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Q&A: How to trust my baby's caregiver?

We're both going back to work pretty soon, and have started looking for a caregiver for baby. I'm worried that no matter who I pick, though, I'll never truly feel comfortable leaving my baby home with them! Any tips for making it a little easier?

Re: We're both going back to work pretty soon, and have started looking for a caregiver for baby. I'm worried that no matter who I pick, though, I'll never truly feel comfortable leaving my baby home with them! Any tips for making it a little easier?

The Bump Expert

First, take your time in finding a caregiver. Finding the right person to care for your most prized possession will be one of the first -- and toughest -- decisions you'll make as a working mom. There are a lot of things to consider: Do you want a more formal daycare environment, or a private nanny at home? Do you have family member who can help part- or full-time?  How much can you afford? What kind of coverage will you need? You and your partner should start to discuss these topics way in advance, even while pregnant. Having a clear picture of what is best and most convenient for your family will help target your search early, cause less craziness during the process and ultimately help you feel more secure in your decision.
 
Once you've found the right person, definitely have him or her start early. We have a nanny, and one of the smartest things we did was hire her to start two weeks before I was scheduled back at work. During that time, I showed her where things were and and demonstrated any special instructions I had, and most importantly, I could see her interact with the baby and make sure both he and I were comfortable. Hiring early also gave me the opportunity to practice leaving the house gradually -- first for an hour, then two, then four, etc. You'll have a chance to do things like get your hair cut or run errands while easing into being away from your baby for long amounts of time.

Nest Lori

Q&A: How to trust my baby's caregiver?

It's very hard leaving your child with someone who is practically a stranger. There's no changing that. I have had my 13 week old with a nanny since he was about 8 weeks. So far things have gone perfectly smooth. She is very reliable and sweet with our son. Some ways I've coped with leaving him is that I always come home for lunch to feed him (luckily I work close enough to where I live that I can do that within an hour). Also I call my nanny several times throughout the day just to check on him. Sometimes I'll come home at a random time if I realize I've forgotten something but won't call to tell the nanny that I'm coming by. That way I kind of catch her off guard and it's fun for you and the baby because he's not expecting to see you and he gets excited when he does. My nanny usually arrives 20-30 minutes before I have to leave for work in the morning. That way I have time to get myself ready and get to hand my baby off to the Nanny so I can see how they interact out of the corner of my eye. Also, it's a good time for me to chat with her and get to know her better. Hope this helps. I feel a lot better having a nanny come to my house vs. taking him somewhere. Less traveling the less germs!

kdw_putri |

Q&A: How to trust my baby's caregiver?

Leaving my baby was and is the hardest thing I've ever done. The going rate for day care around here is $1200 a month. We just cannot afford that. A friend of mine told me about the woman that watches her little boy who is now 3, from 12 weeks old. We went to interview her and I still wasnt sold. Just the idea of leaving him, well I'd rather chop my arms off. So we started about week 8 leaving him a couple days a week for just a few hours. Everyone got their feet wet. When I would pick him up I noticed the first thing she did when I walked in the door was give me a full report - he drank this much, pooped, slept this long, etc etc. I never had to ask. I thought that was really great. She also told me to call as many times as I needed for she understood how hard it is to leave them. I just got a good vibe from her - I feel like she just really enjoys little kids and she's definately not doing it for the money since she doesnt charge much. We talk in the mornings and I brief her on anything she needs to know for the day. She gives me a report when I pick him up and we will always chat about all sorts of things. So we are getting to know each other better and better. No one will ever take care of your baby the way you would. And thats a tough thought - but since my friend has had her little boy with this lady for 3 years and hasnt had a single problem, I knew shewould be okay. Best of luck - ask around and see what / where others are taking and doing with their babies for the workday. I've been back almost 3 weeks and 5:00 can not get here fast enough. I miss him so so much.

ohiotara77 |