Baby Care Basics:
5 Must-Know Tips for That First Week Home

1. Baby wipes
Most docs recommend avoiding premoistened diaper wipes for the first month of baby's life since some of their chemicals can irritate a newborn's tender skin. Instead, use cotton balls dipped in warm water. When baby’s ready for regular wipes, choose ones that are alcohol-free and unscented to prevent irritation.

2. Bath time
Until baby’s umbilical cord is off and healed, baby can only take sponge baths. Start by soaking your baby a little. Make sure to always keep one hand on baby, and remember that infants are especially slippery when wet. Start with his face–one area at a time since covering the whole face with a washcloth can be scary -- and work your way down. Make sure to thoroughly wash inside all the folds (under the arms, in the neck, the genital area, etc.) and save baby’s dirtiest parts -- aka the diaper area -- for last. Then, move back up and wash baby’s hair. And note: There’s no need to bathe more than every few days.

3. Newborn skin
At birth, baby's skin will probably appear to be dry. How come? It’s in the process of peeling off an entire waterproof layer of sorts. But in general, a baby's skin doesn’t need much specialized care -- just lots of TLC. A mild cleanser is safe, though many people recommend just plain water. Your baby's face takes a lot of abuse (just think of all that spitting!), so do your best to keep it clean. But if baby's skin seems excessively dry, irritated or itchy, or if you notice a rash or breakout, consult your pediatrician ASAP.

4. The umbilical cord get sucked into registering for cute toys or outfits Umbilical cord care has changed dramatically over the last 20 years; now, many hospitals recommend doing nothing but keeping the cord dry (read: sponge baths only). But some pediatricians still recommend using alcohol on the cord with each diaper change to speed up the healing process. That way you’ll be able to give your baby real baths, as opposed to sponge baths, sooner. So find out what your doctor recommends.

5. Fingernails and toenails
The safest way to keep a newborn’s nails short is to just file them and not cut them at all. Since the skin of the fingers is usually attached to the back of the nail, cutting the nails often results in nipping the fingertip too (ouch!). Even though the bleeding is minor and can be stopped quickly with a little pressure, it's very upsetting to the parent -- and always seems like a lot more blood than it really is! Once baby is a little older (18 months), you can cut their nails while they’re asleep.

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Separation Anxiety

Why does my baby cry whenever someone else holds him? When will this end?

Re: Why does my baby cry whenever someone else holds him? When will this end?

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Though it may be a relief for you when someone else wants to hold baby or watch him for a couple of hours, for your baby, the prospect is terrifying. Welcome to separation anxiety, a normal part of development. According to clinical psychologist Shoshana Bennett, PhD, separation anxiety is the fear of the primary caretaker leaving or being out of sight, so it’s not exactly the same thing as stranger anxiety.

Friends and family shouldn’t take it personally and wonder, “Why doesn’t the baby like me?” The thing for everyone to remember is that he is just going through a phase and it’ll pass. (Today he’s nervous about being without you. Come grade school, he’ll be nervous being seen with you.) The height of separation anxiety is eight to 18 months, but it can rear its head as early as six or seven months.

So how do you deal, especially if you have to go back to work? Start by reminding yourself that separation anxiety and stranger anxiety are important stages of bonding (not easy for anybody, but necessary for normal development). Have the caretaker come visit once or twice before you actually leave. Have some friendly physical contact and happy conversation with the caretaker. This will show baby you trust the person and that he should feel comfortable too. The caretaker should slowly start interacting with the baby at a distance while he is in your arms or on your lap. At the next visit, have the caretaker – no longer a stranger - arrive 30 minutes before your departure.

Try some trial runs. First, leave the house for an hour and gradually increase how long you’re away so baby gets used to it in increments. Always say good-bye when you leave. Don’t prolong your gestures or show that it’s just as hard for you. Make it short, sweet, and to the point: “Bye honey, I’ll see you in a couple of hours.” All of these steps will help build baby’s confidence.

As tempting and convenient as it may be to sneak out the back door while baby isn’t looking, in the long run, it’ll just increase baby’s anxiety if he doesn’t know where you went or when you’ll be back.

Plus, more from The Bump:

Nighttime Separation Anxiety

How to Find a Good Nanny

Choosing a Daycare

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Q&A: Separation anxiety?

My son has sepration anxiety really bad and when i try to leave to go shopping and and do some of errands he starts crying and wont stop.

mcdonoughhamilton101 |

Q&A: Separation anxiety?

