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Q&A: Planning a baby shower?

What are important things to think about when planning a baby shower?

Re: What are important things to think about when planning a baby shower?

The Bump Expert

For you? Relaxing. You're in charge of keeping yourself and baby healthy, and enjoying the shower. Let whoever is planning the shower take care of the worrying.
Now, if you're asking because you are the host, these tips will help you deal with the basics. Don't stress too much, though -- the love, support and company of friends and family is far more important than any gift, theme or hors d’oeuvres

Time it right
Best time for a baby shower? Somewhere in the last trimester. Allow a few weeks' cushion from the due date -- mom's water breaking during cake and coffee might make a great story, but not so much a great party. Having the shower too early, though (within the first half of pregnancy or so) could be -- quite literally -- counting eggs before they're hatched.

Plan ahead
Get the invites out at least six weeks ahead of time. Don't forget to include directions and your phone number or e-mail.

Be creative
Themes are great (think tea party, the nursery's decor, or baby brunch), but if the thought makes you squirm, try simply picking a color or style of food to plan the party around.

Great gifts
This starts with the registry, of course -- the best gift is always one that's wanted. It's also fun to ask each guest to bring a smaller, themed present -- favorite childhood book, homemade frozen dinner, IOU for future babysitting or chore help, etc.

Make it fun
Even if an elaborate themed party seems like too much work (or too corny), it's a good idea to plan some kind of activity. Try setting up a mini-spa with manis, pedis and massages. Or, if you're good with thread and a thimble, send each guest a quilt square along with their invitation, ask them to personalize it and bring to the party, and then sew them all together to make a keepsake quilt for the mom-to-be.



Paula Kashtan | May 15 , 2009 3:57 PM

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i'm finding myself eager to have a shower already, but i'm only 21 weeks! all my girlfriends have promised me a fun shower where we live with 6-4 weeks to go and a virtual shower for all my friends who won't be able to attend. the most important thing for you to remember, just be ready to be pampered and the center of attention and have a camera on hand! happy pampering!

aarons-wifey-to-be | June 09 , 2007 8:34 PM

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I am having my baby shower at 27 wekks because I am flying home to see my family in california. Then I am having the next one for family in WA the weekend after. I don't think that is too early.

Sydneys Mommy | June 18 , 2007 4:22 PM

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Well, I will only be 19 weeks and 5 days when I have my first baby shower. That's only because as one of many pregnant military wives on our base, we are trying to cram all the baby showers in this summer before friends move away. My other baby shower will be when I am 29 weeks because I am also going home to CT to have it with my family.

MommyCBP | June 19 , 2007 4:54 PM

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I will be 33 weeks but the date has already been set and the planning is much under way. That will be plenty of time to get things washed, put away, and set up before baby is due.

MrsPCallahan | August 30 , 2007 9:15 PM

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Mine's at 36 weeks, over Thanksgiving weekend, and I have to say I'm nervous about that. Definitely not too early to go into labor, and I'm worried about people not being able to show up. A number of my friends were kept away from my bridal shower by unforeseen circumstances (health problems, deaths, etc.). My mother insists it will be easier for some of our family to attend that weekend because of the holiday, but I don't know. I think it's going to end up being me, mom, my sisters, my pseudo SIL, and a couple of mom's friends from work. Not really the event I was dreaming of.

LoriFalce | September 01 , 2007 9:44 AM

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I will be 33 weeks for my shower but my mom is going completely overboard on the thing. Rented room, catered lunch, flower arangements, elaborate decorations, she even bought expensive paper to print the game answer sheets on. This thing is going to cost over $700 for around 20 people and I am just woried that even that many won't end up showing up. She is driving me crazy and stressing me out.

RedHeadRenee | September 14 , 2007 1:10 PM

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I had my first shower at 23 weeks but that was because I was travelling to a different state where I used to live and my friends there wanted to get together with me. I am not planning on returning again until after the baby is born so it was then or never (or ask them to travel across the country for a later shower where i live). It was nice and was good to be in the "cute" stage of pregnancy. I am having another local shower at week 31. We will probably be all stocked up for baby after that.

orouram | September 21 , 2007 8:33 AM

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I will be 32 weeks for mine. We thought about having it around Thanksgiving weekend but I don't think we would have the attendance we want. We did come up with a good idea though. Have a notebook or scrapbook handy for the baby shower. For anyone who shows up, have them right down their advice or newborn parenting tricks of the trade. It will be a great personal keepsake and reference guide in stressed out times. I hope it comes in handy!

JenDobs1019 | September 24 , 2007 3:51 PM

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I'm having my shower at 24 weeks. I'm going home and my family wanted to throw a shower for me while I'm there. Since I won't be able to travel much more after this and they can't all come cross country for a baby shower.

megachik@msn.com | October 18 , 2007 5:07 PM

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I'm having my shower when I am 29 weeks, which I thought was early, but I work in retail and so does the majority of my friends and of course co-workers, so that is why my friend wanted to have it before the holidays.

SunshineClarity | October 23 , 2007 8:26 PM

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what if you don't really want a shower because you don't want to be around the majority of peple you KNOW the hostess is going to invite, no matter what your wishes are?

cajunangel1985 | December 15 , 2007 11:52 PM

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I just had my shower. I'm at 33 weeks. We had about 50 people, guys and girls. What a great success! I planned everything! It cost close to $2000 for everything, but I don't consider that to be too much. HELPFUL HINT - No wrapping paper on the gifts! It saves time and is good for the environment! Also, if you have a Jack and Jill shower, provide something for the guys to do. I had Poker tables set up

HeatherAA | January 14 , 2008 7:57 PM

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I am having a shower at 30 weeks. I wanted to plan it myself but my mother was offended. I am scared because she has never planned a party in her life. But I figure I will be able to plan lots of parties for my baby after it is born so I have started planning the Christening Party already to keep me busy. :-)

MrsW110406 | May 12 , 2008 7:25 PM

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My first shower will be at 31 weeks. I am flying home to California to have it with friends and family out there then my second one will be at 35 weeks here in Indiana for my friends and husbands family who lives out here. It is cutting it close but I still have exactly a month before my due date.

