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Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

How do we know when we're ready for kids? What do we need to think about?

Re: How do we know when we're ready for kids? What do we need to think about?

The Bump Expert

Good question... and it's not an easy one. Take advantage of your time alone as newlyweds, and use it to research when you want to get pregnant. Then, based on the following factors, set out a loose timetable. (Always open to future tweaking, of course.)

Goals
Are either of you still in school, or planning to go back at some point? How will that affect your finances, spare time and relationship? And, what effect will a baby have on that education?

Career
Yes, your twenties are prime baby-making years (fertility decline is thought to start at 27), but they're also a time for major career development. Good news: These days, having both baby and career isn't impossible. According to census data, over half of all women return to work within a year of having a baby. Of women with a college degree, it's over three quarters. And, more and more women are putting off parenthood (presumably spending the earlier years focused on work) -- birth rates for the over-40 crowd are increasing every year.

Conception
Chances are, you'll have little or no idea about your ability to conceive until you start to try. And yes, there is a chance that it could take months or even years. But, don't start trying unless you're honestly ready to be a parent in nine months -- plenty of people do get pregnant on their first try.

Relationship
Being married isn't easy... and parenthood is even less of a fairy tail. (Not pessimistic. Realistic.) It's easy to fall into the baby-will-make-everything-better trap, but this is a major mistake. Whatever problem you're trying to fix, a baby simply won't do it. Take some time to work on yourselves as a couple, then make room for baby.

Space
Think about your real estate, particularly if you live in a metropolitan area. That tiny apartment might do now, but probably won't work once baby hits two or so. Are you ready to spend more money on an upgrade or move to a less expensive area?

Friends
Are you ahead of your crowd (first marrieds in the circle), or have you already lost most of your pals to parenthood? This truly is the least of your concerns, though. Having a baby will obviously affect your Saturday nights (and Sunday, and Monday, and...), but whether or not your buddies are ready for babies really has nothing to do with your situation.

Paula Kashtan

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Does any one else have some hind-sight is 20-20 type things to consider?

B.LucyBrown |

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I think I am nervous from a relationship aspect. I have witnessed too many neglectful dads in my life, and too many streessed out moms who have to do all the work. I have faith that my husband will be a great father, but the human side of me is nervous. I understand the sacrifices I will be making, but my beloved hasn't been around babies, so really doesn't understand. I know I am ready to move to the parental phase of our relationship, but it's more important that we are BOTH ready. He is my partner and we need to make this decision as one.

sararosey |

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I think one of the greatest pieces of advice is to enjoy your babyless times together. If you are not blissfully happy in your marriage without children, having a baby will not make things better. My husband and I love the spontenaity of life right now; midnight runs to wal-mart, eating out at nice places, traveling together. All this changes with babies. B. LUCY BROWN - REALLY think about your careers. My SIL and her husband just had their first baby but it happened to coincide with a promotion for my BIL which was great but has him traveling much more for his job - something they never counted on when getting pregnant. Also, any be very aware for your family health issues. Many things can be triggered by pregnancy, and many issues which are no big deal for you could be a big deal when coupled with your husbands genes.SARAROSEY - I would talk to your husband about it and let him know your concerns. Maybe you can set goals and say, when I do this and you do that, we'll be ready. For example, when I pay off my school loans (or get a new job, or we buy a house, etc.) and he finshes his PhD (or gets that great promotion, or gets in the habit of helping out around the house, etc.), we'll start a family. If you can get him agree to these goals, and make a decision based on goals, he won't feel like you pressured him into having a family he wasn't ready for. I know many times those "neglectful dads" feel like they never wanted the kids in the first place, and this you must avoid.

acrlyhed |

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We're getting married in June of 08, (6 months away) but I cant shake the thought of having a baby with my husband.. we've been together for almost 4 years as it is..and I just cant wait...I want to at least wait 6 months after the wedding..but then again i want to wait a year...just to see how everything goes..we already have our house with 2 extra bedrooms, and plenty of yard space.... How do i get myself to slow down and enjoy my soon to be hubby before adding another into the picture?!

DonnyandHannah |

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I am sooo scared to have a baby!! I definitely want to be a mother and have a family, but I am afraid of the physical changes my body will undego, and labor terrifies me!!!! How do you become ok with the thought that your body could possibly change forever (and probably not for the better)?!?

lrenae1647 |

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I am scared too, of the body changes and the life changes. How do you know when it is the right time emotionally?

MrsHub |

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I'm afraid because I don't know what to do about my career. I think it's so important to stay home with a baby, at least part-time, but I don't want to give up my career for which I've worked so hard over the past 9 years. How do you make the right choice?

kmwills |

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I feel the same way about my career. I don't want to slow down my career yet, I want to raise my own children the way I was raised (no babysitters!) and I want enough time to have a lot of kids before I get too old (I am about to turn 31)! I also feel like I still have some partying in me! I feel like there isn't enough time..

sandollar |

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I am 5 weeks pregnant, and I am so scared. My boyfriend and I planned on getting engaged this fall, and now our conversation has jumped to baby planning. I am in the midst of building my career, and my relationship, I am looking for reassurance that this can still be achieved with baby?

kamilahf |

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We have bought a house been together for six years and we both have steady jobs with good income. We are both on the same page. So I know we are ready.

southernsweetieal |

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I think of it this way...there's never a 'right' time for a baby. There is always more money to make. more vacations to take, job opportunities, and so on....sometimes one has to just embrace it and enjoy the ride.

JBATES1109 |

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I agree with JBATES1109. There is never the perfect time. My husband and I have been together for almost 5years, married for 6months and we have just started trying to have a baby. Don't know yet if we got lucky the first time but I'm praying. I know it's going to be hard and we might not have a lot of money or be done with school yet, but we are strong as individuals and as a couple and if we are blessed with a baby it will all work out. We have a lot of love and good support from our families. I don't know if you can ever be 100% sure that you are ready, but you have to try sometime... why not TODAY!!!

supkeeks@comcast.net |

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Thank you SUPKEEKS and JBATES1109 I think you both spot on right! It is so easy to worry, fret and over think this. I think it is especially difficult for women like me who have put the family thing on hold in favour of career, etc. only to wake up and realize -- holy cow, times running out! Then there is a yet another pressure to fret about! The bottom line, as you both suggest is if you are in a good place in your relationship and in your self/heart, go for it!

shakespearediva |

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just know the finances and the things that will be thrown your way, weather they are good or weather they are bad.

hisluvinangel |

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I don't know if there is really a time when one can say is ready for a baby, there are always more things one can do. I have a six year old and feel more ready than ever to have a child, I m better off economically now than I was before and I m done with school. There are many things I would still love to do but they are just going to have to wait.

susyrosa |

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My husband and I have been married almost 4 years now and together about 8. We have hit ever speed bump imaginable, the good the bad the ugly and the REALLY ugly. We have been through a lot, but somehow managed to reach a great point in our marriage. Both on thr same page and both one million percent all in and ready to start having a family. I'm only 25, but my husband is 30 and I have wanted kids since I was about 5! So being a young mom was almost really important to me. I am read to give up my weekends to be a parent and so is my husband. We live in the suburbs in a nice 3 bedroom house and both have great jobs and great families, ready to have a baby enter. One problem, debt. Do we still start trying and just know that somehow it will all work out and that we will have sacrafices to make? Our parents both had kids with NO money and made it work. We have money coming in, it's just going towards debt. So it's kind of the same boat right??! If I wait to be out of debt it will be YEARS. An input?

TandJS |

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I loved reading all the responses, it's great to know everyone is more or less in the same boat. My husband and I have also been together for 8 years, married for almost 2. For some people i don't think we are ever truly ready for kids wether it is being debt free when they arrive or trying to conquer the world and make everything perfect. That would be great if it were possible but i just keep telling myself life still goes on when the baby comes so we will deal with one thing at a time:o). I think the question are you ready to have a baby goes out the window when you are pregnant because this baby is coming ready or not, hehe. We are very excited, we feel extremely motivated to try to make everything almost perfect though which is great. I wish everyone all the best though because it is a big transistion for us but nothing we can't handle.

cocolatempa |

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Having a baby does put some strain on your relationship, but if you marry a good husband he will be a good dad. When is a good time, truthfully i dont think there is a "perfect" time. You will never have enough money, time, or energy it takes to take care of a baby, but you have to take the good with the bad, and with children it's more good. The main thing to concider is that you and your husband/partnerare on the same page, do not rush them if they are not ready for it. Just make sure you talk things over and both decide that the time is right, and everything else will fall into place !

Lindsaylou0605 |

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Thanks for the input! This is the first month that we are trying, and it's so exciting! It feels great to be able to type it on here because right now it's just our little secret! We are both so excited and hope it happens right away. I wish I would win the lotto and be debt free, but I think all priorities concerning money change as soon as you see 2 pink lines. Good luck everyone!

TandJS |

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As far as the body issue goes for women fearful about Baby's impact on the physique... Both my sister in-law and my close friend have not only lost baby weight within a year, they are both15 pounds lighter than when they got pregnant. Only one of them works out and they both eat average to healthy. Your body can rebound, you might have some insignificant stretch marks, but when you look at that beautiful trusting face looking back at you saying "I love you Mommy" I guarantee not one women thinks about the imperfections to their body that little face caused. My niece is the most wonderful things in all our lives right now. Everyone one of us makes a fool of ourselves to get her to laugh =)

Prayhard08 |

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Yes we are!!!!!!! We are both really excited and ready to become 1st time parents!!!!!

newmommie2009 |

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It's so refreshing to hear others talk about their fears of all the changes that are on the way along with baby.... from relationship concerns to labor fears or will my body ever be the same.... it's kind of reassuring to know I'm not the only one. We have been married nearly 10 months now and just found out last week that we are expecting. We had planned to wait until after our 1st Anniversary to start trying, but I guess God had other ideas. :) I'm having such mixed emotions... one minute I'm excited as I can be... and other times, like tonight, I feel absolutely terrified. Like, 'What have we done?!" I love just being with my husband and now there will be a mini-us. I know it's a blessing and a good thing - and I'm sure tomorrow I'll wake up excited, again - but right now I just feel wigged out. Like it's all too much and I'm not prepared or something. When I found out I was pregnant I felt happy and I felt terrified. I guess that's how I still feel. It's such a mix.... but at the same time, as scared as I am, I don't want anything to happen to this baby! Talk about emotions!!!!

laura.weinhold |

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Being someone of a young age (21) and being in the military i think i can help with some of your questions. The thought of gettinf fat or bigger used to affect me whenever i thought of becoming pregnant but once i did i feel more of a mom now then a grown up teenie popper. When your pregnant you don't seem to miss you'r old body too much because you know you'r now officially in adulthood. Oh i also heard that breatfeeding isn't only good for the baby but you get to keep you'r nice boobs and you loose weight faster because you contract you're muscles so it's like doing sit ups and you don't know it. The relationship changes arn't too much different. My husband and I used to fight a Lot and didn't spend to much time together but now he always wants to lay in bed with me and relax because he see's i'm carring his child and a part of him is with me. They don't tend to help out a lot untill you really start to show which i really popped out at 12-13weeks, because it's finally a reality to them. I know we'll be ok after the baby's born not only because the military helps a lot but because we know how to budget and we know what we will cut if we get into a bind. My advice to you is start a savings allotment with you're job so if you get in a rut you have that extra money for the baby or each other, spend wisly only on things you really need and pay bills FIRST never wait on them. If you do this and you have money left over you can get one or two things for yourself and it'll give you a better satisfaction. I am scared of birth but i know the pain isn't forever and i'm going to iqnore it untill the day comes.

blackdollhouse66 |

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well for this pregnancy, we already have a little one, and its time for us to give him a brother or sister. and also its time to add and complete our little family.

snowfishmommy |

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i am a newlywed and alreay ttc

fighter4 |

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I believe we are ready, but my husband needs a little convincing. We're early 30s, financially sound, and have been married a little over a year - together 3.5, and are in a strong, loving relationship. My husband was raised as an only child with his mother having horrible financial sense. As a result, he didn't travel and was forced to grow up quickly and handle the finances. As an adult, we are now happily traveling and knocking off experiences on our endless list of goals. His fear is that once we start a family, our "fun" will stop and travel will end. It is my opinion that we need to make one of our goals to give our children those experiences as well - bring them along. Unfortunately, we don't have any friends to use as role-models. Most of our friends seem to have settled in. So, while I believe we are ready, my husband does not (although it is now on his radar).

JuberP |

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if you are newlyweds or about to move in together thinking about kids the best idea would be wait a year. It takes ALOT to adjust to just having your partner around 24/7. If you can make it through a year of living together or being married then its smooth riding after that! My husband and I have been married for two years and are just having a baby. That first year said alot and was lots of ups and downs and thoughts of weather or not to have a baby, but after we made it past that one year and plus time we were very ready to make that next step! And we KNOW we are ready!

hbd090807 |

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I agree with hbd090807! Waiting to have children has made DH and I concentrate on our relationship together. We've had a ton of fun in our first 2 years of marriage and have a strong foundation to start a family. Our best friends had 2 children in their first 3 years of marriage, and I feel that they've missed out on a lot. Even though their girls are amazing, I can tell they are very stressed out so early in their marriage. I know we made the right decision to wait for a few years before TTC!

KatieMcKaterson |

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my husband and i decided to try to have a baby, i just took a test yesterday morning and it came out negative. we were upset, but so happy that we were definitely definitely sure that we were ready. he got home from work last night and he had lost his job. now we have to put it on hold. we are really devastated. if you pray, please pray for us.

TandJS |

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It's funny my husband is ready before I am! We had a long talk recently and he said how excited he was to start trying. We just celebrated our first anniversary. I still am finishing school and haven't even started my career yet so I'd like to wait until next year to try. We'll be more financially stable and have a chance to take a few more trips just the two of us. I really want to see Japan with some friends of ours soon, and I'm no expert but I'm betting that would be difficult to do with an infant! Were going to start trying 5/10...

LauraDun |

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I think it's totally between you and your significant other. And God, if you so believe.  Trying to Conceive Ticker

breejessdex |

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My husband and I have been married 2 years and have decided to start TTC at the end of the month. We've always talked about kids and have been excited about having a family. I know I'm ready, and he says he is too, but now that we've decided to start trying he seems less excited. I expect him to be nervous, and I'm nervous too, but it feels discouraging to have him seem so anxious. I try to talk to him about it, but he just says he's nervous and needs space but that he still wants to try. Any thoughts on how to talk to him about it? I just want to communicate so his wanting space is hard.

Clrmarie |

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i honestly think nobody is ready that is the answer i keep getting when i ask but everything comes natrul im 21 this is going to be my first child and im scared beause im going to be a single parent but nobody is ready just pray about it things will pop into place

georgiagirl862 |

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My husband and I have been married for 2 months, and wanted to wait a couple of years before having children. However, we have the worst baby fever! We're not trying not to get pregant (okay, confusing) because of some issues I've been having with BC. I'd be okay with waiting to start our family, but at the same time I can't wait to start our family! Like some of the previous posters said, there's never enough money, never enough time, never enough vacations... I guess we'll just see how life turns out and know that when we welcome our baby we'll be ready!

heatherandbrandon |

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yes so ready

cjluvsmommy08 |

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When the thought of another baby, just wont leave you alone!

tracey83vid |

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First think is that the mind should also welcome the body... another major factor is, one should have the confidence in one' patner... that they would live together

tallgirl20 |

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I don't think that anyone is ever truly ready to have childern financialy or emotionaly but everyone who wants to have children can make it work. If your truly in love with the idea of haveing children with your partner and you both make a the chose together that to me is when I think you are ready to be a parent and to raise children because you know that you will be able to provide for them and love them more then you ever thoguht you could.

IlallelyResendiz |

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We were blessed enough to find out early in our marriage that I have endometriosis; which gave us the option to think of starting our family before we would have major fertility issues. However, I don't know if we are 100% prepared for starting a family this year! I know so many infertle women would give anything to be in my situation-knowing that there are issues before it was too late to do anything about it. I am set to finish my MS degree and would love to build a financial cushion before baby makes 3. and I'm having so much fun as a newly wed that I am a bit sad for it to end with morning sickness and moodswings. I am still grateful that we found out about my situation sooner rather than later.

owenshall |

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My husband and I have been married for five years this October, and we dated for four before that. We went through a lot our first four years of marriage, but now we're closer than ever. Both of our careers are on track, as is my schooling, and we have settled into a house that we've finally finished remodeling and landscaping. I think that one of the most important things for anyone to do when thinking of having a child is to make sure that no matter what is going on in your life, you're able to commit 100% to making the child the center of your world. If you're debating between career vs baby....don't get pregnant. If you're thinking......newlyweds time with hubby vs baby....don't get pregnant. You have plenty of time...and when you know you're ready, and you're completely ready to commit to the child, then you're ready. If your focus is elsewhere, you're not prepared. It took us four years to decide that it was okay for me to go off BC, and it wasn't until August that we actually tried to time it, because we knew we were ready. We're now five and a half weeks along, due in May, and I wouldn't change how much time we took to be with one another and really prepare ourselves for anything.

teelaman |

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yes we are ready to have a baby

kweetybird |

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I am newly married and 5 weeks pregnant!!! I'm more ready than I have ever been! Babies are gifts!! They are the most precious beings that you will ever be responsible. Make them the cener of your attention and don't take them for granted!!

kallilb |

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hi everyone. my name is mo. im 24 years old. me and dad broke up just before i found out i was pregnant and then he moved to a different country. when i told him he was soooo over the moon. he's even rushing back to see me this weekend. but that is no guarantee that we'll get back together. i want to know if anyone is a single parent and how you deal with that on a daily basis?

motlatsi |

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It's so comforting to see that I'm not alone... my husband and I had planned on TTC last October, but put it off... I seem to put it off more than he does... worried about the "phsyical" as I don't do good w/ anything Dr related (shots, exams, you name it)... and worry how I will handle the labor... Also worried, not so much about the career, but the baby... My husband is Military, and as a result we are stationed over 700 miles from both of our families... I have always imagined I would go back to work afterward, but I just can't imagine sending a baby that small to day care... and we have no family near by to help... Plus deployments are still in the picture (who knows when and how long they will be).... I look at some of the other wives/mothers sometimes, and don't know how they do it w/out a job, so how can I do it with one??

Daisy3773 |

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I agree with others that you are never really ready to have a baby, but everything usually starts to fall into place or finds a way of working itself out. Though, I wish we could afford a bigger place or even get a house before the baby. I think that is the one thing I might pause for.

NancAA |

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I really hate to say it but I am not ready to have a child. I am 18 years old and my boyfriend is 19. We live in two different states and both work minimum wage. I just moved out of my parents house and into a small apartment with my best friend from birth. I was adopted at birth and have a wonderful loving mother and father. I'm hoping I can find the same for my baby, I would love to be a parent, but I'm just too young right now.

edithEMMALINE |

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My Husband and I have been together for 7 years, married for 7 months. I’m 27, working on my career, but I can’t seem to shake this urge to have a baby and have it soon. My husband just won’t talk about it right now, he doesn’t seem ready at all, but a part of me feels that he might not ever be ready if he isn’t tossed into it. I’m really not sure what to do. We both have stable jobs, and we bought a 3 bedroom townhouse two years ago. We live in a great area to raise kids. Am I just jumping on this too soon? Help!

chiquita115 |

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My husband and I have been married for just over 2 years, together for 10 1/2 years. We bought our house 2 years ago. I'm 27 and we both have good jobs (although he doesn't like his very much). We are financially and emotionally stable and I feel so ready to start a family, but he says he's not ready yet. We've been "discussing" it for nearly a year now. I don't want to rush him into anything, but I feel anxious to get started. I think part of it has to do with the fact that we have friends that are starting their families, but I try to set that aside and focus on us instead of what "everyone else is doing." He says he wants to have a family someday, but right now he's not ready to give up his freedom and make sacrifices, which to me is a red flag. I'm trying to be patient to avoid making him feel resentful towards me for forcing him into something he's not ready for. The last thing I want is for it to be one-sided. For now we're just enjoying each other and working on continuing to improve our house and save up money for when the time comes. Has anyone else been in a similar situation where your husband had a change of heart and finally told you he was ready??? Please tell me there's hope!

Connie310 |

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Connie 310 I'm in a similar situation right now. My husband and I began dating almost 8 years ago and finally tied the knot last November. While we both are still considered young (both of us are 25) I'm in the place in my life where I'm ready for children and I'm very anxious to start trying to get pregnant. My husband has always said he wants a big family but wants to wait until we're more financially stable. He's also mentioned he's just really nervous about becoming a parent and while I try to sympathize I'm constantly frustrated that there is nothing I can do to make him see otherwise about both money and nerves. He just says one day it will hit him and he'll want to try for children. I'm not looking for ways to con him into trying for children but I am looking for ways for him to see that everything is going to be alright and that there is nothing to worry about. Money and timing has never been a problem for us so I don't know what to do to get him to see otherwise. Any tips on how I can help my husband get passed the insecurity he seems to be having?

s201340 |

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We are def. really ready to have a baby. Even thouGH i AM not pregnant I have started buying basic simple baby things. This may seem crazy but I know we wont get a lot of gifts or anything so we are preparing. I dont think there is anything wrong with being prepared!! its our hope chest if you say.... I love my husband and our family will be complete with a little christopher or little megan running around!!

meganfay16 |

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After a miscarriage last year and a very long discussion with my husband, we finally agreed we would be all right NOT having children. Low and behold, I got pregnant this year right after my husband lost his job. I was financially responsible for both of us, the mortgage, car payment, insurance, and bills. I don't think anyone can be fully prepared to have a baby! But somehow in the last few months, he found a job, we have a very supportive family and we are getting ready to welcome our daughter in December! There will always be obstacles, but thru commitment and perseverence, they can be overcome! I just hope I feel that way once she arrives LOL! I say if you have a good/strong relationship with your husband and communicate well, have a solid game plan, you will be able to make it work! As far as being ready to have a baby? I didn't think I was 7 months ago, but I am now!

CatherineGo85 |

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My husband and got married a little over a year ago. We've talked about it a lot and we both feel ready to start a family. We're in our late 20s, we're both done with school, have steady jobs, and own our own home. We decided to wait until next year to ttc because there are still a few things we want to do before, like go on a few more vacations, do some home remodeling, save some money, etc. I think about having a baby more and more and the anticipation is really starting to get to me! I feel ready now and sometimes I want to start trying tomorrow! It's hard to wait but then I just remind myself that I should really cherish this time I have alone with my husband because it will go by quick.

tineyfiney |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

Sometimes you find that you ARE ready, even when you weren't thinking about it at all. Few people on here have mentioned those of us who got pregnant by accident. I found out I wa pregnant at 6 weeks--I had an IUD in, so it was an enormous surprise. My now-husband and I couldn't believe how calm we were--and how happy. We have been together 8 years, but we were planning on getting married at the beginning of the summer (when he finishes medical school). Life had other plans. We got married quickly, more for legal and medical implications than anything, and because after so long together, we realized we had no reason to wait. We have talked about starting a family for years--we just always thought we'd be the ones in control of the timing. It turns out all of our compulsive planning made little difference. I'm 19 weeks now, and we're blissfully happy with our life and our decisions. Our families are pleased as punch, as are my academic advisors (I'm working on my PhD) and his medical professors. It's a very happy time for us. HOWEVER, we had a solid, happy, forgiving, and wonderful relationship before all of this. We have talked about a family for years, including conversations like parenting style and caregiving responsibilities. Although our financial independence is shaky at the moment, we will be stable (with my husband out of school) right after the baby arrives. And I can't say enough about my partner. We will work through any difficulties--just like we always have. I guess what I'm trying to say is keep your relationship with your partner strong and healthy. That, to me, is more important than anything.