I totally understand you. My 7 1/2 month old girl does the same thing and then to calm her down takes some work. But i heard that as they grow up separation anxiety becomes less.

asecretbm |

Q&A: Separation anxiety?

My son has only cried when someone else held him ONCE! It was DH's friend i had never met before and DH handed him to her and he screamed! She handed him back to DH and DH handed him to me, I calmed him down and handed him to her and DS was FINE! IDK if he wasn't comfortable with DH handing him over or what but that was the first and only time so far! DS was maybe 6months old-ish? LOL i guess im lucky.

Mama2LoganWife2Josh |

Q&A: Separation anxiety?

My daughter is 6mo. and she doesn't really cry much w/people but let me put her down and there she goes I don't have time to do nothing during the day because she always wants to be in my arms and fall asleep while Im feeding her, maybe because she's breastfeed? Suprised i have time to make a comment right now lol(=

mkmartinez |

Q&A: Separation anxiety?

My six month old has major stranger anxiety and it tends to be more with women than men. Maybe it's because I am a stay at home mom? It is worse in larger crowds too. I don't know what else to do besides get her around other people more so she can get used to others.

aktharp |

Q&A: Separation anxiety?

is it wrong that I enjoy having my son cry a bit when I leave him with someone else, I am usually still in the same room, but all I can think about is this is what I have wanted my whole life someone who needs me and depends on me that's what being a mom is...I love it!!! And working with kids gives me the comfort of knowing it is just a phase so I'm enjoying it now cause one day he won't need me like he does now:(

babymamma1 |

Q&A: Separation anxiety?

I enjoyed it a little bit at first too, like aww she really needs and wants me! That has disappeared though. I can't even leave her with my husband, mom, sister-in-law, or anyone else for that matter without her screaming her head off the whole time. I have class 2 nights a week and I leave her with my sister-in-law and she is cries at first when I leave, then she's ok for maybe 10 minutes and goes back to screaming and crying. She is only 6 months, but has been doing this since month 1. Its kind of crazy because I don't want to leave her for the person who has to watch her's sake. I know she's okay, but I wouldn't enjoy watching a baby that is screaming constantly. I have tried saying bye, telling her I'll be back in a little bit, and having the sitter come early, but nothing works. Also, if a "stranger" holds her, or laughs at her, she loses it instantly. Any ideas??? I am taking her to a mother's morning out one day a week starting next week, but I don't have confidence that it will help.

jdisbr1@yahoo.com |

Q&A: Separation anxiety?

Seems separation anxiety is learned -- from parents and caregivers. It has a lot to do with the parents' own anxieties when dealing with their new infant. Janet Lansbury has written on this subject and has a lot of great advice from teaching infant/parenting classes for over 15 years. You can google her name. I am a former student and raised 3 confident kids through her methods. It's very supportive stuff. Good luck to us all.

McDume |

Q&A: Separation anxiety?

I am going to have to look into those Janet Lansbury books because I am a mom of 6 kids from age 20 to 10 months. All my older kids had no problem staying with other people and are all outgoing, friendly, confident and love people. Now my youngest, I can't even leave her with her own father. Her grandmother hasn't been able to hold her for more than 15 mins since she was born, as a matter of fact, she just looks at her and she cries. The ONLY 2 people that she will stay with for any amount of time are her oldest sister and one of her best friends. I have been able to spend maybe 24 total hours from her since she was born. She screams and gets so upset with me gone that she throws up. She even cries when I just leave the room to do laundry or use the bathroom. And God forbid anyone gets in my car, she screams until I get in the backseat and let someone else drive. I just don't understand how she is soooo different from the others. I don't believe this was a learned response unless I missed a HUGE trigger somewhere in the first 4 months of her life since that is about when this all started.

ayngyal513 |

Q&A: Separation anxiety?

I wish I could give you an answer. My 7 month old is doing the same. She also doesn't like to be put down and play by herself for very long. I always have to entertain her. It was sad b/c she cried when my parents held her the other day, and she olny hadn't seen them in a month! Good luck!

nschwettman |

Q&A: Separation anxiety?

My daughter is 11 months old and cries sometimes when I put her down or hand her to daddy but if I give her a few minutes she usually calms down and starts playing. I have a large family and it seems that having her around a lot of people and being held by a lot of family from birth has been a good thing, she will go to anyone (at least for a few minutes, then she wants down to play!!). Soon I will worry about her being so comfortable with people, that she might go to strangers when I want her to be cautious....The worrying is endless I am afraid.

