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Q&A: 4-month wakeful period?

I've heard that babies can have a wakeful period at around four months, where a baby who's been sleeping fine all of a sudden starts waking during the month. Why does this happen, and how should I deal with it?

Re: I've heard that babies can have a wakeful period at around four months, where a baby who's been sleeping fine all of a sudden starts waking during the month. Why does this happen, and how should I deal with it?

The Bump Expert

It's not uncommon for babies to start having sleep difficulties around their four-month birthday. This ages marks a huge cognitive and emotional turning point for babies, as they become much more aware of -- and interested in -- the world around them. It can also mean they'll sometimes want to play during the night. This is actually a good sign, because it means baby is bonding with you and having a good time during the day. However, it's challenging to cater to his desire to be with you around the clock.

So, that's why the wakeful period happens. Now, what can you do about it? If you're up for sleep training, now is a good time to start. Pick an approach that you and your partner both believe in so that you can support each other through the sleep teaching process. Start when your baby is healthy and when he'll be sleeping at home for a couple of weeks.

If you're not interested in sleep training or just not ready yet, our advice is to be minimally invasive at night. When you go in, try to soothe your baby without picking him up. If you feel your baby needs to be fed, give him enough to satisfy him but not fill up his entire stomach. While these things may not get him to sleep straight through the night, they are good baby steps toward encouraging him to become an independent sleeper.

sleep experts conner herman and kira ryan Conner Herman and Kira Ryan, cofounders of Dream Team Baby | May 15 , 2009 5:10 PM

re: Q: 4-month wakeful period?

If you exclusively breastfeed this increased interest in surroundings will also mean baby is distracted and may not nurse well during the day. So if baby was previously sleeping through the night and now wakes up - he/she may really be hungry! See if baby is really eating when you offer to nurse if just trying to soothe back to sleep doesn't work. Also, try nursing somewhere dark and quiet during the day to cut back on distractions.

dawnzer | March 31 , 2009 10:42 AM

re: Q: 4-month wakeful period?

so helpful. i had never heard of it and i thought something was wrong.

hethbeth | June 25 , 2009 1:46 PM

Q&A: 4-month wakeful period?

Actually this is a question. When you say "they wake up" through the night. Are they just waking up and content, or are they waking up and crying? LO is 3 months old and the 4 month mark is soon approaching!

Ashlee | July 22 , 2009 9:21 AM

Q&A: 4-month wakeful period?

Our little boy is 15 weeks and was sleeping through the night until about a week ago. He is back to waking up every 1-2 hours. He is a breastfed baby (primarily). I have been told by several people that we should just let him cry it out. I don't feel that this is the best approach. I have tried to go in and soothe him but nothing really works except to feed him. The real problem is that he doesn't want to go back into his crib and about the only way WE get any sleep is if we put him in the swing. I usually try 3 times to get him back down before giving up and putting him down in his swing. He will be completely asleep and when I lay him in his crib and quietly leave, hes screaming again. Any suggestions on how to get him to go back to sleep in his crib?

AND16 | July 31 , 2009 8:52 PM

Q&A: 4-month wakeful period?

We are having the same problem with our little one, who is four months old. You just have to wait it out. Keep trying to put them in the crib...eventually they will either fall asleep in there, or you take him out to the swing. There have been times where I have spent 4-5 nights in a row on the couch while my baby sleeps in his swing. You can move the swing to his room, or if he has a bouncy chair or a smaller swing, try putting it into the crib at night with him in it. They can sleep that way, and at least he is still in his crib.

coffey21 | August 14 , 2009 1:50 PM

Q&A: 4-month wakeful period?

We went through this at exactly four months. Our daughter was waking up screaming several times during the night because she was rolling in her crib and would get frustrated or stuck. I would just go in and rock her or feed her until she went back to sleep. Fortunately this disruption only lasted about two weeks or so. Since she has gotten used to rolling, she can now fall back asleep on her tummy and sleep through the night.

Choopi | August 18 , 2009 3:21 PM

Q&A: 4-month wakeful period?

This is happening with my daughter now that she is in her 4th month, only it is happening during the day. What used to be a 3 hour nap in the afternoon which would let me get everything done in the house that I needed to get done, has turned into a short cap nap once or twice during the day. Hopefully she will go back to her long naps again soon!

khoovel | August 27 , 2009 11:05 AM

Q&A: 4-month wakeful period?

Thank god it's not just me! LoL... I thought maybe it was the transition from me going back to work? No offense to everybody, but I'm glad that you are all going through it too! LoL. At least I know it's normal...

hiswife062808 | August 27 , 2009 12:36 PM

Q&A: 4-month wakeful period?

It's also possible that your baby is starting to teethe. Our 3 1/2 month old is getting her top front teeth and she has been waking up during the night gnawing on her fingers and just otherwise upset. I've been rocking her on my lap but with her facing away from me so it's easy to put her back into the crib without disturbing her.

Grape09 | September 14 , 2009 9:31 AM

Q&A: 4-month wakeful period?

our baby isnt waking up in the night just at the crack of dawn any ideas on how to get her to sleep later? I shouldnt complain she sleeps from about 930-630 or 7 but that is early for me!

jesslambert06 | September 17 , 2009 12:21 PM

Q&A: 4-month wakeful period?

my four month old has started waking up at 3:30am, but thankfully she doesn't cry--instead she talks to her mobile. Sometimes she gets herself back to sleep, and there are a few times when she decides she's hungry instead.

yadroc5831 | September 23 , 2009 1:47 PM

Q&A: 4-month wakeful period?

i am so glad to hear that i am not the only one having this problem. my 15 week old started doing the same things that have already been described about a week ago. im so glad to know that its normal. she's also teething which makes her wake way more often.

ty's momma | September 23 , 2009 3:23 PM

Q&A: 4-month wakeful period?

OMG I thought something was wrong with my son. He takes quick 15min naps instead of the 3 hours he used to take. And he used to sleep from 10pm- 6am. Now he wakes arouns 3am. So glad to know this is common.

soul12train | September 28 , 2009 12:13 PM

Q&A: 4-month wakeful period?

oh thank God this was included in my 18 week email!! my baby girl went from sleeping through the night in her bassinet to all of a sudden waking up almost every 3 hours again and will ONLY sleep in her swing! i was so confused trying to figure out what i was doing wrong that changed her sleep habits so dramatically! like a lot of the babies here, i believe she is teething as well! she is constantly chewing and sucking on her hand and most any toy i give her. does anyone know how long this "wakeful period" lasts? we've tried the sleep training, but she just cries and cries until someone comes in and gets her. we have tried to just let her cry, but it seems that she could cry for hours if we let her, and that only gets her more worked up and less able to fall asleep. but i also worry that i am making it more of a habit by going in and "rescuing" her everytime she cries. im at a loss as to how to balance this whole sleeping thing!

preggiewright | September 28 , 2009 1:39 PM

Q&A: 4-month wakeful period?

Babies also go through a growth spurt around four months, so sometimes they are waking up because they are hungry- my daughter started waking up at 3am at 14 weeks after two solid months of 8pm-6am nights, and it was because she's hungry. We've gotten passed the growth spurt but have increased her feedings during the day. On the flip-side, she doesn't nap more than an hour or so during the day, which means 7pm is not a fun time... Good luck!

TaraWehmeyer | September 30 , 2009 2:04 PM

Q&A: 4-month wakeful period?