UrbanLeo |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

I was and still really do wonder if we are ready. I did recently get the Mirena IUD, which will basically keep these feelings at bay for the next 3-5 years. But I can't completely shake the feeling. I have dreams about getting pregnant, giving birth, and being a mom to an unknown child. It's crazy. My Fiance and I get married in 6 months after dating for four years. We make a good amount of money between both of us and are financially stable. It's hard not to think about the next step. But we still have so much we want to do like traveling, getting MBAs, and advancing in our careers. It looks like I may be 30 or older before I concieve. I never thought I would be that age before it happened, so that's probably what I am having a hard time with. At 24 and a half, the next five years are going to be very jam packed for me if 30 is my age limit to conceive. Wish me luck!

cidness |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

yes!

JCSNMS73104 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

One minute I'm excited to start trying (he told me yesterday we could stop taking my birth control pill!) .. the next I'm so worried our "special time" together will end. We're your typical newleyweds ... and were before we were married too! We're always holding hands and snuggling ... whether on the couch or in line at the grocery store! I don't want that to end. I'm almost 25 and would prefer to be done having babies by the time I'm 30, so I know time is running short (we'd like 2). He says our time won't change, that I'll always be "his baby" ... but I still worry. Money, our house, pets ... that will all "go with the flow" when it happens ... but I don't want to lose my "special time." AH!

GreenieTA |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

I am ready as well as my husband. We've enjoyed time as newlyweds...are there things we both wish we could do before a baby...yes, but these are things we are willing to wait on or make it work with a baby in the picture. We are looking forward to being parents. We started TTC in Aug./went off NuvaRing in July. No luck yet but we are being patient. I know everything happens for a reason and I know when it happens it will be the right time.

kakozusko |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

One way to help get an idea of whether you are ready is to spend time with a friend's or relative's baby. Try caring for a baby for a night or a weekend while the parents are out of town. Also try asking friends and relatives who have kids how the decision impacted their lives.

Shammett |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

DH and I have been married for about 2 1/2 years, we recently started TTC. I know we are ready, but I'm still terrified about once the baby comes. If I get pregnant in the next 7 months, he won't be there during the birth or the first few months of the baby's life. (DH is a Marine and will be deployed) I don't live near any family, so I'll have to go at it alone.

KatelynRae |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

im not married but hav been dating a guy that works for the Goverment and is 30 with no kids.he wants a baby so even if he in the picture or not i can raise another child.i have an 8byr old all on my own.she wants a sibling so bad.so imma try it out

feefees21 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

I believe that for some men it helps hold your relationship together. But the man has to be just as committed about the baby as you are. That is the situation I am in for having my baby I trust my fiance with my life.

youngmommytiff |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

I'm nearly 20, I've wanted a baby for about a year and me and my boyfriend (who have been together for 2 and a half years) have decided to start trying at he beginning of next month,... is it to soon?

bubbletummy |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

I am 21 weeks pregnant and HONESTLY I have no idea if my fiance and I are really ready for kids. But we have one on the way so if were not i guess we have to get ready quick! I feel ... for the most part... READY! I have younger siblings so i have been around babies and kids my whole life. They have ALL taught me ALOT!!!!! I think no matter what I will know how to handle everything and if not i will call my Aunt (my "mother"). LOL!! I hope my finace is ready for this. He is sooooo excited that he is having a son but i dont quite think that he has thought about all the responsibility that comes with being an actual FATHER. I think right now he is just amazed that someone is going to be calling him "DAD". I dont know if any of this makes any sense to any other women out there!!?? Im just a little worried about us being good parents i guess. Is that normal???

justfoundout01 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

I am 28, married 8 1/2 years. Really think I want to TTC, but I am very scared. Of all kinds of things - the process, being a bad parent, finances, job issues, what if my marriage doesn't work out or something happens to him. Not to mention his entire family lives with us, and I am freaked out by the idea of bringing a baby home to that kind of environment. Especially when his mom thinks we aren't "ready." I have finished school, passed my professional exams and been practicing law over a year. He still needs to write his dissertation, but he is working full-time as a professor. Any advice? I am thinking about trying some counseling to deal with my fears or something so I can move forward.

bellatsava |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

I'm 25, husband is 24 - we've been married for 2 1/2 years. We're both still in school (I'm in grad school, he's in nursing school) and we both finish in fall of 2011. We just bought our first house last summer and have very little debt (aside from student loans). Right now we're thinking about starting to ttc in feb/march of 2011 so we wouldn't have the baby until after we finished school. So long as my husband can support us at that time, we'll be ready! I think about it CONSTANTLY and it's so hard to not just say "screw it, let's try now!" but it's a HUGE decision to make and one not to be taken lightly. I agree with those who said to spend some time enjoying your spouse/partner for a while before rushing into having a kid. You can't ever get those honeymoon years back again, so make it last! RE: Pain - my mom (who has given birth 6 times (one of those times was twins)) said that as soon as the baby is in your arms, you forget about all the pain immediately.

milwaukeej |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

hi

Ateamkat |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

My husband (of 2 years) and I are ready! We are waiting a few months to TTC while we finish up grad school. We are 32 yo, and have been together for 8 years. If it weren't for insurance worries, we'd already be trying! Good luck to all of you!

2=3 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

My husband and I (of 3 years) are trying to conceive. Actually, we have been trying for the ast 3 years with no luck...but we have not given up hope yet. You can never be FULLY ready for everything that a child brings to your life. But I see everyone, friends and family all around me that are having kids and I am ready to experience the joys of motherhood.

archuleta_princess |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

Never ever thought that I would get pregnant but did and now I am 12 weeks pregnant and alone and very scared and very nervous....I was told by 2 specialist that I would never be able to have a baby.....I have ALWAYS wanted a baby but never thought that I would do this alone!!!!! I want to enjoy everything but being alone and scared is very hard to enjoy.........

grimedy |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

yes

lyles317 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

Yeah, I'm in the wishing-we-were-out-of-debt camp. My husband and I have been married for 2 years, together for 8 years. We're both 23, stable jobs, he's in school, set to finish May 2011, own a house.... and we're both baby crazy. Even though we're super happy and love every minute of our lives together, we have a lot of debt because we did so much so fast. I know that there's never a perfect time but still, it's hard to imagine us being able to get by with our current finances plus baby. We've decided to TTC in May of 2010 and hopefully we'll have things more under control! Who knows?

finck2joyner |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

I believe we are. But is anyone truly 100% ready in every aspect listed above? I dont know. My husband is a nervous wreck about everything. I am go with the flow. Cross that bridge when we get there for me and build the entire road system beofre driving for hm...lol!

mrsjw2009 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

My husband and I just got married in June of this year. I was always told to wait a while and get on the pill. I tried it. I did not like it. I am sick of people saying that if you have unprotected sex, you will have a baby. They look at it like a consequence. The pill made me sick, and it was so unnatural. My husband and I decided that instead of worrying about having one or not, we are going to enjoy each other, and the marriage that we are blessed to have. If a baby comes then a baby comes. We will be happy either way. Do what you and your partner feel is right for your situation. I am not saying you should or should not use a pill. It is different for everyone.

bearNbunny |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

I have been with my fiance for about two years now. We tried to get pregnant for about three months and it never worked... What should I do?

jdrubio8908 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

I know that the first couple years of your marriage you should be travelling and enjoying each other, but I can't help but imaging how amazing it would be to expose my child to these places that I'm visiting. I want him or her to be much more cultured than I was growing up.

brunoshort |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

I don't really know if we're ready. We had it planned that after we got legally married, we'd save our money for the real wedding in 2012 and for the kids. We haven't started a college fund yet, and we've only been married for two months. We only have about $2000 saved up, and that's with our wedding bands and wedding we're planning. I don't really know how much you need to have a baby? I just know, when I was a kid my parents didn't have much. I was often told no even when they didn't want to. I don't want my child to ever want. I was hoping to save up $10000 before we had the baby. What really is enough? I'm confused, but my husband has been talking about it non-stop for weeks now! I think it's because he's up for deployment soon, and I think he needs to know that if something does, God-forbid, happen, I won't be alone and I'll always have a piece of us. Gah! I'm so lost. =[

snk1606 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

We have been together for 5 years, my husband already has 3 boys and 2 of them, now 9y/o twins have lived with us since their 5th bday!.....We have a big enough house and a yard, I've had plenty of baby stuff (crib, clothes, toys, bottles, etc) from babysitting....We do love each other and in spite of my endometriosis we've been trying, but now with rough times (2 broke down cars & no money to fix them) we're kinda glad we haven't succeeded yet....hopefully these down times won't cause us to give up.....

meque183 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

YES!

mhelzlsoue |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

Although I'm not married yet (June 19, 2010). My fiance' wants to have at least one child. It scares me to death just the thought of it. Right now I don't want to have children because I think about our lives being over. I think that I will try to have one because that's what he wants. He's aware of my not really wanting a child. I just think about we won't be able to just get up and go when we want. I know it may sound selfish but I don't know. Maybe after we get married I'll change my mind. My answer is no.

Tondaleea |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

Ready or not...!

nicoleswampfox |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

DH was not ready as quick as I was, but as soon we TTC his excitement was obvious. When we got our first negative test he was even more disappointed than I was! We can't wait for it to happen!

junsui_sky@hotmail.com |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

My Mom put it best when she said that you don't have kids just to have kids. You have kids to add to your life. They become part of you. You will know you are ready to have kids when you and your partner agree that Friday night out doesn't have to be at a bar - it can be at a family friendly place, or that that vacation we wanted to take we can still go on - we'll just need to figure out how to travel as 3. My husband wants nothing more out of life than to be a good husband and father, and I want nothing more than to be a good wife and mother. So we agree - our partying is still partying, even if it means we are at chuckie cheese instead of howl at the moon. Our vacation to Hawaii is still a vacation. So we are TTC and couldn't be happier. The most important part is that we agree on it. It can't be one over the other. ready or not! Here we go!

JeniferMichelle |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

My husband and I got married 7 months ago. We both have careers and a house that we own. We are still young though, only 21. This past week, I was diagnosed with a very bad case of endometriosis. My doctor said that right now is when I will be the most fertile, and our best interest is to try to start a family now. The longer we wait, the less likely we'll be able to conceive. We had already planned to build a house in the country next summer, and get our finances in order before trying to conceive in a few years, but now my husband is stressed about what to do. He's afraid that we wont ever be able to get to the house we want if we have a baby now, and is scared that we're not financially ready. I keep telling him just to trust that everything will work out, but he makes me scared when he brings up all the little things to worry about...How do you get to 'ready' when you get a now or never kind of diagnosis?

allesha03 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

yes and no im so happy to become a mom again

wilsontiani |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

I know we're ready. We've been together for four years solid, and we were on and off all through high-school, it was just a matter of timing and knowing it was the right decision for both of us. We're meant to be together, We both have the careers of our dreams, and we just bought our first house. Nothing could make our life more perfect but a little baby. We're so excited and ready for this experience. It's been a long time coming. It took about two years of convincing, but we're finally both on the same page and financially stable enough to be TTC. Being a non traditional family isn't something I'm scared of. I know we will make good parents, and I have an amazing family to back us up and a wonderful community to raise our children in. This is the perfect time for us, and I can't wait to see what happens!

Danielle3307 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

allesha03---your doctor is right to prepare you, but its not a now or never thing. I have 2 friends that were diagnosed with endometriosis and they both have kids. One didn't have her first one until she was 36!! My younger sister was told when she was 12 that she would never be able to have children, and she's 14 weeks pregnant now! Tell your husband there is always be something...and ask him how much fun that house in the country would be if you didn't have the children to play in the yard? Have faith.

tiagunville |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

I thought we were... We've been together for 13 years, married for 11. We knew getting pregnant would take some time due to my PCOS diagnosis and irregular cycles. Because of this, we tried infertility treatments for years with no success. Finally, a year and a half ago we decided to stop and put our (mostly mine - my husband was always okay with not having children, but happy to be a father if it worked out) hopes of becoming parents behind us. Once we did this, we moved on and became more settled in our life and routines, to a point of somewhat selfishness with our time. I'm now 34 and had my first positive pregnancy test. I estimate myself to be 8 weeks pregnant, but we're going in next week to confirm. Since we weren't trying at this time, I've had a flood of emotions, from disbelief, to happiness/excitement and quite a bit of fear over what this will mean for our future and how we will now fit this new life into our schedule. I know things will work out and adjustments will be made. Overall, I feel so blessed and am amazed to receive this miracle, but even after all these years... I'm scared out of my mind at the reality.

EricaJ2010 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

im not... u guys all talk about how long u have been with ur boyfriends/husbands i wish it was like that with me i got pregnant 3 months after i met my boyfriend...purely accidental(damn pills dont work worth crap)..... and it has been so hard for us just to get through the day lately. im 31 weeks pregnant and we are still trying to get to know each other and it seems the more pregnant i get the less we get along....

babymama39 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

We already have a daughter 17 months on the 8th! This was a complete surpise, we couldnt be more happy! At the same time Im extremely nervous we might loose it, only because I was extremely sick when I was pregnant with Cali. I have severe Hyer-emesis (chronic puking) for the entire pregnancy. I only gained 15 pounds in my first pregnancy and now weight less that was I was at before I got pregnant with my first. I only weight 100 pounds right now!

MamaVaes |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

How do you deal with all of the financial issues? Day care alone is a small fortune. We feel like we are the only ones that don't have a retired parent or someone that could watch our child during the day. We are so ready to start a family this year but we don't want to be broke or in debt for the rest of our life. It is stressing us out big time. We just want to be able to provide a good life for our child....

TinySmalls17 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

DH and I have been married for 1 1/2 years. I am 27 and he is 31. I want a child sooooo bad, but I wont be done with my MBA until March of 2011. Part of me wants to start TTC now and part of me says to wait unitil fall to start TTC, that way I can finish school first. I don't know what to do.

KUJHAWK |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

DH and I have been married for almost 5 months, though I swore up and down I wanted to wait 2 years before TTC, I'm now feeling the effects of my age... I just turned 27 and though I know its not imposable to get prego in your 30s... Its just I never saw myself having a life before getting married, but getting married to have a life! I was military for 4 years and have seen my share of the world, My DH is also military and has done a lot of travailing his self too. In dating we would always be going somewhere doing something, but now that I'm with out a job and we just bought a house and got a dog (plus 4 cats) I can see myself with a baby on my hip. We have a perfect life... but am I rushing it cuz I'm feeling my age looming over me?

Jenamie |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

KUJHAWK: I would recommend finishing your MBA first. Close the "MBA" chapter of your life before you open the "Pregnancy" chapter. No reason to overload yourself right now, especially when you are still enjoying the early years of marriage.

MichelleV |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

I dont believe anyone is truely ever READY for a baby. There will always be something that holds you back, school, work, marriage, re-modeling a house, buying a house, a car....you name it there will always be a "reason" to think you may not be ready. I think if you want to start a family and you have a loving relationship where your partner also wants a baby....GO FOR IT! The rest will fall into place. Everything will always somehow work itself out. Trust in God and the rest will be pretty dang easy :)

kaymelynn |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

i feel the same way i am 25 and feel like i grew up in a relatively comfortable life, private school, vacations with my family and going to a good college and am terrified that i cant provide that stuff for my child, even if he or she would just a be a baby, because i am in so much debt and still working my ass of to build a career but i only want the career built so i can provided better for my child I don't I dont feel its selfishness like my husband does HELP!!!!

Ludy84 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

My husband and I were not ready to have our daughter we couldnt be married we had to be parents. We didnt get to really just BE until she reached about 5 and the older she gets the more married we get to be. I am ready for a baby and have been dealing w/infertility issues we got pg when he came home on R&R but lost it, now he is too scared. This is the constant argument, I keep telling him not to be scared because it will be so wonderful to live in the now and love another baby not worry about deployments and the what ifs. How do I explain this on his level? I am ready and I know he is he is just scared...

ArmyWife6901 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

I wish there was an easy yes or no answer! My husband and I have been married for 10 months but we have been together for 7 years. We want to have children but keep getting flack from family about waiting a few years before having kids. But since we have been together so long already, I feel like waiting a few years is only going to make me long for a baby more and make us sad when we see our friends' and family member's children and we don't have our own.

kjj834 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

We're coming up on 2 years of marriage (been together for 4) and we're finally at a point where we're seriously thinking about Baby. I'm almost finished with my school and will be a licensed hairstylist at the end of this August but I'd love to work for a little while before I jump into Mommyhood. However, we're both 27 and we know time is ticking and we're not getting any younger! Is it realistic for us to get pregnant this fall, work for 9 months, then take some time off after Baby comes?

zellamafalda |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

As a mother of 3. I was never ready for kids, but now that Im pregnant with #4 I feel blessed very time, but never ready.

chellea4 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

I don't think one will ever know exactly when. I wasn't planning and we got pregnant. We wanted to start trying in about another year. We are so excited and happy about the news but still in shick mode too. together we knew we wanted children many if possible.

saccomanno |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

my spouse and I have been together 5 years, I am 32, our house is paid off, and we both have excellent careers. I am currently 20 weeks- due end of June, and we are panicking about stuff we need to get done before baby, and I am fretting constantly about all of the unfinished things I leave behind in my job. ( I plan events and do fundraising for the local soup kitchen/ community centre) So, though this baby was planned, and we were very excited about the prospect of having a baby- we are totally not ready! I don't know if you can ever feel completely ready for such a life changing experience, but we are looking forward to it, and welcoming the challenge!

jverquin |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

finances, time, and space.

cnbascom |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

Not really, but what does it matter?

Pr1nzez |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

Im ready! I love Children and I love being a teacher for threes. I cant wait to be a mom. I know Im ready cause I know I have it in me to nurture this baby.

jnakadai@yahoo.com |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

My DH and I have been together for 4 years, married for 3. He has 18 months left of school and we already own a house with a spare bedroom. I know that I am ready to start a family as soon as he gets done with school and I keep praying that when he's ready, he'll let me know. Because I have to work this weekend, he surprised me with my valentine's day present early. He set a date that we can stop BC and start TTC. I am so excited and I am glad that he finally feels like he is ready. It was so hard to wait for him and not push, but I feel a lot better knowing that we are on the same page.

heidjr |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

A friend of mine recently lost her baby. She gave birth to a stillborn at 8 months. It broke my heart, but it also got my husband and I thinking. We had all these plans to start TTC in summer 2011, we wanted to go to Europe and he wanted to finish his MBA. But my friend's loss has taught me that no matter how much planning you do and how careful you are, things don't always work out as perfectly as you planned them. We decided to start TTC this summer. We booked our trip to Europe and he's going to summer class to get done with school faster. If we get pregnant great, if it takes longer, that's fine too.

iluvmylab |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

i feel like you never really are, you can have money, support, and plenty of planning and still get thrown a curve ball. just go with the flow is my plan.

sweetasme26 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

does anyone actually give answers? reading everyones questions and concerns is sort of comforting since i feel it all too, but i'm starting to get sressed. how do we ever know? can someone please answer everyones questions so i can relax.

nadine_mm_hamilton@hotmail.com |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

I was scared to death when we started talking about having a baby. I want one so badly, but I was afraid I wouldnt make a good mom, about my body and various other things. I was to the point where I was thinking that we should wait longer and my husband made the decision for me. Every worry I had went away. Now Im looking forward to seeing if Im pregnant and excited about being a mother. If you wait until everything is perfect, or you are feeling 100% sure, you will never have the blessing of having a family.

mstymd |

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My fiance has three kids already who live with us nearly full-time. There was never any time with just the two of us together! We're planning to ttc as soon as the wedding is over-we both want more kids and there's no point in waiting until we have more money or whatever, 'cause it'll never happen! And we want the kids to be able to form good relationships with each other-how close can our babies be to their big brothers if they aren't born until those brothers are in high school!?

skyblonde |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

We would love to have a baby now but have not started trying because of financial reasons. I just cant work it out in my head how it would be possible to live and raise a baby on half of my income for mat leave, and then when its time for me to return to work, paying about $900 per month for childcare. Weve always lived paycheque to paycheque and just made enough for our mortgage, household expenses, and paying off debts, with just a little left for fun. I dont see how that would work with the huge expense of a baby, or 2 if we had twins, eek! But then compared to many of our friends and family, we are making a very good living, and they raised children on much less. I guess Im just not willing to give up our cars or our house. Im willing to give up vacations, shopping, and nights out, but some things need to stay. So basically until we make$1200 per month more than we do now, we cant start trying. It sucks because Im anxious to start a family and one by one im watching all my friends do it, but I know I have plenty of time and its not fair to the baby to have broke, stressed out parents.

colleenandmathew |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

YES

newell26 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

My husband and I have been married for over six months now and although I am dying to be a mom, I am not sure it is the right time for us. My husband has a good job and is going to be a CA in September. I am currently in university, next year I graduate. Part of me is saying wait until you are done school but another part of me says, what are you waiting for? We own a house together and have a great solid relationship. what do I do??

NicoleMarieB |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

People should know when they are ready for a big part of having a baby. Having a baby is really important and its a big responsibility.

nakeda |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

there is never a "right" time

sberaud |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

My husband and I have been together for 4 years. He is absolutely wonderful. I can honestly say I never go a day without him telling me he loves me and how beatiful I am and how appreciative he is of who I am and what I do. He knows it is the little things that count. We can communicate with each other, which is so important and we can discuss having a baby and not be afraid of what the other person is going to think about your views because as a partner you give your spouse the time to express themselves and the consideration you feelings deserve. We are both ready because we talked about it at great length which is so important. You need to discuss what fears you have either emotional fears, physical fears(body changes) Social fears (lifestyle changes) financial fears (budgeting your life... +1) and how they will be affected when the baby comes.

jlk21686 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

Me and the father are very ready but nervouse at the same time. This is mine and his first child. We are so happy to have a baby girl on the way in june. Im not worried about not being ready neither is he we are going to be ready no matter what as long as we have GOD everything is okay. so we are so excited to be parents in june and caint wait!!!!!!!!

cherokeethug |

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woke up about 2 weeks ago and can't stop thinking about having a baby. we were planning on waiting to start trying until the end of the year but pushed it up to next month! i am so excited :) something just clicked and I realized i didn't want to wait anymore, and lucky for me my wonderful husband agrees!

sandylou |

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NOT REALLY, BUT I WILL BE

VISABLUE |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

I 'm definitely ready, but my husband (31) wants to wait two years. I'm 27, will be 28 soon, and really want to start TTC in about 6 months. I want hiim to be on board, of course, so anyone have any advice?

kimbedford |

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I know everyone has thanked already for this, but I just wanted to put in a thank too to those who are saying that there "really is never going to be a good time." My husband and I have been married for 6 months officially today and have been a couple for 7 years this year. Last month, I couldn't shake the urge to have a baby and it's still stuck to this day. We both have good jobs and although we live in a one bedroom apartment at the moment, we are looking to either find a home with more bedrooms or upgrade to a larger apartment in our complex this year. My husband on the other hand, isn't so much into "let's make a baby" at the moment. He says he wants to tie up loose ends before we have a baby. When I ask what those loose ends are, he really can't say much other then ensure we have enough money, this and that, yadda yadda. I don't argue with him but try to point out things like how we would be okay with budgets, etc. and how we've done a lot of things before having a baby. We've been to Las Vegas, Cali, Florida, and going to Hawaii in May, so it's not like we haven't traveled together before baby. But, he's always been unable to jump in feet first, even when planning a vacation. He usually is ready to go on vaca after I book it. :) But of course with a baby, I don't want to surprise him with that. I want it to be mutual. I've gone off Birth Control last month and have told him that if he's not ready, then he needs to purchase condoms. It's just so frustrating for me because I'm going to be 25 this year and I'd like to start trying since I'd like 2 children spaced somewhat apart before 30 as many women in my family have had birthing issues passed 30. Sorry for the long story, I'm just hoping soon he understands and will want a baby now instead of later.

d_glass_slipper |

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my hubby and I have been together for a bit over 5 years, and we just found out that we're expecting a baby this week. We've been TTC for almost a year and a half now. We've had rough spots in our relationship (me being jobless, out of work from back injury, hospitalizations, in-law issues, etc) but we've made it through, and I have total faith that he will make a great dad. The only things we have to work on over the next 8 months are A) continue paying off debt that we accumalated getting on our feet and B) continue working on his masters and my associate degrees. We both already have good careers, and as federal employees, there is tons of job security and knowing that they'll work with us on alot of upcoming choices. Hubby turned 28 back on Friday (found out this Tuesday) and I turn 26 next Tuesday.

