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Q&A: When to start worrying about fertility issues?

How long should I wait before getting worried? And how do I know if it's me or my partner that has the problem?

Re: How long should I wait before getting worried? And how do I know if it's me or my partner that has the problem?

The Bump Expert

It’s pretty common to start obsessing after just a month or two of trying to conceive without success. You’ve spent so many years terrified of getting pregnant -- of course you'd assume it would happen within seconds of throwing out that last pill package. (Right?) And as you come to find out that's not quite the case, it's only natural to start jumping to conclusions. But, although it is actually harder to get knocked up than those high school sex ed classes would have you believe, you probably don't have much to worry about.

Most docs say you shouldn't worry until after an entire year of trying to conceive with no success. But, if it’s been nine months or so and you’re worried something’s wrong, don't hesitate to ask your OB to refer you to a reproductive endocrinologist (R.E.)for some tests. If there’s a physiological reason you’re not conceiving you can start exploring your options, and if the tests come back normal you can relax and keep at it. The one exception: If you’re over 35, you might want to visit a specialist after just six months of TTC. Fertility starts to decline at this point, and by discovering any problems early you can avoid wasting time.

Warning signs and red flags

Wondering if the reason things are taking so long have to do more with you or your partner? It's super common for women to blame themselves for fertility issues, but the truth is, about 35 to 40% of cases with infertility issues can be traced back to the man, another 35 to 40% can be traced to the woman, and the rest fall into a grey area mostly due to a combo of factors. The only way to know for sure is to meet with a Reproductive Endocronologist and both get tested. Still, there are some warning signs that could point you in the right direction, even before you see the doc.

Common causes of male infertility

If the problem lies with your guy, the most common culprit will be a sperm disorder -- such as low sperm count, slow sperm motility, or a deficiency in forward progression (the sperm's quality of movement). And any of these problems could be caused by a variety of factors. Here are some biggies to keep in mind, though:

- Age (His sperm count may not decrease, but it starts to lose motility around 40.)
- Immune problems (This can also impact motility and the sperm's ability to implant itself in your egg.)
- Weight issues (If your guy is underweight or overweight, it may be taking a toll on his sperm function.)
- STDs (Untreated STDs could impact sperm transportation, but this can be improved dramatically if he seeks treatment.)

Common causes of female infertility

In your case, there are (unfortunately) many more factors than can cause some bumps in the road on the way to having baby. Here are a few major ones that may be what's behind your fertility issues:

- Age (Even though this may not directly stand in your way of having a baby later in life, your egg count starts to significantly decline around 30 and may become a factor.)
Uterine Fibroids (About 80 percent of women in the U.S. have fibroid growths on their uterus, though in many cases they will not effect fertility at all. When they become problematic, however, you may need a surgery called a myomectomy.)
- Pelvic Inflammatory Disease (PID) (PID is an infection which causes about 20 percent of its carriers to be infertile, but this can often be solved with treatment.)
- Scar Tissue/Adhesions (Scar tissue bands of fibrous material can cause blockages in the fallopian tubes, leading to fertility problems. This can be rectified with surgery, and in less-serious cases, abdominal massage.)
- Ovarian Cysts (These fluid-filled sacs can sometimes grow on the ovaries and prevent eggs from developing or being released. They can sometimes go away on their own, but when they don't, laproscopic surgery may be necessary.)
- Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome (PCOS) (About 1 in 10 women have PCOS, and it's the most common cause of infertility. Signs of PCOS include irregular periods, excess facial hair, acne, and obesity. But many of it's fertility-blocking symptoms can be eased with regular exercise, weight loss, and medication.)
-Irregular Periods (Irregular periods -- and therefore irregular ovulation -- account for about 30 percent of infertility cases. Some patients may see their periods return to normal with a diet and exercise regime, while others may need to turn to meds like Clomid to help out.)

If you've been struggling with fertility for some time, and either you or your partner have one or more of the above symptoms, speak with your OB about scheduling an appointment with an R.E. as soon as possible, to see if something more may be at play.