Hi everyone I'm new to "the bump" message board. Although I used all of the advice/suggestions during my pregnancy.....it seems like now I have so many more questions since my son has been born. My question is sort of on this same topic "4 month wakeful period." My son is turning 4 months next week (already can't believe it!) He was born 5 weeks premature and ever since we took him home from the hospital has refused to sleep in anything but his carseat! It took me a long time to get used to it but now that he's sleeping the night it's great to get some rest! I talked to his pediatrician about transitioning him into his crib and he just said to do it slowly by putting him in his crib during the day. I've been doing this a little each day and he finally fell asleep for @ 15 minutes yesterday on his own but then wakes up screaming and flailing his arms. I then put him back in his swing and he sleeps for @ an hour. I don't know how long it's going to take to finally get him to sleep in his crib at night but my biggest concern is that I'm going to end up with a one year old that still sleeps in his carseat! Any suggestions or tips as to how I can transition him?

tarac719 | November 12 , 2009 4:17 PM

Q&A: 4-month wakeful period?

I would check out Baby Whisperer.com! Their method of sleep training is amazing and helps through all these normal baby sleep issues!

hjvann | November 13 , 2009 9:54 AM

Q&A: 4-month wakeful period?

My 15 week old has also started waking up at some time between 2 am and 3 am. And I think he is going through a growth spurt. He wakes up hungry and once we feed him he goes right back to sleep. We don't feed him a whole bottle, maybe 2 ounces. I guess we should try to feed him more during the day. He doesn't take very long naps. He's a cat napper. He never really took long naps. But has always been a good sleeper at night.

ash138 | December 21 , 2009 3:18 PM

Q&A: 4-month wakeful period?

for tarac719: you may want to try one of those swaddle me things so your baby doesn't end up flailing his arms and legs. The carseat is probably comforting for him because it is similar to the womb and he can't move around as much as if he were in his crib. Babies like close quarters.

ash138 | December 21 , 2009 3:21 PM

Q&A: 4-month wakeful period?

We have been having this problem too and found that the swaddling works great, but also using the head cradle inserts for the car seat (the soft u-shaped pillow) placed in the crib and then put the baby's head in it. The baby is still falt but this makes them feel sort of like they're in their car seat!

paigecaroline | December 22 , 2009 2:28 PM

Q&A: 4-month wakeful period?

Tarac- I don't know if you've tried this, but it worked for my husband and I. My son loves his carseat too...the second you put him in he's asleep. The crib was a different story. Even though he's only 8 weeks he sleeps straight through the night, usually from about 9 or 10pm - 7 or 8am. (today it's 8:30am and he's still sleeping!) We found that he likes the carseat becuase he's snug in there, he can't move all around. So what we do in the crib is swaddle him real tight....he loves it! So every night, we swaddle him, lay him in the crib, turn on his mobile and leave him alone. We stay in his room until he's asleep because he's still so small, but usually he'll put him self right to sleep. If he doesn't we simply put his pacifier in his mouth, and shhh shhh him to sleep, if he's throwing his feet around then we just gently hold them down becuase that's what keeps him up. The first time we tried this it took a couple hours so you can't give up. Now, about 4 weeks later, it takes us 5 - 10min. And every night at around the same time we go through the same routine. So he knows when he's swaddled it's time for bed! Good Luck!!!

indelible09 | December 28 , 2009 7:30 AM

Q&A: 4-month wakeful period?

My daughter was waking up every night at about 1 a.m. and then would wake up every hour on the hour after that luckily all I had to do was go back in there and give her her pacifier and she would go back down but it was still hard for me to go back to sleep afterwards wondering if she was going to cry again. I talked to my doctor about it and he told me what i was doing was fine but told me not to feed her. She finally stopped this and now only wakes up one time in the middle of the night.

Laurenscob | January 20 , 2010 11:32 AM

Q&A: 4-month wakeful period?

My mom told me that i had that

mandypansy25 | February 10 , 2010 12:22 AM

Q&A: 4-month wakeful period?

My mother in law said she experienced this wakeful time with both her kids and the only thing that worked for her was the introduction of cereal at dinner to keep some food in the tummy through the night. I know things were done a lot differently 35 years ago but maybe its worth asking the doc about!

acrlyhed | February 15 , 2010 2:53 PM

Q&A: 4-month wakeful period?

Wow... I thought something was wrong with my little guy... he sleeps through the night but the last two days he has refused to take his daytime naps even though he is so tired.. It takes me an hour to get him down and then he only sleeps for 40 minutes where I used to just plop him in the crib and he would sleep for 1hr 3 times a day.... hopefully this passes..

Pumpkin1030 | March 09 , 2010 7:50 PM

Q&A: 4-month wakeful period?

My experience with 3 kids... It changes and changes and changes. One of my kids was a great sleeper at 6-weeks (like, 6 hours at a shot!), and we thought we had it made. Then everything changed for a couple of months, and she would only sleep for 2-3 hours at a time. No idea why. But it was the same for all the kids. Just when you think you're out of the dark and have them on a schedule, the baby gets a new idea. Good luck to us all!

McDume | March 16 , 2010 4:00 PM

Q&A: 4-month wakeful period?

I'm ready for my bean to sleep through the night. He did it one time two weeks ago and not since. He is up usually around midnight or one am and again around 5am. I haven't had more than 4 straight hours of sleep since my 3rd month of pregnancy. It is amazing how little sleep one actually needs. Though I miss it!

since99 | April 06 , 2010 8:51 AM

Q&A: 4-month wakeful period?

AH-HA...sanity returns! I am experiencing ALL of these issues at 15 weeks! Glad to see I'm not the only one who was on the verge of a meltdown :)

misspc | April 23 , 2010 10:08 AM

Q&A: 4-month wakeful period?

i do not believe in letting babies cry it out at all. my son is almost 4 months and has already passed this stage he was 2 months old when it started. it drove me crazy...but i will say if u start getting them on a schedule early and when they do start to go through their wake period try giving them a warm bath even if they have already had one it was the only thing that worked with our son...

red.silver | May 07 , 2010 3:11 AM

Q&A: 4-month wakeful period?

Make sure that your baby is getting enough in their tummy before going to bed. I found that most of the time when one of my kids would start this trend it was time to adjust their feeding amounts and schedule a little bit. Everyone knows that babies and adults alike sleep best on a full stomach =)

racquelcorrea | June 06 , 2010 12:32 AM

Q&A: 4-month wakeful period?

My daughter is going through this now. I run up and down the steeps for 2-3 hours every 10-30 mins then after about 3 hours give up and put her in bed with me to sleep. She takes naps in her swing. I don't believe in the CIO method. I try to soothe her sometimes it works but she normally ends up in bed. How long till this passes?

beau2ful | June 21 , 2010 12:35 PM

Q&A: 4-month wakeful period?

wow! great to know I'm not alone. My 4month old baby girl went from sleeping from 11pm-730am straight to ,well, now she wakes up at 4am, nurse for 15 mins and then fall back to sleep til 7 or 8am, OR..lol...she'll stay up for an hour and just talk (babbling) ,nurse a little after her speech,lol, and then fall back to sleep. I'm hoping all this will change after she starts eating solids.

YXIA | July 05 , 2010 12:45 AM

Q&A: 4-month wakeful period?

So glad to hear others have started teething early! My little one is just over 3 months and my husband and I are convinced she is teething, she has almost every sign. Startig to affect her sleeping at night too. everyone keeps telling me shes so young to be teething, so I am glad ot hear we aren't alone!

patty2bstela | July 06 , 2010 9:12 AM

Q&A: 4-month wakeful period?

I have read and heard that keeping a baby n a swing or bouncy seat or anything other than the crib at night for a long period of time is not good for their backs. It doesn't allow the spinal cord to grow straight but curved.

VBerden24 | July 06 , 2010 10:48 AM

Q&A: 4-month wakeful period?