AmbrosiaHino |

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my fiance and i have been engaged 6 months and were just starting to plan our wedding when i found out i was 6 weeks pregnate. We are both young-- i am only 20 and he is 23-- and i am still in school (and have a long 2 more years + medical school + res. ahead of me). But the truth of the matter is, you will never be "ready" when it happens, but when it does, you're ready. All of the things you would have thought you would be "giving up" turn in to silly little nothings. Plenty of people have successful carrers with children. My mother had 3 children all through medical school and residency and is now a very distingushed and good psychiatrist..... and an AMAZING mom. You shouldnt worry about partying or your carrer when it comes to having children. They are a blessing, not something that will hold you back and i promise you the second you find out you have a baby on the way, you will completely understand this. Heck, i am 20 and still in school and i thought having a baby would ruin that, but in reality, it only motivates me more to make a better life for my child!!! I do agree though that having a baby wont solve any problems... only make the relationship harder, so if the relationship is bad, i wouldnt try! (but a good relationship will only get better when baby is on the way!)

bntippett10 |

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Too many people are worrying about the financial part of being ready to get pregnant, money is money and it will never make you as happy as you think it can. The real question is... are you emotionally ready to have that baby enter you life? There are too many parents that are not ready for the emotional strain that a newborn can bring to your sanity and marriage. A job is just a job. You don't know how long it will last. And as I said money is just money, either you have enough or you don't. But a child is there your your whole life (god willing). You and your spouse need to be completely on track with one another and make a good team before you should even think about bringing a innocent child into that. If you are so focused on your career that you aren't going to have the time you should to put into your family then DON'T HAVE A BABY. Having a child is a gift not a right.

petergene14 |

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i think people constantly worry about doing things in the "right order"or at the "right time".personally i think if you want a baby and youre ready to care for and love that baby and your partner(if in the picture)feels the same then you should go for it.i am 12 weeks pregnant and i am scared because i am still in school and my husband has a decent job but we do have some debts.we dont have lots of money,but we do get by.his family is harrassing us alot saying how theres no way we can raise a child because we dont have enough money-we didnt get a congrats or thats exciting or anything,it was just you guys are crazy you cant afford that.my family is super excited and helpful.bottom line,my grandparents had a 11 month old and a newborn and my grandfather provided for them all on about 10 dollars an hour(equivalent to today).I think that if you want it,things fall into place,and it doesnt matter what other people tell you you are ready for!

starrkitten89 |

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Are we ready? I think I will probably ask myself this very question everyday until our child is safely delivered to this world. I think, no, I know that both me and my fiance will be excellent parents. Finacially, my God just thinking about it almost sends me into a panic. But I am trying to keep in mind that I am only 4 weeks along right now. Lord willing we have at least another 32 weeks to get some things figured out and in a positioin to succeed not only emotionally but finacally aswell as parents. Either way, apparently the Lord knows we are ready for this because he provided us with this blessing. I know that our child is already a motivation for me to be a better person and to have a better more stable life. At the end of the day, I feel remarkably blessed and excited. I have a great man, family and a strong faith. Ready or not.....

daynaphillips |

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I don't think there is ever a good time to have a baby. For my husband and I we truely needed to jump in to see if we could swim. The first few months were difficult, however we found because we love our son so much it was worth it and we wanted to do all the things having an infant requires. All i can suggest is that you work together as a couple to take care of your child. Also... i have read that there are concerns about relationship strains and such ... My hubby and i only grew closer... we may bicker a bit more .. but we also laugh alot more too.

Emmelee |

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You'll never be completely 'ready' for a baby. They just change everything, and it's impossible to be ready for that! :) My husband and I were unmarried and completely unprepared when we got pregnant with our son, who is now 19 months. But I researched everything I could about pregnancy and children and we bought a home and we got as ready as we could. And when he got here, instincts kicked in. As for your spouse, now would be a GREAT time to open communication lines 100%. Find out BEFORE you start trying what he feels is the role of a mother and a father; what he is excited about and what he is nervous about. You want to go into parenting on the same page. If you and the father-to-be are not married or committed to each other, you still need to have these conversations. You are a family of sorts, connected by your child. That said, there are ways to 'prepare'. Is there room in your finances, your home, your heart? We have been planning for our second child since the day our first was born - - before we even married or bought our home! We have money, diapers, clothes and all the right equiptment and we are prepared (and TTC). But that doesn't mean we're ready! You never know what a child will be like, how a sibling will respond, how you will feel once they're born. The best way to be 'ready' for children is to understand you can never be 100% prepared. The key is being flexible!

lilymom20 |

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Hell yeah! We've been trying for soooo long now.

CarrieP2010 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

i agree with most of the people when they say your never 100% ready to have a baby, because you dont know what to expect, such as;if the baby has medical needs, or if there is an unexpected event that happens in your life along the journey. I am 36 weeks pregnant and i am having my baby next week by csection. i am broke and living with my parents (definitely not the ideal situation) but im getting by, i think once you actually become pregnant the worries of "if im ready or not" goes away and you focus on how your going to handle it, your life is definitely going to change once your baby comes but it doesnt mean that you have to stop traveling or put your career on hold, thats not reality. and actually exposing your kid to the world wouldnt be a bad idea. it also doesnt mean that your bad parents if you go out on the weekends and visit with friends "kidless" thats actually very healthy to do every now and then

Azbell31 |

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yes, im ready. being married for almost 3 years, so it's a perfect timing for out marriage to conceive a child.

Hayita |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

We have been together for 7 years and married for 1 full year.. We decide shortly after our 1 year anniversary to TTC.. I am very anxious person and I have to everything plan to the T. He just changed job to a better paying job and I am finishing up school in less than a month. We have thought it through and this is what we want. I have great insurance.. He has great insurance and job security.. I just recently quit taking my BC and we are trying full blown.. I have the ovulation day down to the point and boy I am ready to be a MOM! I continuously have Baby Fever.. And I'm ready.. Sorry to be rambling but we arent fully ready but want A BABY BAD!!!!!!

CassandRob |

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Beacause i love kids and love families even more im on the opposite end of what you most are arguing. Most women get pregnant for the wrong reasons and then cant get jobs husbands were really never that great to begin with but the female speices is absolutly sure that those lips stains are hers and his lame excuses are really the truth. Another note lots of women can get a degree with a baby HELLO what are we doing now its called the internet and its not just for face book and youtube So sit up roud and strong your a female so were smarter you can finish a degree in no time at all. Body changes are scary but in all honesty ur already taken and if something liek a scar is going to effect your husbands faithfullness should have never said the L word to him in the 1st place. Job Security is a must you dont got a job and cant feed yourself how you goning to feed a baby ... look if you want a baby and want a family and want to raise a pain in the butt like myself and have a job and a solid man go for it... but if you are raising all these doubts about who your with and what you want to do with your life then obviously ur not ready make you wonder why u even got married i dont believe in "married time" its something yall made up and drives u into these strange dilusions but im a feminist and support whatever it is you want so good luck to all of you these are not to be mean just aware of what we can all sound like me included ... so chin up be strong and be pround that we are who we are!

Jacqui13 |

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Me and my husband planned and planned and where as ready as you could ever be for baby. Then it took almost a year for us to conceive. In that time our lives fell apart. We both lost our jobs, and our house, and he had a affair. In the middle of all there I find out I"m pregnant. Needless to say we are no longer really "ready" for baby but it will be here in August.

bekah22587@hotmail.com |

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My husband and I have been together for nearly four year (married six months). I am aching to have a baby but we have decided to wait another year before trying since I'm working on my Master's and we would like to be more financially stable. Will we ever really be ready? People say you're never ready and I'm worried that when we do start to try we'll have trouble. Am I setting us up for trouble by being so worried already?

rhiannonandlandon |

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We have been married for almost 4 years now and together for almost 6. So it's no surprise that i started wanting a baby. but what if we're ready in lots of ways but worried about money. Do babies cost alot monthly? and also how do you really know if everything else is ready how do you know if you're ready to give up your alone time together? i guess we'll never be, but i just don't know. i guess that's what grandparents are for,haha. any suggestions?

april_showers413 |

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i know that my husband and i are ready. we were engaged for over a year and october last year found out i was pregnant. we just got married a few weeks ago and everything is going great. never leave your family out to help, i wouldnt be this ready for my baby in the next couple months without the help from my husband and my mother. we are getting ready to paint the baby's room in a couple weeks and its helping everything fall into place. and its true that you are never ready when you find out but it gets better the more you work on it and talk about it.

RisikaBraeke |

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Yes I'm ready to see my little girl for the 1st time. Her big brother and father are ready to see her as well. the only concern I'm having at the moment is trying to finish other this semester before she get here. I started experiencing pain during 31 weeks and had to stop going to class. My teachers except for one is working with me to help me complete the class. After this I will have 1 more class to take before graduating.... I just want to make the grade this semester so that i can take the last clsss to graduate after giving birth. As far as relationship and everything else, I hope it work outs....

shygyrl123 |

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i really would like to have a baby but i really wanted to be a stay at home mom but we can't afford it right now. i could take it to work with me b/c i work at a day care so that wouldn't be so bad but i get really bad headaches and migraines and i just don't know how i'd deal with them,having to take care of a baby while working with loud kids. does anyone else get migrianes? if so, what helps you?

april_showers413 |

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My Fiance & I have been talking about babies for awhile, and we've decided to go off the pill in July after our wedding. I'm 24 & I"m READY. I dont listen when other people say "oh you should wait" and all that. Its different for everyone. We dont like travelling, we don't go out drinking. We're very low-key people. I know a baby would bring so much happiness to our lives. I dont really see why I should wait! I worry about the same stuff everyone else does; money, debt, career. I think the pros outweigh the cons!

pirategirlpink |

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My boyfriend and I found out a few weeks ago that I'm surprisingly pregnant. He's horribly excited and has told everyone he knows. However, I'm extremely stressed and nervous considering so many of my friends have already asked me when we're getting married (which I would love to do and feel we should), but I know he won't ask me just because I'm pregnant. I've started avoiding going out with him and his friends, because I'm so emotional and I'm so tired of his friends wives asking me when we'll get married and telling me how excited they are for us. No one seems to understand that I'm worried about my future and the future I can offer my child. My boyfriend tells me I'm being dramatic, everything will be fine, I should stay home and take care of the baby like his mom and both of his sisters have done. But all I could think of was, they hd husbands to take care of them, and I don't.

blondewithboxer |

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yay, my husband and I talked about it and we're going to start trying in Januaray, that way I can stay home with the baby:) yay, i'm so happy about it! I can't wait! :)

april_showers413 |

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Thanks ladies for letting me know I'm not alone. My husband and I both feel ready to be parents but pregnancy scares me. It's nice to know others have the same toughts

DanaScott |

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I'm a mother of six (and pregnant with baby number seven) I would like to share a little wisdom. My huband and I have literally grown up with our children. If you believe that just because you are financially secure, own a home, and think you share the same beliefs, that you are ready for a baby- you are doing yourself a disservice. What I want to say is this enjoy motherhood yes! But always remember, that babies grow up to be children, children grow up to be teens, and teens grow up to be young adults. Enoy every minute of it because it passes by so quickly. And be ye prepared. Even the greatest creator took time to enjoy his work- and though things didn't turn out the best- he always had a plan. GET KNOWLEDGE AND PUT IT INTO ACTION- THAT'S WISDOM. Get it from books, fam, friends, professionals, weed out what works from what doesn't, and never ever believe you have it all, or know it all. I'm still learning! My kids have been the best teachers!

divineme |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

My husband and I will be married two years this coming July (together for four). He will be turning 29 in June and I will be 25 in December. We have decided to start TTC at the end of July (2010). We have both finished our post secondary education and have good jobs. We also own our own house and have been "practicing for baby" with having our Golden Retriever for the past 2 1/2 years. Even though we are "considered young" in regards to having a baby, we both feel that we are personally ready to expand our family!

LauraElizabeth85 |

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Because i already have 1 child and she is going to be 9 yrs old in a couple of weeks.

Waite30 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

Both me and my boyfriend are 20 yrs old we talked about moving in together this dec. im due december 14. im barely going into college and trying to get a career in path, i feel that we are in no way ready, but at the same time were excited to get things started, our parents still dont know but its getting harder an harder to hide my growing belly. Im very scared and kinda need some reassurance. Any advice?

glennie15 |

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glennie15 YOU NEED TO TELL YOUR PARENTS! Come clean with them, the longer you leave it the worse their reaction will be (and their reaction if negative may be more about you hiding it from them). Believe it or not most parents are amazing at helping you through lifes tough situations. They probably know you and your situation the best and can help you make the right decisions about the baby & for you . College is extremely important as you will need to provide for your growing baby, maybe you can work with your family to help ensure you will still get to go to school after the birth of the baby. You have a tough road ahead of you and I am sure things will work themselves out. Make sure you get as much education about pregnancy & parenting - it will help you feel more prepared for the changes your body will go through during pregnancy & after aswell taking care of the baby when it arrives. Good luck!

wishing25 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

yes

bpbaby |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

we are a married blended family with a 14 year old 5 and 6 year old. We really were unsure if us having a baby together was the right thing. I found out i was pregnant and then we got really excited. then i miscarried. both of us were very upset. We know now that we are definitly ready to be parents together and want it now more than ever! Our family is well grounded tho and we have a great love for one another.

hudsonstobe |

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I just joined TheBump after being on TheKnot so I am still getting used to the discussion boards here. My husband and I have been together 5 years and married 2. We know that we want children one day. I am turning 30 in a few weeks and my husband will be 29. I have an abormal valve in my heart that causes one of my ventricals to enlarge. It is uncertain when/ if I will need surgery to correct this and I am already classified as moderate to severe regurgitation. I have also had an abnormal pap for the third time in 3 years. I have already had 2 LEEPS done to correct this and now I have another abnormal pap. I am afraid to get another LEEP because of the risk of cervical failure during a pregnancy...and who knows what will happen if they have to go further up inside to remove more cells. I am at the point where I just want to start TTC, but my husband wants to sell our condo first...but in this market...WHO KNOWS when that will be. I am the one with the health issues and the longer I wait, the more at risk I am with a pregnancy. I am trying to talk to my husband about it, but I dont want to pressure him. I understand the whole idea of wanting everything to be "set" before trying...but I dont know how much more time I have before I start getting more surgeries. IPart of me just wants to be pregnant so I know that I can at least have one child. Thoughts? And thanks...

JanineBennett |

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No one is truly "ready". I'm 29 and my husband is 35. Been together for 4 years married for two. Just this month I decided I was ready. He said he was ready within the first 6 months of meeting me...lol You dont have to have an abundance of money or even own your own home. You dont have to have your dream home or even your dream job. You dont have to have a PHD or a degree. What you need is willing to sacrifice things, willing to stick it out with your partner and your partner with you through thick and thin, do your best to save and make life as easy as possible with what you have and never stop trying to follow your dreams and goals either. Life does not stop once you have a child. People make it seem like your throwing yourself into a firey pit of hell once a child comes along. No...you can't and never will have a perfect enough life for a child. Be ready in your heart, mind, body and soul. I work for the Gov't, my husband has a decent paying job. We rent our home, because where we live, we simply can not afford to buy a home. We both have reliable newer vehicles and amazing families...I dont drink, smoke or do drugs and I never was a party go'er. I live a simple and quiet life with my husband in our cozy 4 bedroom rented home in a quiet little town. The only thing im worried about is child care...we commute everyday 40 minutes to the city to work. But I have it in my heart things will work out. My husband said he will do what he has to as a father to make everything good and right. in the end and along the way things do work out. Just be commited to yourself, your baby and your mairrage, work hard and things will be good.

lilac09 |

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We have discussed having children a lot lately and are in a financially stable postion to do so. Steady money and own our home but our issue is my husband is deploying very soon and would not be around for birth if we concieve now. I know we could get through it but we can't decide if we are comfortable enough with having our first while he is gone. Any advice?

whatevergurl2007 |

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I think something that this website should talk more about and isn't listed on this "are we ready" question..is single parenting. I am in a situation unlike a lot of people who are on here I guess, because I have yet to see anything from a single parent. I am 22 and just got out of a very short disastrous relationship and found out I was pregnant a week later. I do not agree with abortion and I feel that I'm old enough to need to man-up, so to say. I've made my bed and am now laying in it. I'm very happy about being pregnant and very ready. I am very experienced with children and have no worries other than the fact of court rulings and the father of my child's very unfit family. Not everyone has a significant other in this and I think it would be a nice gesture to at least acknowledge that.

PeaPod324 |

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I read through a lot of these comments and honestly some of you do not sound ready at all!! My thought is if you're having doubts than just wait! Don't rush into it.. My husband and I have been married for about 14 months. We bought our first home in a nice neighborhood about 11 months ago. My husband has his BA degree, I will have mine next year. We both have steady and decent paying jobs. We are 23-24 years old and ready to start a family!! We have been talking about this for awhile and a few days ago my husband just came home from work and said "I think I am ready to be a dad"! It was really cute! I have always wanted to be a mom and we have friends who recently had baby's and are pregnant so I think that helped him realize that it's not all bad. I just started taking prenatal vitamins 2 days ago and we will be TTC this month!!

ckinnaley |

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My boyfriend wants a child and I do not. I love him and would hate to lose him but from what a hear and see from other moms nothing about motherhood seems fun. Now, I'm sure I am going to offend a lot of mom (from the bottom of my heart I apologize) but I seed the frazzled moms in the supermarket ready to pull their hair out. I see the children running around and not obeying their parents commands. I hear the statements from all of my friends with kids saying how lucky I am to have all my time be about me and my boyfriend (he doesn't have children either). I am 29 years old and do not want to be an older (again I apologize if I offend anyone) parent. There is so much I want to do with my life and I don't see how I can do that if I am responsible for another life. Am I selfish person for not wanting to be a mom??? I read the blogs and see how difficult it is for some women to have children and I have cried reading some of their stories and pray that each of them receive the blessing they are waiting for but I just can't see me being a mom. I know mouths will drop after reading this but I'm not sure if I'm ready for my world to stop being about me.

lngearlds21 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

Read "Babyproofing Your Marriage" for some extra help. :)

fuedli |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

Me and my husband have a 3 year-old son, and we graduate from college next May. I have one more year of nursing school and will be eligible to sit for my RN licensing exam next June. Yet at the same time, my son is constantly saying that he "wants a little baby/little brother". I have to admit it is rather cute, and I have constantly had baby on the brain, but I am completely torn between my career and wanting another child. I want to become a neonatal nurse practitioner which will require me to work a couple of years in the NICU to gain experience before being able to apply for the grad program. That would be almost 3-4 years from now before I could start the program. At the same time, I want to devote all my time to my children while they are young, and I didn't want a huge gap in between my kids as far as age difference, and I feel like I'm running out of time on that gap. My son will be four next year and by the time I plan to get preggo he'll be about five, maybe even six. Me and my brothers and sister are all 2 years apart and very close, we a were able to keep an eye on one another at school and I want that for my kids. I'm so confused. I know I don't want to get pregnant right now but I know next fall I will be, however, just beginning my new career as a nurse has me hestitant and I don't want to have any doubts, yet and still I feel my son should be able to have a sibling. I'm still very young and want to have my kids young so I can keep up with them and still be able to enjoy and see my grand kids. I scares me to wait til my late 30s or 40s to have another kiddo, having to be 50 years old when my kid is only 10. Just my preference. I'm 23 (almost 24) so I would honestly prefer to have all my kids by the time I'm 30 or 32. DH said he would be ready next year, and I guess it is just something I'm going to have to pray about. I understand that it is never a right time, but am I worry too much?

meshawilliams08 |

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meshaw - I am totally with you... just a little older. My husband is military, so we move pretty often. in our current location, I have finally found the job of my dreams, which I will be able to keep even despite our upcoming move. The trick is that I have to commit to travel back to my home office two days each week, and this will require an overnight stay. Obviously not going to work with a new baby, even assuming I max out my maternity leave. However, I don't want to leave my job, either. I love it, I'm good at it, and I could see myself staying there for a long, long time. Because we are a bit older (I'm getting into my mid-30's, and husband will be 40 before too long), we decided it was time to at least start trying. Couple months later we're expecting, and I'm trying to figure out how I can make this work. I totally agree with you...there is never a right time. I don't think you're worrying too much. You're trying to balance a long-term career plan with starting a family. You just have to do some soul-searching and creative thinking to figure out what is best for your family, and whether there are some options that will somehow let you have it all. I'll be doing the same thing for the next eight months or so. :) Good luck to you!

SandK042 |

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Hi this is Dottie's husband. Although a lot of people here have given some great answers I believe some people missed the question and went off on a tangent. Take all the issues that might occur and put them to the side.Nobody asked if we were making enough money or had enough space. Those are all things that can be changed. People want to know how to tell if they are ready to have a baby. I believe the best way to tell is how you treat your husband or wife when they are sick. Do you go out of your way to take care of them. Make sure they are comfortable? Wake up in the middle of the night just to check on them? My point is outside influences should not be considered when it comes to having a baby. You should take a look at yourself and ask if you will take care of this baby. Will you go out of your way to make sure this baby has everything it could possibly need? Only your answers to that can tell you if your ready for a baby.

wildwitch13 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

No one is ever completely "ready" to have kids. If you wait till your "ready" you'll never have them. But my husband is 30 and is pushing harder than I am.

katealena |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

My husband and I have been together for 3 years and only married for 2 months. I am 30 and he is 32. I know most people would say wait about a year before TTC, however I hate the idea of waiting too long knowing I am already over 30. I worry about the risks that conceiving while you are older can create. All of my husband's friends wives have begun families and it kills me when I hear of another getting pregnant. I know I would love to be a mom and before we got married, my husband and I discussed trying to conceive within the first year. However, now that we are married, I cant get him to discuss having children now. He keeps saying someday. I worry that he is changing his mind and that I will have to keep putting off my plans for motherhood. I dont want to force him if he is not ready, but I worry he could put this off for a while

julied80 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

I am so not ready to have a child. Up until i found out i was pregnant I was a wishful thinker, not using protection and not thinking about the consequences. Now i'm a 17 year old girl 5 months pregnant. I know I should either terminate or put the child up for adoption but my family does not accept either of these choices.

DenicceZavala |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

I understand that you are under the age of 18 so your family’s opinion weighs more on you then it should, however, this is YOUR life. This is YOUR commitment, YOUR will be responsible for midnight feedings, YOUR life will be altered, YOUR responsibilities will change, YOUR senior year will be different from your friends. Becoming a parent is the most selfless act a person can commit and if you are not ready to commit to that then maybe adoption is the best decision. There are millions of women (and men) who would jump at the chance to give your child a loving home. Children are not dolls and they are not pets they deserve committed and devoted parents and if you are not ready to be that then do what is in the best interest of you and most importantly your child.

Freckles1980 |

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I'll be 28 and my husband will be 27 this winter. We are celebrating our 1 year anniversary in September. I'm in the opposite boat from most readers - he's baby crazy but I'm NOT! I want to have children with him (preferably 2) and already dubbed which room would be the nursery in our new house but I just feel like I'm too young to start TTC now! However, my other fear is that since I've been on the pill for over 10 years it may take my body years to adjust as I have heard that this has happened to so many couples. On the other hand, there's a chance that I can get pregnant on the first try! My husband and I feel financially stable but he also has 1 more year of school and is considering getting a Masters. I'm caught between a rock and a hard place - I feel like I'm too young to start TTC, I want to enjoy my newlywed yrs and feel like his schooling would take a lot of time away from having a baby but I'm also afraid that if I wait too long we won't be able to have 2 children like we want. I think he also has these concerns but was baby crazy even before we got married! We've talked and he agreed to stop bringing it up all the time (was driving me nuts) and said it's whenever I'M ready - but now I can't stop thinking about it and worrying - when will that be? When SHOULD we start TTC???? I don't think I'll ever feel like there will be a perfect time and another reader already posted that if you wait for that perfect time you'll never have kids. I have to say I agree with that 100% but wish someone could just tell me then when a "better" time would be to start TTC!!!!!

sare313 |

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Being able to afford day care is our biggest concern. It's so expensive now that it's really holding us back. Is anyone else worried about this? If this wasn't such a huge concern, we would've had a baby a long time ago.