The Bump Editors

Q&A: When to start worrying about fertility issues?

I also HIGHLY suggest reading "Taking Charge of Your Fertility." I started it about two months ago and am absolutely amazing at the information that this information isn't given to us. It seems a lot of people have TTC issues just because of timing! I've been charting now for two months and TTC just this month. I can take my first pregnancy test on Monday. With this book, you'll learn about YOUR best time to conceive, the factors that influence ovulation, if your leutal phase is the proper lenght and then, truly, when to see a doctor.

playinghouse |

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We've been off the pill since September and ...... nothing........ I'm 32 and worrying. Any suggestions? I chart and have 28 day clockwork cycles. I had used BC for over 10 years off and on. How can I know if I'm ovluating?

LAURA.CYR |

Q&A: When to start worrying about fertility issues?

I am 30 years old, and we are getting married in 10 weeks time. I love to foreward plan and so I recently went to my specialist fertility clinic to do what's called an Egg Timer Test. It might be called different things in different locations, but the test basically tells you what your Ovarian Reserve is and what your Folicle Stimilate Hormone level is (that's the hormone that triggers ovualtion). The test cost us a coupel of hundred dollars with a government rebate for part of it. They take blood and then do an ultrasound of your ovaries. It's painless and really informative. It won't tell you how "long you have", but it will tell you where you are at right now in terms of your current levels. So if you are worried, it can be a great test, to set your mind at rest, I am so glad that I had it done.

MISSJAYMIEJAY |

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Have you tried ovulation test strips? You can purchase them at a pharmacy or online.

Kamy07122008 |

Q&A: When to start worrying about fertility issues?

We've been ttc since June and nothing yet. I went to my doctor last month and she said I was counting my days wrong. So we have started "over" last month. My cycle varies so I ordered some ovulation kits today and that should be arriving within the next few days. The reviews that I read were great and a few of my co-workers have used the kits and they conceived fairly quickly. I hope they work for us. Goodluck to everyone trying.

KimRhone |

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My Hubby and I have been TTC now for 9 months, since January...nothing so far. :( I have charted with bbt, I have used ovulation tests, still nothing. My Dr won't even begin to talk with me until we've been ttc for a full year, so I am left worrying every month if it's ever really going to happen. I know worrying doesn't help, so I have stopped charting and using ovulation tests last month. We'll see how that goes - the "don't worry about it and it'll happen" theory. The charting and ovulation test were great because I now know more about my cycle than I ever did and I know that I have been ovulating, but I found myself almost obsessing over it. Info is good if you don't let yourself go too overboard. Good luck to all trying!!!!

loestreich |

Q&A: When to start worrying about fertility issues?

My hubby and I have been TTC for 3 months now and no luck :( . I took an ovulation test and it came back that I was positive for LH. I didn't get pregnant. I got my period. Ive even tried the lifting bottom with a pillow,still didn't work. I'm not giving up yet since its only been 3 months. I wish those luck who are TTC as well!!!

are2009 |

Q&A: When to start worrying about fertility issues?

My huband and i have been together for six years. We,ve never used protection. im 25 and have ovarian cysts and an inverted cervix. my doctor said this could cause a small problem but could it be worse than we thought?

beubie123 |

Q&A: When to start worrying about fertility issues?

I agree with the person who said read "Taking Charge of Your Fertility." I have pages earmarked in that book; it's fantastic! I read it before going to my new OBGYN (my husband is military and we just moved boooo!!!) and I was more knowledgeable than the doc. I know that is a huge leap of an assumption, but when the doc tells me that my cycle IS 28 days long and that I WILL ovulate +/- 14 days into my cycle....yeah...The book is absolutely amazing. EVERY woman, regardless of if you're TTC or not, should read it.

anbenson |

Q&A: When to start worrying about fertility issues?