I strongly recomend the book "Babywise" Very helpful and was recommended to me by at least 5 families who say that the methods in the book helped them to get their children to sleep through the night. I am half way through the book and my son is only 2 weeks old, so I don't have any first hand success with this book yet. I will let you know how it goes!

jrpotter15 | July 08 , 2010 8:23 AM

Q&A: 4-month wakeful period?

All of you mommys that have babies that love their carseat.......how did that happen? My son hates his! I feel so guilty when we have to leave the house because he will cry when he is in it :(

bluefox2182 | July 15 , 2010 7:53 PM

Q&A: 4-month wakeful period?

I'm new to the bump....and it's amazing that the first time I came on here, recommended by my sister-in-law, the issue I've been having was right on the main page... My daughter slept through the night (8 - 9.5 hours) from the time she was four weeks old. When she was 15 weeks, she started eating every 2 hours during the day (primarily breastfed) and every 2 hours at night....for 30 - 40 minutes at a time!!! She drools a ton now and I think she is teething as well, but she is legitimately hungry, eats seriously, and does not spit up hardly at all.... I have been trying to figure out what I've been doing wrong since she slept through the night for so long and now is up every two hours. She's been watching us eat closely for the last four weeks so I've been doing cereal and baby food now. Yesterday she ate 3 bowls of cereal, 1/2 thing of apples, 160 minutes of breastmilk, 8 ounces of formula, and still was up every two hours last night to eat 30-40 minutes each time. She falls back asleep easily and sleeps in her crib no problem, but it is exhausting and frustrating when she used to sleep for so long. I have tried to let her cry, but she cries for 30+ minutes and then when I try to calm her or feed her, she is so worked up that she won't eat and it takes forever to soothe her. I hate to give in to her every time, but she is seriously hungry and eats well and then sleeps again. I hope this period ends soon!!! Has anyone been through this long enough to have any idea how long this lasts?

rodeo1439 | July 27 , 2010 8:48 AM

Q&A: 4-month wakeful period?

Does this wakeful period end after months or does it continue?

srsmth5 | August 01 , 2010 11:53 AM

Q&A: 4-month wakeful period?

My daughter turned 4mths today and started waking up in the middle of the night two weeks ago and is now finding her way back to sleeping through the night...she started sleeping from 7:30 to 7am at 3mths old, then after her shot two weeks ago she started waking at 11pm, 2am, 4am...now she is back to at least 9hrs straight...I also believe keeping her swaddled helped get her back on track, she does roll now but the swaddle has helped reduce her trying in at night, but she does scoot around the crib in her swaddle (like a worm). I love these blogs and all the literature I found out there it has helped me expect these changes so I don't panic, even though I may be a little sleep deprived...I highly recommend Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child the best book out there....

tviolandi | August 08 , 2010 2:33 PM

Q&A: 4-month wakeful period?

My 16 wk old just started this two nights ago and I'm very happy to hear that he is not the only one! :) I've been told that during these times they are going through a growth spurt and need the extra feedings, so they wake at night often. My son goes right back to sleep when I feed him a little (completely breastfed). My pediatrician said to ensure that a baby doesn't try to use you a a pacifier to only breastfeed for 15-20min each side and take a little break in between. We went from taking about 1 1/2 hrs to feed to about 30 min and he sucks 'em dry! It took a little while and working with him to make sure that he understood that when he was latched on, he couldn't sleep. Now he really means business when he eats...which is great for me. He started sleeping about 10 hours a night after that too! Now he wakes again about 2-3 times at night, but my ped said that this would pass just let him eat. Hang in there ladies...as with all things..just repeat after me..."This too shall pass!!"

jessbrewer08 | August 11 , 2010 3:33 PM

Q&A: 4-month wakeful period?

THANK GOD!!!! I thought I was doing something wrong or that he was sick! My son started this about 2 weeks ago and is turning 4 months tomorrow. He's not hungry when he wakes though. I can give him his pacifier and then he goes straight back to sleep, but then wakes up a few more times during the night. He has been a full night sleeper since about 5 wks old, sleeping from sometime between 8:30-9:30 till sometime between 6-8:30. He eats really well during the day (formula, he never really did take to the nursing) and takes his naps, so I couldn't understand what was going on. Anyone know roughly how long this phase lasts? Also, his pediatrician says it's fine for him to sleep in his crib. He still goes to bed in it every night. He naps in his crib during the day, and we will start trying to get him sleeping in his crib, after some other issues are resolved. I just have to ditto and say I am so glad it's not just me!

lwvixen81 | August 15 , 2010 8:11 AM

Q&A: 4-month wakeful period?

Correction, he goes to bed in his swing every night.

lwvixen81 | August 15 , 2010 8:21 AM

Q&A: 4-month wakeful period?

I read the book called "Sleeping Through the Night." I am not a big "baby book reader" but this book gave some great tips on sleep training and how to get your baby (or even toddler) to sleep through the night. Tips from this book are how I got B to go from 2-3 wakings to just 1 throughout the night ( he has never slept straight through the night regularly). I highly recommend the read (best part you can read just the sections you want). It also has sections with tips for things like the 4 month waking period and when your baby is sick... it is a good resource to have around :-)

caitykins5 | August 27 , 2010 10:31 AM

Q&A: 4-month wakeful period?

All of you need to look up "Moms-on-Call" or buy the book...my son has been sleeping through the night since 10 weeks old. The best gift you can give your baby is an ability to fall asleep on his/her own. One thing that helps too, b/c my son is breastfed, is to give a bottle of expressed breast milk at night. I then "top him off" with nursing him...that way none gets wasted and you know how much he is getting before he goes to bed. Breastmilk supply goes down as the day goes on, so alot of these babies are probably waking up b/c they are hungry. Good luck!

dunkette2003 | August 28 , 2010 6:40 PM

Q&A: 4-month wakeful period?

Yay! This explains a lot. Our daughter started doing this just last week, and we didn't know what was going on! She is a great sleeper, and was sleeping through the night. I guess we can just keep sticking to our routine of bathtime and rocking, and look forward to when she isn't waking up every four hours anymore.

sdumas86 | August 31 , 2010 7:59 PM

Q&A: 4-month wakeful period?

This is awful. I am at my wits end. I have never read so many books or tried so many different things. I'm constantly questioning my parenting and wonder if it's myself that has created a bad sleeper. My son is up every hour sometimes, I don't know what else to do so I feed him. I put him back to bed sleeping, he wakes almost immediatly when put down and we have to start all over. I could leave him to cry (Well not reall) but it doesn't seem like that will work, nor do I feel good letting him cry. I'm willing to try anything, I am so exhausted.........

chelsealovesdavid | September 20 , 2010 5:44 PM

Q&A: 4-month wakeful period?

How old is your son? My son is 9 weeks old and has never slept through the night but I have noticed him waking up more often now. He is breastfed and always seemed to be hungry until my mother in law suggested I mix some rice cereal with juice for him at night. I don't worry about it being to soon for him because he is a big boy and a good eater. I think he may be going through a growth spurt. But if you haven't already tried it, it helped my son to start only waking once a night and is a much happier baby overall. I still breastfeed him throughout the day and at night but feeding him that has helped a bunch! Plus, getting him used to eating from a spoon quicker :)

excitedmomtobe | October 01 , 2010 10:24 AM

Q&A: 4-month wakeful period?