MrsKode3 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

I am right there with you MrsKode3. We need both incomes in order to maintain all bills and then adding the expense of a baby on top of that. It's insane what daycare costs. We are currently TTC but daycare is our biggest concern.

sbrookshire |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

my hubby and I knew that we were not ready for kids( we both wanted to wait a few years) our child had other plans however... 2 months into our relationship we ended up preggo! we did not feel ready or knew the first thing about ggetting ready. but with 26 days to go now we are very ready. even if you dont feel ready now, you do have 9 months to prep for it.

sherwoodclimbing |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

My husband and I have been married for 10 months now. I want a baby and so does he, but we both don't know if we are ready. I have always wanted to be a mom, I have a pit in my stomach just thinking about it. My nerves get the best of me and we both feel like we need to have more money. We both are stable into our careers and we both make great money, but there are student loans and credit cards and everything else that comes along with getting married and buying a house.. Will we really ever be 'Ready'?? It's nice to be able to read about everyone else's thoughts on here.

jess8585 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

My mother always told me "if you wait to have enough money to have kids, you will never have them". this is true, but you also realize that what you have becomes enough!

dmnixon |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

1st you need to think about how hard it is to take care of a then later the answer just comes right out of you so think about it then make a dessicen yes? OR no?

laninabonita08 |

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My husband and I have been married for 1.5 years now and I'm ready for kids. We both have great jobs and are secure in our marriage. I'm 28 he's 33, we have plenty of savings set aside for this and a nice home. The problem is my husband says he's emotionally ready but wants even more savings first. I know we both have to be comfortable with this decision before trying and I don't want to pressure him but I don't know if he'll ever be ready. Anyone else out there with this problem?

sfurtado |

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ok ladies heres my question, maybe you guys can help. my fiance and i are getting married with in the next two year but through out my family its known that we "go bad" around 25. im currently 10 and im wanting to have more then just one child. im torn because i am so young, but being a mother means the world to me.

sncbride |

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I have been married almost 2 years and am feeling so ready to have a baby. I'm obsessed with pregnant women and want to have that beautiful baby bump myself. However I'm a worrier and that is preventing us from TTC. I worry about never being able to afford a house (we rent an apt now), not ever having enough money, and not being able to do the things I want to and give my baby the experiences I didn't have as a child (go on vacations, have a home-not just an apt). My husband and I both work and have steady jobs but the field we are in we'll never make a ton of money. I realize that these are probably insignificant issues but to me they're real. My husband is ready and gave me the green light whenever I am...there are days i just really want to try but the next i just wish our situation (mainly )financial was different. Who's to say our situation will change in one year? What if we wait and nothing changes? I guess those are the chances people take.

dmbgurl411 |

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My husband and I have been married for two years in July '10. After we got married we decided to wait a year untill we started TTC. Well during that year I got a wild hair, and decided to go back to school. I will be graduating May '11, and we just bought our first home in Feb '10 and loving it. We have two extra bedrooms. For me personally I would love to start TTC but I am waiting for my schooling to be done. I have alot of friends that while going to school, became pregnaute and then never returned. I have alot of friends that are either pregnaute, just had children, or have older children. I would say in our group of friends we are the only ones without children. We are excited to become parents. Cant say that we are waiting for the right time because there will never be a right time. All I can say now is when we do find out we are expecting we will be very excited!

mechanicswifesd |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

DH(25) and I (24) have been married a little over a year, and together for the last four. I love him to death and can't wait to start our family! We aren't as financially prepared as we could be, but we do have good health insurance, a plan to increase our savings and the motto, "Make it work!" has always carried us through before. We're probably a bit young, and Lord knows we could ALWAYS use more money, but I want to have my first child in my mid-twenties when my fertility is (hopefully) at it's optimum and I have more energy. DH knows how much I've wanted a baby and says as soon as we move out of our apartment we can start TTC! :) I think the time is never really right, you just have to make the leap and have faith sometimes!

pfritsche |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

We always said that we would wait two years after getting married to start a family, but once we were married, it was all I could think about! I was 30 when we got married, and my husband is six years younger, so I felt like my time was getting slim. We did choose to wait a little while, and we initially got pregnant about a year after we were married. Unfortunately, we lost that baby, but it made is really realize how much we DID want to start a family as soon as we could. Our second anniversary is in October, and we are expecting our first baby in January. We own a house, and we both have jobs that we enjoy, which are things we both wanted to have before we had children. I think it's just a matter of what is comfortable for you! There is never a right or wrong answer - just what feels right in your heart.

bellalynne25 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

My husband and I have been married for a year. We have been together for 4 years now. We were both each other's "first loves" and neither of us thought that we would ever find the special somone let along get married. The first year has had the usual ups and downs, although we did live together for a year and a half before getting married. I do think that we worked out alot of issues then. My SIL just recently had a baby and many of our friends have kids. My husband is extremely ready for us to start trying, but I have always said that I would like to be married a couple of years before trying. The thing is that I am going to be 32 this month and my husband is 35. I feel like we should really start trying soon and with all of the children and the thought of having a child with my husband, I am having a hard time NOT wanting to have a baby. I think about it constantly and I am so extremely excited to think that not only am I married to an amazing man, but that I can also have children with him. I have dreams about it and see their little faces. I am beginning to think that waiting two years may be too long.

rmleon78 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

Well my husband is 100% ready for a baby but I'm not sure if I am ready. I do absolutely want a baby but when it's Friday night and I'm out with my girlfriends having a few drinks and having fun I think, "How on earth do I think I might be ready for that?" But the rest of the weekend when I'm out having a nice dinner with my husband or having the family over on a Sunday afternoon and I see my hubby playing with all the kids (kids loovvee him) I think, "How do I really think I'm NOT ready right now?" Then I start to think about it and I'm like I would be a good mom but I have little things I worry about like do we have enough money? Do me and my husband argue too much? Do I know who I am enough to try to make another person? Or I will think what if I'm just liking the idea of having a baby not a kid or a teen? I can't imagine having a 16 year old! I'm just scared... I mean when I am 80 this baby will still be my child. Are these normal feelings or signs that I am NOT ready to have a baby??

xxlilkacixx |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

Emotionally yes, but we want to wait till my husband is earning a little more, because we're struggling with just the two of us

Stephjoy4 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

After our first year of marriage, I told my husband I was ready to start our family. After discussing it, we decided to wait, enjoy our time, build our careers, pay off debt, etc. The last 3 years have been difficult for me to contain my want to be pregnant and not bother him with it. All I ever wanted to hear from him was "Let's get started" or "Let's go make a baby!" - well, about a week ago, he said that after the first of the year, he thinks we should TTC. Now that he said what I've wanted him to for over 3 years now.... I'M SCARED! Mixed feelings all around, can any body help?

lilalmond10 |

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yes im ready to have a baby i might be just 22years old but im readymy boyfriend of 5 years is 35 he in the army we are ready

nishiaboo22 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

i have always had a passion for children, i was always the babysitter. my husband and i have been together for 2 1/2 years married for 8 months the 20th of this month. we just bought our first home and have been trying for 5 months. i had a prior engagment in a 4 year relationship where we had tried for a year unsucessfully, i went to the doctor to talk about infertility and he put me on metformin (its for diabeties type 2 ) but it helps you ovulate. i normally have 28 day cycles but since my husband and i have been trying my cycle has increased to 32 days but i still am ovulating at the 28 day cycle time. i started taking my meds the day i was ovulating and i am 9 days late, i took a hpt today and the negative line was light? im usually not late and i havent been stressed. just trying not to get my hopes up bc everymonth its a no kind of breaks my heart. i know it will happen but when ur trying it sure does get ur hopes up

lilfirecracker11 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

yes!!!!!!! i'm 31 and i have always wanted kids i think the hard part was finding someone that wanted the same thing that i wanted. now that i have found him we are ready to start are family

jxcamac |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

Life happens and as much as we plan, sometimes things dont work accordingly or in specific order. My fiance and I have experience alot in our lives, 8 yr military careers, now school, I hold a cosmetology licenses and have been working since 17..Now that we are preparing to purchase our first home together, we decided to forgo a wedding and just spend the celebration with our family and close friends and plan a wedding for a later date which is good for us because we'd rather spend the money for our house anyway. We are both on the same page as far as life goals and career goals. I have PCOS and he is getting a vasectomy reversal so for us time is of the essence. We plan to be married next year but we will start TTC as soon as his recovery period is over. We are both in our late 20s and are ready for the next step..in our case is builidng a family. I try not to subscribe to ideals about whats the best time because everyone's life is different. I say if communication is strong , you will know when its the right time you both of you!!! WISH ME BLESSINGS!

glamourgirl27 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

My DH and I will be married one year this coming November! We have been together for 6 years in total and in the last year, I have thought about nothing else except having a baby. It is only within the last couple of months that we decided together that we were ready. I will be done with school in 2 months, he has a full-time steady job and we have never been closer. I know, for us, that it is the right time. I, however, am of the opinion that you are never ready for a baby. No one is ready for that responsibility or change in their lives, but there will never be a time in your life that you are truly ready to take on what having a baby entails. We were waiting for a time when we felt most stable, but I don't think we know what we are getting ourselves into, but who really does!? Good luck to everyone!

ready2Bmomma |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

I agree with ready2Bmomma. You will never have enough money and you can't fully be ready for the change it will have on your life. Everyone has told me, wait at least a year after you are married. But my husband and I got married because we wanted to start a family with each other. That is the next chapter in our lives. Some people want a career first, or to travel, or to buy a house, or finish school. Just because you have a baby does not make those things impossible. I have travelled for the last five years of my life. Partied and lived with no resposibilities for those five years. Now, I am ready for a family. My husband and I have been married for 3 months. Another 9... it just seems too far away... But what am I saying? I always do what I want anyway. Good luck to you ladies and God Bless.

jackiephillipsbenn |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

While I know I'm the minority I can only give my hindsight experience. If you are even remotely close to thinking you will want to start trying in the next 5 years or so, get some preliminary tests done for your fertility. I waited too long and wished I'd pushed harder to get surgery to see if I had endometriosis. At 26 years old *still young and fresh out of University* I was basically told my fertility had dropped drastically and that we should start trying right away...2 1/2 years of pain, sadness, basic fertility treatment later it never happened. If someone had told me while I was in school (I was with the man I'm married to at that time and knew he was the one) that I couldn't conceive naturally if I waited too long, we probably would have seriously considered starting sooner and not losing so much time (and by default causing sooo much more damage to my reproductive organs). I'm happy to say however that we did IVF and it worked...it's still early (8 weeks yesterday) so we're not out of the woods and therefore I'm still constantly worrying..

jenny_jeff |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

I think I'm ready. I've finished school and have gone through multiple managent courses as well as hubby. We are both set in our jobs, and have bought a house. We have everything we need. house vehicle finance a puppy supportive family etc. We didnt know we wanted a baby until we lost our first baby girl at 18 weeks. She was a suprise baby and we were so excited and it brought us closer together then i had ever imagined. We are now ready to try to have our baby and we think its what we need to come next. We have both wanted it since we were young, but never knew or met the "right person"... then we met eachother. I knew from the day I met him, he was the right man. :)

Celiaerin |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

I thought I was being childish to think that our friends matter in this decision...Since we'll probably be the first to start a family in our group of friends, worries me...Knowing that these people probably won't be around as much scares me a bit... It makes me sad... I know this is true because people tend to be closer friends if their lifestyles are the same...However, if this is my biggest issue I know that we are ready... and hopefully we'll meet some people in the same position through classes and other events as our own lives take a new direction.

LanaLoves |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

I just know that I am ready to have a baby with my husband. He is my best friend and we are doing well. It feels like something is missing, I know that something is a baby. We both want to have children and to me it feels like the right time. There will never be a better time than now. I've known since almost the beginning that he was the man that I would spend the rest of my life with and have children with. We have been married 2 years and it feels like the right time.

traci37 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

My husband and I have talked and we agree that while we are totally emotionally ready, as long as he is still an undergrad and I'm making 100% of the family income, it's not right just yet. Now, my heart disagrees like crazy! I want a baby so bad it hurts. (I have already graduated with my BA and am in the workforce.) I'm so willing to endure going back to work after maternity leave (even though I want so badly to be a SAHM) just to have that little one and to meet her finally, to cuddle her in the evenings ... but my husband just really, really wants to finish his BA and start looking for work before we start trying. He's said that graduation night, we can start that second, without "prophylactics!" Hahah. I say, why can't we start 9 months before graduation? :) I don't bother him about it much because I've communicated my feelings, the desperate ache for a baby, but I can't disagree with why he wants to wait. So I gotta give him this one and try hard, hard, hard to be patient and wait.

allets515 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

My husband and I celebrate our 2nd anniversary in December this year, and we had always planned to wait until at least 2 years of marriage to start trying to have a baby. We are both planners and don't believe in rushing into anything, especially having a baby which is a real big deal (especially with the financial responsibilities). We are high school sweethearts and since marriage have really been able to thoroughly enjoy our time together. One of the things I am concerned about, even more than he is, is what will happen when a baby comes into the mix, as it won't be just the 2 of us anymore. Plus, I have a very demanding job that now takes up a lot of my time, so will I be able to be a good mother and wife? I've struggled with these thoughts for the past year, in preparation for the countdown to TTC :) I now know I am ready as I am at the point now where I am ready for the challenges and joys that will come with having a baby of my own! My husband is also ecstatic of the thought and he has proven to me time and again just how much of a support system he is capable tof being. I think the biggest factor of being prepared is knowing that you have someone there who will help you through the process. After 11 years of a relationship and 2 years of marriage, I'm confident my husband and I are ready to take this on!!!

putus |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

I think that yes, your relationship status, house and financial aspects are HUGE things to consider if you are ready to have children. In your relationship is there commitment or will you end up being a single parent? and can you really handle being a single parent? you dont have to own a house to have enough room, but hopefully you live in a quieter apartment area. and money is a huge concern, but well thought ought planning i am sure wlill make becoming a parent much easier:) but in reality, no one ever has the PERFECT IDEAL situation for having children so dont get too discouraged if certain things arent worked out yet!

salk72788 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

I so incredibly want us to be ready now but i know im miles ahead of my partner. Whenever i say things like 'when we have kids...' he always says he doesnt want them but i know that he does, thats just his way of being scared about it and saying hes not ready. He was brought up terribly and i know he doesnt want our child to be brought up the same way. He says that we still have years to do all that stuff (get married, babies, etc.) but i feel like ive done all of my partying and drinking all night and being a child. His childhood was just that, a childhood where he got to be a child, whereas mine was full of responsibility and being a big sister, i was changing nappies and feeding and taking care of my baby brother at 10 years old, ive been in this baby business for years and pretty much know the in's and out's. Im 21 years old and i have never been more ready than now for a child. I suppose there is nothing else to do but wait it out while hinting here and there and setting the house up.. i think?!

rheyananlee |

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Glamourgirl, I'm with you! My husband and I have been married for 6 months and together for 2 years. Last year we went thru the worst thing we could, as he had a very bad car accident and was in ICU for 3 months, in a wheelchair thru the start of this year. He is walking now and has one more surgery in a few weeks to finish repairing some of the damage. I've always wanted kids and he has a little girl. I'm crazy about him and I know he is about me and I always told him when he is ready I'm ready. I am a type A, so I'm very organized and structured. I want to make sure everything is in order. I just sold my condo last week, to prepare us for our house together in the next 2 years and we moved into a 2 bedroom apartment. It is enough for the us and the baby. The thing is, I've been talking about it more and more, just talking but he has recently told me to stop taking my pills sot hat we can TTC. I'm excited and nervous all at the same time. I'm so tempted to start my pills back. I have one more class to finish my Masters in the spring and I'll graduate in June. My job pays well. Issue is my husband's job doesn't but he works so hard and he wants to start culinary art school in January, which is about 15-22 months. That's alot of time involved with school and work and me and a baby. Are we really ready? Advice?

nlwilliams98 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

Much like so many of the other responses, I am a little nervous as well. My husband and I have been together for 4 years and married for a little over one. He has been ready to have kids from the moment we said "I Do" and it has been me that wasn't quite there yet. After celebrating our year anniversary and with me being 32 and my husband being 36 - I have been thinking about it daily. Now I can't wait to have a baby. I know that financially we will never "truly" be ready, but eveyone says that we will be just fine. I am the one with the career and several degrees. It isn't possible for me to be off work to stay home with the baby. That is my only concern. I am scared and excited at the same time. I know my husband will be a wonderful father and I truly believe that we are ready. Oh - he doesn't want to know when I am ready - he just wants to be surprised when I tell him we are preganant. Needless to say, he doesn't know that I have already started trying! :)

rmleon78 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

I am so nervous and excited at the same time. My hubby is 22 and im almost 23 and we just married in July and bought a house last August '09. We are both SO ready and TTC. Our biggest thing is that we dont really know when we will ever be ready, but We feel like we are. Plus I have mad baby fever, literally obsessed with looking at pics of babies. bad huh?

tbunting |

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I hope I get a plus sign. We decided to go ahead and start trying because of a broken condom. We were going to wait six months, but decided to go on. I am teacher, and my recent pay cut makes me nervous, but like my fiance said, plenty of people had unplanned babies prior to us. We want it sooo bad!  Trying to Conceive Ticker

Cherylleann |

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I agree JBATES! As much as I'm scared that I'm not ready, there will always be more money to make, vacations to take etc.. I'm 8 weeks along now and excited, I'm 25 and wondering if we should have waited longer seems pointless now since the deed is done. Besides, I like knowing that when my child graduates high school my husband and I will only be in our mid-fourties.

JessandIgli |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

You are never really ready for a baby. You just have to choose weather you want one. My husband and I have been married for almost 2-years. We both have great jobs and a nice house but we still can't make up our minds when we want to start having children. We currently have two laborador retrievers and they are great but they are a handful. We keep wondering if we are ok with just the dogs or expanding our family with children. Either way we do not use contraceptives so we feel that if we are blessed with a child then it was meant to be, and if not that is ok too. Make sure ladies you have plenty of love in your marriage before a baby comes.

godiva10884@yahoo.com |

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My husband and I have been together for almost 4 1/2 years, married for 5 months. We both have good jobs, however we live across the country from all of our family and we are beginning to feel financially stressed now that our school loan payments have begun to kick in. We don't yet own a home, and are questioning whether or not we need our family or a home of our own to raise a child...We want a baby SOOO bad but we want to make sure we can give our child the world...How do you really know when the time is right?

fossdouglas10 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

I need to think about my health, if my partner is supportive and if i'm financially secure

kayreejay |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

When you're ready, you're ready. Only you will know it.

mevans801 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

I am 28 and my DH is 29. We have been married 6 months, but have known each other and dated for most of the last 9 years. I have wanted nothing more than to be a mom since as along as I can remeber. My DH also wants to be a parent, but right now he is almost completely focused on finishing graduate school. He will finish all but a few online courses in May of 2011 and i feel at that time he would be able to focus more on starting a family. Is it selfish of me to want to TTC NOW? I feel like I've been waiting for so long to have a family with him and I don't want to put eveything on hold for a school schedule.

MiCat |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

I have been thinking about this as well... so I asked the parents around me what they thought... I wrote it all here: http://wp.me/pHvlM-ty

inacove |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

I agree with you INACOVE. I read your link and I think many would agree. Like you, I have talked to many parents around me. Many have complaints and reasons to "wait" or even "not have kids at all". However, my parents and my DH parents have also both explained that there is no love like the love a parent has for their child. While my DH and I are beginning the process of TTC, I view it so much like marriage. Many friends and family didn't hesitate to tell me the "bad" things about being married and the risks involved. However, since marrying my DH, I have realized that there is nothing like that either. That coming home and being with the man I love and sharing so much with him is priceless. There are "bad" times too, but the good things totally outweigh the bad. That is why, like you, I beleive that going through hard things, pay off in the end. I know I am ready to face the challenges and embrace the amazing moments of being a parent.

rmleon78 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

I love seeing everyones posts knowing Im not alone. The only thing holding me and my husband back from having a child is finances. He is still in college so I am the main provider and he always wanted to be the primary bread winner. I do have a 3 year old from a previous relationship and would love to have just one more. We are young (21) but I have fertility problems stemming from my sons birth and the longer I wait to concieve again the more complicated it becomes. Our finances are not horrible, we always make our bills and have extra but we are not exactly rich. Is there anyone who has had all or most of their children young? How do you feel about it?

ErinFarmer |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

Absolutely, And I cant wait for him/her to get here

breazellec |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

At 25 weeks pregnant i wonder if i am ready everyday. I am so excited to meet my little baby in april, but the road has been hard. The most important thing is to be supported, most importantly by the father. As wonderful as my pregnancy has been, believe it or not it can be a lonely road. My boyfriend will be a great dad, but he has little understanding of what is happening everyday. Just make sure to have as much support as possible and think.... There is never really a "good" time. Things will always come up.

mandygirl0308 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

My friend said, "Look, it's a 20 year commitment - you'll have ups and downs the whole time. You'll lose you job and your relationship will be disappointing at time just like anything. If you're going to have a baby and you've decided on it/planned it, just do it." My relative, not that I endorse it, is a career, independent woman. Her marriage was just about to fall apart and she said, "maybe if I just get pregnant." I had a bad reaction to this, of course, but actually, she's in her forties with 2 kids and is in one of the happiest stable relationships. Go figure. (I just had to play devils advocate on that one because people on here are doing their research and are probably not addicted to meth with terrible relationships) Nike. That's what I'm telling myself.

Budder21 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

My husband and I have been married 8 months and have been together for 5.5 years. Before we were engaged he had discussions with me about children. He definitely wanted one, maybe two, but I was hesitant. I never REALLY pictured myself as having children and we talked about it openly. After awhile I decided for myself that, because I love him, having children with him would be wonderful. He is a good person who cares about me and my feelings. We have talked about when would be a "good' time to start trying and at first it was two years after marriage. Since then we both have been laid-off, found new jobs, planned our delayed honeymoon, and I will be starting a brand new career in three weeks! With all of these changes to our lives this past year, I am now surprised that I have been thinking a lot about having our first child soon. It probably isn't a good time, but I can't help it. Our relationship is great, always has been; our finances are not quite on track, but getting there; and my new job will keep me busy (sales). Of course, having a baby will make the new career very difficult and I feel we will never fully recover from our financial woes from the lay-offs. Oh, what to do. Obviously I am spending time on baby websites and need to deal with this new feeling. Never thought I would feel like this. My eyes well up with tears just reading other people's comments about TTC, miscarriages, and learning they are pregnant. Any thoughts???

rosetti80 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

My husband and I have been married for almost 16 months, tackling everything together from unemployment to hospitalization in the first year. We've come out stronger, and to us, that's proof that we're emotionally ready for a baby. Financially is a whole other game - my income took a big hit the same week we got married, and while we aren't struggling to pay bills, we're simply not in the best position to be saving as much as we'd like. However, we are homeowners and live in a fantastic neighborhood, and we both have stable jobs - I think this is very important when starting a family. I have health issues that put me in the high risk category, and I fear that waiting more than another year or two will make things even riskier. We've started discussing TTC beginning this summer/fall, I definitely have babies on the brain so I'm starting to get anxious. It's tough to ever be 100% ready for a baby, especially financially, but we're confident in our marriage and ourselves as individuals that we'd be wonderful parents.

kmlb09 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

lol Some people aren't ready. Some people think they are. I'm not ready for a baby. But I am definitely ready for MY baby. :) I may not have all the stuff yet. I may not have the most money. But my family taught me all I need to know to make my new family survive and I know I can do it.

erynalexis |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

I have had baby fever for several months now, but I knew in reality my husband and I were just not ready. Now, we have decided to start trying to conceive right after our 2 year anniversary (we have been together 4 years). For those of you that are nervous about having baby fever and know that you are not ready yet, don't panic. I think it is a good sign and it is very fun to daydream about a time when you both will be ready. Enjoy this time of imagining and thinking of baby names and nurserys. I think the most important questions you need to be able to answer when thinking about being ready for a baby is, Are you ready for your life to change significantly and are you and your spouse prepared to handle those changes together responsibly? Good Luck to everyone!

allison9509 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

Well ready or not, here it comes! Seriously wish I hadn't had mono prior to conceiving since being tired, achey and pukey was already getting too normal, but life doesn't have to stop after kids. It might need to be on hold for a few years. My mother was getting her masters when I was born and finished it by the time I was two, then got her doctorate by the time I was 11. I was the 2nd child. My parents traveled somewhere at least once every year. It's all about what you make as your priorities. Maybe you don't need a HUGE house for a small baby, but you'd like to see Europe. Perfect. Save for that and forget about keeping up with other people. Babies are a HUGE responsibility and with in-laws who are divorcing as their second child turns one I have seen first hand how much stress they can put on a marriage. But mostly, it was a lack of communication. Dad didn't help out much but Mom let him wear her out, too. Too many people helping, not enough people taking responsibility. I work from home, and just started a business. We had our one year anniversary last week. We'll take it one day at a time, hope for the best and plan for the worst.

amandajean8514 |

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Amandajean8514, Thanks for your response. Our situations sound similar and it was nice to hear your perspective. After writing my response last week, I went home and told my husband that I was ready for a child in our life. We decided that come July we will stop trying to not get pregnant and just see where life takes us!

rosetti80 |

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I always think that we aren't ready for kids yet because we want to move back to our home first, we need to get finances right, we need to have good jobs, etc, etc, etc. I have thought this way for a long time, but then the next thought is - everyone else seems to do it no matter what their finances are, or where they live or how good their jobs are, so why can't we? People have kids and raise them with less than ideal conditions all the time right? That being said, I want to give my future child the best I can. I want to start trying, but I know I need to wait so we have a better situation. I'm turning 28 next month and I feel the time pressure! I have been saying the same excuses for the last 6 years of my life. I feel like if I keep that up, I'll never have a kid!