OK so not sure where I should post this for answers, but I need to figure out my timing and not sure how. I have regular periods, but it's a little strange. For about a week before normal flow starts I have brown/red discharge (happens before every period, not implant bleeding), and then I have about 3-4 days of a normal/heavy flow. I don't know when to start or what all to do. Need help please! I want to conceive ASAP as we all do :)

Tadpol2000 |

Q&A: When to start worrying about fertility issues?

To Tadpol2000 that sounds exactly like my period! I'm not sure what it means though. My hubby and I have been TTC for going on 4 months. I bought an ovulation kit from the store to figure out when I was ovulating and it said the same time 2 months in a row but still no luck. Good luck to you! I'd be interested to hear if that type of period means anything

Suzanne0046 |

Q&A: When to start worrying about fertility issues?

My husband and I have been together for 8 years... we have been TTC for almost 2 and a half years. I've seen a fertility specialist, and he can see no logical reason why we don't have children. I'm almost 25 years old, and my husband is 28. We are both healthy, active indiividuals with no medical concerns or family history of infertility. I chart on a monthly basis, but this month I ordered ovulation tests to help be more accurate. Has anyone else had more luck with ovulation tests than charting on your own?

Jillis20 |

Q&A: When to start worrying about fertility issues?

The advice to "relax and keep at it" if your fertility testing comes back normal is completely wrong. If you're not able to get pregnant on your own after a year, then there is a small chance that you will, without some help. It's called "unexplained infertility". They can't test for everything that may be keeping you from conceiving. Often early treatments include Clomid (and IUIs) which requires monitoring, since it can make you ovulate multiple eggs. After several cycles of failure w/these, we opted for IVF, and after nearly three years of trying, we are now pregnant with twins. You have to take charge of your health, unless you have years to keep trying. We're in our early 30's, so we didn't feel like we had forever to wait.

kthappy76 |

Q&A: When to start worrying about fertility issues?

Impatience does not equal infertility.

kelnyc |

Q&A: When to start worrying about fertility issues?

I agree with many of you- read "Taking Charge of Your Fertility" by Toni Weschler! It's such a great book! I really learned a lot and felt good going to my pre-conception doctor appointment knowing that I knew a lot about my body already and had some important questions ready for my doctor that I never would have thought to ask.

givingmyself |

Q&A: When to start worrying about fertility issues?

The third try

rettmommy |

Q&A: When to start worrying about fertility issues?

I went off the pill in June and have not had any luck, I have irregular cycles since going off the pill and have been on 2 diff clomid cycles recently. I have also read "Taking Charge of Your Fertility" and have been charting. I went to my last dr. appt (not with normal dr.) to have an ovary check. She made me feel terrible wanted nothing to do with the chart whatsoever. She doesnt beleive in them. I cried through my entire appt. she would not listen to a word I had to say. So now I am waiting for my normal dr. to call me back as I am very concerned with how the last appt. went. I just want answers and not getting anywhere

kbabler86 |

Q&A: When to start worrying about fertility issues?

If you cannot get pregnant that means you are out of luck. You should try Locating A Vanity Number and maybe you will be luckier.

deanjohnson |

Q&A: When to start worrying about fertility issues?

My partner and I have been trying for a baby for over two years now, We were going to a fertility clinic for about 5 months before somebody told us to contact this spell caster who is so powerful, We contacted him at this email; mokospellcaster@gmail.com , for him to help us, then we told him our problem, he told us that she we either conceive in January 2013 or February 2013,but after two years of trying we were at a point where we were willing to try anything. And I'm glad we came to Dr Moko, Because he predictions put us at ease, and I honestly believe him, and his gods really helped us as well, I am thankful for all he has done.

Faith222342 |

Q&A: When to start worrying about fertility issues?

We have been trying to conceive for 3 months now. With my son we got pregnant right away. I am starting to worry that there maybe a problem. My periods are always soooo heavy and painful. Should I be concerned something is wrong?

princess71285 |

Q&A: When to start worrying about fertility issues?