My lactation consultant told me that babies are either good sleepers or they aren't, and that really helped put my mind at ease. My little guy is 4 months next week, and has never slept more than 5 hours in a row, but only within this last week has he woken up screaming...sometimes he's crying before he's even awake. Last night we was back to waking up every 2 hours! I swaddle and bounce him on the exercise ball to calm him down, then nurse him back to sleep. It's the only thing that works. He also used to take great naps during the day...a 2 hour nap at about 10am and 2pm and two or three 20 min naps throughout the day as well...and now he's ditched the long ones and is only taking three 20 min naps. It's so frustrating, and I'm finding it harder to cope because I'm so sleep deprived. Reading all these entries helps put my mind at ease, knowing that I'm not the only one. I keep telling myself that this is just a phase, and to trust that it will get better! Hang in there Moms!

ChristiMcD | October 01 , 2010 9:35 PM

Q&A: 4-month wakeful period?

My little girl is almost 3 months old and i think she is already starting this. At about 6 weeks she was sleeping really good from about 8pm to 6-7 am and then a few nights ago she started waking up every 3-4 hours to eat, but never wet her diaper and would go back to sleep and then 2 nights ago she started waking up every hour to hour 1/2 and its driving me crazy. i even swaddle her and she still wakes up i think she is teething already also because she drools like crazy and is constantly knawing on her hands. i hope this ends soon, im glad to hear it is normal.. thanks for reassuring me ladies!

styler0412 | October 05 , 2010 11:15 PM

Q&A: 4-month wakeful period?

Is anyone else amazed at how things seem to happen for babies on a timer. My baby turned 4 months today and started this exact same behavior this week. He was only waking up 2 - 4 times a night and is now waking up a lot! Usually screaming and having a hard time going back to bed. I hope it doesn't last long. I am definitely going to tray all of these tricks and will let you know if I learn anything.

jushoemaker | October 07 , 2010 1:07 PM

Q&A: 4-month wakeful period?

Well this definitely gives me some relief!! My son hjust turned four months on 10/6..and about 2 weeks ago, he started waking up every two hours, by rolling over in his crib and get frustrated he couldnt roll back over, I'd go in and roll him back over and try to soothe him but by the time I'd get in there, he'd be so worked he would need to be nursed to calm down. I just started the rice cereal before his bath and nursing before bed to top him off, but he's still getting up every two hours. I am losing my mind! He was sleeping from 8pm-2am, 2-730..which worked fine for me, I dont think Id be comfortable if he slept for 12 hrs straight anyway lol. I just hope this passes soon..mommy needs some sleep!

kellye23 | October 08 , 2010 11:13 AM

Q&A: 4-month wakeful period?

my lil man is 4 mnths old now and now that ive read this i guess i do notice him doing that more often. i think i have it pretty easy though because my guy only wants his nuk when he wakes up in the middle of the night and he still only wakes up once but then hes up at 6am for yhe duration of the morn. but at 6am, he is bright eyed and bushy tailed and gives me and only me the biggest smile ive ever seen. then im in a great mood for my morning.

kakniess77 | October 08 , 2010 6:28 PM

Q&A: 4-month wakeful period?

WOW! I didn't think I was doing any of the right things. My son has been waking up for the past 3 weeks at first we were feeding him and putting him back to bed, but for the past couple of nights we have tried letting him put himself back to sleep and it seems to be working out great. He goes down around 830 and up by 5 but we feed him a bottle and he goes back to sleep for at least another two hours. The naps on the other hand have been crazy! People have told me to put him in his crib but he cries nonstop and works himself into a tizzy and then can't relax. We have gone back to taking naps on the couch and he goes down so much easier. In my own opinion I think you do what works, for me :crying it out" wasn't working but nurturing and loving on my son did. I could care less that all the books say I am doing it wrong. Know your own instincts mommies, your kiddos will turn out just fine....are there any answers on how long the wakeful period goes for...I really wish for those daytime naps to come back ;)

srathjen | October 11 , 2010 6:51 PM

Q&A: 4-month wakeful period?

My daughter will be 4mnths on thursday and I'm praying this doesn't happen to me. Since she was one month she has been sleeping 12 hours a night. She generally goes down at 8 or 9 and gets up between 8 and 9. I am blessed. She doesn't sleep during the day though. She takes 15-30 minute naps 4 times a day. Generally after each feeding. She is formula fed. From day one I made sure that when she woke at night I didn't speak to her nor turn on a light and as soon as she was done eating I put her back in bed. I do the same routine every night before bed. She eats 6ozs plays for 20 minutes gets a massage then we read nursery rhymes and she is put in her crib. She plays by herself for 5 minutes to 30 and then falls asleep. Again, hopefully this doesn't change!!! Good luck to you all!!

ljbrdh | October 12 , 2010 1:07 PM

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This explains a lot!! So helpful, I thought something was wrong. My daughter is 4 months and 1 week today and all week she has been waking up numerous times a night and is ready to play lol Last night she laid in her bed talking for about 20 mins

amandaf52788 | October 14 , 2010 2:30 PM

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My LO turned 16 weeks Friday. She's been bottle fed since 12.5 weeks(I had medical issues) Until I stopped breast feeding her it was like pulling teeth to get her routine down. about a week into being formula fed I finally learned her schedule and have stood by it since then and things have been alot easier for us. She NEVER liked her bassinet, LOVES her swing. She hates being put into her carseat, but will calm down once she realizes we are going for a drive. I got her to take her first nap in her crib at 13 weeks. I've been swaddling her since day 1 but when she was 2.5 months old I started leaving one arm out so she would learn to "self soothe" When ever I put her down for her naps(usually 1 morning and 2 afternoon, 30 min to an hour long each) I swaddle her, let her drink from a bottle that has 1/2 tbs cereal, she starts to fall asleep and I either lay her in her crib or her swing, turn her mobile on and she is asleep by the time the moblie stops playing music. She usually sleeps from 8pm to 4 am. Every now and then she'll sleep until 5 or 6am. there has been a few times when she's woken up at 12pm or 3am. I just go with her schedule. when she wakes up at night though, I change her diaper, give her a bottle and lay her back down. Sometimes she talks to herself, sometimes she is a little fussy, other times she falls right back to sleep. She also has been teething for the past 3 weeks. She is getting her two bottom ones at the same time. I rub her gums with oragel and give her baby tylenol. Good luck to us all

Sonya75L | October 16 , 2010 7:52 PM

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We are using the book "NO CRY SLEEP SOLUTION" by Elizabeth Pantley. It gives you ways to soothe your baby at night without just leaving them to cry by figuring out why they are crying. It also helps you wean your baby off of falling asleep with a pacifier or at the boob. Our LO sleeplessness is due to teething & inconsistent naps. Once I started making sure she napped during the day, she has been sleeping so much better at night. She sleeps 6-8 hours at a time!

ThefutureMrs.Crooks | October 18 , 2010 1:51 PM

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Our little one is 18 weeks old. He has been a rockstar sleeper. We've followed a routine to put him to sleep. Lasr night for the first time he rolled over. When putting him to bed we didnt feel comfortable swaddling so we used a sleep sack. At about 1.30 am he decided to roll to his tummy and got stuck trying to figure out how to fall back asleep in this new position. Any recommendations for a newly rolling baby? I guess eventually he will get strong enough to figure it out.

jc0310 | October 20 , 2010 5:30 PM

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So glad to hear it's not just my son! He used to sleep from about 8pm until about 6am and then eat and go back to sleep until 8am. That was awesome! haha. Now that he's started rolling and teething he won't go to bed until he wants to (even if we do our bed time routine) and he keeps waking up around 3 or 4am and wanting to stay awake. I try and feed him and sooth him in hopes that he'll fall asleep but then he won't for about an hour or more. Then he's right back up at a quarter to 7 and wants to be awake and play. He finally figured out how to roll back and forth so now he's more comfortable sleeping on his belly but he gets frustrated when he can't roll back to so then I have to try and sooth him back to sleep again after that. I think that eventually this will pass. Just have to be patient! :)

stefaniek10 | October 25 , 2010 4:49 PM

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My son is 17 weeks today and has been sleeping good at night (7 to 11 hour stretches). The problem is that he fights napping SO much during the day that by 6:00 or so, he's so tired and fussy that we have no choice but to start the bed time routine then. So even though he's "sleeping through the night" by definition in terms of # of hours straight, I'm not able to because he's usually sleeping from ~7:00pm - 3:00am. Then again from 3:30ish to ~6:30-8:00am. He usually goes back down pretty easy but lately has been wide awake after he eats. We feel pretty good that our night time routine is good (other than wishing is started an hour or two later), but are having trouble establishing a daytime/nap routine since he's waking up at a different time every day. Any suggestions???