laughingwild | June 15 , 2008 8:03 AM

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I keep hearing people having 2 showers? Why? A bigger one and a smaller one?

nelliehamton | June 30 , 2008 12:52 PM

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Probably one for each side of the family. For example my family/friends are in NY and his are in TN so it would be hard to have everyone together at one.

immelbatoast | July 11 , 2008 4:12 PM

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I am planning on having mine around 26 or 27 weeks because I wanted it to be before the holidays so that people would be in town. We are planning on having two showers because I have a large family with lots of family friends and lots of friends from high school/college. We are going to have a a family one and then a friend one. My husbands buddies are planning a "Beer and Diaper Shower" for him. It is really a cute idea because all the guys bring is a case of beer and a case of diapers. One of my parents friends did it and they didn't have to buy diapers for the first year. That is really helpfull!

brandibstuck | July 29 , 2008 2:22 PM

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i am having one with work people and then family and friends. I will be 31 and 32 weeks. I feel bad for cajunangel1985 and her post! I hope she ended up having a shower with only the people she wanted there and that care about her!

Mrs. Sawyer | August 08 , 2008 8:39 AM

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Ours has been scheduled for 26 weeks. Like others said, with the holidays and the crazy winter weather we wanted to be safe rather than sorry. Plus, I wouldn't want to interrupt others time with their families during the holidays to come to a shower!

Jessis62781 | August 14 , 2008 3:17 PM

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We're actually having four showers - sounds crazy, but that's the way it's worked out. One hosted by my husband's fire department at 36 weeks (co-ed, always fun), one hosted by a good friend and her husband at 35 weeks (family and local friends, probably 25-30 people, also co-ed), a SMALL one hosted by my college friends/sorority sisters at 25 weeks (before Thanksgiving) and another one hosted by a former client at 35 weeks. My husband and I were both raised within 20 miles of where we live now and I didn't want any one person to be burdened with a large shower, so when people started offering we decided to split it into several small ones.

cronbach | September 21 , 2008 6:09 PM

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Is it considered rude to expect a shower from a certain group of people outside of family? A friend of mine is a pastor's wife, like me, and the church that she was serving threw her one. I'm only at 20 weeks, but I've not heard of anyone planning anything. I know that my Mom and MIL will both throw one, but it'd be nice to have the support from my faith family.

froeschleiniowa | October 14 , 2008 10:36 AM

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why not have a post-delivery "baby show-off" versus "baby shower" for those who don't have a nursery set up or don't know the gender of the baby? then friends and family still come together for food and drinks (and cake : ) )but get to actually see the baby instead of play traditional games? then the new mom& dad don't end up with a bunch of stuff they don't need/want. they can actually get stuff that is essential, not just cutsie. seems more practical to me anyway . . .has anyone ever done this?

ams3377 | October 28 , 2008 1:49 PM

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My mom has already started planning our shower, and I'm only 5 weeks!! We're going to have one with her side of the family AFTER the baby's born, that's usually what that side likes to do so that everyone can see the baby. My grandma is also planning one with my aunts and cousins on my dad's side, and that will be before the baby's here...probably around 25 weeks.

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diapercakes | January 19 , 2009 6:16 PM

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I relocated to Atlanta a year ago and so I will be having two showers one for my friends and family in DC when I am 28 weeks, and one in Atlanta when I am 32 weeks. The one in DC will be a more tradtional shower with some games and baby decorations. My baby shower hostess in Atlanta wants to do a theme party. However most that we have found are really expensive. I would prefer (and I am she does too :-))that she not go bankrupt trying to throw a lavish theme party. Does anyone have any ideas for a fun but totaly not expensive theme party?

biggirl4ever | February 02 , 2009 12:39 PM

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Hi biggirl4ever. I am having my baby shower next week 2/28, I will be 36 weeks. Although I am not totally throwing the shower myself, it did start off that way. I hosted my friends shower last year and it turned out to wonderful. And I did it on a real budget. I went to the 99 cent store and picked up some things here and there, then the arts and craft store, got some glue and created the most cutest keepsakes. each one cost me about $1.25 each. For the winners of the games, I got a little basket and filled it with decorative soaps, candles and goodies, wrapped it in clear plastic and put a big bow on it (about $5.00 each, I made 4).... everyone was going crazy trying to win those baskets. It was so much fun. Just remember, Presentation is everything gurl! I plan on doing the same thing with my shower. Just be creative and original, that beats anything expensive any day!

shatinabrn1 | February 18 , 2009 11:37 AM

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I already have three showers being planned for me and I'm only 11 weeks! One is set in WI where I was born when I'll be about 33 weeks, and the other two will probably be before then where I live in AR. (I know, an 11 hr drive to WI is going to be torture when I'm that close to my due date!!) My aunt is planning the one in WI, and my mom and best friend are planning the two down here.

dizzzy_chik99 | March 12 , 2009 1:27 PM

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froeschleiniowa ... with church showers, if your church has a ladies group/mission thing then I would mention that you'd like to have a shower or party before baby comes, and say how much you depend on and need to learn from your faith family. It's entirely reasonable. I'm not christian, but I do belong to a church through my mother and have attended many similar showers, along with a couple in the monthly meeting in my own faith. The gifts are smaller, but the advice and social time is invaluable.

spiffy | April 22 , 2009 9:53 AM

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Actually, I'm having 3 showers. My MIL and DH's cousins want to give us a surprise one since they live in Baltimore and he has a huge family with alot of people from out of town, my best friend is planning one for us for just our other family members and friends, and then my work shower. I'm not sure when these showers are going to be but I'm sure they'll be before I get too far along since I'm due in September and that's a busy time where I work. I agree, I've been to church showers and they are very initmate and you receive the greatest advice and time to really reflect about everything.

meka06 | April 28 , 2009 6:59 AM

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Is it just me, or did etiquette go out the door? I've never heard of a Mom to be planning their own shower. To me that seems like begging for gifts.