Lissa29 |

Q&A: Separation anxiety?

yes my 4 mo old son will not stay with anyone. i get so nervous. i had my mom watch him a couple times for id say half hour at a time, and shed be calling me on the phone. i would hear him screaming in the back and i would jet home.. id get sooo nervous. it happened like 3 times. now, where ever i go i take him. its very frustrating because he was colicky, now his colick is going away now, hes teething... he dont like the car, he dont like the carriage.. so its really hard to take him places.. he screams... well, eventually itll get better..

carolj32469 |

Q&A: Separation anxiety?

I have a great tip for parents away from child - record your voice on blurts.com and have your caregiver play it for them! My son loves it and it makes me feel good at least knowing hearing my voice soothes him. Also makes me feel less anxious about being away from him. Check it out: http://blurts.com/4d2lgl

jsb10 |

Q&A: Separation anxiety?

My son is just like MKMartinez. He has no issues going to anyone, no matter if they are a stranger. But should I place him where he cannot see me, just wait for the tantrum!

angelalizada |

Q&A: Separation anxiety?

my sons almost 6 months and he does ok. if someone holds him hes ok as long as im in sight but let a stranger talk to him he goes crazy! its like its ok to be held but do not talk to me lol. i think i have a harder time leaving him. but for some reason when i leave him with my dad he crys n crys but with his auntie hes fine! and we all live together.

lms123088 |

Q&A: Separation anxiety?

wow, everyone sounds like me my baby has been crying with certain ppl for a couple of months now and she is almost 7months. especially my mother-in-law, she won't stay in her arm 1min she turns her bottom lip down like she is sad/hurt and cries the cry that is way diffrent from her other cries- it breaks my heart and want to take her back but i want them to bond, i guess it is a bad thing to leave her in mother-in-laws arms when she wants me or my husband so badly. yet she will laugh and play safely from our arms with mother-in-law maybe she can feel that i'm not comfortable idk OH YEAHi must confess at 1st and still sometimes it does make me feel good too to know she needs and wants me

Krystalisanewmom |

Q&A: Separation anxiety?

A lot of times, the baby stops crying right after you leave--you're just not there to notice it. They genuinely don't want you to leave, so they cry, but they realize that it didn't work and stop. I've seen this more than once when babysitting.

KateNonymous |

Q&A: Separation anxiety?

To my shock my son is 9month and has no issue with being away for 3 days with my mother in law and other family.But if i go out of the room baby gets upset the fear of being alone i think bothers my lil guy.

joannabenjamin2010 |

Q&A: Separation anxiety?

My 8 month old is going through that stage where he isn't sure if things still exist when he doesn't see them. When I leave the room or go out of his sight he gets upset until he sees me again. It's a little hard to deal with, especially when I have to use the bathroom. I have to leave the door open and call out to him so he knows that mommy is there, just in another room. You should hear him when he's in his swing and drops something on the floor, since he can't see the floor he thinks his toy is gone forever. But the look on his face when mommy retrieves it is priceless. I think he's dropping his toys more now to see mommy do her "magic trick".

F0xism |

Q&A: Separation anxiety?

my son is 4 months and he has horrible separation anxiety..he screams for hours until he throws up, cant breathe and loses his voice. he now has had a light voice for 4 days. i dont know what to do when i go to work. his father nd grandma have been watching him but its to the point where this cant be healthy 4 him?

baby811 |

Q&A: Separation anxiety?

My 9 month old cries when I leave the room even if I'm just in the kitchen which is literally 3 feet from the living room. He also has bad night time anxiety recently in the past 2 weeks. He wakes up screaming in the middle of the night until I get him even though we have a 1 bedroom apt. and I'm within 2 feet of him. He didn't use to do this so I can only think that it is the separation anxiety.

kennyattap |

Q&A: Separation anxiety?

I have a 7 month old that is completely out of hand with the seperation anxiety. It's such a strange thing to me because she has always been the baby that never cries. She's so good. My husband is a firefighter and is not hope for days on end so it gets very tiresome when I can't get a break. I have been going to the gym (they have a daycare there) but throughout the last month or so, she cries the whole time she's in there and more often then not, they have to come get me to take her. When my husband is home, she doesn't even really like to be held by him. He can distract her for a few minutes, but ultimately, she begins reaching for me and then crying. I can tell it hurts his feelings because he doesn't like being gone that long from her anyway and then to come home to her acting like that... poor guy. I can't stand to watch her so upset. She gets herself shaking and tears and a few times now even to the point of spitting up. It's very furstrating...

jackiejeanne |

Q&A: Separation anxiety?

