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Q&A: Shower for a second baby?

I'm pregnant with my second child. Is it tacky to have a baby shower?

Re: I'm pregnant with my second child. Is it tacky to have a baby shower?

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We found that once we had our babies, time spent with friends was a thing of the past. So we say, go ahead, have some fun! Unless there's a significant age difference between your two children, forgo registering and make the event more about reconnecting with friends and family and less about gifts. You'll be showered with those no matter what.

From us: The way we see it, every baby should be celebrated... and who wants to pass up an opportunity to get together with friends and loved ones? That doesn't mean they have to shower you with gifts, though. If it makes you feel better, you can even write "no presents" on the invitations. And why not make the celebration a twist on the traditional shower? Since you've already got one baby, make it a family affair and invite everyone's spouse and kids. You don't even need to call it a shower! These days, some moms are calling the celebration for their second baby a "sprinkle." Cute.

Ellie and Melissa

re: 2nd trimester q&a

I think it is perfectly fine for a mother or a grandmother to throw the shower... my advice...so none of your friends(if your family is having it..) or your family (if a friend is having it) get left out- make a list and give it to your husband... so he can provide the info to the host...who you want and dont want to see at your shower... try to include addresses/tele #'s if your host isnt close with your guests. Its less stress for them..especially if it is a surprise! I am TTC and I already have my list done... :)

xorusty05ox |

re: Q: Second shower?

is it alright to plan my own shower for #2? i never did have one for my first because no one planned it. is it wrong to plan my own?

2_B_A_WIFE |

re: re: Q: Second shower?

I don't think there is anything wrong with planning your own shower. This is my second and I am planning my own shower. I had a small one for my first, but I really have an idea of what I want to do and how I want it to be. I am buying most of the major gifts anyway so it is more for people to just buy the things they think are cute and get together as a family and celebrate

mama2beof2 |

re: Q: Second shower?

I have a friend who had an open house for her second baby. She waited until she actually had the baby, then it was less of a shower, and more of a 'come meet the new baby' event. Most people brought gifts, though they weren't necessarily expected, and there weren't any games like you see at most showers. I think it was a good medium between having no celebration at all and throwing a second shower (which can be a little tacky in some situations).

mrsekins |

Q&A: Shower for a second baby?

I do think it's tacky to have a shower for a second baby. I think it would be more appropriate to have a "come and meet the baby" event. That way people get to meet your little one, and it's much less about the gifts. Under no circumstance, should you EVER throw your own shower. VERY TACKY!

Meridianwings |

Q&A: Shower for a second baby?

my mother and friends are throwing me a second shower. My children will be more than 4 years apart and I gave most of my baby things away, I didn't think I could get pregnant again. I was uneasy with it at first, but when I realized how much I did need and with things being so tight, and Im a teacher I warmed up to it. Now I am more excited than ever. My first baby, my daughter, was born with many complications and this one has been a breeze so I can enjoy it and not worry! I would never plan my own shower... tell your hubby to do it!!!

bbenson4 |

Q&A: Shower for a second baby?

I just found out last week I was expecting #2. My daughter is 8 years old, and will be 9 when this one is born, since they will be SO far apart in age, I was wonderig about having a second shower, we don't have any baby things left from when she born. But I love the idea of a baby open house! That sounds like much more fun!

cutie420311 |

Q&A: Shower for a second baby?

I have a six year old and I am pregnant with my 2nd child. I had a shower for my son but this is my boyfriends first child. Would it be appropriate for our moms to throw a shower since its his first child? And since its been so long since my first child was born?

firegirl199 |

Q&A: Shower for a second baby?

I don't think there's nothing wrong with having as many showers as you want for as many children you have. My mother-in-law gave me a shower for our first daughter, and my teacher gave me a shower at my college for my son and my mother-in law is now giving me another shower for my daughter to come this week-in. More people are coming to this one than any of them. I say its just fine because you aren't begging for nothing but you want to spend time with your family and friends and if they want to bring a gift than that's ok. But the games are there, free food, and prizes. So why not, some people have two or three showers for one child so what's the difference?

miraclebabe101 |

Q&A: Shower for a second baby?

My daughter will be going on 4 when the new baby is born. I saved s lot of her things hoping to have another. I do still need a lot of things, but I am going to suggest a diaper party instead of a shower to my family. I know they want to celebrate, and diapers will be a big help.

chats_407 |

Q&A: Shower for a second baby?

Planning your own shower is out of the question for me. I think it's rude. I do agree that every baby should be celebrated, whether you do it though a shower, a sprinkle, or an open house! Be accepting if others want to give gifts--it's thoughtful!

amos14 |

Q&A: Shower for a second baby?

I have totes and totes of girl clothes, but nothing for a boy so if baby#2 is a boy then I may ask my sister-in-law to throw me a baby shower. I felt bad with #1, I practically had to beg someone to throw me a shower. I may plan my own 4th of July Baby Sprinkle, and suggest boy clothes if anyone asks, because all of my gear from DD was neutral and clothes is all we'd need.

mamafoxX2 |

Q&A: Shower for a second baby?

