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Q&A: I think I'm pregnant...Now what?

I have this feeling that we managed to conceive... what should I do first?

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I have this feeling that we managed to conceive... what should I do first?

The Bump Expert

So exciting! Here are the first things to do when you suspect you're expecting.

Take a Test
...together! It's just not as much fun to find out the good news if one of you is away on business or just got home from a tough day. If you have an inkling, decide together when to take the test, and leave some time to celebrate if the news is good. Many tests say to take them in the morning, but don't do it before work. (Wait until Saturday a.m. if you want to play by the rules.) How could you concentrate on a 9:30 meeting after getting the biggest news of your life?

Keep it Quiet
...for now. This is huge, exciting news -- give yourselves some time to revel in your shared secret for a few days (or weeks). Pick a time to tell the parents (best to wait until you're a few weeks along), and put together a plan. Break the news to both sets of parents with similar timing and fanfare to avoid hurt feelings. As for your friends... common knowledge says, wait until week twelve. But, (with the guidance of our real mom Nesties) we say, do it whenever the time feels right! Just make sure you're prepared for the news to spread quickly -- it's tough for people to keep such exciting news to themselves!

See the Doctor
... now! Chances are, the test was correct and everything is fine... but it's still essential to see your OB/GYN. Call your doc and explain that you're expecting as soon as you know, and schedule your first appointment for whenever she recommends.

Not necessary to "keep it quiet"

OK, while I appreciate the information, why recommend waiting until the 12th week to announce? I think this is out of date and just doesn't apply as a general "rule" for couples. Just my two cents. Couples should be encouraged to weigh the pros and cons of telling early and then do what's best for them.

jooliagoolia |

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I agree...I have friends that I would tell just as soon as family, because even if something were to happen, I would want to be able to talk to them about it anyway...

nosoup4u |

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I second the previous posters- tell people when you want to- there's no right or wrong. I personally oculdn't imagine going through iut without my mom and best friend, no matter what happened.

sorte07 |

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I have had many people wait until 12 weeks before they tell people. Some would rather wait incase something happened. My friends sister told everyone she was pregnant as soon as she found out - then when she miscarried at 8 weeks she had untell a lot of people. The second time she got pregnant she decided to wait and was glad she did. It was easier to tell people at 10 weeks that she had another miscarriage than what she went through before. I think that waiting (whether it be 1 week after you find out or when you hit 12 weeks) gives you and your DH time to adjust to expanding your family, discuss how you will do things and what you're limits will be so that when you announce your good news you'll have all that figured out.

blondie42107 |

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I agree with waiting to tell. We told our parents right away, who then went out and told the world. (and in a town with only 1800 people, news travels fast) Then, I found out I had blighted ovums at 9 1/2 weeks. Our families didn't do as great of a job with this news; 2 1/2 months later, at Christmas, there were family members who still thought I was pregnant. The next time around, when we're actually read to have a child, I may not even tell our parents until 10-12 weeks!

NuGrrlNTwn |

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I have had two miscarriages, one at 12 and the other at 6 weeks. The first time we told everyone and then had to untell. The second time, we kept it to only a few people knowing. When and if i get pregnant a 3rd time, were waiting till about 13 weeks or whenever I start showing.

MrsE0706 |

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Personally, when we got PG with #1 we told everyone the next day; we were so excited! Had a normal pg'cy and delivery. Now he's 2.5. When I got PG with #2 in April we did the same thing. It never occured to me that "I" would miscarry. I was wrong. I m/c'd at 5 weeks and had to tell everyone we lost the baby. It was awful. Now that we are still trying, I am thinking we will hold off until we see or hear a heartbeat. Then we will spread the joy.