Luv4Avocados |

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My fiance and I are considering TTC this month. We have been together for 4 years, have been living together for 2 1/2, and are both older. He is going to be 38 and I will be 33 this year. I have a family history of cancer and the women in my family are diagnosed in their mid to late 30's. Unfortunately because of financial reasons, we really can't do the wedding that we want so we are putting that on the back burner for now. My family is supportive and says that we are both adults and responsible and don't need to be married if this is something that we truly want and that will make us happy. I really want to be a mother more than anything and I am scared that if we wait, my time to be one will never come. I am worried about finances and how it is going to affect our lives. I have two nieces and being around them makes me happier than ever. I know he will be a great father because he is wonderful with my nieces and with his friends children. It is just such a difficult decision to make because I don't know when it will be the right time for us to start trying. I just know that I have wanted to be a mother for as long as I can remember but am starting to worry about when the right time will be. My ob/gyn recommends that we start trying soon because of my family history but I am still having doubts. I am worrying about everything and anything and questioning if we have enough money to raise a child. Does anyone have any advice that can help....In desperate need of some advice.

scoobyluv78 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

I don't think there is EVER a right or perfect time but I think that if you and your partner are open and honest with eachother about your wants and expectations and make the decision together you are off to a great start

lollybird |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

I have had baby fever since my husband and I got married. we have only been married for 4 months, but have been together for 5 years. We have had alot change in our lives, we graduated college, got married, moved cross counrty, and are building a home. We are only 21 and everyone is against us having a baby, but I really really REALLY would love to add a little one into our family, though it is scary. I just don't know when a good time to start trying is. I feel like to others it is way to soon, but to us it seems like we are finacially ready, have our own home? IDK If no one had opinions about our life it would be easier. And here is another thing, we just moved and I dont have a job yet, and do i got start a job and do that or do we start a family? I'm lost lol. opinions would be nice?

myc8137 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

This is a HUGE topic in our house this week. I've been facing the overwhelming desire to become a mother, while my husband, who definitely wants children, would feel more comfortable if we waited another year or two. I worry that I will develop negative feelings toward him if we can't officially start trying soon. His concerns are very valid and he wants the best for his child and family, but this urge isn't letting up on me. I'm an emotional wreck somedays just thinking about it constantly. I love my husband beyond words and know he'll be an amazing father, I just have to wait until God has fully prepared us to embark on this journey together.

buttercup7187 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

I don't think my husband will ever be ready, we've been married for 2 1/2 years he wants to wait til at least we are married 5 years and by that time I will be 29 years old and doesn't leave me much time to have a lot of children. Yes he is almost done with his masters, by May he will be done, but work is paying for school so we don't have to worry about any school loans. The thing that botters me though that he jokes about is "Hey if we don't have any kids I can retire at 50!" which I don't know if I should cry or be happy. I also think why I'm thinking about babies my sister in law just had her 5th child and I want a baby too

atallyn |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

I agree with a lot of the posts on here that you are never going to be fully ready for baby... I think being married and in love with a good man who you have discussed the decision thoroughly with is the most important thing... Also being financially stable with supportive friends and family is wise... John and I just started trying and I hope and pray everything goes smoothly! :) But if it doesnt I know I have a partner their to lean on for support 100% of the way!

jenweber03 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

I loved that someone asked this so I can vent haha. I took out my IUD Mirena Nov 2010 (I have never had a baby) waited a month to let my cervix thicken. I got my period the day after I took out my iud had it for 9 days (heavy, Heavy) amazing I didnt die. haha then Dec 15 I got my 2nd period it was really heavy 7-9days. after that we started trying the whole 9 yards keeping the sperm in. prop your butt up on a pillow (everything) I thought if you are determined it will happen. about a week after I started getting cramps, back pain. headaches, exhausted, WAY BLOATED we went on our cruise Jan 8th to hopefully pee on a test and be positive, well I was wrong. We had sex the 9th and it started my period BOY was I shocked. well we have been trying this month but we told only a couple friends and they have said that they dont think its right for me. Im still young (22) we need to travel and how hard kids are. we have traveled a lot. Been together 7 years. i feel its time. I hate that I care so much what people think about me that now i feel we should wait. I want a baby and i know how hard they are. but has anyone's friends told them to wait?? and you felt Lost on what to do :/

clark0627 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

I dont think there is ever the "RIGHT" time to have a baby - Everyone saying they have a steady job and have traveled and finished school - Well, you might lose your job, you may want to travel more or you might want to go back to school. Point being - life is full of changes both ones you can predict and ones you cannot. If you plan to have your child based on what you think is stable, then you should just stop. Babies change EVERYTHING even the things you think are 'stable' so have a baby when you WANT to have a baby and the rest of the things will work out as best they can.

jennatylermayer |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

Here's my dilemma... Please let me know what to do.. I love my husband.. He's in school right now finishing up Pharmacy school. He's only in his second year. I'm turning 30 this year, he'll be 31. I hold a steady job with an average salary. I live with my inlaws while he's at school (separate cities). We want to have a baby.. but I want desparately to have my own place before then. He is very financially responsible and stresses that since he doesn't have a job, it would be better if I stayed with his parents. Although he's come around to us getting an apartment or rent a house until he finishes school one month before baby arrives. This is the settlement we've arrived to. It took a lot of fighting/arguing to get to this point. Is that normal? We are TTC right now.. but the fighting/arguing made me nervous. Are we ready? Is this a normal situation for hopefully soon-to-be parents??

Acyana |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

We are ready to have children. My husband and I have been together for 10 years and married for 5 months. So we don't just jump into things, we think them through. We have also decided that since I am in my 30's that now is the time.

Ranochock |

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Thank you! your awesome. great way of putting it. (Acyana) In reading your post. I have really realized I think everyone goes through those emotions. my husband and I are trying and im 22 i have matured really fast threw my years. so i just dont feel 22 anymore. I have the same questions are you. Am I really ready? how much is life going to change you?? will I even have a life? well those are the questions I have asked myself. Well I thought because my mom and dad and his family I would be VERY fertile, and we would nock it out the first month. well there goes the first, now the second month, and now the third. It is very frustrating. 3 months seems like an eternity when you are TTC. I have realized there is never going to be the PERFECT moment. never going to be the perfect situation, enough money in the bank. So I have pushed what my friends have said. NO BODY knows you. if you are ready then your ready. We havnt told my family because I didnt want them to try and change my mind. opinions are like ass wholes everyone has one!! remember that!! so BABY DUST to everyone. because im SO excited to start a family and cant wait. Hopefully It doesnt take much longer cause this is a bummer!! im excited for those of you starting/ or adding to the family thats really awesome!! :) keep us updated!!

clark0627 |

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(clark0627) You're right. No one's situation is perfect. My mind is muddled because I've gotten into the bad habit of 'keeping up with the joneses' My two close friends have spouses that work already, have a house already, and a baby on the way already. I feel so much older and soooo far behind. That stresses me out so that inadvertantly I'm stressing out my husband with my 'demands/wants' "Babe I want to move out" "Babe I want to have my own kitchen" "Babe I want to have the best nursery for the baby" "Babe I want all this" even though he doesn't even hold a job... I'm so mean for wanting all these things.. I have never lived in a house and I don't want to be stuck with my in laws for the rest of my life living with their rules and feeling like a child all the time. And I didn't ever think I would bring a child into a situation like that. But I guess each situation is different. My husband wants the best for me and our family one day.. that one day is just not now and I need to realize that and stop daydreaming. My heart breaks when I look around me and see what others have... but I know I need to stop.. just don't know how. HORMONES ughhh!!!!!

Acyana |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

You just know. We tried and it took like 3 months. I got pregnant 2 weeks after out anniversary. You know that you want to be a mom/dad for many reasons.

iloveu4ever |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

Am I ready to have a baby? At 16? Absolutly not. But everything happenes for a reason and I thank God for this baby :o)

FairyTailLove |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

There's never really going to be a right time, to be honest. I fell pregnant with twins by accident during the middle of planning my wedding. I thought that it was completely the wrong time, but then I realised it was the right time. It's not the perfect time, but it means that we have a whole extra year to plan our wedding, and we can have our girls as the ring bearers. I know that it's traditionally a male, but who cares? As I said, it's definately the right time, but it's also not. If you both feel you can cope with having the responsibility of a child, then chuck out the pill/condom/whatever. Just go for it.

georgiasaarmy |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

My fiance and I are expecting...and we have been together for 2+ years. I am 38, my fiance is 41. We realized there really was no better time than now to go for it. Nothing is ever perfect when you have a baby. I will never forget my old boss telling me: "You don't rearrange your life for the baby, you live your life WITH the baby" and I believe this 100%! We are full steam ahead on wedding plans AND honeymoon (baby or not)! And it's true...the later in life you wait to have a baby, the more secure work/finances etc. are....so we are DELIGHTED!!!

clipingirl |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

I think that no matter how ready you may think you are how ready you may seem no one is ever ready for a child because they have never experienced their own. God tells us when he knows we can handle a child and that is when we become pregnant even when it seems that it is happening in the worst moments.

paolaholmes |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

help. My husband and I have been married for 5.5 years. He just finished up law school as a night student and we had talked about having a baby once he was done. He agreed that we should try, which we have been for 4 months. Then a few days ago, he had an entire meltdown about our relationship and having a kid. Said all we ever talk about is having a baby, which is FAR from true, since we hardly ever talk about it. That he's worried about having to give up his hopes and dreams to provide for a kid, having to work a job he doesn't like, etc. What I thought were minor cold feet, were really big issues. I know we need to work on our relationship but he's unwillilng to talk about the kid issue until we get counseling for the other. My concern is what if after all of that, he doesn't want to have a kid. That's not somethign I can live with, and I am not getting any younger (32y.o.). Can anyone offer me advice?

ksukersh |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

How long would you wait after just starting a new job? A year? 6 mos? Is there a decent amount of time before you spring it on your new boss that you want to have a baby? And sorry about you're situation, ksukersh, i wish I had some advice to give...

RoniandJosh |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

ksukersh: I am currently a student getting my master's in Counseling. All of the concerns you have expressed on here are valid and should be shared with your counselor. In order for your counseling experience to be helpful you will have to open up completely so that the counselor can be able to make educated decisions on what path of therapy is right for you and your husband. I feel for you and hope that talking to someone helps your husband open up and discuss you guys future together instead of felling so overwhelmed that he explodes on you again. My prayers are with you.

Candy-Bar |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

I can NOT shake the feeling of wanting a baby. My husband and I have been married for 2 years, and I am SO ready. He would be ready too, however, we have a lot of student loan debt that we really want to pay down first, but that is going to take years, and it makes me depressed to think we'll have to wait that long for a baby :( Why can't we just win the lotto or something? Ha.

aamo516 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

Right now I think I am at a good point in my life to have a baby. I love where we live, its close to both families. We are finacially stable. I think age wise this is a good time. I've been with my fiance for four years and we both think a baby would help enrich and fulfill our lives. The only problem? I'm scared to give birth!! I'm afraid to give birth, but also afraid to wait! I feel its the right time, how can I get over/deal with this fear?

KKMorga88 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

We are getting ready to start a family within the the next year. That is I will see the doctor and get through the medical side of it first. We both realize it will take time. The only concern I keep having is money. And everyone tells me it doesn't matter if you have it or don't. The time will never be right in that aspect. BUT that is so hard for me to believe. I will get unpaid maternity leave and that bothers me. We have already started paying off debt and starting on a savings. I guess we'll just let nature take it's course. I mean unless you are wealthy and have your debt completely paid, when is anyone ever financially ready?

emmyvera |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

We go back and forth on this issue, I honestly never saw myself as a mother, or married for that matter until I fell in love with my hubby, who changed my mind about marriage. Once an Independent women with no time to spare now I am 1/2 of a couple, we think of each others' needs and work as a team, we are opposites and it works, we complement each other. As for parenting, we are considering the ticking time-bomb being 39 and 40 wondering if we should enjoy being newlyweds or make a baby ( a person) a life long commitment. That is a lot to think about then you factor in advance maternal age risks, time is not on our side, we found love late now we feel the pressure but he is a free spirit, we love to travel and have our wild schedules, he is a musician and I am back to school (medical) so there is not much spare time. I know my life would change, I would have to reset my priorities and he will have do the same... Just not sure... but don't want to miss out on the opportunity to have a child together. tic toc.....

LoreinCuevas Ramirez |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

There are so many things to consider... We ask ourselves that everyday. I can't wait until the answer is a confident "yes". My blog touches on the struggles and path of figuring that out. http://babycravings.blogspot.com/

BabyBound |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

Once you hit 3 kiddos its all over with.....lol! I am 16 days away from our 6th & have sacraficed my career, our home & even our transportation due to the economy. I will say "YES" strongly that I am ready for this baby. All of our children are excited except for the youngest who can't really understand. I scheduled my delivery 10 days prior because my husband is in the Army & will be shipping out on my actual due date. God Bless him & Thank God that baby making is not an issue in our family. Cheers!

justlikegrammy |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

I'm 29 and my husband is 30. We talked about it for months, and decided we were ready to have a baby and would aim to have our first when we were 30. It took us two months to get pregnant. I found out on March 8 that I was pregnant. I was ecstatic all day long. I came home that night and I cried and cried. I'm scared about how much everything's going to change. I cried because I'm going to get huge (selfish? maybe. honest? yes.) I cried because it'll be the end of our "just us" time, and I'm going to miss it. I'm scared to be a mom. No matter how much you plan for it or you appear to be "ready" on paper I don't think there's a perfect, ideal time. It doesn't matter if you're 22 or 52. It's going to shake things up at our house, huge time. I still have those moments of panic - I think a lot of new moms go through this!

snowgirl0429 |

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So lately I have felt ready to start trying to have a baby, but by DH is totally not ready. He keeps saying soon, but how soon? I don't want to get upset with him so how do I control my desire to have a baby without attacking/pushing him to be ready?

jackersCU |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

My Career?.. i'm a freelance graphic designer I just started my business i'm not married, i'm 27 yet i'm still in school .. so finances are a bust .. i'm pregers now... our relationship has been like a 3 legged dog.. kinda unbalanced. but being pregnant has brought us closer. Space as of now? its ok a 1 bedroom flat, I don't mind for now but later on i will want to get a bigger piece of real estate. most of my friends have children already . so i get advice from them me helped raise my little brother so i'v been maternal since a young age, my only concern is child birth.. I've never given birth.. so i'm worried. my thing is its here we have the means so lets do it and do it to the best of our ability's.

blaqjo |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

I agree with other posts about not being a "right time" because more often that not, there there will always be more money, more promotions, and other situations that crop up which can always be a reason for why its not the right time. Also, on the flip side, waiting for the right, exact moment, carries its own risk. After a certain age, it becomes harder to conceive, pregnancies become higher risk, and advanced maternal age carries increased risk of birth defects, cancers, and other complications. So, in the end, its a personal choice, and there is no right answer. I an 29 and my husband is 31. We dated for five years and have been married for about 6 months. I started a new job as a lawyer about 7 months ago, and my husband is in medical school. We have massive amounts of school debt, and have no idea where we are going to move in a year for his medical residency. We are about 2 months pregnant, and overly estastic about our new addition. I know we have a lot to figure out financially and life-wise, but in the end, I know its worth it. Because despite our nervousness about the future, when our baby is born, financial struggle or not, hard labor or not, sleepless nights or not, parental woes or not, that little baby will make everything else worth it.

pdas2003 |

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It is such a relief to read these posts! Thank you ladies! My hubby and I have been married for almost 5 years (July), he is 32 and I am 33. I have been ready to TTC for years, but he's been reluctant because he is very practical. He is just starting a photography business and I am a teacher (without a full-time job yet). Financially, we know a baby will be a challenge, but I'm not getting any younger! Our marriage is very strong and we have done well together through tough times, both financially and emotionally. We've been saying we'll start TTC as soon as this, as soon as that... but it never seems to be the right time or the right situation. I've been feeling the pressure of my age because we have several couples of friends who are having trouble conceiving. It scares me. What if we TTC and still aren't pregnant in 4 years? (Like one couple who are friends of ours.) Just last weekend, my DH said that we shouldn't wait any more to start trying and I was so shocked, I didn't bring it up to make sure I'd heard him correctly. I just waited to see if he would reach for the condom the next time we made love. And... he didn't!!! (This week is my highly fertile week, so I'm hoping for baby!) But then, he freaked out last night and said no BD unless we used a condom. He knows this week is high fertility, but said he didn't want to add to the chances we'd get pregnant. I'm praying he stops worrying and freaking out. We have always been very blessed and I am sure we will be okay. I just don't want to miss out on being a Mom. I've wanted to be a Mom since I was a little kid.

MeManders |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

jackersCU: Trust me when I say that I feel your frustration. My husband was exactly the same way. As hard as it is to hear, the only thing I can say is that you have to give him his space. Give him time to think, but make sure that there are opportunities to "check in" with him periodically - say every six months or so. Also, it's probably a good idea in the meantime to expose him to kids - hang out with your friends that have kids, and encourage him to play with them, talk to them, etc. This way, he gets used to the idea gradually, and you have a chance to see how he interacts with children. Good luck!

andrea426 |

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I am 22 and I am ready to be a mom. I have been around kids my entire life. I was an aunt at 10 and now have over 25 nieces and nephews. My husband and I just started trying to have a baby this month, but I have been on BCP for a while so we are not expecting to get pregnant this month but will be happy if we did. We hope that in the next few months we will be able to see a positive pregnancy test! We are very excited to start expanding our little family and experience the many joys (and also hardships) together of parenting.

milkshake336 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

My hubby and I are close to finishing school and would like to have a baby before I try and enter the workforce. We have been married a year and together 6 years. We are starting a little younger than most because we want a large family. We will be going on BCP in a couple months and we are so excited!

ratchet99 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

We believe we are. Since Sept. 4(MC) its all in God's hands. We are both in school, but both working full time jobs. Not easy, we know, at least we have each other and we both want to better ourselves for our family.

civey2010 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

My husband and I will be together for 7 years, in October, and married for one, in May. He is 6 years older than me (in his early 30s) and was ready the moment we married. We have a lovely house with a room that has been painted and given window treatments in preparation for a future baby. Both of us are finished school (although I still have a Master's thesis to write). We both have good jobs. We plan to start trying in a couple months (July). I already found a OB I am comfortable with. She is the all natural kind, which fits our lifestyles perfectly. I already made my appointment with her for June since she gets booked for new patients very fast. I feel mostly ready but in some ways not...I am a huge planner. The idea of the unknown frightens me a little. However, I know in my heart it will be ok. I was a little sacred of the life changes that I thought marriage would bring but that turned out to be wonderful. We are both blissfully happy and want to start a family. For him, time is more of an issue.

PamelaA |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

Wow, it's so great to see everyone's responses! I feel like I could have written several of these comments word for word. So good to know I'm not alone. And yeah, right now it's "our little secret" so it's nice to be able to "talk" to people about it on here. We just started trying this month and I am DYING to know if it worked! I don't feel ready at all, but we decided after 7 years of marriage, we may never really feel ready, and we just have to take the plunge!

IliaG |

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We are six weeks pregnant and have known for a little over a week. We were TTC for 1 1/2 years. We are both excited, but I'm also very nervous. I came from a divorced family, and my DH came from the same. He was brought up in a terrible environment, but we have been working through the effects of that. Yesterday he freaked out on the dog for being hyper. It just makes me worried about our baby and family. I am having a hard time not picturing myself as a single mother even though I also know that he'll be a loving father. We have spent time around children and babysat for weeks at a time. He was good with the babies then. I just think that I am feeling protective and emotional. I wish I was only feeling excited bliss. That is what I had envisioned the past few years of TTC. So that you don't get the wrong idea, he's a great person. He has already made like 7 baby registries. I just am worried about the effects of his poor upbringing and lack of stress management skills. I could go on and on because I am stressing out. I can't tell if I have a nervous tummy or am nauseated!

toosamom |

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YOU JUST FEEL IT.

motherhood1 |

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Update to my post above. I had been taken off of zoloft too quickly and was having severe depressive side effects. I called the doctor and got a safe plan to taper down the medication, and all of the aforementioned worries are a thing of the past! YAY! If anybody else is having depression when you know you should feel happy and have just come off an antidepressant, please talk to your doctor to get a safe way to stop taking it. You don't have to feel sad either!!!!

toosamom |

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their room is it ready for a little cute baby to sleep in and is it safe.

mommakyla |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

No one is ever really ready to have a child but if you can afford to have one I see no reason why not to consider trying for one. My husband and I have been trying since a year after we got married. We occasionally do our thing and wait for results. In the past they have been all negative test results but we know when we are going to be pregnant we will work it out for the best for us and our family + baby to be

annette5002 |

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Last Sunday was the last date of BCP. After this cycle - we're going to TTC. Am not sure how I feel about it yet... With respect to finances, I'm way too much of a planner - so that's not an issue. We're on track with finances - no problem. Pretty sure the only hurdle right now is my being unsure of having a baby. I guess it'll change once I know I'm pregnant. I've been doing everything right (i.e. no NSAIDS, no alcohol, don't smoke, trying to maintain my weight etc etc) but i'm still on the fence... Kinda apprehensive - coz am not sure how it'll change our lives... and I kinda like our life the way it is...

DulcitaHwan |

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Dulcita--I can completely relate. My husband and I have been TTC for the past 9 months and I still feel very anxious about it. It doesn't help that I have had issues with anxiety and depression all my life. And now, my anxiety is in high gear. Anybody else dealing with this? I went off of Welbutrin when we started TTC and now I'm wondering if that was the right choice. I'm having trouble sleeping because I'm so nervous about having a baby. I keep obsessing over how everything is going to change and how I really like the life we have created for ourselves. I keep worrying how a baby is going to affect everything. And, of course, it doesn't help that I am 34 and my husband is 36--I feel that the pressure is on--especially since he is so ready and I know he will be an amazing dad. I just wish I could stop worrying. Help--please!