I'm not sure if I should have a baby shower this time around. This will be my 4th child and I plan on getting my tubes tied after this one. The thing is my 1st was a girl and I had a shower for her and my 2nd I got pregnant with just 16 months after my first and it was another girl and I didn't really think I should have another baby shower so soon, so she didn't get one which I really wanted her to have one but I already had tons of girl things and a lot of my friends didn't have baby showers for their 2nd. My 3rd was a boy and everybody said of course I have to have a baby shower for him which I wanted to and needed a lot of boy things. If I have a baby shower for this one I'll feel guilty about not having a baby shower for my 2nd daughter. I know it's a little confusing but advice please...

leon4fam |

Q&A: Shower for a second baby?

I believe it's just fine to have a shower for each of your children. Why? Because what if you are like myself and I'm sure other mothers out there and there are several years between child one and child two. I also really like the idea of having the shower after the baby is born that way it is more like meet the baby. I DO NOT see anything wrong with having a shower for your second, third,or whatever number it may be. Lean more towards yes have a shower for the newest member of your family if there are several years between you last child and the one your pregnant with.

blessedx4angels |

Q&A: Shower for a second baby?

I don't see how it's rude or tacky to throw your baby a shower if no one else is willing to do it for you - perhaps some moms-to-be have very selfish, or young, or inconsiderate friends and family....I say if no one is stepping up to celebrate your baby, you should do it for her/him!!!

LeeFletch |

Q&A: Shower for a second baby?

I am also pregnant with baby number two, and am in the process of planning my own shower. I really know what I want with this one, and my BFF has agreed to help me "host" it. My last baby shower was great in the sense I got want I needed for the baby, but it was a circus! This time, it'll be a more intimate gathering of my nearest and dearest loved ones. I don't need too much, and I just really want to celebrate the birth of our baby! So do what feels right for u, and try not to get overly stressed with it. People love any excuse to party and have a good time!

mrslcjones07 |

Q&A: Shower for a second baby?

i dont know i think that just because u have another bundle of joy come into ur family doesnt make that baby any less deserving of their own baby shower:)

youngymom2 |

Q&A: Shower for a second baby?

We are doing a baby sprinkle instead of a full blown shower since our babies are both boys and are less than 2 years apart, but we decided to do a family BBQ in lieu of the traditional women-only-silly-games shower

MonicaP26 |

Q&A: Shower for a second baby?

I am pregnant with my second child and there will only be an almost-three-year difference between my kids. I saved just about everything from my first baby and most of it is gender neutral, but I am still finding myself in need of certain things - like a double stroller! I will most likely be having a shower to celebrate and I don't see anything wrong with creating a small registry to let people know what I need to fill the gaps.

cddn1980 |

Q&A: Shower for a second baby?

I am pregnant with my 2nd child and I am having another shower and I am throwing it myself. I don't think it is tacky at all. My first was to my ex and this is going to be the first baby in about 15 years in my husbands family so it is mostly for his side of the family. My shower for my first was thrown by my mom and was nothing like what I wanted because she would not listen to anything I said. My mother-in-law and my mother do not get along to well. (Found that out when they were doing the wedding shower and wedding stuff) So I decided to plan it myself and just delegate out to them what I want them to do. Saves me alot of stress and which is something I don't need more of. LOL

wendirae84 |

Q&A: Shower for a second baby?

I know someone who is having a "sprinkle" and I find it rude. Nowadays people can't afford to give gifts all the time. People usually give gifts such as clothes, onesies, bibs, and so on when the baby is born anyway and it's their choice to do so. I think a second shower is ok if its years apart but anywhere between 1 and 7 years is inappropriate. It puts people on the spot and makes them feel obligated to give a gift. It should not be other peoples problem if you decided to throw things out. Even if its a different sex... a lot of times people don't even find out the sex so if its a new sex or not I don't find it appropriate. You can call it a sprinkle but when I talk to people that is just another name for a shower. This person is calling it a sprinkle and she has large items such as a stroller, and a pack and play. Like I said its not my fault you gave it away or threw it out. Its your responsibility and we should not have to pay bc you thought you weren't going to have anymore kids.

Noel1120 |

Q&A: Shower for a second baby?

I don't think there is anything wrong with celebrating each and every child you have... whether it's 1 or 20. People who don't want to come to the shower/sprinkle/party don't have to. Period. If you are going to get all uppity because you don't want to feel "obligated" to buy a gift, then decline the invite... your grouchy mood probably wasn't wanted anyway. :/ Babies are gifts and should be celebrated as such.

sibkris |

Q&A: Shower for a second baby?

A shower is, like a wedding shower, to "shower" the future mom with gift for the baby. I think it is really really tacky to have a shower for a second baby. If you want to make a party go ahead but don't name it a shower. You are suppose to have a bed, etc. If a woman get married for a second time will it be ok to throw her a shower? I don't think so.

sdude |

Q&A: Shower for a second baby?

I was actually looking for an answer to the same question, but my own opinion is this: I think a shower for a second baby is fine. I agree that every baby should be celebrated. There are always those keepsake gifts that you get at baby showers that each child should have some of. Also, since I don't need as many things (my second child is the same gender as my first), I will have the person throwing my shower suggest gift cards to Babies R Us (to go towards things like a double stroller) and diapers in all sizes! After all, you can never have too many diapers, and a package of diapers will be a cheap and easy gift! : )

stephpoor |

Q&A: Shower for a second baby?

We are having a baby bbq for our second baby. It's just a party to spend time with our family and friends before the baby comes. You can't beat playing corn hole and great bbq, it just happens that I am pregnant!

mommy2william |

Q&A: Shower for a second baby?