My son is 12 months old and he still does that especially when his father side of the family comes near not sure why as he gets along well with friends and the other children and caretaker at the daycare.

dccsandy@gmail.com |

Q&A: Separation anxiety?

Every kid is different and at this age while they do feed off their energy for the most part I believe it's their nature. Some days my daughter who is 5 1/2 mo old has no problem with strangers, will let them hold her without an issue. I have been passing her around since she was born on purpose to get her used to being with people. The more uncomfortable someone was the more I made them hold her to get over that. I take her everywhere and we are always on the move but she has her moments when she doesn't wan't anyone but me. Even my husband. Sometimes she won't even let my husband feed her. Other days it's fine so I wouldn't worry too much about it. Even if they cry they are fine and will get over it. The more you feed into their anxiety by not leaving them with someone and not going out, the worse it will get because you will teach them that you do not trust them to be with anyone else. But they will grow out of it.

mdhohenshelt |

Q&A: Separation anxiety?

Usually, it's only a phase that your baby will soon grow out of. I remember thinking this was a sort of cute gesture when it first began, then it got to be very hard. Now, it's over & my little one is a social butterfly!

amandanlejeune |

Q&A: Separation anxiety?

My 9mo old hasn't been too bad with the separation anxiety. He LOVES everyone....except for one of my best friends. I don't understand it, he sees her just as often as any of my other friends but once she walks through the door, he begins to freak out! After about an hour around her, he is OK. Why is he this way with her and nobody else?

Mommi2Be143 |

Q&A: Separation anxiety?

Babies are very sensitive to smell. Maybe people with heavy perfume or that use a heavily scented detergent set them off. Obviously that's not the thing with the babies here who cry with everyone, but maybe that's a possible explanation for the babies that cry at only a certain person or a few people.

whtheatherflwr |

Q&A: Separation anxiety?

My daughter is 6.5months and is only comfortable with me, her daycare provider and sometimes my DH. If I leave the room and she hears my voice and cant see me she starts crying, even if DH is sitting right next to her. Anyone else, she will cry until she is back in my arms. I want her to be able to visit family without such stress so Im hoping this phase passes quickly!

angelacarmela |

Q&A: Separation anxiety?

My son is 7 months old & is just now having to start daycare. He has really started showing signs of separation anxiety. He wont sit & play by himself unless someone sits next to him, he cries when strangers hold him or even talk to him. Im scared of whats going to happen when he starts with daycare soon. I don't want him screaming all day & them calling me to come get him because he cries too much! I dont know how to help the situation! :(

bmgray01 |

Q&A: Separation anxiety?

My daughter is 9 months old and has it real bad too. She gets mad if I even leave her in her playpen or walker or whatever to go pee. Has a total meltdown. It is so frustrating. I love that she needs me so much but sometimes I just want to be alone for a second. I am a online college student too and it makes it even harder on me to get my coursework done. I have 15 more weeks to go until I finish my AAEE degree and get a 5 1/2 month break from it before starting my BSEE degree. My DH does not seem to notice that I struggle every day just to get everything done, and then always is complaining at me, it is so annoying and I wanna go off so many times. I usually just keep quiet though to save from argument. Having children is a very hard job sometimes and it is hard to enjoy it when there is so much stress. I'll be glad for my schooling break though. I need it badly!!

artsyme_001 |

Q&A: Separation anxiety?

My 6 month baby girl cries really bad when i hand her to my mother, we lived with my fiance for 4 months when she was born and when i hand my daughter to that gramma she is fine.. but my mom she cries bad.. she seemed better but she still gets fussy from it. Even if she can see me.

dreamzz012007 |

Q&A: Separation anxiety?

my baby started having separation anxierty at three months when I first returned to work. The babysitter kept telling me something was wrong with her because she would cry for long stretches of time but whenever I was with her, she was fine. She also cried with my husband (her father) for a few weeks as well. Heartbreaking but she has slowly adapted to being around them when I am not there. She also cries with strangers if I hand her over and she can't keep an eye on me. I'm definitely hoping it passes and she becomes less afraid as time goes on. I do think the attachment is magnified if one breastfeeds or not. My sister had a boy around the same time I did and not a peep when he is with others. I also think that she became more aware of her surroundings a bit earlier than many babies (though I know that sounds like I'm just being a boasting parent lol) and that could have played a factor in noticing that her mommy was no longer around for stretches of time. Wish I could win the lottery and stay home with my muneca:(

jgallego |

Q&A: Separation anxiety?

