff versus yellow and greens!

melissas21 | January 30 , 2010 10:36 PM

Q&A: Should I find out gender?

I am Jus DYIN to find out.... Im just 6 weeks along... But I am hopin its twins too... :) Lol!!!! Cant wait... But its mainly coz I love shoppin and a BIG no-no to greens or yellows... Baby Blues and Baby Pinks :)

anitajohn | January 31 , 2010 12:49 AM

Q&A: Should I find out gender?

We couldn't wait to find out the first time around. We both really wanted a little boy and at my 18 week apointment we found out it was a boy! BUT, I left the apt feeling kind of disapointed, like the only thing left to look forward to was the birth. It's hard to explain exactly but we're expecting #2 and we are going to wait til birth-day to find out this time. If we have another boy great and if its a girl she can wear blue for a few days before we get out shopping! LOL

SallyDunsworth | February 01 , 2010 2:57 PM

Q&A: Should I find out gender?

It isn't the gender you will find out, it's the SEX of the baby. Gender is a social label such as feminine or masculine, and SEX is the actual genetic sexual make up of the child (penis or vagina). Remember just because you have a vagina, doesn't mean you are necessarily going to be feminine.

babymamadub | February 03 , 2010 7:26 PM

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