LanorigbRN | May 05 , 2009 1:27 AM

re: LanorigbRN

I agree. Not to mention that I found out recently that it's rude to have baby showers for any babies other than your first.

ladyaylena | May 07 , 2009 1:12 PM

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As for moms planning their own shower, that should never happen. As far as having a shower for babies after the first, my understanding is that it's not out of line if the next baby is a different sex or if it has been several years since your last child.My shower is going to be at week 34.

heather0413 | May 18 , 2009 2:41 PM

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Sometimes, etiquette goes out the window. It's supposedly "not done" to have family throw showers. But most of the friends we socialize with are my DH's friends (and many of them have girlfriends, not wives). Plus, my family all lives back East, and the vast majority of my girlfriends live in other parts of the country. So my DH's family is hosting our two showers -- thank God for them! His aunt is hosting the family shower, and my MIL and SIL are hosting the friends shower (with help from my BF). We're having them around 31 and 33 weeks, respectively.

lorimcox | May 19 , 2009 11:27 AM

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i dont think it's faux pas to throw your own shower, especially if the original giver has flaked out. because of a slight falling out with my aunt, i'm not sure if i'm getting one for her, but luckily i have back up in the way that my future MIL would like to give one, but since i know most of my friends who wish to attend travel mainly by public transport, i dont see the harm in throwing one myself, with the help of my mom. it's not begging for gifts, especially if no one has the time to do it for you...in my opinion at least.

spazz_mama | May 22 , 2009 6:08 PM

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My sister is supposed to be throwing me a shower, but I am getting kinda nervous because all that she has said about it is, "well I guess I'm gonna throw you a shower, huh." She just graduated from college and is preoccupied, with well her own life. She hasn't had to ever throw a party and I am worried that nothing will get done. What should I do?

Jenn-n-Joe010508 | June 02 , 2009 3:23 PM

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My sister is throwing my shower (26w) with the help of some close friends of mine. I am searching for any suggestions on what to give as hostess presents. Any ideas???

KimberlyAS | June 04 , 2009 4:30 PM

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I am having 3 baby showers. One at work, one in Central Florida where my husband's family lives and one in South Florida with my friends and family. It's bad enough the one in South Florida will have close 40 people. I really hate being the center of attention.

jaz465 | June 11 , 2009 8:13 AM

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Im having 2 showers, im due in Mid October, but I asked my Mom, who's hosting 1 and my bff who's hosting the 2nd, to do them in August when im between 27-31 weeks. My pregnancy is high risk and I have a slight chance that i can go in labor by September. I want to be ready!, Hope for the Best! prepare for the worst. Now I cut them a month of planning, they are both perfectionist and love detail! and "shower, shower, shower" is all I hear around here!

lizarragaalex | June 25 , 2009 3:39 PM

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my first shower is going to be at 27 weeks... we are having 3 since my aunts insisted on having a shower, we have tons of friends and family that is why we are having so many.. also we are trying to avoid the holidays since people are so busy during that time!

laurengraceholland | July 07 , 2009 3:08 PM

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My mother and MIL are throwing my baby shower, but I'm pretty sure that it is a surprise, because my MIL is always taking my hubby aside and telling him things that he will not tell me!!! I know that she has already got stuff that is on my registry, so I'm sure that's what they are sneaking around for. I'm 24 weeks and 3 days right now, and I have no clue when my shower will be. Hopefully sooner rather than later (;

sugareexx | July 14 , 2009 11:06 AM

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Well I am barely 9 weeks pregnant and have already talked about a shower with my mom. I'm an early bird when it comes to parties, I like to plan ahead! :) I suggested that my mom throw a shower so she can invite all the family on my side without worrying about having to mingle with my husbands side of the family since my mom is not very outgoing and tends to be really shy. I told my husband to mention the same thing to his mom, so she can throw a shower the way she wants and invite all his side of the family. I think this would be the best solution. Plus I would like to have these showers at 24-26 weeks right before the holidays approve and everyone is too busy.

Angela_Mendez02 | July 20 , 2009 4:45 PM

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I will have my shower at 34 weeks. But my mom and MIL are going a little overboard and driving me insane with the whole thing. I'm almost to the point where I rather not have one. And they are taking the theme and bright colors to the extreme. I thought I was just supposed to sit back and let them go to town but they are calling me every day asking me questions when in all honsety I could care less.

ChrisLis | August 04 , 2009 1:09 PM

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TO ME, UNLESS YOU ARE HAVE MORE THAN ONE SHOWER, 31+ WEEKS IS GOOD.

CASSIE70 | August 05 , 2009 12:19 PM

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im having mine when im 30 wks and 2 days because im having twins we never know when they'll come...

daiday | August 10 , 2009 7:11 PM

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Having fun and relaxing :)

nicolepash | August 11 , 2009 1:53 PM

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We are having the shower when I will be 30 weeks and 3 days..I am Due Oct 30...but I will be delivering by C-section on Oct. 19th. So i wanted to feel good and be able to still have time to prepare the nursey...plus if we needed anything more for the baby we will have time to get the rest of the things we will need....i wanted to also share that Were having a "couples" Baby shower...We have about 45 or more attending..we invited children too...we wanted to celebrate and welcome our baby girl with everyone...I wanted my husband to feel involved too...along with his male friends as well.....We are also having a raffle in which one of our guests could win a visa card with 30 bucks on it...To enter they need to bring a bag of diapers of any size ..We also put on the invite instead of a card that the guests could bring a childrens book with an inscription to our baby girl written inside it....those are just a couple ideas we had that we are doing....

fahrahwalicke | August 14 , 2009 8:18 AM

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if you want to plan your own - plan your own! it's all about you and the baby so if you're that girl, have fun! if you want family or friends to do it - then let them. all the pressure that people put on things that are supposed to be fun, take away from the excitement and happiness of the shower itself. don't let this time stress you out. make it fun for you and the baby. ideally, i'd like all of my friends there but i understand that living in different states and having lives themselves, some may not be able to come. i have decided to include a virtual invitation for my long distance friends who want to "be there" but can't. they will buy from the registry and still get to see me open their gift. happiness and fun all around.

opheliaslove | August 30 , 2009 1:19 PM

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ok, I can understand not throwing your own shower. But as far as having a baby shower for any children past your first, why not? Afterall it is a day to celebrate your new baby and whether it is your second, third, or fourth child they deserve to be celebrated. The first one is the hardest because you need all the big stuff, but after that you should only need the little things, like clothes, diapers, etc. And besides everyone loves buying stuff for babies. People don't say it is wrong to have a 1st birthday party for your second child because you had one for your first child...it is really the same thing. A shower is a party for the baby before they are born, and I believe that every child deserves one.

