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Q&A: Shower for a second baby?

I'm pregnant with my second child. Is it tacky to have a baby shower?

Re: I'm pregnant with my second child. Is it tacky to have a baby shower?

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We found that once we had our babies, time spent with friends was a thing of the past. So we say, go ahead, have some fun! Unless there's a significant age difference between your two children, forgo registering and make the event more about reconnecting with friends and family and less about gifts. You'll be showered with those no matter what.

From us: The way we see it, every baby should be celebrated... and who wants to pass up an opportunity to get together with friends and loved ones? That doesn't mean they have to shower you with gifts, though. If it makes you feel better, you can even write "no presents" on the invitations. And why not make the celebration a twist on the traditional shower? Since you've already got one baby, make it a family affair and invite everyone's spouse and kids. You don't even need to call it a shower! These days, some moms are calling the celebration for their second baby a "sprinkle." Cute.

Ellie and Melissa | May 20 , 2009 1:16 PM

re: 2nd trimester q&a

I think it is perfectly fine for a mother or a grandmother to throw the shower... my advice...so none of your friends(if your family is having it..) or your family (if a friend is having it) get left out- make a list and give it to your husband... so he can provide the info to the host...who you want and dont want to see at your shower... try to include addresses/tele #'s if your host isnt close with your guests. Its less stress for them..especially if it is a surprise! I am TTC and I already have my list done... :)

xorusty05ox | May 14 , 2008 10:33 PM

re: Q: Second shower?

is it alright to plan my own shower for #2? i never did have one for my first because no one planned it. is it wrong to plan my own?

2_B_A_WIFE | September 29 , 2008 2:52 PM

re: re: Q: Second shower?

I don't think there is anything wrong with planning your own shower. This is my second and I am planning my own shower. I had a small one for my first, but I really have an idea of what I want to do and how I want it to be. I am buying most of the major gifts anyway so it is more for people to just buy the things they think are cute and get together as a family and celebrate

mama2beof2 | October 21 , 2008 10:34 AM

re: Q: Second shower?

I have a friend who had an open house for her second baby. She waited until she actually had the baby, then it was less of a shower, and more of a 'come meet the new baby' event. Most people brought gifts, though they weren't necessarily expected, and there weren't any games like you see at most showers. I think it was a good medium between having no celebration at all and throwing a second shower (which can be a little tacky in some situations).

mrsekins | April 20 , 2009 4:02 PM

Q&A: Shower for a second baby?

I do think it's tacky to have a shower for a second baby. I think it would be more appropriate to have a "come and meet the baby" event. That way people get to meet your little one, and it's much less about the gifts. Under no circumstance, should you EVER throw your own shower. VERY TACKY!

Meridianwings | August 10 , 2009 11:57 AM

Q&A: Shower for a second baby?

my mother and friends are throwing me a second shower. My children will be more than 4 years apart and I gave most of my baby things away, I didn't think I could get pregnant again. I was uneasy with it at first, but when I realized how much I did need and with things being so tight, and Im a teacher I warmed up to it. Now I am more excited than ever. My first baby, my daughter, was born with many complications and this one has been a breeze so I can enjoy it and not worry! I would never plan my own shower... tell your hubby to do it!!!

bbenson4 | August 24 , 2009 2:14 PM

Q&A: Shower for a second baby?

I just found out last week I was expecting #2. My daughter is 8 years old, and will be 9 when this one is born, since they will be SO far apart in age, I was wonderig about having a second shower, we don't have any baby things left from when she born. But I love the idea of a baby open house! That sounds like much more fun!

cutie420311 | September 22 , 2009 11:13 AM

Q&A: Shower for a second baby?

I have a six year old and I am pregnant with my 2nd child. I had a shower for my son but this is my boyfriends first child. Would it be appropriate for our moms to throw a shower since its his first child? And since its been so long since my first child was born?

firegirl199 | October 21 , 2009 9:01 AM

Q&A: Shower for a second baby?

I don't think there's nothing wrong with having as many showers as you want for as many children you have. My mother-in-law gave me a shower for our first daughter, and my teacher gave me a shower at my college for my son and my mother-in law is now giving me another shower for my daughter to come this week-in. More people are coming to this one than any of them. I say its just fine because you aren't begging for nothing but you want to spend time with your family and friends and if they want to bring a gift than that's ok. But the games are there, free food, and prizes. So why not, some people have two or three showers for one child so what's the difference?

miraclebabe101 | November 15 , 2009 9:10 PM

Q&A: Shower for a second baby?

My daughter will be going on 4 when the new baby is born. I saved s lot of her things hoping to have another. I do still need a lot of things, but I am going to suggest a diaper party instead of a shower to my family. I know they want to celebrate, and diapers will be a big help.

chats_407 | December 28 , 2009 4:00 PM

Q&A: Shower for a second baby?

Planning your own shower is out of the question for me. I think it's rude. I do agree that every baby should be celebrated, whether you do it though a shower, a sprinkle, or an open house! Be accepting if others want to give gifts--it's thoughtful!

amos14 | January 09 , 2010 11:25 AM

Q&A: Shower for a second baby?

I have totes and totes of girl clothes, but nothing for a boy so if baby#2 is a boy then I may ask my sister-in-law to throw me a baby shower. I felt bad with #1, I practically had to beg someone to throw me a shower. I may plan my own 4th of July Baby Sprinkle, and suggest boy clothes if anyone asks, because all of my gear from DD was neutral and clothes is all we'd need.

mamafoxX2 | January 12 , 2010 8:00 PM

Q&A: Shower for a second baby?

I'm not sure if I should have a baby shower this time around. This will be my 4th child and I plan on getting my tubes tied after this one. The thing is my 1st was a girl and I had a shower for her and my 2nd I got pregnant with just 16 months after my first and it was another girl and I didn't really think I should have another baby shower so soon, so she didn't get one which I really wanted her to have one but I already had tons of girl things and a lot of my friends didn't have baby showers for their 2nd. My 3rd was a boy and everybody said of course I have to have a baby shower for him which I wanted to and needed a lot of boy things. If I have a baby shower for this one I'll feel guilty about not having a baby shower for my 2nd daughter. I know it's a little confusing but advice please...

leon4fam | January 13 , 2010 2:15 PM

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