I don't normally post to these boards but I'm almost in tears. My daughter is now a little over 8 months old now & has been such a blessing-such a good baby!! However, these past few days, bedtime has been a nightmare. Our normal routine is bath, clothes, night kisses, then I will rock & (bf) feed her where she normally falls asleep or gets really close & then I'll lay her down for sleep. Never had a problem before now. If she falls asleep she will scream horribly when I put her down, reaching for me to get her back out. If I pick her up after she settles down-she is fine. I'm thinking maybe separation anxiety at night? (never had a problem with this during the day or with other people) I've always been the one that has put her to bed-but never had problems. We've let her cry it out the past few nights, which is one of the worst things I've had to do. Teething may be some of the issue & I sometimes give her tylenol at night but I don't like to make it a habit to give her meds on a constant basis. Like I said she has been such a blessing & we've never really had to deal with a cranky baby. If anyone else has dealt with this please help!!

Mrs. Beckner |

Q&A: Separation anxiety?

P is 8 1/2 mo and he is SUCH a social butterfly as long as I am in the room. He LOVES people & will squirm to get out of my hands if there are lots of other folks around to entertain. If I leave the room for too long he starts to get a little nervous for about 5 minutes, then he's over it for at least 30 minutes until he remembers that I'm supposed to be there. :) He often spends the day with either of his grandmothers so I've been really lucky so far. Leaving for work, he's been getting upset for a few minutes after I leave, but other than that he's very comfortable around people. We'll see if it lasts!!

lovelifeeveryday |

Q&A: Separation anxiety?

my sons father is a trucj driver and does not see him at all.im a single mom,10yr old and 9mth old.should i start to prepare for the day when he does wanna come around and my son dont know who he is?he is a deadbeat basically, and i just dont want my lil boy standing at the door waitn on a mn that will never show.he call every weekend and is "on his way to come see the baby" and for the last 9 mths,he has yet to show.but he parties and sleeps around and all that.Luckily the state Takes child support out of his check,but my son needs a man around.What should i do...as he gets older i dont want him to be heartbroken when his daddy never shows.my plan so far is to go on with my life as he dnt exist...but i kno that one day willl soon come."mommy where is my daddy". HELP

feefees21 |

Q&A: Separation anxiety?

my 4 month old crys when other people hold him..this is my fifth child and none of my other children did this..i dont think its learned and maybe it dpends on the babies personality..usually it doesnt last long..i do remember my daughters getting a bit clingy at around 8 to 9 months but this is very common.i am considering taking him to a baby class so he can get used to being around other people but otherwise im not bothered.Daddy was quite timid as a child so perhaps he takes after him .

shaznev |

Q&A: Separation anxiety?

My 7month old son also suffers from separation anxiety. He doesn't even want his father to hold him. I think it started around 4months. It's so hard to do things around the house cause he will be crying the entire time he is with his father he might stop for a little bit then hears my voice or sees me then it goes on again. It is so frustrating cause I need a break or do other stuff around the house. Even when his uncle and aunt comes around he screams from the moment they come in till they leave as soon as he sees them leave he is happy. Sometimes I get tempted to ask the to leave cause he cries really hard that it breaks my heart but I know I cant do that. It will be rude and i've never been really close to my brother inlaw and I know he loves my son. I used to think it's because he doesn't see other people that much, but I don't understand why he does it with his father. I'm trying to find a play group for him so he can get used to people.

nhlanhlamlambo |

Q&A: Separation anxiety?

My 7 month old has just started getting both separation and stranger anxiety. Except she doesn't just have separation anxiety with me, but sometimes she ONLY wants me, sometimes she ONLY wants daddy, and sometimes she only wants grandma. That means when she wants daddy or grandma and they try to give her to me, she BAWLS! It's sad, but she just has her preferences. And she definitely doesn't like brand new people. I think it just all depends on her mood!

cmariehill |

Q&A: Separation anxiety?