Cami1976 |

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I too am anxious about how much a baby will change our lives, but all the parents I have asked about it say, 'YES your life will change but its completely worth it!' My husband and I are about to celebrate our one year wedding anniversary, and we have discussed TTC sometime in the beginning of next year. It's very exciting :) but I know how different our lives will be, so I am going to soak up every minute of freedom I can in the next 6 months! I'm sure I will be just as stressed as you Cami1976 when it really comes down to it. I worry most about how much my body will change and if I can handle giving birth. I hear from a recently preggers friend to rub Vitamin E lotion all over your tummy to avoid stretch marks (like everyday) and I also hear that you should wear a kind of Ace bandage on your tummy after the baby to provide support unitl your stomach muscles have a chance to rebuild. I plan to remember and use these tips!

elisagoulart |

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im 34week i think i about to have the baby '

naseemaltaher |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

My DH and I have been married for 3 years and we were high school sweethearts. I'm 21 which i know is young but i'm ready to have a baby but he's not (he's 6 years older). Where i work lots of babys come in and it's so hard on me. Everytime i see a baby i want to cry because i want one so bad. We have the room in our house but he says we have to wait till we can afford one. My mom says you can never really afford to have a baby, you have to just do it when your ready. My DH doesn't understand that because he came from a well off family so he's not use to not having lots of money. I feel that as long as we are both working we can afford to have a baby. Any tips on how to help him come around to the idea?

burgmorton |

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I've known my guy for 15 years; we've been together 4; engaged for 1.5. We're getting married in 3 days... and I'm 3 months pregnant. Wasn't planning a baby this soon, of course, but stuff happens, right? At first he was excited and I was definitely not on board. But now I'm really happy. Although it's been really hard not telling anyone! We want to wait til after the wedding. Anyone else in this situation? What did you do?

Blondathon |

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My husband and I have been together for 3 years and married for 8 months and we are just starting TTC but not focusing too much about it - letting nature take its course for now. We knew we were ready when we were BOTH ready at the same time. Sure, we are both stressed financially, but we know that there will never be a good time financially or career-wise. We have a solid, stable and happy relationship and that is the most important part, because even if we end up in a bad financial situation (though I'm sure we can make it work) we know that we will be fine and we will work it all out because we are solid together and both emotionally ready. When the only worries you have left are the worries about whether or not it is financially or career-wise the right time, then I think you know you might be ready. There will never be a truly "right" time. It will happen when it happens. Besides, think of the old days when no one got to choose!

alliekathleen |

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This is a major choice to make, one of if not the most important decision you will ever make, whether as a couple or a single woman. When I was in my early 20's I can honestly say I had no desire to every have children, and I believed that would never change. Then as I got a little bit older, settled down into marriage and reached the year in which I will turn (gasp!) 28, I am faced with a surprising change of heart: not only has my perspective on the "going through changes, giving birth and being a parent forever" slowly been changing, but my desire to get pregnant and have a baby NOW has suddenly kicked into overdrive. I have been married 3 1/2 years now, we own our own home, both work full time and are reasonably situated. We don't have much savings, but there is time to clean up our finances and pad the account before baby comes anyways. Being conservative and willing to make sacrifices is a good indication you are mature enough to handle the change a child will bring to your life. One thing I have learned is, you will NEVER be 100% ready. So, when you feel it's the right time, then you are correct. I'm hoping for some good news in a few weeks, who knows? Either way, this is the next step in life and I'm ready to take it. Just like a few people on here, I'm wondering if we were successful already, although I haven't had a regular cycle so even though I've been off bc for 10 days and no period yet, I have no idea. I'm having pre-parent jitters like, Will I be a good mom? Can I give my baby everything he/she needs? I am excited and nervous about potential impending parenthood, but this is normal!!

JennVB |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

how they cry

Odilloce |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

im new here lol. and i will be 21 in about a month and am getting married this coming october. i thought i was pregnant about 2months ago...took 2 hpt and both had a faint positive, but when i got blood work done, it was negative. i can not wait to have kids and my fiance and i have also talked about it and he is ready to. we've been trying, but at the same time not been trying...pretty much we havent used anything but each other...and other then a couple months ago nothing has happened. i would love to start like trying trying soon after we get married, but i am scared that since nothing has happened as of yet that theres something wrong with me....am i just being paranoid?

abrown74 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

That really isn't an easy one, but I think that when thinking about TTC, you should think about goals, career, friends, family, and your partner. There are many things to take into consideration and shouldn't be taken likely.

tehook |

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The only issue we are having is the finances. I am unable to work, so it's only my husband bringing in the income. I think we should start saving a little each month being trying. Luckily, and perhaps oddly, I have no friends or social life, so that aspect of little time for friends wouldn't bother me at all lol

mintymadness |

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absolutely. we've been trying for a very LONG time.

Andrea |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

We're due in December. And definitely not as ready as we could be. We didn't try for a baby, it just kinda happened, and now a lot of things are coming up that we wouldn't have thought about about beforehand. Neither of us are out of school yet, and I won't be going back for a while, not until my soon-to-be-hubby graduates in a year or so. That's a bit strain on finances, and definitely something to think about. Also, we rent our apartment, and didn't know about the little one when we decided not to renew the lease here, so now we have to find a new place that's kid friendly- not easy in a college town. At least our relationship has always been stable! And we were planning on getting married before we found out about the little one! :)

kineta |

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YES!!!!

KeepLiving |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

first sign that you are ready - when your friend start to say that you already look like a mommy and acting too. second is that you have a list of what you will do when baby born and of course you imagine different situations with your baby ))))

Viktoria85 |

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The main thing with knowing whether you and your signifigant other is ready to have children is communication. You two have to be on the same page. Before me and my husband got married we talked about kids and whether or not we wanted them. We both agreed we did, but we also agreed that we shouldn't rush into it. So often now couples are having children before the ink is even dry on their marriage certificate. If right after marriage you feel you're ready for kids that fine. But for us, we knew we would want to take a few years for ourselves. Now after 3 years of marriage we have started trying to get pregnant. We believe we have enough love in our hearts and home to include a child.

shanika18 |

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My husband and I have been together 4 years and married for 2. I'm truly getting the "baby bug"- meaning having a baby is all I have been thinking about lately! My husband and I have a great relationship, a steady income, but a lot of debt due to college expenses and a recent move. Does anyone have any advice or input when it comes to debt/loans and a baby? Is it possible, or do we wait until more is paid off? I just feel like waiting to get out of debt is pointless because we'll probably always have some kind of loan to pay off! I'm also a very impatient person at times, so I don't want to be bias in any way just to have a baby, since I understand this is a huge commitment and life change!

carriewahl613 |

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me and my boyfriend are both 17 and we wanted a baby. We had only been dating 2 weeks when we became sexually active with each other. I told him when I was 6 weeks pregnant. Before I got with my boyfriend I became pregnant with a baby amd had a misscarrage and no one understands until that little life gets takin away from you how hard it is. I was scared I wound get happy about being pregnant and then that get takin away from me again. I am 12 weeks pregnant and I am due a week after his 18th birthday I hope this baby will stay in me and give him a bundle of joy on his birthday he told me he hopes I have the baby on his birthday. I am still scared but we can make it and I try to love every minute of being pregnant. Next year is our senior years in highschool and before we graduate we will have a baby. We have already talked about where I was going to stay when I have it and it will come at least 3 months before my 18th birthday... I hope we last for the baby I would do anything... I believe you will never be ready even if you have a planned pregnancy you just have to pick up the peices as you go...

mommymorgie |

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So...I've always been the type to want to go out explore the world, try new things, and be wild and crazy. I'm 24, my husband is 35 and we've been married for 2yrs. The moment we became husband and wife, I completely made a switch and talked about having babies constantly. I just started prenatals and we want to ttc in August. I am COMPLETELY freaking out. I'm worried we won't go on vacations,experience life, be the fun loving couple we are and I'll get "ugly" and my husband won't love me as much. I know it all sounds vain, but I can't help it. I don't know if this means I'm not ready or I'm just nervous for the changes that may be in my near future. I know no one can give me the right answer, but any insight would help!! (I'd talk to family, but we are keeping it a secret!!)

Jhart717 |

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Lets see...... my husbands family has wanted us to have a baby since we where 20. My family....... I have 9 neices and nephews and I am the baby. We got married 14 months ago. I am now 27.......... long story short. YES YES YES!!

Rebecca Nannini |

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@Jhart717 The same thing with me! Can't decide. One moment I want it so much and next minute I am all freaked out that we won't have 'us' time, hubby will love our kid more than me, my body will literally deteriorate b/c of pregnancy etc. But I am 25 and hubby is 32, have been married for 3 yrs: we gotta do it sometime soon. I am on prenatals for the last 2 weeks and tomorrow going to see my doctor - to talk. Scared and excited at the same time.

Tate85 |

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I feel the same way if theres any advice please help. my husband and I are a young couple married almost 2 yrs and we've decided to start trying at the end of this year and we've been putting it off every time we say we're gonna try I get scared and back out. I'm terrified of labor and what my body is going to go through. Raising a baby doesn't scare me its everything else. I've heard all these horror stories of what all could go wrong and thats all I tend to think about.

monkey20 |

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I'm terrified to have kids, especially now that me and my husband fights all the time. I feel like I won't ever be ready to have one. I feel like having one will trap me. Ive been taking care of my siblings since I was 18, and Im not ready to have more responsibilities right now. What to do?

serahxue |

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YES!! got presents and gonna do a party at the lake

AshleyG2010 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

yup we are read to have a baby...

paruls |

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I am not ready but i have to be ready because giving her up is ot an option so we have to prepare for this little bundle one way or another

clouinis |

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I'm so relieved to see all these responses. I have been freaking out about a having a baby and my husband is just so eager. He is a kindergarten teacher and he used to be a nanny so he has lots of experience with children. I have none. I am 36 and love working and going to school but I know I can't wait for the right time anymore because for me that would probably be in 20 years!! I worry about money, body changes, miscarriages, disabilities, and labor. I thought I was going insane but I actually feel more confident now that I know that there are others out there with concerns too. Thank you all for reminding me that I am not alone.

LilHam530 |

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This made me sad. I'm gonna be a single parent but I'm sure I'm ready :) The father will be my best friend, Josy. She'd make an awesome dad!

Jessica OHH |

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I am 32, college educated and have been happily married for 2 years. We both have great careers with a combined income well within the middle class. We have more than enough space at home for a baby. My husband is 40 and is a great father to his three older children (11, 13, and 17) from a previous marriage and they don't want for anything. I am 7 weeks today with my first child and scared beyond belief that I am not ready to be a mother. I am so worried that I will not be able to give my child the great childhood that my parents gave me. I worry that I am too selfish to be a mom. I worry that I love my career too much and will neglect my child. I honestly feel like I am 16 years old and faced with the prospect of motherhood while still in high school. Is there anyone out there who DIDN'T at least somewhat feel like this upon finding out that they were going to have their first child? I hope that these worries are normal!

BGo |

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:) Yea it is a tough question you ask yourself and deciding on a boy or girl is much tougher since i wanted the boy and she wanted the girl the result was we chose to have one of each but decided on having the Boy first to watch over his Little sister this is when we learned about actually choosing. Yes choosing is possible and all we did was follow this books priceless words and allowed us to have our beautiful son LiL G since he is my JR :) Check it out www.GENDERBABYSHOP.COM YOU WILL NOT BE DISSATISFIED.

Gabriel H |

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I never really thought about having kids before now. I was always focused on falling in love and following my dreams of becoming a successful actor and/or director. My husband and I have been together for over six years and married for almost two. I'm still in grad school getting my MA in Theatre and thinking about going for an MFA in Directing. To do that we'd have to move to California where I've never been and is so far away from our current place in Missouri. Though I'd love to move, I don't even know if we can afford to with our debt and no savings. Our best friends are having a baby, and though we are a little jealous, we don't envy the stress they have with no finances. My husband let's me know that he's ready to have kids and I know he will be an excellent father, but I don't know if I would be a good mother. My husband had two younger sisters but I was the youngest of my family. I've never been around babies and that scares me, not to mention that I have heart problems and his family has a history of different heart problems. It all seems so risky, but I still want to have a family with my husband. I just don't know if now is the time or if it would be better to adopt. Any advice or resources would be very much appreciated. Are there health insurances or financing for couples who want to have kids but can't afford to? Are there any free classes on preparing yourself for pregnancy and parenting? I didn't have the luxury of learning what good parenting would be. I don't know where to begin. I'm great with raising, caring, and loving animals, but I'm clueless when it comes to human babies.

Rab787 |

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im ready because now since i came this far in my pregency i have some sorta of connection with my girls. A conection more of a bond. I remeber at first it was so hard for me to adjust to having two kids but now im just trying to adjust on focusing on being the best parent ever !!!!!

TruN |

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I am ready but nervous about how my 5 year old will react with a new baby at home. She has always wanted a sibling, but she is very jealous when I carry my friends babies. I had a miscarriage a few months ago so we havent told anyone yet. Any suggestions on when I should tell everyone I'm pregnant?

lunamiah |

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sanjiba |

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The DH and I have been together a total of 12 years and married for 5. We started talking about married life after 3 1/2 years dating the the decision to marry took 3 years for him to get used to. Now, being married for over 5 years, being ready for a new addition years ago, and turning 31, I am still waiting for him to be "ready". We've been talking about it for several years even having names picked out for our future boy and our future girl. We've discussed the kind of parents we would like to be and the struggles we will get through. Last year, I was done "talking" about it and was ready. We sat down and I asked him how much time he needed before he would be ready. We had a good cry as he expressed his excitements and fears and told me he would be ready to start trying in a year. A few months ago, we had the prep talk and I went to the doc for the checkup. I began taking pre-natal. vitamins and ovulation tests. I was open with him and told him when we would start trying. The time is now. This week we were supposed to start trying. I tried to get him to talk to me. He was silent and kept himself busy throughout the entire day. When we did get talking, he expressed that it came too soon. He said he's not, NOT ready, but that he's also not ready. (Make sense?) He doesn't seem to have anyone to talk to about this. I am married to a touring musician. We knew all along how different our relationship would be. We've been clear and realistic about what our lives would be with a child when he is away. He is going to be a great father who will be loved and respected by our future child. I just wish he could see this. Any help? What fears did you guys (wondering if any husbands read this) have to overcome to be ready? In what ways did your husbands/boyfriends/sig. others overcome the fears of parenthood? Thank you!!!

TheBoneBaby |

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Are we ready for another one? I have a 13 month old and I'm ready for another one is it to soon?

brandi2wade |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

My husband and I plan to start a family within the next couple of years. We are trying to get healthier and more financially secure. We currently do not have any health insurance. One of my biggest concerns about having a baby is financial obligations. Can anyone give me a general idea of monthly baby costs? Food, diapers, supplies...those types of items. I'd really appreciate any and all input!

devinraishele |

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We have been planning on starting a family this summer. Now that that planning has become a reality, I am totally freaking out. I am a flood of emotions ranging from am I going to be a good mom to are we going to be able to afford a baby.

lora2116 |

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Wow, reading all of these responses makes me feel so much better. My husband and I have been married for two months but we want to start our family so badly. Our relationship is very strong and secure but he stresses and worries over every little detail and I'm such a planner (I tend to even schedule bathroom breaks on vacations. Lol.) that we get so caught up in every minor detail it feels like we will never commit to having a baby. We worry about space, finances, childcare, careers, and then I worry about the labor and it's scary and we psych ourselves right out of it. He's 37 and I'm 29 and we both know if we want more than one child (we're thinking 2 or 3) we need to get started. It feels like we're just going to have to listen to our hearts and clocks and go for it! :)

mrsashlilee |

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I've been through a lot in my life and I practically raised my 5-yr-old little sister before I left home. I love children, and while I have plans to start beauty school soon, they aren't definite. When I think about having a career, it just doesn't seem like the right choice for me and in all honesty, I can think of nothing better I'd like to do with my life other than be a mother.

KittyMarie219 |

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I am ready but my husband is not as he has done nothing to get healthy. Dr said that smoking is terrible when TTC but he still smokes and has not cut down on drinking either. It used to be the women's " responsibility" years ago but things have changed. Unfortunately I am on my own and doubt I'll be having a baby soon. Putting loads of stress on the relationship as he says he is ready but actions speak louder than words to me.

Yelles |

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I believe your never ready until that lil bundle of joy is in your arms. With our daughter I was laid off and found another job only to find out i was pregnant two weeks later. They then turned and laid me off 2 days after that. My husband and I had just moved back home to help my parents out and that back fired on us. At 25 weeks pregnant my parents lost the house and in turn we were all homeless for about two weeks before finding something. She was born 3 weeks early and we shared a small 3 bedroom house. when she was a month old my husband and i moved our new lil family into our own lil 2 bedroom townhome. Not only is timing ever perfect it can actually really suck. I have no regrets and love my lil girl with all of my heart. She is almost 17 months now and i am currently working and two weeks after starting i found out i am pregnant. Currently 13 weeks. I take it as it comes. Living life to the fullest. My husband and i are very happy we have been together since we were 15 a grand total of 10 year married for 4 years both been to college and we actually work for the same company. Everyone is different and has different goals and life stories. Don't let the pressures of society make the decision for you. Write your own book don't go and copy someone else. Some day your gonna look back and see all that you have done not what you didn't get done.

messfam07 |

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I'm 20 and have been married a year, we bought our house already, even looking into buying property, our new puppy is trained and everything is going good. We are ready to have a baby and our parents are excited for the day when we do. No one knows we are trying (3 months and counting...) but some girls recently got pregnant at work and everyone is saying I better not be next. I'm so sick of eveyone saying that having a kid is a death sentance for the rest of my life. Its my life and If I want a family get off my back. And it doesn't help that the one person who was all excited for me to have kids died this week :(

amber murphy |

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when i was younger and we had those "what do you want to do when you grow up?" days at school, i'd always take it home to my parents too, and my mom always said "i always wanted to be a mommy" - which i never understood until she had my siblings (much later than she had me). and from about the time i turned 16, that's what i wanted too. yes, a career is important, but when you really look at it, when you leave this world, your children are the legacy you're leaving behind. so when my now-husband and i met, i was 22 and he was 31 (divorced with a 10 yr old and a 12 yr old) and we were planning baby names from our first date. we'd planned to wait 18 mo-2 yrs before getting married (to pay off debt, get a better job, etc etc) but had been loosely ttc since i was told i'd have trouble. and right when we started planning our huge wedding (and ultimately decided to elope) i found out i was 8 weeks pregnant! i was terrified! it's what i'd always wanted, but i wasn't sure i was ready. we lost her at 27 wks when i took a tumble and i felt so guilty for questioning it at the begining. there's never a perfect time to be pregnant - except when you are. whether you plan it or not, a baby is going to be one of the most amazing, frustrating, troubling, expensive, amazing thing that happens to you! we're now 20 weeks pregnant again and while i'm terrified of something happening, i realize that what's meant to happen will happen and the best we can do is be open to the idea of going along for the ride!

knferrell717 |

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We are ready!!!!!!

law2112 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

Yes!

rachelmcl83 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

Referring to the issue of having a baby soon after (or even before) marriage: I think every couple needs to create their own timeline and should try to ignore what may be the popular or common timeline in society. Some people may think my husband and I didn't give ourselves enough time as a couple (we've been married 10 months and we're 7 weeks pregnant), but we both felt we didn't want to wait. Just take a close look at your life and see if there's anything else you might want/need to accomplish before a baby. We both have degrees, have traveled, have landed jobs that we like, why wait? We may not be anyone's idea of rich, but I'd rather have our kids while we're still young and healthy.

TiffanyG10 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

My body, my mind and even my daughter are ready for a new baby! However, my finances and my fiance may not be. He is a wonderful father to my daughter and does bring up wanting to be a father, but I know that there are things that we really have to work out in our lives first! I'm having SERIOUS baby fever though!

MizReal |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

My husband and I have been married for a year and a half and together for four and a half years. I have been wanting kids for quite some time now. To my surprise, my husband came to me last week and told me he's ready! We are both super excited, scared, nervous....everything. Will we be good parents? Are we really ready? At this point I will be turning 26 in a couple months and he's 30. We have a nice house and our relationship is great (not perfect, but we have learned to work through any problems together as a team). There are always some cons. I just recently started my own business, BUT I work from home and make my own hours. This is the first time in almost 5 years either of us have been home long enough to consider kids...everything happens for a reason ;)

Wildasin0926 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

Yes, we have been trying for over a year but for the last 6 months we have actually started to keep track. If we don't conceive by October we will move on to seeing a doctor.

katiesimpson2009 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

I believe no one is ever ready. We are both done with schools and both have good steady jobs with good benefits, and we just bought a nice big house in the suburbs with excellent schools. the nursery is decorated, we've picked out the pediatrician, and my mom is going to move in with me to help out at first. On paper we're ready, but we don't feel ready at all. Though we're super excited and can't wait to meet him!

stitchiepie222 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

I am getting married next Month and i am contemplating on having a baby after i get married. I dont know if you should wait. I am already 26 and my husband to be is 24 he wants a baby right away, but i am confused. We've been living together for 2 years already.

ngarcia12Wed37469 |

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i am ready for a beautiful healthy buddle of joy. i am 30 years old and im an instuctor and cosmetologist. i just recently had a miscarriage. i think something is wrong with me. my doctor said nothing is wrong. i have had a total of 2 miscarriages, i am a good person and i just want my own baby. i really think its time. i am stable and im so happy in love.me and the man im with are ready hes a good man and im ready for a famiy of my own

meat meat |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

My husband and I are both 25 and have been married since April and we started trying to have a baby the following month! I grew up as the oldest of 9 siblings and I have wanted a baby of my own since I was 17 or 18! We have our own house, vehicles in working condition, and one of our jobs would provide us with free childcare if we could not afford for me to stay home. The worst part of trying to conceive for the first time is not the waiting, its the not knowing if it's possible. My absolute worst fear is not being able to have babies. The Lord has really brought me to my knees before Him these past few months to have faith and to trust that His timing is perfect!

Hannah4211 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

Yes!

Maricela94 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

We've been married for almost 3 and a half years..lived together for 5 years before that, had oru shares of ups and downs, and it just feels like it's the right time in our lives to take that next step. It came upon us really pretty suddenly, the decision, and it's not that we're any more financially secure, because we totally aren't, but just like everyone always says..I don't think you ever will be 100% ready in that department. So I'm so excited! I've been off birth control for several months now and we're been actively trying this month. I don't know what I'll do if it doesn't happen this first time of actually trying, as unreastic as I know that is. I can't wait to finally see that 2nd line on the pregnancy test stick! I think the joy will be unimaginable. I'm not nervous at all for the first time ever.

jenimolloy |

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Yes! We are so ready!!

azoreschic04 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

Nobody is ever REALLY ready.... I think if you have the basics (food, shelter, steady income, transportation, emergency fund), the rest will fall into place.

CarrieandIz2011 |

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YES!!!!

rachibby33 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

YES I AM

Joyblogz |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

I am 21 years old and I am trying to decide whether I want a baby now or not. I have a great job, a great boyfriend (we have only been together about a year but are crazy about each other) and I want a baby like you would not even believe. I am not the typical 21 year old, I do not party or drink hardly ever. I work a lot and when I am not working I am home. I am not rich by any means but I have a very good job and im running out of reasons to wait to have a baby... what should I do?

bgray08 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

I know I am ready to have a baby, but my DH is still so unsure. How can I help show him that having a baby is the next step for us and that he will be a wonderful dad? I think that is what he is afraid of most. I don't want to push him, but my baby urge is getting so it's almost too much to handle without being pregnant. Help!

jackersCU |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

yes!!!!!

abigham37 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

I don't think anyone is really ready for a major life change. There are some who I think are closer than others... Like my friend who was unable to conceive because of complications. I def think that she was ready, she had to undergo shots daily and take certain meds. I on the other hand, I am 25 and am just graduating college, I love children and want them badly. I just recently found out I am pregnant and we were not trying... Both my boyfriend and I are very nervous. We had just started talking about wedding plans in January and now we are talking about babies!!! It is a life changing decision, and although we are so excited for the new addition, I dont think we were 100% ready.

