Why TTC Is Almost Impossible Around the Holidays
You might be tempted to put a break on babymaking this month. Between all the stress and stuff to do (that isn’t sex), it’s extra-hard to get that BFP. Here are more reasons why the holidays suck when you’re TTC. Photo: Thinkstock / The Bump
1. You’re in someone else’s bed.
Let’s see, what’s the opposite of romantic? Well, that unsexy feeling goes on steroids when you’re at your parents’ or in-laws’. First, there are the uber-thin walls. Then, there are the photos of you or your partner during a preteen awkward phase, a few religious decorations and the fact that you’re in one of your (teeny) childhood beds with your sibling’s room right next to yours. Mood killers!
2. You don’t want TSA agents rifling through your ovulation kit.
It’s aggravating enough being the one randomly selected for a bag search, but just imagine your sexy lingerie, fertility monitor and home pregnancy test spread across the TSA counter for all to see. In the movies, that’s right when your high school rival would walk by with her triplets all wearing perfect little Christmas outfits.
3. Everyone else is wasted.
’Tis the season for holiday parties, and while it’s totally fine to have a glass of wine with dinner while you’re TTC, you probably don’t want to imbibe much. (Reason being that excessive alcohol consumption has been linked to fertility problems; plus, there’s lag time between conception and getting a plus sign on a pregnancy test, so you could already be pregnant.) And when you’re not drinking, everyone who is, is so much more annoying.
4. You’re in store for nosy questions.
Depending on how much you’ve revealed about your TTC status, you’ll probably have a ton of relatives asking you nosy and insensitive questions like “When are you going to have a baby?” “Come on, why not have one little drink?” “Are you pregnant yet?” or “Why don’t you just adopt?” Those are awkward enough for anyone TTC to have to answer, and even worse if you’re having fertility problems. (Prep yourself by reading our favorite comebacks to some of the worst comments here.)
5. All you can eat = not so sexy.
Let’s face it: Watching your partner go whole hog on a Christmas ham or a giant serving plate full of latkes isn’t likely to get your hormones raging. Neither is having that overstuffed feeling after too many holiday cookies. So maybe try to go easy on the buffet.
6. Cute babies are lurking everywhere.
Your nieces and nephews and friends’ kids decked out in their adorable holiday outfits will be totally cute, and while you’re crazy about them, you might find yourself sad that you don’t have a baby with you to celebrate this year. And that can be tough to deal with. But try to enjoy the party anyway -- and if you’re experiencing baby overload, don’t be afraid to excuse yourself and leave early.
Plus, more from The Bump:
Foods for Fertility
10 Surprising Fertility Facts
Sex Ed for Babymaking
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