AN Amazing Testimony On A Spell Caster zogospellcasters@gmail.com Who help me to get pregnant, So me and my partner have been trying for a baby for the last 5 years now and we have had no luck. I don't have a regular cycle so it is hard for me to tell when I'm ovulating or not, but we always have sex at least 2 times a week, sometimes more. I know it can take up to a year to conceive but everyone i know who have had a baby have conceived within 2-3months of trying and it is really getting to me and my partner had a fertility test about a year ago and his sperm were fine. I'm thinking it could be a problem with me but I've never had any symptoms of any problems. My partner does smoke and have the occasional drink, and i used to smoke and also have the occasional drink. i know I'm slightly overweight but that shouldn't affect our chances too much,one faithful day my friend told me to contact a spell caster that help her aunty, then i contact the man on this email: zogospellcasters@gmail.com , after three months the doctor confirm that i am pregnant thank you DR Zogo for helping me get a baby

sowerandyy |

Q&A: When to start worrying about fertility issues?

Dear friend it is almost two months now since i order a pregnancy spell cast on me by Dr ZOGO from this email zogospellcasters@gmail.com and which i started seeing changes on my body since the first week of last month and it two months and i am carrying my own baby in my womb i am so happy that i finally get pregnant after all i been through. All thanks be to Dr Zogo

sowerandyy |

Q&A: When to start worrying about fertility issues?

Hello every body my name is Glen Victoria from USA Thanks to Dr Babakafor helping me get pregnant after 8 years of marriage with my husband we have been to several hospital for checkup and the doctors keep telling us that nothing is wrong with us so my friend at my work place linked me with with this great spell caster Dr Babaka email: babaka.wolf@gmail.com who helped me with my problem .... now am a happy mother of a baby girl thanks to you Dr Babaka ... i am shearing this testimony to tell you Dr Babaka how grateful i'm for your love and assist in saving my marriage and also bringing joy and happiness to my family...... you can contact this great man and be sure to get quick solution to what ever problem you may be having at email: babaka.wolf@gmail.com ... once again thank you doctor

glenvictoria |

Q&A: When to start worrying about fertility issues?

I was barring for 8 years and my husband hardly talk to me because i was unable to conceive and my mother-in law was not even talking to me all she was saying is that my husband should drive me out of the house and marry another woman, so i keep on praying and i saw this spell caster online and i just say let me contact him and explain my problem to him and he caster a spell for me to be pregnant, i mate with my husband and after 3 weeks a great miracle fell on me and i was tested positive that i am pregnant, I am very happy now, i am going to have my own baby, if you also need a help please contact his email address: babaka.wolf@gmail.com

glenvictoria |

Q&A: When to start worrying about fertility issues?

My partner and I have been trying for a baby for over two years now, We were going to a fertility clinic for about 5 months before somebody told us to contact this spell caster who is so powerful, We contacted him at this email; mokospellcaster@gmail.com , for him to help us, then we told him our problem, he told us that she we either conceive in January 2013 or February 2013,but after two years of trying we were at a point where we were willing to try anything. And I'm glad we came to Dr Moko, Because he predictions put us at ease, and I honestly believe him, and his gods really helped us as well, I am thankful for all he has done.

Faith222342 |

Q&A: When to start worrying about fertility issues?

Whoever it may concern I just want to let the entire world know how grateful I am today is my sons 2years birthday and am dedicating it to telling every one how I got my lovely child, I have been married for so many years without any child because of this my husband no longer love me and am 34years old I became worried I tried so many means both scientific and other wise with no result, my whole life was upside down I prayed both day and night I went to the hospital but the doctor said there is nothing wrong with me,so I decided that maybe its not my destiny, so one day as was browsing the internet I saw a testimony of a great spell caster Dr Babaka so I copied the email and I sent him a mail he replied me and I told him all my sorrow and pain,he then told me that I should wipe my tears with such comforting words he told me to buy some items that his going to use to cast the pregnancy spell I did and he made the spell for me and told me when next I meet with my husband I we conceive,at first I thought it was a scam but I just followed my inner mind and I sent the money for him to buy all the items after some months I went to check with my doctor and I was 4weeks pregnant, thanks to Dr Babaka spell temple,I want to use this medium to tell everyone having similar problem to contact Dr Babaka for help this his personal email: babaka.wolf@gmail.com thanks to Dr Babaka once again and happy birthday ALEX mummy loves you.

glenvictoria |

Q&A: When to start worrying about fertility issues?