I am planning my second child and my friends actually want to throw me a shower. I am completely excited because my first and only child will be 9 once I have my second one. I feel that every pregnancy should be celebrated.

princessevas1 |

Q&A: Shower for a second baby?

As long as you put "no gifts" on the invite, I'm fine w/it . Otherwise, its just tacky.

bbraswe2 |

Q&A: Shower for a second baby?

My friends are planning a 2nd baby shower for me. The shower will be held at my favorite restaurant and only those nearest and dearest will be invited. My children will be 13 years apart and so everyone is excited for the long awaited edition.

ms.samia |

Q&A: Shower for a second baby?

If there is a large age difference a shower for a second baby is fine. I am amazed at the sense of entitlement in many of these comments. Maybe I am way too old fashioned, but there was a time when moms stored their out grown baby clothes and equipment in the attic in anticipation of the next baby, or lent them to a friend or neighbor for their newborn. We have become a society of debt ridden consumers. Yes, I know there are safety issues with cribs/hi chairs and they may need to be replaced, but when second time moms register for $180. baby quilts and not 1, but 2 car seats thats a little too much.

esi142 |

Q&A: Shower for a second baby?

I think there is nothing wrong with throwing a shower for yourself, I have thrown a shower for my friend with her second child she had a girl and was having another girl, i was two months behind her in my pregnancy and thought she would throw me one, when she asked if i was having one i said well no one has asked if they could throw one for me, I already had a boy and i was pregnant with a girl so i absolutely needed girl things, but she never offered and stated that I could afford to buy my own stuff, we are in the same income bracket, and i thought it was awfully rude. no one else ended up offering and i didn't have one. I am now pregnant with my third child it has taken us 5 years to get pregnant due to infertility and i asked my mother if it would be okay to have a baby shower and she thought it was too tacky and told me no. My sister in-law had three showers for both of her children and they were only a year apart and she went to all of them so why is having my second shower ever with my third child tacky??? I have two friends that have offered this time, but I will hold my breathe.

wklj875 |

Q&A: Shower for a second baby?

When friends and family celebrate milestones and special occasions, I never say to myself how tacky, they are just looking for gifts. I think it is unfortunate that some people can't see the true spirit of a baby shower, it's about coming together and sharing stories, advice, words of comfort and having fun. If you can celebrate a birthday each year you can certainly have a second, third and so on baby shower. I think there is something wrong with a friend or family member who isn't dying to share in your joy and be looking forward to finding a special little something to give to you or the new baby, no one said they have to break the bank, even just a copy of one of their favorite childhood books with a special message inside would be inexpensive and priceless! As for throwing your own shower, why not, in a time of complicated relationships and financial worries, there is a lot to be said about being in control of how and who you want to share this with.

poshpoppy |

Q&A: Shower for a second baby?

I struggled with this question also. But when told by family and friends that I was going to get one wheather or not I wanted one I figured it was ok. I am having a little girl so everyone is very excited especially grandma. She has already started buying stuff. Also, to take the pressure off of my friends and since I will be in school I am planning it with their help. We are leaning towards a fall or a football themed one(I live in Bronco Country). I think that it is up to the parents and whomever else wants to be involved. This is a postitive experince keep it that way. You can also call it whatever you want and do what makes you happy.

mashell24 |

Q&A: Shower for a second baby?

A baby shower isn't to celebrate the ability to get pregnant, if it was then it would be only appropriate to have one for the first pregnancy. A baby shower is to shower the coming baby with gifts. I believe you should have at least one baby shower for every pregnancy. It is very common in my area to have several baby showers for every pregnancy, primarily given by each side of the family then a few by friends. If you are a bit of a control freak and have a specific theme in mind then it's fine to throw one for yourself, again you are showering your baby, not showering yourself!

fairylovestar |

Q&A: Shower for a second baby?

I don't see a problem with having a shower for 2nd baby especially if it's a different gender and they are at least a few years apart. I'm expecting my 2nd boy and he and his older brother will be exactly 5 years apart (possibly down to the day) when he is born. I'm not expecting anyone to do anything for me. I've had people ask if I had anything left from when my 4 year old was born and I told them that I kept everything except for what I loaned others (and was never returned). I've already bought several new clothing items for this baby. I'll probably replace our bouncey seat and exersaucer and get a few other newer things myself but I don't see anyone offering to do anything this time and I would not throw a shower for myself.

gracienunnally |

Q&A: Shower for a second baby?

I didn't have a shower with my twins (who are 6) is it ok if I have a shower with this preg if I have nothing at all left?

Charmed6986 |

Q&A: Shower for a second baby?

I find it completely appropriate to have a second baby shower. I wasn't sure if anyone was going to throw me one but a friend finally did. I didn't need much as far as big ticket items go but did want a double stroller since my children are almost three years apart. I didn't want to be selfish but did feel that I needed it since my first was a girl and second was a boy and didn't have any hand me downs from family this time since he was the first in the family. I also didn't have much in the way of clothes if I did end up having a girl because I let my sister borrow most of it for her daughter and she never gave it back even though I asked repeatedly. I never thought my own sister would do something like that! Long story short, I think it is completely fine to have more than one since it should be all about the baby.

jenmayo8 |

Q&A: Shower for a second baby?