I'm not sure if mine is sepearation anxiety. It sounds like the situation mkmartinez describes. I do not have a problem when I leave the house or with a sitter - I think that is because I have never emphasized my leaving. I may smooch her head or hand her off to daddy - but there is never a big " goodbye momemt" so I think she figures momma left the room and will be back? I do have a problem withsetting her down to sleep at night or naptime. I nurse her to sleep and usually wait about 6 to 10 minute before I attempt to lay her in her crib. She wakes up everytime in hysterics. It's awful. We have attempted to let her quiet down and cry or fuss for 10 minutes, tops, and then go I go and attempt to nurse her and start the whole process over. Sometimes we do this 3 times!! What gives?

bustysinclare |

Q&A: Separation anxiety?

There is a book called "baby wise...giving your child the gift of night time sleep" and it talks a lot about the nursing to sleep pattern you just described. It may help you break that routine and get your baby to sleep easier, good luck!

angeln3 |

Q&A: Separation anxiety?

My daughter has this problem. Shes six months old and im worried shell be mean to the n ew baby when its comes. She barely lets my husband hold her and i feel terrible letting her CIO.

tarafredritz |

Q&A: Separation anxiety?

My son cries after I leave a room.

iloveu4ever |

Q&A: Separation anxiety?

When I leave my son with the babysitter, he only cries for a little bit, and then he's fine. It makes me feel horrible to leave him with him so upset:(

jessiexray |

Q&A: Separation anxiety?

my daughter does same sometimes even with her dad. this minute she wants to play and reaches out for daddy and than this minute, she's screaming for mommy. 7.5months old now. especially when its bedtime, she most often prefers mommy and it worries me. cant you just stay in daddy's arms and go to sleep? oka maybe becos she needs a little bit of milk? oh no even if I try breastfeeding her first and give her to daddy, she screams and screams. does it mean separation anxiety only works with baby being stock with mama?? lol!

ValWal28 |

Q&A: Separation anxiety?

My son has always been like this. Even when his grandparents where staying with us to help, he had a strong preference for my wife and I. When he started day care he would cry from the time we dropped him off to the time we picked him up (yes, that is hours at a time). What finally helped was when we went to travel to visit my family. We suspect that having to deal with lots of new people and places while being with my wife and I continuously helped him deal with others. He still has a strong preference for my wife and I, but it is no longer as traumatizing to be left with other caregivers after there is time to warm up to them.

LugerPitt |

Q&A: Separation anxiety?

My daughter started early as well with the separation anxiety. She is 10.5months now and it seems to be worse! It's not like she doesn't see a lot of people or kids. I leave her with my parents and siblings at least 2x a weeks. When I am in the room, she is automatically stuck to me. Sometimes she gets distracted and plays, but when it is really bad, she only wants mommy. She won't even go to daddy or gives him a hard time at first. It gets a really frustrating when I just want a shower or a bathroom break, she is yelling from the top of her lungs. Hopefully this phase ends soon. I;m thinking of putting her with other kids a couple hours a day 3x a week, maybe it will help her a little better.

rlyntolentino |

Q&A: Separation anxiety?

some babys just like being with their mommy, when they are used to being with mom all the time and then other people start holding him/her they cry because they aren't used to it, and they are making strange. it will end it's not going to be like that forever.

channy2011 |

Q&A: Separation anxiety?

My daughter started the "stranger anxiety" at about 3 1/2 months; she would even cry when I left her with dad...its getting better, if we are around someone for a while she will be ok wth them talking to her and eventually holding her with me still there. good times.

hlokity |

Q&A: Separation anxiety?

my elder son he was i think worst baby i have ever seen,.. in separation anxiety with every one in whole big family of 30 poeple... n i live in joint family., when ever any one come n go he wants to go with them n start yelling n crying since. 12-24... but now he understand that no every body has to go n u should say good bye. according to me n my experience says that, what make the baby minds,. that greed him with saying that okey I am going u wanna come amd just to take baby in ur hand for few minutes greed him daily like that so that make babies mind that ok i can go with every one. n than he begins understand he matured in that thought. that i have to go with every one.. now best way to realize any baby. that u shuold say bye, n stay here, take him in ur hands and start going out with other one whome so ever wants to go. n say okey bye.. lov yah take care. come next time.. ill wait for yah.. than he starts understanding that that my job to say bye any one who is going out for sme reason.. it helped me alottttttttttt now he knows that okey .mama he is gonna come again... n than ill play with them.. and he says now.. okey kiss me take care.. thaks god..

usmanbaby |

Q&A: Separation anxiety?