Mrs.OSU2K1!! |

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Since I recently had a miscarriage, I can say that originally we were going to hold off on telling our parents, just a few weeks. Then when I was miscarrying I needed my mom, I was out of state w/o my husband. Now I am so glad that I had her to support me. Next time it gives me even more reason to tell her immediatly, I will need someone to talk to about ever "funny feeling". As for friends I will also tell one or two close friends because I need their support as well.

j&bmay2006 |

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I haven't had to tell anyone yet because we are still ttc, but I think I will only tell a few select people (other than DH of course!), and that would be one of my SIL, two of my BFs, and my DH family will probably hear, though if something does happen and I m/c, both my SIL will be able to help my though because they both did. I'll just need the support. Work and other friends, and my family will probably wait until we hear the heartbeat. (That's sounds so heartless...his family will hear before mine...and I want it that way!)

dakinican |

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Definately see a doctor immediately- I didn't, due to having read "wait till week 8-10" somewhere, and ended up with a ruptured ectopic pregnancy- the night before I was supposed to leave for my honeymoon! Had I gone to the Dr's when I found out two weeks before, the HGC test would most likely had come back with abnormal levels and they could have dissolved the pregnancy and saved my tube- Hopefully my story can help prevent another woman from going through that torture.

Tonya_G |

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Waiting until week 12 is not t torture anyone. It is because most miscarriages happen before week 12. That way you don't have to tell everyone that you told you were pregnant already that you unfortunately lost the baby.

Nicole&Dustin |

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I think that it is a good idea to tell right away anyone who you would want to be there for you if you had a miscarriage. It is so much more painful to make the phone call that you had a miscarriage if the person never even knew you were pregnant.

shortl |

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When we found out i was pragnant, i was so happy and told everyone, my hubby asked me to wait, just incase something happened. Well it did, we lost the baby, Yesterday, and i cant imagaing having to go back and tell everyone i lost it. i am gald i told my mom, when i first got pergnant, so we could go through the joys and saddness together.

hairdesigner |

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I took a digital EPT test on monday and it was positive and I have my 1st doctors appt on June 20th. We are very excited and hope all goes well, is it at all possible to get a false positive?

sarahleigh23 |

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My husband and I decided to start TTC on June 21st I had a period that started on June 24th and ended on July 1st. Now it has been 38 days since my last period started so I am 10 days late but I took a test on July 20th ( 1 day before missed period) and then again last Friday July 25th (4 days after missed period) both were negative. Did I just take the test too soon or could I be preggo?

jrm1982 |

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I think waiting is the best option. One of my best friends and sister-in-law were pregnant around the same time. They both told us right away. One miscarried after 14 weeks, and one when into premature labor after 18 weeks. They both were devastated as were we. They were both able to get pregnant pretty soon after but waited and they both said they were glad they did! They said it was harder on them the first go round because everyone knew and it made it that much more devastating.

tenny06 |

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Random question here - once you go to your doctor for the blood test, how long does it take for them to get back to you with the results? Instantaneous, a few hours, a few day, a week?

KEARitchie |

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My last period was on August 10 and on that next Sunday, I had clear discharge which was not unusual. We had sex twice this week and on Thurdsay night my stomach or ovaries hurt worse than they usually do. The next day which was Friday, I experienced sore breasts, and cramping. I was also very bloated and when I felt like I have to go #2, it was nothing but gas!! When I do go #2, it's just a couple of small, tiny, very out of the ordinary poo. (I never experience any of this before a period.) Since then, on occasion I have felt a slight twinge on my left ovary and it seems as if I continuously have gas gurgling on the left side of my stomach. My boobs are no longer sore, but I still get that gurgling in my stomach and constant burping. Has anyone else experienced this?? If I am PG this is my 1st so I have no idea what to expect. I have also taken 2 digital PG tests one last Wed. and one this morning and I have gotten a negative on both. :( Any help would be great.