I am 32-weeks with my second daughter (my first will be 5 when I deliver baby #2). Both sides of the family have told me that it is tacky to have a shower for a second baby, and I must admit that made me a little sad. Not because of the gifts, but because I feel like no one wants to celebrate my new arrival. My sis-in-law suggested I register anyway in case anyone wants to buy the baby a Christmas present, since she's due Dec 22.

angela0501 |

Q&A: Shower for a second baby?

I was looking for a little advice about having a second shower. I had one with my first daughter (16 years ago). Obviously, I need things for a little girl. Does anyone think it's tacky to have a shower after 16 years?

thefuturemrsellison |

Q&A: Shower for a second baby?

i am havin my third boy and i am havin a shower i am planning it myself i have done all of mine by myself and people tell me i shouldnt because i should already have everything well to those ones that wanna say that they can keep there opinions to thier selfs because i have nothing because my house burnt down recently and i saved nothing anyways because i was not planning to have another personally the way i see it if you wanna throw yourself a baby shower then u should do it screw anybody that says different

jmoon1987 |

Q&A: Shower for a second baby?

I don't agree with the rule of "only if the 2nd child is very far apart". We are throwing a shower for a friend whose kids are all stairstepped, age 3, 2, and now baby twins. Can you imagine trying to go to the grocery store to stock up on diapers? Her husband is deployed overseas. She didn't ask for anything, but we told her she was getting a shower regardless. It's not an issue of freeloading or her having kids she can't afford - we're actually genuinely excited for her and want to help out. Plus it's her first girl and we're dying to get all the cutesy girly pink stuff. The bottom line is this: if you are concerned about 'tackiness' or appearing to ask for charity, just be mindful of the people you are inviting. It may be inappropriate to ask, say, a coworker or employee who feels obligated to attend. Also, take care to put a variety of price points on your registry. (Hey, pacifiers are $2, but you know you'll need tons of em) But other than that, these are supposed to be your friends - generally they just want to feel helpful and that they have some part in your child's life!

RissanAdam |

Q&A: Shower for a second baby?

I am pregnant with my secon child. My girls will be seven years apart. My mother in law is throwing me a shower and I am very excited. I do not think it is tacky at all. Unless the children are very close in age and the same sex, then possibly.

jamesandtanyamurphy |

Q&A: Shower for a second baby?

It amazes me that people think that having a second shower is tacky. I just dont get it. Its like saying "Ok First born we are going to throw a birthday party for you but sorry second born. . . you dont get a birthday party because you were born second and well. . . you can just have all your older siblings stuff from last year." I am all for 2nd showers, 3rd showers, 4th showers, whatever. Every baby should be celebrated no matter what birth order they are in. I think it really depends on the person too. If they feel as though they just want to have a diaper party or something that is fine too. I dont think it is tacky either if you register for your second. . . even if it is the same sex. We are currently pregnant with #2 and even if we were having another girl I could think of TONS of things I would need. But if we have a boy. . .we are going to need even more stuff because a lot of what we have is pink ( we didnt buy it. . it was purchased for us). Things I will need because I borrowed with our first born and had to give it back. I also dont think it is tacky to throw the shower yourself. It is expensive to throw a shower and in todays economy a lot of people dont have the money to do it. My best friend threw a friends only shower for me with my daughter. There were 6 of us there and I was bored (no games). Not to mention I got to listen to her complain about the cost of it after and how much food was "wasted". It would be easier to just host it yourself. We are planning on doing that with this one.

the4hclub |

Q&A: Shower for a second baby?

I too myself have been puzzled with this; for I am pregnant with my second child. For my daughter I had a shower and received everything I needed from crib to bottles. Now that I am expecting again I also want to celebrate this miracle. I have decided to plan/give an addition celebration; being that we are adding too our family. It is something the whole family can enjoy including the father to be and the eldest child. However, I do not feel that a 2nd shower is tacky really it depends on the individual. I can say I would not expect the same turn out as the first. Doing it yourself is also fine; it is said if you want something done you got to do it yourself lol

griffinransaw |

Q&A: Shower for a second baby?

With my son, my first, I wound up having to throw my own shower since the friend that said she would made sure to set the date and just let me do the invites, then she bailed and went out of town. This time, my best friend from college (who moved here recently) offered to throw it for me, and I am incredibly grateful! At my first shower, because it was so poorly planned, I didn't get very much. Just a few onesies and a couple gift cards. And a few of those fell apart or got so stained, I just have them around as back-ups for here at home. I'm looking forward to celebrating the newest member of my family!

MamaBat |

Q&A: Shower for a second baby?

I'm 7 months pregnant with my second child, my first is 6 years old and we received the convertible crib at a shower for her which she is still using because it's a full size bed now. Everything else we had saved for another child was destroyed in a house fire several years ago so we have nothing left over from her baby years. My sister is wanting to have a baby shower for us but my grandmother feels like we should not have one because it's "inappropriate". What do you think?

kimmbryant |

Q&A: Shower for a second baby?

I'm 6 months pregnant with my second child and my first is 5 years old. We have most of the big items still but do not have any of the little things. My mother and friend are throwing me a second shower. It is not going to be as big as my 1st but I do not see it as inappropriate or tacky to have a second shower. However my friends and family are excited and have been requesting a shower so I guess it has to do with the people around you to. I think if your child/children are past the baby stage and another one is expected it is more than okay to throw a shower. If your children are very close together and you have everything then there really isn't a need for another shower.

lilbeavsmama |

Q&A: Shower for a second baby?