MamaBear527 | September 12 , 2009 7:01 PM

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sweetasababy | September 24 , 2009 4:41 PM

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fahrahwalicke--I am an excited auntie looking for Baby Shower ideas--I am throwing one for my brother and sister-in-law. I love your idea about the diaper raffle and book instead of card. however, it sounds like lots of wording for an invitation. What was the wording on your invite? They aren't due until March, and the baby shower won't be until Feb but with the holidays and all I need to start the planning process now. Thanks for your help and good luck to you all!!

excitedauntie | October 23 , 2009 10:26 AM

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Seriously consider telling shower invitees to not get you clothes. I am a first time mom and had NOOOO baby items. I spent a lot of time registering for all the things we NEEDED, but only a few people purchased items off the registry. We got a ton of HIDEOUS clothes! I am still struggling to figure out where this stuff came from so I can return them all! And we are still trying to buy the necessities before the baby gets here.

going2elope | October 28 , 2009 12:04 PM

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sounds like a lot of people are having trouble of having 'too many cooks' when it comes to planning showers! i'm 24 weeks and i haven't had anybody offer to throw me a shower yet :( so i can definitely understand why some people just do it themselves! i know it's not a necessity, but it's nice. i have a friend who is due not long after me, and her best friend is already in the midst of organising what is sounding like an expensive and extravagant shower, which is going to be before mine, even though she's due afterwards! anyway, i think my sister may have mention it briefly, as i have set a date for it - feb 6 (i'm due march 12) - but there has been no conversation beyond that at this stage. i feel like it would be a little rude to bring it up... with christmas happening soon and then she is going to be away with her family on a missions trip until mid january, and then moving house and getting her daughter ready for her first day of school! i just don't want to put pressure on anyone, but feel a little bummed that no one has offered to do anything for me yet. any advice?

cheesybree | November 20 , 2009 6:22 AM

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My MIL is giving me a baby shower when I'm 28 weeks, because she lives seven hours away from us, and with all boys in the family, I think she gets excited about having a daughter-in-law. My other one is going to be held by my mother when I 'm35 weeks at her house, since I will be deliver close to her house. I' m a high risk pregnancy with heart disease and risk of blood clots, so I'm looking forward to getting done with them earlier, so I don't have to travel in a vehicle for 2+ hours.

thee_archer | November 24 , 2009 4:01 PM

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In regards to getting clothes instead of registry items - I have heard this happens quite often when people know the sex of the baby before it is born. My friend and her hubby are having a girl and they announced it and BOOM - all they got at their shower was pink clothes...not very much baby necessities!!! Good luck to all the moms to be out there...I am 12 weeks and can not WAIT for my shower...no clue who will throw it for me though...might have to invest mom in the job so I can have some say in what goes on :-)

mprosser09 | November 30 , 2009 4:05 PM

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I'm 27 weeks and I just sent out invites. I'll be just about 33 weeks when I actually have it. This way I'm not too big, and my friend will also be down that week from France so she can have something to do with the baby since she won't be around when the babies born.

Faeliea | December 02 , 2009 5:16 PM

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first of all i dont think its that bad to throw yourself a baby shower because some peoples family and freinds are to busy doing there own thing to even wonder "hey whos gunna throw this girl a shower?" and im sure as soon as someone hears your throwing your own baby shower someone will jump in to say "let me do it" , i thought i was gunna have to throw myself one seeing as though the babys fathers family chooses not to take part in my childs life since i am no longer with him..and second i really dont see why having a baby shower for your second kid is such a bad thing baby showers arent always for giving gifts! in my family when the frist one comes along you have it before the baby is born so there ready to bring there baby home and if there is a second kid you have it after the baby is born so everyone can see it, gifts arent required its time to say congrats!

newmommie01 | December 10 , 2009 5:19 PM

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Call me old fashioned but I do not think mothers-to-be should host their own showers, like another poster said it is like begging for gifts, yea a baby shower is not all about gifts but when a person gets an invite to a baby shower what is the first thing that comes to mind....? Where is she registered or what will I get them? Call it what you will but if no-one is throwing me a shower (whether it be family or friends) I'd have to take a long look at myself and the type of person I am.

Happy2bNappy | December 19 , 2009 9:36 PM

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Here's the situation I'm in. My mom is throwing me a shower back in Michigan (where I am originally from and where all of my friends/family is). I have no problem with this. However, I recently moved to Arizona. I am a teacher there and while I have some friends, I don't know if I'd say that I have any friends that are close enough that I would burden to have throw me a shower. I know my colleagues and parents in my classroom are thinking about a shower, but I also have other friends of my husband and I that I would like to invite. It seems like the only way of having a shower with everyone there that I'd like to invite would be to host it myself. I like the idea of having an "after-baby shower" so that everyone could see him, but I feel like this is still fishing for gifts. Is the only way I can get around looking like I'm begging for gifts to say no gifts at all?

skyangel1620 | December 20 , 2009 10:41 PM

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my shower will be on jan 9th because i wanted to wait until the holidays were over. i ended up planning the ENTIRE thing by myself and it caused me nothing but stress and money spent, although i would never spend 2000 or so dollars on it lol *.* i had to hunt people down to get them to rsvp ~ so rude! never again i tell you, never AGAIN.

mommamoni | December 30 , 2009 4:49 AM

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I unfortunately have been stuck with planning my own baby shower. I am really disappointed that no one else is able to do it, but I do understand. My mom and sister are struggling right now so it is hard for them. My husband's dad had a heart attack and was in a coma for awhile so his family is struggling as well. All of my friends are either out of the country or will be when it will be a good time for the shower. It has been really stressful, but I do believe that it will be a good time. In a time like now I don't think the type of person you are has anything to do with someone throwing you a baby shower. Good luck to all of you future mommies!