EMorgan1125 | November 18 , 2010 3:10 PM

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We're just dealing with this same problem, and started sleep training. First night was terrible, second night she was only up one time and got herself back to sleep. The last two nights she slept 9+ hours consecutively:)

annigator | November 19 , 2010 12:02 PM

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DD (4 mo) used to sleep really well in her crib, but lately I've been taking her to bed with us because otherwise I get no sleep whatsoever. I always start the night out putting her to sleep in the crib, and every once in a while during the night I'll try the crib again, even if it's just for a short while. But bringing her to bed lets me lie down and nurse so I don't have to get up and it's way more restful. It's just a phase, babies outgrow these things. Might as well get some sleep in the process.

logtolob | November 19 , 2010 1:09 PM

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baby just turned 4 months last week and all the sudden is having a hard time going to sleep. normally, she will fall right asleep when we put her down at 8:30 and will sleep all night. In the last week, we would put her down and about 1/2 hour to 1 hour later, she would start balling. All i can say is I hope solid foods for dinner help and we can get back to peaceful nights!!

sparklinggrapejuice4me | November 23 , 2010 1:11 PM

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So GLAD I read this I was so worried thanks everyone!

kristen6749 | December 01 , 2010 8:25 PM

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Wow...I am not alone - that feels good! My baby is 15wks today and is doing exactly as described. I do think it is a growth spurt and is generally hungry when she wakes, but I did notice she is not eating as much during the day...gotta step that up. Also, does seem like a good time to get serious about sleep training. But, I am just so not a CIO mom, so gotta figure it out another way. ;)

slockyer | December 03 , 2010 12:00 AM

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Honey babies can have a wakeful period anytime! My son is almost 14 months and he has only slept through the night three times. Every baby is different. You get through it, all the exhaustion is worth it because when that little boy or girl looks at you, you know what true love is!

GracieA | December 13 , 2010 2:06 PM

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So glad I read this, Kendall slept great until 4 months then was waking up 2 times a night, now 6 months she is sleeping great...hang in there moms!

alarkin2010 | December 16 , 2010 4:36 PM

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I'm glad to hear this also! We just figured out that WE were actually keeping our LO up! We would rock her to sleep in her sleep sack and then once you put her in her crib she would wake up! So this week we started the Cry it out method. Dad and I felt bad but we were at our whits end. She cried for 5 minutes the first day and now she's been putting herself to sleep and sleeping through the night! Hang in there everyone :-) Merry Christmas!

Melbai05 | December 23 , 2010 10:29 AM

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I am glad to read this. My son, who is just turing 3 months, is going through this. He won't stay down for naps, and really only sleeps at night with me. And even now that's pushing it.

SarahWaggy | December 27 , 2010 2:11 PM

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We started transitioning our LO from bassinet to crib at 18 weeks (last week.) I thought maybe he was having a hard time with the crib because he had been sleeping through the night in his bassinet for about a month. Now that I have read this I am not sure if he is having a hard time transitioning, or it's due to the 4 month wakeful period, or both! I guess this was a really bad time to start putting him in the crib. We put him in the crib with no blankets, wedges, or positioners, the crib is bare (except for a tight fitted crib sheet...) so I was also wondering if he can't sleep because he needs something cuddly? Any suggestions?

jlshelton | January 18 , 2011 5:55 PM

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my four month old still hasn't slept thru the night. he goes down around 9 and wakes up at 1 or so to eat. then he goes back down but he figits and fusses and finally wakes up again at 7. i keep hearing that most babies sleep thru the night (10 hours or so) and this hasn't happened yet. he sleeps in his moses not the crib yet. i keep thinking what is the point of trying to train him to sleep in his crib if he doesn't even sleep thru the night yet?

jenluis | January 19 , 2011 11:51 AM

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Surprisingly we haven't had any problems. Her sleeping was off for like the first week but everything seems back to normal now although that will probably change since we are trying to get her in her crib now.

jazmynalex | January 21 , 2011 2:50 PM

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I'm so grateful yet sad that we're all going through the same thing. Reading through the responses, though, makes me believe i may have an EXTREME case. Starting 3 weeks ago, my DD starting crying out in the middle of the night. Before,she used to do long stretches of sleep, only whimpering when she needed breast milk in the middle of the night. She also was a long napper. Now, she's fussy during the day because she barely naps. And worse yet, she wakes up every 30 MINUTES ( no exaggeration), crying and just wanting to be rocked to sleep. Some nights it takes just me holding her for her to go back to sleep; other nights, i have to rock her for 10 mintues. Needless to say, im exhausted snd at the end of my rope. She doesn't want to play and sometimes not even interested in nursing; instead,she just cries with her eyes closed. I don't know what to do and i cry every day and every night because I'm so sleep-deprived and worse yet, a bad parent in the daytime because i can barely function and interact with her (let alone get chores, bills, etc). I've read dr sears' book, the "no cry" sleep training book and "baby whisperer" and nothing has worked. Someone please tell me this phase will pass soon!! I refuse to let her CIO but i don't know what else to do. ANY ADVICE will help me at this point. Thanks so much!

meltrivino | January 26 , 2011 9:30 AM

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My son is 20 weeks now and still wakes every three hours or so at night (has gone 5 but only a few times). Until 17 weeks he cried and fussed and moaned 90% of every day, slept only in his swing - yes for four months- woke every 1.5- 2 hours at night and didn't have any sort of a pattern during the day - except to be hungry constantly (breastfed). He's a big boy and it was exhausting! All I have to say is hang in there, try and do things as routinely as possible during the day, and it will pass. Three hours sleep at a time is not ideal but it's an improvement, and he's sleeping in his crib, has a recognizable pattern during the day and actually smiles and laughs and is enjoyable - FINALLY!

NatalieCichy | February 08 , 2011 3:34 PM

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I have a five month old and I am going through the "wakeful period" and it's not bad at all. He just wakes up at 4:15-5:00 amish instead of his normal 8 and does not like to take naps, he'll stay up for 12+ hours without even a yawn. He talks and plays the whole time just want to be up with attention, but when the tired hits, it hits. We'll get a hissy fit then he will be out for the whole night and then most of the next day. It comes and goes. He's been up almost all weekend just as happy as can be, until last night. A car ride finally got him to go to sleep, and he's been out except for feeding and diaper changes ever since. It's tiring on momma, but fine for baby.

ellemckee10 | February 08 , 2011 5:54 PM

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HEY EVERYONE, MY 15 WEEK OLD IS VERY CRANKY AND WHINING ALL THE TIME. I KNOW HE'S TEETHING BUT HE ALSO WAKES DURING THE NIGHT SCREAMING SO I FEED A LITTLE AND HE GOES BACK TO SLEEP AND WAKES AGAIN AFTER 1 HOUR OR SO. DURING THE DAY HE IS VERY FUSSY AND HE GRUNTS AND GROANS. THIS HAS BEEN FOR THE PAST FEW DAYS, PRIOR TO THIS HE WAS ALWAYS HAPPY AND SMILING? IDK WHAT TO DO? ANY SUGGESTION?