I don't think it's tacky at all. I am currently 21wks with my second. I have a 2yo son. My husband and I were not planning on having any more kids. In fact, we were waiting for my husband's insurance to kick in (it was a new job) & I was going to get my tubes tied. Meanwhile, a friend of a friend was in desperate need of baby items, so we gave away most things we had. Next thing we know, surprise surprise, we're pregnant again. We still have my son's crib, changing table, car seat and a few clothes....that's it. We mostly need little things, but as many of you know, the little things add up FAST. We are planning on having a little get together/BBQ this summer for friends & family. I probably will call it a "sprinkle", but will also not that gifts are not necessary. I do think that each and every baby should be celebrated in one way or another. I don't think you need to have a full-blown shower for each, especially if the kids aren't very far apart...unless they're different genders. In my opinion, the second shower or "sprinkle" shouldn't be thrown for you unless someone offers. I think it should be more laid-back & more about the company than the gifts. I think as long as you're providing the food, beverages, etc then it's ok to ask for a small gift in return. We're also considering having a "welcome to the world" part instead, that way everyone gets to meet the new baby and actually "shower" the baby with the gifts. No matter how many kids you've had in the past, you're always going to need SOMETHING for the new baby.

dolphace |

Q&A: Shower for a second baby?

okay so my husband and I were married this last August and i already have a child from a previous relationship he will be 2 when the baby comes (my husband has been n the picture since before he was born but came in at the very end) is it tacky to have another shower as this is his first child?? and him and his family never got to be part of my sons life until the very end of my pregnancy?? (i will be planning it on my own)

BreaHett |

Q&A: Shower for a second baby?

I have a daughter from a previous relationship and her dad has only met her once. My husband and I got married and ended up pregnant 1 week after the honeymoon. It's our first together and our family did a lot to help us with our wedding. We will be throwing our own party as a couples party but it won't be a traditional baby shower. I don't believe there is anything wrong with it, it's not tacky, and it celebrates a new life, so if anyone has a problem with that, they aren't obligated to attend.

sarahparis |

Q&A: Shower for a second baby?

I am very sensitive to this question b/c I am going through tthis very issue at the moment. I have a son who is 2 and I am expecting a daughter in september. There are things I need and I don't think having a shower would be tacky. I think the people saying this do not have mutltiple children. My mother and sister threw the shower last time and I don't think my side should have to throw a shower again and my MIL is avoiding the subject. She wants to have a meet and greet after the baby is born. This may sound like a good compromise but it sucks for me b/c I had a miserable recovery after my son was born and I am not sure I will feel up for a meet and greet. Also I just prefer tp have everything I need before the baby comes since I will have a toddler and newborn to care for and don't feel like setting up stuff and returning things. Am I being selfish, maybe but I feel like the birth of my daughter should be just as important.

csmittyrun |

Q&A: Shower for a second baby?

I am preg with #2... I am having a girl and my first was a boy... I am having a shower and I dint see how it's tacky at all. Most of the gifts I got at my showers were clothes and blankets... Things you need with every baby.... If someone doesn't want to bring a present they don't have to. I really wouldn't want anyone there who didn't want to celebrate my daughter anyway...

Hillary222 |

Q&A: Shower for a second baby?

Reading some of these posts is just infuriating. What gives anybody the right to complain and criticize anyone for throwing herself a baby shower or having another for their 2nd baby? If you don't want to buy another gift, then DON"T!! If you don't want to go to one, then DECLINE!! If someone puts expensive items on their registy, WHO CARES!!! No one is obligated to give any gifts (expensive or not) or go to a shower/sprinkle/meet the baby. I'm pregnant with my 2nd baby, of the same gender, mind you. And I DO plan on having another baby shower. And guess what? With the help of my mom, I'm going to plan it MYSELF!! It'll be more intimate than the first. We will avoid having guests complaining how expensive diapers are. (How much do they think we paid to feed them?) A baby is a celebration, and not an obligation for anyone to buy gifts or attend something they don't want to. My goodnes, I've been asked to give gifts to a co-worker who was going to be a grandparent for the first time! If I didn't have anything to give, I didn't. I just need ideas to throw this 2nd baby shower/sprinkle/bbq/get together.....etc.

34ladybug |

Q&A: Shower for a second baby?

Maybe this is more of a question then an answer, but I don't have any close friends most of the people I hang out with are family, I really want to have a baby shower but what if no one comes to it how do I plan something that people are actually going to want to come too?

PamMoore |

Q&A: Shower for a second baby?

I am expecting my 2nd child. My eldest is 7 years old. I don't have anything. My family threw the first shower and it was big and it was a pain in the neck (based on what my husband said). My close friend felt a certain way for not throwing that one but she insist upon throwing this one. Since nobody can hold water around me, I found out about my first shower bc of my MIL and friends have asked me about my second shower. I stressed how I want this shower to be short and sweet. Its going to be at a restaurant, few games played and dessert. If my children were close in age, I would have a meet n greet.