dezimarie | January 03 , 2010 7:29 PM

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I don't feel it is right for anyone to judge whether the amount of money spent, how many showers are done, or who is throwing it is appropriate. Everyone has a different situation. I live in KS, my family lives in STL and my husband's family lives in MN. That makes 3 showers. My mother-in-law is hosting the one in MN, but I am helping with the planning and some of the cost. She is retired, so I don't want her to spend too much for my vision. The one in KS is being hosted by a friend and it will be co-ed. My husband and I don't know that many people and aside from a few single girlfriends, mainly do couple things with our friends. Again, I will be helping this friend with the planning and the cost. I think she only volunteered because I mentioned that I wouldn't be having one in KS and would just invite them to the one in MN. As for STL, my best friend will be getting married 6 weeks after my due date, so she is already swamped with party planning. My mom is broke and is not exactly getting along with family. I am hosting one with my aunt, again I will covering the cost and planning. I don't see baby showers as a time to get gifts--especially if you're like me and will be spending a pretty penny on hosting them. In the end, we will have spent more on showers that can be expected to get in gifts. We see it as an opportunity to celebrate with loved ones, and I feel sorry for anyone that sees showers as anything but a celebration.

hispanicqt00 | January 08 , 2010 8:47 AM

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Im with all the mommy to bes regarding throwing there own showers...First of all everyone may be in a diffrent situation. I am having 3 baby showers and I am planning one of them on my own and the reason is because my step mom had mention throwing me one with my sisters help. Problem is that my sister lost her job and has no income so she backed down and decided with my dad to buy us the crib instead (we are so greatful and happy). Although my good friend who is also my co-worker is having one for me at work, and my SIL is throwing us another for my husbands side of the family. I dont want to burden her with the stress or cost of invitng all our friends and both sides of our families. So I have decided to have a Co-ed shower for my side of the family and our friends. They have been bugging us about a shower but no one in my family or our friends have stepped up to offer to take full planning. So I did, I am not begging anyone for gifts. I am planning a fun co-ed bar-b-que style baby shower with lots of fun games and time to share and create memories with family and friends.... and I dont think that makes me tacky, a gift begger, or even a bad person. So to all the mommy to bes if you are in any given situation where you feel like you should throw your own shower by all means HAVE A BLAST AND WHO CARES WHAT OTHERS MAY SAY, PEOPLE WILL ALWAYS FIND SOMETHING TO TALK ABOUT REGARDLESS OF WHO THROWS YOUR SHOWER!!!!! By the way my first shower will be around 32wks @ work, my second around 34wks with my hubbys side of the family, and my third (the one im hosting) around my 36 wks with my side of the family and both our friends.

erikahappyhoney@yahoo.com | January 08 , 2010 7:57 PM

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travel arrangements for the mother

janeleh21@hotmail.com | January 08 , 2010 10:35 PM

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HippHouse | January 10 , 2010 2:13 PM

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If you're worried about who is throwing your shower, then ask the person you would like to do it to host for you. I did this - perhaps a bit unorthodox but I feel better about it. My father's fiancee said she wanted to throw me one (I was only 4 weeks at that point) and although I thought it was kind of her to offer, I have only known her for a little over a year and she knows no one in my life and doesn't really know me all that well either. So, I took the reigns and asked my BFF to do my shower for me. Who was actually offended that someone had jumped the gun so early in my pregnancy and offerred to do this when she, my mother and my sister are the ones who "should" be doing this.

LeeFletch | January 27 , 2010 1:47 PM

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I'm having mine at 28wks, just because my friend (the hostess) and I are excited to have one, no other reason, no traveling or having to work around other ppl's schedules. Is that so wrong? Another friend who found out about this practically yelled at me for having it so early, is it really so wrong to have it at 7 months??? Another thing, I actually think it's practical because then i'll see what i don't get from my registry and i'll have enough time....not to mention energy, to go out and buy the rest of it before I have the baby. Am i the only that person that this makes sense to?

leximil75 | February 17 , 2010 11:14 PM

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Dont worry about having to early, I am having my at 37 weeks, just because my two hostess could not even get together to pick up a date, I am so stress I hope I dont go to labor during the party>>>just have at baby showers and enjoy it

Gloria003 | February 19 , 2010 1:58 PM

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I had one at 30 weeks, one will be at 37 weeks, and one at 38 weeks. Definitely a little uncomfortable about the lateness of the last two, but what can you do when the hostesses wait to have it? I just hope baby makes it long enough for me to get everything washed and ready to go!

jamier15 | February 25 , 2010 10:51 PM

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i just came back from my "baby shower tour"...i live in tennessee and all my friends and family are in illinois. i had 3 showers: one with my hubbys familly and family friends, one with my friends from college, and one with my friends from high school. from the showers, i actually learned a lot about how much planning and preparation goes into it. if you are planning one, here are my suggestions: you are planning the shower for the mama, not you. i would have been so embarassed if there had been a nothing but hokey games...however, you want to make sure there are at least a few so the party keeps moving. if you plan on having a shower with people that may not know each other well, have a game that can also serve as a mixer/ice breaker. definitely make sure the invitations go out with a good amount of time for others to respond...one of my showers sent out invites a week and a half in advance. i think letting the other hostesses know whats going on with dates and times with your other showers as it happens is important too...my sister wanted to plan one and had to bow out because there wasnt enough time.

hillarious28 | March 02 , 2010 12:01 PM

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my husband and I are planning our baby shower for our first born, we both don't have our mothers around to do one for us, he doesn't have sisters and my sister is only 10 years old. Someone said a mom to be should not throw their own shower but sometimes there are special circumstances when you need to.

evadizzle | March 02 , 2010 2:25 PM

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I don't know much about baby shower planning but have been to a lot and the ones that where fun for me are with no children. But I'm due in aug and I told my husband I want to paln my own shower if we invite his fam than the kids have to come but I would not allow them to join in on the games its just to long I would set up something just for them. See my friends and fam are live in N.Y so I would invate them to C.A. for my shower and just have a big one because I don't want to fly back east since I had two pregancy losses. I would send the invites back east at the end of march give my time to prepare and check fligths fares

angiedlopez | March 04 , 2010 8:45 PM

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A great entertsinment ideas is buy lots of plain onesies in different colors and different types like short sleeve, long sleeve. Then take paint in all colors and let people decorate them. Use paint or puff paint.

crazywhitegrl379 | March 08 , 2010 11:32 PM

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The mommy-to-be's personality! If she doesn't enjoy going to your typical baby shower, don't throw her a typical baby shower.

angelaelin | March 12 , 2010 12:25 PM

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I had a baby shower thrown by my work friends at 12 weeks because I was leaving work and moving out of state. It was very typical baby shower themed, apart from my male coworker and lack of games (Thank goodness!). Anyway, I am not planning my baby shower with all my friends and family, but I am certainly weighing in on what I would like. I really dont want to end up at some dreary elks club, with tacky baby decorations, and people measuring how big I've gotten. Thats just not me. I have enlisted my best friend of 20 years to make sure that it goes in the right direction and have helped in picked out a really funky tapas place. I really just want my friends and familly to be able to get together and relax in a laid back environment.

