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Q&A: When will baby understand no?

When do babies understand what "no" means, and when do they understand basic discipline? When he pulls my hair, I try to distract or redirect him, but it doesn't always work. I know it's unintentional on his part, but I'm still curious.

Re: When do babies understand what "no" means, and when do they understand basic discipline? When he pulls my hair, I try to distract or redirect him, but it doesn't always work. I know it's unintentional on his part, but I'm still curious.

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Children understand "no" at different ages -- some grasp things earlier than others. You don't need to wait to start explaining the rules, though. At as early as six months, you can begin introducing discipline by verbalizing messages like "we do not hit." Don't expect him to understand or follow those directions, though.

If baby's pulling your hair, start relating the message, "we do not pull hair," and then provide an example of what he can do such as "rub mommy's face." It may take a while, but as baby hears the instructions repeatedly and continues to master physical control over his body, he'll eventually be able to follow the direction.

Tammy Gold | May 12 , 2009 3:50 PM

Q&A: When will baby understand no?

I wouldn't just use the word, "no" because I don't want that to be my baby's first word. I think it's better to say something positive or just use more specific directions.

rocket2japan | October 22 , 2010 3:01 PM

Q&A: When will baby understand no?

I agree with all of the above. I usually say, "Be gentle with mommy" and then show him how to stroke my face/hair without hurting me. I think it's important to show them what they can do instead (and to give them loads of positive responses when they do something gently).

claradutton | October 27 , 2010 3:48 PM

Q&A: When will baby understand no?

This is more of a question: My 22mth is hitting and doesnt really listen all that well. When I say no he laughs. When I say come hear he ignores me. I tried time out but he thinks its cool because now he can say corner and is excited. Is this the terrible twos? What can I do?

carrief27 | November 22 , 2010 12:48 PM

Q&A: When will baby understand no?

We have had a similar problem. Our son (5 mo. yesterday) is interested in mom's hair, dad's hair (which is also long), and in the cat and the dog. I have simply taken the hair out of his hands (by inserting my finger to his grip and rolling outward against the thumb while saying, "Let go. We need to touch gently." Then we do a lot of "practice." When he expresses interest in the cat, dog, or my hair, I cup his hand in my hand and we stroke the hair in question saying, "nice touch. gentle. ZZ is such a nice boy. Thank you." Although he only turned 5 months yesterday, he seems to be getting it. He now reaches up while breastfeeding and strokes my hair with an open hand and smiles. -- I say it's never too early to verbalize. (For what it's worth, I also used to work as a behavioral specialist for non-verbal children and adults with autism, and we also stressed using terms for the behavior we wanted rather than what we didn't want.) I hope this helps someone!

brettski73 | January 18 , 2011 11:42 AM