My partner and I have been trying for a baby for over two years now, We were going to a fertility clinic for about 5 months before somebody told us to contact this spell caster who is so powerful, We contacted him at this email; mokospellcaster@gmail.com , for him to help us, then we told him our problem, he told us that she we either conceive in January 2013 or February 2013,but after two years of trying we were at a point where we were willing to try anything. And I'm glad we came to Dr Moko, Because he predictions put us at ease, and I honestly believe him, and his gods really helped us as well, I am thankful for all he has done.

Faith222342 |

Q&A: When to start worrying about fertility issues?

Great article. I am a similar age and have several friends who are facing the same realization you are, and at times, it can be heart-breaking, though they still lead fantastic lives. I struggle with medical infertility, and learned about it only after waiting until after grad school to get pregnant, but do not find the sympathy you refer to, unless,until i met oduwa legba who help me out and this is his details; +2348165061583 or oduwalegba@outlook.com.God did so that He will be glorified.

carolyn212 |

Q&A: When to start worrying about fertility issues?

i am Victoria Glen from USA i want to say hallelujah to lord for using Dr Babaka of babaka.wolf@gmail.com to bless my womb, i have been married for the past 10year without a child i have look for all kind of help that can make me get pregnant but nothing works, but through an insight i came across Dr Babaka profile at the internet when i was searching for help on how i can get a baby, Quickly i contacted him to help me out, he said he will cast a spell that will make me sleep with my partner and get pregnant so he said he need to buy some of the other items he will use in casting the spell from the market that he want me to send him the money he will use in buying the items so i gave him the money and he cast the spell for me and ask me to go and lie with my partner so i did to my greatest surprise i became pregnant after that week so with so much joy in my heart i want to share this out to everyone in need that i have found favor in the hands of Dr Babaka of babaka.wolf@gmail.com, contact him now to via email : babaka.wolf@gmail.com

victoriaglen |

Q&A: When to start worrying about fertility issues?

Welington Sonia Great regard to DR OLORUN and God for making me to be mother of twins after 10 yrs of my husband low sperm count and barrenness. his email address: Olorunoduduwaspiritualtemple@gmail.com, i really thank him.

ADOPTIONAGENCY |

Q&A: When to start worrying about fertility issues?

You need help to get pregnant? contact Dr Odia spell temple on this email (infoatmerlinifas@gmail.com) or skype with him directly on his Skype ID: kelly.white725, I am Stacy Maria from USA, I have been trying for 10 years to get pregnant and needed help! i have Been going to the doctors but still nothing. the doctor said me and my husband are fine , I don’t know where else to turn. until one day my friend Amanda introduce me to this great spell caster who helped her to get back her lost husband back with love spell and also made her pregnant, So I decided to contact this spell caster Dr Odia on his email (infoatmerlinifas@gmail.com) after interaction with him he instructed me on what to do, after then i had sex with the man I love most in this world, within the next one months i went for a check up and my doctor confirmed that i am 2weeks pregnant am so happy!!!!! if you also need help to get pregnant or need your ex back please contact his email address: infoatmerlinifas@gmail.com he did it for me and he can also solve your problem too

amanda19100 |

Q&A: When to start worrying about fertility issues?