KaraRobinson | April 05 , 2010 7:34 AM

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As far as etiquette goes, it is best just to use your own judgement. Sometimes, in order to better appease your new family members, it is best to let your in-laws plan a shower. I personally have not been able to plan any event myself, wedding, reception, you name it, and damn it, I am going to get a party my way! I will be hosting a "shower" so that I don't have to include alcohol. It will keep the in-laws happy because they are so excited for their first grandchild, but it will keep me happy because I get to control something, and I don't have to sit at yet another engagement with alcohol and feel jealous. If you feel like you are begging for gifts, do something different, like a "blessing way" and have each guest bring a bead for a necklace for you to wear during delivery. My mom and her friends want to plan another baby shower for me, but my mom and I are so close that I don't think its faux pas to have her co-host it. I also will pass on the "baby show-off"...if I am spending these months without caffeine, alcohol, or nicotine, while even my husband gets to enjoy them, and no one gives a damn about how exhausted I am, or how much my belly hurts (early ovarian problems), and still expects me to keep up with the house, the 45 hr/week job, and moving our furniture around...and then go through labor for our beautiful baby, I am keeping it close to me. It is mine. I am doing the work that no one else is being supportive of, so I get the rewards. No "pass the baby" is going on here!

JCTycoon | May 18 , 2010 12:18 PM

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My apologies for that rant. This mama has been grumpy for the last few days, especially at the hubby. I meant just to give advice on the shower. I just mean each person's situation is different, and etiquette changes, so sometimes, you can plan a fun event and no one gets the impression that you're begging.

JCTycoon | May 18 , 2010 12:21 PM

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www.wellsbyraquel.com - They have a cute wishing well called the "Aidan" that was meant for baby showers! Check out the photos!

WellsbyRaquel | May 20 , 2010 8:14 PM

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I am 21 weeks and I hadn't heard anyone saying anything about a baby shower so I asked my mom and she said maybe but nothing after that. I want to have it in Aug. because im due in october and want to beable to know what I still need, should I go on and just ask her about the details/my ideas. This is my first

ashleigh9662 | May 25 , 2010 2:02 PM

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My SIL is giving me a baby shower, do I get her a gift for throwing it? This is my first baby and have no idea if this is proper etiquette.

mamainseptember | May 27 , 2010 11:25 AM

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I think it depends on the situation. I am throwing my own babyshower. I see a babyshower as a wedding. You plan it the way you want it to be. People will bring you gifts but in return they will get to spend time having fun with family and friends. Im planning my own just because i've always been crafty and want to do it all. My dad and grandma will be helping me, since they are also on the crafty side and not to mention great cooks. Also people are going to bring you gifts when you have the baby anyways so why not make a party out of it.

yane555 | June 03 , 2010 2:45 PM

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Hello ladies - here is a question that I need help on - we are having a baby shower in August and my SIL has given us almost everything we need already for our first baby! :) I am very blessed - now there are some things we have to register for so we have started a registry. My question is - we would rather our family and friends give us money towards the College Fund that we are setting up for our baby daughter - what is the proper etiquette to handling this? Also on the Registry - if you go online or go to the store and print - there is a message on there - we thought if we worded it correctly, we could post something along the lines of asking people to contribute to the college fund instead of physical gifts - what are your thoughts? What is the best way to word it so people don't get insulted???? Really could use your guidance on this one! Thanks!

caseysilversmith | June 14 , 2010 11:33 AM

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Caseysilversmith - Perhaps you could word it along the lines of "Bottles are temporary, knowledge is forever. Help us educate the future President of the United States by donating to his/her college fund." Granted, it's quite a lofty expectation, but it's also likely to lighten the blow of the actual request. And besides, if someone actually gets insulted because you want to plan for your baby's future, he or she doesn't seem like someone to waste time worrying about...especially with your baby coming soon! So much more interesting! :)

MrsB-Rad | June 14 , 2010 3:43 PM

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Loved JCTycoon's response. I'm having my 2nd, my mom is totally against family throwing showers for each other, and my MIL hosted my first and can't really afford to do this one on her own. Plus I'm one of 9 preggo friends, so there are a lot of busy ladies around here right now! So I'm planning the shower, my mom is preparing food, and my MIL and SIL will be playing hostess/pitching in for party items. It's not even about the presents (although they're a plus!), I want to celebrate the birth of my second child. She's just as important as the first! Sometimes you just have to take things into your own hands.

MamaValdez | June 30 , 2010 6:35 PM

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Is it expected that my husband's family throw me a shower? I thought they would for my wedding but no one on his side bothered to throw me a shower. I don't want to be rude, but I have participated in his two sister's showers and think that they should throw me one as well. Is this something I should ask for?

rachelleSLC | July 08 , 2010 5:23 PM

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since my parents got divorced, my family doesnt really get along, so my step mom is throwing me a shower and my mom is throwning me another one i will be 37 weeks with my first shower that my step-mom is in charge of, and my mom decided to have a second one for me after the baby is born, that way all of my family that i dont see that often can see and hold the baby. i thought it was a pretty good idea

angeeann92 | July 13 , 2010 11:23 AM

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I'm sorry... there is no right or wrong answer as to when to have a shower and who should be responsible for throwing one. Not everyone is lucky enough to have their mothers, and grandmothers alive and well to be able to host a shower for them. Not everyone's Inlaws can afford to throw them a shower. Chances are good, I'll be going at it alone. I have several friends, but I couldn't imagine putting this on them, its not really anymore their responsibility than it is my own. With the recession money is tight all over. And with any shower be it bridal, baby, or otherwise it has always been customary to bring a gift... but NEVER a requirement... no matter who is throwing the shower!