ILUVMYFAM1208 | February 21 , 2011 11:07 AM

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Hi everyone. I want to recommend The no-cry sleep solution book. By Elizabeth Pantley. this book worked wonders for us!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I cannot say enough great things about this book. A must read for sleep deprived moms who are like me and refuse to let your baby cry it out. I hope you give it a chance!

jenavieverose0227 | February 23 , 2011 2:21 PM

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I wish I could related with most of you about my sons sleeping patterns. Every since he was born, he has woken up every 2 hours to eat. Maybe once in a while he will give me a stretch of 3-4 hours. That rarely happens. My son is 4 1/2 months old and weighs 20lbs. He is a big boy and bc of that my dr told me he eats allot. In the past 2 weeks he has gotten in the habit of waking up, talking and wanting to play but every hour. He eats every so often as well. I have been back at work and I am exhausted. I did try once to let him cry but he cried for hours and wouldnt soothe himself. I am reading healthy sleeping habits now and hoping that will give a method to follow. He just popped his first tooth yesterday so I assume that also has to do with his waking up every hour. I hope this phase ends soon and I can have a normal night soon bc I am really at my wits end. If anyone has advice I would love to hear. I read ILUVFAM1208 and I am in the same boat as her.

andreahurtado | February 25 , 2011 9:00 AM

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I am very happy to hear that I wasn't going CRAZY! My boy just turned 4 mths and his sleep pattern turned for the worse last week. He was a perfect sleeper in his crib and just got on a decent schedule with naps. We swaddled him from the start and he started to break free and wake himself up at night. I figured it was time to start having him self sooth, although it appears he also loves his pacifier and is hungry. So - I was up all night, trying to figure out what to do. We started the CIO two nights ago and so far he has done great - half swaddle, no pacifier, in crib. The 1st night he cried maybe 40 minutes with us going in and soothing him and not picking him up (it was hard - and involved wine). Last night it was Maybe 5-10mintues. He has slept from 7:30 to roughly 4 AM for a short feeding and then again around 6:30 for wake up time. His naps are scattered and he seems a bit more hungry - it could be confusion on the new pattern of self soothing. Let's hope it just gets better as the Ferber Method preaches... I will be on the look out for teething and cluster feeding from a growth spurt - keeping up with breast feeding is challenging in these moments. Good Luck Moms.. we all have different babies and follow your instincts. We do know best~

karen3051 | February 25 , 2011 3:29 PM

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My baby just turned 4 months old. She sleeps with a pacifier. Recently, she started waking MANY times during the night because her pacifier falls out. We then have to wake up and put it back in her mouth. This is killing us. Do you have any advice?

paciproblems | February 28 , 2011 11:15 AM

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Someone on this thread recommended "Babywise" and I have to comment just to counter it. Do NOT use the Babywise method-- it has been linked to failure to thrive, metabolic confusion leading to *worse* sleep schedules, not better, and a host of other problems. The "facts" and claims this book makes are completely unsubstantiated and it all but advocates practices that, to my mind, are very close to child abuse. (Not feeding a hungry baby, for example.) The AAP warns people away from the Babywise method. Have some info: http://www.ezzo.info/Aney/aneyaap.htm http://www.ezzo.info/feeding.htm http://www.christianitytoday.com/ct/2001/july8/12.20.html A quick google search will show you how controversial the system is, and how most pediatricians recommend you stay away from it.

silveredmadness | March 01 , 2011 3:44 PM

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There were a couple of extra reasons that compounded this for our daughter as well. I returned to work full time after being home with her 24/7 for 4 months and she also started teething. She's exactly 5 months today and we're still working through sleep training as best as we can while trying to soothe her with the new tooth on it's way. I think between 3-6 months is also when so much newness occurs for them, physical and mental, that it's hard to really stick to a plan. Routines are fabulous, but some flexibility is probably warranted at this time; or so it has been in our household :)

cp2118 | March 03 , 2011 1:40 PM

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I remember my daughter woke up around 4 months and it was teeth. Try not to let her get too wide awake. Get her back to sleep as quickly as possible. And enjoy! Indianapolis Baby Photography

Leah777777 | March 18 , 2011 5:49 AM

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My 4 month old just went though that... I learned how to be patient with thats it really helps.. They will get back to a normal routuine their bodies are changing just like ours does.. Try to keep him or her up more during the day.. Keep them busy. Hope this helps alittle

momof2 2010 | March 20 , 2011 12:11 PM

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My son started waking up frequently through the night at 4 mos old where he had been sleeping mostly through the night. I tried to let him cry it out, but to no avail. He had reflux and still (he's almost 6 mos now) eats small amounts frequently, so I just got up and fed him and he would go back to sleep for a few hours. He's starting to grow out of it now, but I still feed him at least once throughout the night. If he wakes up more than that, I try to just give him his pacifier and turn on his mobile. It works most of the time. I also try to get him very full before bedtime to try to get him to sleep as long as possible. I guess he will grow out of it! Hope this helps some!

Calesmom1029 | April 19 , 2011 1:34 PM

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well my baby girl has not slept thru the night yet and she is 14 weeks. she still wakes up twice a night to eat. maybe her 4 month mark she will start sleeping all night. I HOPE!!!!

melharley | April 26 , 2011 9:12 PM

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I am not looking forward to that my baby is almost 3 months and sleeps great during the night i'm getting used to it. I hope he doesn't go through that.  Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker

amikins88 | May 07 , 2011 5:09 PM

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I went through this for the first time last night! She was up at 2:30 am laughing and smiling and would not go back to sleep until 5:30 am. She is 16 weeks and up until last night, she was sleeping from 10pm to 8am straight.lol. Hopefully tonight, will be back to normal :)

BabyLowe | May 10 , 2011 1:31 PM

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My daughter is 5 months old. Since about 3 months she has been going to bed between 7 and 8 and sleeps til anywhere between 1:30 and 3:30. Recently she's been waking up again between 5 and 6am too...no idea why! But she'll usually go back to sleep and sleep until around 8:30. When she wakes up I would like to just change her and put her back to bed to self soothe. This has not worked - (1) b/c of my husband, who thinks the only way to get her to settle down and go back to sleep is to feed her, and (2) bc she seems to think she needs to eat during the night. I keep reading things that say by this time she shouldn't need to eat during the night. I think she's associating eating with sleeping. I just ordered the No Cry Sleep Solution that has been recommended above and am hoping this will help us get her into a better pattern. She usually will take 2 hour & a half to two hour naps during the day, but for the past few days she seems to only wanting to take 1 hour long nap a day! Other problem is she won't take a pacifier....ever..unless she's awake and I pretty much hold it in her mouth...she wants nothing to do with it. If she would take one I think it would help with putting her back to sleep at night. I love that she's sleeping 5 or 6 hours straight, but it's not when I'm sleeping =(.

rmeddy | June 10 , 2011 9:45 AM

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My daughter is 3 months and 2 weeks...ever since she was born I've always let her sleep in her swing every night (we've moved it into our room from the living room so I can now sleep back in bed with my husband) I didn't think this was a bad thing. Also since I stay at home with her and my husband works second shift our bedtime is between 1-3 am...and she'll sleep until 9 am in which she wakes up hungry, I nurse and put her back down and she'll sleep till 1-2 pm in which we get up to start our day. I really hope she doesn't get up in the middle of the night again...We've just gotten used to sleeping through the night.

ariffeysmwc | June 11 , 2011 8:36 AM

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we are going through it right now... not fun!