My 7 month old daughter is the same way. She will only cry around my family, my mom and my sisters, but for my husband's family, she is calm and all giddy. Why does she do this?

geminichik1987 |

Q&A: Separation anxiety?

I never had this problem with my daughter. Probably because my "babysitter" was my MIL and I never had to worry about leaving her with a stranger. The only problem I had was when she had an appt with a male doctor. With my son, completely different. We just went for his 9 month well visit and as soon as the nurse walked in and closed the door he started SCREAMING! He never left my arms until the doctor took him for 2 mins and even then it wasn't so bad. But I was shocked by how much he screamed. We hadn't had this problem before because again like my daughter he is surrounded by family all the time. He has a handful of people that aren't family that are around but he has never screamed like that. I guess with time it passes.

CarrieV1106 |

Q&A: Separation anxiety?

My son is almost 11 mos & has started freakin out when I leave the room, even if my husband is with him. Once I'm gone, he usually calms down after a few mins, and will have fun playing with Daddy, but once I show up again he flies out of his arms and cries for me. It's so disheartening for my husband and sometimes frustrating for me as I can't get much done around the house without causing a big tantrum. Surprisingly though if a girl friend of mine comes over that he doesn't know, he'll willingly go to her. It seems he's already girl crazy. It's cute and funny, but sucks for my husband. He works long hours, but spends time with him before work, before bed and wknds. I don't know how else to minimize his extreme "mama's boy" behavior??

Mommy 4 Joshua |

Q&A: Separation anxiety?

I sure hope my DS doesn't do this. It'd really make grandma sad.

smartlayne |

Q&A: Separation anxiety?

I've worked very hard to make sure my DD doesn't experience this anxiety. she's done pretty well when left with others. it's a problem when I have to go off to work in the mornings that she shows any fussiness. other than that she's really good being around and left with other people. she also loves meeting new people. I'll continue to work with her as she gets older to maintain the socializing skills she's learned so far.

shellyb1875 |

Q&A: Separation anxiety?

Our daughter is 8 months old & she has this badly! If I hand her to someone else, shs doesn't even look at them, she stares me down and watches my every move, as soon as I leave the room, its hysterical crying. It really sounds as if she's in pain, tears and all. It's hard to get anything done, the sitters don't really wanna watch her anymore, their starting to refuse, that she cries for atleast 45 minutes after we leave

mmr0117 |

Q&A: Separation anxiety?

Mine is 7.5mths old and he had really bad separation anxiety while he was 6mths and now does not. I guess he 'grew out of it'? ...just remember w every difficult phase, this too shall pass. Try staying with him a while with the 'stranger' and let your LO see that you are comfortable with the stranger. Smile and talk and play -the 3 of you, then leave... maybe this will help?

khenaa |

Q&A: Separation anxiety?

Few years ago I've took a msn nursing degree and since then I am working at the Florida Psychiatry Hospital for Children. There are a lot of patients who suffer of separation anxiety and most of them are between 3 and 8 years old. I've learned that separation anxiety is a phenomenon that appears on children who didn't create a strong relationship with the primary attachment figure who is in general the mother. John Bowlby made a very interesting experiment which revealed three types of attachment: sure, ambivalent and unsure. Children who are suffering of separation anxiety are those who developed an ambivalent relationship with their mother and when they have to go to school or kindergarten they are crying and refusing to do it as they are not sure that the mother will be there when they are returning home.

CarolinaJohanson |

Q&A: Separation anxiety?

My baby is only ten weeks old and already she will not let me put her down. I go and visit my sister and mother reguraly and when ever anyyone tries to hold her she cries until I take her back. She does the same thing with my husband, I'm so worried, she starts day care soon, I'm not sure anyone can handle her

santos9140 |

Q&A: Separation anxiety?

my 10 month old daughter cries when i go inti a different room. even when her dad is home she will cry cuz she cant see me.my son is 2 and he grew out of it when he was 1.. how i can i assure her that its okay ?

RobsAngedl09 |

Q&A: Separation anxiety?

My 8 month old daughter cries when I leave the room at home with DH around and sometimes when others pick her up. She wants her mommy mostly. I take her to work with me, so that's all she knows. She is okay after a few minutes usually, but sometimes she just screams and screams.

LMBecky11 |

Q&A: Separation anxiety?