Valarie10711 |

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with my second child, my mother-in-law was in my ear about how i wasnt suppose to have another shower because that was only for the first baby. Now my sister in law is pregnant with her second and the m.i.l. is throwing her a shower. I've decided for my third (im 14 weeks), I'm still having a shower. Not so much for the gifts, but to celebrate with my girlfriends. My husband attended the last shiower, and i've given him permission not to come to this one. we're doing like a tea-party theme. Baby showers are to celebrate mommy and baby, why take that away?

winndixie1009 |

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I am definitely having a shower the 2nd time around. My ex husband left my son and I and this is my husband's first child- there are so many comments about how it is tacky and such but each of us have different circumstances. My husband and his family should not have to miss out on the fun of celebrating because someone in my past screwed up- not their fault! Plus my daughter deserves to be celebrated! Also, it is not as if we are all just being selfish and greedy by doing so- If someone is unable to buy a gift- who cares- come and have fun! I would never want someone to feel guilted into coming. It is what it is!

lshaffer17 |

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This is my 4th child and this will also be my 4th shower. Its a celebration seethed its the 1st or 4th.

trinagood77 |

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a sip and see is also a good idea. You provide the refreshments and invite people for an afternoon to come "see" the baby after he or she is born!

StaceyF89 |

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I have a 3yr old and my 2nd due in 2 months. My mom and sister want to throw me a shower, but not a suprise. I thought it would be awkward at first due to my in-laws don't beleive in 2nd showers so I gave my address list of my family and closest friends to them and kept of my husband's family so no one has to complain :)

battygirl13 |

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I think it's tacky. You may need things, but maybe people who need help supplying things for their children should not be having more. The idea of the first shower, is becuase most first time expectanct parents have no clue of what they will need, and to get them started in the correct direction,,,,family and friends help out. If you already have a child...you certainly know the cost of raising one and if you cant do that on your own, it's wrong to ask others. For you that say every baby deserves to be celebrated...you are right....so maybe throwing a "meet the baby" party AFTER the baby is home, you should do that without expecting everyone to buy what your baby needs. If you want to celebrate your baby, you pay for the expense to do so....don't keep expecting everyone else to do it for you. Just my thought.

myfourkids |

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One of my close friends is having her third child. We are throwing her a "Dipey & Wipey" party. Instead of gifts everyone will bring diapers and wipes, which is somethings all parents need no matter what # they're on.

ahubbs |

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I Feel Like It's Completely Up To The Mother. If She Has 10 Kids And Throws 10 Baby Showers Thats Her Choice. If You Don't Like It Don't Go! Simple As That! A Shower Is A Gathering To Celebrate A Blessing Coming Into The World. It Doesn't Always Intail Gifts And People Spending Money. I Have Two Boys And Im Pregnant With A Girl Now. I Had A Shower For My Boys And I Will Have One For My Baby Girl. But I Will Still Be Buying Things That She Will Need As I Did With The Boys. It Isn't All About Gifts It's A Celebration. Now Thats Just MY Thought!!

kita1988 |

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I believe every baby deserves a shower, weather its the 1st or 4th. I think its just like asking if someone should have a birthday party for their 2nd or more child. Of course your going to have birthday parties for each, why not a baby shower for their Birth as well!

Hersom |

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I completely agree with "myfourkids"...and also want to add for those that say "I feel bad that the 2nd, 3rd, etc baby won't have a shower: THEY DON"T KNOW YOU DIDN'T HAVE ONE FOR THEM! Were your feelings hurt when you were a baby and you didn;t get something? no? Hmm...that's because you didn't know either. Yeesh!

amandahugnkiss13 |

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People keep telling my mother it is inappropriate to have me a second shower. One of her good friends is throwing me one anyway. My first born and this baby will be 7 years apart. It's also going to be my husbands first baby, so his family is really excited. I've already purchased the stroller, pack and play, and bassinet. I'm going to buy my own baby furniture (I did last time too-but I have friends who didn't have to buy a thing including nursery furniture). My mom is buying the baby swing, so all the really expensive items are taken care of. This way people can just buy what they want, and not necessarily things I will need.

jessica301 |

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NO IT IS NOT

Tangiee2012 |

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Bath time should be fun but at first it used to be a nightmare for me. I'm overreacting of course but still, my baby used to cry a lot. And I did everything to make it fun and especially safe. I even got one of those chlorine shower filters for chlorine removal and prevention of dry skin. Anyway, he started to like it and now he can't wait to get into the tub so he can play with his rubber duck.

kci15 |

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I think it's a great idea to have a second baby shower. It's not about the mom, it's about the baby. Why shouldn't people want to celebrate?! Also, even though gifts are not a requirement, keep in mind that especially when it comes to clothes, there really isn't enough salvageable items from 0-6 months. I am pregnant and have a two year old. Both of them are girls and I am still having a shower. Babies are messy and even though I have all the major stuff and saved all the clothes and etc. that I could, I still don't have as much of the little things as I will need because my first daughter either stained up her clothes or chewed on binkies etc. till they had to be thrown out. Plus, a shower is really all about getting together with family and friends and having a good time. I think it is much more classy to have a shower for each baby than to throw a birthday party every year expecting family to buy things for your children.

SmithandLevi |

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LOL I am having baby #2! I will have a second shower and I will be throwing it myself!!! Let the hate come flowing! lol jk jk... But I really am having my 2nd shower and planning it and throwing it myself.