You need help to get pregnant? contact Dr Odia spell temple on this email (infoatmerlinifas@gmail.com) or skype with him directly on his Skype ID: kelly.white725, I am Stacy Maria from USA, I have been trying for 10 years to get pregnant and needed help! i have Been going to the doctors but still nothing. the doctor said me and my husband are fine , I don’t know where else to turn. until one day my friend Amanda introduce me to this great spell caster who helped her to get back her lost husband back with love spell and also made her pregnant, So I decided to contact this spell caster Dr Odia on his email (infoatmerlinifas@gmail.com) after interaction with him he instructed me on what to do, after then i had sex with the man I love most in this world, within the next one months i went for a check up and my doctor confirmed that i am 2weeks pregnant am so happy!!!!! if you also need help to get pregnant or need your ex back please contact his email address: infoatmerlinifas@gmail.com he did it for me and he can also solve your problem too

amanda19100 |

Q&A: When to start worrying about fertility issues?

when i first got married every body in my husband life love me but after five years they turn against me because i was unable to bear children and one faithful day i discover a testimony through the internet and now i am happy because the email address i found the man who owns it help me for good and now am eight months pregnant and i know i am going going to give birth because he told me that antelope give birth without losing a child,until i met oduwa legba who help me out and this is his details; +2348165061583 or oduwalegba@outlook.com.God did so that He will be glorified.

carolyn212 |

Q&A: When to start worrying about fertility issues?

I have been trying for 10 years to get pregnant and needed help! Been going to the doctors but still nothing. the doctor said my husband and i are fine , I don't know where else to turn. until one day I read how dr.ukpoyanspellhome@hotmail.com helped others get pregnant ONLINE i then contacted the great spell caster via email and he cast a pregnancy spell for me and gave me a 1month sure guarantee that i will become pregnant , and exactly 6weeks later I went to check and i was pregnant and later on i gave birth, i can never forget the great spell caster that`s opened my blessings of conceiving today its marking 5years my son was born and i also have a baby girl who is one and half years old, i want to use this medium to tell other women out there who is having pregnancy issues not to wait for years like i did contact him today email: dr.ukpoyanspellhome@hotmail.com

ADOPTIONAGENCY |

Q&A: When to start worrying about fertility issues?

when i first got married every body in my husband life love me but after five years they turn against me because i was unable to bear children and one faithful day i discover a testimony through the internet and now i am happy because the email address i found the man who owns it help me for good and now am eight months pregnant and i know i am going going to give birth because he told me that antelope give birth without losing a child,until i met oduwa legba who help me out and this is his details; plus,two,three,four,eight,one,six,five,zero,six,one,five,eight,three or oduwalegba at out look dot com

carolyn212 |

Q&A: When to start worrying about fertility issues?

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Maryrinehart |

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My name is Camille bruno Valdez my partner and I have been trying for a baby for over two years now, We were going to a fertility clinic for about 5 months before somebody told us to contact this spell caster who is so powerful, We contacted him at this email; arewaspecialisttemple@yahoo.com, for him to help us, then we told him our problem, he told us that we will either conceive in February 2014 or March 2014,but after two years of trying we were at a point where we were willing to try anything. And I'm glad we came to Dr Dahiru, Because his pregnancy spell cast put us at ease, and I honestly believe him, and his gods really helped us as well, I am thankful for all he has done. contact him via email: arewaspecialisttemple@yahoo.com if you are trying to get a baby or want your lover back. he has powers to do it, he has done mine

camillebrunovaldez |

Q&A: When to start worrying about fertility issues?

HAVE FOUND A SPELL CASTER WHO HELPED ME WITH A FERTILITY SPELL AND HELPED ME HAVE MY OWN BABY. IT ALL HAPPENED WHEN MY HUSBAND SENT ME PACKING FOR NOT ABLE TO GIVE HIM A BABY AFTER 4YEARS OF OUR MARRIAGE.I ATE DIFFERENT PILLS AND NOTHING HAPPENED UNTIL A FRIEND INTRODUCED Dr BABAKA TO ME WHO ALSO HELP HIM GET A CHILD. HE CAST A SPELL FOR ME AND I GOT PREGNANT FEW WEEKS LATER, IF YOU NEED HIM ASSISTANCE, HIS EMAIL: babaka.wolf@gmail.com

victoriaglen |