Top Five Wrong Reasons to Have a Baby

Last January my dad passed away, so instead of having that "Quick Fix" we've waited to even talk about having kids until we knew that bad reasons were not going to affect our decision. I just used this as another form of "you're doing the right thing". Very comforting!

I do know people (including my step-son) who think that having a child is going to somehow fix their relationship. Yeah, cos having little ones certainly doesn't add stress to your life! And, sadly, I know a couple of the "accident" people "SuperDeDuper" mentions too. Anyway, I wish the people who go into parenthood blindly lots of luck! Well, we all need it, even the ones of us who (hopefully) went into it with our eyes open.

as the mom of an "oops" baby, i just wanted to say that i disagree with SuperDeDuper. while it may not be the very best way, it's definitely not worthy of this list. we were not what most would describe as financially stable, but we will always ensure that our child has the necessities. sorry if this is snarky, but i get really frustrated when people tell us we should have waited and planned better. i wouldn't change anything.

I always wanted to be one of those young moms (not for the looks or anything, but so when my kids are old enough I still have the energy, and desire to do things with them). But I have never made it a reason to have my kids. Ill admit Ive had the "oopsy" baby, but it didnt turn out so bad. I just dont get the women who get pregnant and depend on everyone else to raise their child..... "Im your friend, not your kid's nanny, I will NOT raise her for you..." is something I have said a few times before. If your not ready to make the decisions for that child please dont have her/him, or at least find someone who is equiped too.

Surprised that jealous isn't up there

I think the number 6 reason I see women get pregnant is to keep the man from leaving her.

I agree that this are bad reasons to have a baby but I don't think fertility should be in the list. Fertility is a very real problem for a lot of couples, more than anybody will ever tell you, you will not know until you start trying. My parents tried for almost 10 years before they had me. My husband and I tried for 2 years, went to a fertility specialist, made all the exams and were told that we were not going to have children without fertility treatment. It's very hard on a couple but now we have the biggest blessing of all. I'm 10 weeks pregnant without any fertility treatment. So listen to your heart and get tested if you think something might be wrong. Good luck for the ones ttc and for the ones already expecting. We are all on the same boat, let's be supportive.

@suorkaterina - don't freak out. I'm 33 and DH is 29. We are 3 months pregnant with a healthy baby. Unless your doctor has given you reason to worry about infertility, it'll happen. Stressing about it certainly won't help. We tried for about 6 months with nothing. Then I started going to the gym 4 times a week and decided not to think about when my ovulation time was and that's when I got pregnant.

You will have none. Most time not spent with your child will be spent catching up on work you need to get done. You and your spouse must carefully plan any time away from your child, and very little can be done spontaneously. To pretend otherwise is probably neglectful of either your child or your spouse. -Instant Tax Solutions

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And the father of the baby usually leaves the baby mother and finds someone else to be with. They even usually cheat on you while you're pregnant. If you have a true spouse, then that's certainly something to be proud of. And being a fatherless child is even more hard. There's never pressure from parents to have children. It's exactly the OPPOSITE. They yell, cuss, and blow up fumes if they find out that their children are having sex or possibly will have sex. Usually its the fathers. They will antagonize a girls boyfriend or boys surrounding her (if she gets her period). If its a bad mother? They will call names and other horrible outbreaks. And if your parents fail to teach you about sex ed? Schools are heavily teaching health class and sex ed to students. It just really depends on the person whether or not they have a messed up life and want something to love and don't care if they have a man. Other times its individuals who end up pregnant on accident but are not pro-abortion. And some may be lucky if it strengthens their relationship. And yes, some do, do it because they want their partner to stay. But really, facts and "HELP IT" books and articles don't really prevent anything or bring a shock factor. It only gets you when IT happens to you. And women have a maternal nature by nature. Some get it and some just don't.

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