ear6385 | June 14 , 2011 12:11 PM

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bluefox2182 i know what your talking about. my son hates the carseat too. almost every time i put him in it he just screams until i take him out again. i hate it cuz he gets all hot a sweaty and gets gas in his tummy. as for the sleeping, i'm praying that i will get some eventually. my son is 16wks and has never been a 'good' sleeper, but he used to wake up every 3 hrs on the dot to eat and then go back to sleep. the last two weeks have been horrible. he goes to bed around 8, wakes up about 1 to eat. goes back to sleep and then wakes up around 3, 430, and 6 and just won't settle. i finally give up and get up around 7. and his naps during the day are better the last two days but usually if he sleeps for 30min i'm happy. and if i can get an hour out of him at one time i'm wondering if he suffocated in his sleep. hopefully both the unsettled mornings and the non-existent naps will get better soon. i'm exhausted. plus he's teething so he's just irritable all around.

fruit loops | July 17 , 2011 1:19 PM

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Our son was sleeping one 6 hour stretch at night, and then resuming eating every 3 hours. But around the 4 month mark, he went back to eating every 3 hours day and night. I really miss sleep! Our doctor said that may mean it's time to try solid foods! So, we're giving him cereal from a bowl once a day around dinner time. Hopefully once he gets used to the spoon and takes more cereal he will sleep longer!

ezer | July 21 , 2011 1:42 PM

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My daughter's a month and a few days away from that period and I'm not looking forward to it AT ALL. I leave home for work very early and come home very late and am happy with her being a deep sleeper...Would it help if I feed her more before she goes to sleep?

francesca777 | August 03 , 2011 1:20 PM

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We have the same issue. Since she is 4 months, and ready for it, we've been putting rice (I little- 3 teaspoon to 7 oz) in her bedtime bottle, and discovered that she's eating more- it was 5 oz, but now, 7 oz. She sleeps longer if we feed her an hour or two before bed, and have quiet time and bath time around then too. We also have a sleeper from Fisher Price that is shaped like a carseat, up higher, and rocks. She's loved it since we brought it home! Will never use a bassinet again, and it helps with her reflux. =]

Bobbij34n | August 09 , 2011 1:34 PM

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My daughter will be 5 months on the 19th of august and she has been waking up in the middle of the night lately. It's been about two weeks now I think. Truthfully I didn't think much of it. We exclusively breastfeed so I just figured that she wa hungry or going through a growth spurt or wanted mommy for comfort so I just went along with it. It's nice to know that this happens quit frequently with other mommys. :)

Holly1588 | August 11 , 2011 9:42 PM

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Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!! My daughter started this a couple days after she turned 4 months! So glad I'm not alone!!!

tsgranby | August 12 , 2011 12:28 PM

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we are going through it right...

vicwang | August 25 , 2011 1:23 AM

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Thank you for posting this! My baby is 19-weeks and we are experiencing this same thing. He was already sleeping from 9pm to 5am and he started waking up around 2 or 3 am after his four-month birthday. Our approach is to give him his paci when he wakes up during the night and make gentle shhh noises, while patting his tummy. He will fall back asleep sometimes and when he doesn't we know it's because he really is hungry so I take him out and feed him a little until he falls back asleep at the breast (he is exclusively breastfed). It seems to be working but I'm concerned that the mid-night feedings will again become a habit. Will try feeding just enough to satisfy him as suggested.

jimenavalos | September 07 , 2011 12:34 PM

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Suddenly around 4 months, little Buford starts waking up at night to nurse. Mom is understandably distressed. Some books say "it's a bad habit that must be stopped." -Senior Healthcare Consultants

shantelle143 | September 13 , 2011 8:13 PM

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my baby is 19 Weeks and he wakes up during the night due to losing his soother i have stopped feeding him at night he seems to fall back to sleep once you put the soother in and will sleep for a couple hours then again we are up putting the soother back in. Should i be feeding him at night still? i have tried the crying out sometimes it works sometimes it doesnt. Should i just keep trying the crying out and not put the soother back in? Help!

dmburke18 | September 15 , 2011 10:49 AM

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snickers98 | September 15 , 2011 2:37 PM

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I always babysat and helped out with my nephews so I kinda knew about this but didn't think about it! Now my LO is up every couple hours to nurse day and night! He was not liking his crib at all until I brought him to the chiropractor. Turns out his spine was out just from being born! After the first adjustment he slept almost 5 hours! and now he sleeps in his crib but still wakes every couple hours REALLY hungry. I don't mind that much though because it is almost like I can see him growing so I know he must be hungry. At night he will nurse and be right back asleep in less then 10 minutes, I prop myself up and sleep while he nurses but I know that isn't for everyone.

KarolynnS1153 | September 30 , 2011 2:36 PM

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i have a 14 week old boy who never sleeps he naps during the day but only if hes held and only my me, at nite he will fell asleep at 9pm and wake fully rested at 2:30 3:00 am and has been this way for weeks. help what can i do to get him to sleep? im running on fumes.

fcampanuolo@aol.com | October 03 , 2011 11:24 AM

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Because they are starting to be able to move and notice all the things around them more. There is so much they can see and do that sleeping comes in last to them. Just have to try and keep up a routine.

TeresaRWray | October 10 , 2011 2:12 PM

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Ok let me start with having them cry it out is a horrible suggestion, if that was you and crying was your only way of communicating, and your trying to get across that something is wrong or bothering you (you have a bad dream, wet diaper, got scared, hungry) and you are just left to scream until your to tired to do it anymore would be terrible. So crying it out is an absolute no. One of the main reasons they wake at night is because they are learning to crawl and roll at this point so when they do it in their sleep they wake themselves up, and scare themselves (ever fall asleep and a limb falls off the bed, and you get that feeling of falling). A lot of times you can stroke their cheek and hair and talk softly to them (it’s ok go back to sleep, etc.), give them their pacifier if they use one and they will drift right back to sleep. (Don’t turn the lights on, I suggest using a nightlight – your toes will thank you) Or if they are breastfed only, they may need food - breast milk is a high protein food it gets digested very quickly and at this age they are getting ready to be introduced to solids. Consider asking your doctor if your baby is ready for them, breast milk may not be sustaining them long enough anymore. Also another reason your baby likes the swing is because they can’t roll around and wake themselves up, plus the sound is soothing to them. And if your rocking your baby to sleep and they fall asleep in your arms you can not put them down or move them for a good 20-30 mins. Until they have entered into a deep sleep, other wise you will wake them right back up and have to start the process right back over again. I suggest reading Dr. Sears books “Night time parenting” and “the fussy baby”, they offer great knowledge and suggestions.

soon2wed09Wed94371 | October 12 , 2011 10:25 AM

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Tarac719- one thing that our son loves is to be swaddled, but he likes his arms free. So, we swaddle him just below his arms. We also roll up burp rags or receiving blankets and tuck them in around his body starting around his armpits. It makes his feel secure and he does startle himself awake. Hope that helps!

Hoeydancer | October 14 , 2011 11:15 AM

Q&A: 4-month wakeful period?

i had no idea this was even a thing! i was just telling Baileys dad that she has changed and i couldnt figure out why, it makes perfect sense, we already do the calming rubdown and give her a botle and she usually goes right back to sleep, almost like she needed reassurance that it was ok! thank you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

kreezybubbles | October 14 , 2011 12:00 PM

Q&A: 4-month wakeful period?

My little guy started this about 2 weeks ago when he learned to roll over. At first we out smarted him because he could only roll to the left. So we would just put him to the side of the crib more and he could just lay on his side. Now he learned to roll to the right. So we are right back where we started from. Mostly now, he's waking we put his pacifier in his mouth and he sleeps. Until about the 3rd time and then he's hungry. I nurse him for about 10 minutes and he sleeps another 4-5 hours. I'm hoping this is just a phase and that this middle of night feeding will soon end again. He was a great sleeper for 6 weeks. This too shall pass!