punkster21 | July 17 , 2010 12:05 PM

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Where I am from, it is more common to wait and have a shower once the baby arrives. I think it's because of a combination of getting gifts that are specific to the child (size, gender, ....) and to ensure everything "goes as planned". I really like this method, specifically because the baby gets to be the centre of attention!

melissajane85 | July 27 , 2010 4:45 PM

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I have had and planned several baby showers. This is my 4th baby, and have ahd a shower for each one...granted the second was different sex and then it was 5 years until the next baby, and now this one is opposite sex from the last. (m,11-f,8-f3, and now m)...so My mom was very persistent about me having a shower for each one. I am helping in the planninig and will be 37 weeks...which is kinda late but that;s the only time we could get the finaces and schedules to match!! So I am still hoping for a Shower and not a Show-off!!! I don't think there are any right or wrongs, as long as mom is healthy and comfortable, that's all that matters!!! :)

crystalhunter | August 10 , 2010 2:59 PM

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I'll be 28 weeks when I have mine which will be in Nov. I wanted to have it in Dec. but that month just didn't work with a lot of ppl. My family has a million birthdays then, there's Christmas, tons of holiday parties, work parties, not to mention I live in Mass. & with my luck there would be a massive blizzard the day of my shower! I'm due in early Feb & I absolutely didn't want it in Jan bc I figured I'd be uncomfortable & ready to pop!

DJ1122 | August 13 , 2010 11:48 AM

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I think was thinking on having a "Welcome Home Party" instead of a baby shower but because I am due Nov 17 the holiday's are to close. I will be having mine in late September early October and I always plan my own.

Tifancea | August 15 , 2010 1:43 PM

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I am having mine after the baby is born.

StephanieA36 | August 24 , 2010 4:45 PM

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i think depending on the situation its okay to throw yourself a shower, i'm pregnant with my 1st and planning/hosting my own shower. my family is very un reliable, and irresponsible, so i made more sense for me to throw my own and have a couple of my close friends help, i'm not "begging for gifts" but i would think since this is the 1st great grandbaby and both of our parents 1st grand baby they would want to help us out a little especially since my baby's dad is the only one working

Shannongail89 | August 24 , 2010 5:27 PM

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I am only 19 weeks pregnant right now and do not want a shower until after the baby is born! At 5 weeks my best friend "called" planning my shower (I love her!). So at 19 weeks pregnant my Mom and best friend already have it all planned for me! The reason I do not want one ahead of the baby is because the hubby and I do not want to know the sex of the baby and I like the idea of everyone who comes to the shower gets to meet baby! It saves us on getting a lot of neutral gifts and people get to enjoy our beautiful little baby! :) I am not allowed to know many details, but I think they are planning on throwing it a few weeks after baby!

Keira86 | September 07 , 2010 12:42 PM

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I love the idea of having a Welcoming party to show off the baby, but the shower is in order to get the stuff you need for the baby. If you have it after the baby comes, won't you have to go buy all the stuff you need? I'm thinking of planning a Welcome Home party to introduce the baby to the friends and family that attended my shower. Maybe like a month after baby is born? That way, I can show him off and some first photos of him, etc. With my first child, 11 years ago, I ended up having 4 showers. I was young and very social with lots of friends. I had so many people offering to host a shower that it was best to have multiple than to try to get them to all coordinate or worse yet turn someone down. My MIL hosted a family one with her side of the family. A coworker hosted one for people that I work with. My Sorority Big Sis hosted one for all my Sorority sisters. And, a friend from church hosted one for all my friends at church. It was awesome. This time around, I'm having just one because after you have a child, it seems your number of friends lessen due to the time restrictions you have in a busy life. Plus, it's my second child and I have some things left from the first. However, a bunch of things are gone after all that time, so a shower is definitely necessary to get me set up again.

hawksmama | September 22 , 2010 1:46 PM

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i will be 33 wks for my babyshower and my mom is doing everything we have envitted 160 people atleast and im her first daughter to have a baby and well its actually TWINS so she is going all out. gosh i have to love her!! :)

Brenda281 | September 23 , 2010 11:30 PM

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What if I don't want to have a baby shower? I really don't want to be the center of attention and to sit and open gifts infront of everyone! My family is VERY traditional and will be expecting one, then again I didn't have a bridal shower and you should have seen the reaction! My relatives didn't know what to do. Is it wrong that I don't want one, or want the attention. Can I have one without opening gifts in front of everyone? HELP!

RGM678 | September 30 , 2010 3:03 PM

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Yes you can have shower and not open the gifts in front of everyone. My friend just had one for her daughter and it was very well organized. Once you arrived your gift received a number and it was placed in another room. That way the mom would know exactly who the gift came from without having to open it . This way no one was offended if she didn't like the gift. I'm due in March and my sister and BFF are suppose to be planning the shower, so hopefully I will have a shower. Otherwise I will just go to Babies R Us and get the stuff myself.. I think that it is not nice to have your own shower, someone in your life should be willing to host it for you. Just relax and let it happen, it might not be the way you want it but it will be a shower in your honor.

vsjroberts | October 06 , 2010 8:40 AM

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Who's suppose to plan & pay 4 the baby shower, me? Because I'm due Mar 18th and no one has said anything to me about a babyshower except "let me know when it is". I know it's kinda early (I'm only 20 wks) but being that I'm due mid Mar I'm thinking I should have it late jan/ early feb but like I said am I suppose to plan it???

MrsAltman | October 29 , 2010 10:42 PM

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Typically a sis or good friend plans and pays for a baby shower. Since this isn't a wedding shower you shouldn't have to pay for anything, because it shouldn't cost a ton. But if something does happen. Ask your mom, grandma, or a group of friends to help ya pay and plan one. The main reason why we should not plan our own baby shower is because it can send the wrong message to our loved ones. Instead of you looking like your surprised and thankful for everyone to come and give gifts for the baby, it appears like your expecting presents and things from others for your baby. So just be safe, if you end up planning it ask a someone to help you out and be the host during the party.