ChelsMax |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

My boyfriend is 22 and I am 18 although when the baby gets here i will be 19. I was in school studying hairdressing and getting ready to move to a different province and start a new life when i accidentally became pregnant. Obviously it was not the ideal time but i think that by the time the baby is here we will both be ready because you don't have a choice you become a parent as soon as you become pregnant.

renatasgoingtobeamom |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

FI and I are getting married in 58 days and just decided that we'd like to start trying :) We've been together for over 2.5 years and just finished school. Our finances aren't perfect by any means but we're both working and we're both ready to take this step. FI was actually ready way before I was which surprised the heck out of me! I just stopped taking the pill about 2 weeks ago but I'm worried its going to take awhile to get pregnant. It took my mom 4 years to get pregnant with me, and my sister has been diagnosed with PCOS. Wish us luck!

MeggyMagoo |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

Okay, I am young, and we are not married. Those are the two biggest situations we have on our hands right now. But we are engaged and do plan on getting married soon. My fiance is enlisted in the Marine Corps though and when he comes back from boot camp is when we will wed. There is a possibility that he could get deployed (which means go over seas) immediately. This is going to be our life style and it's what he wants to do so I support him. We have been trying to conceive because we want nothing more than to get a family going together. We have everything else laid out just right. We have more than enough space, great finances, a wonderful support system, we trust and love each other and have for a long time, we are both very responsible and we both adore children. I guess what I'm hoping for is someone to tell me that even though we are a young couple, we can still do this if we feel like we are ready. I was a military brat so I know all about what it's like to grow up in that environment and what a child's needs would be. I also had a young mother and I know all about that too. I feel confident we can do this, but still am worried about it. Are we ready to have a baby?

NickandJess7 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

I personally think being a parent is something that one can ever be TRULY ready. There are always things that are going to be coming up. I agree if you're not happy in your current relationship, don't have a baby thinking it will improve things. And even if one thinks they are ready, it would think it strange if there were no feelings of being scared or nervous. I would say if you and significant other think its time, give it a shot and see what happens. If you change your mind before you get pregnant, you can stop trying for awhile. Best of luck to everyone out there. Go with your gut, it very rarely leads you astray!!

bridekimmie |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

My boyfriend and I just recently found out that we're having a baby. I cried terribly and he made jokes about it, but after i began accepting the fact that we're going to be parents, he began having doubts. We were put into a difficult situation about marriage because of his Recruiter. We always thought about marriage, but when we're ready, but being forced into a fake marriage is now pushing me away. The idea of an abortion is completely out of our minds. However we can't help but think what's going to happen to us down the long-run. Could having this baby be a good thing or bad?

sfefa92 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

I am ready and the exciting news is that everyday my husband is getting more and more ready to start too. Hooray for the possibility coming super soon!

jackersCU |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

I've finally come to the decision that we will never feel ready. I keep waiting to wake up one day and be completely sure but it's not going to happen that way. We're approaching our 3rd anniversary and we're in our early 30's. Though we really enjoy our life without children, I think nature is pushing for a decision sooner than later and I think we're ready to make the leap. I still don't know which one of us wil finally say "go" though! It's like, if it magically happened "by accident" we'd be so excited but we can't bring ourselves to plan it for some reason.

vcwillia80 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

We are NOT ready to have a baby. My boyfriend and I have been together for about 7 years now.. We're not married or engaged to be married (lord almighty what's taking this boy so long?!). But we do own a home together and have a really great, loving relationship. I'm in the middle of a career change that will require about 2 years of schooling (going from teaching to occupational therapy). In a few years we'll be married, financially comfortable (him in his well-paying job with a utility company and me established in my new field). We'll have done at least a couple of those things people plan to do when it's just the two of them before starting a family. THEN, we'll be ready for a baby. Sounds like the perfect plan! It would have been, if I was about 5 years younger. Truth is, by the time I complete my new degree and get somewhat established in a position, I'll be almost 34. How can I temporarily leave a career I just worked so hard to begin (and NEED in order to pay off loans), to have a baby and be a stay at home mom for a while like we wanted? Wait, and didn't we talk about having more than one child? I'm so frightened that when we're finally ready to have children, it won't be safe for us to do so. I feel this huge pressure of time ticking by and I'm 30 for god's sake! But it is a reality. It's like reaching for that half full carton of eggs in the fridge that you're going to use make a decadent dessert you've been researching online and gathering special ingrediants for but haven't had time to make, only to realize that they expired two week ago. I'll be that carton of eggs.

Jnette81 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

I have been married for a little over a year and my husband and I know that we are ready to have our first baby. I just struggle with a very opinionated family and I am worried that the things they say will get to me. I know that it's our choice when to have a baby but I am just so worried that my mother will not be excited for us.

foxracing7819 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

We just bought a house 2 months ago, have been married for a yr and a half and have been talking about ttc. We can def afford a child if I go back to work. Im nervous about going back to work though. Working full time with a baby scares me! So much to do, so little time. How do working mothers do it?!

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Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

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Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

My fiance and I are 20yrs.old and we both feel like we are ready to have a baby. We have been together for 3 yrs now and we will be married probably in the next two yrs. if not sooner. We have one hitch in the road, and thats my schooling. He will be done in about 4 weeks, but I have 2 yrs left. The only thing that I am worried about is balancing everything. Any advice?

EGBS10408 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

my husband and i are in our mid-20's and we just go married this past july. he has a 4yr old already so i got to see since the beginning what a dedicated father he is. i know at this point i am emotionally ready for a child (when the baby dreams started coming i knew it) but i also know we want everything financially ready; any immediate home renovations, job stuff, certain bills paid off and so on.

cheshirepride2487 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

You will know it if you are financially capable to raise one, when you have a house to live, good life with your husband that's the time you can tell that you are ready medical negligence

janice26xx |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

EGBS10408-My advice would be to WAIT until after you are married. Planning a wedding can be very fun but also very stressful! And you will want to enjoy being married-it's a lot of fun without children. You have plenty of time and you need to be sure you have the commitment of marriage to keep you two together for the long haul. No matter how in love you are, knowing someone is willing to commit the rest of their life to you makes a huge difference in your relationship!

BKT22 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

I think my biggest stress is my career. My husband and I are young, happily married, and financially stable, but I am nervous about how having a baby will change that. I think after we have a baby I will be able to work from home and out of my office I have now, but I just don't want my boss to be upset with my necessity to staying home and raising my baby as well as work. A friend recently said, well don't expect to have it all, so now I am kinda upset that she is right...

AnnaWhite89 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

Yes me and my husband have been trying a year its getting frustrating but im ready for a family!!!

dlbtrb0724 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

My husband and I have been married just over a year. He is in the military and of the year we have been married we have gotten to see eachother for roughly 3 months of it. In the 3 years we have been together we have gotten to see eachother for about a year of it. My point being I cannot wait on the military placing us together to get pregnant. I got to fly overseas and spend last christmas and new years and when I got home found out I was 4 weeks pregnant but miscarried 2 weeks later. 4 months later we got to see eachother again and ttc but was bfn. He will get to come home over Christmas this year which lines up when I ovulate and we have decided to not "try" but just enjoy our time together. I am taking prenatals as suggested by my doc. We are finacially stable and I know I am ready, he keeps saying if your ready I am ready. I have friends who are married and have kids and believe my timing isnt off. I have priced stuff out and know we can make it financially. Is there anything we are missing and should further consider?

baileyr0810 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

I beleive you know your ready when you have no one else to blame for the missing cookies lol! Enjoy Life enjoy the pregnancy and enjoy this new beautiful baby all the rest is extra (smile)

Schwaun1044 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

My husband is in the military and we have been married for over a year, together for almost 5 years total. We're both 22 now- and we are thinking of TTC after he gets back from his next deployment- which will be sometime around the holidays 2012 and we'll both be almost 24 by then. I work now and want to go to back school to get a Master's degree at some point- already have my bachelor's. We've done a lot of talking and think we will be ready then- financially and career-wise. We're ready emotionally now, but just need to get everything else balanced first. We have a one-bedroom apartment now and I'd like to have a bigger place before the baby would be born but we don't want to buy a house since the military will just move us in a couple years anyway. The only thing I'm worried about it my parents. They've always stressed to me to wait to have kids. They didn't have kids til they'd been married 4 years- BUT they were only together a year before they got married. I just don't want them to be disappointed or think that we rushed it. And I don't want them to be right! Once I'm pregnant I don't want to ever think that I should've waited- I want to be completely confident and comfortable with our decision. I guess I'm just looking for any advice on the situation.

law89 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

Yes we are.

AlyssaD386 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

We both have been ready. I will be finishing up school and my husband will be getting his masters in the next year....only I have PCOS with a thyroid problem and insulin resistance. We have been trying for a year now. We are just hoping we can have one soon.

tai007 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

Even though i'll be 16 in march, I honestly feel like i can do anything through christ jesus. My parents did there best to raise me they did there part now its time for me to do mines:) and my best to raise and look after mines. My baby will always be first in my life.

uniquemelody |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

My husband and I have been married a year in October.We decided that we would start trying after a year. I have a college degree, but decided to do what I love best, which was take care of children. We are both so excited and ready to have children, but I'm scared it will take me awhile to get pregnant! I'm hoping our first time was a charm.

MaryTurner10 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

No one is ever 100% ready. It's never the right time. Just do it.

meg.taylor09 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

Yes, and we decided to try it this month.

nazannin |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

When the house we built for kids is still too quiet because there are no kids making noise in it, we're ready. Planning can only get us so far... we just need to start a family!

EmmaBella928 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

Yes. I always ready for that time come. Indeed, I buy some clothes for my baby even though I’m not yet giving birth. PMP Washington DC

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Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

I agree! I don't think there is ever the perfect time! But it has definitely made us stronger and realize the important things in life - We are so excited for our little one to come!

j09 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

think about $$$ and if you have to go back to work and need day care do you have a family member that will do it for free or do you need a day care.. how much is day care..

osogreat55@aol.com |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

Im think im ready for one... i work mom-friday. and i have 2 think about my time with my baby and know who going keep him/her will im at work...

melvinwifey |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

Yes!

KateriCook |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

My husband and I have been married for just over a year and together for 6 1/2 years. We have recently decided that we are going to TTC. We both have very demanding careers in restaurant management and neither one of us are willing to give up our careers. So we have agreed on making a work schedules as accomodating as possible with a baby. We will schedule our days off on different days, but saving one day a week as a family day for all of us to be home together. This way we can still work full time and have plenty of quality time with our newborn, but know that half the week that baby will need to be under the care of a family member or trusted sitter. Our careers are important to each of us and we have worked very hard for them and understand that with these careers we will be able to support our family financially. We are confident in our decision and cannot wait to see that + sign in the near future!

jhanzie2006 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

I'm afraid because I don't know what to do about my career.

vicwang |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

My boyfriend and I will be celebrating our 3 year anniversary in May. We both have good, steady jobs that offer excellent healthcare benefits. He's in his early 30's, I'm in my late 20's. We know that we need to get a bigger place and would love to save more money (who wouldn't!). Over the last year, I have been having these strong feelings about having a child. Sometimes it's stronger than others, but I can't help but listen to my subconcious saying "I want a baby". So. I think I want to try now.

saratuck |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

There's always something that can be used as an excuse, fear, or reason to not start a family. You just got married, you're scared of getting fat/labor, you have some debt, just started a new job, house isn't big enough, etc. The trick i think is to just jump in with both feet. Who is ever REALLY ready? Unless you're a millionaire who's already traveled the world and basically your life is perfect, there's always a "reason" to not have a baby. Just embrace what's to come and enjoy the ride! I have debt, we're only engaged, and am scared of the pain of labor, but I know it'll be all worth it when our unexpected surprise gets here! I wouldn't change a thing because sometimes the best things in life just happen!

jarjijo |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

My husband and I believe that we are ready to TTC. We have planned financially, career wise, and we have a nice house and a big yard. My only problem is my MIL. She doesn't even know we are considering trying, but she keeps making comments about how we aren't ready and we are too young. I'm 24 and husband is 29. MIL and FIL were both about 27 when they started their family, so how can she judge when we are about that age? Very frustrating to feel like if we do get pregnant, then she won't be happy for us.

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jessdevoss |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

I'm married for 12 years and we had our little girl when i was 25. Well, i was not ready, but it wasn't planned. It was hard for me to make myself up that i was pregnant and i suffered for it. But once my girl came, everything changed. I realized that i was able to keep my career, my relationship and my baby. Now, 6 years later, I want a baby so bad so I concluded that things can't be always under our control. You can have a good job today, but tomorrow you can get fired. You can become mad thinking in all potential troubles that could happen. But one thing is sure: my husband and me love each other to death. And we love our little angel more than it is possible to love someone. And I'm crazy about having a baby. We have money for keep going on. Not much, but enough. So what else is needed?

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We started talking about having a baby over two years ago; however, we weren't entirely sure we were ready. So instead of jumping straight into trying we decided to drop the bc and see what happened. Each month when there was no baby we became a little more sure of our readiness to have kids. Just this week we had another conversation to solidify what we were both feeling and have decided to go for it instead of just not preventing it anymore. But I wouldn't have traded these two years for anything. While I have no doubt that we would have loved being parents if it had happened already I am also really glad that I had that time to be totally sure and that my husband had that time as well. I'm also really glad that now that we are going for it I don't have to wait six months for my body to normalize after bc! But the best advice I can give anyone is to do what is right for you. Listen to that voice inside and if you're questioning then maybe it's not right at the moment but that doesn't mean it won't be!

janitajackson |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

I don't think any couple is truly "ready" for a baby. My husband and I were together 6 years before I had my first, and even then we weren't "ready". You don't even know the kinds of sacrifices you will be making, until you make them. You can plan as much as you want, you may be ready financially, but physically and emotionally you can't prepare yourself enough unless you have actually experienced waking up all hours of the night, and endless diaper changes, and crying for no reason. No one can really prepare themselves for parenthood, until its there! If you and your partner are truly happy, and you have the financial ability to have children, and you trust that your partner will be there to share all the responsibilities 50/50 than parenthood is a wonderful experience. And yes everything has to be 50/50, whether he works, you work, or you both work, the best part of the first couple months is that break when your partner gets home, or your night to sleep. Noone can (or should) have to do it all alone. My advice to every woman out there would be... DON'T RUSH INTO ANYTHING! There are to many young girls who think they are 'in love", bringing beautiful babies into the world, and within a few months of the babies arrival, the parents are no longer together. So, just take your time.

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Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

re:are we ready to have a baby? I think so but everything I read indicates that it's going to be nearly impossible! My husband is overweight, we smoke and drink (we're newly married with no kids, we party), I'm 28 and he's 35. We're not rich, in debt and the list goes on I guess. The more I read the more I get scared that I won't get pregnant. We have been trying for a few months and nothing. I keep praying and am afraid that this is going to be a longer road than I initially thought it was going to be. We're afraid to tell family since everyone is dying for us to have a baby, we've been together for six years and been married for nine months. I believe no one is ever ready but what about those of us who are ready for something that won't come? Crackheads get pregnant in back allies and I can't! It's a really depressing feeling...

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my husband and I have been married since September. We have been together for four and a half years though. We have been talking about ttc around March but I am flip flopping. A part of me really wants to! Then another part of me is scared! I know there is no ideal time to have a baby. I also know that we will probably never be financially stable enough for a baby (though he has a job and I don't have to work). I am just scared of the change. We live with his grandfather (because of health issues) but will get our own place before the baby is born. I guess I just don't know if I am ready to give up my time with my husband. I have heard so may people say that we will never be alone after we have a baby. I'm afraid it will be true. I'm sure our family can help out, but at the same time, I feel like we have not had any time together since we have been married because we do not live in our own place. Then, if we move out of his grandfather's into our own house, we will only have months before the baby is born. Is that enough?

Jennifer_4_Jesus123 |

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PATTYSANZ18 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

For us, the important thing was not "are we ready to have a baby in our house" but "Are we ready to begin raising adults?" Once I was able to shift my focus from the cute little baby, and having a family with kids, to raising PEOPLE who would one day be grown ups, out of my house, making their own decisions, that was when I first realized I was NOT ready for a baby. That was almost a year ago. Once the months passed and I was focusing on making myself ready to be a parent OF A GROWN UP, I started to believe that I am ready. And last week, when we found out we had a baby growing inside of me, we were so excited. We may never feel "ready," just like I've only barely begun to feel like an adult (I'm 29!). But our priorities are straight. We know that we will have to sacrifice some of our spontaneity, but our focus has to be less selfish anyway because we are getting ready to raise a whole new person. Scary. But also AWESOME! :D

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Yes me and my husband have been ready for about six months just no luck at it yet..

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Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

My husband and I have been together for almost two years now, and have been married almost two months. We always talked about kids, even when we were just dating. Now he's kind of become baby-crazy and I have to admit I have too. We've already started planning, such as when I'll go off the Pill and creating a budget, but I want to be sure we are ready. Is it too early in the marriage and/or relationship to have a baby?

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I want a baby but right now everybody that I know are having babies. I dont want to have one just because every else is having one. I dont know what to do.

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When you and your partner are in happy state and have a clear understanding of what you both want. Also when you are able to provide.

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I don't think you ever really feel ready for kids, no matter what people say. However, part of being a responsible parent is making sure you're financially stable enough and have time for a baby. It'd be nice if all you really needed was love, but the national average for taking care of a child from birth do 18 is around $300,000.

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We are ready to to get pregnant with a baby anytime this year now. We have known each other 5 years, been together for over 2, and married for 7 months. We have a solid relationship and have been trying for baby for almost 2 years. Looking back, I'm glad it didn't happen right away, because now we have better jobs and a better house. Both of us healthy, and knowing that it isn't all fun and sunshine with babies. Yes, I do believe we are ready.....So when is it going to happen?!!!! sometimes its really frustrating. just started the opk's one month ago. doctors said it just takes some couples longer than others, so patience is my virtue!

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Most of my friends already have babies too.

chachadeamor |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

I have a friend, a man, who said "there is never a bad time to have a baby because they are so amazing". While I agree, certainly there are exceptions. We are about to begin TTC and while I do feel like we are ready, I am scared to lose "us". I started a blog to help me sort through my thoughts (http://babybumpanddailygrind.blogspot.com/) so hopefully through writing and reading about others, I will be absolutely certain the time is right.

AliciaA626 |

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BeautyandLove |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

Some people say they have "that feeling" and know they are ready. My advice would be to not wait till you have everything "in order" in your life because it probably won't happen. Life is full of unexpected things. This does not mean be irresponsible but if you believe you can be more selfLESS and responsible, ready to parent and not just ready for the joys of parenting, then go for it!

michalanngelo |

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It is such a relief to see how many couples are going through the same things we are...My husband and I are both 26, married only 6 months. I'm 2 months from finishing grad school, at which time we'll be moving to wherever it is that either of us can find a job (the hubby has his masters in music ed. but there don't seem to be any jobs around here, so he's waiting for me to finish up). At this point all I can think about is having a baby...I owe so much in student loans and have no idea where we'll be a year from now, but it's like my mind and body are screaming at me that now is the time! My ever-responsible husband says he's ready but won't try until he locks down a job. I think I'm starting to drive him crazy with all the baby-conversations...any tips on cooling the baby fever when it's clearly NOT the best time??

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Nikori |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

veravanlaeys there is no way really to subside the baby fever. You just have to decide its not the right time and be ok with it. I was the same way when my husband and i got married almost 3 years ago and we did not start trying until last August. You just have to be truely ok with your decision as a couple. Also dont wait until you are overwhelmed with stressing about having a baby. My husband and i waited until we were about to bust and its been 9 months and still no sign of a baby. I actually had a miscarriage in January and its very hard to deal with when you are this overwhelmed with feelings of wanting a baby so dont get too crazy before you start :)

kaylaortiz09 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

I'm actually kind of struggling with this. DH and I were trying to get pregnant before he deployed, but ran into some fertility problems. Now, as I am preparing for his return he tells me that the idea of having a baby scares him and that he doesn't want me to talk to him about my fertility journey, just to tell him when I get pregnant. I don't like that at all, I feel like this needs to be OUR journey, not MINE. He thinks he will feel better when he actually sees his baby, but that right now it just scares him. I don't really know how to deal with that.

FutureMrsTowns |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

My husband and I have been married almost 5 years together 8 and I am SO ready! I come from a family where Sunday dinner is a HUGE affair with siblings, nephews and plenty of cousins around! He however is waiting for this PERFECT time. You know the perfect house, perfect income, no debt AT ALL! We are both 30. Sadly my family has a history of a lot of reproductive problems over 30. I am trying to explain this to him and he just keeps saying that we don't know if I will have the same problems (my aunt had 6 miscarriages after 30 and my mom started going thru menopause at 40). It's kind of stressful having the same talks. Any advise would be GREAT!

Angie_AND_Josh |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

I have been struggling with this question a lot. Sometimes I wonder if it is my incredible love for my partner and desire to bring a little person into this world that will be a blend of he and I... OR if it is my raging hormones/biological clock that are making me want to have a child!

amsteinbrecher |

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My husband is 32 and I'm 28 - together almost 10 years and married 5. We are planning to TTC after the summer and we are both extremely excited and can't wait. Sometimes I think my husband may be even MORE excited than I am if that's possible. (My baby fever is out of control!) What makes me nervous is that we just relocated to a new state 4 months ago and are 1700 miles away from any family member (or close friend). I know we will not be moving back, but I can't help but wish that we had either of our families closer. I always imagined my child(ren) growing up close to their grandparents. And this clearly will not happen. Other than that (very large) piece of the puzzle, I feel like we are ready. I agree with others who say if you wait until you're "ready" you never will be. There is always more money to make and goals to reach. I think if you can comfortably afford a child and your current standard of living (with maybe some minor adjustments to accommodate new baby expenses), and the baby is not intended as any sort of solution to a problem - then go for it. Having $200,000 in the bank and $0 credit card debt isn't going to make you a better parent than anyone else.

AlsGal01 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

Need to think about insurance, but other than that we feel like we are fairly ready.

Andrea107 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

i think my husband and i are ready. we just bought our first house and we are both working. i just don't know how it will effect our finances and our life together. when did you know it would be right?

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nburney |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

My husband has asked me several times if im ready for a baby and my family is always asking me if im preganant yet. I dont know when i will be ready because its a huge decision to make and alot of thinking goes into it. Babysitters, school, etc etc. But i don't think anyone really knows when the right time is.

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My husband and I are definitely ready! We have been TTC since our wedding in August to no avail, we are already working with fertility docs due to my husbands low sperm count :(

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My husband told me he wanted to start a family once he had turned 23 but since we didn't get married until he was 24 we waited. Then after we got married he stopped bringing up baby and doesn't want to try. I deeply want a baby and its hard to think about anything else at all! We bought a 3 bedroom house and even traded in my sports car for an suv... We have some money in the bank and I was just hired at a higher paying job. He's up for another promotion later this year, but he still says that we aren't ready. I cry nearly every day walking by the empty room we saved just for baby and I'm driving around in a mom car without being a mom... I don't want to push him, I want him to be excited, but it kills me that he seems to have just stopped wanting a baby since we got married. What can I do to show him we're ready?

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Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

although hubby is a little scared ( he knows NOTHING about babies) I'm so excited to get started. We have been together 3 years, married for 1. I'm 31 and he is 30. We are secure in our jobs and have some savings for something bigger when we outgrown our 1 BD apt. Two kids would be great, so hopefully we can conceive sooner rather then later!

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I don't feel there is ever a perfect time to have a baby and all will go well. I want to plan and set up as much as a can. However, I have wanted to start a family since I was little. I have been with my husband for almost 6 years and married for 1. We are still living at my parents house and I am still going to school online. My husband really wants to start a family and so do I. Needless to say, I am conflicted as to wait or just go for it. I know everything will work out, but is it careless to try now?