CaCa1125 | October 23 , 2011 11:29 AM

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I feel better knowing it is just a phase! I have the night shift and for so long it was smooth sailing through every night since 4days old. Now not so lucky she just started a routine of waking at 3am then 4am then 5am and by now I am trying to grasp the last 30min of sleep before getting ready for work. We are very routine parents so I know nothing has changed for us it is just she it growing :) As long as she grows out of it, I think I can sacrafice sleep lol. She is almost 5mos.

delane89 | October 31 , 2011 9:03 AM

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AND16: Our DS did the exact same thing. I was nursing him every 2 hours last week. I finally called the pediatrician on Saturday because my husband and I were zombies. She said it's time to start sleep training and to get DS to sleep wherever he can, since sleep begets sleep (ie, on the Boppy after nursing or in the stroller). She said to let him cry it out *once* a day, for up to an hour, at the time when he usually sleeps for the longest stretch (for us, around midnight). We did this the last two days, and after DS cried for 30 minutes, we got 5.5 hours of sleep each time. Plus, he's taking naps again. This plan might be revised at our 4-month appt tomorrow, but it's working for now. You kinda have to be a human bed for them during those naps, but get a magazine and be thankful that he's sleeping! Hope this helps.

FloydLitland | October 31 , 2011 3:58 PM

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omg my baby is going threw this stage

aalbiar89 | November 09 , 2011 10:19 PM

Q&A: 4-month wakeful period?

Extra attention and discipline will solve most problems. Keeping your pet out of your baby’s sleeping area may help reduce the risk of fur or dander irritating the baby’s breathing passages.-Any Lab Test Now

shantelle1015 | November 13 , 2011 5:11 AM

Q&A: 4-month wakeful period?

Prepare your older children for what life may be like when their baby brother or sister comes home. Plan to spend special time alone with each of your other children a short time after your baby comes home and repeat this daily. -Any Lab Test Now

shantelle1015 | November 13 , 2011 5:16 AM

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I just had this conversation with my pediatrician at my son's 4 month check up. We were discussing starting him on rice cereal and I had asked the question as to when will I know to start that. She told me that because my son was already sleeping through the night that when he gets to a period where he is waking up in the middle of the night and can't soothe himself back to sleep that he is actually hungry. She told me to then start rice cereal at dinner time to help keep him full along with his formula during the day. Hope that helps.

stuckonyou28 | November 13 , 2011 6:49 PM

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Its verry true.

kadence mommy | December 13 , 2011 10:02 PM

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baby skin is indeed very sensitive. I suggest you consult your pediatrician to figure out whats best and what's safe for your baby....I hope I helped. background check

Apollosan | January 03 , 2012 9:38 AM

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I feel like we were extremely lucky when our daughter went through this. She would wake up around 4am but not cry. I'd hear her laughing and talking to herself. Two days in a row I'd get up and go get her out of bed, try to sooth her and put her back down, but that only made it worse and I'd be up with her playing for over 2 hours. The third day, after the initial mommy panic of "Ah! She's awake!" I'd realize she's not upset and I'd lay back down without even checking on her figuring she'd let me know if there was really a problem. So for the next couple of days I'd listen to a happy baby playing by herself for about an hour and then she'd fall asleep on her own again. If she got too loud or insistent, I'd go show her my face and let her know she wasn't alone, but didn't pick her up. That lasted about 2 weeks, and she's already back to sleeping from about 8:30pm to 6am. We have a bedtime routine that we follow every night around the same time and I think that helps her know the difference between naps and actual bedtime. Naps are another story altogether. She has never had an easy time going down for naps. Once she's down, she's good for at least an hour, but getting her down takes a while. :)

etreisz | January 04 , 2012 11:54 AM

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My son also went through this. We contacted our pediatrician and she told us to let him cry it out. I was hesitant bc who wants to listen to their baby cry? What hit home to me was her telling us that it was a form of manipulation. If your baby is fed, dry, and healthy then why else would they be crying other than for attention. Letting him cry, not scream, teaches them how to self soothe and nighttime is bedtime. I found if I intervened in any way it slowed down his progress to getting to sleep. Now he falls asleep in 5 min so it worked. Be strong bc if you can't put your foot down now it will be that much harder when he/she is older. Note- crying it out only worked if my child was fed dry and healthy. If he was sick we did not stay as strict.

Kait671 | January 07 , 2012 9:04 AM

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This is actually a question. My baby is having this issue during the day and has been extremely cranking. She went from her usual pleasant sweet self to becoming fussing and crying a lot. I am attributing this to her not getting enough sleep. She sleeps through the night but thrashes all night long so I am thinking that sleep is probably restful. Anyone else having the same issues?

eilenepowell | January 23 , 2012 12:30 PM

Q&A: 4-month wakeful period?

My 3 1/2 month old sleeps in bed with daddy and I. I'm hoping to transition her to her own bed soon, but not sure how it's going to work. She still wakes up and eats once or twice a night, but what really gets to me is a week or two ago she started waking up several times a night. She gets fussy, flails around, and usually passes alot of gas. I usually have to nurse her at least for a few minutes to get her to calm back down and go back to sleep. She's always been a very gassy baby. I've tried gas drops before bedtime and they son't seem to help. Any suggestions?

suzyqh | February 01 , 2012 9:41 AM

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I agree with everything stated above as we are going through this stage right now. One thing to also keep in mind is that it's possible our babies could be going through a growth spurt and their little bodies could be aching.

Chuck1906 | February 07 , 2012 12:34 AM

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My baby always wakes up at like 3 or 4 in the morning but I just give her a bottle akd most the time she falls four back asleep there are times that she doesn't and I lay her in bed with me and play a little change her diaper and then after a bit ill give her another bottle and she'll fall asleep. She's always woke up during the night though, is there a way to help her sleep all the way through the night by chance?

dollface1991 | February 27 , 2012 11:27 PM

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My baby started to have this wakeful period when he was 3 months old and every time he was waking I was giving him an infant formula and after that he was getting calm and slept again. The pediatrician assured me that everything is normal and I don't have to worry about it.

ondinaonda | February 28 , 2012 3:50 AM

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My munchkin was also a great sleeper in the first 3 1/2 months. All of a sudden she would get up every couple hours. I am so happy to hear I am not doing anything wrong! This makes me feel so much better. When she first started being put in the crib she would wake up crying, but I just started to let her cry herself back to sleep. It was rough but now she just stays asleep and enjoys her crib. Lately up every 2 or 3 hours at night. If it's not time to feed her I check on her and calm her down then let her go to sleep on her own. It seems to work. It's stressful hearing her cry but I know it's better for her in the long run. My mom did it with me so I just follow her advice, and I have a Dr. Spock book that has turned into my #1 resource for answers.

JuliaNelson316 | March 01 , 2012 4:30 PM

Q&A: 4-month wakeful period?

My 4-month old is going through this all of a sudden for the last week after sleeping pretty good up until now. How long will this last???!!! He wakes up suddenly screaming and doesn't put himself back to sleep anymore.

nique28 | March 22 , 2012 6:37 PM

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I never heard that before, my daughter will be 4 months may 14, (omg times going by so fassssst) ! She has slept through the night since we brought her home even having to be woken up to eat. She is such an easy baby. Now she wakes up one time about 3 to eat then goes right back to sleep until about 6. I hope she donesn't start waking up more then that, but when she wakes up most of time time we don't even know because she wakes up happy & smiling.(:

sweet&purple18 | May 09 , 2012 10:24 AM