Natacreatedartist | December 25 , 2010 10:59 PM

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We just found out my husband will be deploying a few months before my due date so what was going to be an all girl, classic shower has turned into a big blowout party for the Marines that are leaving and our group to spend one last night together. I loved the idea about a beer and diaper party, having the guys bring a case of each will take the stress off of them to have to go shopping for baby gifts, I am sure the other wives will bring plenty of cute baby things anyway! I couldn't be happier at the transformation because honestly at my first shower I was completely overwhelmed to be the only female there that wasn't already a mother!

hettieandjon4eva | January 06 , 2011 3:58 PM

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where when and register

teapot22 | January 18 , 2011 10:18 PM

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I'd say start planning as soon as you find out the sex. It's better to do it sooner rather than later so you can save up for the extra things you will need after all the gifts. Waiting till you are 30+ weeks is not very smart. You will have less energy and time to get organized before the baby is born. Save yourself the stress. Start planning around 20-25 weeks.

gwenm1027 | January 30 , 2011 1:29 AM

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I'm going to have my shower at 36 weeks, My mom, Step-mom and mother-n-law are throwing the shower for me. I was kinda thinking doing it earlier like at 34weeks but everyone over spent for Christmas so I didn't want to be picky and say "do it earlier". I think I'll be ok. That week will hopefully be last week for maternity leave, so i can get everything ready.. I'm 33weeks and already nesting getting house ready for the baby stuff..

krishelle26 | February 01 , 2011 4:10 PM

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food

dmiller11 | February 15 , 2011 9:20 AM

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I'm planning my shower at 28 weeks. I've been on bed rest twice and had a cerclage so I'm not sure if I have to do it at home or not. I also lost my job and nobody is throwing me a shower so does anyone have ideas for inexpensive food? Most of my family and close friends are out if state and I'm not allowed to fly nor can I afford it. Is it rude to send them invites even though I know they can't come? I hate the typical games and I can't afford prizes. Does anyone have any ideas for budget activities? Thanks!

Thesmith | March 09 , 2011 5:41 PM

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I am having a shower for my second child and I am partially planning it myself i have created the guest list and am making the game books, but my mother is doing the food and my friend is running the whole thing. I find it rude that people think you can't celebrate the babies after your first. My son is 5 and i am 29 weeks pregnant and we are having a shower because unlike some people we don't have all the money in the world and our friends and family are extremely supportive and requested a shower. We are in no way traditional as we have been together 7 years and are on our second child but yet we are not married! We are however getting married in July, 2 months after our second son will be here. The wedding was in the middle of planning when we found out we were pregnant. Regardless of anything we have considered ourselves husband and wife since the beginning we weren't in any rush for some legality. If that offends someone then oh well sorry! Everyone is entitled to make their own life decisions. so regardless of what you read other people think. Its your baby, your life, make your own choices!!

lilbeavsmama | March 10 , 2011 2:19 PM

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i will be 36 weeks when i have mines and i helped with the shower as well but now they are telling me that they just want me to be there and have fun but i want the shower to be fun and memorable i want everyone to enjoy themselves i can't wait until the end of april so i can see all my friends and family come attend this wonderful day with me and i'm like the rest i'm not rich and my friends and family have been there through my pregnancy and they are so excited with that i'm having a baby and i can't thank them enough

meandthreeandahalf | April 06 , 2011 9:00 PM

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My SIL and MIL are very excited for the newest addition to the family, and around the 18 week mark they began talking about how they wanted to throw me a baby shower. Recently my family (who live 2 hours away) have been asking me when my baby shower is going to be (I'm now just over 28 weeks) so that they can make sure the add it to their busy summer schedules. But from what I can tell nothing has been planned at all, my SIL mentioned "We should really send out invitations for it," but they haven't even decided on a location for the shower. They told me that they'll take my input on what I want for the shower, but I'm not allowed to plan it for myself. But I'm starting to think that if I don't plan and host one myself then I won't have one. Is there a way that I can bring up the subject with my SIL and MIL to see if they are actually going to host one for me, or if I need to plan one for myself?

chelliegate | July 05 , 2011 1:07 PM

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the location, money, the theme, what food is going to be there and what games are going to be played

dora1021 | September 23 , 2011 1:37 AM

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There are so many baby shower ideas, themes, and games floating around, that it’s easy to get overwhelmed by it all!-Dr. Jerry M. Foster

shantelle1015 | October 24 , 2011 7:07 AM

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I am 35 weeks and im having my shower at the end of the week. my mother in law and I have been planning it, but she has been doing majority of the stuff. She is the best

marcyc22 | November 07 , 2011 12:17 PM

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I didn't actually wanted to do the baby shower, but my mom is really into these things, celebrating every little holiday and so on. I've told her I wanted a themed-shower, named "infant formula", and I let her do everything, since she loves it so much. I really don't have the time to think about every little detail!

Lisha Savannah | November 21 , 2011 1:52 PM

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For us, the most important thing is for everyone to feel good. We are the first ones from our groups to get married and have a baby, so making them not stare like they're in front of an ancient vanity bathroom was a big deal. It was a bit harder than we thought, but in the end everything turned out OK.

Ethan Corneille | December 15 , 2011 5:41 PM

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I would say any time after the 2nd trimester.

acordray | December 15 , 2011 5:50 PM

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I live far from my family so I'm having 2 showers 2 weeks apart. The first is in my home and I along with some GF's are heading up all the prep, the other is being done by my mum where she and the rest of the fam live. I'll be at 22 weeks for the first, and while I get the whole "wait until there's something to see", sometimes, it just doesn't work out that way! Don't feel bad if your shower is "before it should be"... do it when you can and if you want to! I never had a bridal shower so I'm a little nervous about having TWO baby showers, LOL

bethgoldfischer | February 09 , 2012 2:20 PM

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My sister decided to organize her baby's shower when she was 7 months old. It was a big party and we all had a great time.My niece received a lot of presents especially toys and he was very happy.I've bought her some beautiful baby pettiskirts.

YadirisYanis | February 28 , 2012 9:22 AM

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Making the Mommy happy!

sweettay24 | April 25 , 2012 2:36 PM