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Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

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jessandJason2011 |

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I'm 28 and my husband is 29. We've been together for 13 blissful years and married for 3 loving years. We've always wanted children, but I was terrified of labor pains. We've really been talking about having a baby- every night we come up with 6 possible baby names. A friend of my who got married in the same year as us, recently found out that she is 9 weeks pregnant. Now I am in full baby mode and so are our mothers and friends. We are going to TTC in July with the hopes that I will be pregnant in September just in time for grandparents day!!!

Alanna R |

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decided to move away and start trying in a new state. maybe it will help with a clear mind from all my messed up past.

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Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

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Deciding weather or not it is time for a baby it is quite a huge responsibility. For example my sister and her partner have been thinking about having a baby and they both want one, however, they don't think it is the right time in life to have one. They would rather wait for a moment when they will have a < href="http://www.text-to-speech.info/2012/06/mpa-degree-for-better-career/">Better career that will offer them more financial security.

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EmmaWebb |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

I have a friend that says she will be financially ready for a baby when they decide, and she will be. They have absolutely no debt and great jobs. As for me and my hubby...we will always be in debt. We are just a different couple and different people. We just started TTC and won't know for a couple more weeks ifour hard work has paid off or not :) It is definetly something individual couples have to decide on their own. I am currently trying to grow a business and this could totally screw it up, but I don't want my career to dictate my personal life.Good luck to everyone! My mom always tells me the Lord will provide:)

frmgirl |

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I am going through the same thing right now, I am 27 years old and have the baby bug. Suddenly all I can think about is having a baby. If you had asked me a year ago when I would start TTC I would have said when I was 30. I had a plan for myself, but my internal clock is telling me I am ready for a baby now. I worry about being ready financially and also about having the responsibility of being a parent. My husabnd of course does not have this sudden urge to have a child right now, but he definitely wants to be a father. Luckily, he is great at putting everything back into perscpective for me and reminding of the things we want to do and accomplish before we conceive (things as simple as the fact that we have a vacation planned in October and next June which I would not want to pregnant for). I find that communicating with him helps me a lot with all of these feelings and emotions I have right now. In the end, we have decided to wait until after our trip next June to start trying. But I have to admit, when that "light" goes off in your head and suddenly you want a baby for the first time, it is hard to shut it off. But I know a year from now we will be in a great place to start our family! Good look to all of you who are considering having a baby - communication is key!

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Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

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Jdoyle3202 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

"But, don't start trying unless you're honestly ready to be a parent in nine months -- plenty of people do get pregnant on their first try." Seriously. This statement could not be more true. Literally 1.5 months after stopping birth control BFP! I was so scared it would take longer (took sister 2 years) so I wanted to start right away... now we have 7 months to finish getting the house ready and pay off our whopping $3500 in credit cards (I know... could be worse but it is really important to me since our income will change drastically after baby since I will probably be staying at home). Don't just think about financial stability - think about things that you will want done before LO makes an appearance (even if it is just finishing a bathroom or re-painting). And once you get that BFP you've reached the point of no return. Happy with our outcome but I should have expected the unexpected!

ChevyFam717 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

My husband and I got married this year in March and found out we were pregnant a month and a half later. (Planned) At first we wanted to wait 3 years, I have two semesters left in school and my husband is a firefighter, we decided to start thinking it was going to take a while but I guess he had some strong swimmers and I was very fertile, and we got pregnant on the first try. Yes, it is adjustment but I think as long as you both come to the agreement and talk about it then I don't see why not. I do however get the whole *wow you moved way too fast, you and your husband are going to hate each other* I just think wow, how can you say something like that? Yes, it will be difficult but I know we will pull through... We didn't have anything holding us back, we have no debt, we are closing on our new house, both cars are paid off, we're not super young, (25&26) we super excited and ready to see our baby in January :) [url=http://www.thebump.com/?utm_source=ticker&utm_medium=UBB&utm_campaign=tickers][img]http://global.thebump.com/tickers/tt1489fc.aspx[/img][/url]

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I'm 8 weeks pregnant, my husband and I have been married since last september, and we've been together for 9 years! As it's been said , it's hard to decide when one is "ready" for to have a child. As long as you and your partner are on the same page then it's a good time. A child is a blessing no matter what the timing is.Life is always going to be unpredictable, so if you think you want to wait until your life gets into a "normal flow" that might never happen. I'm 26 and my husband is 27

C Ann |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

Not ready, ready... but ready thinking about it, if that makes sense. My man and I have come to the point past wondering if we should take the parenting plunge together, and now we are in the 'when we take the parenting plunge' issue. I'm in school, he has finished school, but hasn't gotten his career going yet... and even when we are ready our families have made it clear that they will not be involved, so that is another strain on the 'when' have to make sure to time everything appropriately. But, we have a good ten years to plan. So, no hurries.

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My husband and I have been together for 7 1/2 years and married for 2 1/2 months and I am already 7 weeks pregnant. We are both so happy and excited. Family is the most important thing in the world to us. There is no doubt in our mind that we are ready. But I'm still nervous about the labor... just saying =)

heathershay88 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

i believe there's no 'right' time to have a baby.. you can spend ages planning and planning with it not ever seeming the right move... iv'e always wanted to have kids at a young age so i can 'run round' and play with them.. im a big kid at heart, so is my partner.. both me and my partner love kids, we have good jobs, love each other and have awesome loving families..im 22yrs and 22 weeks now and we couldn't be happier.. awesome thing is my boss is really supportive (even asking me to bring baby in with me) :) we still are young but partying and doing social things dont phase us.. having a baby (and more after) will really fill in the space thats been missing... i say go for it if it's something you really want

shanini21 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

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Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

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I am TTC now, but I am SO glad we waited (almost 3 years). I thought the toughest year in our marriage would be the 6 month-1.5 years... I was wrong. At the beginning of our 2nd year we moved far away from family for a job, and our marriage struggled a LOT. The beautiful thing is, we came out SOOO much stronger and more in love than we've ever been and we now communicate and nurture eachother and our marriage more than ever. It is SUCH a blessing, and we have been able to talk realistically about what having a baby will mean for us, and make the decision together as a team.

SpunkyTeach |

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JAZMINEPT88 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

The way I see it is, if you keep on waiting to be "ready," you will never feel "ready". If you are a person of faith, pray about it. Make sure you have money saved up, insurance, and a nice environment to raise a baby. Talk about it with your husband. Read! Talk to mothers your age. It's a personal choice, and no one can tell you that you're ready except YOU and the one you're making the baby with :)

LittleMama818 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

I think that for every person it is different. I personally think i am ready and i have had a lot of "signs" that have been speaking to me. For examle- dreams of me holding my child who is named and has my hair color and my skin tone, dreaming i am pregnant A LOT! i daydream a lot about having a baby- i just feel like God is trying to tell me i am ready. but with my husband, it is a different story. he just finally told me he is thinking it is time for us to think about having kids. We are both nervous- obviously! But i think that for everyone, it is different. People definatly need to think about the cost and working and daycare, getting a different car, baby proofing/home saftey.

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Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

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elenal27 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

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My husband and I just got married but we want a baby sooo bad! We have been together for three years, we own our home, one car is paid off, one is close. I am just wondering has anyone gotten pregnant after 6 months of marriage and if yes how did your family, coworkers, friends etc. react? I know its silly but I am afraid people will react badly because its kind of soon.

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My husband and I are both 26 and will be married for two years next month. We've been together for a total of 6.5 years. Our relationship is rock solid, we both have stable jobs, own a house, have 6 figures in savings, no major student loans or debt. Just this year I've been hit HARD by the baby bug. Due to a medical condition I have, my OB recommends I start trying ASAP and be done with having kids by the time I'm 30. I am so ready. Hubby wants to wait a couple more months to start trying but I would start trying tomorrow if I could! I'm hoping to be pregnant by the end of this year! The most important thing is to value your relationship together more than anything else and make sure you are both on the same page with everything. I strongly believe your body knows and will tell you when it's the right time. For me, that time is now.

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Just took an HPT on the 18 and another one today the 20. My Appointment is on Monday the 24 to "Confirm" ;) My Husband and I have been married for a year and 3 months. I am EXCITED cause we prayed and prayed and prayed to get pregnant. And the Lord has answered. But as far as ready...I don't think ANYONE can really be ready. Financially, emotionally, mentally and physically. But we are pregnant and will make due. I had surgery back in Jan. For my shoulder and I am a Licensed Massage Therapist, and working has been slow. But I feel if you want it go for it and just enjoy the blessing God has given you. Can't wait for my appointment and it will be a surprise thought the pregnancy =)

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I have been asking myself this question since I met my fiance. We know that we are the best for each other and love each other so much ,so we recently got engaged. Even before we decided to get married we talked about having a baby. I want a baby more than anything but I am worried that my mother might not be as excited as we are and all I want is for her to be happy with me. We lost my father two years ago so quickly and I understand that my mother will need time , but I just don't want to be unhappy trying to make her happy. She is so busy and puts to much on her plate. My three youger siblings keep her busy and stressed but I just think maybe a baby would bring our family closer as is was before we lost Dad. Does anyone have advice?

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I always wanted to have one of the top paying careers before I will give birth to a baby and I have it.Only after I reached my goals I decided to have a baby.I think that first you have to have a good job to be able to offer everything to your child.

ioana06 |

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My DH and I just decided we would start trying in January... Not really trying to think too much about it right now but it's hard not to get excited. :) Finally we're both at the same place regarding being ready!

AMM10 |

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Well I guess I can say I am a little scared of having a baby but majority of me feels ready to have one. About a year ago I was thinking the complete opposite. My husband and I were together only 6 months before we got engaged and then a year and half before we got married. He has a teenage girl from when he was a teen. She has affected our lives as couple. My biggest fear is that her troubling behavior will affect my new baby's life in the future. So this is what pushed me to wait at first. After talking to a few trusting people in my life I've realized I can't wait forever. I have no control over what happens with my step-child. but my husband and I can try our best parenting the new baby. and if i were to wait til im not scared of what would happen then I may as well never have a child. Im going to have faith and try to have this baby and love him or her unconditionally as my husband does his daughter.

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For me career was always important. I`ve got pregnant only after I got a good job. I wanted to improve my degrees too and I`ve got a Certificate online during pregnancy.

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My DH and I have been thinking a lot about kids and babies... Financially most people won't ever be ready... But I want my health back in order, and I would like to buy a home before we do... I hope we can make this happen...

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My husband and I have been together for 8 years now. I am terrified of having children(it isn't the time but the money that I am scared of) but we are going to TTC this month. What convinced me was my DH tellingme that no matter what we won't be ready, and that we will be giving up somethings but gaining more.

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I think that a woman should finish the college and after that she can have a baby. I got pregnant during college and after I gave birth it was difficult to take care of my baby and to study for the exams. I can say that I was a mom with learning disabilities.

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Meh nd mah boyfriend wants to have kids he wants 3 but I want 5 is tht bad or good ???

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That's one of the hardest questions a woman could answer to. Personally, I don't think I am ready to give up my career so soon. Maybe my view is limited thinking this way, but this is how I see it..

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If you keep waiting until "you're ready" or you think the time is just right you may never do it.

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ginny926 |

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I'm so torn about this, I feel like were in such an in between state. been married for 6 months (together almost 6 yrs) im 26, hes 30. I always thought I'd have at least 1 by now. Hes not sure if he wants to buy a house here, bc he hates the weather and wants to move. I want to live near our family so i cant have help w kids, at least in the beginning. We are living with my inlaws, planning to be out by next year (or at least I am) and I desperately want to have a baby. I it used to be a reality check when Id go see my friends with kid. I'd remember why I haven't had any yet, now I just get sad when I leave bc I want to so bad. My reservations are finances, and what if we got pregnant and couldn't move out before the baby was born, I dont want my inlaws to feel taken advantage of (we live here rent free to save $ and pay bills)

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Deciding weather or not it is time for a baby it is quite a huge responsibility. For example my sister and her partner have been thinking about having a baby and they both want one, however, they don't think it is the right time in life to have one. They would rather wait for a moment when they will have Better career that will offer them more financial security. منتدى | عدلات

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My husband and I got pregnant the first month we were off any b/c. I miscarried at 5 weeks. Now I'm not sure how soon, if ever, to try again. It was so heartbreaking and I'm not sure I can do it again.

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My husband and I just got married in November, and he wants a baby. I do too, but I can't shake the idea that we should wait and enjoy newlywed-ness a little more. I see babies everywhere tough and know that I would be thrilled to be a mom. Any suggestions?

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I think you're never really ready. It's like anything in life, you're ready to take on the challenge, but as much as you prepare, you will still find things you come across that you never dreamed of. This summer I tried rock climbing and I sat for a pmp boot camp. No matter how much I planned, I wasn't fully prepared for either!

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I'm 25 and my husband and I, were against having a baby. We thought im in school still and him going after his master's just not a good time. But when is it a good time? I know babies are VERY hard work and lots of money. We feel like its no time like the present and we are ready to give it a go.

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I feel like i have this huge delima, My husband and I TTC but when i think about it alone and think of what happens during labor and delivery i freak out, i almost passed out one time. But when i takw my occasional xanax i dont worry about the bad just the good and Im happy and Fearless.If anyone can shed some light on my problem please email me... misty_mosley@ymail.com .....Good Luck to all My heart and blessing are with you :)

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This is hard question. I think age wise this is a good time. I've been with my fiance for four years and we both think a baby would help enrich and fulfill our lives. The only problem? I'm scared to give birth!! I'm afraid to give birth, but also afraid to wait! Do you have any suggestion? For modern design accessories, please check out lookboard.

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We have been together for three years and just recently got engaged. I am a mother of four children and my fiance has never had children. I am thiry-four years old and feel my time to give him a family that includes his own children is limited. He enjoys my children so much that he can not wait to have children of his own.

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Can you post this please. MY boyfriend and I have been talking about trying for a baby in the next couple months he told me Sunday night ok I will go to school and we can try. (he was in the military so he would make more going to school) But then turns around and says no we aint having a baby right now and i only said that because you were depressed. I feel crushed because i have had health problems in the past and i don't know even if i can get pregnant. I want to be a mother really bad so much that its driving me crazy. We both have jobs and everything. He is 26 years old and I am turning 21. We have talked and talked and talked but then he says no to me after a lil while. I am lost for words cause i get so upset when he denies me the one thing i want most in this world. What im trying to say is do you think he just doesn't want a baby or is worried about not being a good father? He is my world and i know in my heart that he is going to be an excellent father. I mean we are ready i know he is just worried about issues and things. But we both have jobs and have both taken care of kids in the past. I am just so depressed lately i don't know what to do cause i want a baby so bad:( if he doesnt want a baby then why would he say yes then no it confuses the hell outta me. like i know he wants one deep down and is happy when i say names (we want a lil girl) but i also think its cause he is afraid of family judging us. he always smiles when i mention a baby then 5 sec later he is worried and everything. We have thought i was pregnant in the past but it always came back negative. We love one another to the moon and back and would do anything for one another and are truely happy i just feel as if a piece of are lives is missing and thats baby we are getting married here soon either this december or next december

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It's too difficult to say when is exactly. I think this depend on your emotional life. When I passed sweetest life with my husband(I feel) and the life not more surprise any more. Then we decide to have a baby. It's very well when we get baby. The life just like backing to when we know with each other. Now I'm working at home and some time take care of baby by baby monitor when my husband is not at home. Anyway have a baby is better than nothing after marriage life.

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My husband and I are both excited about TTC. But even though we have the space now, we are disagreeing on whether we really need to have a house before we conceive or have the baby. Anyone have thoughts on this?

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Yes, I believe me and my husband are ready we've been married for about a year now. I'm 27 and really am wanting a baby, we we both are. I know everyone says that make sure you are financially, mentally and physically ready and no one ever really is.

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Re: Sararosey If you are concerned about your husband as a father, then you guys aren't ready. Address your concerns before trying. Communication is not going to get better or easier when there is a child involved. Plus, you don't need the extra worry once you already have a bun in the oven. I read some really good articles on letting dads parent in their own way and the different values kids can learn. Maybe you need to ask WHY you still harbor some concerns about your mans parenting abilities and get his take on what being a parent means. Maybe you need to wait for him to give you the okay that he is ready and then let him know when he's allowed to be less careful with contraception.

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My boyfriend and I are graduation High school, and we're talking about conceiving after we graduate?

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you know when ur ready when u and ur partner are ready to take that next step in ur relationship, when u have money to do so, when u feel that u can provide everything u and ur other will need for that child. i think u need to think about ur goals in life, ur relationship, ur job. and if ur ready ur ready, :)

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I think it is up to the couple. My husband and I just got married in August and have been trying since March. We lost the first one in the first trimester. I am still in school and working part-time but for me, i would be willing to put my education and career on hold to be a mom since my job is stable now and I enjoy it. My main goal in life is to be a mom and i would be willing to but my other dreams on hold for that dream. It is up to the couple and the way they look at their life and what they really want out of life.

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I don't think anyone is ever quite ready to have a baby, you have all these ideas of how it should be, but when it happens, its different. My advice is to make sure your relationship is solid, that you and your partner are good together and you are both willing to accept the unknown and jump together. Babies change everything, take a deep breath and decide what is right for you - not what is expected of you.

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I think part of being ready means knowing how to maintain the line of having to put someone elses needs before your own and yet still making time for yourself. You also have to understand that having a baby isn't about you. If your doing it because you "want to be love" or "because babies are so cute" or any other reason I hear young girls give, then its not the right reason. Being a parent is a full-time job. You need to go into it facing reality head on. You need to look at your time, finances and long-term goals. You need to really think about what life you want to give the baby and what you have to offer. There's no perfect time to have a baby or guideline to say yes or no, if you are truely ready. I think if you really take an honest look at your life and feel that you ARE commited to offering a baby the very best life you are able to, Then you ARE ready.

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We just got married but have been together for four years. We waited to get married for two years and now we don't want to wait to have kids. I am 26 and he is 30 so we want to start right away. It is so nice to hear that there is the same worries as me out there. I am excited to have a baby but terrified about being pregnant. I am so scared of needles and doctors. My husband looked at me the other night and told me we would always do it together and he would be there for everything. It was awesome but now I'm scared again. I agree that there is never a right time. My parents had no money and no insurance they literally paid us of for years. (paid the hospital bills). I look at it like if they can do it so can I! So nice to read this blog.

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Im being really selfish. My partner really wants a baby and I dont yet. - im 24, hes 25 in January. I want more excitement in my life before i have a baby! I want that last luxury holiday that weve never had, I want to go to disneyworld/disneyland, i want to pass my driving test. So many i wants. I cant help but feel selfish, but once a baby comes along life is liuturaly put on hold, not just for me but for him too - i cant help but feel moreso for me - and i dont think he understands any of this. Weve always said if it happens, it happens. But i cant help but feel just not quite now....

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I've been with my husband for over 8 years now (married for 2.5). Having a child has been a pretty stressful topic in our household. We know we both want a family of our own... we're just really afraid. I'll be 30 at the end of the year, and I had hoped to have my first child on the way before I hit that 3-0 mark. We've been taking the necessary steps to help ease our concerns. We bought a house and settled in over a year ago; plenty of space for baby now! I'm in a good position with my work, where I could now work from home if needed. This year I'm really trying to focus on budgeting and being healthy! Hopefully by the mid to end of this year we will prepped and ready (as close as we will probably get) to trying to conceive our first. Wish us luck!

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Going to be mom, feels like i'm growing old and going to be a boring and people see me as a mature adult. I'm not prepared for that but i do want to live with my boyfriend and baby.

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i am JOY from USA i want to say hallelujah to lord for using Dr Babaka of babaka.wolf@gmail.com to bless my womb, i have been married for the past 10year without a child i have look for all kind of help that can make me get pregnant but nothing works, but through an insight i came across Dr Babaka profile at the internet when i was searching for help on how i can get a baby, Quickly i contacted him to help me out, he said he will cast a spell that will make me sleep with my partner and get pregnant so he said he need to buy some of the other items he will use in casting the spell from the market that he want me to send him the money he will use in buying the items so i gave him the money and he cast the spell for me and ask me to go and lie with my partner so i did to my greatest surprise i became pregnant after that week so with so much joy in my heart i want to share this out to everyone in need that i have found favor in the hands of Dr Babaka of babaka.wolf@gmail.com, contact him now to via email : babaka.wolf@gmail.com

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After months of TTC with getting off of BC in May/June 2013, and with PCOS being a mess...we have decided we are ready to take the next step...AKA Clomid. We have discussed and are both ready and excited. Trying really hard not to get disheartened due to constant BFN on OPKs and when I POAS. Wish us luck!

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Dear friends it is almost two months now since i order a pregnancy spell cast on me from this email zogospellcasters@gmail.com i saw in a website on how he help a couple to get pregnant and i contacted him which i started seeing changes on my body since the first week of last month and it two months and i am carrying my own baby in my womb i am so happy that i finally get pregnant after all i have been through. contact him for any problems you are having, he will surely provide you a solution, All thanks be to him

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Dear friends it is almost two months now since i order a pregnancy spell cast on me from this email zogospellcasters@gmail.com i saw in a website on how he help a couple to get pregnant and i contacted him which i started seeing changes on my body since the first week of last month and it two months and i am carrying my own baby in my womb i am so happy that i finally get pregnant after all i have been through. contact him for any problems you are having, he will surely provide you a solution, All thanks be to him

sowerandyy |

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My husband and I have been married for about a year and a half, together for about 5 years. We both have stable jobs, just bought a house last summer, just bought a good family car, and feel we are ready. His mom has nothing but support for us, my mom on the other hand feels differently. My mom and I are very close and I don't want to do anything to hurt our relationship, I feel like if we start trying and get pregnant she will be disappointed and our relationship will change. She doesn't think we are ready and that my husband makes enough money. Even the talk of babies is a sour subject. Any advice on how to go about with this situation???

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The main things are that your financially capable to raise a child. How is your relationship with your spouse? Is he or she capable of being there? Do you have your own home in the meaning of not living with parents because its alot of stress but sometimes a good thing you never know. Would you have support from others? Its always good to have support.

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Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

The crazy thing is so many us say that we are ready but are we? Our bodies tells us all the time that it is. Mentally it can be hard for some. I believe we are ready because we know the fear of raising children and how even though you are scared to death, you know your making the right choices because of the love that you know that you already share between each other and that same love towards that beautiful child.

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I'm really scared about having a baby and what it will do to my body and how it will affect my husband and our life, but I also really want to have one. We're both twenty six, and I think emotionally, I'm as ready as I'll ever be to becoming a mother.

baekhyun |

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We're really starting to think we're not. 23, almost 24, and lost most our friends to kids already, but we're both in college (I've just left my high-paying career to go back to college) and pretty selfish still. Our relationship works well with low stress. We're both really worried what parenthood would do to our future.

BabyHarrison001 |

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i think so.. i'm ready to be a mom at 23 i mean all my friends and family had kids and i think its my turn i waited long enough. plus me and my bf been talking about having kids. he wants to be a dad before he hits 24 yrs old. we ready!

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it is almost two months now since i order a pregnancy spell cast on me on facebook (Oduduwa Ajakaye) i saw in a website on how he help a couple to get pregnant and i contacted him which i started seeing changes on my body since the first week of last month and it two months and i am carrying my own baby in my womb i am so happy that i finally get pregnant after all i have been through. contact him for any problems you are having, he will surely provide you a solution, All thanks be to him

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brinamarie2014 |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

I am Victoria from USA, i and my husband were married for 4 years without any child, will tried so many effort and all were in veil the test we had all testify that i have low fertile womb as a result i will not be able to get pregnant. So i couldn't bear the taught that i will not be able to have any baby so i search the internet for some help and advise then i came across Dr Babaka a spell caster email address : babaka.wolf@gmail.com , And after contacting Dr Babaka he told me that everything will be ok and he gave me some herbal soap and to my greatest surprise for the first time in my life i became pregnant within 2 months, and now as i am writing this testimony now i am a mother of one lovely kid all thanks to Dr Babaka whose email address is: babaka.wolf@gmail.com, contact him now as he is a great herbal and spiritual doctor, as he spell put me at easy.

victoriaglen |

Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby?

YES!

Schroeds430 |