I’m trying to conceive, and I want to get this right! So what does everyone else do wrong that I should totally avoid?
Sorry, but there are no firm statistics on what mistake couples make the most, but we’ve got a solid list of what must be the top 10. Of those, we’re willing to bet that mistiming sex is most common. And why are people mistiming it? Well, mostly because knowing when you’re ovulating is less than straightforward.
The way most people are taught about ovulation is simple: There are 28 days in a woman’s cycle, and she ovulates on or around day 14. So if she and her partner have sex every other day for the five or six days before she ovulates -- and one of the sperm reaches its destination -- she should be able to conceive. The problem with the simple explanation is that it’s not that likely to pertain to you. Ovulation doesn’t always fall neatly on the calendar on the same day every month, and even if your cycles are regular, they might not be exactly 28 days. That’s when it gets more complicated.
Instead of counting 14 days from your last menstrual period, you really want to be pinpointing ovulation, and then highlighting those few days right before it to hit the sheets with your partner (because sperm can live for a few days inside the body). There are a few popular methods women use to do this:
If you’ve got regular periods, you can use this easy tool to identify the next time you’ll likely be ovulating.
Use your menstrual cycle, combined with your body’s signs, such as cervical mucus and basal body temperature, to identify when it’s ripe time for babymaking.
Ovulation predictor kit
These home kits and monitors test for luteinizing hormone (LH). LH levels surge when you’re most fertile.
Of course, there’s no better way to test if you’re fertile than to have sex, so if you’re unsure, it certainly doesn’t hurt to do it! Getting the timing right might take a little while, but it can be really fun to practice. And remember, one of the other biggest conception mistakes is waiting too long to talk to a fertility specialist, so if you’ve been trying to conceive for over a year if you’re under 35 or more than six months if you’re 35 or older, make an appointment right away.
Plus, more from The Bump:
How Long Does It Take to Get Pregnant?
Timing Is Everything: Getting Pregnant Quicker
10 Surprising Fertility Facts