Pinupgirl300 |

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1st & foremost... Stop worrying about what everyone else has to say! ESPECIALLY if they're not throwing or contributing to the baby shower! 2nd I obviously don't think it's wrong to throw a 2nd baby shower. I threw my 1st one for myself. Here it is 7 yrs later... Im having another baby. Obviously I dont have ANY baby items that I kept from the previous. Didn't think I would have anymore honestly. Met a wonderful husband that changed my mind. But long story short There is nothing wrong with having a 2nd baby shower. Have a 3rd, 4th, & so on if you like! What a wonderful reason to get together & have a celebration for the miracle of life!

ZackaryFam6 |

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I am also pregnant with my 2nd. I have been debating the whole issue of being "tacky". My first child is 8, and with my 1st shower it created alot of tension between my family and my husbands. My mother threw my first shower and my none of my husbands family came. it just became to much. So we decided to throw our own shower, just to avoid the conflict and drama. i didn't want to make it about who do more or who didn't have the money for this or that..So as tacky as it might sound, i wanted to celebrate my child coming to the world, and have the WHOLE family get together without the non-sense. We rented a banquet hall, only bc we live in a small house and have a big family. If i had the room, i would have had it at my house maybe bbq style. :) Congrats to all my second mommies and good luck to my second shower throwers~!!!

melissap614 |

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Why not. You have to celebrate your kid. You can sent invitations too and choose a theme for the party. You can find on InvitationBox.com party invitations with all kind of models and cartoons.

ioana06 |

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I have an 11 year old and was just married (this is his first child), so I'm gong to go ahead and have a baby shower :)

Jaim79 |

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I threw my first shower because i didnt know that friends or family usully do it. I gave most of my sons old clothes to friends that were pregnant with boys "and trust me there was a lot". My son is almost 3 now n we dont know if its a boy or a girl. Plus were having to get a new place because where we are now isnt big enough. So the more help the bettee. Though im basically just gonna ask for hand me downs. If they wana buy new things for the baby "or me", i wont complain.

19nmommyof2 |

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I'm definitely having a shower for baby #2. My first was same gender as this one and will be 4 when the new baby arrives. I kept everything, but a lot of stuff is no longer safe and what not... also, I had a whoping total of 5 guests show up for my first child's shower due to an ice storm hitting the day before and no one made it. I love the idea of celebrating each child and am hoping for a better turnout this time since it should be better weather.

vkbowers |

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Our daughter is 17 no and our due date is may 5. Since we have everything we will ever need still were doing a gender reveal sprinkle. No gifts but a diaper raffle. Coed and kid friendly party just to celebrate the new life coming soon! :)

nbeitel |

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I'm having a shower for baby #2. My daughter is 15 months and baby #2 is a boy, she will be 18 months when he is born and we got a lot of girl things at my baby shower for her. So being I have girl stuff and only a few biy things I decided best to do a shower again. It's mainly for small things like clothes pacifiers and bottles I'm still doing it. We were smart and had people gift is gender neutral swing, bouncer, and pack in play at my daughters shower.

Sgoings |

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Yes absolutely have one for each pregnancy you have everyone should want to celebrate each if your baby's upcoming arrivals! Yes I would feel bad if I had one for the other and not for one as I am a picture holic the other kids would see that they didn't get one but the other did! Throw it yourself or have someone that's your one choice :)

MelissaAC3 |

Q&A: Shower for a second baby?

There are certain circumstances that I think it is appropriate. For example, there is a wide gap between children; my first son was 12 when I had my second, or it is your husband/boyfriend's first child. In my case, both of those were true so I felt comfortable having a second shower (my friend threw it for me) I don't think it is EVER appropriate to throw your own shower. If you have no one who offers, then have a "Meet and Greet Baby So and So" and let your closest friends and family know what you need if they ask. I had to throw a second shower for a close friend (because she expected me to and I didn't know how to get out of it...)and I felt verrrry rude and uncomfortable hosting it. I am now pregnant with my third, and considering my son was just born two years ago, I wouldn't dream of having another shower. Your friends and family will undoubtedly want to get you a gift regardless!

mtrettin6140 |

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there will be 3.5 years between my first and second. 1st is a boy and we don't know the sex of this one yet as im only 7 weeks along. I think if we have another boy, I would just want to do a diaper party and only request bottles, diapers, and wipes. but if its a girl, my family would insist on throwing me another shower. I think no matter how close your kids are they should all be celebrated! who doesn't love a party..and a baby?!

jessjb88 |

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I'm planning for my second child baby shower. its a lot harder plan but it will be worth it in the end.

ahazel31 |

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I think it's fine to have a shower a second baby. I am having a copy,e of showers for my second baby, especially since there is a 16 year age difference between the two. There was no way I would anything baby-related right now and I was told there was no way that I wasn't having one. I am really surprised by some of the comments. Wow, I'm so glad to have friends & family who believe in celebrating new life, regardless of what number baby it is...

diyahluv |

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I think that it is great to celebrate each and every birth, as each one is a gift. For those that are offended, then they are selfish individuals who are not able to be happy for others and may not be a good friend to have anyway. I think that you know your own situation and do what you feel is best, just like with parenting. I do think that the open house is a great idea and is less awkward, but those that judge others make me mad :( We are having our second child, and even though the gender is different, they are only 15 months apart so we will not have another "shower". I plan to do the open house so that we can celebrate and my new baby won't feel cheated. There is a section in his baby book about the shower, so how would that look if his sister had one and he didn't?