lovebugkim |

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I've had the unfortunate experience of having a miscarriage at 14 weeks after telling everyone we knew about being pregnant. It was my first pregnancy and I was devastated when it happened. Because I told people and those people had told people that we mutually knew, I spent many months after the miscarriage meeting up with people I hadn't seen in a while who knew that I had been pregnant. They unknowingly bombarded me with questions of "when are you due?" or "you don't look very big, are you eating properly?", only to have to explain to them that I had lost the baby. Which was awkward and upsetting enough for my husband and I, but it also made them feel awkward as well when they realized they had put their foot in their mouths or at least felt like they had. We never blamed them for not knowing, but it still didn't make it any easier to talk about it. When I found out I was pregnant with my next two children, I told a select few people, but mostly kept it to us, just in case. I think it's a very personal choice that should be based on how you would feel if something did happen. What people in your life would you want to help you through the situation if it did happen? That's how I decided who to tell and who not to tell. You'll know in your heart who you think should know and who can keep it to themselves should you honour them with being one of the first to know about your up and coming bundle of joy. Discuss it with your significant other...the choice it ultimately up to the both of you. I wish you all the best of luck in TTC , in your pregnancy's and in your decision making...trust me, the decisions only get harder from here, but they're ALL worth the energy you put into them.

Crystal_Roul |

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We will do our best to wait the 12 weeks, two of our best friends just couldn't resist telling everyone early and then miscarried right around 12 weeks. She said it was so much harder because she had to explain to everyone she knew that they had lost the baby. I'd like to save myself the additional heartache if this unfortunate situation happened to us!

MrsLynneaY |

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it seems like everyone miscarries with their first child. does that happen to everyone?

missblkbelt |

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I was 5 days late and I knew something was up. We did two tests, the first one was the one with little lines, and I wanted more confirmation, so we did a clear blue, and same positive result. Part of me wanted to wait until we were sure I wouldn't miscarry, but ME trying to keep that kind of news silent was NOT going to happen! I couldn't even wait a minute.

tohave2hold |

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How many days late should you call your doctor? I'm 3 days late and took a test and it came out negative.

lilkitten022185 |

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Am 4 weeks late. I had spotting and discharge last monday. I took 3 test and all negative.

mela1082 |

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3 days late again this month, but test still say negative. grrrr this is sooo frustrating!

lilkitten022185 |

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I have the same question. I am 3 days late, which is unusual for me i'm usually no later than a day to a day and a half. So I though I was. I've also noticed that my breasts have been a bit more tender recently than usual and I've felt off lower back pain, both of which i've gotten before on a period, but nothing yet. I thought maybe we'd concieved, but I took a Clear Blue today and it was negative. How long should I wait (assuming i dont start) before I take another test or call my doctor?

knittychick |

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My first child was a miscarriage... We're trying again though! We were trying to wait till the first appt. with the dr. or the weekend before the first appt. (week 9), but we had a miscarriage at week 6, so we had not told anyone. I had a very painful miscarriage and so we called family for help, support, and prayers (and to let them know in general). Personally I'd rather tell my family from now on right away and let them keep the secret with me for 6 to 9 more weeks before we're ready to tell others! I don't want to break the news to family that way again. Also, it got around that I was pregnant after the fact, and people were congratulating me at my parents/in-law's church. I have RA and dr wants me to call and come in the following Monday after the first positive test! Can't wait to give her that call!

mrc7sjsc |

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I think I may be pregnant but my normal menstral cycle if I start would be in about 10 days should I wait untill then before taking a test?

Treefrogin3 |

Q&A: I think I'm pregnant...Now what?

For my first pregnancy we had a miscarraige at 5 weeks. I am now pregnant again very quickly after the miscarriage. We didn't even leave time for one menstrual cycle. I am excited and estimate that we are about 5 - 6 weeks. Besides lots of interesting abdominal feelings everything seems fine so far but I am soo scared to miscarry again. Everytime I wipe I fear that I will see blood. We are definitely waiting to tell everyone for a while. Hopefully we will make it to 12 weeks before we burst with the news.

SAGsoon2bSAJ |

Q&A: I think I'm pregnant...Now what?

coming from someone who has suffered 3 miscarriages in just this past year...trust me it is better to wait. my first miscarriage was actually at 13 weeks. 12 weeks might seem like forever for your first pregnancy but really it will go by so quickly. if by some chance something goes wrong you will be dissappointed enough without having to explain to so many people...

jellysandtoes |

Q&A: I think I'm pregnant...Now what?

I'm not telling anyone except DH, because I have no one to tell. My family has disowned me and the ones that haven't are dead. I have 0 friends, so there's no point in telling anyone anything.

ehwq1987 |