That sounds familiar. I had to sleep holding my baby because he'd start crying if I tried to put him in his bad. I remember how tired I was because I also had to study to get my degree in forensic psychology. Still, I miss those times, but I have the feeling this will change when I'll have my second baby.

CallaAltena |

Q&A: Separation anxiety?

My daughter (7 months) hasn't started that yet... she stares a lot. I'm sure it's coming. maybe just being reassuring in your tone would help... not feeding into the tears...  Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker

Shug279 |

Q&A: Separation anxiety?

My baby has never cried. Maybe because my family is so big that everyone holds him and I guess hes used to it. He loves people hugging him. Even starangers!

Wendy310 |

Q&A: Separation anxiety?

Omg that happened to me I left out of town n I left my baby boy wit my sister in law n he was so afraid I felt to guilty for leaving him but I had to... That's the first time I ever left him...

Christy494 |

Q&A: Separation anxiety?

It helps reading all these responses. My daughter goes to daycare 3 days a week and is with her grandparents the other 2 days while I work. She only cries at daycare though and I've listened at the door and she typically stops when I leave. I do have horrible thoughts of why she cries because I don't understand why it's just there. I keep being told separation anxiety, but I just don't get it. She's as happy as can be when I pick her up, but if she loses sight of me once I get there she will cry again. I'm hoping it is just a phase. I'd feel awful if something else was wrong. And she will go to almost anyone else when I'm around. Maybe it's the attention she gets at the grandparents house and that's the difference?!

renemborst |

Q&A: Separation anxiety?

This is a very interesting subject!I've recently taken a healthcare degree and I have a lot of patients who suffer of separation anxiety.It is very difficult to deal with these children but a good psychiatrist can solve this problem.

suniscomming |

Q&A: Separation anxiety?

I have not had any issues with any one holding my son, my issue is that when I leave the room, even if I just go to the kitchen he pitches the worst fits. He is 8.5 months. Is anyone else dealing with this?

sierram12 |

Q&A: Separation anxiety?

My 9 month old DS started this just before we left on a 5 day vacation. It was so hard, being in a strange town in a hotel room with "strangers". I couldn't even leave to go the bathroom and had to take him with me everywhere to prevent causing a scene. Thankfully my family was very understanding and did their best to help me with him. However I am planning on volunteering once a week for 6 hours and I need some advice how to handle this. My MIL doesn't handle it well when he is afraid of her or starts crying (it hurts her feelings and makes her nervous) but she is the only "babysitter" I have available. Should I consider daycare for that day? I start in 2 weeks.

ZooMommie |

Q&A: Separation anxiety?

It`s only two months he is born now, and when I leave for my job, I kiss him goodbye and leave easily. I was wondering how I am going to deal with it when he comes to realize this separation more deeply. Even now at two months, I realize his attachment when I breastfeed him after I get home from work. I cherish it with longer stays on my bosom when he falls asleep while breastfeeding. I love this temporary separation because it has a double effect on both of us.

mon611 |

Q&A: Separation anxiety?

my son is 10 months old and when hes in his play yard hes ok till he sees me leave... and ill just be going down the hall to the restroom.. i dont know what thats about.. his father will even be right there.. i guess he just likes to hang out with me.. cause we watch tv together.. and hang out all day.. and sometimes when i leave him with my mom he crys but as soon as my sisters come in and plays with him hes ok..

jpantoja1989 |

Q&A: Separation anxiety?

My son is 8 months old in a few days. I am a full time stay at home mom and when his dad wants to hold him he panics and reaches for me. No one can hold him but me and he thinks he has to be held all the time...I have been so stressed out because I can't have 10 minutes to myself even unless he's napping. When I put him down, he screams and then the neighbors start pounding on the ceiling... I can't do this all the time and it causes a lot of fights between my husband and I. Nothing seems to be working and he bites holes in all of the bottles we give him and won't suck on bottles so how do I go back to work..? PLEASE help me

nowordsdescribe |

Q&A: Separation anxiety?

I conditioned my son to being handed over to all kinds of people. From the beginning if people were over and he didn't need to be fed, he was in someone elses arms. Anytime I can hand him over to someone I do. I have even done it while waiting in line for breakfast tacos! Men, Women, whomever wants to hold him. If we are at a gathering it is not uncommon for me to hand him over and "disappear". He gets passed around like a disease. He is not clingy towards me unless we are at our house with my husband. He then has a preference and lets us know.

vnsagldn |