myers509 |

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I personally belive you can have a shower for the second baby. I am 11 weeks pregnant now and I have a beautiful 12 yr daughter that will be 13 by the time the baby comes. We don't have any baby stuff at all, but I was told second baby showers are a no-no. Was wondering if this is true

jodyen |

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I think gender is a big factor in deciding whether or not your going to have a second shower. For instance I have a two year old daughter, but I'm now expectiing a boy I don't have any boy stuff. If I were expecting another girl then a shower wouldn't be necessary at all I would just have everyone meet the baby. Having kids close in age your pretty much expected to old onto the baby stuff unless your idk getting your tubes tied after the birth

ashleytaylor42790 |

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I've also heard that showers for a second child is bad etiquette. I have a 3 year old and am ttc. I've saved all of his things (stroller, crib, etc.) and clothes. For my second child, I plan to have a gathering after the child is born to see the baby. If people choose to bring gifts, that is fine, but not required. After having my first, I had multiple visits once I was home from the hospital so I think a gathering after the baby is born would be nice to do.

kasb |

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I do not feel it is tacky to have a shower for your 2nd baby as each baby and mom deserves to be celebrated. With that said, depending on the age difference of the child and baby, perhaps a more relaxed gathering would be more appropriate if they are close in age. Example, I have a 5 1/2 year old daughter and 8 weeks 1 day pregnant. While I saved 90% of her baby items and plan to use everything I can (crib & furniture, car seats, stroller, etc.), I will be having a baby shower. Also, everyone's family situation is different and if a mommy to be ends up planning her own shower, I see absolutely nothing wrong with that, What-so-ever. As an interior designer and party planner, I played a vital role in planning my first baby shower along with my parents and family. I will be planning the shower for our 2nd baby as well. I like many expectant mothers like to and want to be involved. With that being said, by all means have a second shower. Some guests may be "old school" and not agree with it.... Just know you cannot possibly please everyone, should they disagree they do not need to participate but may show their love and support in another way. Remember, This shower is to honor baby and you!

Meljahnke1 |

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I've been thinking about this question too. I think the only reason I would push for having a baby shower for baby #2 is if we find out we're having a boy (my first is a girl and we've got just about everything we need if we have another one). But I've never been big on being the center of attention, so having a party where I'm the main focus is almost more stressful than fun for me. But withh that said, if one of my friends offers to throw one I'm not going to pass it up.

adamstentzel |

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I'm in the same situation, the reason why I looked up to see what other mothers are doing, I too am pregnant with my second child. There will be a 15 month difference between the two and I was wondering if I should have a second "shower" so to say? If its a girl its a no brainer since I will have nothing for a girl as far as clothes and such. But fi I have a boy, I was always told by tradition you should not have one that its very disrespectful. But I want to have one to celebrate our new little addition. I will be due in July so Im really liking the idea as a whole family event. For my first, we did a shower/diaper party. I was hesitant before reading these posts but now I think I have made my mind up, just do what I feel is best. If my family and friends think its disrespectful then they do not have to show up!!! I believe that every baby should be a celebration, its exciting and a time to celebrate with the parents to be.. I will not expect people to bring gifts but they will be appreciated since there are still somethings that we didn't get that would be nice to have.. Money and gift cards would be a great idea that way like another person said you could get a double stroller and odd and end things that you may need to accommodate a second baby.. I hope this helps :-) I know it did me lol

AleahR13 |

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My 1st and 2nd are 5 years apart and are both Boys. My mom felt it was inappropriate to have another shower. I was quite upset about it but she offered to buy everything I needed instead of throwing the shower so I was ok with that and they threw a shower for me at work (I work in a different place than I did with my first) so I got to feel special that way. My cousin had a diaper shower for her second boy. I think it's fine but the subject is controversial.

artist1320 |

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I'm 27 weeks pregnant with my second daughter, my oldest is 6. I have several people telling me it isn't proper to have a shower for a second baby. One person offered to host a sprinkle. I have no idea how many people to invite or anything. I feel tacky asking for gifts but we do need some things like a car seat since it's expired and a few items we need to replace. I created a registry at the urging of my best friend who wanted a detailed list of what I need. I don't expect anyone to give us gifts but it's so awkward when people ask if there will be a shower.

askid |

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I don't really want a shower for my baby #2... although I would love to have the stuff! I would do a "meet the baby" get together, but to be honest... it sounds like a germ/disease breeding ground. Yes, come meet my baby who is too young for her vaccinations... then we end up with whooping cough. No thanks. This mama will just have to shell out the $$ :-)

andreamarnold |

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If someone offers to throw a shower or a sprinkle for you, why not? It's all voluntary---the party, the gifts..no one is forcing it. I just found out we are expecting our second child and if someone is kind enough to offer to throw a party, I'll look at it as a great chance to catch up with people I care about. I don't expect gifts..or if people CHOOSE to give a gift, I would think it would be something smaller--new outfits, diapers etc....that's generally the idea behind a sprinkle..you have the major stuff so you get little things in honor of the new baby....I wouldn't feel comfortable hosting one for myself, but I don't think there's anything wrong with it. If you don't want to go or buy a gift, don't....if it's in someone's home and you just want to show up and be social, do! If it's out at a venue where attendance costs money, I'd offer to cover myself if I didn't want to bring a gift.

CassaundraN |